#home office struggle

[ialwaysknewyouwerepunk]

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#these past two weeks have been so intense that ive just.. not spoken about it once i got home from work #blocked it all out #my beloved colleague whose desk is next to mine has cancer #breast and uterus. she needs two major surgeries #they just diagnosed her two weeks ago #so we've been trying to deal with that as colleagues and friends #because we love and miss her and i am so deeply sad as well #but i feel like i couldn't process that at all bc two days after the news of her diagnosis i was asked to take on half of her work #on top of my fulltime #which i agreed to do bc i like her tasks and i want to help her and i also know i can do it #but it does feel very off bc i know i don't earn enough money for this workload to be long term and it is def like this #for the coming four months at least #so i did tell my manager that i would like a raise and. that bitch told me to BUY MORE SECOND HAND SHIT. #i seriously thought i saw my life flash before my eyes #then the day after she asked one of my colleagues who's been with the firm for over 30 years whether she was looking for another job maybe? #which caused that colleague to instantly go home in tears and be home from basically a nervous breakdown the past 1.5 week #which is her full right and i support her with all my heart but bc my management sucks it meant that we had to also carry her tasks ofc #i felt soooo spread thin and super super angry actually but i didn't even realise how angry i was until last thursday my colleague w cancer #came by the office. and talked about all of it. and i suddenly realised how sad i was but then also how angry #but i was just blocking it all out trying to stay afloat #bc we told her about what the manager had said and she said “i hope that i get the chance to really tell her how it is someday.” #“because the stress she causes with people can actually kill you. just look at me.” #and the rest of the day i felt so ready to be done with everything actually #but seeing her anger made me see my own anger #and released me of my own pent up emotions bc i had actual leg pains this week and it was purely psychosomatic #i then managed to tell some friends yesterday about what was going on and their outrage spurred me on even more #so today i emailed hr. demanding a raise #doing this amount of work while constantly feeling like the house is on fire while also struggling financially seriously makes me suicidal #and i am not joking #so.. if nothing comes of that im leaving that job and not looking back

[coquelicoq]

my ex, who lives alone, is apparently about to buy a 5-bedroom, 4-bathroom, 2-garage house. what. i'm getting stressed out just hearing about it. tf you gonna do with all that space, bro? how you gonna clean all those bathrooms???

#he's like well i want one room for my home office and one room for my hobby and one guest room #add in a bedroom for him and that's still only 4 bedrooms? you have an entire extra bedroom???? #plus an extra garage??? #damn he thinks he's lonely now but dude just you wait until you spend every day ALONE IN A FIVE-BEDROOM HOUSE #trying not to project too much onto him but i really think this is absurd outside of my own preferences #he's been stressed living in his 1b apt bc his hobby takes up a lot of space #but i think this is just another example of his general propensity to treat the symptoms and not the disease #the problem is he's overcommitting & extending himself too much & he never finishes anything #that's what actually stresses him out #so him in a 5b house is just going to be him filling all that space with stuff until he's stressed again #anyway i have NO IDEA how to react to this because i think it's such a bad idea #i'm really bad at faking things i don't feel but i feel like it's too late to say 'wyd bro???' because apparently his offer was accepted #i did ask him how he's going to clean 4 bathrooms and he said he's just not going to use them #also it feels weird morally for a single (rich) man to buy an entire 5b house only for him in the middle of the seattle housing crisis #not like if he didn't buy it someone else would buy it and make it into affordable housing units so maybe it doesn't matter #still feels weird though and contributes to me not knowing how to react #if you have any advice for me followers...i am all ears #i've been really floundering on how to be a supportive friend to him lately #just really struggling with how to engage with him when it feels like he's his own worst enemy #and like it's not that he needs to have the same priorities as me it's just that he comes to me all stressed out and idk how to react #bc 'no shit you're stressed out. have you tried making completely different choices?' isn't a great option lol

[sarah-yyy]

legal exec: woke up late yesterday so she thought she'd just take a sick day off

partner: has had the last three days off work because he's got a stuffy nose

me: this is fine :) i am fine :)

#at this stage i am 95% sure mr r is just fucking around at home like buddy if you have time to micromanage me while you're 'sick' at home #then you're not fucking sick #literally i am...............so tired of everyone in this office today #yesterday!!!! i got yelled at by some client for work that mr r didn't do for him!!!!! #like wtf!!!!! that's not even my file why are you yelling at me!!!!!! #wait for mr r to come back from his bloody sick leave AND THEN yell at HIM!!!!!! #wtf have i done!!!!!! #i'm doing all of mr r's meetings AND my own AND did all the fucking admin on my own yesterday #because our legal exec is leaving at the end of next month and seriously just gives no fucks about work anymore #which i can understand BUT STILL #jiejie is STRUGGLING!!!!!! can y'all just get your act together for a week so i can breathe 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 #also i think i'm about to get my period soon and am Very Irritable #i spent like 2 hours last night thinking about how i should've yelled back at mr r's client #work stories #sarah talks about herself

[lupismaris]

I'm just gonna complain in the tags tw medical stuff tbd etc

#its the final stretch and i refuse to will anything into this universe other than this is the final stretch im having treatment and it ends #this is the end of this here and now i will not continue to live like this i cannot continue to live like this i cannot carry this fatigue #any further genuinely i cannot its not a matter of will not anymore i just... i cannot. im legitimately still hiding at the office #despite everyone else having gone home because it takes too much effort to gather my things and walk to my car and im afraid of falling #i forgot my cane at home and its cold and my body struggles with temperature regulating and seizes up so badly #but the fatigue has finally reached a point where its hard to lift my bag or put my coat on or my jewelry without help #or walk across the parking lot just to get to my car and its not like the usual hey we have to adjust to new level of disabled #it's fatigue kneecapping you put of nowhere with a tireiron until you can barely loft your bag or fix tea or prepare dinner #and the fact the all the joy of food has been robbed from me because everything takes so much goddamn effort now #everything takes ten more steps and an hour more planning and special ingredients and yes i know lots of people live like this always #but i haven't and its been a forced short term adjustment period with absolutely no support from medical professionals #and im the only cook in my household/family/immediate social circle so all the labor inevitably falls on me not out of malice #but by default even if they try to help they can only do so much because they dont know what to do #i am literally on the verge of a meltdown just thinking about how much effort dinner is going to take because i cant just #eat a fuckin box of easy mac or ramen with an egg and go to bed no I've got to make a special soup with special ingredients #or a proper balanced meal with protein and veg and whole grain and certain seasoning #and im just so fuckin tired im so goddamn tired if this radiologist doesn't come back and say i can eat freely come Friday #i genuinely dont know what im going to do #food is one of my greatest joys and to be limited even in such bizarrely simple ways requiring so much excess labor #is too much. its too much on top of all this hypothyroidic fatigue. i cant do it. #i dont want to go home and make a fuckin soup. i want pizza. i want take away. i want lamb curry and rice. i want food i dont have to cook. #god im so fuckin tired my body feels so ancient like something wrecked in the seabed being involuntary hoisted to the shallows again #and im not sure its going to survive the process. i mean it has to. we dont have a choice. but fuck.

[arthur-r]

tonight is my last night sleeping in my bed. possibly for the rest of my life. and my last time in my room possibly for the rest of my life. and i want to just get a good night’s sleep to be ready for a long day tomorrow but it’s really not working out like that.

#my family is still up in the air maybe selling this house within the next month #in which case i will never be in this room ever again. otherwise i will be back for the holidays so there’s still a month of this bedroom #if we sell the house in the spring instead (only rational option there’s no way we can empty it in time) #especially since i will not be in this house whatsoever until after that sell date. my mom all by herself can’t empty it all #anyway i’m struggling a bit. saying goodbye to my home of 14 years???? #i’ve been through a lot in this place and most of it is bad memories but like. every good memory i have is from here too…. #and everyone i know irl is staying local i’m the only one who’s leaving. one irl friend is going to the same school as me but we had a fight #within the past month and i don’t think we’re ever going to recover because she just kind of never treated me like a person #so i’m starting from scratch and it’s really.. like fuck i want to get out of here but i’m also not at all ready to actually leave #i’m just going to miss all the stupid little things so much. even my online memories are tied to this place #like the woods down the street where my deer friends live and the ditch i fell into back in the day and all the places i’ve gotten lost #and they’ll be right here waiting for me and i’m SO excited for college i am but why does it have to feel so sudden???? #i dont know how anyone does it.. and all my friends are going to colleges in their hometown so i don’t even have anyone to compare with #i found out today that if we keep the house through the winter my mom is planning on using my room as a guest room and office. and of course #that makes sense and everything but now i have the most crushing guilt for not cleaning it up well enough. i thought it would be okay and #i’d just have to deal with it when i come back and i didn’t know she wanted to use it and she’s going to box up all of my things without me #and i feel guilty that i didn’t do that and i feel scared and upset because it’s my things and my room i don’t want it to change #i’m just really anxious and sad and scared and i don’t know what to do. school is going to be good but none of this feels real or normal #and i just feel sick and scared and i don’t know what to do. waking up at 8am and leaving at 9am and moving in at 2pm and that will be it #my mom and sister are staying for a couple days and that will be good i hope. i dont know i feel so conflicted about everything #and i’m tired and sick and angry and overwhelmed and i just want to take a week off and come back alive again #and i guess that’s what i’m about to do.. after i move in there’s eight days before college starts and all i’ll be doing is moving in #(and welcome week activities. and a lot of sleeping. but hopefully i’m gonna get a rollator through a loan program and that will help a lot) #anyway here’s what’s going on. i’m going to maybe try to sleep i guess. but if anyone has advice or encouragement about moving to college.. #now is the time i really need it. it’s just so strange and conflicted and everyone i know has been telling me i just need to get out of here #and myself included i really want to get out of here. but how can i start anew when everyone i’ve loved is shattered. and what have you #think i have to listen to that song for long enough to remember how badly i want to leave…. #i’m just really not feeling well. i’m angry that i never got to have the childhood i deserved #because now i’m leaving and that means it’s officially over…. i’m just really not feeling well. i think i’m running out of tags…. #i hope you all are well. i’ll be around in the morning maybe.. i’m not sure. hope everyone has a good night

[vulpinesaint]

man who sleeps on a pull out bed and gets so frustrated that he cries every time he has to pull it out

#genuinely in tears rn. my dad uses my room as an office so i have to put the bed away when he works in there #but he moves my shit around so while i was struggling with the bed it landed on my boots for a second and that was really upsetting :( #on top of it being physically strenuous and difficult to do on your own. pulling it out sucks for Other reasons #i was so excited to come home and eat some spanikopita but i have to weep now #valentine notes

[music-for-them-asses]

On days like today, all I can think of his how we're not supposed to do this alone. I work all day alone, come home with no energy to cook something healthy or exercise. If I want help with either, I gotta pay for it financially. I just want a nice home-cooked meal and I'm so tired and hungry I just want to order food for the third time this week. And then I feel guilty because I'm trying to eat healthier but it's so hard to change old habits. I don't know how anyone my age is doing this. ESPECIALLY if they have kids. I feel like I'm barely taking care of myself at this point.

#personal #venting #my friend works as a teacher and she can come home and make a whole dinner from scratch #and I'm like... struggling to put something edible and remotely healthy together #i had to work in the office so I'm exhausted #mentally and physically

[biblicallyaccuratefaggot]

I feel so blessed and privileged to have a trans manager that actually runs a team and not a handful of individuals all in unspoken dick waving contests

#like my hip is fucked up rn and I can't go into the office and she just accepted it like a normal fucking person I was so shocked #I was prepared to struggle through commuting over there and she straight up told me to just stay home so I don't hurt myself and like #local dyke experiences workplace kindness for the first time

[six-of-ravens]

the best thing about the past 4 days was that I heard basically nothing about AI. was thinking about work tomorrow and how I have to go back to listening to my coworker rant not only about how much he loves (in a hopefully non-sexual way but we're doubtful) AI but also how he pretty much thinks our business is failing and is going to go under unless we drop everything and start using AI to do all of our jobs from project management through design and development immediately, and I started tearing up in a bad way. The future is unfriendly enough without the constant reminders that my entire industry is going to get taken over by robots and I have no viable backup plan.

#he's been saying that stuff in front of our boss lately too so i feel like he's going to get a 50th talking-to #he's a nice guy but he struggles socially and sometimes it goes beyond annoyance lol. and I'm the worst to deal with it bc I can't just #politely tell people to stop annoying me i have to stew until i start literally screaming #i have not screamed at this guy yet but only bc i 'joked' about things like his volume level enough that other people got the hint and #talked to him first. oh this is the guy who used to come in late every morning and shout GOOOOD MOOORNING 3-5 times #anyway. work. love it. i know i need to go into the office bc i get Mentally Bad working from home but...at what cost #maybe it would be better to go insane in isolation...

[altruistic-meme]

somebody PLEASE be my impulse control before i go out and buy another cat.

#like i plan to get another cat. i do. but i wanted to waot at least a MONTH in the new apartment first #but also i think jj is just very lonely bc i spend most of the day either sleeping or at work :( #and the apartment is smaller than the house we lived in before #so like.... i wanna get another cat so hes not so lonely #but im also super nervous about making yet another change for him ??? #like hes already been moved and is dealing with that........ #like. ultimately i think ill be okay with habing another cat bc im very used to it #ive always had more than 1 cat. grabted i didnt pay for them then bc i still lived with my parents #but i can handle 2 cats. #but i just dont want tonfurther stress him ;;; but i ALSO dont want to have him end up being so super lonely #bc i cant be hoke and awake ALL the time #home #anyway istg im like 20min from going out and buying a cat. #i may. i might. i wpuld probably need to stoo by the office and talk to the apartment management first tho since itll increase rent #............ ugh #maybe i can hold off until the start of next month so that way we dont have to worry about me paying any more this month???? #GOSH the struggle tho #ive only been moved out for like a week ;;; #shh ac

[chrismcshell]

a year or two from now, my sister and i might be living in a nice 4-bedroom house/townhouse/condo together. give it another couple years and we might also have at least 1 dog and 1 cat (she really wants a dog and i really want a cat). that's a cool thing to think about

#ray speaks #here i was thinking i'd struggle to afford to rent a little bachelor apartment for myself.... #now we're like. hey everyone in our family has a job right now & is actually doing pretty well so what if we all pitch in to BUY a place #for me & my sister to live in for a while and then eventually sell. #& we're looking at ottawa cuz it's where my sister lives now & it is *so* much more affordable than the toronto area #it might actually be realistic for us to get a 4bed 2bath where we each have our own bathroom + a bedroom + an EXTRA room EACH #which sounds like the absolute height of luxury to me. i could have a bedroom and a separate home office. extra space for all my Stuff. wow #god please let me keep my current job and be able to work remotely so i can move 5 hours away for this #it is like. very possible BUT it depends on the company i work for being successful & continuing to Exist cuz it's a small thing #not a big corp. #also depends on the same people continuing to run the company cuz they know me and they like me but what if they sell the company and run #which is also very much a possible thing that could happen -_- #lotta possibilities lotta unknowns. but there is some good potential for things to actually work out really well. which is very cool

[lilgynt]

you know what i know i’m partially wrong for this and it’s a greener grass situation but i still struggle to feel bad for people who got locked in their houses save for grocery trips the beginning of the pandemic bc you know what i was doing when they were making bread? thinking i was gonna die for fucking office depot

#personal #we have candy and drinks so we’re essential 🫣 #baby we had a rat who ate the candy every night and that was IT #nah but i had to cancel plans bc my coworker who like #had covid last week came into the break room with no mask #and the plans were with gg who can’t vaccinated rn #so that had to be cancled #and i’m genuinely annoyed like you realize covid is very much so still a thing #like working at home depot you just kinda grow numb from people being like #THIS IS FAKE TAKE UR MASK OFF I HATE YOU AHHHHHH #but i do really hate how people are acting like covid doesn’t exist or matter #anyway yeah i was genuinely scared when this shit started that j was gonna for fucking OFFICE DEPOT #i remember in particular when we HAD to shut the store down from indoor shopping #there was this one dude who just LOST it at me #and he was screaming and spitting at the door and yelling I HOPE YOU CUNTS ALL FUCKING DIE FROM COVID #genuinely what do you need that bad from office depot #anyway i know there was a struggle to staying inside but like #from my side of everyday i go to work to possibly die so my company can make a profit #and i can’t even quit bc where the fuck else am i gonna find work #and the whole unemployment if you quit shit #it was like oh no you have to stay inside relatively safe and get to take a bit of a vacation from ur job #and not worry everytime you come home that you’re gonna kill your family #especially when we didn’t know much of anything #again i realize i dont get how hard it was but also i hate everyone who complains about staying home

[absentlyabbie]

seriously, though. i work in higher education, and part of my job is students sending me transcripts. you'd think the ones who have the least idea how to actually do that would be the older ones, and while sure, they definitely struggle with it, i see it most with the younger students. the teens to early 20s crowd.

very, astonishingly often, they don't know how to work with .pdf documents. i get garbage phone screenshots, sometimes inserted into an excel or word file for who knows what reason, but most often it's just a raw .jpg or other image file.

they definitely either don't know how to use a scanner, don't have access to one, or don't even know where they might go for that (staples and other office supply stores sometimes still have these services, but public libraries always have your back, kids.) so when they have a paper transcript and need to send me a copy electronically, it's just terrible photos at bad angles full of thumbs and text-obscuring shadows.

mind bogglingly frequently, i get cell phone photos of computer screens. they don't know how to take a screenshot on a computer. they don't know the function of the Print Screen button on the keyboard. they don't know how to right click a web page, hit "print", and choose "save as PDF" to produce a full and unbroken capture of the entirety of a webpage.

sometimes they'll just copy the text of a transcript and paste it right into the message of an email. that's if they figure out the difference between the body text portion of the email and the subject line, because quite frankly they often don't.

these are people who in most cases have done at least some college work already, but they have absolutely no clue how to utilize the attachment function in an email, and for some reason they don't consider they could google very quickly for instructions or even videos.

i am not taking a shit on gen z/gen alpha here, i'm really not.

what i am is aghast that they've been so massively failed on so many levels. the education system assumed they were "native" to technology and needed to be taught nothing. their parents assumed the same, or assumed the schools would teach them, or don't know how themselves and are too intimidated to figure it out and teach their kids these skills at home.

they spend hours a day on instagram and tiktok and youtube and etc, so they surely know (this is ridiculous to assume!!!) how to draft a formal email and format the text and what part goes where and what all those damn little symbols means, right? SURELY they're already familiar with every file type under the sun and know how to make use of whatever's salient in a pinch, right???

THEY MUST CERTAINLY know, innately, as one knows how to inhale, how to type in business formatting and formal communication style, how to present themselves in a way that gets them taken seriously by formal institutions, how to appear and be competent in basic/standard digital skills. SURELY. Of course. RIGHT!!!!

it's MADDENING, it's insane, and it's frustrating from the receiving end, but even more frustrating knowing they're stumbling blind out there in the digital spaces of grown-up matters, being dismissed, being considered less intelligent, being talked down to, because every adult and system responsible for them just

ASSUMED they should "just know" or "just figure out" these important things no one ever bothered to teach them, or half the time even introduce the concepts of before asking them to do it, on the spot, with high educational or professional stakes.

kids shouldn't have to supplement their own education like this and get sneered and scoffed at if they don't.

[iamthekarmapolice]

eventful day today

#moved into the flat #hauled 2 massive suitcases up 4 stories #went to lidl and was kind of Lost there #struggled to open the door of my flat #rushed back to office after moving in and then was immediately in 2 back to back calls #my period is going to start any second now #im so tired I really can’t process any emotions rn #my parents are at home like ‘wow we’re so proud of you’ or ‘i feel sad I can’t help you’ #and im like -_-

[jackies-ear]

Work was such a struggle today and i was so close to calling out but i didnt bc it was already a short day. I think teacher thought i had a headache? and i just went with it bc she kept giving me breaks to hide in the office lol

But now i have virtual group therapy and its gonna be such a struggle bc i had trouble following last week when my brain was working so im not gonna get shit tonight

But since teacher thought i had a headache, she told me to stay home tomorrow and take a day if i still feel bad in the morning. So maybe.

#but staying home means doing nothing #except sitting with my thoughts #and thats not good for me #so its between struggling through work or sitting alone w my thoughts #lose lose honestly #still havent heard back from the office

[walks-the-ages]

For screenreaders this is a poll:

The question is: "If you won 100 Million Dollars, what would you spend it on?"

the options are:

Buy house for self +friends and family, use money on smaller splurges for yourself (such as buying a bunch of books, movies, fandom merch, etc) plus giving a lot to charity and direct Mutual Aid (including local mutual aid by directly giving $ to the homeless, for example)

Buy house for self, splurge on lots of Big things (thousand dollars and up each), put a bit towards charity and Mutual Aid, but keep a lot of it for big spending.

Buy house for self, splurge on big things, keep it all to myself + invest in the stock market or crypto or something similar to make even more millions.

#polls #lottery #if you won the lottery what would you spend it on? #signal boost #money #finances #if I won the lottery you bet your butt i'd be buying a house with a giant yard to garden in #buying friends and family their own homes or paying off their home for them #probably buying a huge plot of land explicity so houseless people could camp there without having to worry about police #which would also clearly have heat water electricity proper shelter if not mini homes depending on my budget and idk about building laws #but yeah i'd be dropping 5k to anyone struggling with rent or groceries #buy a whole bunch of rare/out of print books for my favorite fandoms (hi doctor who faction paradox and quantum leap) #uhhh oh! getting every single fucking stray cat in our area spayed neutered and taken off the streets #build a giant enclosure just for ''outdoor cats'' to roam in without hurting wildlife while receiving medical care and proper food #huge ass publicity campaign to get people to stop fucking putting their cats outside #giving the aspca and other rescue orgs millions just so they can spay peoples pets for free #walking up to vets offices and giving them a million each for people's vet fees #etc etc etc #leaving $500 tips to food delivery people if not more #hire a personal chauffer so I can actually get to places around town without having to walk everywhere because I don't drive