#If you get overweight

[inkskinned]

no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.

too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.

2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?

but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.

as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.

which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.

the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.

so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.

and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.

but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.

people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".

but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.

but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.

a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.

i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.

and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.

it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.

#spilled ink #writeblr #warm up #like if im getting fatshamed. babe......... wake up #is there fat on my body? yes :) #btw this behavior wouldn't be okay even if I WAS overweight!!! that is my point!!! #it is both that people have no idea what weight is supposed to look like #and even if they DID... they do not seem to understand that PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS #YOU DO NOT GET TO TELL THEM HOW TO EXIST #if you respond anything akin to ''but raquel there IS an obesity epidemic'' #you're blocked and reported. #go fucking DONATE TO A FOOD BANK THEN. volunteer in a food desert. start a free fitness program #GO GET A DEGREE AS A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL AND PRACTICE IN NUTRITION IN UNDERPRIVILEDGED LOCATIONS #FIGURE OUT HOW TO LOWER FOOD COSTS. FIGURE OUT HOW TO NORMALIZE AND STANDARDIZE #ACCESS TO FARM-FRESH FOOD. PROVIDE ACTUAL FREE ACCESS TO OUTSIDE ACTIVITIES #FIGURE OUT HOW TO TEACH PEOPLE HEALTHY CHOICE MAKING WHILE ALSO LOWERING THE COST OF MEALS. #THE AVERAGE GROCERY BILL OF THE AMERICAN CITIZEN HAS QUADRUPILED IN THE LAST YEAR. #SHUT. THE FUCK. UP!!!!!!!!! #you don't want to help these people!!!!! #you want to bully them but still feel like a good person! #you want to be justified in your hatred of an entire CLASS of people!!! #you don't give a fuck about how it makes them feel!!!! #you care ONLY about whether or not YOU get to VIRTUE SIGNAL that YOURE so thin and pretty!!!! #it is BECAUSE of people like you #and the fact you tolerate fatphobia - BECAUSE of that normalization. that men like the one who called me fat #feel like they can get away with it. #bc there's a line for you where you WOULD be okay with it. where if i WASNT thin you'd be okay with it. #which means the line can always be pushed in a certain direction. and it's always going to appeal to male aesthetics. #''well you didn't deserve it'' maybe fucking NOBODY does babe. maybe we should just all agree not to comment on ppls bodies!!

[encouragepiggies]

It’s so funny thinking about my fit ex commenting on my weight and how much it bothered me

Meanwhile now i lie in bed with bags of greasy fast food to eat before jacking off til I fall asleep

Improvements, people 🐄🐮

My ex would get mad if I had dessert more than once a week, LOL

#fatter is better #i love stuffing myself with fast food and soda #and getting online and seeing how skinny I am #fatter is good for you #glorify obesity #eat up #i need to eat more #overweight is the new thin

[jonpertwee]

"Käärijä isn't conventionally attractive and that's his appeal. It's his personality that makes him hot."

That mindset is so toxic that I don't know where to begin. Y'all will take an attractive guy, call him ugly and in the process create another impossible standard of beauty lmao.

The problem is that you literally are buying into the Hollywood standard of beauty and if you call Käärijä "not conventionally attractive", your perception has already been warped.

It's like this TikTok I saw where a girl was wearing a swimsuit and she was like 120 pounds, and all the comments were like, "Fat positivity, we love to see it!!!" because she had the smallest bulge of fat above the bikini line.

#kaarija #yeah yeah I'm letting it get to me #when you have grown up overweight with a negative self-image you get sensitive about this shit #Käärijä

[varminties]

why are people so afraid of the word "fat". when I call myself fat why do they insist on "correcting" me and saying curvy, or plus sized, or anything else. there's nothing shameful about the word and if I'm using it to refer to myself as fat (which I am!) I'm not doing it because I'm being self deprecating. it's just a fact of my being. my god, let people call themselves fat

#i think there's this inherent thing of 'fat' meaning 'undesirable' but things like 'curvy' and 'plus sized' are seen as more palatable #but I'm fat regardless what word you use for it! it's the same thing! but I'm the only person who seems okay calling myself fat! #the guy im seeing says he doesnt consider me overweight and bless your cotton socks sir but i absolutely am and we both know it #and im okay with it. im not offended by this part of my existence. i want to get fitter so certain aspects of life are easier #but im really not bothered by this. anyway that's it long tags over #mint.txt

[craycraybluejay]

at this point anti-smoking/vaping shit is stupid. everyone knows it kills you. most people who do it just prefer doing it than not. car crashes kill millions of people but i don't see you giving up your car and just walking everywhere or trying to find working public transport every single place you go. people take risks and make decisions. get over it.

#this may be a radical opinion but just like everyone should have a right to get healthier if they want to the opposite is also true #and a lot of people use smokes to self medicate #you don't know shit about anyone and it's usually not your business #'oh but it makes me feel bad that people get hurt :(' #then advocate for universal living conditions that make people less stressed or mentally ill etc and less likely to smoke #otherwise fuck all the way off #you do not get to play god over other peoples lives just because you personally feel they make the wrong decisions #that's not your call #very big fuck you to anyone who steals peoples drugs prescribed or otherwise #w many drugs withdrawals can kill you #and actuallt self medication is valid #if you think its wrong to steal someones ssris against their will bc of the long term health implications or some other reason #you should also understand its wrong to steal other drugs #kind of like stealing food because you think a person is 'unhealthily overweight' #or stealing hormones because you think its bad for them whether that be birth control or hrt #IT IS NOT YOUR CALL #it is not your business

[thedawningofthehour]

'back starts to hurt'

Me: 'clutches my uterus' "don't you fucking dare."

#explains the weird horniness #i think my body REALLY wants me to have a baby and is getting desperate #joke's on them it's never happening #but come on fuuuuck i just had one LAST month! #i miss when i was underweight and only got a period every four or six months #i realize being underweight is Bad For You but it was so much easier being underweight than overweight

[jiraidanshi]

i need people who have never been anorexic or just straight up dont remember what its like for whatever reason to shut up about it forever because literally it changes the way your fucking brain works . when its really bad its literally the only thing you think about its wholly obsession literally the only thing you think about is your weight / measurements / how you look and how many calories your eating or burning and you literally cannot help but humblebrag about how your killing yourself and everyone is competition . and people act like youre just some bigot who hates fat people if you show symptoms or talk about it ever even if you were also a direct victim of fatphobia . i am not joking when i say they need to add looking at th*nspo or running an ed blog to the fucking dsm there is a reason its so widespread IT IS A SYMPTOM . and everyone acts like its just Disorder That Makes You Fatphobic and that its mental illness lite or mental illness only white cis women have when thats not even true and it is the mental illness with the highest mortality rate

#file type: .txt #chara♥ #i literally went from overweight to SEVERAL bmi points under underweight in two years and my resting heart rate was 40 bpm #it got to the point my heart was so weak i was physically incapable or excercising or even running #you cannot do something like that to yourself ' just because you hate fat people ' there is something wrong going on in your brain #i still have pictures of my body from that time and even though im ed brained rn its like so fucking scary looking at some of them #and the thing is even though i havent been anywhere close to that bad again in nearly 10 years theres still that little voice in my head #thats like ' you need to go back to that ' #and i am underweight rn and i still get that same high whenever someone comments on it even though i know its bad to think llike that #this is why its also so bad to be telling anorexics they need help / your worried about them you are literally adding fuel to the fire #trust me they know they need help the thing is it makes you not want it

[foxgirltail]

I knew bmi was bullshit already but learning that I'm barely not considered obese using it is kinda like. Wow that's supremely bad. I don't consider myself fat, I feel like I'm barely not just a stick but this bullshit and actually useless index that doctors use to discriminate against fat people suggests I'm barely not "dangerously overweight"

#literally less than 5 pounds lol #also the weight i was during what i consider my 'healthiest' faze of life (i was eating well and getting decent exercise. comparatively #these past few years ive been really sedentary. not a lot of exercise) was still considered 'overweight' which is wild #i may have been 'average' when i was in high school. a time when i was probably not eating enough #disasterously mispelled 'phase' up there lol oops #this post brought to you by: got an email from one of the docs i went to last month that included this info #fatphobia #(just in case)

[derpinette]

i have a weird relationship with weight because i hated eating more than anything the moment i was ready for solids ( i hate chewing with my entire life always have & will ) which made me underweight for most of my life ( to this day ) & during late primary-middle school this made me actively suicidal because i felt like something was wrong with my sex because i just was not developing whatsoever prompting me to have a years long phase of trying to gain weight in any way i could ( #EPICFAIL by the way ) & i was already insecure but i felt seriously so unforgivably ugly after bullying not just at school but by adults of my entourage. but then i did in my late 15s which prompted the pendulum to swing in the other direction & suddenly i FREAKED OUT & thought well being skinny is pretty much all i have & know myself to be & clearly it is not going to last forever so i Better preserve it i was delusional about how skinny i thought i was actually i look stumpy & weird i have to prove myself. But now i am normal again kind of

#also i used to get beaten to finish my food nearly daily & it would take me forever to do that like literally hours with no exaggeration #just made me hate eating even more. now my technique is eating as fast as possible before i even realize how overwhelming #the sensory experience is & i can just be done with it VS the pain&dread of eating slowly -> disgust of Everything+hyperawareness #eating tightens my muscles like i hate it so fucking much catching the food putting it in my mouth CHEWING swallowing #what a damn chore #so i always liked cheese it was my “safe food” pretty much the only thing i liked #i even hated the foods autists usually like like fries & fried chicken meatballs ETC. HATED. #i was/am more of a soup & turning all my food into varieties of Slop kind of girl nothing hard for me please... #i experienced middle school during the like ♯Thick era of the world which was honestly a good thing like for The Populace #but i felt like killing myself because i felt like an unforgivable fugly genetic failure & people did not hesitate to let me know #anyway either way i would be unhappy caus if i did gain weight during puberty i would have a meltdown about all the Changes #so i feel content for the time being about only losing the fat in my face & getting age appropriate wrinkles really #trying to enjoy the privilege of thinness while i have it because it will not last forever 0_0 but that should not matter anyway... #the privilege of thinness: being way uglier than others & constantly looking like a gibbon dying of disease + no energy or strength ever #JK people are much MUCH nicer to thin people & they do things for me on account of looking physically incapable so um yay i guess #light at the end of the tunnel that is very significant in the grand scheme of things socially. ♯CountingMyBlessings #also i was raised on ♯HAES tumblr from 2014-2018 i truly believed in that & was so damn envious i was not curvy & beautiful LOL #so i never hated overweight people really i think for the most part the SJW tumblr values stuck with me #but now i know it depends on your base frame & genetics & there is no guarantee to what you choose to do (naturally) acceptance is peace #sorry for the gigantic Arse post i just needed to get that off my chest for a long time. not on here specifically just in general #oh & i am a ♯Grignoteuse but grignoter (grazing) is different from eating in my mind&body #& my insecurity was not a result of wanting to fit in really but kind of in the sense that i wanted people to stop berating me for my looks #like body wise only & also not understanding why every other girl looked like a girl blossoming into a woman #& i looked like i was transitioning to Malnourished (unsexed) Ape made worse by bein GNC.& like the need for control later on & erthang ETC

[vamptastic]

lost like ten pounds for no reason and im wondering if its testosterone or metformin. i know thats a not a lot considering my weight (250) but i have literally never lost that much weight in my entire life lmao, i basically constantly gained weight for no reason until i started treating my pcos. i started metformin a few months earlier, but it would make more sense since it initially halted my constant weight gain, maybe it just took a while for my blood sugar to get fully under control? when i last had bloodwork done, it'd been a few months on metformin and my blood sugar was better but my lipids were mostly the same. curious to see what my results will be when i get more bloodwork done in a couple weeks.

i also don't look/feel like ive lost any weight? ive put on a little fat on my upper abdomen, before T i had some fat on the lower stomach but my fat distribution was mostly butt, thighs, boobs, and hips, and my stomach was far from flat but relative to the rest of my body, not a lot of fat went there. if that's weight transferring from somewhere else on my body, can't really tell which part it's from cause my butt and thighs look and feel the same. think my face looks a bit slimmer, i was starting to form a little bit of a double chin before (my face was basically the last place for weight to start showing) and now the bit of fat under my chin is kinda still there but it feels like, tighter? and my face is looking a bit different, more masculine and older, but that could just be because i'm 18 and i'm still growing a bit.

anyway, whatever it is, i'm liking what t is doing for me appearance wise and it'd be nice to keep losing weight without doing anything. once i stopped constantly gaining weight and could just exist in my body and get used to it, i stopped caring so much and ive made peace with it. i still don't have the best body image, always hated seeing full body pictures of myself at every size i've been, but i'm not like, actively fighting off an eating disorder anymore. id basically just decided that every attempt to lose weight had failed and was miserable, and being fat was better than being slightly less fat and way unhealthier, so fuck it, let's learn how to be okay with what we've got. if i lose weight from T, cool, if i don't, this size is fine. probably always going to be medically "morbidly obese".

#weight mention #look ive hated myself and my body from 135 to 250 pounds #if i lost 100 pounds- and i probably won't- i would likely still be insecure #AND id still be overweight #so like. fuck it and fuck the bmi and fuck fatphobia. but it's nice to lose weight without doing anything lol #like purely because life gets easier if you're thinner. but when you have pcos most doctors kind of give up on the whole #losing weight schpiel. on account of the pcos causes the weight gain. #also i just kinda look like the women in my family. most of them are fat & most of them are very pear or hourglass shaped like me

[loveofastarvingdog]

i think dean getting a stray that has food issues would make him worse but ultimately make him better

#timothy's txts. #the thing is. if you get a good dog without food anxiety etc you can leave a bowl full of food out throughout the day #but if you get one that gets anxious about it and eats it all at once no matter how much #than it can make them sick / overweight #and i think dean would Feel Exposed Like a Compound Bone Fracture when he realised that #and he wouldn’t know why #starvingdognatural

[mommyfatbelly]

Oh god! I will be alone for two and a half days... I plan to eat and cum. I'm so excited to get my belly stuffed :3 Would anyone be interested in helping me? To make my belly grow and be full? I know I deserve to be fed and engaged in being a fat princess.

#fat belly #big tummy #chubby #fat piggy #gaining weight #fat story #tummy kink #fatty #fat #fat girls #overweight #wg #feeding kink #gaining on purpose #make me huge #feedee encouragement #gaining weight on purpose #feedee girl #feed me #feedee belly #fe engage #feeding you fatter #get me fatter

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

i’m so frustrated with people’s lack of common sense about wildlife. if you’re interacting with wildlife, you’re not having your disney princess moment. you’re not forming a magical bond. that’s a wild animal who is potentially terrified; maybe it’s curious if it’s young enough, but that just means you should minimise interactions as much as possible to make sure that animal lives a normal life. if your kid comes in holding a wild animal, don’t pick up your fucking phone to videotape it. bring the animal back outside and educate your kid to leave animals alone. you know what happens when you take in wildlife as a “pet”? either you keep it and do damage because even though it’s “tame” it’s a wild animal who is in no way meant to live in that setting unless it’s being kept by a trained and licensed rehabber who knows the housing and feeding requirements (and even then i’ve seen some who are keeping animals irresponsibility), or it ends up at a wildlife rehab when you inevitably harm it enough that you don’t know what to do, or when no vets see you, or when the animal becomes too aggressive for you to handle. and then we either figure out how to rehabilitate an animal whose temperament and/or body you have massively damaged or we euthanise it because the damage is too extensive. start treating wildlife like wild animals rather than a dog or cat. they’re not pets, they’re not domesticated, leave them alone and let them live happy lives as they’re supposed to.

#saw a video of someone’s kid bringing in a baby raccoon and holding it to her chest. what the FUCK are you thinking #‘it’s mine now it’s my pet’ and everyone in the comments is going ‘you heard her that’s her pet now’. fuck all the way off #not only does that harm the animal but that makes it very possible for animals to spread diseases to you or your actual pets #not to mention parasites and fleas #there was one the other day of someone getting a rabbit out of a skate park which is good thanks for helping it. but then the person spent #another 5 or 10 minutes interacting with it and petting it. that’s not a pet store bunny that’s a wild animal and it’s absolutely terrified #im not saying learn body language and temperament and shit for a bunch of different animals im saying have some common sense and leave #wildlife alone. look but don’t touch. if an animal looks to be in distress then contact a local wildlife rehab or any rehab at all and ask #for advice. if there’s a rehab near you then see if you can bring the animal in #if you try to do that shit yourself you can do irreparable damage #it’s all fun and games and ‘oh im keeping it as a pet’ until the animal is malformed and has broken bones and infected wounds or is so #aggressive that it’s taking chunks out of people with no warning #‘this wild animal andomly attacked someone for no reason!’ you see how it’s overweight? people have probably been feeding it and when that #person didn’t have food it jumped on them #someone’s gonna do this shit with a ‘sick bird they plan to nurse back to health’ and get fucking bird flu #im just tired i haven’t been working with wildlife for a year and am going to study wildlife and work with them for the rest of my life for #this shit to keep happening. i know it will but im just tired of seeing it over and over again #my post #y’all can rb if you want im just pissed and on my soapbox

[atalana]

having one of those nights where i'm just. extremely frustrated about fatphobia's existence and the fact that whatever i do to try and change it will be a drop in the ocean and there'll always be people who think i'm just saying this because i'm lazy

#and by night i mean its 5am but shhhhh #what sucks is i was actually building my acting confidence back up quite a bit with my delirium stuff #and i still do wanna do more of that! #but i got reminded that regardless of how good an actor i am i don't meet the 'must be this skinny to have emotions' bar #so i could only ever play her over the internet where people can't see my body #which is especially dumb bc she has like 60% of a physical form at best and yet its always a skinny one #and like i love sandman but it has a fatphobia problem. and the show has not exactly rectified it #kinda wanna draw despair skinny and the other endless not to turn the whole depression = overweight thing on its head #bc hell depression also = underweight and frankly i'd rather have no fat characters at all than her be the only one #but i fear that would get misconstrued and i don't wanna bring down that kinda hate on my head #and like i know i can't change what i look like i've tried i gotta be happy with this eventually #but i see no difference between comic despair and myself in the mirror #and sometimes it makes me feel like im two minutes away from growing tusks #so whoooooo oversharing on the internet #just. i wanna punch something but the something is society so unfortunately that's not really possible #okay to rb if you want i give zero fucks about this being shared im just keeping it in the tags bc that's polite

[designernishiki]

feeling things over the fact that haruka in y5 is in so many situations where people are mean and vindictive towards her and her whole life has been tragedy and people wronging her and etc and yet she still chooses to be kind and even when someone is spewing hatred at her she still sees them as a person; a person who’s hurting for one reason or another, but always a person nonetheless, and thus someone needing compassion and love and support and shbcbddhsjdnnfnn she’s really honestly too good for this world i want to buy her a starbucks cake pop

#haruka #rambling #y5 #I’m thinking about. like. when she says to t-set after they trip her and make her spill a drink in the other agency’s manager’s lap #she goes up to them and says okinawa is a beautiful and relaxing place and sometime she hopes they can see it because they’ve been working #so hard and deserve that kind of relaxation and rest. and of course both them and their manager assume she’s mocking them or something but #when haruka’s manager guy later says something about it being a snappy comeback to get back at them she just looks at him like. what are you #talking about? and he realizes oh she was being completely honest. oh #and then the other thing that got me good was that (obviously pretty insensitive) substory/revelation where she meets ulala- an overweight #wannabe idol girl. and she’s really mean to haruka for no reason and goes off on her on the street and etc. and later she’s dancing on the #bridge and has her wild ass revelation-worthy ordeal that results in her doing a backflip on accident that gets people’s attention #and when haruka takes a picture and posts on her blog about it there’s not a single mean-spirited word on the page #she’s genuinely just like. wow! ulala really knows how to get an audience’s attention! this was so impressive! :) #like god. you are. you are the best girl in the world I’d kill and die for you

[nabsthevulture]

You don't really know what a 130 pound dog looks like until you see said dog at 102 pounds instead.

#He wasn't fat! #like no one said that he was fat or overweight #just that it would be better for his hips if he lost weight #which i agree #his surgeon said that for a younger dog of his size 130 would be fine but being 8 at the time and being that heavy wasn't helping his joint #which im fine with because I can now just pick him up if i need to #getting him in the impact in the van was interesting #but we gave him a toy and he had a blast the whole time #idk people always want their dogs to be bigger than they will be or what they should be #I see it a lot in like #/those/ pitbull breeders if you know what i mean #the ones that have dogs who look like coffee tables #they want their coffee table dogs to weigh 150 pounds #or the pocket coffee tables are like 50 pounds but still horrifically bred #dl