#I see more people in the rpc now

[monstriiss]

gnashing my teeth rn

snarling and biting at people that rip off other peoples oc's characterisations and backstories, it costs $0.00 to come up with your own concepts and you get the bonus of not shitting on other people and being able to exercise your own creativity. there is so much of it in the rpc and i have seen it happen to friends and had it happen to myself, like just stop swinging off of others coat tails because we put heart and soul into these characters not just for someone to come along and think that looks fun and go yoink :) i just

#;; ooc. #;; venting. #will people in the rpc chill the fuck out #if you want inspiration turn to media not to other peoples characters it's not hard #like yes there are common concepts out there and you can coincidentally cross lines with people #but there's a point where it's obvious and people start to notice lmao #i used to be way more open on tumblr but now when i encounter a character that's similar to drath i tend to swerve #because i just dont want repeats #which sucks because i LOVE these kinds of characters but after that experience it just makes me 🫠 #and then seeing it happen to friends makes my blood boil #there is something so insidious about it tbh #and you know theyre the ones that will also just take someones art and use it without permission or credit too lmao #i just *drags my hands down my face* it's free to not be a dickhead and so much easier #also this isnt at anyone here these folks have been long since blocked im just 😬👍

[justicode]

literally why the fuck is tumblr determined to make it impossible to reach the source of a post. they went from "we're gonna make it easier" to "we're gonna eliminate that possibility entirely"

#OOC / HOLLY. #WHAT IS THE POINT #there was an xkit extension that like if you clicked on the username of the person someone reblogged the post from #at the absolute top of the rbed post it would take you to that post on their blog #instead of just taking you to the front page of their blog #well this morning I wake up to find tumblr has removed that entirely #the top of a rbed post just has '[username] reblogged this' #OKAY??? FROM WHOM??? FUCK YOU #not to mention that seeing who a mutual rbed a post from has historically been a decent way to find more people to follow #but now unless that person is the op OR added something to the body of the post you'll have to dredge through the notes to find anything #which anyway still doesn't address the problem that you can't just go directly to the post on op's blog #where the rpc is concerned 'reblog memes from the source' is about to be a thing of the past #which personally I don't care about #that wasn't really a thing when I started out in rp + I've never found it to be an issue for me. it has never once clogged up my feed #however I understand it's a different story for some people #some people need their activity feed cleaner #and I don't complain about tumblr updates. I generally find them benign #this one is a pain tho. as are the changes to how posts show up in tags [which was perfectly fckn functional thank you] #and the defaulting to the 'for you' tab and the tumblr live that we can't turn off permanently #the rest I can either adapt to; ignore; or turn off

[ladyimaginarium]

“you can’t write that plot or expand the worldbuilding in that universe!! it’s too far out!! it’s too complicated!! it’s too unrealistic!! you’re just throwing random twists and connecting narratives together and linking these characters in the plot via time period or character relation!! besides it's not canon!! those characters would never meet or get along!! you can't just make new narratives or perspectives or skillsets for that character!! you can't racebend white characters into muses of color!! you can't hc that character as trans or nonbinary or genderfluid or gay or bi or aro or ace!! you can't write villainous, toxic or abusive characters because that means you condone those behaviors!! you can't hc that character as mixed or jewish or native or autistic or neurodivergent bc you're self projecting!! you can't write about social issues and the grievances you suffer through your muses!! you can't make your female characters overpowered or they'll be mary sues!! you can't—” 

#like. have any of yall ever read a novel or more importantly had. literally any amount of fun. ever. #wh.... what do y'all think novels are .... define Fiction ™ please ???? #idk man i used to deal with people like this who were literally always like ''you HAVE to abide by CANON!!! or else your portrayal sucks!!' #there are many characters that have little or no meaningful canon interaction but who i feel would have a strong connection #given the right au twist of events or circumstance—i like putting characters together and seeing what happens— could have been. #i think any pairing group of characters or any outcome is possible if the mun takes the time to get to know the muses and what they believe #i'm not saying this is possible for every single character ever but i like sitting back and watching what happens. #i really enjoy that part the most and it’s why i like writing. canon is nice to have but i don’t consider it necessary to make a good story #( mobile. ) #i promise this isn't directed at anyone on here!! #but this shit is so annoying i can't— #also i had these reaction memes for a long time and now i can finally use them 😂😂😂😂😂 #like.... have people considered..... minding their damn business and let people write their muses in peace...... #arcana.shitposts #crack. #idk man im& just thinking about the rpc & shit that makes me& fucking feral while i& was in it 😂😂😂😂

[storminmyveins]

Positivity anon here! Could I ask you to shout out to your five fave blogs? Just to make someone smile today and let them know you love their blog! Maybe even say a little about why!

Oh I will do you one so much better. I will do more than five because there are so many amazing people in the RPC as of late.

@ladamereveuse , because she's been with me since day one, as well as @theforsakenchronicles. I've known them since I started in this crazy little community and they have put up with my bs for the longest time. I love them so much and I don't know where I'd be without them.

@unitcd, I met in the high days of the OUAT fandom and there is just so much about her I love and adore. And she's the reason I'm currently watching Supergirl and crying about it. So thanks for that. That's now you know a friendship is real

@wiishescametrue , is basically me, we are so much alike. I love her. Plus I don't know anyone else who is taking things I say and turning them into their discord handles. Clearly she thinks I'm funny.

@surgcns , has been nothing but sweet, loving, kind since I started following them. They also encouraged an OC which of course forms a bond truly between people. Extremely talented too. Their ocs? Perfection.

@roguexpogue, is actually JJ Maybank but is pretending they're not. They are just as sweet and nice and I love seeing them on my dash.

@softersinned, while I know we don't interact I will follow her no matter where she goes because not only is she the sweetest fking person but the level of detail she puts into every character is awe inspiring. Plus she has always been there when things got rough. She didn't even have to be but she's got a big heart.

Now these people I haven't spoken to OOC a lot but I love having them on my dashboard and I wanna keep them there.

@insanislupus, @vntagetee , @lcstinfantasy, @clairelilcorner, @2onrad, @story1ines, @bu11seye, @forthewinn, @fullstcp, @neveragcd, @malka-lisitsa, @timeguardians , @entangledmuses, @awalkoflife

#∘⡊ ☾ ˚ ‣ 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫. ↳ happy tag

[muraenide]

This miiiiight be oversharing personal sentiments a little bit but...

Ever since I changed my rules to include an explicit list of what I'm going to write on this blog instead of just a simple, brief statement saying "dark things will be present here" and started actively following people or mutuals of mutuals whose muses or writing I am genuinely interested in/have spiked my interests, I've grown a lot happier about the contents and people I'm seeing on my dash.

I felt like tum.blr rpers have grown incredibly judgemental and incapable of minding their own business. People all around me seem to have shifted their energy onto focusing on offending as few people as possible instead of trying to actually have fun, and the rpc has become a weird circle for activism when it shouldn't have been used as a medium for (false) activism in the first place. Not all of us are here to make a point or to establish a legacy. In fact, most of us are just here to have fun and scratch an itch in the brain or fill in gaps that canon source materials haven't been able to provide. But the idea of this is incomprehensible to some people who are actively ruining the rpc and making everyone fear that they're walking on eggshells while they spiral into a depressing state of existing to not offend anyone instead of existing to have fun.

I've lost count of the number of times people tell me that I'm on a DNI for "writing with pro.ship.pers" or "writing romantic ships with an adult and a minor" (<- said ship is between a 17 y.o. and a 19 y.o.) sometimes it's also ships about fake incest.

(Just as an aside, I've grown so desensitized by being on DNIs that it's no longer something to feel anything about. I'd just go through their rules with a very confused expression if to see what they took issue with. Most of the time I don't even know the mun personally.)

I've gotten more hate directed at me for writing fake in.cest rather than real ones, which is not only baffling but also incredibly ODD bc the fandom "decides" what is good and what is bad, which reeks heavily of manipulation and toxicity in my opinion. Fandoms aren't governed by a single party or a monolithic authority that decides its rules. Fandom rules are made by the community, and in every community, there should be different rules, made to ensure everyone is comfortable and feel inclusive. That is what makes fandoms special and detached from reality. Yes, you're entitled to not want to interact with certain content for reasons no one else is entitled to know unless they have your consent, but you're definitely not entitled to silence/stomp out everyone to cater to your whims or risk getting hate/harassment. Which is why I heavily encourage tagging content as-is instead of denying the nature of said content and praying that no one notices because that is the best way to make it difficult for people with different preferences and tastes to co-exist.

And ever since I changed my rules and actively followed people again, there has been a variety of content on my dash with varying tags. It's honestly very stimulating and uplifting, and if I firmly believe if a mutual were to take offense to anything I write or choose to interact with, it's on them as they clearly did not go through my rules when they followed/followed back. Additionally, I tag all my things.

A few months ago, my dash was exhausting, and boring, everyone (or most of my mutuals) was scared. Now I see posts getting tagged "necrophilia cw". I'm very happy for both my mutuals and their muses for striving for the peaks of how far fiction writing and the imaginative side of the mind can go.

I'd highly recommend anyone who has been in a similar situation to list down your dos and don'ts so your mutuals will know what to take to your tables and what to not. Personally, it felt like my dash had curated itself and it's been very pleasant to be on tum.blr lately even if I still have to vanish for a few more days due to inrl.

I think about my dash very often this week and I love all of you guys for being here and showing me your brainrots/muses! 💗💞💓

#𖦹 ⋆꙳ ⁄ ooc. #rant cw

[deadn30n]

happy early 2024 !

posted a bit early as i'll be going to bed relatively soon, but i wanted to say something to usher in the new year!

as some of you know, i've been in the RPC for a very long time, but took a well needed hiatus a year or so back. i only recently returned mid-November && have not regretted that decision for a second. ♥ it's only been a month and a half, but it's been the best month and a half i've ever spent on this site. i admit i was nervous to return for a variety of reason ( mostly avoiding some rather negative people i originally split from this site to escape from ) but i've come to find that this space space i've built has fostered so much positivity for me, and i'm very grateful for that. i'm grateful for all the new friends i've made, all the connections i've forged, the writing i've done, and the plots i've gotten to explore! && as the new year approaches, i'm walking it into with quite a few new aspirations and hopes. i'm really, really thankful to everyone who's given me the time and chance to reach out and make a connection. to the people who've talked to me and told me they're excited for the release of my book, for my return to the vtubing community, for the times we play games together and just goof off.

i hope you know how much you all mean to me. i wish i could tag EVERYONE in this post but tumblr would kick my ass, but just know that i'm truly and honestly grateful and honored to have met the people that i have and look forward to talking more with all of you and getting to know you better. there are a few people i want to single out to shower with love who've supported me or have even known me from the LAST TIME i was on the site lmao

@goldenfists : you should already know you'd be the first on my list Joo Joo Bean. my beloved. we've known each other for what... 3 years now? roughly that, give or take, but you have no idea how much you really mean to me. from the moment we met i knew you were someone i wanted to keep in my circle. i adored you and still do; you've seen the changes i've gone through, the growth i've made, and supported every positive decision i've made. even when i finally built my first oc, and your first incentive was to foster a relationship between sett and eden and letting me know that you LOVED my creatives when i was so scared to take that first dive into making an oc. i love you so much dude. ;_; i'll never forget how you teased me on stream about my pronunciation of your name but then insisted i kept pronouncing it like that because you thought it was cute. i wish you knew just how much you mean to me, because words aren't enough to justify my feelings toward you. i love you Joo Joo Bean, i love you to the moon and back, and i can't wait to see what 2024 has in store for you and i, and our little blorbos @empyreous : ELLE!!!11 ELLE!!!!1 MY BELOVED PARTNER IN CRIME ON LEAGUE!!!! we haven't known each other for very long but god have i LOVED writing with you and goofing off in my favourite games. you've given me a brand new love for league and you're so fucking talented with your ocs and your writing that i'm just chomping at the bit for us to keep going. i literally can't wait to see what we end up developing for these silly little dudes and it makes me so very happy to have you in my corner. i wish you only the best in the world and i'm certain 2024 will give us so many more funny memories to cherish. save me eboi.... eboi save me....

@seeksmoon / @seekslight : softie you loveable little shit. you boyfriend stealing monster ( affectionate ). actually, if i was gonna share my boyfriend with anyone, it'd gladly be you. BUT JOKES ASIDE i'm really delighted we met and hit it off as well as we did. the way you write both alune and lux have me going GRRRRR BARK BARK BARK and i adore the dynamics we've started to built between yonealune and ezlux. we haven't had nearly enough time to hang out yet and that's a fucking CRIME if you ask me. i'm sure come 2024 though we'll have plenty of time to be a couple of goobers and mess around in league here on tumblr. you're such a sweetheart and even my bf talks so positively of you, and anyone that can make him happy makes ME happy. i hope you know you won't get rid of him and i so easily ♥ we enjoy hanging out with you, and we hope you do too :>

@ayahimes : astrid u ain't getting away from me i'm rapidly approaching ur location at mach 10. LFKDJASLKJDF i'm teasing i'm teasing but MAN i've had so much fun playing weague of wegends with you ( and looking forward to when we start playing ffxiv too ) but you're such a sweetheart man. a good energy, positive presence that i love being around ;v; i hope we'll get to play more in the future and chat more and get to know each other!! ♥♥♥

@mellodiies : misha all i'm gonna say is this year... you will be boiled.... ( this ask forever lives rent free in my head and i'm never going to stop laughing at this i hope you know ) ok but in all seriousness i'm so glad i worked up the courage to follow your blog because it's been a bucket of laughs and also seeing one of my childhood faves being doted over so lovingly just makes me so!!!!!!!!!!! i hope this year we'll be able to write ( and even if we don't i'm also content just observing your shenanigans bc they always brighten my day ). thank you for filling my dash with the little pep in my day that i need, you're a fucking goober and i adore you for it

@vulpesse : hi bunnie!! we never really got much of a chance to chat before ( we did get to write a bit in the past though, which i enjoyed! ) but i want you to know that you are one of my biggest inspirations on this site and i was so goddamn happy when i found you again that i hit the follow button so fast i think i broke my finger LMAO but seriously.... you're great. you have such a wonderful energy about you and you're so unbelievably talented with an indomitable spirit. i love seeing your posts every day, and i'm glad to share this same space as you! ♥ please never change, you truly are such a bright light in an otherwise murky world

@heartate : plum u know i couldn't forget about my favourite edgy thot. i fuckin love u dude. it's crazy to think we've known each other for like what? 10 years? like christ. and even though those first few years weren't filled with the happiest of memories, it's been my honor to be able to make amends with you. i always appreciated you for approaching me with that heartfelt apology. i never resented you, and even less so now that i knew the kind of awful situation you were put through back then. you didn't deserve the pain and abuse you went through, and i'm glad you're finally able to break free and grow. flourish and fill the world with your light, because you're a good person and i firmly stick by that notion. no matter what happened between us in the past, you've grown and i've adored watching it. i only hope you'll be able to continue to grow and enjoy the newfound freedom you have, and i am glad to be able to be by your side through it ♥ i'll always have your back miss rina, you can count on that :>

&& to some other lovelies who've made my time pleasant here; @lightshielded / @yoakkemae / @chiheru / @fairesky / @darkflyers / @attroxx / @mythcaels / @knifvd / @killerhubby / @erabundus / @mundmutter / @goddessrisen / @inhumann / @penddraig / @hiisfire / @raytm / @elicertis / @liightbringr / @un1awful / @vonerde / @gunrising / @cyneris / @trattcria / @cmdrace / @lovehungered / @trattcria / @pearlcure / @dnangelic / @starsenna / @nulltune / @toxichem / @longerhuman / @volonata / @misreputed / @ferinehuntress / @florspinae / @inufangs / @bishonenprince

&& to all of my lovely followers too! ♥ may your new year be filled with all the joy and love you deserve. may the new year treat you kindly and give you solace when you need it most. may the new year bless you with every bit of happiness you deserve c:

#« ooc tag. » #I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST LMAO #i decided to put it under a cut to spare you all #but ilu guys AAAAA

[soulrph]

so i've been seeing a lot of people worrying that they're not writing or doing or saying the right thing on the dash, and in business studies, they talk a lot about the intended or target audience of a specific service, product, etc. and i think that if we were to apply that same logic to the rpc or writing communities within tumblr and as a whole, it might help ease that very familiar anxiety when we lose a follower, or when we worry that a quiet dash is somehow reflective of our writings.

for example, the huge amount of people who reached out to me about concerns that they were doing something wrong, because they're losing followers, i think we need to reframe that whole mindset. when we write content, it's for a specific audience of people who like the same things that we like and write about.

we can't change the opinions of people who, for example, don't like angst, and if people don't feel comfortable writing anything more than a peck on the cheek, that's absolutely their choice, also! and so, when we might lose a follower, or several followers, it's a hell of a lot more likely that they just unfollowed because they didn't vibe with the same things you vibed with, and there's nothing wrong with what you wrote, there's nothing wrong with their opinions, but neither are going to change, so it's for the best that we part ways. right?

i have this theory that the rpc in particular is so hyper-aware of certain toxic behaviours, or the history of call-out culture, that maybe we instinctively assume we DID do something wrong when someone unfollows or blocks us. but it's really not the case at all. tumblr is a place of strong opinions, and if we did something wrong to warrant the block or unfollowing, then we'd definitely be told about it. there's absolutely zero doubt in my mind as to that. so when we lose a follower, it's more than likely just a difference in tastes or opinions. nobody did anything wrong. establishing healthy boundaries is a good thing! and much more to the point, the people that remain mutuals with you ARE the intended audience of your content, because they stayed, because they like your work.

TL;DR: unfollowing someone or blocking them is not a bad thing. being unfollowed or blocked by someone is also not inherently a bad thing. we are all individual people with different interests and aversions, likes and dislikes, and there's no sense in trying to transform them to suit a different audience. it just means that you're not catering to your own comforts and likes, and it'll lead to bitterness and unhappiness in what should be a perfectly enjoyable hobby. now go forth, drink water, grab a snack, and get some fresh air!

#psa. #ooc. #( this has been a huge issue for a while now but ) #( this way of approaching it is a lot more reassuring to me than trying to ignore it ) #( anyway be safe be good and uhh ) #( you won't be hearing from me for a while ) #( bc i got a new job starting in september and i'm moving cities to do it )

[sexlessrpmemes]

Hey, you're a goddamn rp prompts blog! Rebrand or stop putting the gross political shit on main! Stressing people out who are actively engaging in a RECREATIONAL hobby is a bad look.

Now I was tempted to just delete this but I feel like I have to respond.

I am assuming that this is because I recently reblogged exactly one post about a political bill that would gut encryption and subsequently cause issues with Rp (and other internet activity.) I plan to delete it at the end of the month, when the bill can no longer be passed. I did just realize that I'd forgotten to tag it with "not a meme" and have done that, so you can filter that tag and not see that stuff.

As for other "gross political shit" I have reblogged a few about changes to tumblr so people can know what is going on, and a few things with links to stuff like resources that could help someone out.

Now I have just went through my archive and did delete a few things that must have gotten posted on here by accident when I was planning to put them on one of my other blogs. However, that may happen again and if it bothers you then unfollow.

This blog is not a super active one, I tend to just use it to keep memes for my own personal use, and have barely posted anything in the past year. I keep it up so people have access to the resources and edited memes, and if you don't want to see whatever I post on here that may be non meme related (like tips for the RPC and things like that) then just unfollow.

Also, just in case anyone is wondering what kind of "gross political shit" I'm here believing in:

Trans rights are human rights

Trans women are women, Trans men are men

Women should have the right to choose what happens to their bodies

Climate change is real and a problem

Cats are an invasive species and should be kept indoors

Police should not have unfettered power and should be held to a higher standard of behaviour than

Everyone should be housed and fed and able to live with dignity no matter their ability to work

Vaccines are good and work, and people should not be able to work with the most medically vulnerable people if they are unwilling to do what they can to protect them. (aka nurses/doctors should get their vaccines because they're supposed to be helping sick people, not carrying plague)

Also capitalism is a plague and billionaires should not exist.

Thank you anon for your comment, and have a lovely day. I will not be changing my behaviour on this blog, apart from trying harder to remember to tag things. I might get some more memes posted, I might not, but either way feel free to unfollow.

#politics mention: cw #not a meme

[danderosa]

negative below the cut. mainly just a stream of consciousness, something I've been dwelling on for a while

let's cut right to the chase: I can't shake the feeling that something in this rpc has changed, and I'm not entirely sure I'm comfortable here right now. it's a whole mess of things, really, and I'm struggling to pin down exactly what is making me feel like this. my more paranoid side wants to dwell on the "oooooo everyone's been talking shit and secretly hates you", but I hope that's just silliness

maybe it's jealousy

maybe it's insecurity

maybe it's just general burnout, being bled dry by work so I don't have the same amount of time or energy to devote to my creative endeavours

maybe it's a bit of all three

no matter how you slice it, I'm just struggling to feel like I belong here and am getting a whole lot of ugly thoughts and feelings I'm not comfortable entertaining. I know people like my leon, and please don't interpret this as a goodbye because there's no way I'd ever abandon him, but I think I need to take an official hiatus or something. work on my mental health. softblock people I don't see my myself interacting with, maybe. I'd thought that remaking would have helped with these feelings, but... unfortunately it hasn't

I've been considering making some more casual, discord one-on-one spaces so I can write without the pressure of appealing to a public audience. a whole server is way too much to handle, but we'll see about the 1:1s

anyway, thanks for reading this far if you did. I'll still be on tumblr, just not in the pokemon fandom right now. I hope to be back on leon sooner rather than later, and will probably be answering/sending out the occasional ask to my beloved long-time mutuals who I have a strong connection (both ic and ooc) with, but longer threads and dash commentaries won't be a thing until I get out from under whatever this dark cloud is

#☆;; out of character #negativity tw

[malka-lisitsa]

Well look at that it's 2024, and my new years resolution is to stay an unbothered icon queen, and hope the hater's die mad. But I also thought I'd take a second to shout out to the people who make the shit show of a year 2023 bearable, and even enjoyable in some cases.

As trash as the rpc has a tendency to be there are still a lot of you that make this place more than worth it. I clearly cant shout out to all 900 something followers but I can highlight some of you. If you're not listed don't worry I still appreciate you immensely for being here, these are just the people that have really impacted my time here so far.

@unsettledspirits / @zoomingupthathill what can i say that I already haven't. There's 3 months worth of daily reasons to love you. You built the one ship that beat Steferine with me, honestly it was a surprise to everyone. Happy to see you back on Max ruling over your ST kingdom.

@hybrid-royalty-main Damon you piece of shit, I hate you the absolute most, and I'm so glad youre here with all the boys tbh. You bring such a unique quality to each one of them. Especially were-jer, it has been an absolute HOOT watching you take on the challenges of a teenaged were pup.

@baby-royalty My sired child with loyalty so unwavering you make the sire bond in the show look tame lmfao. The universe pulled us together the second I stepped foot into this hellsite again and I have enjoyed watching you grow into the person and writer that you are now. I'm proud of you.

@klaeus Kiki I adore you sm, you and your knock off brand doppelganger and scruffy mutt hybrid (affectionate) I love talking about the show and dynamics and honestly just about everything with you. You try, and thats more than most people do for me. Plus your grafics are just chefs kiss.

@multi-royalty Maddie this is like 3 years we've been besties, the caroline to my Elena. I've loved watching you branch out into new circles of friends and grow as a writer. You're absolutely killing it.

@ofcrossrcads Cribby, my darling I adore you. You are simply the sweetest, and keeping you here aggressively as my friend was one of the best things ive done in my life. I am always right here if you need me for anything &lt;3

@hargrove JT WTF. How are you so talented? Honestly youre the bees knees and I am SO HAPPY to have reached out to write with you bc I wasn't expecting Katherine and Billy but here they are and tbh im here for it. Tho everything you write is top notch, you're just flawless with every reply. And for that reason katherine said, you can go ahead and keep your halfbreed in the dog house. LMFAO. But for real I am so happy to have met you.

@petrovawitch Kenz, Katherine says fuck you for bringing her pain in the ass sister back- but im really glad you did. We adore you both even if we're spicy at times bc you know were brats hehe

@havvkinsqueen / @stanfordprepped My fellow digidestins, I am so happy to have met you. Both of you are just pure goodness spun into a little ball of sunshine. Honestly the most supportive people ever, the RPC needs you desperately. Just please remember that I have your back just as much as you have mine. We digidestin gotta stick together. &lt;3

Ok ok ok I cant shout out to literally everyone individually so these people also are super important to me and have made my experience here this year amazing, thank you for all you do-

@langdhon@ravenskeeper@salvatoraes@sarcasticsnackpack@sithdestined@nexusvcrti@ofvalor@imundus@brokenbrxther@loyaltylanced@spellsigns@ruinedmyself@ravmalakh@touchedbydestiny

#the one and only... sort of: ooc #2024 follow forever #im sure i forgot ppl but its 1am and im exhausted #alexa play take it easy on me

[captainresources]

hey, tumblr rpc. we're a deeply parasocial space and we need to accept that!

i've noticed an uptick in people preferring to remain insular / friend focused or indicate to not immediately express familiarity, or say that they owe their mutuals nothing. and that's true! this isn't to say that you can't make true friendships, or come to know someone fully, in the roleplay community: i'm a part of it, and i've met friends i now have known for more than ten years. but there's a difference between people having conversations that aren't just about rp (e.g., personal life, depending on each other for support on tough times as the people involved slowly open up) for extended periods of time, and having casual conversations solely about rp over 6 - 7 months and going no further than that. to some people, that may be friendship, but the reality is that you really don't know that person, and we need to do better and respect that boundary. being mutuals isn't automatic friendship. seeing what your mutuals post on the dash is only a fraction of what they are actually like, and it is their prerogative to share as much or as little as they want. unfollowing, soft or hardblocking isn't personal. you cannot press people to share about themselves when they do not wish to. when people specify "i owe nobody nothing", it refers to acting on an unearned sense of familiarity. pursuing friendship is natural! but in online spaces where activity varies and people are now mostly offline due to busy personal lives, it's imperative we remain courteous and respectful. again, this is a parasocial environment, and that's fine. do better, get to know people naturally, and don't hold boundary establishing against them.

#rp resources #rp psa #roleplay psa #maybe it's just my own perception but i've noticed this and i'm sure i'm not the only one feeling this way

[widowskins]

An end of an era and some updates

Please indulge me this moment of reminiscing and rambling. It is saddening to see Caution closing its doors. I understand why. The RPC has been shifting towards Discord servers for a while now, and I know that change is both good and inevitable. At the same time, I can't help but feel a twinge of... sorrow? Melancholy? to see the end of an era. I've been with Caution since it was on IF. Caution was where I found my first skins and templates, and through hacking them to bits, learned to code. I fell in love with CSS and HTML on Caution. Resource sites came and went over the years, but for the majority of the height of the resource forum era, every code and skin I made was exclusively available on Caution. I am slowly working on moving all of my templates onto my skin preview site. I'm also joining a handful of RPC resource servers on Discord. Although I am sad to see Caution go, I want my codes to be available to as many people as possible. It's time I get with the times. From the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank all the staff, former and present, of Caution, for all the years you kept the forum running. I might not have been an active participant in the community outside of posting resources, but for many years Caution has felt like a home. I appreciate the welcome and wish you all the best wherever you go. And now, for a few updates: I'm tweaking a few codes as I migrate them over to my preview forum. I've also got two skins in progress. I think one will be a free resource, and one will be paid. I am considering lowering my prices on Luxury again. I don't want to insult anyone who has purchased it at the old price point(s), but the more I ruminate on it, the more I think I would prefer to offer greater accessibility to people from all walks of life and financial security. I'm not sure what the protocol is for lowering prices on an existing skin. Does one offer a partial refund to those who purchased at the higher rate? I'm not sure. If you're reading this, please feel free to chime in with your thoughts. Anyway, thanks for following and keep an eye out for the completion of my template migration and the eventual release of new skins!

#jcink code #cttw #caution to the wind #caution #widowspeak

[trellia]

I think this post is a long time coming. But also, maybe 1 - someone has pointers to help and 2 - maybe someone else is struggling similarly and would like to know said pointers too.

I have been quite the recluse the past few months. From everyone, really. Why that is why I’m making this post. If you feel like I’ve been drawing away, you’re not wrong. I have. I’ve not been doing too good since… I’d say October. A lot of events have turned my world around for one, realizing what I am living in and not what I thought I was living in. That was something on its own…. At the same time, I was going through the steps to figure out if I have ADHD. I found out a couple months ago that yes, indeed, I do have ADHD.

The diagnosis was first a relief: finally, I now know there’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just wired different. However, relief soon turned into contempt. I became very, very angry. I am very angry. I just reached my 40’s. For at least 35+ years, I’ve been degraded and hurt by the people who should have protected me, understood me, especially in my childhood. Teachers, principals and parents of other children took part in this bullying campaign their children had going, only because I wasn’t following the ‘norms’. I endured trauma so great that I can barely function today.

I mean, I look at the videos of my childhood and I see it immediately: I’m not like the other kids. I’m more hyper, excited, and I just want everyone to take part in the fun, but I’m too much for it. It’s right there. I was called names by adults, and scolded for not doing things the way neurotypical people would. I was called lazy. I was told I don’t care for anyone but myself when, in fact, I have always put everyone ahead of me because I would rather see them happy than be happy myself. So you can imagine how difficult it was to hear that I am selfish and don’t care for anyone else…

I’m also angry at the current people in my life. Some of which have told me to ‘fix’ myself because I was an inconvenience they didn’t want to deal with. So I tried EVERY way to do so, and of course that didn’t work because I was trying to put bandaids on symptoms rather than help with what was the actual problem, but then when I asked for help, I was shunned away like I didn’t deserve it. I lost an entire decade (my late 20’s and my 30’s) asking myself what the hell is wrong with me, why am I such a terrible person, and why can’t I do anything right, and spending my 30’s walking on eggshells everywhere AND in the rpc because I was connection deprived and needed everyone to love me, which led to nefarious people taking advantage and hurt me further. (that’s a post for another day.)

Now here’s the main problem: I’m so angry I want to hurt someone. Not physically, but in every other way. It doesn’t matter who you are, I just want to lash out, whoever you are, friend or otherwise. An example: a friend made a new original character that is actually perfectly fine and pretty good, it’s a great OC! — but inside all I want to do is destroy that break their love for the OC and ruin it for them. Just… because. And that’s NOT okay. The good news is that I see it, I realize it. Which is why I have isolated myself. None of my friends deserve this. But I am angry. I am enraged, because I feel I’ve lost most of my life ‘fixing’ myself until I masked so hard I didn’t even realize until it slipped at 28. I know exactly when it slipped too.

Also, considering the kind of world we live in, I feel like I’ve lived past the mid-mark of my life. I’m not sure I’ll live up to 50 at this point. And it’s not fair. It’s not fair at all that I had to go through all this and still suffer. So yes, I’m very angry. But I also don’t WANT to hurt anyone. Especially not the people I care for… This is why I have not been on disco.rd. I have removed FB (because I wanted to for a long time tho lol ), tiktok… And have mostly removed myself from public spaces.

If you have pointers or ideas on how to get past that anger, please, please share. I don’t really know what to do with it. I don’t know how to tame it. And it scares me tbh. I don’t want to be like this. This isn’t me… but it’s so hard not to be angry…

So… yah: if I don’t respond on disco or otherwise, or not right away, it’s not you, I’m the one stepping away so I won’t say something I really don’t mean just for the sake of harming someone because I can’t accept what has been done to me.

If you read this far, thank you. Otherwise, here’s the jinx of it:

tldr; I was officially diagnosed with ADHD and realized I’ve been treated terribly by my peers because of it and shunned away when I asked for help, so now I’m extremely angry at everything and want to hurt someone (anyone) though I don’t really want to. How do I get over this?

#adhd #adhd help #anger #anger problems #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #help please #I beg #I want to be there for my friends and family but I feel horrible because I can’t #:(

[rpcpositivitea]

shout out to the person reading this. if you need to hear it, this is for you. i think a lot of people want to be complimented without being singled out, so take what fits and make it your own:

shout out to the person that just did a bunch of posts in a row, because muse hit hard and you were excited about what you owed

shout out to the person who hasn't gotten to write in a while, but still bounces around the rpc until you find your rp home

shout out to the person who just did a post they weren't excited about, not in a bad way so much as it was hard to find the muse but you did it anyway so you wouldn't have to keep your writing partner waiting

shout out to the person who just left a site they loved because of real life

shout out to the person who shouted someone else out without ever seeing their name pop up in return, or even being found out as being the one behind it

shout out to the person who just left a site at all tbh, because it's never fun even if you don't like the site

shout out to the person thinking about getting into or back into the rpc

shout out to the person thinking about getting out of it, i know how hard that feeling is and i'm sending you lots of love

shout out to the person that is waiting patiently for posts because they know their writing partner can't right now, for any reason

shout out to the admin that wishes they had more time to write while also managing to be super excited about how much staff work they have because of member excitement

shout out to the admin of the site that just opened, and the one that just closed

shout out to the person working on a site right now

shout out to the coder trying so hard to bring a design above their skill level to life

shout out to the coder trying so hard to bring any idea to life, because it's never super simple and that's okay

shout out to the coder who is trying to bring someone else's idea to life, because that is even harder sometimes

shout out to the person who said something nice to someone else today

shout out to the person who needs it, you know who you are

and shout out to you, for being here, because honestly? that's enough, and it's okay to let that be enough

and, hey, if you have something to add? let me know in the comments, or my ask box if that's a little too public right now. <3

#rpcpositivitea

[justmemethings]

LET'S TALK MEMES ETIQUETTE !!

There's plenty of posts out there dealing with reblog karma and reblogging memes from the source. However, I haven't found any about another essential aspect when it comes to memes, so let's go!

Reblogging memes from the source (or in general) when not sending anything to the person who has reblogged it first is a mostly consolidated practice by now. However, there's another extremely important aspect that plenty of us forget to consider, and that can be as bad as not reblogging memes from the source:

The timing.

Let's picture this situation, something that must have happened to all of us at least once: you reblog a meme, maybe one you're excited about, and ten seconds later someone else reblogs the same meme (from the source). Now this can't really be a coincidence, it means that the other person saw your meme, liked it and decided to reblog it too. Without sending you anything.

They reblogged it from the source!

Yes, they did. But it's obvious that they still took it from you and didn't bother to send you anything.

This isn't saying that you always have to send in something when taking a meme from someone else. Of course, there are plenty of times when we can't think of something to send, or we don't want to send something because we don't want an extra thread.

And here comes what I mentioned before. The timing. Reblogging that meme instantly as in the example could be disheartening for your mutual. Not to mention that people might see your reblog and not the one of the person who reblogged it first, if you have a lot of shared followers.

However, this doesn't excuse you from not sending memes that concerns headcanons or questions for the mun. It takes thirty seconds to pick one and leave it in the person's ask box. So do it. Not only will that make the person happy, but it will prompt them to send you an ask in return.

You don't need to do this all the time, every day. If you regularly send memes to that person, then they won't feel like you're using them as a resource blog.

At the end of the day, it's all a matter of being mindful of your RP partners. If you see a meme you like and you don't feel like sending anything to the person who reblogged, consider waiting before reblogging it yourself. Tumblr allows us to schedule posts, so all you have to do is postponing the posting and you won't even have to bother to remember to reblog it at a later time.

Let's all contribute to make the RPC a more welcoming, interactive place!

#roleplay psa #rp psa #psa #rp etiquette #rp suggestions #memes #owl's psa

[shdwtouch]

While I absolutely agree with the sentiment and think oc positivity is sorely needed, comparing writing canon muses to fast fashion sounds a bit icky to me. I know you don't mean it in a bad way, but it does kinda sound like you're implying that people writing canon characters are putting less love, effort and creativity into their portrayals. Just because there are multiple people writing the same character doesn't cheapen their value, so I'd personally look for some other metaphor.

firstly, just want to say: I have so much anxiety about this message. like I know you're coming from a good place but its confrontation and alarm bells in my head so let me see if I can articulate. ; ; also, I'm posting this from mobile so I apologize for any weird formatting etc owo;

I'm going to stand by my statement (tho I deleted the tags [edit: I did take a screenshot for context sake]) honestly because I definitely was not implying that canon portrayals have less value, in fact I specifically stated that both canon and original characters have value, just like fast fashion and couture have their own values.

let me explain my thought process.

you walk into, say, Walmart and pick up a pair of Levi's. why ? because you've probably worn them before and like them, or heard of them from others and want to try them out. or because you're simply browsing and like the style and color and they're in the right size so why not ? canon muses have that ease of access, whether it be knowing the fandom or simply having a range of content and reviews to go off of as a "consumer".

original characters don't have that luxury; I don't know about other people, but for me sometimes engaging with original characters - and this is coming from someone who writes predominantly fandomless original characters and agonizes over how accessible their lore is - is, well, bottlenecked by my own energy and willingness to engage with the information and content the creator had provided. it's much easier for me, energy wise, to play a video game and then gravitate to muses from it because I'm already familiar with them, so I already have a foot in the door so to speak.

I fucking love reading original lore tho ! I also FUCKING LOVE canon divergence and headcanons ! but it isn't always easy to engage with or incorporate, and I think that's something that impacts a lot of people in how they view ocs compared to canons. original characters just often take more effort to engage with and understand, and that's not a bad thing ! but in a busy life it's understandable that folks want to go to what is comfortable and what they know, so they pick up a pair of Levi's instead of going to get a tailored pair of pants.

next, I should clarify that the characters are clothes, and we, as writers, are the ones who wear those clothes. which is to say, our own personal style and actions play into the overall appearance and feel of our portrayals. two people can take the same shirt and make completely different outfits with it ! maybe one of them decides to crop it, or bleach it, or cut it up and sew it into something new. and all of these things are valid ! and they all have value. you may be wearing the same shirt as someone else, but you still style it the way you want to. you still look different, still unique, still beautiful. there is nothing bad about liking fast fashion or canon characters. fast fashion is convenient, so are canon characters. some canon characters are poorly written and need to be dressed up or fixed to be worn, while others are quality and wonderfully made ! just like clothes ! and honestly, the same applies to original characters too !

the pants I'm wearing right now ? my favorite pair of pants. I've had them for like... four years. and they're still going strong. fast fashion isn't necessarily cheap, just like couture isn't necessarily haute. but again, it's about how you wear it. and everyone in the BG3 rpc wears their clothes, whether they be canon or original, in their own unique, beautiful way ! we all have our own style, and that style provides value to what we're trying to portray. neither canon nor original characters are better than the other, they BOTH have pros and cons. just like fast fashion and couture. they both have value, and their mode or means doesn't detract or add to the value of the final product.

I apologize if it seemed I was implying canon writers aren't as valuable as original writers, or somehow cheaper due to volume, in my tags. I definitely see where you are coming from and that's a valid perspective. However, that was not my intention and I hope I've managed to clarify my stance and explain myself a bit better. thank you for your message, I hope you're well ! sending lots of good vibes ♡

also, in case anyone was curious, my pants:

they are incredibly soft and flowy, very nice. I sleep in them and wear them out. I know they're winter themed but I think they're subtle enough to be worn outside the season, plus they have polar bears on them and I love polar bears !

also, if it's of any value, I have written my fair share of canon characters. I wrote extensively for assassins creed and marvel, in fact that's where I got my start in the rpc ! if I had to carry the metaphor, my "fast fashion" would be my (canon divergent) cli.nt bar.ton. I may have gotten him from marvel but I have since sliced him up and incorporated the pieces of my portrayal into my original projects ♡

#《 ° inbox 》 we just got a letter ! i wonder who its from ? #《 ° puffin.exe 》 im a puffin ! i dont do much #° mobile post ! #and now ? now we hide. *scurries away* pls be gentle with me ; A ; i swear i have no bad intentions and never wanted to start discourse #ive just been watching crafting videos and the metaphor jumped out at me idk but yeah i love both oc and canons #i know how much love and effort goes into both writing canon and original characters ♡ they are both valuable #and if you ever feel devalued in the rpc because of what kind of character youre writing im sorry and you deserve better