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pestis-blight · 2 years

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I know it's not my place to rant

I know it's not exactly going to change anything

And I know I've made a semi-humorous post on it addressing this lightly but my god does the DC space have an issue with infantilising Tetch

And yeah, I'm gonna make this personal. So if you don't want to read how someone who's BEEN infantilised due to their mental state fucking hates what the fans are doing to Tetch then 1. Evaluate why and 2. Move on

If themes such as this upset you then that is completely rational, my point is mainly to address the fact that this keeps cropping up and it's not just one flavour either. Please keep yourself safe.

I've since calmed down from writing this but the point still stands; It is upsetting to see Jervis Tetch (or any other clearly mentally ill / nerodivergent character) infsntilised because of his symptoms and traits.

I'll preface this little post by saying I am still learning language that isn't rooted in ableism so if I do say something / a term that isn't appropriate please let me know - it's the only way I can learn

That being said. As an adult man who is neurodivergent and suffers delusional episodes / Hallucinations it is painful how quick I have been babied and infantilized.

Because somehow my peers equate my symptoms to inadequancy, I have been exposed to pandering tones, baby talking, and downright belittling and pathetic behaviour. It has effected my self esteem. It has effected my cripplingly small ego. I have no faith in myself because of it. Because of my illness and divergency my peers and people I once considered friends treated me as a child. Lesser.

I have been parented by people with the mental maturity of a walnut. And oh my god when you point that out ? "Oh how cute is he, he's getting all angry !"

What does this have to do with Jervis? If it wasn't obvious, the space which many Jervis fans reside seem to treat him like a child.

The initial, underlying, issue was simply how he is overly childish at a constant. I will outwardly say here I have watched the Animated Series, I have only exposed myself to Animated series content. This isn't directed at Gotham or any other version because I have no idea how they act.

But within TAS space is it painful to see iteration after iteration of "sweet soft boy" with out the rest of his personality. THATs the issue. The complete lack of any semblance of "mad scientist" - He's a god damn robotic genius and neuroscientist. He's not a ten year old. He's not a childish ball of soft joy. He is an adult.

To deliberately or even subconsciously compare him to a child, or make him act as such is problematic to say the least in my opinion. It infantilises genuine struggles.

I know when I'm having "a moment" so to speak that I am not myself. I am not present. I am overwhelmed by paranoid fear and I cannot remember a damn thing after. All I know is that I've not been myself, sometimes for a few days, and that I have more than likely pushed those close to me away.

To see a character with the same struggles, the same delusional nature (in fannon) be reduced to a stock cube of "plot" or palatable content is painful. To have fic after fic be about "looking after" a character in an episode only for it to be blatant faux-parenting is painful.

Idk what the point of this post is other than to rant and cry and scream at a void that this isn't right - My god please this isn't right -

I don't speak for everyone with delusions / hallucinations but I know I speak for myself

It fucking sucks to see him "parented" when the reality of that situation is so belittling

#dc jervis tetch #btas jervis tetch #btas mad hatter #vent #rant #This isn't to say all iterations of Jervis are like this #i have seen many which I enjoy #but the underlying current is still present in the spacd #i just want to enjoy the content without feeling ill #'just dont expose yourself to it' to what? dont expose myself to belittling nature?#lmao k #Im just so... frustrated #i guess this is the straw for the camels back #:/#blight.babbles

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prettyboysdontlookatexplosions · 2 months

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i find this shit sooooooooo fucking annoying and frankly unworthy of respect… obviously advertising and branding are powerful and that’s why companies invest in them but i genuinely have no fucking patience for grown ass adults acting like corporations are standing their holding a gun to their heads and forcing them to spend money on their stuff. it’s genuinely pathetic to me. grow the actual fuck up please

#this isn’t the worst example i’ve seen but i guess it’s a straw breaking the camel’s back moment #bc this mentality is everywhere and it’s fucking annoying every time #by grow the fuck up i don’t even mean stop spending money on disney stuff #i mean stop acting like you are being helplessly oppressed and incapable of exercising choice #also i feel like going to the parks is actually qualitatively different than listening to a soundtrack #bc of the labor stuff…. not that i think going to a disney park makes someone like evil #but it does kind of gesture to other limits of this sort of ‘corporate helplessness’ style analysis #reminiscent of AHP being like ‘i’m burned out bc i HAVE to grow tomatoes because of Culture’#you literally don’t. grow up

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bdor1995 · 8 months

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like, i would consider myself fairly adaptable to UI changes most of the time. i was "ok" with the sidebar addition. but this icon/pfp change is actually pissing me off to the point any (minor) goodwill i had toward staff has basically eroded instantly.

@staff you need to change this back, or offer a toggle to put the icons back on the dash. this change is making your website actively harder to use and impeding any enjoyment i had on your site so far

#i know staff wont read this but i am actually angry so i need to channel it somewhere #i dont want to keep downloading 99999 million browser extensions to make websites usable. for the love of god #i guess i'll wait for xkit rewritten to update with this fix but jesus christ tumblr #ive been on this site for 9 years (on this account) and this update is one that's making me angry. lmao #i guess it's the last straw on the camels back or smth. sigh

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harocat · 9 months

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Y’all are just pretending misogyny doesn’t exist lately, I swear to god.

#I’m not talking about fandom here #though they do it too #just a post that really pissed me off #one of many posts but this was the straw that broke the camel’s back #misogyny is not a B plot it’s at the route of more things than you can imagine #*the root 😔#and I’m tired of ppl underplaying that and attributing things that are blatantly rooted in misogyny elsewhere #though often there IS massive overlap; i.e. misogyny with racism and misogyny with transphobia #I literally see ppl talk about misandry more in leftist circles lately #you all have lost the plot SO BAD #hey guess where legitimate harm toward men on the basis of being men actually comes from #it’s not ‘misandry’—- it’s the patriarchy—- which is misogyny #this is feminism 101 you all understood it in 2016 but you’ve totally lost that in a sea of discourse by now #misogyny is one of the most dangerous and widespread forms of bigotry and it underpins the entire fucking human planet get with the PROGRAM

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harvestmoth · 11 months

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oh also this real quick

#tsukuyos like this in my minds eye #spent like the past hour thinking about how theyd work #all i ended up with was headcanons about their traumas #all i got out of it was that i think theyd both bottle up any grievances theyd have and i cant think of anyway theyd fight #like a couples fight. yknow. the healthy ones #cause like. to me i think ashley would be the type to bottle something up and never bring it up #sayings its all fine and good and putting up a brave and easy going face. worrying morw about how others feel and ignoring herself #while i think tsukuyo would also bottle things up but in a more silently stewing in it way i guess?#idk. like a silent treatment type thing or something that she’d eventually end up exploding over?? idk. straw that broke the camel’s back #idk! maybe all this shows is how much i have no clue about anything at all especially about relationships #anyways moment of weakness wont happen again probably look at the funny ashkuyo lo #basically im just gonna keep posting about making fun of them i cant be serious with them at all #magia record #ashkuyo

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gierosajie · 11 months

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HELP I JUST WROTE CHICKEN MULTIPLE TIMES (LIKE THE ACADEMIC PAPER) AND CLIP STUDIO JUST STOPPED WORKING-

#bleep bloop #I didn't wanna copy the lorem ipsum or the bee movie script and thought the chicken would've been funnier bc of context #and I guess that was the straw that broke the camel's back

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l8tof1 · 1 year

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Idek what the drama is actually about bestie. The fact he's allegedly dating someone? Or the people he's supposedly with?

i’m with you anon, i don’t really get it. people just love to create drama

none of these things are shocking either? for as long as i’ve been following him, he’s been hanging around some questionable people, he’s gone on ridiculous rich people adventures, and - i would just have to assume even though this is truly the least relevant part of it all - has been hooking up with whoever tf he wants. 🤷‍♀️

#why are we choosing to yell about it today? 🤨#i mean. if specific people he was with are the straw that broke the camel’s back for u then i get that #it’s inevitable that someone you’re a fan of will one day do something that makes you no longer support them and/or yell about it so.#in that sense i get that people have Things to say i guess #but especially the dating drama is so ridiculous 😂#most of this is not even confirmed fact either. people just saw a 2 sec video and started tweeting #lewis hamilton #ask

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cafeleningrad · 3 months

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As much as I love the medium, I mean heck I'm writing page long Utena metas, sometimes the most hyped titles remind me why I'm also not this deeply involved. So apparently Oshi no Ko is good but a movie length set up where the protagonist's background and motivation is so mindbogglingly wild and unbelievable, clashing so hard with a story trying to be cutthroat honest about the entertainment industry. And no one in the movie length set-up acted like their age, or like any kind of realistic human being for that matter... Also made the mistake to google who Ai's baby father is and um... this character just sounds so stupid and over the top I can't believe that this story thinks it's going to tell me anything resembling a human experience.

EDIT: What even bugs me more about the set up is Ai getting murdered for the protagonist to be motivated to become an actor. Like... he could've had thousands of personal reasons to become an actor. If I would need to drink the reincarnation-coolaid, first reason being not wanting to go through the hell that is medical studies again. Or maybe he always wanted to work in show-biz but alas was born at the deepest country side. Also absolute anime mother bingo for her getting fridged for protag motivation, she dies in devotion to be a mother, and dies gracefully, and is emotionally articulate.

No but for real why does this show want me want to believe that it wants to talk about some dark "realities" of show-biz when no one of the characters behaves like any sort of a human being?! Gosh, sometimes I hate this industry and the no cricicism allowed fandom financing it.

(I mean some folks find a liking in characters from Kimetsu no Yaiba but sometimes hyped titles really are beyond my comprehension.)

#Lewis ranting #the severe tone clash just...#I guess the story could've worked with Aqua's levelheadedness and a guardian raising the kids to stay objective.#My point is the set-up wouldn't have needed to be this stupid for the story to work.#But the twin's father was the straw that broke the Camel's back for me.#And Kana is what 3 to 4 years old and she already understands acting?!#This is what I spend a movie length of time on?!#Probably going to read some Asano work or watch Monster to cleanse my palette

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saline-coelacanth · 7 months

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Just a reminder that I am NOT working on the Ninjago fusion au anymore so do not send me asks about it I will not answer them

#i was about to apologize for sounding passive aggressive but honestly i just dont care right now #im in a bad mood im pissed and upset for multiple reasons and this was just sort of the straw that broke the camel's back #i guess sorry if you genuinely didn't know that i wasnt working on the au but again #ive mentioned it multiple times in the past so it just gets annoying having to deal with people constantly asking about it #if you wanna see the ninjago aus i still work on go read the list i made #its in my pinned post it's not that hard to find #ok time to go scream into a pillow or something because holy crap i am in a bad mood right now #sorry for ranting i guess i dont normally vent my anger like this

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amygdalae · 2 years

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Once again I must say the absence of hangovers alone is enough to make weed vastly superior to alcohol

(When approaching with the mindset of 'I would like to temporarily significantly alter my state of mind with as few drawbacks as possible', i mean)

#im so hungover today. ive had worse but this ones rough #drinking tw #drug use tw #i guess #at a certain point in the evening i was drunk enough that i was just downing cupcakes like there was no tomorrow #i think the cupcakes were the straw that broke the camels back #(ik you can get a sorta weed hangover but thats usually just. feeling a little groggy/stupid the next day.#u hafta try pretty dang hard or reeally mess up edibles dosage to get high enough u become physically unwell)

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ayakashibackstreet · 11 months

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By the way, I just realised my Japanese teacher didn't assign me any homework for the weekend again?

#I guess I was so pathetic in class that she decided not to ajkghdkhkbjd #I had a minor breakdown and had to leave the classroom for a bit #she was very kind though #she put it on the fact that I'm the only student in the group so I have to do everything #I just ended up apologising for the whole ordeal because of course I did #I'm honestly still so ashamed of it that I might end up apologising on Monday again #I know that in part it's not my fault I literally have an anxiety disorder #but on the other hand I still inconvenienced her and interrupted the flow of the class #then again she'd already told me I tend to apologise too much #gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #it's hard when your favourite class is also the language class and you get extreme anxiety when speaking foreign languages #(that aren't English)#though I think yesterday was just... anxiety from the whole week piling up really #and me not being able to understand a newspaper headline was the straw that broke the camel's back #either way I will end up cementing myself in her head as 1) likes rabbits 2) likes pierogi 3) apologises for everything 4) gets very anxiou #with maybe an extra 5) stutters out a はい when asked whether he finished a task

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artianaiolanthe · 2 years

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TLDR: I don’t like Billy Hargrove as portrayed by the fandom at large and said portrayal only makes me actively hate his character when on further reflection my biggest issue with him is wasted potential

I don’t hate Billy Hargrove as a character.

I don’t believe he was irredeemable, I don’t believe he’s the worst/most evil person on the show, I don’t believe he deserved to die. Looking only at what is to be seen from the source material, I can actually say Billy was an interesting character with potential for development. At some point I could have said I was excited to see what would be done with him.

But when I say I hate Billy, I mean I hate what the fandom has done to him. I hate the shipping object who’s there because y’all want to shove Steve into a relationship with another “attractive” boy, I hate the pity sink that has no responsibility for any of his wrongs because of his abuse, I hate the woobified little meow meow I see time and time again that the stans can’t seem to separate from what was portrayed on screen and I hate Olympic level mental gymnastics people twist themselves into because they can’t acknowledge his flaws.

Billy doesn’t HAVE to be a good person, you know? You can like him warts and all. It doesn’t make you a bad person to like a shitty character, asshole characters can be fun and entertaining. David from Lost Boys has the same energy as Billy (minus my biggest criticism) and I adore him. Some of my favourite American Horror Story characters are utter abominations of human beings.Toffee from Star Vs. is probably the show’s best character. The only Silent Hill protagonist who’s got an argument for being a good person is Harry and he’s one of my least favourites. I’ll always love and miss Kali. It’s kind of sad if the only way you can enjoy a character is to ignore or absolve them of wrongdoings, it’s part of who they are, it’s what makes them unique.

And ignoring these flaws that are fundamentally how they are shown to interact with the rest of the cast, in Billy’s case especially, is infuriating. You can’t look at Billy’s behaviour towards Lucas and say he isn’t racist; you can’t look at how he terrorized Max and say he never abused her, you can’t act like everything he’s done has been a silly little misunderstanding and isn’t seriously fucked up! I know it’s fandom, you want to draw and gif and write fic, I’m not saying to like Billy you have to have an itemized list of his sins and swear you do not agree with him, but the bare fucking minimum you need to do is acknowledge his wrongs and not argue with anyone about the fact that they happened.

What, do you write Billy as though he’s never done any of the things he’s called out for? That’s how you write him, not how the show portrays him. You can write and hc to your heart’s content any au you like but don’t treat it like canon, or like it should be the universal view of him.

And for the love of god if you really feel the need to defend him, stop and think of why. Why can’t he be racist or abusive? Why do you have to insist he’s not what he so clearly is. Goody Proctor isn’t going to point you out at the Black Sabbath for liking a fictional character, why can’t it be and instead of but or because? Billy can feel protective of Max and be abusive of her in the process, Billy can be a victim and perpetuate the abuse he suffers, most of all Billy can be deserving of sympathy AND have racist behaviours to unlearn.

But do you want to have to reckon with that? Do you really feel like the only way you can like Billy is to ignore these very integral parts of him and completely rewrite his history? Or do you genuinely not see anything wrong with his behaviour? Cause if so, I wanna know what bandersnatch bullshit your netflix pulled to let you watch a different show. I hope you can bite your tongue whenever Billy comes up because you clearly aren’t acknowledging what everyone else is and you shouldn’t have a place in the argument if you’re going to ignore the facts.

Again, I like Billy’s character as a concept. It would have been very interesting if the plot we got included some self reflection, some development, not a 180 into a saint but at least a complex Moral Greyness that would have made him an interesting part of the cast. I can see that his reaction to abuse was very different from Jonathan and Will’s and it should have made for a fascinating parallel. I don’t hate Billy because of the way his abuse has caused him to lash out.

I hate Billy because he chose to lash out in a racist manner and because he lashed out at his younger stepsister in a way where she was clearly scared of him in season two. I hate him because he, like much of Stranger Things, is a well of wasted potential.

And most of all, I hate him because many of his fandom refuses to acknowledge his flaws and wants to pretend he’s not responsible for his bigotry and hatred.

Billy was never going to be the next Zuko or Steve’s soulmate. He is a victim and a tragic one of circumstances beyond his control. But he’s also an abusive and racist bully and it’s not exaggerating or reductive to say that. It’s just a facet of who he is in the grand scheme of hurt people hurting other people. Billy chose to punch down and in show will never have a chance to atone for it, and while a redemption fic would be nice to read I don’t think I could bring myself to because I’ve only been shown that people only care about the good parts of redemption (the rewards and the acceptance) and couldn’t care less about the work and the consequences. The Duffers may have killed Billy off in an unsatisfying and underwhelming manner, but in my eyes Billy never had a chance to thrive as a character because the majority of the fandom tried so hard to white out his flaws. In the show he’s a disappointment and in fandom for me he only inspires vitriol. Everything about Fandom Billy is a hollow vessel of fool’s gold and I fucking hate everything about it.

#billy hargrove #stranger things #stranger things discussion #anti harringrove #don't really feel like tagging this as anti billy because i'm trying to articulate my problems rather than bash him #but tread carefully if you're sensitive i guess #this isn't calling out anyone in particular #there was just a straw that broke the camel's back #so now we have a 1000 word ramble about why fandom ruined billy for me

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junipercastor · 1 year

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Nvm i take back my last posts tags we r not friends anymore he just blocked me for sending this