#I've kind of wanted to unfollow this person for months but didn't

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for how i broke up with my boyfriend?

(hopefully this all fits in one ask…)

so i was dating this person, we'll call him Z, and while i had strong feelings for him in the beginning of the relationship, they faded kind of fast (i'm on the aromantic spectrum (and he knows this so this kind of thing happens a lot when i'm in a relationship). i felt kind of bad about being in a relationship where i didn't really have feelings for the other person anymore but i didn't know what to do, and i've broken up with almost all of my partners because of this issue so i felt like i was a failure for having to break up with another one.

instead of breaking up with him, i sort of tried to respond a little less, be a little less affectionate, not to an extreme amount and i was still responding to him often but i was hoping the dip in sweet responses would get him to break up with me. he didn't.

a month or two went by and i decided i needed to just bite the bullet and break up with him - i thought he would just accept it and saw me as a bad partner but apparently he didn't, and he kept trying to say we shouldn't break up. i told him i thought i was a bad partner and i knew i couldn't give him the love that he deserved (which was true, i couldn't, because i didn't love him like that) and that he deserved better (he did). i didn't want to admit that i had lost feelings and wasn't in love with him anymore, because i thought that would upset him further (i’ve seen many breakups where people admit they don’t love the other person and it always seems to make things worse). it took a while of back and forthing before he finally accepted the break up. we agreed to still be friends, but since the breakup we haven't really spoken, though we still follow each other - or at least we did for a while (you'll see why i say that)

pretty much immediately after i broke up with him, one of his best friends, we'll call them T, texted me, super pissed off that i broke up with him. i didn't really talk to T much because (while i understand why Z wanted to vent to a friend about it) it wasn't really their business why i did what i did and i wasn't concerned about defending myself to somebody i didn't even really know. however, right after yelling at me for breaking up with Z, T told me they hope i die, which while i don't really see as that dramatic or serious of a threat (and they admitted they just said it to get their anger at me out), it still hurt me a lot, since even though the break up didn't go smoothly, i can't control my feelings for Z, as again i am aromantic (spec), and it made me feel like a horrible person for something i didn't choose. (and they were specifically mad at me for breaking up with them in the first place, not for how the break up was handled). i feel like maybe if i had explained that id lost feelings they would have responded differently, but again i thought this would hurt Z worse, so i don't know if that's my fault or not.

however, we still followed each other, even after the interaction with T, and this is not the only time they lashed out at me. months after the breakup, i made a silly post like "who wants to date for fun" or something, which i didn't really think anything of, until Z vagueposted about it, seemingly getting really upset, and T sent me an anonymous message telling me to kill myself. i know for certain it was T and that the vaguepost was about me.

not only that, but even more months later, i had a really awful day because somebody stole $500 from my sister, who needed it for rent. i didn't post about the situation, but i vented about "having the worst day ever", and Z immediately posted about me, saying that he was laughing at my vent post. i was so beyond upset that i immediately unfollowed him (however, he still followed me at the time - i didnt block him just because i dont care enough tbh, i just never wanted to see him vaguepost me negatively again.)

Z and T were almost always completely kind to me (from what i can remember) before the breakup, so i'm wondering if it's all my fault or if their reaction was out of proportion. i know the way i went about the relationship sucked, so i'm honestly expecting at least a YTA if not ESH but i thought i'd send anyway just to see other peoples unbiased thoughts, since all i have is my friends opinions, who obviously only tell me that i was in the right (i dont know if i believe them).

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[theheirofthesharingan]

Hi,it annoys me when Itachi is paired with Sakura, does anyone really think that the could fall in love with her?He won't even look at her,but how do you feel about this couple?

Anti-S*kura/ anti Ita*ku/anti ss content ahead.

I've written about it before too. Here.

It annoys me too. This is my honest reaction to the ship. (It's probably someone's art, so if anyone knows the artist's name or blog, please let me know. i'll credit them).

I haven't interacted with her fans a lot (their general hate for Itachi just makes me want to not talk to them), so the psychology behind anyone shipping her with Itachi is entirely lost on me. He would certainly not fall in love with her. I can't see him falling in love with anyone, least of all, her. He's so damaged and guilt-ridden, and he has absolutely nothing he can offer in a romantic relationship. He's broken, suicidal, and suffers from the most severe form of PTSD, so what can he do that she will find charming? In all of Itachi's ships, his partner(s) would have to work hard to make it work. We know she isn't the kind of person who does it, or pays attention to someone unless her own feelings are being rewarded or coddled.

I don't know how she's written in the fics (I've never read them), but if the writers are making her sympathetic, thoughtful, understanding, kind, generous where her ulterior motives do not lie, then that's just not her actual personality. You can't write their core characteristics as it is and think they can be shipped together. There's absolutely nothing he'll like in her. If he did think something of her obsession towards Sasuke he would have acquiesced to SS and reached out to her instead of Naruto.

She's just shoehorned into both Itachi and Sasuke's lives as their potential life partner, which is wild because Sasuke just didn't care about her until very last and Itachi... oh, well.

You guys really made me give more thought to her in the last 2-3 days than I did in the last 13 months of having seen and read Naruto. Many people unfollowed me recently, lmao. Could be a coincidence too that some deleted their blogs or maybe unfollowed me for other reasons. But still.. xD

#itachi #sasuke #itachi uchiha #uchiha itachi #sasuke uchiha #uchiha brothers #anti sakura #anti sakura haruno #anti ss #anti sasusaku

[jinx-on-mars-19xx]

But just because you have ptsd doesn't mean you can be mean or prejudge people. Having ptsd is not an excuse for anything. You're acting super weird lately.

... I have not pre-judged a single person. I have not used PTSD as an excuse for ANYTHING. I said "no duh I'm paranoid, I have GAD and PTSD." I'm not sure who you are but I'm guessing you haven't been here long? You know you don't have to follow me. If you're the same anon bully as before I haven't prejudged you, I'm REACTING to what you say. Like you want. I've always been weird hon, kind of the point.

Also thanks, of course this shit set my anxiety off because I don't like confrontation. How am I being weird? I get hate if I'm positive all the time and I get hate if I'm not. I can't make everyone happy and I'm not trying to. Are you expecting me to be nice to people attacking me? I'm so confused. I can be whatever I want, this is my blog. That's the cool thing about it. I didn't even have to answer this but I don't want to hide from my followers what I deal with.

Am I mean or weird lately guys?

You know what I am? Recently dumped. By someone who promised never to leave. Recently dropped by a friend who promised never to leave. Found out I have a very serious medical condition that alters my entire fucking life. I found out my dad's cancer is getting worse, and my mom is getting weaker all the time. September hit. The WORST time of year for me. It starts the hell months for me. Obviously you know me so well so you know I was raped by my first boyfriend in September years ago and lost a child in December. If you know me well enough to know I'm weird lately you know that right?

Why is everyone else, including you- allowed to judge and be mean? Why don't I have the right to emotions on my own page? If you don't like that sometimes I have feelings, you have the ability to go. I was literally just in the hospital and yet still I try to keep up my reassurance and care-taking personality. WHERE have I been mean? When I was defending myself? Stop hiding and bullying as an anon. At least I never hide.

Please though guys, if I'm weird or mean or something let me know! Comment here please? I don't know what's going on or why I'm getting singled out. Does it make you feel better picking on me? I hope so. I just feel bad for that. I really think if I'm such a problem you should just block me? Or unfollow me? See no one else has been saying this stuff. I'm assuming you're the same anon as before. Thank you for your input, I'll take it into consideration.

To everyone else, I hope you're doing well! Love you so much 🖤

#asks #jinx answers #anon bullying #yaaay #i think theyre trying to bully me off and honestly... with how shit im feeling i might just take a break #what the hell did i do

[landograndprix]

So, First, i want to say, about your "Why are you single? post" that...it's your low self esteem talking because i'm sure you're not ugly! I'm sure you're super pretty and you don't feel it. I'm sure you're super cute, like everyone will think of you "omg she's stunning" but you have self esteem. And after all: beauty is subjective. What you call ugly could be the most beautiful thing/people on the planet for another. But i'm sure you're super pretty. And don't let anyone told you otherwise! And finally: YOU ARE pretty. because from the moment i followed you (a while, but sometime i click on the unfollow button instead of ask button because i'm stupid) until now, i saw a sweet and kind and funny person. So no matter what, you are indeed a beautiful person ! And i'm sure that you're as beautiful outside as you're inside. So... I LOVE YOU, TAKE CARE AND BE YOURSELF ! <3

Oh I know that it's my low self esteem but this girl has been bullied daily from the age of 6 till the age of 18 so somewhere along the lines you actually start to believe them so even when someone compliments me on my looks I'm terrified like, so you need glasses? You're fucking with me, right? 😭 also the fact that I had a friend a couple years back who told me he liked me and asked me on a date, only for him to ignore me for the following two months and show up with the prettiest girl I've ever seen didn't help either 💀

[buddysmut]

I miss talking about gfriend too :(

Since may that year i think my buddy friends start to looking for another group. They stop talking about gfriend, even they have any activity with their new agencies. I know it's hard and hurted them but yea🥲

I feel lonely tbh, buddies on twitter and instagram are busy spreading campaign to boycott that shitty agency and hates to other fandom that hates gfriend.

It's kinda ashamed but i did messaged umji and the other girls about my feeling lmao..

Putting this under a read more because the reply turned out so long.

Yeah, that's something i noticed too. I don't interact with alot of the bigger Buddy accounts non twitter. But years ago I did see a few using their same screennames to comment on some of my fics on other sites lol

But there were a few that I had to unfollow, because even months after the contract stuff happened, they would still constantly be posting stuff about it. And it was the same things every time. I just got tired of seeing it. Like, yeah, it's bad and unfair to the members. But move on already. Yerin already had a new contract, I think even Yuju had news of being a solo artist by then. And they were still talking as if the girls were just homeless or something. It just felt like they were forcing drama.

I think it can be okay to move on to other groups. I've only been into kpop since 2016. And I to this day have only followed maybe 4 groups total. I went to music school for many years. So I really don't follow music unless it's something that I think is good. And ofc GFriend really stood out. So it's hard for me to even find any new groups. I know alot of people follow groups for visuals alone. But that's just boring to me.

I've seen alot of the boycott stuff too. I think people should just focus on what the members are currently doing. For example, I saw some rumors about how Sowon might have been let go from IOK recently. And then after a day, no one has mentioned her. It just feels strange. Years ago people would have been speculating and trying to find out what actually happened.

As fra as messaging them, I wouldn't feel too bad about it as long as you are respecting their privacy and not bothering them. But it does remind me of how I always joke that Umji has found my stories before. I know other idols I follow, like Wendy, have said they read smut type stories online. And at some point, I kept seeing alot of stuff GFriend would post on their own, or in content they appeared in that were suspiciously subtly hinting at stuff from my stories. I know it is 100% coincidence. But it always made me laugh. I have seen screenshots one time of Umji's tablet, and you could see she has English twitter. So it could be possible lol

As far as current projects, for me personally, it just doesn't feel the same. I like VIVIZ. But their singles so far just don't grab me the same way GFriend singles did. But it's a new company, and they are just 'starting out' in a way. So I am giving them time to get things figured out again. With Yerin, I was kinda shocked she got picked up so quickly. And I was surprised she didn't pursue music as her main focus. But I am happy she at least is able to do multiple media under her contract. I also love the running gag about her drama being so delayed that she will have multiple music releases before it finally comes out lol

I'm really happy for Yuju so far. I think her solo debut went well, and I liked the music. But I did see people talking about how she didn't do as high of a range, and they mentioned how that was probably forced on her by SourceMusic at the time. I get why she would avoid it if she is doing what she wants. But it is kind of disappointing to not see her full range displayed spread over a whole mini album. But people also said it's probably painful on her vocals to be doing the more difficult ranges. So I fully understand her choosing to do things how it has been so far. I don't know anything about vocal training though, so I'm just going by what I have heard.

As far as Sowon, I just have no idea what to think. She hasn't been as present on social media. She hasn't done many appearances. And honestly, know how she was under SoMu, I wouldn't be surprised if she caused alot of problems between her and IOK. I feel like she would have still tried to act like she was the boss, and the company probably didn't put up with that. So I wouldn't be surprised if they mutually agreed to just let her go, or if it was more on the company's side. Either way, the fact that there was basically no promotion for her movie shows that there was some kind of negativity between them.

I told a friend I was shocked she didn't stick with being part of a group. And they mentioned how Sowon likes the variety shows and stuff like that more than the stage performance aspect of things. Which makes sense. But it makes me wonder how many of the members as a group decided not to pursue the ot6 under a new name and company, and how much of it was VIVIZ deciding to get together on their own.

[soulrph]

Hi!

I'm rather new to tumblr rpc but I already have some posts in my blog, inclusing some samples of my writing, and I followed a person who is mutuals only a couple of weeks ago and they didn't follow me back but didn't block me either (so I'm still following them) and I'm a little at a loss as to what I should do. Should I try to talk to them? Should I unfollow them? Should I refrain from any action and remain their follower without interacting with them?..

I'm not sure if my question comes across as wrong or disrespectful (believe me, I've no intention to be, I'm simply confused) but you seem like a very nice and pretty experienced in rpc person so I thought that I could ask you what to do?

hi my darling!! okay, for starters, kudos to you for braving the madness that is the tumblr rpc! it's always scary to try something new, so well done for understanding that and reaching out! i'm so touched that you thought of me when it came to asking for help!

now, for starters, mutuals only is a choice that many rp blogs like to take in terms of how they interact on the dash. it's absolutely never anything personal!! i use the same method myself to try and keep my mutual pool smaller and less overwhelming! (it never works because i have no self control and everyone is super talented, but that's a subject for another time!)

if it's been a couple of weeks, it does seem like they won't be following you back right now. most people recheck their follower lists once or twice a week, because tumblr loves to complicate matters by hiding notifications! but it seems as though the best response now would be to unfollow them. tempting as it may be to reach out, it might make matters difficult! i also feel like staying as a non-mutual follower might be hard also. my rule of thumb is to wait a week, ten days at a push, then unfollow if nothing is happening! sometimes the mutual checker doesn't work, and if nothing is happening between us regarding writing, then it's best to let it all go.

but!!! my darling nonnie, did you know that tumblr has 30-50 million users?? (according to businessinsider dot com???)

which means, if we divide that to even like, ten million rpc members, that there's still 9,999,999 other people to potentially become mutuals with! i think when i first joined the rpc, i had like, five mutuals for the first three months. and now i have a meme blog with which i use to send my clumsy advice into the unwilling dashes of many followers! it takes time, and i want you to know how brilliant it is that you reached out to ask for advice on this, because it isn't disrespectful nor rude!! you don't know this stuff!! people forget that they didn't always know this stuff either!!

the etiquette of the tumblr rpc is obvious once you've been here for years and years. but for the new and innocent angels among us, it's completely new and foreign, and that's okay! you will make mistakes, but you will learn, and people need to accept that. but until that happens, i will always try my best to be here to help and support those new or uncertain friends that need advice! and if i fail to help, then i trust in all the kind and wonderful followers here to add additional insight in the comments!! after all, what else is a community for if not to help one another?

anyway! i hope this helped, and i hope you find your experience of the dash to be a good and fun one! and if you ever need any help again, my digital door is always open!

much love my darling!

blue.

#ooc. #not rp related #cinnanon roll. #rp advice. #blue is my name!! #i'm not just reminding myself of the colour!

[notastraykid]

Lucky's personal rant, below the cut. TW: Bad language, bad thoughts, mental health (we're all suffering, right?), venting about ED's and toilet time.

I'm sorry but I have no other way of getting this out of my system (pun intended? Idk.) I'm kind of a mess.

Also, if you want to unfollow me, just do it; it's okay my dears. I realise trying to make buy friends on here was pointless. You're all a close knit friends group and are really lovely, but I just don't seem to fit in so I'm back to being Lurky. My writing was blah, my giffing was laughable. I can't draw so my existence here was pointless. Nothing to share.

Keep up the excellent writing and giffing. I'll be here cheering you on, behind the scenes!

As you were! 🫡

One of the things people don't hit on about an ED is how much you struggle to poop. I've just had a coffee. To help. Now a coffee does 1 of 3 things. Hyper, no sleep, or tummy cramps to poop. I had it for option 3 but it's a fucking gamble.

I would say finally it's helping me go potty but it's just giving me tummy cramps and still the inability to pass my pellets. Because yes. They're pellets.

I hate myself. I'm also really fucking struggling because I've been at the same weight for 2 months despite living off 900kcal a day. Even covid didn't help! I've tried refeeding and having up to 1400 but that kills me, mentally. In my mind I'll put on the 5st I've lost straight away. I can't do that again.

Why am I like this?

I know the docs won't help because I'm sure they'll think "yOuRE StiLl OvEr weiGhT tHo." or they'll just increase my tablets. Like I'm not already on a high dose of two different kinds. "this makes you happy. This controls your OCD,. Together they'll calm your anxiety and..." bull shit.

I just need to get to my target and I promise I'll maintain. That's all I want. Then I'll be happy. Just one more stone.

#Lucky's personal life #Trigger warnings #Rant #The end

[spikyshores]

ok, so this is my art blog, and several people followed me after i posted a few madness combat jokes, and i feel bad right now because madness was my special interest for like a year and a half and i feel like i very suddenly just stopped being able to get happiness out of it a few days ago. tl;dr my special interest is likely dying or at least i can't tolerate the feeling of obligation to draw it and i feel guilty for attracting people to this blog expecting that only for me to likely abruptly stop posting about it, so if anyone wants to unfollow over that i understand and won't be offended. sorry. also sorry to everyone who followed me from the start and has to deal with me making tons of fanart for stuff you don't care about whenever i get a new interest. i know it's not actually a big deal but it simply feels that way because i am autistic. thanks.

like i realized i was putting all this energy into caring and basically pathetically simping and getting emotional about missing the premier and then my body just rejected it. i was like why am i suffering so much, why am i doing this? and some part of me i guess got disgusted with myself and decided to just run away. obviously it's actually my mind that rejected it but i'm using the "body" language because that's the way it felt, like just an overwhelming reaction. and i'm actually pretty upset about it because i was pretty deeply emotionally attached and still am and yet my body is rejecting it because i used everything it had to give me up and/or feel trapped or something. really hard to explain. it's also about my feelings of throwing my life away not making good enough original art and not respecting myself enough as an artist to seek out original self expression etc.

i think maybe what happened overall was i committed myself to this one interest for a long time because i was attached and really didn't want to let go even though i should've let go before and then my brain suddenly forced me to stop and also i'm still attached and there's a chance i'll get re-interested but then this will just happen again and it will be a cycle of pain which coincides with the previously-unrelated-but-now-related mood swings i've been having for the past few months. another thing was that i worked hard to reclaim it as an interest over the course of this year because someone kind of involved it in abusing me (that wasn't the main factor, it just became involved because it was my special interest during the relationship and then was used to hurt me at one point) and i had to retrain myself to not associate it with that and this made me more attached as well.

i still haven't watched the live action trailer yet because i like felt pressure to be emotional about it and i'm like not up to making myself get emotional and/or failing to get emotional when i should. like i was excited about it and now it's been out for days and i haven't even watched it because it will hurt. i hope i get truly re-interested in a while, years or something, and then get to watch it and really enjoy it, but i'm scared that, since this happened, i will never be able to enjoy it again??

i hate that the nature of my brain is to love things really hard and then inevitably get tired of them and all that emotion is like... like it was never there and was always meaningless and just a dopamine factory. i know it wasn't meaningless but like i feel committed to things as if they were people and eventually i start to go crazy from feeling trapped due to doing this to myself but it's like i'm incapable of just having a bunch of casual interests and instead one has to become my whole personality for an extended time. god if you're out there i would recommend nerfing autism/ocd combo. awesome to be a person who by nature wants to do the same thing forever but also is extremely sensitive to feelings of being trapped and also can't stand the uncertainty of knowing if losing something will be permanent 😎 <- imagine that is the carter amelia davis version of that emoji

but yeah i really love madness but i like can't keep performing interest anymore or i will go insane. i need the amount of interest that exists naturally to be my only reason for caring and to feel safe with the possibility of that amount dwindling to nothing.

#like i'm not really sure what's going on because i still really like madness and my moods are so fleeting this could all be reversed in #like 2 days #but i feel like maybe i would like to enjoy it in private because the abstract feeling of people watching and expecting things of me is #like drilling a hole in my brain #and i know i don't owe anyone anything and people don't necessarily actually expect anything of me but the feeling is still there #sorry for talking for SO FUCKING LONG btw #no obligation to read it though #don't know if i want to post much art at all either for a while because the feeling of being watched and scrutinized damages my #original art process too #just hate performing in front of the world suddenly

[xcziel]

Is it okay to reblog your post about those "sexual offer posts tagged as fandom"? Because I couldn’t agree more and I always flag them as inappropriate, too. But I don’t know the etiquette for this, since it’s kind of a personal rant post?

oh sure, it's fine

i've just been seeing this issue so often in the last month or so, when it's not been a problem really before, so i'm very frustrated

like we joked about surprise!nudity on tumblr for years (back when the nsfw tag was actually useful for that very reason) but i have no problem with sexy fandom stuffs in fandom tags, or nsfw things that are reblogged onto my dash by people i'm following (bc i can choose to unfollow if it bothers me! or ask them to use a tag i can block!)

but these "sexual offer" posts, as you aptly put it, are getting on my last nerve

like - i sympathize! the sex work landscape online is more and more hostile, and onlyfans didn't exist as a kind of last holdout in the same way back before the tumblr ban

but half these kinds of posts are scams like we used to get in asks or like those random "looking for a sugar baby" comment bots (i hope they're bots)

and the others, the likely legit ones, are really annoying/distressing to find in unrelated tags!

plus the only options to make CERTAIN you don't see them is to ... not follow or search any tags??? hide ALL mature or sexual content (which maybe some of us might LIKE to see as a rule, if it's in the correct tag)??

there's literally no way to block or avoid those posts if there's not *some* kind of non-automated moderation process

tumblr needs to maybe give us a button that's like, not "flag as inappropriate", but "flag as mis-tagged nsfw" or something

we can have tags just for sex work or hookup posts! i'm cool with that - people who know what they want can find posts they're interested in!

i just don't want the header post for my favorite fandom to be some random lady's blurry coochie shot you know? there *needs* to be a way to prevent or at least specifically address that kind of thing happening

#and the thing is you would never be able to trust that the 'community label' is being used correctly? #like i have a tag blocked for content but tumblr will block the post just if the *extremely common* word is in the poster's url? #so i'm constantly unblocking posts to see if it's *really* the thing i blocked which kind of defeats the purpose #plus just recently they made it so i can't see ANY blocked posts in any way - like they literally will not open in the app at all #and mobile users cannot use the new 'copy link' post links - the at.tumblr.com ones #or at least i can't. they either direct back to the app - where the blocked post won't open - or won't open at all in the browser #like it takes me to the google play page for the app i can't even edit the url to something useful #so like ... my faith in the functionality of these community labels is very low #like it might work if everyone used them? #but the people who make these spam tag posts are not going to tag in good faith on their own #so we still end up having to report them even if they're not 'wrong' posts they're just in tags where they shouldn't be

[catcatb0y]

I lied about taking back that vent post, do I really need to unfollow all of the BakuDeku and HeroAca blogs I have just to not hear "Bakugou is dead" five times in one sitting?

Like I'm starting to get tired of the 'He's not even dead' ones because it's just everywhere.

Post-leak mania, fine, but now? Seriously? What kind of fucking manga are you guys reading? Y'all have THAT LITTLE faith in Horikoshi?? After literal years of joking about how much of a simp they are, years of meta and anyalysis about Bakugou and the tropes he contributes to, access to every and any Shounen series ever like???

Aizawa cut off his own fucking leg. Miruko lost an arm AND a leg. Midoriya broke all of his bones so many fucking times AND used one million (or some thousand) percent of his power.

It's not even about 'curarting your own experience' anymore, because everyone is doing it. You didn't post about it yesterday? Well, it's being posted about today. Haven't talked about leaks in months? Talking about leaks now. Don't like angstposting? Angstposting.

At this point I want him to die so that he stops suffering again and again. So that you guys can shut up and this series will finally dissolve all of the last bits of joy I feel from it so I can unfollow you all and sit in the void.

Death is already a reoccuring thing in my life irl, and I really don't need it from fandom right now, so like? I dunno block me or something lmao. Blacklisting the tag doesn't work or help, I've already unfollowed a dozen people, like I've started blocking people ffs.

I want to follow Bakugou-centric (or just Bakugou enjoying) blogs in general because I like his character. I want to interact with people who like and care about him, but god fucking seriously?

Go pick up AoT where Erin LITERALLY DIES in episode, like, three or something. Bleach where Ichigo spent three days in a hole trying not to become a Hollow and failing. Naruto where Sasuke got stabbed a bunch of times by literal shards of glass. (And those are JUST the early game deaths)

"Overcoming death" is literally just a popular Shounen trope- and that's not even counting 'gets maimed horribly and beyone compare, but comes out scott free' like??? People have literally been OVER THE MOON about the fact that Midoriya!!! Has scars!!! Because Shounen is so notoriously awful at showcasing the results of Heroes' mistakes. Even then, the series still uses the same 'ohohoho they are dying horribly!!1' trope all the time.

Not only are y'all not reading any other series, but, hell, you're not even reading THIS series. Like I followed people for their deep and insightful takes, for their understanding of the characters at hand... Where did all that go?

Even if he does die like???

What fucking themes are left???

'Save to Win, Win to Save'? One of the biggest themes Gone.

'Society creates Villains just as it creates Heroes'? Still there, I guess, but Bakugou's addition to that narrative was huge- a supposedly "villainous" kid rejecting villainy?

'You're worth more than your power'? Bakugou is one of the only people who saw Midoriya's worth BEFORE he got his power. He's also one of the only people (save Aizawa) who has acknowledged and pointed out Midoriya's recklessness and his self sacrificing tendencies.

'Heroes need to work together'? Bakugou is still one of the only people that Midoriya has actually fought side by side with other than the Stain Arc. Bakugou was the person who said "Don't go playing Hero on your own." (He's also one of the biggest showcases (bleh) in how Hero Society fails at teamwork- every time he has

Is it really a coincidence that his biggest win was a 'complete victory' that came from him working with his team? Him pushing Jirou out of the way during the 1A/1B showdown? How everyone pointed out his growth, and how he inspired the rest of the class?

During the Provisional License Exam he and Todoroki both failed (because they let their emotions get in the way of their Heroism), but remember what Aizawa said? About how Midoriya and Bakugou inspire the rest of the class to do better?

Especially now with the parallel to the Second User- WHY would they be using foreshadowing and parallels if he's gonna die? What the fuck would be the purpose??

"If all you see is your strength, then you won't be able to acknowledge your own weakness."

#leaks mention #really tired guys #being an asshole #again #man what is it with life right now #every fucking time I think I've overcome something it comes back full fucking force the next goddamned day #I guess I'm just lucky my family is busy so that they can't screw me over either huh? #someone needs to start paying me for all the tears I have cried in the past month because it is too fucking much #I'm not letting some stupid blorbo push me over the edge again I have more important things to cry about #if this is going to be a theme for the next two fucking weeks let me know so that I can just start hating this character #enough to block all of you

[evaxoxoblog]

16/2/24

Hello literally non existent people (i'm pretty sure no one is seeing these posts which is quite comforting tbh). I just had the weirdest experience with my bsf. We haven't spoken in a few months because she has been ill. she has also been a bit possessive over various kpop groups we both like (its dumb ik, but she was just constantly trying to one-up me in everything, whether it was pinterest boards, comments on insta posts, etc, (this didn't really bother me, but the next bit did) and recently she unfollowed me on literally every social media platform you could think of.) it was really fking weird. we met up today to talk about it and I kind of (?) have all my questions answered. i think we are on good terms and I think I handled it well. i won't go into the details because its personal, and I'm kind of scared she would see this even though she doesn't have tumblr lol, but I think I'm just gonna deal with it as it happens.

i'm meeting up with my other friends tomorrow and we are going to watch a horror film (that's what we always do together) and open the Christmas presents we got for each other, which we intended to give around xmas but we didn't make plans back then lmao. we also just gossip a lot bc we are all in different friendship groups so we can just dump everything to each other and it doesn't really matter. i love hanging out with them, though we only manage to meet up every two months haha.

another funny thing that happened was i got a voicemail notification from an unknown number. it was a recording of the felix 'wakey wakey' meme and I was actually terrified bc either my friend was pranking me or someone was stalking me haha. luckily it was the former option haha. she better prepare herself lol. i think I will send her a chan one bc he's her bias.

i have been listening to so much p1harmony recently, as well as skz. i love them both smmmmmm. i really want to get the Killin It album but I hate spending a lot of money at a time, so I'll wait a few months. currently watching the waterpark ep. of run bts rn which is banging as always. idk if I've already mentioned it but I really recommend guccitae.

back to school in three days, which I'm not mad about as I'm alright at school and I like seeing my friends. i started reading the book by Meiko Kawakami which is so good. I've almost finished my journal which feels weird too, but I'm excited. i got a new notebook for Christmas which will prob be my next one; exciting.

x eva

[jovalencia]

also bi guy 2 has not gotten back to me about when we can meet up and I doubt it takes over a week to look at a schedule especially now that he's already lived a whole week of it so I can't help but think he's just intentionally not telling me when he's free so we can discuss what the fuck is going on. and maybe he's trying to bait me into reaching out to follow up but I already did that once when his bitchass didn't respond to my well thought out text and I'm not gonna do it again. if he's gonna be annoying about all this and be distant even though he strongly implied he still wants to be my friend then I'm not sure he actually believes what he's saying. and I don't even think I want to be friends with him anymore I just wanted to talk with him so we can clear the fucking air and say hi if we pass each other on campus or something I don't want it to be weird forever.

and another separate thing is that I might have like. destroyed the friend group through no fault of my own. like I've been fucking Trying as hard as I can to be a good person and to be a good friend but collectively all three of them were like "okay I'm kinda done with you" like man. okay. and I can't even blame them because I was kind of a dick but they were kinda dicks too. and I don't even know if they're all still Friends or acquaintances or what. because I saw that gift from bu guy 2 to sarah suitemate and they've all stopped liking my posts and bi guy jason and sarah suitemate have blocked my story and it's like if you want nothing to do with me have the fucking guts to unfollow me. because I am SO sick of this shit.

and regardless of what the end of all of this is it's awful right now. because here we are in this shitty ass quarter with my roommate who just tolerates my existence and two friends that I'm not friends with really anymore but nobody will just fucking Say what's going on and that they all don’t want to be my friends anymore. so I'm back alone again just like last january. except without the novelty of new clear days by the vapor but at least I don't think I'm gonna become obsessed with a 40 year old album that makes me incredibly upset to listen to even though I love it bc it reminds me of a time that sucks.

but I still have radio friend and my bestie from back home and my sister and my mom and you guys and even those girls from behavioral neuroscience that seem really cool! and I'm choosing to believe there's going to be a turnaround soon or at the end of this quarter. actually no at least by the end of this quarter it'll be three months later and I'll know where all of this ended up at least a Little bit more. hopefully. maybe I'll have contaminated a new friend group with my toxic personality who knows!

#take a shot every time I say “sucks” #carmen.txt

[unhingedhearties]

Damn, I used up all my atomic bomb references.

A few days ago When Calls The Heart actress Erin Krakow posted another Behind The Scenes photo from Season 10, the season that just aired a few months ago. For context, there's a scene where her character Elizabeth gets a box with the wedding dress she ordered (for her wedding that never ended up happening). It turns out to not only be the wrong dress, but very ugly. Elizabeth puts it on and laughs are had. Erin posted a series of photos of her and co-star Pascale Hutton being silly while Erin's still in the ugly dress.

You can all guess what happened next. First, some of the reactions from Twitter:

"If the show had gone the way I wanted it to go, these photos would be fine. But I didn't get what I wanted, so these photos of you two having fun that other people are enjoying are tone-deaf."

You might remember foxyinspiration. They're the person who is constantly insulting Erin on her Instagram about how awful she is and keeps emphasizing that she's a female producer for some reason.

There's nothing I can add that'll make this funnier than it already is. A grown-ass woman of voting age wrote this. Back to the responses on Instagram:

Deidre Behar, the producer/host for Entertainment Tonight comments and Erin responds. Repeat offender and stalker amintmimi takes the opportunity to make an ass of herself and will continue to do so multiple times.

Pascale Hutton also shows up and with her a chance for amintmini to show her ass again. The word "disrespectful" shows up, so take a drink. The senior citizen who spends all her time spamming every post Erin makes looking for evidence of targeted attack against her and other Lucas fans calls her and Pascale "immature teenagers" for this series of photos of them smiling in a field. Her personality is so bitter and miserable that the sight of others being happy causes her to froth from her toothless mouth.

"IT'S MORE THAN A SHOW"

People are finally starting to try and slap some reality into these unhinged Heartie's heads. Amintermimi the Ragepig is aghast at the "rude" responses, clearly believing she's done nothing to warrant it. She, like many other smooth-brained Team Lucas fans keeps mentioning that Team Nathan fans sent him death threats. I've yet to find any. If someone has proof of this, please share it.

"Look, it's cute that you two are having fun, but have you considered my feelings and how all these photos are hurting me? I could unfollow, but what will I do to fill the void of my empty life? Work on being a person that enriches the lives of those around me? No, it's too late for that. I'd rather suck out the happiness of everyone near me."

Best response.

"why do you keep showing this dress"

This is literally the first time she's posted a photo of it.

"Are you trying to leave some kind of clue for season 11?"

OH SHIT THEY FIGURED IT OUT! Get out your decoder rings and put on your 3-D glasses 'cause we're going to bust this thing wide open.

Erin and Pascale are both standing beside each other making the shape of two 1's OR . . . AN 11. LIKE SEASON 11! Erin is standing to Pascale's left. JUST LIKE A BRIDE AT THE ALTER! Pascale can be seen in one of the photos holding Erin's hand like she's proposing. Look at what color she's wearing. RED! You know who else wears red? NATHAN! In the distance we can see the sun setting. This represents the sun setting on Elizabeth and Lucas's relationship as it comes to an end. And what is Erin doing in all these photos as the sun sets? SMILING! She's smiling at the thought of Lucabeth fans spiraling into morbid depression. But the most damning evidence of all?

Enhance.

Mother of God…

There's some sort of giant bench monument in the background. It's hard to make out, but if you invert the colors…

That's clearly Lindsay Sturman and Brian Bird's handwriting. We caught them both dead to rights.

Erin's mocking the wedding. I told you guys the signs are everywhere! Thankfully more people are calling out these dumb reactions, but of course the worn out argument of Lucabeth fans shows up. Team Nathan fans acted the same way and it was reprehensible, but when Team Lucas fans do it it's simultaneously okay, but also they're not doing it because the situation is not the same. Any time a Team Nathan fans points out "now you know how we felt" they do a bunch of back flips to explain how this is a totally different scenario.

RAGEPIG! SooREEEEEEEE!

A compilation of the feral hog's comments and responses. It's just the same words over and over because they have no real argument.

Sweetie, you can give the dictionary definition on the word "invest" until you're blue in your pseudo-intellectual face. The point is no one should be "investing" their lives into a TV show. Go develop a real personality instead of "blob that parks her fat ass on the couch every time the TV turns on."

Oh look! A Lucabeth fan saying that it should have been Nathan and Faith together instead of him and Mei. I'm sure all those Lucabeth fans that are good, socially conscience allies will come in and point out how racist that kind of thinking is.

If by "fans" you just mean your dumb little clique of mentally stunted women-children I could see where you're coming from, but there's actually tons of fans out there who aren't triggered by a photo of two women smiling. Look! You can even see them posting on this very photo! Amazing :D

(And the whole point was that the dress she's wearing wasn't the wedding dress. Try to pay attention to the TV show you're obsessing over).

It's all well and good that the people who work on this show have fun and share it with their fans, but they need to take into consideration that fans that are literally dying of heartbreak. Please be more sensitive about what you post and avoid the photos that can cause irreparable harm.

Which is all of them.

Every photo you post will set them off.

There's literally nothing you could share online that won't make them screech at their monitors.

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You all remember that time Brain Bird and Lindsay Sturman came on TV and Men In Black style took away everyone's memories of Lucas and Elizabeth's special moments? No, me neither. Which is proof that it happened!

But if they go away, who are you going to harass all day instead of spending time with your family (assuming they still want anything to do with you)?

"I can't wait till you have to tell LJ why his father is dead… oh LJ it's because of Nathan the man I love"

I have AMAZING news. LJ is never going to learn how his father died because LJ isn't real, his father isn't dead, the fictional character Nathan didn't kill him, nor did the flesh and blood actor Kevin McGarry and Erin isn't actually his mother. This works out for everyone!

#when calls the heart #wcth #lucabeth #hearties #hallmark #unhinged fans #fandom drama

[darealnyangirl]

I Hate Her

My old elementary school best friend dropped me a month ago and I can't stop thinking about her. She was so mean to me sometimes but we have so many good memories together or little things that we did that was special to us that I'll never be able to experience ever again. She's blocked me on everything I tried messaging her on because she got caught sneaking a senior over to her house (she's 14) and I was the reason behind it. She's done so much that she thinks she can get away with so I had to do something to get her to realize she can't just do anything she wants and later blame on it on her being 14 at the time, which she said she would do if it ever came up in the future.

We dated in 2020 and it ended in 2022, we were both young but it meant a lot to me but our relationship when we got back into school after quarantine went downhill. We started making friends with boys that we though were cool and they seemed fun but a couple of them developed crushes on me and that made my girlfriend mad, not because they liked me and she didn't want them to because we were in a relationship, but because she wanted them to like her instead which she admitted to me 2 months after we met them. She would always pitch her voice higher when they were around or she would ignore me if they were near so all the attention was on her. I just wanted friends and she was trying to take that away from me while also being really weird when we were dating. She also wanted to hide that we were dating from them for a while, I don't know why I never questioned it but it was really weird.

She broke up with me the day after my birthday and agreed that we are better off as best friends like we first were, and that we were too young for crushes and dating anyways but immediately after she started talking to this guy and how she liked him and it kind of hurt.

Another thing she would do is body shame me or make fun of me with our guy group because it was entertaining for them and she liked being the prettier one, like it was a competition. I don't understand why she always tried to make me look bad ever since I've known her. She was the popular pretty girl with a lot of friends and perfect body and everything. She would always call me weird or say I was embarrassing and it got more frequent in the past year.

There was a period of time where I was in the mental hospital for a bit and on my way there in the ambulance she was the first person I called and she sounded so un-serious on the phone. When I got back I called her first also and she didn't ask me if I was okay or what happened but she asked me if I met any cute guys. A month later she asked me to pick her up because of family issues and I let her stay the night even though she told me I was her last option, and she kept asking me about this boy I met as a friend in the hospital and what his Instagram is or if he was hot. I don't understand why girls ask other girls if they think someone is hot when they're in a relationship. She ended up going into my Instagram following and looking him up to follow him, just to unfollow him when she didn't think he was cute. That was the last time we hung out.

There's so much more I can say about her but I'll probably post something about it later on.

#best friends #i hate it here

[taylor]

loooong rambly post about my feelings, u can scroll past i've just gotta Vent

this is small but i unfollowed the guy i've been trying desperately to get over (on twitter only tho) and like, it's a small step but it's in the right direction (and also tbh if ur mutuals w someone on twitter and NEVER interact, and ur friends, it's kinda weird??? like NO interactions over the last 12 months, like what...)

idk, i'm not the kind of person that's just on call for this dude whenever he wants to get down and dirty, like i've gotta have more respect for myself than that.

and tbh, it's VERY telling when he'd interact with me in places others couldn't really see (DMs, discord, even tumblr) but on the more public places (twitter, sometimes instagram), it'd be diddly-squat except a like on an IG photo or something. it just hurts and kinda showed me he didn't want people in his real life (i.e. the girl i know he's had feelings for for a while) to see him interacting with me. (wonder why? - oh, i have a guess. probably because he liked that woman and didn't want her to see him talking to me since he's only romantically interested in her and not me...he basically told me as much 3 years ago when my DUMB FUCKING ASS told him i liked him....lololol)

i mean, i can't be mad at him that he doesn't like me back that way, i understand i can't fault someone who did in fact tell me in 2019 that he "didn't like me exactly like that" -- but i can put my foot down and not be accessible to him anymore in the FWB way we had. lmao

i'm just kinda rambling at this point and i certainly don't expect anyone to read this whole thing (or tbh any of it but i'm writing this mainly for me) but i've been carrying around the massive weight of this tormenting crush for almost FOUR fucking years, it's high time i put myself first. like there'd be times where he'd ignore me or not reply for months (which is fine, god knows i do that) but my issue came into play when he'd message me after his months-long hiatus like with the horniest shit ever. like okay you can't bother to wish me a fucking happy birthday (and i know he saw m like 50 stories bc he watched them immediately as i was posting them, so he knew it was my birthday lol), or reach out when you saw me about to be fired (again, i knew he saw the stories so this isn't me just reaching), or reach out when you saw i was in a depressive spiral (i don't need saving but it'd be nice to have someone check in on me SOMETIME...... BUT YOU CAN REACH OUT WHEN U WANT UR DICK WET???? that's the craziest part! he's got NO trouble triple or quadruple messaging me with his horny ass but can't be assed to wish me a happy birthday when he was basically viewing everything i posted that day starting pretty early. idk i just notice shit like that.

sorry sorry i just, i've realized i deserve more than this dude that i somehow convinced myself was "the one" due to how infatuated i'd become with him.

the person who loves me and that i love in return will inherently understand that i am NOT someone you can love quietly, i am not someone that you can just ignore until you're horny.

i'm choosing myself and i'm putting myself first and that started with me not replying to his last (pathetic) attempt to reach back out a few weeks ago (didn't even mention a late bday which tbh i'm not anal about birthday wishes on the ACTUAL day and usually a month after my bday is totally fine like i don't expect a day of, or anything - tho it'd be nice and he'd done it every year in the past besides this one) - and unfollowing him on twitter and removing him as my follower on there since he never liked or replied to anything i ever did (Which to me, and this is my personal opinion, was fucking WEIRD since he was active on there ALL the time).

it's still gonna take me a while to fully, truly get over him, but it's not fair to him to expect him to be someone he's not and clearly can't be - and it's not fair to me to keep pretending he's eventually going to change his ways. i hope he finds whatever the fuck it is he's looking for, but it's not with me.

it kinda feels good to have withdrawn from him. i doubt he'd put two and two together (i.e that his behavior and lack thereof was the reason i ended things) but maybe eventually later in life, he'll realize what a prize, what a catch, what a lover i could have been.

and by then? by then i'll be with someone who knows how to love me loudly and doesn't make me agonize over their actions.

(sidenote: he'd call me baby all the time, call me sexy, say shit like "Thank god for women, like thank god for you", and even tho I knew he was probably just saying shit, both of us knew i had at one point in time liked him - i never told him i still did and maybe he assumed as much...but like he'd be doing all this shit that made me doubt his original claim that he didn't have feelings for me. but now that it's been years and years i've realized he only wants me when it's convenient for him, and that doesn't work for me. it doesn't. i'm fucking done agonizing over whether or not he'd like my stuff or reply to me or whatever the fuck, like i'm just truly done at this point. if he wanted to, he would have, and it's as fucking simple as that)

[snekjin]

Why do you still support toews and kane?

I'm honestly surprised I've never received this question before and I appreciate that you worded it neutrally. I have the weirdest love/hate relationship with these two.

trigger warning for discussion of sa under the cut

I left up most of my initial reactions so if people really want to see how I felt you can go back through the archive and see it. At the time, I honestly thought I would never support the Blackhawks again and I imagine a lot of others here felt the same. I even said as much to people I know IRL.

Over time my anger ebbed and I looked at things a bit differently. A lot of people read the report, heard the comments that Toews and Kane made (I think before they had seen the interview with Kyle?) and pointed fingers. The truth that came out was the result of an investigation that took an entire team of people several months to interview over 100 people and some are reacting as if every detail in it was common knowledge to everybody who was near the Blackhawks organisation at that time.

We can be mad at them for their comments but a lot of people seem to assume that they:

a) knew a non-consensual act had occured

b) partook in/witnessed the bullying.

There is no concrete evidence that either of these are true given a) the different rumours that were floating around and b) the fact that Kyle spent most of his time in Rockford.

I don't mean to sound like I'm diminishing what happened to Kyle. I would love to know who bullied him and will happily castrate them myself (even if it's Kane or Toews).

To be honest my current interest in the pair of them is almost entirely based on the fictional narrative of them and not the real people. I know not everybody makes this distinction the same way.

This wasn't always the case. Before Toews' comments I would have said he was hands down my favourite player, I thought he was an amazing person. I loved how he cared about the environment and all those sorts of things. He was my phone wallpaper and I was so excited for him to come back and play again. And then he went and pissed all over it with that press conference.

When I first starting making gifs I went out of my way to not gif Jonny at all. I think when he got his first goal, I thought it would be weird to just pretend it didn't happen and then it sort of slid into doing a few more. Fast-forward to today when he's pretty regularly featured on this blog.

I shifted to being more of a Kane fan just because I'm more comfortable with the way he addressed the situation and the way he seems to have matured as a person (maybe he's still a piece of shit, who knows🤷)

I only got into the Hawks very recently (around June of last year, I think) so was very deep into the early hyperfixation stages at that time and wasn't quite ready to let them go if that makes any dumb sort of sense? If I had been around a few years and was kind of slowing down in the "fandom lifecycle" I might have just been happy to leave for good like others did.

But in the last few months especially I've interacted with so many people on here, had some fun discussions (and some not so fun discussions) so it's just nice to be part of this little world that we all created together idk.

If anybody is uncomfortable with any of the views expressed above you can unfollow me if you need to. And if you have any other questions or thoughts feel free to drop them in my inbox.

One day I will lose interest in 1988 like I lose interest in other fandoms and just go back to watching the sport without giving a shit about the private lives of the people on the ice. Maybe it will be when they retire or when one of them gets traded. Maybe it will be before then. But for now, I'll be here.

#tw: sa #thank you for coming to my ted talk #patrick kane #jonathan toews #anon