#cope about it.

[fideidefenswhore]

Thoughts on how Catherine&Henry were portrayed in BSR?

Well, they were mainly portrayed in the background, right?

I think it's from Anne's perspective, so that's what we see and that's what we hear (from her...none of the historians seem to really comment on their relationship on an interpersonal level, as such, only re: the political ramifications, because the series was not about that, so...beyond Dr. Owen Emmerson saying Catherine underestimated Anne-- I don't think this went vice versa, but I think Henry underestimated Catherine and vice versa there, too...they don't really get into this in-depth, though).

So, Anne says they didn't love each other, and that's what Anne, here, believes. The real Anne did not comment on it much that is 'on the record', beyond that "the love she bore him was far greater than that of the late Queen". That is what she believed, or, if we're being skeptical, what she thought was circumspect to say she believed. That doesn't make it true, and I don't think the creators were trying to hoodwink viewers into believing that's true-- just that Anne did.

It's been a huge complaint on Instagram circles rn, which I don't wholly understand? Why are they swearing up and down the last thing they want in the world is yet another series from Anne's POV (it was the same song and dance last year, too), then watching a series that has promoted itself, from the jump, as one that is only from Anne's POV...and then are mad when it’s from Anne's POV?

#anon #'we are very unreliable narrators of our own stories' #this is a narrative history. from one pov. it was absolutely billed that way. #catherine had her own rich inner world but anne was not privy to it. she was not her friend #absolute scenes in the comment sections. they FREAKED out when they saw catherine aggibbnfgawhfr #i am not of a mind to underestimate the intelligence of who watches this? #the vibe is like. very clear #you can tell if cable was still king this would be like the e! documentary of the tudors #we see anne's 'interview' reflection with kingston we see anne talking to the camera we see ; even #anne's nightmares... like . #when did you expect the switch to happen #when did you expect the woman that you all hate for her hostility towards her enemies ... to give them a 'fair shake' ? #sorry like...was she supposed to like a woman trying to supplant her? #anymore than catherine should have? #you're mad that the actress that plays catherine was 42 years old in this? catherine WAS in her forties during the GM #cope about it.

[dykedarling]

I’m going to get pissed

#this is how I cope #David jenkins just posted about it if you’re only just hearing about it btw #devastated!! #our flag means death #ofmd #taika waititi #rhys darby #david jenkins

[ionomycin]

Mother of Pearl

#artists on tumblr #seahorses are cute aren't they #how are we coping with the heat wave everyone? #i'm too busy having like three different kind of existential crises #to worry about it being too hot #hot girl summer more like nonstop anxiety summer #pondering the fact that nothing is permanent #can't rely on anything to last #life is just #drifting in a sea of uncertainty #but anyway #happy pride month #be gay #eat ice cream #don't think about your mortality

[chloesimaginationthings]

FNAF Afton kids got interesting coping mechanisms

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf vanessa #michael afton #mike schmidt #fnaf #fnaf movie #sister location #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #they are both super normal and well adjusted I promise #another Vanessa and Michael bonding moment 🔥🔥 #I know both tried so much for their fathers approval #only to be both betrayed anyway by him #LEAST they have each other to talk about it #Mike isn’t very impressed by how they cope #but he can’t talk much seeing he copes through actually constantly sleeping #none of these guys are okay and that’s okay 💜

[moonlit-doodles]

tfw your vacation is thwarted by the lovecraftian whale you encountered when you were 14

#childe #tartaglia #genshin impact #genshin fanart #genshin #genshin meme #genshin shitpost #meet my tonia design btw #tonia #my art #fanart #genshin 4.2 spoilers #shitpost #i'm shitposting about it to cope

[sgt-celestial]

babies if they had tumblr

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grrrr my gums hurt so bad. cant wait for this stupid teething thing to be over so i'll never have to grow out teeth again

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do you think strawberry and that blueberry guy ever...nay i shant say

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@ elmo ELMOOOOOO

#hes so cute 😭😭 #elmo #ankle babbles

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finally getting the hang of walking 😁 will post video showing my progress once my fine motor skills have fully developed

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scranning

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Heinz apricot and peach muesli

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goo goo ga ga <- just a look into the machinations of my twisted mind

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#sorry this was born becausei have toothache (wisdom teeth erupting its nothing to worry about) and needed to cope. well #emi's meandering jotts

[eggdrawsthings]

🤏🐸💚.

#finished this just in time to cope w today's ep #cant they just have a fucking break jfc #my brain is full of thoughts about them #my art #din djarin #grogu djarin #clan mudhorn #a clan of two #the mandalorian #star wars #mando #grogu #baby yoda #pedro pascal

[schrodingersschlong]

therapy is expensive, pulling whiny little "ah-ah-ah"'s out of your pretty boyfriend with just your mouth is free

#<3text #work sucks. think about pretty boyfriend to cope :( #mlm nsft #mlm ns/fw #nblm ns/fw #nblm nsft #ftm ns/fw #ftm nsft #t4t ns/fw #t4t nsft

[sandboxer]

#making a spreadsheet about it is the only way I know how to cope with stress and emotions #it’s all data babey

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[the-phantom-peach]

Meeting the Light Dragon ✨🐉

[tagged as spoilers!]

#do you like the color of the sky #sorry long post #anyways #everyone’s talking about ‘the theme of totk is hands’ okay yeah but have you seen the eyes?? #this game is so good I’m biting my hands #I just wanted to get this one off my chest bc im tired it didn’t turn out the way I wanted but that’s okay #coloring was really fun though! #im sad now gotta draw happy stuff to cope #totk spoilers #the legend of zelda #legend of zelda #tloz #loz #tears of the kingdom #breath of the wild #totk #botw #Zelda #Nintendo #totk link #totk Zelda #totk light dragon #light dragon #totk zelink #zelink #tloz fanart #totk fanart #art #my art

[roe-oo]

🏹💗…

#i don’t know anything about bows and or guns sorry for inaccuracies lol #want to see more of them.. (pure cope) #mcyt #mcyt fanart #gtws #desert duo #grian #grian fanart #hermitcraft #roe.art

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[gorofeet]

Yuri on Ice officially going down in history today as the most insane fumble of a franchise that i’ve ever seen in my life

#yuri on ice #yoi #idk bro something about holding onto the movie for 7 years even though youve known for at least 4 that its not happening #fumbled the yaoi bag #lord take yuri katsuki’s suffering and give it to itadori #see you next level am i right guys #idk i kinda figured it was not happening once they picked up csm but yk. i was huffing cope #yuri katsuki #viktor nikiforov #time for the annual rewatch i suppose !!

[breesperez139]

Dc x Dp Prompt #6

“I’m a twin”, Damian said one night. He could feel the narrowed eyes of his family drilling holes on his back in disbelief. Not that he could blame them. Damian had never so much as implied being raised with a companion, much less a sibling.

“I had a brother”. Damian paused to recollect himself. He had not said his brother’s name out loud in over 8 years.

“His name was… Danyal”. Damian hated the way his voice wavered, but he could not help it. Danyal was everything to him, his other half. Their heart beat as one and when one heart stopped beating, the other one died with it. At least until his family put his heart on metaphorical life support without ever realizing.

“Where is he now?” His father asked, voice filled with knowing grief and a hint of betrayal. It had in fact been 6 years since Damian first showed up on his doorstep.

“Up there”. All eyes shifted towards the specific star he was pointing to. “Right before he died, he promised me he’d guide me from the stars. Unfortunately, the stars are not visible in Gotham, so my brother is unable to be of much help unless I leave the city.”

“Your brother is Polaris, the North Star?” Tim questioned warily, most likely in attempts to not offend him. Damian was aware of how stupid it sounded, but Danyal had promised, and his brother never broke his promises.

“Yes. Danyal is with the stars now, just as he always wanted”

#dc x dp #dp x dc #dpxdc fanfic #dc x dp prompt #dp x dc prompt #dc x dp crossover #dp x dc crossover #ghost king danny #demon twin au #danyal al ghul #batpham #they are not in Gotham at the time of this conversation #I’m thinking they’re visiting the Kent’s on their farm but tbh as long as the stars are visible it can be anywhere #Danny did in fact reincarnate as Polaris #sort of #Polaris is more of a title the Realms gave him the day he was crowned #he is the star meant to guide them through a new era #or something like that #But Damian does look up at the stars for guidance whenever he sees them #and before he knows it he’s accidentally begun praying to Danny #it’s his coping mechanism for being unable to speak about him to anyone #but back to Danny - he regained the memories of his time as Danyal Al Ghul when he died in that portal and became a halfa #well it was more he regained the memories of ALL his previous lives but his most recent one holds a special place in his heart #if only because he knows his brother is still alive on whatever earth he was born on #as bad as it sounds Danny can’t wait until he gets to reunite with Damian #he hopes Damian forgives him for not guiding him though #fun fact! Danny was once known as the god Dan-El in one of his previous lives #he’s ALSO the reincarnation of the Greek Titan Astraeus (and he’s pretty sure Dani is his daughter Astraea) #his previous lives are all so interesting (he still can’t believe he was raised an assassin or that he was a god in multiple lives) #but in all honesty ​it’s even weirder feeling so old and so young at the same time

[madame-mongoose]

Hi if you're here looking at the original post, know this is about her not your dream smp minecraft white boys or whatever it's about HER

#this is about zekira tbh #she is soooo fucked up #im in love with her 💖 #pinning all my anger issues on my ocs as a coping mechanism lmao #monnie rambles