#ex homeschooled

[dirtyheathencommie]

DEAR EDUCATIONALLY NEGLECTED HOMESCHOOLERS

I’ve gathered some resources and tips and tricks on self-educating after educational neglect. This is only what I did and what I know helped me. I’m about to graduate college with honors after having no education past the age of 9. I wouldn’t be here without the following. Everything is free, and at/well above the standard for education in the US.

The holy grail: Khan Academy. Nearly every course you could take is available here, in order and by grade level. Their open-source free courses rival some of the college classes I’ve taken. This is your most solid resource.

For inattentive types: Crash Course offers a variety of courses that are snappy, entertaining, and extremely rewarding. They work for my ADHD brain. They also have college prep advice, which is essential if you’re looking to go to higher education with no classroom experience.

To catch up on your reading: There are certain books that you may have read had you gone to school that you’ve missed out on. This list is the most well-rounded and can fill you in on both children’s books and classic novels that are essential or at least extremely helpful to be familiar with. You can find a majority of these easily at a local library (and some for free in PDF form online low key). There are a few higher level classics in here that I’d highly recommend. If it doesn’t work for you, I’d always recommend asking your local librarian.

*BE AWARE* The book list I recommend suggests you read Harry Potter books, and given their transphobic author you may or may not want to read them. If you choose to, I’d highly recommend buying the books secondhand or borrowing from a library to avoid financially supporting a living author with dangerous and damaging views.

TEST, TEST, TEST: Again, Khan Academy is your go-to for this. I don’t personally like standardized testing, but going through SAT and ACT courses was the best way I found to really reveal my gaps so that I could supplement.

Finally: As much as you can, enjoy the process. Education can be thrilling and teach you so much about yourself, and help shape your view of the world. It can get frustrating, but I’d like to encourage you that everyone can learn. No pace is the perfect pace, and your learning style is the right learning style for you. In teaching yourself, be patient, be kind, and indulge in the subjects you really enjoy without neglecting others. You are your teacher. Give yourself what others chose not to.

#if you have any questions please don’t hesitate to message me anything #I’ll help however I can #homeschool #ex fundamentalist #ex homeschool #ex homeschooled #educational neglect #education #self education #ex fundie #send me asks #homeschool recovery #resources #educate yourself #ex christian #exvangelical #religious trauma #tw religion #deconstructing christianity

[woodsfae]

Had a benign flashback where I remembered that, as a teen, I wasn't allowed to drink coffee because my ex-mother didn't like the flavor.

*slurps coffee obnoxiously loudly*

#ex homeschooled #ex evangelical #exvangelical #adult children of fucking idiots #woodsfae

[gxlden-angels]

Bro I hate fundamentalists and culturally-fundie parents they'll say shit like "spare the rod spoil the child am I right haha yea my parents used to have to beat my ass with a switch almost everyday but I sure did learn my lesson" but like??? no you didn't??? you were hit multiple times for something you very obviously did not, in fact, learn

Like studies about how harmful even lightly spanking children is aside, you're literally contradicting yourself?? Some even admitted they got worse as they got older cause they wanted to see how far they could push their parents before they got punished

And studies not aside, you're gonna get child raising advice from the same book that tells you to stone your wife if her hymen doesn't break on your wedding night instead of the decades of research we have now?? Just say you're a bad parent and move on my guy. Skill issue

#bro I had a coworker go 'unpopular opinion I think some kids really do need beatings' and I'm like???? #unprompted???? what's going on there???? #well anyways I ended up going 'yea so I plan on specializing in play therapy with autistic children so I've been learning about talking #to children and the ways their parents and environment affects them' #and they're like hmmm but beating this kid with a stick after they broke something or I upset them to the point of yelling is good actually #had a boss say it taught him and his kids respect cause they were hard-headed #and I'm like?? that's fear not respect! they fear punishment! they do not act out of respect for you! #he's a conservative christian black man tho so he's like 'But Authority!' like bro I don't even respect you what are you on about #'You don't respect police and their authority?' Nope! I fear them! I do not respect cops and every cop/cop-adjacent person I personally know #has reinforced that for me #'We'll agree to disagree' Cool! Doesn't mean you're not wrong! I could believe trees aren't real but that is in fact incorrect #then he pulled out the bible verse and I was like ah okay I forgot you like 'here's how to treat slaves' book you're so right bestie #I'm totally wrong now and so sorry for doubting you and your 2000+ year old book I don't believe in <3 #They'd go 'well I turned out fine!' then say something that directly contradicts that #anyways I need christians to get their grubby little hands off the current state of Child Protection and Rights in the U.S. #So we can actually start working on helping kids without the force of christian hands suffocating them #cause homeschooling and child raising by evangelicals are so fucked up bro I'm tired of this shit #I'd only stay in my current state to help children get out of that cycle since I'm in the bible belt #ex christian #religious trauma #child abuse tw

[kimboo-york]

Not commonly known is that I was homeschooled for the majority of my youth, with a couple of catastrophic attempts at public schooling in the 8th/9th grades.

I got off better than most homeschooled kids, in that I got into college and graduated and held down jobs like a good capitalist drone. My parents were not physically abusive, or in a cult.

But the cost, socially and emotionally, was high. I was completely unprepared for the "outside world" as Mother called it. Socially, financially, and psychologically I was the living equivalent of showing up with a knife to a gun fight.

Please share these resources far and wide, to help other ex-homeschoolers. These would have made such a difference in my life.

[and also, support regulations for homeschooling where you can.]

#kimboo's musings #ex-homeschooled #homeschool survival guides

[coppertophomegurl]

Me, watching 3 out of 6 kids in my family come out as queer/trans/nonbinary after my conservative mormon parents indoctrinated and homeschooled us for 18 years to "protect us from the dangerous influences of the world."

#exmormon #exmo #exchristian #ex mormon #mormon #exlds #ex lds #ex latter day saint #exvangelical #ex fundie #ex fundamentalist #fundie #fundamentalist #ex jw #former mormon #cult #cult survivor #cult free #indoctrination #homeschool alumni #anti homeschool #homeschooled #homeschool #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #trans #transgender #nonbinary

[goldkirk]

it is SUCH a good day to no longer be in a cult 😭🌈✨💖

#GOD I LOVE FREEDOM #look at my clothes!!!! look at my cubbies with rainbow paint and dnd stuff and forbidden books in them! #I fucking love life!!!!!! #even though it’s hard! even though I’ve still got a lot of legal and financial problems! #I am so fucking grateful I’m alive and I stayed alive long enough for this! #I’ve got trauma and body issues and financial hell and a genetic disorder and family problems but MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER ALREADY #thank you to everyone who helped catch me when I had to jump #you’re all responsible for changing and saving my life #I love you and I hope I can pay it forward someday #personal #Katie has a face #also stream shiny happy people if you can #cult survivor #ex cult #ex homeschool #ex Catholic #cult escapee

[datascatvislorturlough]

Being homeschooled as a way to prevent any contact with the outside world was a wild trip. Not a fun trip. No, it was abusive, alienating, extremely lonely, and with absolutely no escape possible. I couldn't find refuge in friends, because I had none. I couldn't get help from a counselor, because there were none. I absolutely could not tell a mandated reporter what I was going through, because there were none. I couldn't get help from child services, because I didn't know they existed. I couldn't get help from anyone. No one came and saved me. No one.

You controlled everything about me. My clothes, my hair, my relationships, where I went and how long I was there. You made one ultimate and stupid assumption, and it will haunt you later. You could control who I was with, the environments around me, etc...

You made a big mistake in thinking you could truly control my thoughts. You made a big mistake in allowing me internet access at 13. You made a big mistake in allowing me to go to community college. I thank you for these.

I dreamed of my life without you. I dreamed of my life: without you.

THE ENTIRE TIME.

You'll be left behind. I won't look back. I won't help you. I won't save you. I won't talk to you. I won't be near you. I won't answer you.

You're lucky I have three siblings who care about you in the way you want them to.

Good luck.

#parental abuse #parental abuser #homeschooling #ex christian #ex southern baptist #physical abuse #emotional abuse #trauma #religious trauma #fuck christianity #fuck you mom #fuck you dad #fuck the church #i'm so tired #i want to escape

[edscuntyeyeshadow]

shoutout to the bitches who grew up in environments where the only kind of sex ed available was abstinence-only, and thus had to learn via fanfiction. love y’all, hope you’re doing okay

#growing up homeschooled christian fundie in a red state was hell on earth #fanfiction #me #ex religious #exvangelical #queer #growing up religious

[spurgie-cousin]

has anyone seen this tech pseudo-fascist (yet proclaims to be liberal) family that's trying to promote a repackaged version of the quiverfull movement??

I've been down a serious rabbit hole the last few days and am completely baffled. We need a term for repackaged Christian fundamentalism sans the Christianity, I guess.

#like i don't even know what to tag this? #ex-fundamentalist #homeschool #homeschooling #christian fundamentalism #quiverfull #exvangelical #ex religious #ex-christian #tiktok

[dirtyheathencommie]

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the perception of good and bad and self-image when recovering from extremist religious upbringings.

I’ve realized that my idea of being a “good person” is warped beyond what I’d originally thought. Fundamentalist christianity teaches that morality is only defined through the word of god. People without it have no moral compass. So you’re raised in it, indoctrinated, and when you come out you have no sense of self when it comes to judging the morality of your own behavior. Wanting to be a good person then becomes a hindrance that causes unhelpful behaviors that ultimately hurt you and your relationships.

Disagreeing with an authority figure doesn’t make you a bad person.

Saying no when people ask for your help doesn’t make you a bad person.

Neither does anger, jealousy, self-indulgence, confidence, vanity… these things SHOULD exist in balance. Feel how you feel. Do what is right for you. Hurt as few people as you can in the process, but know that sometimes it has to happen.

#religious trauma #ex fundie #ex fundamentalist #ex homeschooled #ex homeschool #ex evangelical #ex christian #ex baptist #exvangelical #ex religious #tw religion #religon #ex catholic

[woodsfae]

Taking another crack at a concise response to the question I get all the time "Since you were raised in an alt-right cult, how did you deradicalize when most people never do?" and uh. It's like 1100 words long already. Goddang it 😂

#deconversion #deradicalization #ex evangelical #exvangelical #homeschooled #ex homeschooler #ex cult #woodsfae

[killer-wizard]

"homeschooling" just say your children are underdeveloped socially and are gonna be lonely

#ex homeschool #homeschool #can you tell i was homeschooled and have problems #anti homeschool

[coppertophomegurl]

Being homeschooled + autistic + religious trauma is quite the trifecta, huh?

#homeschooled #actually autistic #autistic #autistic women #autism #homeschool #religious trauma #exmo #exmormon #ex lds #ex mormon #mormon #child abuse #child neglect #anti homeschool #exvangelical #cult

[goldkirk]

I AM FREE TO FULLY ENJOY HALLOWEEN AND AUTUMN NOW AND EVEN POST THINGS ON SOCIAL MEDIA IF I WANT, WHAT’S MY FAMILY GONNA DO, BE ASHAMED OF ME AND AFRAID FOR MY SOUL HALFWAY ACROSS THE COUNTRY ABOUT IT? NOT MY PROBLEM 👏👏👏

#autumn #ex homeschool #ex fundie #ex catholic #if you make me see children dressed up for All Saints’ Day every year as martyrs with evidence of their own grisly tortures and murders #I’m gonna make you see me enjoying pumpkins and pretend ghosts and WITCHES AND SKELETONS OH NO THE HORROR #and that’s that on that #I’m gonna be insufferable about this for at least a few years I think #personal #cult escapee

[connieaaa]

After 3 years of teaching myself math using Art of Problem Solving, starting grade 2 to mastering Pre-algebra, I took accuplacer and tested into precalculus!

I wanted to learn algebra since I was 8, but my dad firmly believed in Saxon math which was a nightmare for me. I used to practice math until I induced a migraine and/or fell asleep on my tear stained math 65 book. I asked for help so many times, so many times. I asked for a math teacher.

There are many things my younger self would find unbelievable about me, but this seriously competes with the "You don't really believe in God"

#dysfunctional family #cptsdsurvivor #dysfunctional parents #ex fundamentalist #religious trauma #bad parenting #ex christian #narcissist parents #apostacy #apostate #educational neglect #religious fundamentalists #religious homeschooling #homeschooling #child neglect #neglect #homeschool #bad moms #bad parents #hslda #exfundamentalist #ex fundie #ex baptist #parenting my younger siblings and every other child my mom brought into the house. #was my education #religious education #educated #tara westover

[feral-anthropologist]

To anyone feeling left out of pop culture and internet culture - you’re not alone. I should be old enough to know about and remember a lot of common memes and nostalgia tv shows but I was so sheltered I didn’t even know they existed until recently. I’m learning about them for the first time while everyone else is talking about their childhood memories of them and how only true 2000s kids remember these things and talking about how old they feel when the younger kids don’t know them and it’s such a weird, isolating feeling. I should remember, but I don’t. I never had the chance to.

So here’s to the kids like me. The kids who never see themselves in memes about growing up in their eras because they never had access to those things, for whatever reason. The kids who don’t know the classic tv shows that everyone does. The kids who never had friends to have big slumber parties with and never did all these typical kid things. The kids who never went to public school and part of them will always feel left out and confused when people talk about “universal” childhood experiences. The kids whose parents carefully screened what they read and watched so most pop culture was off limits. The kids who never went to proms or dances of any sort. The kids who were too sick to have those “essential” childhood experiences. The kids who couldn’t manage to bond with other people, no matter what. I see you. I know that you can’t completely replace what you’ve lost or get some of these experiences back. But you are not alone and you are not the only one.

#words from the stars #cult survivor #ex evangelical #ex christian #ex homeschooler #homeschool #disability