#they were good friends

[bluesnailsstuff]

i made clowns please like them

its based of this painting i found on Pinterest

i thought they were cute :]

#my art #clowns #clown art #clown #commedia dell'arte #they were good friends #veeery good friends #is this clowncore?? #harlequin #bluesnailsstuff

[zilodak]

Humanizing Will just so Henry can tell Michael how much he reminds him of Will and how Will was good once.

#oughoughoughough #cartoon villain Will is fun but i prefer to tear my heart out #they were good friends #Mike hates when Henry tells him how much he reminds him of Will and not just the appearance but Henry means well #Mike is every good part of Will #the only thing thats left of him

[inkspottie]

May we have some Charlie and Elizabeth headcannons along with their friendship before they both died?

But of course!

I imagine Charlie was the type that got along with everyone despite their interests. Elizabeth was the polar opposite of her, but they still had fun.

One thing they definitely shared a love for was clowns/the circus. Elizabeth collected all sorts of clown dolls and had like a miniature circus tent with animals that Henry made for her.

Charlie enjoyed Elizabeth’s company even tho the girl didn’t like to get dirty or collect bugs/other creepy crawlies.

Because Charlie was inbetween Mike and Elizabeth’s age she was able to have the two play together because she just knew how to mesh their interests. Mike wants to play pirates but Elizabeth wants to play princess? How about a pirate kidnapping a the princess and now a prince has to come save her!

Elizabeth probably confided in Charlie a lot, but never in the way Mike did. Mostly just ranted because Charlie I imagine is a good listener.

#spottie speaks #they were good friends #but a different type of friendship compared to her and Mike

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Am I the asshole for getting my best friend killed?

I swear to God, it was an accident.

My (27) BF (34) has a reputation for getting himself out of any jam you can imagine; and at first it was just a fun little thing the friend group noticed: there goes Oily J wiggling his way out of trouble again. but as the meme evolved in the group, it got to the point where we'd loykey started getting him into situations just to see how he'd get out of 'em, and he akept getting out of em. He was having fun with it too same as us. "Oh you guys," he'd say, "getting me into situations again," before laughing it off and getting out of it, so it was enrichment for our shared enclosures, and as time went on, the situations got more intense.

The trouble is, it turns out that putting a man in too many situations eventually gets the police interested. And not local hobsknockers cops either; they was like, proper three-letter FEDs. They put out a bounty on any information pertaining to his capture and everything. It was good money too so I thought, hey why don't I put J in another situation he can wiggle out of like always (and he'd wiggled outta worse before, so I thought this one'd be relatively mild), and at the next boardgame night (cause it was too late to do anything special for this one) we can buy some extra strong booze and get absolutely blitzed while having a giggle about the situation.

Boardgame night, and we were playing some social deduction nonsense or another and he says: "One of you is gonna betray me tonight." and I can't help but think, looking back on it, that he knew. It's stupid, I know he was talking about the game, but the way he said it, it was like he knew. We all felt it, and we had a big round robin round the table taking turns promising that we'd never betray him. And I said it so easily cause I thought it was true. Sure, I was gonna talk to the feds about a bounty; but, I fully expected my big beautiful oily boy to wiggle his way out of the trouble I was 'bout to cause, and that's not a betrayal. I wasn't lying. I didn't think I was lying.

My big beautiful oily boy didn't manage to wiggle his way out of it. They killed him and I got my blood money. He's gone.

He's gone and I'm devastated, crying, mourning. I loved him so much. We all did. And I can't stop thinking that it's my fault: that I'm the reason he's gone. and it is. and the guilt is eating me up inside. and I just need to talk to someone about it. So, I tell the rest of the group what happened in the group chat, hoping they'd understand that I didn't want this. I didn't want the government's blood money. It was supposed the be a prank. some joint enclosure enrichment. He was supposed to wiggle out of it like he always does... did, i mean.

They call me, among worse things, the asshole and kick me from the group chat. And, I know it's my fault he's dead: I know that. If I didn't do what I did, he wouldn't be dead right now. But, I didn't mean it for it to end up this way. He was supposed to be okay, damn it. I loved him. AITA?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #fandom aita #unreality #i never know how to tag the bible ones #also i don't think this is explicitly jesus christ superstar but for some reason it put me in mind of it #so that's where the extra option is from idk #specifically in my head is one particular production of it that a friend showed me when we were like. 17 #anyway i'm in love with how this one plays with modern language #good enough to post on purpose

[raine-world]

When MatPat came on screen I freaked out (in a good way) and got so light headed I missed the entire conversation and almost passed out until he said "But that's just a theory-" which shocked me out of it like a sleeper agent code word

#fnaf #fnaf movie #fnaf spoilers #fnaf movie spoilers #matpat #had a good time! #movie was alright. some parts bad. many plot holes #but the animatronic moments were easily the best part and made it super enjoyable #both the sweet moments and the killing moments #i had to ask my friend afterwards why matpat said “that's just a theory” because i did legit almost black out #i haven't watched matpat in years btw

[temeyes]

Slip-Up

#i put way too much effort than intended hhh #I LOVE DRAWING BDAY ART... ITS A SHAME NONE OF THE BOYS HAVE A CANON BIRTH DATE #but yeah this is how i imagine how Soap and Gaz would learn bout Ghost's bday cuz bitch nEVER SHARES #also ngl... this is also based on real life exp HSAHSHASH MY SHS FRIENDS FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY CUZ WE WERE SO STRESSED ABOUT MIDTERMS #they bought me a small cupcake with a candle and this sort of blueberry cheesecake and it was so good!! #my art #2023 #call of duty #call of duty: modern warfare #call of duty: modern warfare ii #call of duty: modern warfare iii #cod #codmw #codmwii #codmwiii #modern warfare #mw2 #mw3 #ghost #soap #gaz #simon ghost riley #johnny soap mactavish #kyle gaz garrick #task force 141 #tf141 #141 #art #fanart #digital art

[c-hrona]

Fear

Super self-indulgent little comic about fears and reassurances.

Lil bonus :3

#vashwood #trigun #trigun maximum #vash the stampede #nicholas d. wolfwood #there's nothing s/exual here #i just hc ww to sleep in the n/ude because he's a drama queen and drama queens sleep without shirts on #vash on the contrary is a good boy and puts his sweat shirt on while sleeping u_u #also fun fact: i showed the first two pages to my friend for a style feedback #i told them that it was a super fluff self-indulgent comic #---> first two pages: death and nightmares #let's just say that they were not impressed #ALSO SORRY FOR THE MESS WITH THE REUPLOADSFJGFJGJDFJGO #chronart

[myfakeplasticlove13]

This is about my best friend, who I love more than anything in the world, who I would look for first in a room full of people I love. My most loyal companion, my other half, my love for you is true-blue

#words #quotes #web weaving #webweaving #poetry compilation #on love #poetry #web weave #poem #on devotion #on friendship #female friendship #on girlhood #girlhood #we were girls together #lorde #boygenius #true blue #best friends #it feels good to be known so well

[rassebers]

What the!

#Does anyone else notice the change in how saikis friends imagine him as the show goes on or is that just me Ha ha ha! #my rart #saiki kusuo #saiki k #tdlosk #like tjat scene of teruhashi at thr mixer and shes like omg so fun!! if only saiki were here with that blank look on his face tho☺️ #Saikis personality being mainly disinterested & preferring solitude & his friends growing to know this abt him #and not only do they accept it but its an aspect of him that they enjoy bc its their good buddy saiki #KILL ME!!!

[lucabyte]

i feel like people are sleeping on the occam's razor situation of how buckwild it is to outright accuse a guy of being a clone of your friend even if you DO have a lot of circumstantial evidence. there's other options is what im saying. they could just be like. a guy. that's a sensible deduction. you should explore that deduction. ignore my shirt that reads I <3 RED HERRINGS.

i still think odile has the correct theory on lock but she's smart enough to know it needs like... a real smoking gun to be able to bring it up without sounding insane.

anyway. (mirabelle voice) i know its rude to speculate but has anyone else noticed the grieving? they seem to be grieving. does anyone have any thoughts on the grieving? i have some thoughts on the grieving.

#[isabeau voice] am i insane or does sometimes loop talk like they might have killed their whole family. is that just me? just checking. #nille design highly inspired by @kiwibrain's since its the one that imprinted in my mind. liberties taken since i didnt look @ reference #anyway i have a lot more thoughts on this? i guess ill hide them in the tags...? scroll down i suppose. #isat #in stars and time #isat spoilers #in stars and time spoilers #isat act 6 spoilers #isat loop #isat siffrin #isat bonnie #isat nille #isat fanart #in stars and time fanart #doodlebyte #---------------------------------------------------------------------- #anyway the extra thoughts. are literally just my general thoughts on postcanon. (and thus are the context for all of my postcanon doodles!) #which is i think nille joins the party before loop reappears for a start (either from a period of nonexistence or just wandering around) #and that like. i think the party should be able to integrate loop as a completely new person. because they are! the secrecy isn't great but #They and Siffrin shuffle into different ecological niches in the party (eg. i think sif is more squeamish after it all but loop isnt) #and while it's not *exactly* what Loop wanted they get that beggars can't be choosers. and its pretty good #(i am glossing over how i think loop's reappearence drags both them and siffrin into a massive behavioural backslide and is likely a bit #distressing to watch go down. cycle of argument -> lovebombing -> normalcy -> repeat. etc etc. but since they are no longer literally #stewing in the worst pressure cooker of all time they do resolve it via productive conversation on their own time. its fine) #the party well-meaningly tries to deduce things from loop's vagueries and are able to pin down the DEAD FAMILY vibe pretty quickly. #but eventually the question of their prior identity falls by the wayside because well! they're just their friend loop! (also change belief) #as for how The Truth Come Out... this is what i mean by The Isabeau Torment Nexus(tm). which is that i think... isiloop should almost occur #BEFORE isabeau knows who loop is. he's just genuinely charmed by them eventually and tries to close the open end of the polycule #which FREAKS LOOP THE FUCK OUT because thats just too genuinely sick and wrong. and obviously w emotions high its not a great confrontation #ANYWAY told u i had more thoughts. if i were normal itd be a text post but.

[reitheist]

in light of recent yoi news

#this was edited by my talented friend who asked me to post it here #her immediate reaction upon learning abt the cancellation and me complaining abt mappa moving on to shonen was to send me this scene 💀 #i laugh so i dont cry #rip yoi you were too good for mappa #yuri on ice #yoi adolescence #yoi #ice adolescence

[boysaremytoys]

one time someone asked me “are you sexually open-minded?” and i immediately saw through that and said “i’m adventurous. but i know what i like and i won’t do something just because someone else wants me to” and sure enough, he ghosted. that was not “oh, we’re both doms, looks like we’re not compatible,” that was “i want to take advantage of someone with sufficiently low standards or experience that she’ll go along with whatever i want, and you won’t let me get away with that”. his was such an underhanded, leading question because no one wants to say they’re closed-minded, but having different desires from someone else is not being closed-minded. you’re allowed to be uncomfortable with or uninterested in trying a sexual act. i wonder how “open-minded” he would have been to my desires. be careful. even if you’re a sub who likes pleasing—especially then—don’t let anyone manipulate you.

#side note: that goes for non-sexual stuff too. i’ve had friends ask me to do certain activities and i’ve said i’m not interested #and they’ve accused me of not being open-minded #as if they were doing it for my own good. they were doing it because *they’re* interested and want someone to join them. find someone else #when we find something we both want to do let’s do it

[sugajimin]

some yoongi gifs until he comes back home (2/?)

happy birthday @namchyoon!!

#yoongi #min yoongi #btsgif #btsedit #myedit #mygifs #anna's bday were last month but i forgot to post it lakkdsjd GO TELL HER HAPPY BIRTHDAY #jp and anna b*llied to cb here #yeah good friends there #till spring day comes again

[forever-is-made-of-nows]

Okay y'all...but 911 is actually a good fucking show. Like y'all only ever talked about the boy kissing - that didnt exactly prepare me for the CINEMA that was the emotional OSCAR WINNING TSUNAMI drama. This show has slutty gay firemen co-parenting yes, but it also has the campiest storylines in the modern era acted by, again, OSCAR WINNING ANGELA BASSETT??! What?!

#truly buddie gifs did not prepare me for this #i thought the earthquake was good but this tsumani has me HOOKED bitch #and yes buddie #those two fruits?? #i cant BELIEVE how flirty they are #im so serious when i say they were never friends #in every word those boys share with each other #underneath what they are really saying is FUCK ME #i cannot #buddie #911 abc #911

[mochiobonio]

intertwined, the two heroes of Hyrule have only but each other in mind, body and soul as they continuously trap one another in an never-ending dance of intimacy

#Sidlink #sidon x link #prince sidon #link #legend of zelda #loz #God I was high af on gay when I drew this #historians said they were good friends #zora #hylian #mochiboniart