#Reasons to never date men

[kthulhu42]

"I lied to her parents because I wanted to continue having sex but as soon as she cheated on me I decided to endanger her education, future and entire life, because I'm a little baby boy incapable of shutting the fuck up during a five minute phone call"

If their cultural traditions had them cut the dick off any man who had sex with their daughter, do you think he would have owned up? Or do you think he only "came clean" because he knew the immediate danger to a woman that he considered had wronged him and needed to be punished?

#Kam #radical feminism #Reasons to never date men #iran #sexism #radblr #This is why people don't want to date outside their culture #You never know when a man is going to try to destroy you

[lasdelaintuicion]

everybody who talks about sex as something everybody (and they almost always mean men) is entitled to, can be discriminated FROM or can achieve social justice through others giving it to them, should kill themselves 🩷 women arent a resource or consolation prize that society owes you

#just saw a video of a male influencer saying asian girls are like republicans cuz they say its fucked up he doesn't get laid bcuz hes asian #(doubtful thats the reason tbh) but afterwards 'they don't wanna do anything about it but send prayers'🤢 rapey as hell #the commenters were full on sob stories about how sad it is #that women wont have sex with them. how it's hurt their self esteem and whatever which... sure #but painting women as villains for having bodily autonomy and not having sex with somebody. as if thats the pinnacle of racism #and honestly if not getting laid was the pinnacle of racist social desirability standards instead of actual discrimination #then it wouldn't be a problem at all. youd just be ugly. #and the anger towards girls who date either only within or outside their ethnicity is always rooted in sexist entitlement. men need to be #weeded out fr <3 their self centered sexism will never be separated from their overall ideologies #unless they face real life consequences

[lobotomyladylives]

literally wanna dieeeee I realized belatedly that not only was down bad written for me due to being an alien abduction metaphor song but it perfectly describes my situation w/my ex who dumped me 3 days into our second vacation in his country

#but yknow thats what i get for dating a fucking man last year when i absolutely knew better. i was in a low place & the idea of being #whisked away from europe was an escape for me . we got along really well but the second i showed any emotional weakness he couldnt handle i #oh but he sent a bunch of messages begging me to come back when i was on the plane fleeing to my sisters london flat! lol!!! #i didnt tell you guys about any of this on my old blog when it was happening bc i just knew itd invite a flood of #''why were you even dating a man'' messages. yeah im aware. it was stupid & yet another result of my inability to purge myself of the #desire to be in a relationship my homophobic father wouldnt hate me for. and i didnt think any woman would want me . im over it now #fuck my abusive father fuck men in general im so over the internalized homophobia. ive always preferred women why should i have to #supress that to make my fuckface hypocrite father happy. i only rly care bc i love my half brother & want to be in his life which means #i have to appease dad. but at what goddamn cost #why did i say from europe in that earlier tag. i meant TO europe...im from the us #anyways. what a shit show situation that was. i have never felt so betrayed by anyone except for my dad himself #oh i didnt even mention the worst part yet. when i texted from london asking if our friendship was over too (god. so cringe) he then went #into this spiel about how actually what he said earlier when he was asking me to come back #(that it had been a stupid impulse & biggest mistake of his life) was a lie & it had been a long time coming #IF IT WAS A LONG TIME COMING WHY THE FUCK DID YOU LET ME FLY ACROSS THR ATLANTIC FUCKING OCEAN 3 DAYS AGO FOR YOU #and said hed tell me the reasons but ''didnt want to hurt me'' #i have so much hatred in my heart for this man to this day when i really think about the mind games he was playing. unreal. #and he KNEW i already had massive trust issues

[daydadahlias]

no but seriously the next person that makes a joke/comment about me fucking/dating my only guy friend because people 1) feel the need to press heteronormative bullshit onto every different-sex friendship and make the mass generalization that men and women always secretly want to fuck each other and 2) genuinely don’t view asexuality/aromanticism as valid and cannot comprehend how to be supportive and validating of it,, is going to get their shit rocked bc I’ve had about fucking enough of it :)

#no bc it’s happened to often #I’ve never really had guy friends tbh #like guy friends that were just mine #I’ve hung out in groups where guys were there but I’ve never had a guy friend that only me and him went and did things #bc I don’t feel safe around men uwu #but this year I’ve made a guy friend. and he’s super sweet and I really like him!! we have a great time hanging out and it’s purely platonic #he’s dating a girl and he knows I’m aroace and is totally chill with that !! so we have the understanding that I am genuinely INCAPABLE #of being into him. and he is NOT into me. we are just. friends. #but we go out to lunch/dinner and hang out and blah blah #and today we hung out to a few hours between classes and wandered around downtown and we bought matching stuffed mice lol #they’re so cute I love them #and I was showing off my mouse to people and happily explaining my day #and so many of my friends… all of my irl friends… were like #‘so you went on a date? so you’re into him? that’s a date sweetheart. you’re totally gonna get married and have babies with him’ #like those are ALL things that friends actually said #and it just made me feel like actively nauseous #bc 1) the thought of it makes me sick and 2) the fact that my friends just. don’t care about my sexuality #and my expression that I’ve reiterated time and TIME again makes me crazy #bc I know that every single time i mention Caleb people are hopping on it and wanting me to date him #and this is another reason I’ve never had guy friends!! #like oh my gOd!! I’m not into men!! leave me the fuck alone!!!!!! #yeah it makes me really upset :) #that’s my complaint of the week sigh #it’s heteronormative BULLSHIT!!! and the permeation of sex into oit society!!! #some of us don’t want to fuck our guy friends!!!! #leave me alone or be fucking nice to me #nobody would make jokes if I got matching mice with a woman #I HAVE matching stuffed animals with women!! it’s just something I do with FRIENDS #why are different sex friendships different #die maybe have u considered that

[kjzx]

I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality these last few years, I'd even say sometimes obsessing to an unhealthy degree, and I think I've come in terms with the fact I almost certainly am bisexual and denying that is pretty lesbophobic and frankly dumb in many ways, and mainly cruel towards myself. Gonna be reading up on internalized biphobia and whatnot

#Turns out men around me just suck #And men that are thirsted over most of the time do too #Alright they don't meet my preferences** #No toxicity here everyone's valid #I have had my reasons to think I'm gay and I don't think I was that 'delusional' (idk a better way to say it) thinking that I am gay #But the more I move forward the more I realize I'm just lying to myself #I don't have to date men or be interested in what most people think is attractive in men to be bisexual and that's alright #I am a little disappointed in the way bisexuals are treated in certain lgbt+ spaces specifically chronically online ones #Is it cringe to admit that the thing that broke the camel's back was a fandom meta post where the author said that people in fandom #can't tolerate bi characters/HCs because the idea of a character having history is repulsive to younger fans that want there to be one and #only love interest. Or smth along these lines. That resonated with me. I have no clue why tho. I don't have much history with anyone myself #Aside from a homoerotic childhood friendship or two (celibacy sweep) #Not just that there were a lot of good points made but yeah. Fun things #I have a feeling I'll continue obsessing over this stuff #Obsession grind never ends babyyy 💯💪 #It does feel nice to admit to things I like without feeling like I have some sort of reverse religious trauma #the center of it being one ultimate queer experience and if you've straighted you're condemned to be seen as a straight by gays #for all eternity #Bisexual #Bi pride #//rambles

[coffee-at-annies]

pou is engaged to Laura Stacey. So no, they presumably wouldn't, and you're right it IS homophobic

Fantastic (genuine). You’re the third person to tell me about Laura Stacey and let me tell you, it continues to be excellent news that Marie Philip Poulin the woman I know from being described as the female Sidney Crosby aka captain canada is in lesbians with one of her linemates. Mens hockey wishes. Woho continues to be the gift that keeps on giving.

Also yes it is homophobic that they can’t give each other little kisses any time they get close. Can you imagine the cellys? Cmon how are we gonna get the woho equivalent of the kiss me fanvid if their lips are behind lock and key. All players deserve to make out at center ice if they so choose and the fact that they can’t is homophobic.

#asks answered #anonymous #honestly the reason I was like idk if they would in my initial tags is because I know so many woho players are dating each other #so like there was a very good chance that they have a partner somewhere on or around the ice #and didn’t want to assume they were partners #when I yell ‘now kiss’ at mens players it’s because I know it’ll never happen #with womens players I genuinely don’t know who’s in lesbians with who so I’m not gonna assume #anyway thank you anon I appreciate it

[pepprs]

i will shut up abt this i promise but like. the concept of being in a stable safe mutually loving whatever relationship is INSANE . like how can you ever feel bad about yourself or wounded or whatever again. it’s like a superpower or somethi ng. <- doesn’t know what she’s taking abt bc she’s never experienced it or the absence of it after having it merely the negative space of it and is filling in the gaps w logic or something. but it’s INSANE to me. like of course i feel like shit about myself i am catcrumb unloved.jpg!

#purrs #imbeing insane about it i know it’s not that simple / reductive and i will still feel like shit abt myself once im in a relationshp (if i #get to be ♥️) and there are lots of other legitimate reasons to feel shit agtbyiurself. but it’s like no ficking wonder i feel inadequate i #am a 24 year old who lives at home and has never held a hand or whatever next to two 50sometjinf year old married men with pets and phds. of #course i am going to feel inadequate and stupid and lonely. like i canttttt 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 and th w worst part is you can’t just go out into #the world saying that and looking for that it has to find you so i will not join any dating apps or whatever but i don’t fucking go anywhere #so im not going to meet anyone and i knowi am so young and stupid and just having a horrible day that is reminding me of horrors. but the #way i am mentally shoving my whole fist in my mouth. OF COURSE I FEEL LIKE SHIT I DONT HAVE A LIFE PARTNER!!!!!!!!!!!! I DONT HAVE THAT #SAFETY AND STABILITY AND TRUST AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!!!!!!!! AND I NEVER HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #delete later #like this is what makes me crazy abt parents and kids too and whyi don’t think ihave kids. bc i think (and i know this is wrong / unhealthy) #it is a primal human need to be mutually someone else’s number 1 person and when you have kids it’s like you’re gonna love your partner more #than the kids and then the kids (read: me) watch that and get fucked up over it. but also that could just be me reacting to the UNSPEAKABLE #psychological damage of being a twin. which again is ridiculous bc it’s n out like abuse i just had to share something with someone else si #since before i was born and ofc there was more like actually kind of abusive stuff on top of it LOL but that aside. idk what im saying i #just feel so crazy. the amount of composure it takes me every day to not start SCREAMING with frustration and envy when i see ppl being #RIGHTFULLY DESERVEDLY visibly confident and loved. like ok valentines grinch go sit in the drainage pond forever please. but it’s so crazy #like how are you supposed to go through the world unaware of how much love you’re missing out on because you’re young and then you realize I #it and then somehow you miss the train and you are scared you are going to d*e alone ♥️ im normal

[vatcher-ii]

things you can do that will actually make life better for women:

bi women: quit dating men.

osa women: don't carry male fetuses to term.

lesbians: no notes.

#radical feminism #think of the 4b movement and know that these are relatively small asks #if a bi woman isn't enraged at the thought of dating their oppressors they are probably not informed enough #almost tempted to ask lesbians to. if possible. try to be patient with OSA women #because it can take longer for them to unlink their identity and beliefs from patriarchy #but no that's not on lesbians. that's not your circus #i think the only reason it's easier for lesbians to cut through the bullshit is because the patriarchy has nothing to offer you #in return for buying into its flawed premise #and that's just another way you're disadvantaged. if it gives you a head start in unraveling your female socialization #that's just because the mold is not just uncomfortable to you #it's unliveable #being forced to face awful truths and mature early was a hardship most women can delay #or even never experience #i think what lesbians can do for women is what they are already doing #founding spaces that have zero investment in or tolerance for men #whether they be lesbian exclusive or osa women inclusive. you're doing good in the world by creating them

[andragoras-in-vanity]

my head hurts, im bleeding still (more so than before i called ny clinic), im so stressed i want to cry cause i have no support and so much to do and all i want is my person cause everyone is in christmas mode and i cant handle this time of year alone again

#i never leave the house becuase its too exhausting and painful so i never get the chance to meet people #and theres nothing to do here and i swear this is the city of the worlds ugliest men anyway #so theres no reason to leave #and i cant use dating apps cause im trans and the only one thats actually decent to trans people isnt popular #and again some of yall are just the most boring people alive id rather kill myself than subject myself to that #like genuinely i cant fathom how these people are so average and so ugly all at once and all seem to have the same personality #like great okay i like dnd too but why is it your only personality trait #maybe your life isnt as empty as mine but its definitely not interesting either #like...i just want my one person #at this point thats all i want in life anyway cause nothing else is worth the effort #and instead i have to watch so many ungrateful people get what i desperately need #honestly do aby of you know what its like to have no idea when the next time if youll get to kiss someone? #youll get to like someone enough to want to? #but have no idea if or when itll happen when every atom of you feel likes its being ripped apart from want and need and #a history that hates you and your own body being unreliable and in pain? #i want to throw up over it all i cant do this any more and im sick to death of all of you who brag about shit you dont deserve #you had your taste of goodness sit down shut the fuck up and let some of the rest of us whove never had anything get a taste too

[lolexjpg]

My manager met her boyfriend bc hes a doordasher and hit on her at work and I'm very happy for her and them and he seems nice but i hate that its normalized for men to hit on women on work. guy in drive thru 2day was tryna get my social media and i ignored him and he was like 'why you acting like this?' idk bro not every woman wants random dudes in the mcdonalds drive thru to try to hit them up on FACEBOOK

#she speaks #work tag #what i ended up saying was i'm super gay sorry and hiding waiting for them to leave lmao #ALSO different car this guy was like. you workin late? you get out soon? and i shrugged and he was like 'oh you dont know?' like no bro #i walk home i'm not tellin some ugly guy when i LEAVE. im tired #anyway like 10 min later my work crush came in and i was like 🥰🥰 mayb men are ok sometimes 🥰🥰 #(i would still never date a coworker thats way too messy. and im not dating men for a reason)

[dumbdariov2]

idk if saying that women who date men are incapable of rational thought is radical feminist. idk some of you guys act like the jesus lover i knew in school. she just felt pity for me and so sorry that i didn't know "jesus' love" and hoped i'd see the light one day

sometimes radfem tumblr comes across pretty misogynistic. calling women dick worshippers, cum breathed, cockwhores is in fact disgusting misogyny. it certainly doesn't make other women want to consider radical feminist theory if that's the kind of shit radfems say to them.

in an ideal world, separatism would be more prominent. however, women have all sorts of reason for keeping men in their lives and you can't presume to know them. and it definitely comes across as victim blamey when something does happen, like you're saying "well, you should've known better :) i told you so :) this would never happen to me because i'm a smart woman who avoids men :)"

please get over yourselves. you don't come across as wanting to help women, you come across as someone with an intense superiority complex who thinks that women who get hurt should've expected it.

#radical feminist #radical feminism #radfems do touch #radfem #radblr #i'm not dating a man but i would never speak to the women in my life like this #my sisters aunts grandparents aren't women who are less intelligent because they're with men #they have their reasons and i would never say to them #that they shouldn't be surprised if they get hurt #they are capable of making their own decisions #and me not agreeing with them doesn't make them incapable of rational thought

[bill-gates-hate-blog]

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#i should really get into online dating again but i feel this deep sense of unease because they're all so appearance based #The App presents me with a man and asks is he attractive yes or no #and my answer is generally incoherent screaming because i never know the answer until i've known them for some time #do i even want a man or do i want a baby and a houseload of cash ugggggggggggggh #i fuckin need friends is what i need #like in general it gives me anxiety because i don't really want to reject men for superficial reasons #but my first instinct is to reject them no matter what #which is funny because whenever i meet someone in person #at least historically anyways i think the light has faded from my eyes #i start fantasizing about our fairy tale life together or whatever #its mostly involuntary i have a very overactive imagination

[no-one-hears-me]

not to sound like an evil hater but I looove it when you dislike someone and then everyone else ends up agreeing with you

#this is about a girl I've known for years and never liked #for many reasons but i will summarize #to start she's always acted like she's better than me and acts like talking to me is charity work or whatever #but she chooses to talk to me I would never willingly do that lol #and then eventually she had a weird crush on my older brother. weird bc of an illegal age difference and he had a gf at the time #she also had a bf for part of this. yet she would always flirt with him and also started treating me weird #like she was mad at me for being closer with my brother than she was???? bizarre #ANYWAYS. more recent news #she started dating one of my friends who is a very sweet guy and everything #and then he broke up with her bc she cheated. she says she didn't cheat and he's projecting #dude barely talks to women so idk who he supposedly cheated with. but anyway. she had a new bf like a week later #and thennnn. she posted a pic with her new bf like happy 3 months. a pic of them cuddling on a couch #except the pic said 4 months ago. she was dating my friend at the time. hmmmmmm #she literally posted evidence that she cheated 😭😭😭 but good news! now people are finally agreeing with me that she's terrible #also I recently found out that she blocks men from seeing her story whenever she posts a pic of a bf. who does that #like the whole point of posting your bf is so everyone knows you're taken #but nowww my brother and our mutual friends and whatnot have finally decided to dislike her! which means yayyy I don't have to see her #Sera

[chxxms]

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(small rant)

#looool not my dad going on a homophobic rant so randomly yesterday night…. he was talking to my lil brother on how to act properly when he #goes to uni saying to be careful and look after your drink cause people be spiking then he was explaining how some boy in uni got his drink #spiked by someone (maybe his friends) and apparently he got m*lested then my dad went on his homophobic rant cause apparently was men who #done it???? but why u bringing up gay people when a man got m*lested?? that doesn’t make sense like how far did u have to reach?? anyways i #clapped back at him and said that those two doors not correlate with each other and people can love who they want to love it isn’t your #business. but anyways yeah he realised showed himself to be a homophobic ass loser my mum wanted to hype up and defend him like gurl you #know damn well that i got to gay pride events and i know you’re just talking cause u wanna impress him (loser ass pick me) but yeah my #parents will never have that access to me when it comes to who i’m dating romantically because of the face i’m a lesbian they will never #know they hardly know who i am anyways ESPECIALLY MY DAD loser ass #like how embarrassing is it you’re a hating ads loser allowing that colonising christianity to hate on innocent people trying to live their #life like your high blood pressure is raising up for no reason other than your pressed #like how do you understand racism so damn well but you cannot put 1 + 1 together and see that christianity has done a number on us and our #igbo culture africian queer people have always existed it was not a western 🙄 thing ffs

[albonium]

27 year old esteban is dating a 20 year old 🤮

Just like his teammate 🤗

turns out they can agree on something at least

#im 26 i would never date a 20 year old #the apprentice at work is 20 she's so young #they're weirdos #and there's a reason men like dating younger women #seriously dissapointed in esteban lol #ask