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sunstranded · 3 months

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INTJ: The Unorthodox and the Unexplored

There is nothing more bone chilling than the unknown. Or at least, that is what everyone elses fear as if we've collectively macro developed to be so against change and the unfamilliar. I want to talk about my view on the title. I'm curious whether or not it is an Ni dom exclusive thing. I hope not.

By the last sentence, I mean it in a sense that Si users should also be able to be less repulsive to change and uncharted territories. It would be insulting myself if I were to say otherwise. Your cognitive function is your comfort, not your limitations after all. Such is your name.

Moving forward to the unorthodox and the unexplored. By the former, I meant methods and preferences in the real world to either solve problems or give us self-satisfaction should not be subject to judgement, ostracization, and short-sighted criticisms.

An example of the Unorthodox is (at least in my experience) the preference of failure, struggles, and trial and error. I do not seek the discomforts those bring; it is human to not like those. Our body's oldest memory is to survive after all. But struggle and failure is inevitable in life no matter how annoying it is. Hence, I found beauty in them. If anything, I prefer trial and error. There is something all the more satisfying in being wrong than in being right the first time.

I always feel this doubt and lack of satisfaction if I won by luck or if I won by being carried by someone else's efforts. I like winning or achieving something by my own. I like learning the bad before getting the good.

It is unorthodox in my life, having been judged multiple times by my experimental approach in every novel problem. But then I get praised for being so surgical or "perfect" when it is a problem I could not have solved in that way without being experimental in the past. It's an even worse insult to not just me but to those attempting to pull down my intellect when they themselves throw comments that go: "you're trying too hard," "you're just coping," and "do you really not know how to do such a basic task?"

I am not so presumptuous and blind to think I am better than any one else. I am not even so discourteous to cut-off someone mid dialogue when they make basic errors. It really irks me that such basic necessities are even perceived as being a "bitch" about it. If being a bitch is synonymous to having a class and not insulting myself by being such an unimpressive loud idiot, then I am a bitch.

I mean no malintent by drawing the connection that most of people that do that are Si users. Even those with Ne as a 2nd or 1st function have thrown such comments my way. Though if I am explaining something, asking something, and all in a language I deem to be formal and neutral, will it be my fault if your interpretation was hurtful?

That question is one that I keep asking myself too. I am the type to be always labeled in one way or one event or another as the villain. The asshole, the jackass, even disrespectful. I have been told my honesty is too curt, uncalled for and plain rude. I work on that. It's a problem and I solve problems. However, when I am honest and curt with someone, sure they get hurt with their interpretation (though I don't use a single insult in my words) but I don't backstab them. I don't shit talk them behind their back. I find that whole ordeal cowardly and pointless. But the biggest injustice and hypocrisy I am often faced with is those people I am honest with go to every other person possible to do the thing I found cowardly and pointless. So I become the sole bad guy and when they ask ME to respect THEM when I have done nothing as blatantly dehumanizing as shit talking me, I am just appalled!

It happens so much that I am left aggravated and frustrated at the whole fate I am married to. Is honesty even with courtesy so condemned to be a caricature of a gentleman villain? Is the world so horridly poisoned by LIES that when I am practicing respect and integrity, I am the jackass?

This is where I learned I am not an INFJ. I have an INFJ that agrees fully with my opinion but unlike me who would rather be upfront and honest because grudges slow me down, INFJs would track (but not hold onto) their grudges and just door slam someone if they're being too much. Other than that, INFJs appear kind, patient, and warm because they are almost hyperaware of other people's feelings. I am not. But I am aware of mine to an extent. I did not choose to be the smart person in the room. I am just as honest as anyone else. But every pedestal I am put on without my consent, it is doomed to fall as if I am designed to be the villain in everyone's lives.

Enough of my ranting. That is just one of the numerous examples of how depressing it is to prefer the unorthodox and the unexplored and how uncomfortable can be so common in those things that you become accustomed to it. As I said, titles, names, types, are not your limits; they can be a description for an aspect of you like your natural preferences but that is not all you could be.

As for me and the usually vilified INTJs out there, there will be a crowd of persons (individuals) that will either embrace that part of you the way you ought it to be embraced or understand and accept that in a way you didn't know you needed it to be.

This is one of my drafts, I just added to it and it might be less coherent and obvious when the original started but when I wrote this I was pretty aimless and not as passionate as I am now about what I just wrote about.

#intj #mbti

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aetheternity · 3 years

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Draken, Chifuyu, Mitsuya, the Kawata twins and Kazutora in:

When they see you with your ex.

Disclaimer: E/N means Ex's name. The ex changes gender for each one to be more exclusive I'm sorry if it feels confusing. Kazutora's has mild angst but otherwise this is really sfw.

🌟 Draken

☆ He'd kinda crashed Mikey and Emma's day out. You'd told him you had something to do this weekend so what else was he supposed to do with his free time? The three of them had stopped to eat on the outdoor patio at a nice restaurant and while Emma and Mikey chatted away about something school related. Draken sat quietly sipping his tea.

☆ You'd been kinda weird when he'd asked why the two of you couldn't hang out today. You didn't even tell him what it was you were doing instead. And you always told him literally everything about your life. Sometimes unprompted.

• "Hey, isn't that Name?" Emma's voice suddenly caught his attention.

• "Who's the guy?" Mikey questioned in between bites of his food.

☆ Draken's head shot in the direction Emma had pointed in. Sure enough there you were, talking with a guy who was about the same height as Draken. Weirdly enough Draken felt like he'd seen this guy somewhere before.

• "Is that?.. E/N?"

☆ Draken squinted still staring at the two of you talking. You didn't exactly look happy but you and your ex were standing way too close. He felt a little pang in his heart.

• "Maybe she just.." Emma cut herself off. Your arm came up to wrap around your ex's neck. Pulling him in for a hug which he just as soon reciprocated.

• "Let's just go." Draken said and Emma seemed to immediately agree. As soon as Draken and Emma squeezed back into the open doors of the restaurant Mikey hightailed it in the opposite direction.

• "Dammit Mikey!"

• "Mikey!" Emma called but it was definitely too late for that.

☆ Mikey ran up behind you tapping your shoulder as Emma and Draken made their way down to the scene that was now forming.

• "Are you cheating on Ken chin?" Mikey questioned with zero hesitation. His face stern and his shoulders bared.

• "Mikey.." You said

• "I would've preferred to do this later." Draken grit. Though Mikey didn't even spare him a glance.

• "This is.. your new boyfriend right?" E/N asked

• "Name." Emma began "I know you wouldn't cheat on Draken.."

☆ You sighed putting some space between Mikey who looked two seconds away from punching someone and your ex whose confusion seemed to grow the longer this went on.

• "I'm not, I would never.." You sighed before continuing on. "He's dating my friend now and since we had some bad blood between us.. I figured I should try to get along with him since he's staying in my life. But I'm so sorry Ken Ken, I should've told you yesterday when you asked."

☆ Mikey stepped to the side as you held out your hand for Draken to take. He wasted no time pulling you into his arms, pressing a kiss to the top of your forehead.

• "Don't ever do this again."

• "Go out with my ex without explaining myself? Or get caught going out with my ex without explaining myself?"

• "All of it." Mikey interjected, hands placed in his pocket but his normal smile was starting to reappear.

• "Go home you two. I'm going to spend the rest of the afternoon with these two."

• "Oh? Is it because you're worried something will happen?" You asked Draken laced your finger tips slipping your hand into his pocket.

• "I was never worried, I just wanted to spend time with you." He explained

☆ Definitely should've just invited him in the first place because within a couple hours your ex and Draken have become better friends than the two of you were supposed to be.

🌟 Chifuyu

☆ Him and Takemichi decided to spend the afternoon in Chifuyu's favorite manga shop since sitting at home had become tiresome.

☆ Takemichi had organized a small pile of books around his body like a nest while Chifuyu just searched the aisles aimlessly. He didn't have a book in mind before coming here so he figured he'd pick one out from his favorite section once they got there.

• "Hey Chifuyu?" Takemichi looked up as Chifuyu flipped through one book while he held another in his hand.

• "I can't buy both of these. Takemichi which one do you think is better?"

• "Isn't that Name?" Takemichi pointed over the stack of books on his left sure enough just outside the aisle was you with a girl chatting away.

• "Who's the girl Name's talking with?" Takemichi asked looking up at Chifuyu, though Chifuyu had already ducked his way behind the bookshelf peering out of the aisle at the current scenario.

• "What the hell are you doing?" He asked coming over.

• "That's Name's ex."

• Takemichi fell in line next to Chifuyu peering over his head, "I didn't know Name dated girls too.."

• "Yeah.. it's not a big deal.." Chifuyu said as the two of you giggled about something a couple feet away.

• "If it's not a big deal why are we hiding?"

• "Shh!" Chifuyu ducked back as you and your ex walked a little ways away. "Come on let's follow them."

• "Why don't we just go talk to them?" Takemichi followed reluctantly.

• "I don't want Name to think I came here because I was stalking-"

☆ Just as Chifuyu had made it to the next aisle he tripped over a snag in the carpet causing an oblivious Takemichi to bump into him. A loud oof from both of them alerting you and your ex of their presence.

• "Chi?" You called annndd now you were coming over. "Hey Chi, what are you doing here?"

• "This is my favorite manga place." Chifuyu answered with a grunt, stepping into the aisle.

• "I know.. I just thought you and Takemichi would be at your place."

• "What's going on?.. This is what you were busy with?" He gestured between the two of you.

• "Chi." You stepped forward and Chifuyu took one step back. "You know how me and, E/N are childhood best friends and how my grandmother is sick right now? My grandmother is basically a second mother to her so she invited me out to take my mind and her's off things, She suggested we come in here and I said ok but it wasn't right of me to not tell you, I'm sorry baby."

☆ Chifuyu looked between you and your ex his eyes slowly beginning to soften.

• "I'm not mad love. It was just weird you don't normally do underhanded things like this." He pulled you into his chest for a hug and you wrapped your arms around his waist.

• "You should come with us." E/N said pointing to Chifuyu and Takemichi. "Name won't stop talking about how wonderful you are as a boyfriend anyway."

☆ A bright pink flutters over both you and Chifuyu's cheeks as Takemichi snickers behind you both.

• "Next time you can bring Hina and we can make this into an outing." Chifuyu said, poking Takemichi in his side with his elbow before wrapping his arm around your midsection.

☆ You guys probably end up staying in the store for a couple more hours honestly because if there's anything you and Chifuyu have in common it's your love for manga.

🌟 Mitsuya

☆ He'd been running errands for his mother all morning so by the time he reached the supermarket he was completely exhausted. He pushed his shopping cart through the aisles with a long sigh, checking off items as he went.

☆ He rounded the last corner glad that his day was nearly over and already thinking about what he was going to prepare for dinner when the sound of your voice caught his attention.

☆ His first assumption was that he was so tired he was imagining it but the airy ring of your laugh soon validated his suspicions. You'd told him you were hanging out with friends today after all.

☆ He grabbed the last thing on his list deciding to go say hi. He wheeled the cart directly into the next aisle walking up as you and a person he didn't recognize were having a chat with an elderly woman.

• "You two are so cute together." The woman gestured with a small smile.

• "Oh.. no we're exes and friends." E/N explained

• "Aw I'm sorry things didn't work out for you two." The woman nodded

☆ You opened your mouth to respond but Mitsuya's warm gaze caught your attention first.

• "Suya, hey!" You greeted, walking over to greet your boyfriend with a small hug.

• "That's the actual boyfriend." Your ex explained to the woman.

• "This is the friend you told me about yesterday?" Mitsuya asked looking at your ex with a blank expression.

☆ The tension in the aisle could be sliced with a knife and the lady from before quickly walked away to another side of the store.

• "We are just friends now I promise. There's nothing going on between us and they're having a party tonight that's why we're here." You gestured to your ex who awkwardly waved back. "I was going to invite you later so that you could sneak out when Luna and Mana are asleep."

• Mitsuya nodded his expression softening as he reached up to cup your cheek, "I wish you had just explained that earlier, next time just tell me I won't be angry."

• "I will, I promise." You gave him a quick peck which he reciprocated. "I'm going to head with Suya but I'll see you at the party later?" You asked turning to your ex.

• "Yeah, I'll see you then." They replied as they left.

☆ And yeah sure Mitsuya said he was cool with it but you two ended up skipping the party and after dinner you both stayed in bed all night.. (Do with that what you will. 🙃)

🌟 Nahoya/Smiley

☆ You'd only been dating Nahoya for a month and everyday you two met up at the same place after school.

☆ Sometimes (like today) he'd grab Souya/Angry and head out to meet you. Today the three of you were just supposed to grab a quick bite to eat before heading to the Toman meeting.

☆ The second the two of them had stopped their bikes Souya pointed you out where you were holding a box and talking to some stranger.

• "Who's that guy?" Nahoya's grin tightened as he watched the way the guy yapped away while you just silently listened.

• "He looks like somebody." Souya pondered for a second before his gaze fell on his brother. "I recognize his face he was in some picture on Name's wall."

☆ Nahoya didn't wait another second to storm over to the situation Souya trotting along behind with his teeth grit.

• "What the hell is this?" Nahoya grunted though his smile never wavered. The indent of anger extremely noticeable on his forehead.

• "Hoya, this is E/N he-"

• "E/N as in your ex?" Souya chimed up before you could finish.

• "You invited your ex here when you knew I was coming? What kind of shit are you pulling here Name?"

☆ His smile began to dip at the edges but it was obvious he was trying to keep up his natural facade. His fists clenching at his side, book bag carefully slipped into Souya's arms behind him.

• "I just needed my stuff back, I promise." You tried to explain, shaking the box in your possession for Nahoya to see.

• "I didn't mean to intrude on your-"

• "You shut the fuck up!"

• "Hoya!"

• "So you thought you should invite him on our date? Are you trying to piss me off?"

• You stomped your foot exasperation slowly starting to take over in your face and tone. "Hoya, I didn't invite him! I told him I was here and he's gonna be on vacation for three weeks but I needed my camera back." You hold up the camera that you'd fished from the box, Desperation thick in your voice. "So he decided to drop my stuff off with me and you just happened to get here before he could leave." You rest your fingertips on the bridge of your nose. Glad for the silence that soon arises.

• "I should go." Your ex whispers doing a little scoot around Nahoya who still hadn't completely cooled off.

• "Hey, stop it." Nahoya grips your chin pulling your shaky form closer to himself. "You should've just asked me to get your shit for you."

• You muster a little giggle, sniffling and wiping your face with the back of your hand. "You would've kicked his ass then brought me my stuff."

• "He would've deserved it."

☆ You pull Nahoya closer though he's still a little hesitant to return your affection.

• "Let me make it up to you please? You and Souya." You turn to Souya who's still holding both his and Nahoya's backpacks.

• "You're paying for lunch today." Nahoya replies pulling you into his side. He lowers his voice leaning into your ear as Souya walks ahead to his bike. "And if I ever see that jackass again I'll break his jaw."

🌟 Kazutora

☆ Baji and him had spent the day riding their motorcycles until they decided to take a break not too far away from the shrine where Toman meetings were always held.

☆ They soon found themselves parking their bikes and skipping stones by the riverbed.

• "So, why is it that you're hanging out with me instead of your partner today?" Baji asked as his stone plopped into the water.

• "They said they had something going on." Kazutora replied

• "If I was with someone that gorgeous I'd be willing to go with them but whatever."

• "Maybe you should have someone before you start dishing out relationship advice."

☆ Baji grinned wide throwing a soft punch which Kazutora caught with a snicker pretending to right hook him. It soon lead into a chase with Baji dodging all of Kazutora's playful jabs walking backwards and making sound effects to go along with each swipe of his fists.

☆ Baji grabbed both of Kazutora's fists pushing him back until he nearly tumbled onto his ass. His laugh unbridled in its volume.

• "Come here Kazutora I'll show you how to throw a real punch."

• "What the fuck.." Kazutora's gaze followed two people walking along the path that went just overhead.

☆ Baji's head whipped around to track Kazutora's gaze stopping on the two people walking side by side almost out of sight at this point.

• "Is that-" Kazutora was nearly gone by the time Baji had processed the words. "Hey!" He called out running to catch up but Kazutora had already sprinted to the top of the bank, jogging along to catch up to the people they'd spotted.

• "Name!" His voice boomed closing the distance scarily quick.

☆ You'd stopped dead in your tracks, turning to face the chilling look in your boyfriend's eyes as he stood before you. Baji right behind and practically out of breath.

• "Who is that?" Kazutora pointed

• "Tora.. baby don't freak out.."

☆ His earring clinked against his face as he stared into your eyes.

• "Are you leaving me now? Is that it?"

• "Tora!" You huff, putting your hands out.

• "Kazutora.." Baji called out already sensing the weight of the situation.

• "She's my ex but listen-"

• "So you are cheating on me.." Kazutora's jaw locks and when you reach out for his sleeves with pleas of his name he just slaps your arms away.

☆ When he leaves he runs for his bike. His leg anchored over the side already gripping the handle bars tightly when Baji's loud scream of his name rips through the air.

☆ He's got his bike out of park but just as he starts to drive away you dash out from nowhere and yank his handle bar.

• "Dammit Tora listen to me!!" You beg, he can clearly see the beginnings of tears stinging the corners of your eyes as you hold onto the hand still clutching his handlebars.

• "What could you possibly say? That it didn't mean anything? That you love me?!"

• "Yes! I do love you! You mean everything to me! I needed to be with E/N today because her mom went missing a couple days ago! The woman that took me in and loved me all my life is out there somewhere and no one knows anything about it so dammit Kazutora if you love me even half as much as I love you, don't leave me right now!"

☆ You latched onto his jacket letting your loud sobs fill the now quiet air.

• "You told me.. You love me.." His whispered tone barely reaches your ears as you continue to choke on your own tears.

• "I.. love you.. Tora.." You hiccuped

☆ His arms wrapped gently around your waist, face deep in the crook of your neck as you slowly began to relax.

• "I'm sorry." You felt him tremble as he held you closer than he ever had before. "I love you.." He reciprocated. "I'm here.."

🌟 Souya/Angry

☆ Souya tended to listen more than you realized. Like when you go on and on about a band you absolutely adore to the point where he stays up until almost 12 am to snag tickets for the two of you to go see them on the weekend. And this was that weekend.

☆ He'd been nearly bursting with excitement over it and now he could finally surprise you with the news after holding it in for a solid week.

☆ He parked his bike across the street from your house, reaching into his jacket pocket for the umpteenth time to check that both tickets were there. After a few more minutes of preparing, blowing into his hand to check his breath, smoothing his sweaty hands over his jacket. He rung your doorbell. The heel of his toe tapping against the floor as he waited for you to answer.

☆ When the door finally opened a person much taller than Souya answered.

• "Yup." The person pursed their lips one hand on the tool belt wrapped around their waist. For a second Souya pondered if he'd somehow rung the wrong doorbell until he looked at the number in plain view embellished on your door front.

• "Who are you?" It definitely came off more aggressive thanks to Angry's naturally violent resting face.

☆ Before the person could answer you came bounding down the stairs, pulling the door open wider.

• "Why the hell would you answer my door?" You spit at the person standing beside you as you pull your boyfriend inside, shutting the door behind him.

• "I think you mean thank you."

• "Fuck off." You tell the person who was already walking back to the kitchen.

☆ The naturally angry imprint on Souya's face seems to deepen as he makes eye contact with you.

• "I wish you had called." You sighed, tugging Souya into the living room by his jacket sleeves.

• "Who the hell is that?"

• "You remember how I said my ex is in the remodeling business.."

• "That's your ex?"

• "Yes but listen! If I work with him I can get a discount, I just want that wall taken out to open up the space a bit more." You gesture to the kitchen where your ex is currently examining the wall. "I would've told you sooner but between my friend coaxing me into doing this remodel and that drunk night with you and Nahoya it was hard to find time."

☆ Souya dipped his hands into his pockets, staring blankly into the distance. His brow furrowed deeper than normal and his foot tapped against the hardwood.

• "If you're uncomfortable with this I'll get someone else.."

• "Get someone else."

• "Wait before you answer." You scoot closer to your still ticked boyfriend and he makes eye contact with you again. "This kind of remodel normally costs way more than the bargain I'm getting with them."

☆ Souya blinked blankly at you.

• "Sou plllleeeeaaasssee, you can be here whenever they are." You gesture to the kitchen.

• "No I can't I have a job."

• "Fine.. I'll call you the entire time." He sighed with a roll of his eyes. And you rubbed both his arms with a long groan of his name. "How about this, I bring you and them to dinner. Once you see how disinterested I am you might be more for it."

• "Not worried about you, I'm worried about them." His forehead rubbed against yours and you giggled.

• "I promise I only love you."

• "Would you love me more if I got tickets to your favorite band for today?"

• "I'm never leaving you." You proclaim wrapping your arms tightly around Souya's midsection. "That's a proposal by the way we're engaged now. I don't make the rules."

• "E/N I'm engaged now!" You yell towards the kitchen.

• "I heard, congrats!" They yelled back

☆ Souya just scoffed but his cheeks bloomed into the deepest shade of red as he walked upstairs with you to your bedroom to help you pick out an outfit for the concert.

#gender netural reader #tokyo revengers headcanons #tokyo revengers x reader #draken x reader #chifuyu x reader #mitsuya x reader #nahoya x reader #kazutora x reader #souya x reader #draken hcs #chifuyu hcs #mitsuya hcs #nahoya headcanons #nahoya hcs #kazutora hcs #souya hcs #souya headcanons #Kazutora when he sees you with your ex: This is all Mikey's fault

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metazensae · 2 years

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UHHHH no kidding!!!!! i mean to be fair I did just start learning but oof my brain just wants to refer to my oc as "they" lmaooo. I gotta correct myself and use ey/em/eir pronouns.

AND OOOH ne/nem is sooooo pretty those were my oc's pronouns for like a week but i THINK ey prefers these pronouns instead. well for now at least lmaoooooo. MY placeholder name for this oc with be Sam.

OOOh those pronouns would be so cool for raeddddddd!!! ne/nem is soo fitting. But Raed also uses "they" pronouns too right?? I swore you indicated that on a post.

Maybe one day, if you become more comfortable, you'll revisit them and you could either use those pronouns or make your ownnnnn 👀 lol thats what I will do if the pronouns I'm looking for don't already exist.

Neo pronouns are definitely something that will take time to learn. But I'm having fun!!!

AND WHAT AM I COOKING ? 👀

MAGIC LMAO MAGIC AND SPARKLES That's whattttt <3

Ohhhhh Sam!!!! I hope to meet em soon;;;

Raed prefers no pronouns at all, (Raedleas voice: refer to me properly or don’t refer to me at all✨😒💅✨) but since my human English-speaking Brain can’t cope w that, he gets pronoun’ed.

Idk if I specified? I don’t remember; he IS non-binary tho so ig they/them would work but tbh he has more pressing things to care about than how humans refer to him (like wondering when is something INTERESTING going to happen 😒😩 being trapped is so dreadfully boring and no one can even say his name right so he will just keep stirring his little demon pot until something fun happens ig)

All that to say, I think he cares actually but he also doesn’t. I say he/him exclusively tho.

#i don’t know if I know anyone w neopronouns so I’m sorely out of practice #but yes maybe one day I can properly ne/nem Raed but #we will see!

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lalka-laski · 2 years

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What is the thing that makes you take a survey? I usually give it a quick scan to make sure A) that I've never taken it before and B) that the questions are interesting enough

Have you ever had an alcoholic beverage? Absolutely never. Not even a sip. I CERTAINLY didn't have several yesterday... nope.

Do you ever feel like you just HAVE to sing out loud? Yes haha

Have you ever watched RuPaul’s Drag Race? Surprisingly no. I'm sure I'd like it but I never gave it a shot

Do you own a TV? If so, what do you watch on it? We have 3 in the apartment, although one is exclusively for Glenn's video games.

Do you have Netflix/ViaPlay/other similar online channel? Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime, Peacock & Disney+. Damn, that's excessive

Have you ever watched Nostalgia Critic or Nostalgia Chick? Never even heard of them

What is the strangest type of food you have eaten? None of it is "strange" to me

What is the strangest type of candy you have eaten? Growing up I used to love these gummy watches. Gummies themselves aren't strange but I think a watch is just such an odd object to shape candy out of?

What would be your most ideal profession? Author or columnist

What kind of rides do you enjoy the most at amusement parks? I used to love them all but can only handle a few now in my old (and nervous!) age :P I think I like log flume type rides the best

Have you tried those colouring books for adults? Yeah, I have an Idris Elba one hehe

What is a topic you definitely don’t want to talk about with anyone? Some of the ethics surrounding the industry I work in

Someone is about to take your picture. How do you react? I usually hide or complain

Do you frequent any “funny pictures” site? If so, which one? I used to like funnyjunk.com way way back in the day

Do you wash your dishes by hand or do you have a dishwasher? We have a dishwasher but some dishes require handwashing

Which scent of fabric softener do you like the best? I don't ever use it. It's a waste

Do you ever get a chance to stay home alone? If not, why not? Only on Saturday nights when Glenn goes to his family's house to watch UFC fights

Are you/have you ever been engaged? If not, would you like to be one day? I am currently

Are you/have you ever been married? If not, would you like to be one day? I will be in a little less than a year

What makes a person ugly? Cruelty

What makes a person beautiful? Kindness

What is the craziest hairstyle and colour you’ve had? I've never done anything that crazy with my hair

What was the last book you read? Out of Love by Hazel Hayes. One of the BEST books I've ever read

Is there a book that you are currently reading? I started "The Ex Hex" on Saturday but wasn't much in the mood for reading. I hope to read it a bit more today

Do you prefer an actual book or ebooks? Why? Actual books but I'm not a purist. I'll read e-books sometimes too

What was your first gaming console? None

Have you ever played with an actual pinball machine? I don't think so

^If so, what was the first pinball machine you played?

Do you have any siblings? If so, how close are you? Two sisters who are my best friends

Is there something you’re eagerly waiting for? What is it? This day to be over?

Do you/have you ever belonged to an organization? If so, which one? This is such a broad question but yes

What is something you’re very passionate about? Love

Is there something you’d like to change about yourself? There's PLENTY

Have you ever had a sunburn? Where on your body was it? Way too many times. Have you seen this skin?!

Do you have or would you like to have a tattoo? If so, where? I have one on my ankle. And that's probably it for me.

What are you studying or what was the last thing you studied? The last time I studied formally would be my bachelor's degree

Do you enjoy plays? If so, what was the latest one you saw? I love them! I can't remember the last one I saw though. Thanks Covid!

Can you hear your neighbours through the walls? Sometimes we can hear the upstairs & downstairs neighbors, but never the ones right next door

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ill-be-istj-if-no-one-else-is · 6 years

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I hope this question doesn't sound hopelessly stupid but I honestly can't figure out if I'm ENFP or ESTJ. I live for fierce, fast moving debate. I've walked away from jobs bc I don't feel like I'm doing enough to help people. I'm so good at handling the details of paperwork that even distant friends come to me to answer questions about taxes and insurance. I know where every item in my apartment is. I've, deservedly, been called icy and dismissive. (1/2)

I feel a connection to each function in ENFP/ESTJ. I'm organized, mercurial, deeply effective, and will follow a personal moral belief to extreme ends. I've been called grounded more than ditzy. I start personal projects and abandon them once I've gleaned enough interesting info. What's the difference between an ENFP with strong, usable Te/Si and a fast talking, flashy ESTJ? (Is there such a thing as a flighty ESTJ?) Does being in my late 20s make a difference? Thanks for your typing help! (2/2)

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Hi anon,

This does not sound hopelessly stupid! It is a truth universally acknowledged that people who apologize for their English usually are pretty solid and just have minor understandable grammatical errors and people who apologize for stupid questions usually have good ones.

Everything in here sounds more ESTJ, however:

Fierce, fast-moving debate: true, could be either. I find that thinkers tend to prefer debate though.

Not feeling like you’re doing enough to help people: contrary to popular belief, Te-doms do have a sense of morality and often a strong one - type 1 enneagram is most common in TJs (though, granted, IxTJs). Weak Fi doesn’t mean you’re amoral, but rather that you can be very rigid in your approach to morality - you have a strong code but don’t think about it creatively, or compromise, or adapt. A healthy ENFP might try to take a third option - twist the job description or go rogue in some way, rather than walk away and find something better (more of a Te thing). An ENFP also would need less of a reason to leave.

Great at paper work, know where things are, can come off as icy and dismissive: all pretty classic high Te and high Si. Ne-doms tend to detest paperwork and ENFPs are usually not icy in demeanor - they can be mean, but they tend to be more of a hot anger type.

Connection to each function: it’s important to separate a connection with functions and actual observation. I find Ti very relatable in many of its descriptions, but I definitely do not have it. However you would have the same list of functions either way so this doesn’t distinguish between the two.

Organized - again not exclusive to Te-doms, but definitely strong within them. Same with effective and very morally driven but in a single-minded way. Mercurial could go either way; if you’re very flaky and inconsistent that would not line up with ESTJ, but if you’re on the impulsive side that does fit high Te (and given your age which you mention later, tert Ne can do weird things). Te-doms tend to act first, and gather information while acting (vs. Te-auxes who are much more cautious).

Grounded over ditzy - more ESTJ than ENFP. ENFPs can be non-ditzy, but they still tend not to be remarkably grounded, and ESTJs are rarely ditzy.

Starting and abandoning projects when they’ve reached their use - also Te. If you wanted to complete them, you would, but Te isn’t follow-through without judgement - it’s follow-through to a purpose, and if completion isn’t necessary a high Te user won’t do it.

In a more revealing sense: ENFPs tend to be heavily people-oriented and nothing you’ve said mentions your relationship dynamics at all - not even stereotypically Te-dom things like leadership. There’s a lot of flashes of obvious Ne, which would fit your age well since your tertiary function is at this point pretty okay, though will always be much weaker than your dominant and aux. I also don’t see much flightiness, though you don’t provide specifics; changing for a purpose is different than changing for novelty. And Te-doms are undeniably fast-talking and often come off as extroverted. They tend to be a little more direct than classically charming, but that works well on a lot of people. An ENFP your age would indicate decent Te, but you probably would still hate doing paperwork. Often ExFP Te manifests more through people-oriented ways, like again taking on leadership or management roles.

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Hi, can i ask for recommendations about music and more in french. 'Cause I'm really trying to improve my understanding of the language but i don't know where to start. If it's not bother only

HELLO! Why of course, I don’t know if you’re still interested in French songs but I do have a ton for you to listen to!!

Starting with Chikita by Jul i’m kidding please that’s like the one embarrassing kid in the family that we’re ashamed of and hide upstairs when guests come over

Anyway, you’re right, listening to French songs can help you handle more the language as it is a very difficult one, but don’t worry friendo I got your back :)

Do keep in mind that I’ve tried making the most exhaustive list I could (it took me 7 hours to compile all of this, I beg for mercy) but if anyone wants to reblog this with additional songs, you’re more than welcome!!

Okay, I’m putting here regular songs that I personally really love. It’s a huge mix of newer and older songs. If there’s one thing you need to know about French songs is that there’s no such thing as old songs, and you’d be surprised to know that most French people still listen to songs their grandparents listened to. Some of them are very very kitsch, but the emotional aspect most of us, French speakers, have with these songs justifies everything.

La Bohème - Charles AznavourI initially put it a lot lower in the list, but then I figured it straight up deserved the first spot because that’s the one French song anyone who wants to listen to French music should listen to first. It’s a monument. Honestly.

La Jument de Michao - Nolwenn Leroy

Belle Demoiselle - Christophe Maé

On s’attache - Christophe Maé

Double Je - Christophe Willem

Soulman - Ben L’Oncle Soul

Moi Lolita - Julien Doré

Paris-Seychelles - Julien Doré

Chou Wasabi - Julien DoréThere are 2 versions of this song, the bridge being either in French or in English depending on the version. I included the link with the English bridge version, but free to you to check the other version if you like the song :)

Papaoutai - StromaeVERY SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HEART OVER HERE.

Formidable - Stromae

Tous les Mêmes - Stromae

Peace or Violence - Stromae

Dernière Danse - IndilaI’m not personally a huge fan of this song anymore as I’ve been hearing it waaaay too much here and there, but the singer really did the cool thing of trying to write a song that reminds you of the old French songs, and the lyrics are quite easy to understand as well. Still, it’s my least favourite of this list. I’m putting it because I think it’s a good thing to suggest for your request, I guess.

En Apesanteur - Calogero

Ecris l’histoire - Gregory LemarchalAny French person you ask probably had their Gregory Lemarchal era and honestly, the songs are super old but I just love him way too much

Même Si - Gregory Lemarchal ft. Lucie SilvasOkay that’s like a monument of French music. It’s a half-half song with Gregory singing all the French parts but it’s just so good. I can’t find a good audio, so you’re gonna have to deal with the music video which kind of breaks the song somewhere around the bridge but it’s good nevertheless.

Sous le vent - Garou ft. Céline Dion

Mistral Gagnant - Lara FabianThe original one is sung by Renaud and a looot of people are going to say it’s the best version, but I personally prefer this one. One of my all time favourites here. There’s no audio version though as it’s a live.

Je T’aime - Lara FabianStraight up hands down the one French song that the entirety of France knows. It’s like… I wouldn’t even be surprised if people know it more than the actual anthem of the country. It’s just the first thing you should even listen to when it comes to French songs, I don’t even know why I didn’t put it first in the list.

Pour que tu m’aimes encore - Céline Dion

Savoir Aimer - Florent PagnyUnrelated but he sings this one Andrea Bocelli song “Caruso” in such a beautiful way. If you can find it, listen to it. But it’s in italian.

Femme Libérée - Cookie Dingler

Mon amie la rose - Natacha Atlas

Aïcha - Khaled

Here I’m gonna put classics of French music. I’m separating here, and I was meaning to just put everything and everything but I wouldn’t like you to mistake commercial music with these. So aside from the first song of Charles Aznavour that I put first, everything I listed previously are from the 90′s to today. Those I’m gotta put down here are “timeless” songs.I haven’t put as many songs as one would wish, but do trust me when I say there are waaaaay too many of them. But if you’re interested in this kind of music, re-ask me and I’ll spend exclusive time to that list.

Emmenez-Moi - Charles Aznavour

Dans le port d’Amsterdam - Jacques BrelYou might not like him firsthand because he’s… Well, he’s special. But French people are very fond of him, and I quite like some of his songs, though they come straight from his guts in terms of intensity haha. I’m gonna put next a song from his that you probably know which is far more famous: Ne Me Quitte Pas

Ne Me Quitte Pas - Jacques BrelI’m giving you a link to his best of because I can’t find a good version of the song. But it’s the first one of the video so don’t worry.

Göttingen - BarbaraThis woman here is just incredible. Really. She has such a wonderful voice and her lyrics are a work of art if you care to read them. She was a singer from the 50′s so she’s super duper old but wow intensely timeless in my opinion.

Dis, quand reviendras-tu ? - Barbara

Je te donne - Jean-Jacques GoldmanOkay this guy is one of my very favourite French singers of all time. He has a very special place in my heart and I’m fighting myself not to just slam all of his songs in this list. But do youtube him.

Je marche seul - Jean-Jacques Goldman

La vie par procuration - Jean-Jacques Goldman

Alexandrie, Alexandra - Claude François

Belle, belle, belle - Claude François

Le téléphone pleure - Claude François

Elle a les yeux revolver - Marc Lavoine

Here, I’m going to put musicals and cartoons because they’re an entire world as well. Maybe you don’t know it, but France has a very good musicals culture. Along with that, cartoon songs, like Disney, are very good if you want to learn French as the singers spell well all their words, and the fact that you know the song already in your native language can help.For the musicals, I’m going to prioritise audio versions since the aim is for you to have good audio. However, if you like them, watching the live versions is definitely worth it :)

Belle - Garou, Patrick Bruel, Daniel Lavoie (Notre-Dame de Paris)

Le Temps des Cathédrales - Bruno Pelletier (Notre-Dame de Paris)

L’Assasymphonie - Florent Mothe (Mozart l’Opéra Rock)

Those three are my favourite favourite, but you can go check “Les Amants de la Bastille”, “Le Rouge et le Noir”, “Le Roi Soleil” and “Roméo et Juliette” for more musicals.Now on with the cartoon songs. That’s gonna be long but I’m not gonna put everything. Feel free to look up your own favourite songs :) I’m huge Disney garbage, added to all the animated movies I’ve watched. I’m not gonna write the name of the singers though I know them, to make it easier.

L’Air du Vent - Pocahontas (Colors of the Wind)

Des Sauvages - Pocahontas (Savages)

Je Voudrais Déjà Être Roi - Le Roi Lion / Lion King (I Can’t Wait to Be King)

Comme un homme - Mulan (Like a Man)

Jamais je n’avouerai - Hercules (I Won’t Say I’m In Love)

Enfant de L’Homme - Tarzan (Son of Man)

Je Veux Savoir - Tarzan (I Want to Know)

Entre Deux Mondes - Tarzan (Two Worlds)

Je M’en Vais - Frère des Ours / Bear Brothers (On My Way)

Infernal - Le Bossu de Notre-Dame / Hunchback of Notre Dame (Infernal)

Partir Là-Bas - The Little Mermaid (Part of Your World)I do believe the movie has been edited like 3 times by Disney and they changed the singer every time. But I’m a good old 90′s kid and the only version I tolerate is the one I grew up with, meaning with the original Ariel voice. So careful if you go youtube that again. The link I provided is, in my opinion, the best.

Le Monde Qui Est Le Mien - Hercules (Go The Distance)

Je Défendrai Ma Vie - Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron (I Will Defend My Life)I’m putting the movie version, but I advise you to go check the full audio for better quality.

Dégage - Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron

Sonne Le Clairon - Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron

Loin du Froid de Décembre - Anastasia (Once Upon a December)

La Seine - Un Monstre à ParisOne of my all time animated songs ever. Really. An amazing French movie with amazing songs like thank bless.

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