#and also the way hunger feels when you’ve been denying yourself food for an extended time is NOT the same as baseline hunger | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

serpentinesarang · 3 years

Text

Restraint

pairing: kai (kim jongin) x gender-neutral reader

genre: smut, dom!reader/sub!kai

words: 1186

warnings: bdsm, restraints, choking, orgasm denial, some swearing

summary: kai finally allows you to tie him down and have your way with him

a/n: not too happy with how i wrote this gn reader, but i hope the rest is good!!

korean key:

⦿ ani (아니) = casual form of no; pronounced ah-nee

⦿ aegyo (애교) = display of cute charm; pronounced egg-yo

⦿ ssibal (씨발) = fuck; pronounced she-bahl

♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤♤

Standing directly over him, you gaze down at Kai, admiring your work. He’s stark naked with his arms and legs tied spread-eagle to the bedposts, and his big eyes are aglow with anticipation as he takes you in too, also nude.

“Please be gentle,” he says softly, a smile tugging at his lips.

You place your hands on your hips. “No promises, babe.”

He sighs before giving a final nod. Bless his patience, you think. Carefully, you step forward, planting your feet on the sheets above his toned shoulders. Your eyes are still firmly glued to his face, eagerly waiting for the desperation to kick in as you launch your torture session.

You’d been trying for a week to convince Jongin to let you take the reins for once. His reasoning for initially not letting you? Because he likes the way you look both beneath him and at his mercy. Well, tough luck for him tonight. His resolve had finally cracked earlier today.

At this angle, with your goodies just a couple feet above his eyesight, Jongin starts feeling his natural desire to take control of the situation, and then it dawns on him that maybe you do deserve a night of flipped roles after all. So far, he had no complaints, thanks to the glorious view.

You bend your knees a bit, lowering your core inches from his face, giving him a little taste of what he can’t have just yet.

“Closer,” he murmurs, eyeing your bits with a visible hunger.

“Yeah?” you match his tone. “Jongie wants to taste me?” Then you bring your hands to your inner thighs and slowly smooth them outward.

Jongin bites his lip at your refusal, so you sink low enough only to allow him a kitten lick at your bits. “I want you,” he pleads.

You throw a quick glance over your shoulder at his considerable boner, lying atop his abs, more than ready to fire. “I can see that, baby; but you have to work with me.”

As gently as you can, you sit down on his firm pecs and extend your legs over the mounds of pillows behind him. He strains his neck forward to attempt to lick you again, but he isn’t successful.

You giggle when he throws his head back in frustration. “Awww, baby doesn’t like his own medicine.” You cup his warm cheeks in your hands, thumbing his dewy skin.

“Ani...” he whispers in his aegyo voice, frowning like a child for just a moment. You decide to switch gears.

“Good,” you reply with an edge to your voice, seizing his throat in your dominant hand and squeezing with your fingertips. “Baby gets what he gives.”

With Jongin’s eyes blown out in surprise, you maneuver yourself to straddle him, keeping your hand on his wildly pulsing throat. You drag your core against his hard length, rubbing your bits together sensually.

“That feels good, babe,” he says, eyes closed. Instead of continuing, you lift yourself to hover over him, now placing your free hand over the soft, moldable flesh of his balls. You fondle and juggle them in your fingers while giving his throat a singular hard squeeze for three seconds.

His mouth falls open at the pleasure building within him. “Yes, Y/N, fuck,” he whispers in a gravelly voice.

Releasing his neck while cupping his balls, you bring your dominant hand to his veiny shaft and pump at a merciless speed, giving him no time to process the shift. Jongin emits a loud sigh and bucks his hips in sync with your hand.

“No,” you scold him, immediately removing your hands and slapping one of his nipples to punish him. “No thrusting, baby.”

He hisses at the pain but takes it well. At last he understands the things he does to you.

“Sorry,” he mutters shyly, turning to look out the window.

You tilt his face back towards yours with your index finger. “And no avoiding me.”

Jongin exhales quietly through his nose and nods in response.

Returning to his shaft with just your dominant hand this time, you pump him slower but harder, relishing the beautiful sight of precum beginning to ooze from his reddened tip. Falling deeper into the physical sensations, he exhales rhythmically with your every pump while digging his head backward into the mattress, consciously trying not to show how close he’s getting.

You start twisting your wrist to make it worse for him, and his syrupy precum has dripped all the way down to your hand at this point.

“Baby I’m gonna cum,” he slurs through a moan, watching you intently.

Instantly removing your hand again, you lean down to passionately kiss him despite his indignant groaning at the lost orgasm. You tease him with your own porn-like moans in his greedy mouth, gliding your hands all over his chiseled torso.

“Again,” he whispers between sloppy kisses.

Again, you decide to switch gears to throw him off some more. Standing up, you turn around and straddle his chest, facing his muscular thighs before wiggling your feet beneath his arms. Another jaw-dropping view of your ethereal body.

“Uggghh,” he groans dramatically, once again unable to eat you. “Y/N...”

Smirking to yourself, you ignore him and go straight to taking him in your mouth, leaving no inch behind.

“UHHH ssibal,” he yelps, making the mistake of thrusting into your throat.

You pull off him with a satisfying pop and slap his outer thigh. “Jongie... What did I say...” you reprimand him.

“You know I lose it when you suck meeee,” he whines in response, thrashing his ankles in the padded restraints. The natural scent of your bits has been drifting into his nose this whole time, further exacerbating his situation.

Tenderly stroking his thighs, you reply, “Be good for me and hold it in.”

You hear him sigh quietly, but you let it slide. You cup the skin around his balls with both hands and lick stripes along his shaft, occasionally kitten-licking his little opening now consistently churning out precum. Only he can taste this good.

“Baby...” he whines.

Sucking on just his head, you purposely moan a “Yes?” in response, not stopping.

“Please let me lick you,” Jongin begs, his tone indicating the desperation you’ve been waiting for.

You moan again, taking all of him until your nose presses against the top of his balls and pushing your ass backward for him.

Wasting no time, Jongin licks you fervently as if you’d denied him the opportunity for weeks. Right now, you tasted better than any other food in the world.

As you switch to gripping him at the base and swiveling your mouth up and down on the rest, he eats you out with more urgency that ultimately leaves you quivering over his lips. You’ve cum all over him, and you hear him go “mmmm” in utter delight as you ride out the aftershock while hugging his thighs.

“I win,” Jongin whispers, almost to himself.

Whipping your head around to finally look him in the eye, you declare, “Not while you’re still locked in this position under my control.”

#kai #exo kai #kim jongin #kai smut #exo smut #kpop smut #kai imagines #kai scenarios #exo imagines #exo scenarios #sub kai #dom reader #gn reader #gender neutral reader #kpop fiction #fanfiction #kai x you #kai x gn reader

165 notes · View notes

ikehorganics · 3 years

Text

HOW TO REDUCE BINGE

EATING OVEREATING,

AND BORED EATING:

disclaimer: i am aware that binge eating is an eating disorder, but not a lot of people have access to professionals to help them, and this guide could help a number of people struggling with binge eating, it could be successful to some binge eaters but not all. i hope this assists you, and this all comes from a place of good faith not malicious intent. i am also aware that binge eating does NOT equate to bored eating or overeating.

skip the preface if you want to skip straight to the tips!

PREFACE:

I have been in quarantine for nearly nine months, and I have struggled with multiple aspects of my everyday life that have had to be changed and adapted to the new rules of society. Since the beginning, I have always preached about staying in doors, social distancing, not going out to into open places without a mask etc because this is a direct reflection of the respect you have for yourself and the people around you. In this strong belief, I found myself struggling to juggle being a first year university student, my fitness, mental health, food and constantly being bored within my house.

Food was the hardest aspect, and with being surrounded by food 24/7, weight gain was inevitable. At first, I had not realised how I ate on a regular basis, I woke up at 6am, and would be at uni between 8am and 5pm from monday to thursday, where i would usually only eat one meal and a snack between that, whether it be left overs from dinner for lunch and an apple or piece of fruit for when i feel a bit peckish, and 2litres of water. My day consisted of four lectures ranging from 1 hour to two hours and walking around a lot because I hated sitting for a long time, and occasionally doing summaries or watching netflix between lectures. And when i got home, I had dinner and would go to bed. That was my routine and it was never truly surrounded by food constantly available at my every beck and call.

During quarantine, I was filled with procrastination and demotivation to attend lectures online or read my books. And all that extra time was filled with having an efficient workout routine and eating, but then that eating turned to eating quite frequently whether i was watching television, and mainly eating for the sakes of eating and in gross portion sizes because it was now available. Let's talk about how I broke out of that cycle of over eating and bored eating:

1. PLAN YOUR DAY PRODUCTIVELY.

I needed some direction in my life, I forced myself to plan every hour of my day so I can do something productive for myself. I planned the times from when I would wake up at 8am, to the time it took to fix my bed, brush my teeth, workout, stretch, eat my meals, nap, spend time outside, spend time on social media and more. Not only did my eating habits straighten out, but I got more done with my day.

2. SET EATING TIMES.

Setting eating times was the best thing I had ever done. Breakfast was always at 12 midday, lunch at 2 pm and dinner at 6pm, but these were my eating times, especially since i was intermittent fasting. These times helped me plan my day accordingly, between eating times I would usually fill my day with studying, and doing summaries, catching up with work I had missed. This helps especially if you have a restrictive diet or fast a lot! Restricting calories and fasting for extended periods of time only adds to the urge of falling into a binge cycle because your body feels the needs to refeed!

3. LISTEN TO YOUR CRAVINGS.

Listening to your body is so important. If you want to eat pizza for lunch, don't eat a salad, eat the pizza because it will be mor satiating than that salad or pasta that you might not want as much. Because that pizza might just pop into your mind late at night and you will have a little late night feast, this applies especially if you are counting calories. Having cravings are normal, and unless you are on a no bs diet that is extreme, you shouldn't deny yourself of something that you really want for something that won't leave your soul satiated.

4. DRINK WATER DURING MEALS.

I won't say much on this, but having water before, during and after your meal is so important. It aids in better digestion and adds to the feeling of being satiated when you are done eating, plus it's an easy way to get your water in. Replace that coca cola or soft drink with water, especially if you know you don't get enough glasses of water into your day.

5. LEMON WATER.

A cup of warm water and a wedge of lemon juice squeezed into it is super refreshing, sip on it throughout the morning before breakfast, to aid in digestion. Lemon water is a thing that is constantly brought up, and shut down for being "ineffective" but it works for me, and I believe that it is a phenomena of the mind. If you believe lemon water can help, it will definitely help you because you have manifested its impact on your health. Lemon water and warm water is one of those things that 'curb' hunger, and if you are one of those people who sometime wake up hungry but can't bring yourself to eat so early because it could make you nauseous, then water lemon water in a glass is the drink for you.

6. EAT WHOLESOME AND NOURISHING FOODS.

Calories are a touchy subject, and they add up very quickly very surprisingly. A bowl of oatmeal will have a lot of volume, leave you satiated and keep you full longer than toast and nutella. No one is saying do not eat the nutella, but adapt it into a meal that will leave you full and satisfied for example, if you want something sweet, heave oatmeal with a tablespoon of peanut butter or nutella inside of your oatmeal! Eat foods that will nourish you and give you enough energy to go about your day.

7. PORTION CONTROL AND PHYSICAL FULLNESS.

Portion sizes are all up to you as an individual and how satiated a portion size leaves you. Eat portion sizes that leave you satiated, but remember that being satiated does not equal to being so physically full that you feel uncomfortable as a result of eating too much. Being satiated is very difficult because sometimes you eat food that tastes amazing, and even though you are physically full, you feel like you could eat more and that becomes problematic because you've eaten past your bodies physical limit. Eating what you are craving ( number 3 ) comes into play with this aspect, as you have to be able to know when enough is enough. If you feel as if your portion sizes are huge and want to reduce them, then reduce it gradually whether it means you want to go from eating 4 slices of pizza to 2 slices of pizza, then begin with eating 3 and a half slices or eating one less scoop of pasta than you usually eat. If you have no idea how to stop eating past your physical limit, eat until you feel like you're just about to be physically full, do this for a week, and see how you will become satiated with the portions you are eating, gradually lessen the portion sizes overtime until you are happy with the amounts you are eating! This won't happen immediately, it is a gradual process.

8. DON'T EAT TOO FAST. CHEW YOUR FOOD.

A lot of the time, we do not realise how fast we eat and how we don't thoroughly chew our food. The food isn't running away, take your time to enjoy your meal and chew it instead of swallowing after a few times of grinding your teeth. Take in the flavour of your food and really enjoy it in the moment.

9. IT IS OKAY TO FALL INTO OLD HABITS, BUT BREAK IT AS SOON AS YOU CAN.

Nothing in life happens in a linear manner, everything is gradual and has its ups, its downs, its regressions and just general moments we are not proud of. If you find yourself in a binge cycle or overeating cycle for a day or a week, it does not meal all progress is lost. It means you are human, you are not engineered to be perfect constantly. Have a mantra for yourself that you repeat to comfort yourself: “it is okay, tomorrow will be better.” or “it was just one day, i can go back to normally eating tomorrow.” or “I shouldn’t be too hard on myself, it happens to everyone.”

10. INCORPORATE HEALTHY FOOD GROUPS INTO YOUR MEALS.

Make your meals satisfying and as colourful as possible! Don’t just eat pasta or pizza, eat it with something healthy like a side salad or a side of fruits or a side of healthy carbs like roasted potatoes! Never just eat one thing especially if it doesn’t have any greens or vegetables!! It doesn’t have to even be a salad or anything fancy! It can be cut up tomatoes, or cucumbers or apples!

11. HEALTHIER ALTERNATIVES MEAN YOU CAN EAT MORE FOR LESS.

Your oven, grill or airfryer is your bestfriend. Fried food is delicious, but you feel insecure at times after eating something that was cooked in heaping amounts of oil. Remember an airfryer is just a small oven, and can do wonders too. If you want a burger and you have time, home made burgers are always amazing and tastier than their fast food counterparts! Make your burger at home so you can control what goes into it, or make your fries in the oven so you can have a much more healthy alternative for less calories, and have more of it! I’m not saying make your burger buns something like lettuce buns, but making your burger at home can significantly reduce the calories in comparison to ONE mcdonalds burger, and you can have two for less calories than once burger if you make it at home.

I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it! Hopefully these tips can assist you day to day, and you take them into consideration and even test it out! These tips worked for me, and I know they won’t work for everyone but some of them might be helpful to you!

#health and wellness #how to #bingeing #binging #binge eating #lifestyle #how to stop overeating #overeating #how to stop binging #how to stop overeating.

84 notes · View notes

webmarket01 · 3 years

Text

9 Tips That Don’t Work for Weight Loss, Say Dietitians | Eat This Not That

New Post has been published on https://weightlosshtiw.com/9-tips-that-dont-work-for-weight-loss-say-dietitians-eat-this-not-that/

9 Tips That Don’t Work for Weight Loss, Say Dietitians | Eat This Not That

As a nutritionist, I’ve heard all the tips for weight loss—the good, the bad, and the totally off-the-wall. From the age-old cabbage soup diet to the more recent strategy of eating cotton balls to fill the stomach, there’s no shortage of trendy ways to shed pounds–many of them are not only strange but also potentially harmful.

Even mainstream folk wisdom about how to lose weight can sometimes steer you in the wrong direction. So what do dietitians (the real weight loss experts) have to say about which tips are solid and which make them roll their eyes? I asked several registered dietitians to get their feedback. Here are nine weight loss tips they say to skip, and for more tips on how to lose weight, be sure to check out our list of 15 Underrated Weight Loss Tips That Actually Work.

“Make eating inconvenient.”

In theory, it kind of makes sense that putting obstacles in the way of your eating—like by using chopsticks instead of a fork or eating with your non-dominant hand—could help you eat less. But it’s not exactly a practical solution to the issue of overeating.

“While you might find yourself eating slower, you can still finish a full meal,” says Carrie Gabriel, MS, RD. “It is time-consuming, and if a person is busy, that could be frustrating.”

Besides frustration, eating in awkward ways might just make you look silly. “Think of the mess a person would make if it was a food such as, say, steak or a burger, which need a hand or utensils to cut it into small pieces,” says Gabriel.

“Put on tight clothes before you eat.”

Another lifestyle change that’ll only lead to discomfort? Changing your wardrobe at mealtimes. You may have heard the tip to don tight clothing before you eat in order to stay mindful of each mouthful. But keeping up a constant awareness of your weight at mealtimes creates negative self-talk—which you definitely don’t need when you’re trying to be healthy.

“There’s nothing wrong with being motivated to realistically fit into your own clothing that you recently wore, but it’s more important to dress the body you have and focus on your plate instead of your closet,” says Bonnie Taub-Dix, RDN, creator of BetterThanDieting.com and author of Read It Before You Eat It—Taking You from Label to Table.

In the midst of a busy day, there’s a time and a place for a probiotic-rich fruit and yogurt smoothie or protein shake instead of a sit-down lunch. But opting out of all meals in favor of weight loss shakes is likely to be a mere quick fix.

“While replacing food with a shake can be effective for some, there are important points to consider,” says dietitian and personal trainer Anthony DiMarino, RD, CPT. “Meal replacement shakes are normally very low in calories and fiber and therefore do not keep people satisfied for long periods of time.”

DiMarino adds that many meal replacement shakes tend to be high in sugar, which can spike blood sugar—a major drawback if you’re living with diabetes or pre-diabetes.

Instead, make yourself one of these 100 Best No-Cook Recipes of All Time.

“Eat only one food.”

Remember the grapefruit diet? Or the potato diet? Or any diet that told you to eat just one food? Monotrophic diets—those that advise sticking to a single food or food group—have been around for ages. The idea goes that you can only eat so much of any food before getting so bored you’ll basically stop eating altogether.

It doesn’t sound like a recipe for a healthy relationship to food, says Gabriel. And it sure doesn’t sound like fun!

“This pushes a person into eating disorder territory, in my opinion,” she says.

Meanwhile, if you go too long without a varied diet, you’re more likely to end up in the hospital than in a bikini competition.

“Eating only one type of food for an extended time period will make you deficient in other nutrients your body needs. Eventually, this could result in life-threatening illnesses,” Gabriel says.

“Don’t eat carbs.”

No one can deny the weight loss-boosting effects of cutting back on carbs on a diet like keto or Atkins. But for many people, opting out of carbohydrates completely can become a too-drastic elimination—one that might not even work in the long term.

“The research suggests you will undoubtedly lose weight by cutting out an entire food group,” says DiMarino. “But at what cost? Depriving yourself from carbohydrates (your main energy source) will ultimately reduce your quality of life over time. Low carb diets can cause you to experience hunger, irritability, fatigue, mood swings, constipation, headaches, and brain fog.”

If you’re considering ditching carbs for weight loss, it’s best to talk to your doctor or dietitian before diving in—as well as to be aware of the risks.

“A low-carb diet can put you at risk for kidney stones, osteoporosis, and even gout,” DiMarino says.

“Chew each bite dozens of times.”

This one’s another throwback: Simply chew your food into a liquid pulp and watch the pounds fly off! The art of “Fletcherism” had its heyday in the early 1900s when food faddist Horace Fletcher (the early 20th-century version of an Instagram influencer) advised his adherents to chew every bite until liquefied to boost weight loss.

To this day, you’ll sometimes see this tip circling back around. And, in truth, it’s not a bad idea to chew thoroughly—but it’s no magic bullet for weight loss.

“While chewing your food multiple times before swallowing is ideal and aids in proper digestion, and eating more slowly can make you conscious of becoming fuller more quickly, this can also be time-consuming,” says Gabriel. “Depending on the food and depending on a person’s relationship with food, it can make them obsess over their food and not actually enjoy it.”

For more healthy eating tips, check out our list of 9 Best Healthy Eating Hacks for Weight Loss.

“Cut out fat.”

If there was one prevailing weight loss mantra of the 1980s and ’90s, it was that eating fat made people fat. Non-fat potato chips, salad dressings, and even (ew) ice creams became staples of “healthy” households. Now, however, research has shown that the right kinds of fats are an important part of a healthy diet—even a diet for weight loss!

“Fat is an essential nutrient that not only helps us absorb fat-soluble vitamins and essential nutrients, but it also helps us feel full and satisfied to help prevent overeating,” says Taub-Dix. “The key when trying to reduce your weight or eat healthfully in general (even if your weight is not an issue for you), is to choose the right fats.”

Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are the kind to enjoy regularly in your diet. Taub-Dix recommends including plenty of nuts, avocado, and oils like avocado oil or olive oil.

“Don’t ever indulge.”

Popular weight loss advice is guilty of plenty of untruths—chief among them the idea that, when trying to reach a healthy weight, you can’t indulge in any of your favorite foods. Make one “mistake” by having a donut or pizza, goes the thinking, and you’ve done irreversible damage.

Dietitians know this is far from true.

“Why should you be denied of your favorite foods just because you’re trying to lose weight?” says Taub-Dix. “If you don’t eat any of those indulgent foods you love, there’s a good chance that you’ll wait until you’re ‘off’ your diet to enjoy them. That’s when those foods usually come back with a vengeance—in unreasonable portion sizes and too often.”

Rather than thinking of your weight loss effort as a short window of restricting the joy out of food, you’ll benefit far more in the long-term by (sometimes) including best-loved menu items.

“A weight loss plan that will be sustained should always include foods you love because, after all, this should be a diet you incorporate into your life, not a diet you change your life for temporarily,” Taub-Dix says.

“Just cut calories.”

When it comes to weight loss, we all know the basic concept of calories in versus calories out. It seems like losing weight should be so simple—yet many dieters find that just eating less somehow doesn’t budge the scale. Turns out, multiple factors are often at work in your body to complicate this equation.

“While the prevailing evidence suggests weight loss can occur as long as there is a calorie deficit, the kinds of calories do matter,” DiMarino says. “Human bodies are complex biological systems that process foods with different micronutrient makeups in completely different ways. Physiologic and hormonal changes occur in response to the foods we eat.”

If you’ve found you’re not making progress by sticking to a calorie target, don’t despair! Fortunately, you can experiment (especially with a dietitian’s guidance) with what types of foods and food combinations you consume. One possibility: work on incorporating higher-fiber, nutrient-dense foods as often as possible.

“Choosing to eat less processed, whole foods improve overall satiety (thus limiting overeating), provides steady energy all day long, and improves body composition over time,” DiMarino says.

This content was originally published here.

0 notes