#I don’t want to upset ppl

[starrylayle]

"Don't get me started on jegulus" actually please get started I'd like to hear your thoughts on it because your take on wolfstar and the oc-ification of some characters is so refreshing to see (tbh my first reaction to jegulus was just confusion on how it started and how quickly it got popular lmao)

ahh this makes so happy to hear that my post resonated with some people!! Was worried i was in the minority lol.

Anyways, abt jegulus -- i acc had a reaaally long post about how much i hated the dynamic (in canon compliant ish works -- Jegulus in aus is fine ig) but i deleted it lol.

I think the core reason why i dislike the pairing so much is that I feel like it the ship goes against everything James stands for. We don't know a lot about James' character in canon, but what we do know is that he had a strong sense of justice, and fierce loyalty to his friends and his cause, which ultimately led to his doom. I just can't imagine that James would associate with someone even a little bit bigoted. This is not to say i think James is a saint, i think he could be an ass sometimes (snapes worst memory lol) but i think he'd draw the line at someone who was associated with 'evil'. James had a very black and white view of good and bad and i just don't think it would make sense for James to date reg, esp as he is becoming a death eater. James may be a dick but he is also the biggest ally to ever ally !!

The only jegulus fics I have read are 'Just Lovers' and 'Choices'. Just lovers is a non-voldy au so i don't really have a problem with their dynamic there but choices on the other hand,, oh boy.

Spoilers for 'Choices' by MesserMoon btw (TW for talk of SA):

Regulus' friends rape Mary. And instead of feeling disgusted on the victim’s behalf, (who has been his friend for 5 years) James instead feels upset because it tarnishes the ‘good’ image he has of reg in his head. Thing is when a similar situation happened (The Prank ™), James was upset that Sirius would do such a thing but he also felt disgusted on behalf of Remus. Where was that energy here, huh?? I’ve even seen comments villianising Mary (the rape victim).

The thing I also hate about their dynamic is that it is basically an ally of the oppressor and ally of the oppressed. The problem with that is that when you are allied with the oppressor, you become an oppressor yourself (and reg does; he does terrible things) and that subsequently makes the so-called ally of the oppressed in cahoots with the oppressor as well. This brings so many parallels to real life where people say that they are an “ally” but become friends with/date a racist/rapist. “Oh but they’re nice to me”. its just a little ew.

And in other jegulus canon-compliant-ish fics, sometimes instead of James' character being watered down its Regulus' character. Like, he's not as morally grey, not as complex etc so it makes sense that James would agree to date him. I feel like jegulus as a ship ruins the core of what made their characters so interesting in the first place.

That being said,,, i do love me some canon-compliant unrequited jegulus. Regulus goes to hogwarts, gets so mad at Sirius for ditching him or whatever, but falls in love with the very guy that stole sirius away. He also has internalised homophobia because he's a Black brother so imagine the angst. James potter goes against everything he stands for,, sirius betrayed him,, but perhaps they're right abt smth?? Perhaps he needs to do smth. alone.

sorry for rambling but these are my thoughts on jegulus !! Anyways I feel like I should reiterate that this is a personal preference!! I think it ruins core of these characters, i prefer jily and i love me some unrequited gay pining for the boy who you're brother replaced u with. But this is just a personal preference !

oh and just a side note if it ever led to a decision where james had to choose between sirius and regulus -- no matter how much he 'allegedly' loved regulus, he would choose sirius, no questions asked.

#thoughts on jegulus #jily #james potter #regulus black #choices messermoon #anti jegulus #idk how to tag this #I don’t want to upset ppl

[hawkzeyes]

Very proud of you for the mom thing and I’m sure Hawkeye would be too! I hope it all settles well and know you always have a support system if it doesn’t.

That’s very sweet and very cute anon 😭

I think it went ok. I’m an adult not in her home, haven’t lived with her most of my life actually so if it doesn’t go over well, then 🤷🏻‍♀️

At least I did it.

#the real monster is telling my dad #which I will probably do in idk another decade #hawkzeyes #anonymous #should I put tw for these? #I don’t want to upset ppl

[fuck-you-showerthoughts]

EYYY WE GOT OUR FIRST TERF FOLKS, FINALLY SOMEONE I CAN BE RUDE AS HELL TO.

GET FUCKED TRANSPHOBE!!!!!

#(​I don’t want to be mean to people upset about my identity bc that’s not how you get ppl to change their minds yk? we’re on the same side) #(this motherfucker though….. >:) eat fuckin SHIT) #asks

[stardustdiiving]

Me explaining in terms of strictly how I read canon I think Nahida not severely punishing the Sages is just meant to convey that Nahida, even when wronged, is not a very vengeful or harsh person and makes the choice to be kind instead, but in my mind I have this idea of a Nahida interpretation which elaborates on that where her self punishing tendencies extend to her being someone who internally downplays her own experiences constantly, and as a result has a hard time feeling she’s allowed or justified in placing a lot of blame on the Sages for what they did to her So while she is following her own philosophies regarding teaching lessons/wisdom/etc in how to handle the Sages and genuinely doesn’t want to be really angry or punishing because of who she is as a person, her decision is also influenced by the fact she’s basically blocked herself out of grappling with how to handle people who hurt her by blaming herself for said hurt instead as a coping mechanism. And like this is all just me being insane about Nahida Trauma and not something explicitly implied in canon but also I really do think this isn’t a far stretch from her canon characterization especially when my vision isn’t to conclude that Nahida needs to be angry and vengeful but she should extend the kindness she shows others to herself and also every day I get tormented thinking about she was the mental equivalent of an average human child when the Sages found her and how they basically specifically discarded her for being a child and the idea of how Nahida would pick up on + internalize that and eventually need time to unlearn it

#nahida #genshin #fern.txt #fandomferns #fictional child abuse cw #anyways is anyone else here normal #see I think a sentiment most ppl get from nahdia’s character is correctly that she is kind despite being treated so poorly #but I want to explore her grappling with Why she does that bc she is genuinely kind #and I don’t think she’s struggling with moving on from things #but based off things she says word for word I feel it’s established nahida is very distressed by not being able to rationalize or #understand things that upset her #this is clear in both her SQs & her voicelines even down to her not liking seafood bc the unknown of the ocean #intimidates her. so I’d imagine she’s someone who responds to being mistreated by concluding #there must be a reason for it. and I actually have dialogue that backs me up here #bc when we first learn the sages have imprisoned nahida nahida herself basically says it’s fine bc her existence has #little meaning and she’s not good enough to be an archon. even as paimon is remarking how awful #the sages are for it and prompting nahida on if she’s upset w them #it’s not that Nahida isn’t insightful enough to acknowledge something as mistreatment #but rather she finds more comfort and a sense of control in having explanations for things #heck the reason she gives up her gnosis to Dottore is states in her char stories to be bc #she doesn’t want the lack of control that comes from a lack of information #nahida leaning on knowledge for a sense of control makes me esp sad when I think abt how #she does not have autonomy or agency for a majority of her life bc of her imprisonment n had fo rely on her #mind n ability to learn n gain knowledge #anyways to reiterate ks anyone else normal

[taakitz]

sorry this is random as fuck but. does any1 have any advice (or reading recs) for drawing with less expectations/pressure on yourself? like. advice on how to just enjoying the act of making art vs. drawing with the final product in mind?? how do i enjoy art again.

#i haven’t drawn in a month maybe two #i just get so Scared (for lack of a better word) over something i should Enjoy #i have been talking to my therapist about this and it helps for suresies but i feel i need insight from ppl who have Been Thru This #being an artist is such an integral part of my identity and i hate that i’ve put all of these expectations onto myself cause of it ): #i don’t know how to love making art if the art isn’t a perfect finished piece. #i know people always say ‘make bad art!!!!!’ but i don’t know how to learn to enjoy making bad art? #and i can’t slog through smth i don’t enjoy at least a little (adhd) #and i just. i want to love making art again. #like when i was in elementary and middle school just drawing in a lined notebook no expectations just drawin pokemon and animals #idk. i’m not that upset i just needed to get these thoughts out before i go to work #‘i’m not that upset’ (<<< he is lying)

[thedetectivesystem]

i’m sorry but i cannot see matt being attracted to mello AT ALL 😭 the guy clearly had a thing for cute people and is pretty sleazy with his attractions. i can’t see him wanting to frot with some guy who he was somewhat buddies with. i’m not saying that he isn’t attracted to men, i definitely think that he’s bi just with a preference for cute afabs. like that guy thought that misa could’ve been 14 and was like “she cute tho i’ll take her from kira.” bro?? LMAOOOO he’s so funny to me

#no hate to ppl who like the ship #it’s just so funny to me #not putting this in tag cuz i don’t want to upset ppl #this is just my dumb opinion #ship let’s ship i ain’t hating guys #their characters are just really funny to me #especially matt cuz wtf was that guy doing #he’s so silly #;; alter tag : moss #i’m 20 i’m not complaining about anime ships they’re just funny to me #it’s like putting oil and water in the same cup to me #they’re my brotp actually

[majoringinsarcasm]

“I hate people who mindlessly praise RWBY and deny any of its awful writing choices”

I have no idea what circles you’re in that have people like this. I won’t deny they exist bc I’m certain they do, but I’ve seen so many ppl who love RWBY with all their hearts talk about multiple things across the volumes they didn’t like or wish had happens differently or where a scene was weak or where the pacing was off. Especially after people politely explained issues they had with V9 while still throughly enjoying the volume as a whole.

Again I’m not denying the existence of mindless praise but I have to ask WHO you’re coming across who In Earnest and not as a joke say the show is 100% Perfect For Real. Bc in the 10 years I’ve been watching the show I have not seen those people. Which maybe means I’m lucky?

But I feel like RWBY specially gets so much hate and shade and ppl talk about “bad writing” every other episode for the past six volumes like. Bruh if it’s THAT bad HOW are you still watching? There’s thinking it’s bad and hoping it’ll get better and then there’s hate watching and being confused why people seem to love a thing you hate and that doesn’t sound fun At All

#rwby #when the show ends SO many ppl are gonna make SO many videos about how it’s awful and how could it last so long #and I know objectively bad and boring shows can last really long times #but the happiness and hype so many ppl have when we get new news about it #also even if it IS a bad show which I disagree with #ppl can like bad shows I’m sorry you don’t like it or no longer like it I really am #but ppl are allowed to praise the good parts #not every fan wants to dwell on the parts they are upset with that doesn’t mean they are ignoring them #if you can sit through a 45 minute video where sownonw ONLY talks about the bad parts good for you #I’m here for the fun and the magic and the joy I can analyze on my own what didn’t work for me #not posting it online doesn’t mean I don’t think it and not seeing any hate doesn’t mean ppl think it’s perfect plz relax it’s been Years #at this point just watch sownthing else if after all this time you still don’t like it or can’t get back into it

[parasocial-hermit]

Part of me is happy ramshackle is getting so many veiws but the other part of me is worried about contentfarms.

#I really don’t want ppl to comment brainrot on ramshackle stuff #like tadc and poppy playtime were content farm victims #but i wasn’t upset when that happened #don’t get me wrong I like them #but I’m just OBSESSED with ramshackle rn #I feel like I’m going to be VERY disappointed if it happens to ramshackle #rant over #ramshackle pilot #ramshackle #hermit yapping posts

[monsterhugger]

I’m a big believer in writing whatever you want/don’t like don’t read and I’ll defend people who write gruesome fucked up porn but I hope people who post trolly crack “fics” for the express purpose of shitting on fandoms/characters they think are cringe or whatever go to hell no matter what

#it’s just shitty. like it’s technically allowed as long as the characters in the tags actually feature in the fic #but like it’s not in the SPIRIT of fic to me yk?? #ppl who write serious but disgusting and depraved smut are doing so out of love for the characters and a desire to actually create #ppl who write fics meant to troll are just. yknow. trolling #sorry im explaining it badly and I don’t want to post an example bc I don’t want to feed a troll #and like I don’t actually want to invite harassment against someone who technically hasn’t done anything Wrong #but like idk. they know they’re being shitty and they’re doing it to be shitty #I think the reason it’s hard to do anything about is you run into a weird line #w seriously out there kinkfic that is written in earnest vs troll fic/shockfic that’s written to upset ppl who like those characters #it just makes me genuinely sad to see idk

[gg-is-a-loser]

okay logically most of the characters are adults but every time i’m on the trolls tag and i see ppl writing smut i die a little bit like sorry what do you mean you desire john dory carnally.

#they’re literally little guys #idk man #gg rambles #im so hesitant to tag this but i want ppl to see the phrase desire john dory carnally #eh too risky #don’t wanna upset anyone who desires john dory carnally

[lesbiansanemi]

Do you think if I wish hard enough my mom will get electrocuted by a string of Christmas lights and just go up in a cloud of smoke. It’d be a Christmas miracle

#I’m not even DOWN THERE YET and I want to fucking KILL HER #I have to work Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas. I live four hours away from my family #I told her this MANY TIMES I said I’ll drive down after work on Christmas Eve be there Christmas morning but I need to leave by 3-4 to get #home at a reasonable hour so I can have time to unpack/catch up on a couple days of chores/get plenty of sleep #she called me last night and told me she didn’t schedule Christmas stuff until SIX PM #and when I said why tf did you do that I’m not staying that late #she got mad and upset and was like ‘it’s the only time everyone is free :(‘ #BUT THEN proceeded to tell me we were having lunch with her HUSBAND’S family at noon #(ppl I am not close with never have been literally don’t talk to) #and everyone I know is like ‘just leave when you said you were going to anyways’ #and like yeah I could but then my family is gonna be ENRAGED that I didn’t do Christmas stuff with them #and they’re like ‘well explain that your mom didnt listen to when you said you needed to leave’ #but the thing is. no matter what. they’re going to take her side #I should sacrifice my time and comfort to spend time with them because they’re FAMILY #never mind that literally not a SINGLE ONE OF THEM has EVER come up to visit me #IM always expected to drive down there. but that sacrifice doesn’t count it’s not good enough #but if I stay that late I won’t be getting home until AT LEAST midnight or later #cuz my family has no fucking concept of time so if it starts at six that means it doesn’t ACTUALLY start until 7 so most of them might be #there by 8 so I’ll be expected to stay until at least 10 to sufficiently catch up with all of them #I’m going to scream I’m going to cry #if I leave early I’m the awful ungrateful terrible bitch who never comes to see any of them #but none of them could adjust their days by just a few hours to see me before I needed to leave #FOR MY FUCKING JOB !!!!!!!! SOMETHING COMPLETELY OUT OF MY CONTROL #and like the thing is. my piece of shit manipulative bitch mother #I KNOW she did this on purpose #I know she didn’t plan this until six to FORCE me to stay longer because she was mad I wasn’t staying long #(again… because of work… something I can’t control) #so she’s orchestrated this to put me in this position #where I have to suck it up and stay and be exhausted and have tired migraines for a week cuz I get only a couple hours of sleep and then #or leave and make everyone pissed. I hate her so FUCKING much

[chirpsythismorning]

I hate when ppl (mainly other bylers) talk about how bylers are focusing too much on fanon or that ppl are picking and choosing evidence or that we're reaching too far with theories. Like.. I see their point I really do and I get annoyed about some of that stuff too but at the end of the day I'm here for a fun time not a long time.

btw im living for your asks

Thank you 😊

It just feels invalidating from other bylers especially, bcs like, you know what we’ve been through.

It’s not always about focusing on the most standard obvious evidence all the time. We would have nothing to talk about at this point if that was the case. It’s nice to have a variety of posts circulating, some discussing the main ideas supporting it, as well as all the theories and analysis and art and wips and just everything.

I don’t make posts to be palatable for byler antis bc to them nothing about byler is palatable. They don’t like the obvious evidence and they don’t like the far fetched theories. To them it’s all one in the same.

And so I don’t see a point in stifling things I think or want to talk about, on the basis it makes us look delusional or something. If I think something is compelling based on a lot of subtexual and/or textual evidence, I’m gonna talk about it.

Even I sometimes see a theory that I think personally is far fetched and then I follow it up by moving on. Like it doesn’t make me get the urge to send them an ask on anon where I tell them as such.

There are some theories that blow up tho, with some insisting it’s all coincidence and means nothing, but I don’t think that would be the case every single time, if so many people are going wow that makes sense and are agreeing and resonating with it. Like it’s not like we have maybe a couple hundred posts, there are thousands upon thousands of really articulate and complex posts breaking stuff down. Some of that could be nonsense, but all of it can’t.

I think that’s what also upsets some people, like if what you don’t subscribe to blows up, then a sort of defense mechanism is to try to tear that down bc it forces you to second guess yourself.

But theories will not hurt you for being discussed. And in the case they do hurt you, block.

Otherwise, let the freaks do their business.

#byler #ask #byler tumblr #it’s a dry hiatus fr #I have sooo many drafts and some are controversial so I don’t feel like posting them #not anytime soon at least #and it is mostly bc I don’t want to upset ppl #but also bc ppl will make it about reading too much into things #and that’s even worse tbh bc like triggering much #if you see a delusional gay person in their element #pls let them be #don’t tell them to not get their hopes up bc they’re reading too much into things #pls don’t do that

[glitterock]

x

#u know the person that just got exposed for having a fucked up sideblog on here? #i’ve been knowing they were weird as hell for months ever since months ago when they were dating my friend and when my friend said they #didn’t wanna see them anymore they immediately hit up my dms trying to come to fuck me in nyc #knowing me and the other person were really good friends #and were telling me they had dreams about me n shit #when i say immediately i mean like the same day my friend said they didn’t want to continue seeing them #of course i said no bc i care about my friend and also just was not interested #and i told my friend and they were upset about it #so yeah they’ve always been fucking weird and creepy #always made me so uncomfy seeing ppl be besties w them bc they obvs are immature as hell along side being a terf apparently #anyway this is all i’ll say on this and if u don’t know who i’m talking about im not telling #didn’t wanna mention this when it was happening bc it’s really no one’s business and didn’t need to be blasted but also now i’m saying it #to add context that they were always giving creep vibes

[dottores]

the past few days have been wonderful 😍

#— vent #my dog is hurt :’) #we don’t know what exactly is wrong with him but #he can’t climb stairs or jump or walk properly #i’m rlly worried #i was so upset last night because he kept trying to jump on my moms bed because that’s where he likes to sleep #and he kept crying because he couldn’t #he tried so hard :’) #my grandad has gotten into 2 accidents in the past 2 weeks #both minor but :’) #his alzheimer’s is getting so bad we have to tell him he can’t drive anymore #and on top of all this i’m rlly struggling with what to do it it’s something #my bf is not giving me good options 🥲 he just wants me to remove myself from the situation but #i don’t want to #i’m just tired of ppl complaining to me about stuff and then doing the stuff they complained about to me like #:’) what does that say :’) #and on top of allllll of that #we had a mass for my grandma yesterday and idk :’) #i’m just not in the best headspace right now sobs #if you’re still here reading thru all of this i’m giving u a smooch #sorry for dumping it all :’) #i’ll answer asks & messages in the morning :’) i’m exhausted mentally and physically and need to sleep

[childeproof]

i feel like it will be a little confusing bc i have two mk s/is one that’s shipped with johnny & sonya while the other is with cassie but i’ll put heavy disclaimers on every post ig. i don’t want anyone thinking anything odd or weird ok. jules is with johnny & sonya that’s one timeline and vett is with cassie. vett & cassie timeline is diff bc jules does not exist. and in the jules timeline vett does not exist.

#boykujou #say NO to freaky stuff #i don’t want anyone assuming or associating me with pr*ship ppl umm bc that’s genuinely upsetting for me #like u know. umm i just don’t want ppl to think I’m selfshipping with a mom dad and their kid at the same time with the same s/i #bc that wld be quite odd #quite unusual

[pepprs]

gonna delete this later bc i know it’s unproductive to screenshot / namedrop and i actually am thinking the best approach would just be to privately share this thought w the dev who posted this in a possibly futile attempt to effectively advocate for the change i want to see (#worktag2 lol). but im workshopping it here w my beloved mutuals first as i always do which is kinda shooting myself in the foot given that the devs can probably see that but whatever. my thought is like… i get it. i really do. i get that this place needs to stay afloat and some of that is gonna involve sacrifice or something from everyone involved. but… why would you try to snuff out the things that make this place what it is and just make it like all the other places. why would you not even take into account how the changes are going to impact EXISTING users who are loyal even if they don’t pay. people aren’t going to come to tumblr for more tiktok and instagram. they’re going to come here for tumblr. for the anonymity and the customization and whatever. so like i just don’t get it. why is the solution to this problem to experiment with changes **that existing users won’t like** and not to listen to what existing users want and do more of it bc other ppl likely will want that too.

#purrs #idk my thoughts aren’t organized and i have a stomachache so im not thinking clearly and ik i also was trashing staff earlier and that so ma #many ppl must be sending them hate and shit and i know there are probably better ways to go about things. but it’s like.. i do not feel like #i matter and belong as a long time tumblr user 😃 like why would you say this. it’s kind of like a big fuck you to the people who are here es #especially since there have been experimental features (like polls) ppl here have been wanting to see forever. like why can’t you work WITH #us instead of becoming another soulless algorithm wasteland. it just fucking sucks to feel like we don’t matter and we’re not being listened #to. and i get it like this is an age old story. but it sucks. it really does. #delete later #like idk. it just sucks to see a dev say that. why would it not even matter to you what existing users want and need and think. idk #like instead of removing the ‘it’ to get… why not just… idk. make it easier to get. instead of eliminating the it. you know? #ive been mad abt this all day which is cringe / dumb bc it’s the pikaman sword lady crab blue checkmark ‘hellsite’ and i don’t want to buy i #into the cringe staff blog persona but like. tumblr is a lifeline to me and this is just so upsetting lol