#benefit of the doubt

[socialbutterfly19]

What I do every damn night….. analyze every thing My mind never stops

#doing my thing #overthinking #the struggle is so damn real #benefit of the doubt

[naneun-no]

https://youtu.be/g38D6HVzn8w

At 1.13

I mean isn't it so weird and strange that Rm asked both of them that?? Why would he ask something like that if jikook were actually a couple?? Doesn't rm know that they were dating or maybe jikook actually not together that is why rm asked them that like in a teasing way which normally friends do when you saw ur other friends wear something matching. This moment always makes me confused.

I might be the wrong person to ask cause I’m of the opinion that if they’re dating they probably didn’t actually make anything official or formally tell other members until much more recently than a lot of other jikookers think. I personally think they probably wavered in the not-quite-just-friends-but-not-quite-dating space for quite a while, years in fact, and I think it’s where a lot of the awkwardness/palpable tension and nervousness in some of their early interactions stemmed from.

And Namjoon’s question still remains — why did they do that stuff? The matchy-matchy couple-y stuff? Cause they didn’t exactly say “no” did they 😅

Not to mention the same thing happened when Jin blurted “are you two together” during the palm pushing game here:

And him asking that does nothing to take away from the flirtatiousness of that entire interaction, so. If anything it just highlights how sus their behavior is.

I might have mentioned this before but I don’t go around looking for single moments to “debunk” the theory that Jimin and Jung Kook have something romantic going on. I’m not that insecure, at least not anymore haha. To me it’s obvious, from their behavior and treatment of each other when you look at them as a whole and not through some skeptical, conspiracy-theorist lens. Think what you want but any attempts to get me to go “omg you’re right it must all be a sham and I imagined everything” are gonna fall flat every time. It is what it is, friend 🫤

I’m a small fish though so maybe try someone else — you might get lucky and convert a much bigger blogger than me. Do you become a Level 5 Laser Lotus if you do that?

#just kidding #kind of #this ask seems culty but maybe not! #benefit of the doubt #everyone should watch Community it’s probably the best show ever written

[torchickentacos]

#poor conway :( I've always chosen to believe he had no idea how he came across #benefit of the doubt #he's just kinda weird!!!!! #pokemon #pokeani #anipoke #pokemon conway #taylor's tag

[bisquid]

... I've had a new thought

Maybe, just maybe, @staff thought the idea for a forced algorithm was a dumbshit idea just like the rest of us, but, orders from on high, watcha gonna do?

Well you could make a post about how you're gonna do it, generating such a shitstorm that Tumblr Management is forced to concede it's the worst fucking idea.

#tumblr staff #benefit of the doubt

[loveandknowledge]

Find Common Ground

One gets the sense that Seneca, like many smart and active people, was often frustrated by other people. It is inevitable that someone like him—someone creating art, actively participating in government, managing properties, etc—would have regularly found his interest and his will thwarted. Perhaps a neighbor opposed some changes he was making to his land. Or an intriguing enemy at the palace sought to undermine him with the emperor. Maybe his brother jostled for an inheritance. Maybe he bumped into a rude person in the street.

These are timeless and common occurrences. And, quite naturally, they are prone to make us angry—especially if we impute the least charitable motivations on the other party. My neighbor is trying to screw me over. So and so wants my job. My brother is up to his old tricks. This guy is a selfish jerk.

When we think this way, we get angry. It’s hard not to. Which is why Seneca—from experience—said that we have to resist. Instead, we should try to go through life like a lawyer…or rather like a public defender. We must, he said, “plead the case of the absent defendant despite our own interests.” That is, really take the time to think about what is motivating other people. Take the time to act as if we are trying to help them escape punishment from the judge and jury that is the emotional and vindictive part of our mind (Oh, he really just wants what’s best for everyone. My brother doesn’t know better. This guy didn’t mean to bump into me—he’s just having a hard day). Don’t just fight to see the worst, fight to see their side.

When we do this, when we give people the benefit of the doubt—the presumption of innocence instead of the presumption of guilt and ill-motives—everything relaxes. We can forgive. We can find common ground. We can focus on what is actually important…our own behavior.

- The Daily Stoic

#the daily stoic #daily stoic #common ground #presumption of innocence #benefit of the doubt #principle of charity #public defender #seneca #angry #anger #presumption of guilt

[myrddin-wylt]

hey!

be chill on this blog and give people the benefit of the doubt because I am way too fucking mean to have this kind of patience with yall.

#say it with me: benefit of the doubt #benefit. of. the. doubt. #benefit of the doubt #very good

[momentsbeforemass]

Pay it forward

“I didn’t mean to.”

When you and I do something that turns out wrong or hurts someone, odds are we did it with the best of intentions. Maybe we were trying to help. Or we just thought it would be funny.

But whatever we were thinking (even if we weren’t thinking), we didn’t mean to hurt anyone.

That’s what we tell ourselves. And we really believe it.

Because when it comes to you and me, we don’t automatically assume a bad motive. We’re good people. We give ourselves the benefit of the doubt.

There’s someone else who sees us that way, someone else who gives us the benefit of the doubt. God.

No matter how badly you and I have screwed something up or hurt someone, God doesn’t automatically assume a bad motive. God knows how He made us, that He made us to be good people.

And even if we’re not acting like it right now, even if our outsides don’t look like that, God sees past all of that. God always sees us the way He made us.

That’s why the door of God’s heart is always open to us. That’s why God is always ready to lift us up, to push us forward, to help us be the people He made us to be.

In case you were wondering what Reconciliation is all about.

All God asks in return is for us to be honest with Him. About everything that’s come between us and Him.

And that we pay it forward, by giving each other the benefit of the doubt.

“Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another as God has forgiven you in Christ.”

Today’s Readings

#God's Love #Benefit of the doubt #God #Jesus #Catholic #Christian #Church #Forgiveness #Heart of God #Who God made you to be #Moments Before Mass

[howifeltabouthim]

She knew him to be clever, ambitious, bold,—and she believed even yet, in spite of her own experience, that he might not be bad at heart.

Anthony Trollope, from Can You Forgive Her?

#hung up on you #relationship #breakup #characterization #bad boy #benefit of the doubt #reminds me of #slytherin #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #classics #anthony trollope #can you forgive her?

[lina-loves-chocolate]

Shiv learned from the past few Roy weddings and just dressed for a traumatic experience already ❤

#succession #spoilers #s4 #ep3 #it gave everything #girlboss #incredibly rich divorcee #she might have killed her third husband but who knows #benefit of the doubt

[kindnessisstillhere]

A transformation

From passive to active,

Accepting to questioning:

It doesn’t need to be a battle,

And I’m tired of seeing it as one.

I’m moving my view point,

Transferring my attention.

The entire room changes again,

Even while remaining the same.

These simple transformations;

From believed malicious actions

To simple lacking knowledge;

From things abandoned, ignored,

To forgetfulness, or miscommunication.

There are easier ways to view,

Kinder things to assume.

Even if I’m wrong it doesn’t hurt us,

Only gives the chance for patience.

The transformation is small though,

Slowly changing, growing,

Isn’t that wonderful regardless.

#transformation #changing view #benefit of the doubt #poetry #poem

[toastshark]

Hi hi! Unsure if you're open to pokemon fusion OCs - if not, no worries! - but if so, wanna doodle anything at all (I'm not picky ^w^) of my goofy lickitung-fox? :P

(ref pic) if interested. Thanks for the chance!

There ya go

(If I had a cent for every time a request was of a Pokémon fusion between a canine Pokémon and a Lickitung I’d have two. Which isn’t a lot, but it’s weird that it happened twice lol. Guessing it was you last time too, anon?)

#art requests #pokémon fusion #benefit of the doubt #lickitungs a…weird choice for fusing Pokémon with but the color palettes nice #usually people always pick out the cool or cute ones to make even cooler/cuter ones #or super goofy joke Pokémon

[allwomenjointhe4bmovement]

Series: "Class if '07"

This line was too important not to talk about.

How so many men exploit "the benefit of the doubt" when women speak out about the things men have done to them!

How the men who don't commit those crimes still stay silent and do nothing to help the women who have been victims, making them accomplices to that misogyny. It IS all men!

#class of 07 #feminism #benefit of the doubt #men #misogyny #it is all men #patriarchy #quotes #show #series #feminist quotes #don't stay silent #the men who do nothing are part of the problem #accomplice #exploitation

[roughpaper]

Once you believe in the good of people, life gets a lot easier. No doubt, you become the eccentric person since you are not bound by anything anymore, you act differently then you are expected to.

You feel they were being mean to you? Give them a benefit of doubt and move on, no need to obsess over it. If situations allow, ask them about it, clarify it; if not, let it be.

When you look at people as they are, without giving meaning to anything, you'll see. You will start seeing things you had never observed before.

What if they actually meant to hurt you? Well, should the words of someone who hurts others matter? Yet, let's not forget we all are prone to criticism. We are not perfect, we always learn, and will keep doing it. If you are wrong work on it, and if they are wrong let them work on.

#forgiveness #let go #benefit of the doubt #good intentions

[seas-storyarchive]

I WANNA SEE THE ALASTOR MAGNE AU

GIVE US BIG SISTER CHARLIE AND BABY BROTHER ALASTOR RIGHT NOW >:(

I posted some things I had written down anyway. Next time, I won't hesitate to hit the block button.

#a warning #don't be a gimmie gimmie #benefit of the doubt

[momentsbeforemass]

Overflowing

(for all the “good people” who struggle with this, including me)

We’re good people, right?

I mean, you and I don’t hurt people. That’s not us.

And if we do something or say something that someone thinks is hurtful, they probably just misunderstood us.

Really, it’s their problem. They’re assuming the worst. But they’re wrong. Because that’s just not who we are.

We’re good people. We know it. That’s why we give ourselves the benefit of the doubt.

And that’s how you and I want to be treated. We want people to assume the best about us. We want to be given the benefit of the doubt.

So how do we do that? We’ve got two options. There’s the easy one, just assuming that everybody knows that we’re good people.

And we can treat them however we want to, say whatever we want. Assume the worst about them. But they’ll keep giving us the benefit of the doubt, right?

Because we’re good people. Too bad that one doesn’t work.

Or there’s the other option. It’s the formula we see in today’s Gospel.

“Give and gifts will be given to you; a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing, will be poured into your lap.”

What do you and I really want? How do we want to be treated?

If we want others to give us the benefit of the doubt, then we need to start giving others the benefit of the doubt.

If we want others to know we’re good people, then we need to start being good to people.

And not just a little, or every now and then. But as a way of living, and overflowing.

“For the measure with which you measure will in return be measured out to you.”

It’s a way of life that’s only possible when we’re grounded in God, and not ourselves.

Today’s Readings

#Good People #Assume the worst #God #Jesus #Catholic #Christian #Church #Assume the best #Benefit of the doubt #Grounded in God #Moments Before Mass