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raveneira · 1 year

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Warning, if your a BoruSara fan or support the idea that Mitsuki is their number 1 shipper etc then this post is not for you so keep scrolling, block the tags anti borusara, anti-borusara, and anti-bsa to avoud this and all my other posts of this kind, I cannot be any clearer.

Just came across an old reply to a tweet I made & my god can ppl not be more dumb...since its old I wont screenshot it despite them screenshotting mine but basically it was in response to my tweet saying that since it was confirmed Mitsuki doesnt know/understand romantic love that makes his comments in 69 unreliable.

The counter was basically just because someone hasnt experienced or doesnt understand romantic love doesnt mean they cant spot it in anyone else because xyz reasons which is...stupid as hell, especially when we've already seen thats 100% the case numerous times in Naruto.

For example Sai, his dumbass had a whole chapter of him guilt tripping Sakura because he falsely assumed that Sakuras promise was a curse mark on Naruto and that his love for her was making him suffer and was the main reason he went after Sasuke, that was a complete LIE.

Sai himself had to walk it back later once he saw how badly he fked up, he misread the situation entirely because he didnt understand it, he himself said he didnt, thats why he stupidly gave the impression that if she just gave up on Sasuke & loved Naruto he wouldnt hurt as much.

The only reason Sai even realized Naruto loved her was by reading a danm book like he did for other basic human emotions, not because he himself understood it and he STILL got it wrong in the end by assuming his promise to her was like a curse mark.

Another example is Naruto, its not love per say but a great example of speaking on something you have zero understanding of. Yes Im talking about the genocide of Sasuke's clan, Naruto had 0 understanding of what that type of loss was like because he never had anyone to lose.

Him not knowing what thats like made majority of his words ring hollow since they only had the loneliness and being orphans in common, it wasnt until he lost Jiraiya and also wanted revenge that he finally understood how he felt and WHY he went down this path.

I cant believe it actually has to be spelled out that yes, if someone doesnt understand/know something they CANNOT accurately speak on it, period, thats like saying someone with 0 science experience or knowledge is still capable of comin up with like a cure for cancer or somethin

Hell the context of the scene should've been enough of a red flag that he didnt know wtf he was talking about just like Sai didnt, he makes the assumption right AFTER she expresses concern for her friend and wanting to help him, and Mitsuki immediately attributes that to romance

He then questions his own self afterwards on whether or not someones true feelings are hard to tell, if he knew for a fact this was the case then why question it? the fact that he equates her concern for him as stemming from romantic love should mean the same for him right?

He expressed the exact same concerns, but he only assumes for her its romantic, why? what makes her concern any different than his in this context? nothing. Sarada herself actually points this out also, how can he attribute her feelings to romance but not his own? he got quiet.

Which leads me back to my original point. Mitsuki doesnt know or understand romantic love, he said this out his own mouth that its something hes never experienced before, so why tf should his words be seen as reliable? thats like taking health advice from Choji as reliable

One of the recurring narratives in Naruto is how you cant truly understand someone elses feelings/experiences until YOU also experience it which is 100% true. You can imagine, you can theorize, & you can sympathize, but you'll never truly understand until YOU experience it too.

The fact that Mitsuki asks this when the topic wasnt even remotely about that yet when Sumire & Ada asked her the topic actually WAS about romance should tell you somethin, dude cant even read the room let alone someone elses romantic feelings which Sarada even calls him out on.

Only reason Im even makin this response late is because they screenshotted my tweet [my name fully visible btw] so I assume their someone I blocked [I came across it while tending to an alt acc of mine while doing a purge] which is kinda funny that I still have stalkers even now lol

But yea, I decided to go ahead & reiterate that Mitsuki is not a reliable source for spotting love, if you wanna argue that for others who actually ARE then thats another thing, but I dunno why this is such a debate when its literally been spelled out over & over that he isnt.

PS: I decided to post this response here instead of on twitter because twitter circles stopped workin for me and I didnt wanna risk those same stalkers spyin on me again.

#semi rant #anti-borusara #anti borusara #anti-bsa #boruto manga #manga spoilers #boruto next generations

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dinopant · 10 months

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i read ao no flag myself but i don't remember a lot abt it. why does it make u angry?

oughgh

so i LOVED Ao No Flag, it took on the love triangle idea in a very enjoyable fresh way with very awesome characters

and it CLEARLY was about a gay romance from one or two members of the group of four which! fun!

and it started soOOO strong

only for it to feel like it just kinda fell apart and kinda sucked right after they finally offically said it was about a gay romance

between the kinda weird handling of the gay characters between the 'heres some lgbt references :)' and it being taylor swift music (this is more petty but also ew) to the main gay man getting beat up for being gay and then when everyone confronted him about it and how it wasnt ok he pulls the 'i was molested by a man so i hate gay people' so now everyone symapthizes with him

that all felt off

then the main straight girl ends up married to some no name character we've never seen before, the lesbian girl is Bi and thats fine or whatever but the way her Boyfriend pulls the 'its ok if shes bi because she chose me a man in the end' rubs me wrong, and the two main boys DO end up togeather

but we literally dont even see them psychically togeather as the last chapter where their officially together is seen through the eyes of one of them who took on the others last name so you dont realize its a different guy until their partner shows up to pick them up

the best we got was a POV of them holding hands

like we didnt even really get to have a sweet gay romance...

it just felt so fucking disappointing is all

it had a very cute art style!! and a strong story start that really resonated with me when i was first reading through it as it came out in real time

just to kinda be :/ about where it went at the end

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nsaint1 · 2 years

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How can I overcome the guilt of being a bad communicator when im angry? I’ve been told I come off passive aggressive. im just in my head a lot and thinking of a respectful way to react. Other people view it as childish for not communicating my feelings instantly. Its hard for me to know what im feeling and why and i just feel like thats for me to figure out BEFORE I bring an issue to someone. For context i met this guy and I feel like we both moved too fast out of lust. He was going through alot (idk why i always attract ppl at this stage in their life) He lost a family member, and just got out of a relationship. He said the relationship was dead long before it was over but he was still working through things within himself because of it. He said he still felt emotionally available, but i’m realizing now when he still had a lot to work on he was removing the romance aspect of that.. which i didnt understand at the time and asked twice because I felt confused. So I let him know I dont want anything casual/FWB, and he said he didnt either. We’d hang out and he’d be like “we’re on a date” and it felt manipulative once I really started to think about it. Why use that language if we arent actually building on something? After we were intimate with eachother he said “i wouldnt fall in love with me right now. I just dont have the capacity to receive/give love romantically how i normally would” i didnt say anything then because he was being honest and vulnerable but it hurt. I felt manipulated. Probably manipulated myself into thinking something good could come from this. I dont have many experiences with good/honest men. Even though that is the bare minimum.. I wanted to hold on because i felt like i deserved to be loved, but also recognized he cant.. and i just feel like he had just as much responsibility to leave me alone knowing that. I’m also holding myself accountable because so did I. I left something at his house and went to go get it. I was so passive aggressive, told him nothing was wrong, tried to walk away from him after getting my stuff. I thought it would be best to just ghost him. I already caught feelings and it’d hurt too much if he chose to gaslight me to my face. I didnt want to break down in front of him. He called me once i got to my car and cursed at me.. i was so triggered i brought everything i was feeling to his attention in an accusatory way and i feel so much guilt because i feel like maybe if i wasnt so emotional about the situation he would’ve heard me out. I just felt like he could’ve been more sensitive and understanding to how i reacted especially because I previously explained i’ve been through emotionally/sexual abuse. He called me selfish, told me we’re done and its all my fault, and didn’t even acknowledge my explanation for reacting that way. I apologized a few days later once I cooled off but he ignored it, told me if i had more grace he’d have more empathy..and blocked me. Then he went on twitter ranting about “weird women” and it hurt. He knew i would see it. I dont think i’d ever rekindle anything with him. Im not sure if i dodged a bullet or let my anxiety get the best of me. I’m dealing with a lot of guilt for how it ended even though i tried to rectify things, and I think we both could’ve handled eachother better or maybe i am selfish..? Regardless how can I move on from the guilt of how it ended and him in general? Should I block him back?

Hey ♡

anyone cursing at you is a MAJOR red flag. A man who cares about you is going to be patient even when he does not want to be. I almost got dragged into a similar situation like this literally last week. Please assess the situation! If a man just got out of a relationship, they are most likely not going to be looking for anyone serious. They are just looking for someone that they can freely use their body (that is what it is). They will try to lie and manipulate you so that you won't say no or get involved and it is too late.

I was going on a rant about this literally two days ago. These grown men act like they can't communicate and say what they want because they want to try to take advantage, it's pathetic and sad. He manipulated you and decided not to be upfront. "Going through stuff" does not give someone the excuse to treat other people like trash and lie. Nonetheless, It happened and now it's time to move on. At least you know that is not what you want for yourself.

To answer your questions no, you are not being selfish, you don't owe him anything, he misused your trust. There is nothing you can really do with moving on from this, just know that time heals, and every day you will start to care less. If I were you I would block him back like yesterday.

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certifiedproblemcauser · 4 years

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fuckin uh,,gay wrath shit

gay month is carrying over bitches because i said so

so uh here’s some random stories about being queer because why the fuck not

1. so basically i first realized i. Was Not Straight when I was about 11ish, and i thought i mightve had a crush on a really good friend of mine who was moving away, but i kinda brushed it off. then the next year i met this. Cute Girl at school and kinda just,,,started hanging around with her until we became really good friends, and turns out,,,we both had crushes on each other,,,,,,so my first Full Gay Crush™ was Also Gay For Me (we dated for just over 2 years before breaking up but we’re still good friends hehe)

2. started questioning what the fUCK a gender was when i was about 11-12 too, and tbh i still dont know? idfk man im just trying to exist

3. when i was younger i thought you had to have a crush on guys?? so every year at school id pick a dude and be like ‘okay i like you this year’ and never once did i realize that normal people didnt do that aslkdjfaslkdfjlksd after a while my parents coughmomcough started saying that they’d ‘always love me no matter what’ and i did Not understand what she meant until i realized. people could like girls and i-yeah so technically i came out at like,,,12? when i mentioned to my parents i might like girls (i used bi at the time bc that was the only other term i knew of outside of gay and straight) but didn’t fully come out until about 3 years later--turns out they knew my friend and i were dating but didnt want to make it awkward by asking me about it alksjdlkzsflksadhgkldjghkladfjghalkdendme

4. ended up discovering. God I Love Women like so fucking much they just,,,preddie

5. (currently!) i use the term pan to define myself if anyone asks but technically i always sway towards girls so i could also use lesbian but what the fuck is language and labels let me like people

okay, now on an actually serious note for people who might still be in the closet/struggling with accepting themself or others/in a dangerous place right now: it would be a lie to say that everything went smoothly. i was on the brink of breaking down entirely when i told my parents that i wasn’t sure i was straight because i knew the connotations of it--i grew up in the early-mid 2000′s, gay was and still is used as a negative term, so i always knew it as this ‘bad thing’ to be. it also didn’t help that they weren’t supportive at first, so i was basically thrown back into the closet. i was also in a seriously dark place mentally at the time with no one to talk to about it (i’ve always been horrible at making friends, so even now i really dont have people to talk to about things going on in my life, which might be why im writing this now? i really dont know anymore). i have family that would disown me immediately if they found out about this--hell, they flipped their shit when they found out i wasnt catholic (not my parents tho, they’re chill now)! and yeah. it sucks having to hide a major part of yourself from the people who mean the most to you. the person i was closest to in the world died last year without knowing who i was. so, no, i’m not entirely out, because that would be dangerous for me. i know that ive had it easier than so many people who have stories similar to mine, but it shouldn’t be something thats difficult in the first place. (also sorry mom, i know you’ve said you expect me to bring a girl home at this point and that you. really want me to bring ANYONE home but hehe romance hard)

to end this on a light-hearted note, i just got a giant 1x2m pride flag to hang in my room and i was able to proudly show it off to my parents who supported me wholeheartedly. i know it’s cliche to say, but it does get better. and im still really young--there’s so much more time for it to get even better than this.

#gay #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqa #lgbtqia #lesbian #pan #bi #closet #closeted #out #story #story time #story telling #lgbt story #im gay and its taken me a while to be okay with that but i wouldnt have it any other way #might delete this later lmfao

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