#i thought i've seen it all at this point

[mal-zoya]

... wh.. what happened ??💀👀 your reaction, frightening

so like imagine... that dragonriders.... that bonded with their dragons.... actually can't control them.... because they just don't listen to their commands..... and so if your dragon does something.... you are not actually responsible.... IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

#lmao i'm so mad #i thought i've seen it all at this point #but nope #hotd spoilers #house of the dragon

[lorephobic]

literally nobody asked for it, but here's my list of saltburn essays that i've slowly been drafting over the course of the last week which WILL be required reading for anybody trying to engage with me about this movie. my very personal saltburn 101 syllabus just dropped

A Wolf in Deer's Clothing: Saltburn's Attempt at Innocence

an examination of party costumes and our character's last attempts to masquerade as something they're not: felix—an angel, all-forgiving and all-knowing, something to be worshiped; and oliver—a prey animal, prey to class-divide, prey to saltburn, prey to felix.

thoughts about oliver specifically are loosely organized in my #bambi tag

A Midsummer Night's Mare: Farleigh Start as the Ultimate Victim of Saltburn

a farleigh character study, about the ways he was mistreated and manipulated at saltburn, about fighting to stay alive and the scars left behind by knowing when to give in

alternatively titled "QuickStart", may be adapted into a conclusive essay specifically focusing on oliver and farleigh's relationship

The Eye of the Beholder: On Saltburn's Voyeurism & Violence [working title]

how wealth and class pushes the catton's toward the volatile reality of being able to look, but not touch. on desire and the lack thereof, and portraying yourself as an object to be desired

may end up as two separate essays on wealth and aestheticism but i'm pushing toward a conclusive essay about the intersection of the two, which i feel is at the heart of saltburn

alternatively titled "Poor Man's Pudding: A Melvillian Approach to Saltburn's Class", again, may be adapted into it's own essay

Gender-Fluid: A Study in Sexuality and Saltburn's Desire to be Dry

a deep dive into the bodily fluids of saltburn and how oliver upsets the standard of men who are just so lovely and dry. on the creative choice to lean into the messy wetness of sex and desire and the audience's instinct toward repulsion

a celebration of the grotesque and an examination of why we would label it as such

least developed of the four, heavily inspired by @charnelpit's lovely post about the fluids in saltburn

if anybody is actually interested in any of these, i can work toward something closer to a finished piece instead of just bullet points and quotes in a google doc, but mostly this is so i can share my very brief takes on a multitude of themes in saltburn that have been haunting me

edit for people seeing this in the future: all posts about my essays are being organized into my #saltburn 101 tag if you’re interested in following these through to development!

#saltburn #saltburn posting #really desperately need someone to pay me to write saltburn essays all day #or else these will never be more than a smattering of bullet points #and these are only the most developed of the millions of the thoughts that i've had rolling around in my brain this last week #idk if lengthy meta-essays are interesting to literally anyone other than me #but if any of these speak to u and u have thoughts abt them #of course u are welcome to send them my way #i think all of these were born out of either seeing bad fandom takes (ie. everything ive seen about farleigh and oliver) #or rly good fandom takes that haven't been talked about enough like the fluids thing #anyway #oh also if u want any interview clips that back up any of these ideas i have a list thats like a million miles long #and would be happy to dig for any specific things im talking about here #bambi #also also im sorry i kno the colon in academic essay titles is so overused i just love a subtitle sm #i love love love a clever little essay title. titling my essays was literally my favorite part of the essay process in college #saltburn 101

[lucienarcheron]

The idea that some people still think Nesta’s main traits are supposed to be bitchy, mean, and a hater…idk what to tell you but the whole point of her healing journey is to not be those things because all it did was hurt everyone around her and herself.

#nesta archeron #nessian #she herself thought it was wretched of her to behave this way because of her unhealed trauma #that she’s STILL working through #SHE didn't like being that way. #sometimes it's strange to see how people will glorify those traits of hers like it’s a good thing. #it’s not. that’s the whole point of acosf #why reduce her to some of her worst moments? #let her grow damn it #she can be a badass while not being an asshole #especially to the people who love her #and I’m not inviting hate or rude comments with this post. #if you’re not going to polite - save it. I’m not going to argue with you #and before any of you get offended thinking this is about you #it's not lol. #It's something I've seen more on instagram/tiktok than here but still see it and it's weird. #She can be firm and stand up for herself and a warrior and all those amazing things without reducing her to just being a bitch lol. #gp #random monday thoughts #I love my girl Nesta SO MUCH but she's so much more than her mean girl moments. #also knock it off with the weird cassian hate #he's the love of her life and her literal soulmate #'she's better off without him' #actually no she isn't lol. he's one of the MAIN reason she's able to get better and help herself #have some nuance and calm down lol

[ode2rin]

hi... (runs away)

#HELLO (comes back w better confidence) #i miss all of you :< #will respond soonest #!!! #have you guys seen rin' #s official arts #it's been occupying my mind lately #esp that one where he looks like a knight or sumn #imagine rin as a grumpy yet so damn protective knight??? yeah that (like a grumpy obi...)(I ROOTED FOR OBI) #anw!! i turned 20!!! #aaaaa 20 is like... a scary number #i've never thought i'll made it this far and i haven't planned anything up to this pot #*point #so i've been really anxious abt it lol #but then it happened #and it felt just like another normal day #i ate some pie (bec its pi day lol) and had some wine #watched your name (for the 6th time????) #and just. existed. normally #the world doesn't spin differently when you turn 20 i suppose #or any age actually #so it doesn't have to be scary :> #i'm treating it as a reminder #that i am here #despite it all :> #SO THERES MY LIL UPDATE #i'm alive i swear #mimi rambles ᐢᗜᐢ

[im-the-queen-of-stardust]

I'm about ten years too late but going absolutly feral about the fact that The Day of the Doctor happens between The Waters of Mars and The End of Time for Ten. Literally right after his whole Time Lord Victorious thing. He's in the middle of his mental breakdown.

And I knew that. Of course I did. But I've never watched The Day of the Doctor right after finishing the RTD era. I've just seen him at his worst. And this takes place right there?? Of course they can't really get into this in the episode. This is the 50th anniversary special and he's there for fan service and to be fun. Not the time and place to get back into some character development for Ten that was finished four years ago.

But just to have that in the back of my head! He's at an all time low in his life and then a future version shows up that seems to have moved on and be happy about forgetting all about the Time War. And the very man he was when he pressed the trigger, when he made the choice to loose it all, is standing right next to him. When he has just lost everything again although be it in a very different way!

And then! And then he decides to stand next to that past him! He puts his hand above his on the nice big red button. It's the same decision he's regretted all that time and now he is doing it again! How awful must that have felt?!

I know the whole point of the special is then that he saves Gallifrey and that is amazing and fantastic and he's forgetting about all of this anyway (except marrying Queen Elizabeth, that's still there). But part of me can't help but think maybe something of that whole experience stuck. Maybe some unconscious part of him remembered that future self. And he wasn't ready yet to move on like him. And maybe that's one of the reasons why he fought so hard against regenerating. Maybe that's why it was so hard for him to let go.

#yeah i know having thoughts ten years too late #we're all here dying to see what tenagain will be up to next month and im posting about this? #but I've litwrallt never connected the dots like this before #crazy what differences it makes if you watch that special when you've just seen thise last few episodes of ten #im sure im nkt thw first one to make this observation #gods i hope these are not common thoughts and i just pointed out the obvious #doctor who #the day of the doctor #ten #tenth doctor

[incarnadinedreams]

I frequently see people saying that the list of traits Jiang Cheng gave to the matchmaker are "impossible standards", ridiculous, unreasonable, outlandish, absurd, nobody could ever possibly meet them, etc.

Anyway the translation that's up on the wiki is:

His requirements in his partner are: naturally beautiful, graceful and obedient, hard-working and thrifty, coming from a respected family, cultivation level not too high, personality not too strong, not too talkative, voice not too loud and must treat Jin Ling nicely.

First off, the list comes from a random trivia answer MXTX gave in an interview, not the novel canon. So whether you even consider it canon at all is up for grabs to begin with. Though I think there was a scene in CQL with a similar list so it would be canon there, minus the Jin Ling point (due to the point in the story the scene was set)? (So I believe the matchmaker blacklisting point still wouldn't be CQL canon though, just the list?)

But if you do take it all as a Super Serious Canon Thing, well... to be honest I just don't think that list is at all unusual, given the setting? I believe many of the points in the list are just traits considered generally good for ladies of the time period (intentionally vague as that time period may be). (I am absolutely not an expert though so please correct me if I'm wrong about that.)

To me it seems that it's not that they're unusually high or unattainable standards, they're just so generic that they're sort of unhelpful. That he has like no idea what he wants at all outside what he's supposed to want.

The only points that actually seem to have any specificity are things like cultivation level not too high. Which some people could interpret negatively, and fair enough. But personally to me that seemed more like a flashing neon sign of 'please someone not like my mother', given her strength in cultivation was one of her defining traits (and something that he may have felt led to her disappointment in him). Even though Jiang Cheng may carry forward some of her traits himself (for better and for worse; this is not a YZY hate zone but there's... a lot there), he does seem to have at least given some thought to choosing a partner to counter some of the pain points of his own childhood and aim for something different (and we see him trying to do that himself in specific ways as well, like his staunch support of Jin Ling when he was crying after the Second Siege, even if he doesn't always fully succeed).

And, of course, 'must treat Jin Ling nicely'. Which seems obvious and not like a big deal at first, but I think actually could reasonably be a big sticking point in a potential marriage. My understanding is that he was wildly more involved in Jin Ling's life than a maternal uncle would normally be. Including this as a specific requirement seems to send a particular type of statement, as if it was important to him that any potential match would not take offense to him treating an orphaned child that wasn't his with a lot of attention and gifts and favor... hmmm, how could he have possibly decided that could be a problem in a marriage...?

(Obviously, the scenario would be very different than his parents' - none of the salacious rumors and the humiliation that came with them that really drove a deeper wedge between YZY and JFM - but he was obviously going to be doing a lot more for Jin Ling than an average uncle so it makes sense to have that be a specific point upfront.)

I'm ultimately in the 'it was MXTX making a joke and not meant to be taken nearly this seriously' with a side of 'the clan leaders of this generation aren't in a hurry to get married because MXTX just didn't feel like writing their wives in and also it was funny' camp so I think there's a limit to how much insight can be gleaned from this, you know? It is fun to play with it in-universe and explore the implications on the society and political system going forward in the decades post-canon, but I do try to keep myself from taking it too seriously when it's clearly not a well-thought-out plot point or anything, just a fun offhand jokey trivia bit.

But I like the vibes of it all well enough to accept it as 'semi-canon' or 'canon enough' for myself anyway because I think the 'must treat Jin Ling nicely' point is cute and the rest is just standard for the setting and the blacklisted by matchmakers part is funny, and I'm much more willing to subsume random bits from interviews into my brain's blorbo blob if it's something funny.

#my possibly hot? but probably lukewarm at best? maybe even room temperature? take #just some random thoughts that percolated in my sleep deprived brain on the topic #because I've seen a bunch of posts recently - some joking and others more serious - about the list #jiang cheng things #thinking too much about jiang cheng again #I would say 'I can't believe I just wrote all that over MXTX's silly interview answers' #but I absolutely can believe my self did that #not even mildly surprised at this point

[gnomeantics]

me (starkid fan) 🤝 my sister (henry danger fan)

joey richter from MY SHOWS is in HER shows as well??

#the climate of attitudes towards joey richter in my household is very very funny #because my sister didn't know his name #so i went to see him and darren and lauren in the palladium and i didn't bother saying who they were because i know she doesn't know them #or i thought i knew anyway #and then at some point she was watching henry danger and i just had to point him out and go Hey i've seen him live #i pulled up the photos and everything it was a bit of a shock moment #well not for me i knew this since my starkid discovery because i thoroughly went through everyone's imdb pages #but she certainly didn't #my mum calls him 'that moustachey bloke' since she forgot his name after the concert #bless her she had to put up with me going absolutely insane with basically no prior knowledge of these people #she googled them all and went 'you know lauren lopez and that moustachey bloke are married?' as if that wasnt the first wedding in the worl #but yeah everyone in my family has a wildly different perspective on joey richter specifically and i find it absolutely hilarious #starkid #henry danger #in a shocking turn of events tumblr user gnomeantics has shared a large amount of useless anecdotes in the tags #gnomeantics original 🌟

[deathsweetblossoms]

The way Elriel is singlehandedly turning me back onto Friends to Lovers, back onto deep, quiet, enduring love, back onto emotional intimacy and comfortable silence and having someone you know you can depend on. The trope of two people, unseen by others, but seen by each other. The trope of chosen love over preordained love. Taking your life into your own hands and saying, "This. I want this. If they will have me. As much as they will have me. And even if all this ends up being is the memory of the way they laughed when I gave them a present, or the holding onto a bottle of headache tonic just because they saw me and gave it to me, then that is simply enough."

#what can i say - ive been in an enemies to lovers whirlwind for awhile #i feel like elriel is really the only ship where ive embraced this dynamic specifically and all of you fanfic writers are to thank #for taking the text and just elevating it in such a way to really bring to life how i've seen these characters #at this point they seem so much like a spiritual type of stillness and peacefulness that its making ME feel still and peaceful #ME - a chaotic whirlwind of constant thoughts and emotions that are too strong and memories that are always weighing me down #so thats really saying something and if nothing else speaks to the medicine of storytelling #similarly every fic by thefangirlofhp is embedding itself so deep into my heart but this ONE in particular man..ive been thinking about it #nonstoppppp #elriel

[vulturevanity]

Thinking about ScarVi's overarching theme being The Truth Shall Set You Free. I am so normal about this

#spoilers in tags #pokémon #pokemon sv #Arven initially being closed off and not trusting you because he was neglected by his parent and learned to only rely on himself #realizing very early on that being honest is the best chance he has at healing his Mabostiff #but still not opening up about his bigger issues until it was absolutely necessary which pushes the story forward into endgame #Penny hiding herself behind Cassiopeia to protect herself from bullying #getting an entire group of outcast kids into a team to scare their bullies off #only for the plan to backfire splendously when they're mistaken for the bullies #and Clavell in a rare display of clarity ffrom an adult in a position of authority #rather than simply punishing them for it opted to team up with us to understand what was really going on #and that made him much more lenient in punishing them (because they did still cause trouble!) #the truth of Turo/Sada spiraling into their work and refusing to see the damage it was doing to EVERYTHING including themselves #to the point that they DIED #and the AI they built explicitly for the purpose of continuing their work ran the calculations and realized said work was Bad #and that truth made it go against its own programming which is what kickstarts the main story to begin with #and may I contrast all that with NEMONA whose sheer energy and eagerness is 1000% GENUINE #I've seen so many people say they thought she was going to eventually be angry for losing to us all the time #but the whole point of her character is that she's free to do whatever the fuck she wants and she's pretty happy with her life #she has no reason to fake happiness. she's just like that. she is free from the beginning and she's always be free and that's the point #in a story where no one else is!!! everyone else is bound by some complication or another that holds them back from being honest #i changed my mind i'm insane about this. no longer normal #pokemon sv spoilers #babbles

[thedreadvampy]

like clockwork someone who's been openly a sex pest for decades gets named as a rapist and sexual predator and we all get to play the hit parade with such classics as:

oh my god oh my god did you know this industry full of rich people who are rewarded for exploitative and abusive behaviour...has an issue with rape and abuse??? CAN YOU BELIEVE THERE'S ABUSE IN THIS INDUSTRY???? (yeah man we know. we've known for quite a while actually. for longer than I've been alive for sure.)

oh my god I can't believe there are rapists among us (1 in 3 women have experienced rape, who do you think is doing it?)

but he seemed so nice! (not really tbh)

well I met him and he never raped me and like, I'm really hot so if he was really a rapist he would have (Jesus fuck get help)

is it really rape to fuck 16 year old girls when you're in your 30s? (yeah it is if you fucking rape them mate)

can't believe everyone knew but never said!!! (they literally did say and also hey imagine if you will what reasons there might be too not say anything, such as, say, it's not your story to tell and the victim had expressed a wish to not be at the centre of a whole shitstorm)

Real Victims wouldn't go to journalists they'd go to the cops!!! (hey guys I have some upsetting news about the experience of reporting rape to the cops)

This is a conspiracy to make this irrelevant celebrity look bad! (please touch grass)

it's all just a bit of fun innit (no)

and every time we all over again have to go to this place where rape is simultaneously a significant threat and common experience (agreed) but also everyone who's ever talked about being raped is lying, and nobody's ever done a rape even if there's 20 years of documented evidence and on camera confessions and also their whole public persona is 'cheeky sex pest' (fucking. what?)

and then that guy hopefully gets cancelled and people feel a bit more guilty about watching him. and then they'll go HOORAY THE EVIL IS DEFEATED WE HAVE GOT RID OF THAT GUY THAT DID THE RAPES. OUR WORK HERE IS DONE. COMEDY/FILM/MUSIC/TV IS FREE OF PREDATORS NOW

and then 6.5 seconds later allegations will come out about someone else and we will start the whole thing again from scratch OH MY GOD CAN YOU BELIEVE THERE'S ABUSE IN THIS INDUSTRY???

#red said #it gets SO under my skin like how are people STILL SURPRISED????? #like this happens SO OFTEN you canNOT still find it this unexpected??? #especially when it's someone like Russell Brand who is the kind of 2000s comedian who built his entire career on predatory misogyny as a bi #like I'm sorry I'm sorry this isn't a time you so moment #but some people you're like oh that's disappointing. he seemed like he might be sound. #others though. you cannot tell me at any point in the last 20 years anyone's looked at Russell fucking Brand #and not thought at least a little bit oh this man's a fucking nonce #'russell brand predated on teenage girls for years' may be up there in the least surprising sentences I've ever heard #i have never seen a man who's more obviously used to regularly using the phrase 'I waited until her 16th birthday so it's fine' #the fucking fedora ass incorrectly loquacious cult vibes '''''ironic''''' hipster misogyny known-in-thr-scene creepster #like we all know that guy right? sometimes he's a famous comedian and sometimes he's a 38 year old musician who only ever #dates girls under 18 and hangs out at spots frequented by students trying to show off both how hip he is and how he's got Adult Money #but the vibes. the vibes. tbf a lot of those fuckers in the 2000s were probably also modelling their vibes off him also. #the looming monster of rape in the abstract

[gali-in-distress]

As a native Spanish speaker is so funny to me that Nicholas Galitzine speaks Spanish more fluently than Taylor Zakhar Pérez. I mean, whatever, I can understand Taylor not being super fluent in Spanish, it happens. But like... How did Nicholas end up not only being pretty fluent but also having such a distinct Spain Spanish accent??? How did that happen???

I tried searching Taylor speaking Spanish and I got more results for Nicholas instead 💀

I just find it so funny

#also most results for taylor were of him singing and first of all that's cheating! is not the same as speaking! #and most importantly I've seen that scene of him from the kissing booth #that Spanish is... flawed at best lol #i cringed so bad watching the scene in rwrb with Alex and miguel talking #because juan castano speaks perfect Spanish but Taylor's was so awkward omg why do they do this to these actors #only thing he said fluently was buenas noches cabrón #poor guy i mean the way they just box these actors based in their looks and last names #just let him do an american without having to be a López Peña Díaz etc or at least don't make him say anything in Spanish what's the point #btw no hate i definitely can understand why it's just so funny to me #also why the hell does nick Spanish with a Spanish accent lmao i guess it makes sense bc he's european but wtf is so distinct #i was not expecting it at all #this has been on my mind for months btw I'm normal about languages and accents #if you have any clips of taylor speaking spanish just let me know #genuinely thought it would be hot but all i find is songs

[icewindandboringhorror]

Hrmm... put together a roommates quiz finally after years of thinking it would be an interesting idea lol.. Though obviously not meant to be taken super seriously, I just like thinking about this aspect of personality compatibility. Like yeah, maybe you could get along with someone just chatting with them, but living together is such a different thing. .. curiouse...

#Not that I think that many people would really care since I barely know anyone on tumblr in real life and would never live with random #internet strangers lol but... idk.. I made this to give to friends from time to time and thought... why not post it here too #just out of sheer curiosity if anyone takes it what the most common results would be and etc. #My initial assumption is that most people would probably fall into the 'maybe' category and that either extreme of 'best roomates' #and 'worst roomates' would be the least common #very long also since I like to be thorough I guess #THOUGH... upon second thought... tumblr is home of the like Weird Introverts Who Sit Inside All The Time.. so maybe it's more #likely to come across compatible poeple on here. given that many of the questions are about how meticulous #people are with their scehdules or how often they invite friends over or if they like to mostly stay inside etc. #(since personally I think having a roommate coming and going and bringing random people over all the time would be too chaotic #lol... I need a peaceful quiet household) #Also I kind of don't like the way uquiz seems to do results. I was hoping it would be a number tally? I used some sort of quiz making site #before where you weight the question responses with a number (so the 'Best' response is worth a 0 #The worst is worth like 5 points. and all the in between are like 1 - 4 points or something). So then it is actually possible to have a #''perfect score'' category (someone who gets a literal 0 points). and also you could weight some EXTREMELY bad answers #to add like +10 to the score instead of just +5. And someone who got the MAX possible points would be the WORST compatibility. etc. #But uquiz seems to just be like ''which category did you score towards the MOST'. So someone can give some pretty bad answers #that are VERY non compatible. but as long as MOST of their answers landed in a 'compatible' category #then they would still be listed as compatible despite still actually having some dealbreakers in there. Which is also possible with the #'every answer is a number amount' ranking system too. but I feel like that one does allow for a little more customization #and accuracy (like making the dealbreakers add like...+40 to the score or something so that #there's basically NO way that someone could answer with one of those and still get a good score. Or the ability to have a literal #'perfect score' (getting a zero) etc. #BUt anyway lol... inchresting.. inchresting... curious to consider maybe making a uquiz #for the characters in the gameI'm making like.. which npc are you type quiz or something #now that I've made one and seen how it works.. hrmm hrmm.... #(< game will not even be done for like another year but still thinking about nonsense like this lol)

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Can I ask when the last time “dick worshipper”, etc. has actually been used by a radblr woman? Not a black-pill orbiter; they’re awful to everyone and don’t tend to last long here. I mean from someone in radblr, claiming to be a radical feminist or supporting radical feminism. I know it used to be fairly common years ago. So did political lesbianism, which pissed everyone off for different reasons. Most of those people either left or just don’t show up in my circles anymore, and those that do again don’t last long. So where is this coming from? I see it referenced but no recent examples. I am seeing a hell of a lot of recent homophobia from women in radblr though. Every woman I’ve seen addressing the homophobia has stated the misogynistic terms aren’t okay, again, even though from what I’ve seen it hasn’t happened for a long time. Whereas I’m seeing a ton of defensiveness and doubling down in regards to the homophobia. And there seems to be this demand of all lesbians and non-lesbian pro-separatist women to denounce the “dick worshipper” type comments, and it’s like, A) they already have and B) if they’re not the ones who said it can you stop conflating pro-separatist arguments with that shit? Again, this is just what I’ve seen. Maybe the “dick-worshipper” comments are all over some areas of radblr, but they’re not from anyone I follow or have seen on my dash for years. I’d say for the last four or five years the only time I’ve seen it is from women asking not to be called that--which, I agree, I don’t want to be called that and I don’t want to see other women called that. It’s just, I haven’t been called it or seen it for a long time, so something’s not adding up.

#I've seen pile-ons and singling out which I thought were ill-timed or unhelpful #which I've addressed in another post #I think if a woman isn't directly harming a woman you'll do more to bring her to radical feminism by making general posts #rather than singling her out and calling her a bad feminist #but that's quite a bit different from dick worshipper etc. #like there was a lot I didn't like from radblr way back when #there were so many political lesbians that you couldn't tell when a thoughtful pro-separatist argument was going to slide into that #you couldn't tell when a heterosexual voluntary celibate post was going to then argue that heterosexuality was socialized #today's radblr that I can see is just not that #but thoughtful arguments are being treated as if they were #people being accused of shit they did not say #all the comparisons to lesbians with incels or men in general like what the fuck #YOU are the ones making things unpleasant here now #not the lesbians #not the pro-separatists #can we address one another's arguments in their own words and not by what you think they mean based on what someone else said please? #you can in fact respectfully disagree on certain points #we can in fact reclaim feminism and let radical feminism stay radical #it's okay #once upon a time I remember a Take Back The Night rally where the radical feminists were identified and welcomed with open arms #and the thing was most of the women there were not radical feminists #and that was completely okay and acknowledged #and we could still all unite for the common cause of women being safe at night #I remember in my early liberal feminist days--and I do mean liberal feminist not the faux-feminists that *libfem* tends to refer to now-- #I would occasionally visit Twisty Faster's blog and I thought it was extreme but intriguing and refreshing #something that maybe wasn't for me but that I recognized as an important viewpoint nonetheless #and I was definitely not the only liberal feminist who felt that way #radical and liberal and other feminists often united against MRAs #god I wish we could go back to that.

[mantaraysss]

i don't really like the popular fanon interpretation that cole is a super slick and flirty casanova when it comes to romance and anything of that nature. dude genuinely is just a goofy sweetheart who cares deeply for his friends, family, and those he considers family. he gets in his head a lot and honestly doesn't seem like the type to be fiending for a romantic connection, let alone being super flirty and forward in a romantic sense. i do however hc him as very lonely though, but not in a way where he'd be desperate to have a partner.

i feel like it'd be very rare for him to develop a genuine crush, and if he did, it would take a longgg time of knowing a person and going through a lot with them. i doubt he'd even realize his romantic feelings at first or even know/want to act on them, and when he eventually did, he would be extremely sweet, respectful, and reserved about it and the other person's boundaries.

#definitely see him somewhere on the ace spectrum #i believe that he definitely found/finds nya and vania attractive at one point but hadn't known either of them long enough or deeply enough #to want to enter a romantic relationship during the point of the love triangle or when he initially met vania (at least in canon events) #just my thoughts on the matter bc i really am not into the 'cole is a flirty sex god' fanworks that i've been seeing in the ninjago tag lol #he would be the most sweet gentle and respectful soul about everything #this is specifically from what i've seen with ninjas being shipped with other ninjas and how cole is often portrayed in these relationships #i'm all for it but the way cole is written in them just is not my taste at all

[astromechs]

mm one day we'll have a conversation about how i have never felt so alienated as i did in some of the lesbian spaces i have personally experienced

#i just. yeah. that post has me thinking thoughts. and i've seen that kind of attitude and others so prevalent #and even me at one point internalizing things that had me denying any and all attraction to men bc 'ew men' right? #not 'ew men'. i love men. i love men like i love women like i love everyone and it's all the same to me and nothing in there is more #'morally pure' than anything else. #i don't think people understand how easy it is to internalize biphobia until you've experienced that #and it is a BITCH of a thing to unravel #i'm still unraveling it in my 30s! #but everyday i am more and more confident in being a loud and proud bi woman #(also this post is not generalizing ALL lesbian spaces. just ones i've personally experienced) #(lesbians i love you.)