#im not expecting them to buy me some

[solarpunkani]

Y'know someone's probably waxed poetic about this already but it's on my mind so I'm gonna do it again.

When it comes to encouraging people to learn about native plants and habitat and involving themselves and their yards in the wider ecosystem, you gotta meet them where they're at.

And maybe that means they won't go as far into it as you are or would like them to in your wildest dreams. But even small steps count towards the bigger picture and I think we need to appreciate that more.

An example from my own life is my mom and the current gardening project we're working on. We're planning out the garden beds in the front of the yard by the mailbox--my mom's previous plantings for the most part haven't worked out, so I'm taking a crack at it.

I'm a pollinator gardening enthusiast who cares more about attracting as many butterflies bees and hummingbirds as possible than keeping things 'neat' and 'tidy'. However, not only do we live in an HOA neighborhood (though not as intense as some other stories I've heard), but I know my mother--an interior designer who has a deeply vested care for making sure the exterior of the house looks as Nice as possible.

We're still getting a pollinator garden in the front though. How? I'm meeting her where she's at, I'm making some concessions, she's making some concessions, but ultimately we're making something that works for the both of us. She doesn't want the plants too tall and messy? We'll trim them back in fall and winter--the insects can use the backyard garden to nest in. She doesn't want things too wild and bushy and weedy? We'll add a nice mulch to the beds, keep things a bit spaced out until they grow in to their larger sizes. She doesn't know the latin names for the plants I'm asking for, let alone how to pronounce them to ask for them at a garden center? That's fine, I don't know the Latin names for most things anyways, let's just use common names.

Does she care that the garden will attract butterflies and hummingbirds? Not intrinsically--she sees it as more of a bonus, if anything. She just cares about what color everything will be and if it'll be easy to maintain. The fact that they're native plants barely registers as a plus side to her. And honestly? That is fine.

If I approached this problem with a hardheaded attitude on how I wanted it to be just as wild and free as my backyard garden? There wouldn't be any native plants in the front beds. It's not like I didn't teach my mom things, but I didn't lecture her like she was lesser just for not knowing or caring as much about native gardening as I do. And that, ultimately, made her more open to the idea than she would've been if I looked down on her like I've seen too many people do to others.

Not everyone is going to develop a deeply seated care about native plants and Latin names and I don't think it's reasonable to expect that. Meet people where they're at and you just might get a lot more done. Meet people where they're at and you just might find they'll get excited enough to learn more--but if they don't want to learn more, that is fine.

We can't expect everyone on the globe to suddenly become plant experts rattling off Latin names left and right and professionally ID'ing native and invasive plants. In the same way we wouldn't expect everyone to suddenly learn the ins and outs of learning code, or how to synthesize medicines, or how to properly build a house. And that is fine. Because we can lean on those who do know when these things come up.

I lost track of where this was going but. Y'know????

#out of queue #ani rambles #may delete later #like idk between the CPBD channel and some posts ive seen on here #it feels like a lot of people expect EVERYONE to learn ALL the Latin names for everything and thats just not realistic #Latin names make me fuckin dizzy just hearing them out loud 99% of the time #we can't admonish your everyday homie for referring to things by their common name and not knowing the ins and outs of native gardening #you attract more flies with honey than vinegar. don't look down on people for things they don't know and instead lift them up #thats the best way to get people curious about wanting to learn more #and lead by example. show good results and people will be interested. #i put up a bird feeder for the first time like 2 years ago and just this weekend my mom decided to buy a window feeder because she likes #seeing the birds. does she care about providing habitat for wild creatures? no she just likes seeing the pretty birds. #im not gonna lecture her for not putting up a birdhouse and birdfeeder and just wanting to see the birds??? thats stupid #if she wants to get into more then she'll get into more and if she doesn't even a small contribution is still a contribution yknow? #like if someone's doing something actively/with risk to be harmful by all means talk to them about it but like #dont be fuckin rude guys #im going to bed

[steelycunt]

FINAL MIDBLOCK ESSAY DONE!! I AM FREE!!

#FINALLY. have not been able to relax for like a month that’s the thing about the due dates being so far apart it’s great because you’ve got #more time but it also means everything just. lasts longer. anyway! done now. this one perhaps not my best work but it was harder than i #expected…my us government one will be rough but what else do you expect from 1500 words..and then my theory essay..my best hope for a good #grade perhaps…but we’ll see. the next lot aren’t due until january but im gonna start thinking about them now so im less busy over christmas #insane that that’s not too terrible a thought. uni is crazy when you actually enjoy your degree. anyway! for now i am going to enjoy the #rest of my weekend at home n me and my mum are going out tomorrow n im gonna buy some books with the voucher i haven’t spent since my #birthday in february and ill finally have time to finish the book im reading rn AND to do some writing..start chapter 2 : ^ ) #woohoo!! aware no one gaf about any of this but i am first and foremost always the audience for my own posts so. this one’s for me.. #(ridi's) bigmouth strikes again

[rainbow-burst]

I being so fucking normal about this fit on him rn I'm beingsofuckingnormal I'm beingsofuckin nor-

#you have no idea how fucking long I've been drooling crying begging and just screaming for them to do a Lost boy kill count #like I just watched the podcast maybe like a week ago and I'm just like rocking back and forth on my bed like they're going to post a video #<--real soon #and oh my God I watched the video of the kill count in there's so many things I wish they talked about on there but I'm grateful to get it #they did talk about the sequels and.....ekkkk... I mean it's only based off of high demand so let's hope to God no one talks about it #or send any emails for them I mean if they talk about the remake that's fine I haven't really seen that one I know Sebastian stan is in it #oh my God I feel like I'm about to be so fucking annoying about the movie again I think I'm going to just start posting random shit about it #also lately I've been more happy to be posting and drawing again than usual #so I might be back on doodling and drawing random shit or actually I've been having more confidence in myself to start posting doodles #why do I bring that up because oh I don't know...wink wonk 🤫🤫🤫🤫🤫🤫🤗🤗 😉😉😉😉😜😜😜 #my laptop kind of sucks now so I'm going to buy a new one probably this month or next month so I'll be drawing and posting doodles #I'm also thinking about posting some of my recent sketches I have in my notebook but don't expect any Picasso or Vince Van Gogh for me #I know I'm good but like I'm not that good lol im jking kinda sorta maybe not relaly okay yeaj am BUT!!! #I feel like I'm back on my drawing shit again and if I don't finish your drawing I'll just still post it because why the fuck not I'm young #let's fuck around and have some fun why not huh #man I can't believe I'm actually really rambling here but yeah I'm happy to say that I'm going to be back on my stupid shit ❤️ #kill count

[cemetery-baccanal]

beginning of the year shelf pic. I rearranged again lmfao

#i do not expect this to grow much more this year. im focusing on saving up for events instead. and that is so slay!!! i am SO satisfied with #how my shelf looks #i think overall i have a very curated collection of manga and merch and i wish to keep it that way #and even tho there are some series i want to read #im content to read them online and buy if i become obessed with them #the only things im expecting is to catch up on hanako-kun #ajin and MAYBE fullmetal alchemist #i want death note but im content to wait and find a good second hand price for the og covers box set #i want to add more orv and kuro merch but besides a set of kuro keychains im eyeing and a dokja doll i preordered im still mostly sat #this is intended to be a year of experiences for me #orv shrine my BELOVED #jackal speaks #manga collection #bookshelf #manga collector

[pissmoon]

My stupid ass believing moving out to a big tourist-ey aglomeration near the sea coast is the best idea ever without realizing landlords there are absolutely deranged

#my last landlord was decent for a landlord i forgot how fucked they are #and i expected rents to be twice as much but some are like. holy shit if someone is able to pay this much for a flat they could as well buy #their own! and also 80% of flats for rent are til summer only bc they want to make money off tourists!! #and every time i decide on a flat in my price range they deny when i tell them im moving from another city for a job transfer within compan #like mf i worked the same job 2.5 years do u think ill get fired after 1 week??? #its pathetic i have to beg them to let me pay them 2/3 of my paycheck every month! fuck u #im not getting flatmates either the only guy i know in this area is a 22yo party animal drama queen. fun guy but not to live with

[isa-ah]

does kickstarter let you run very small goals?

#like i wanna make a bunch of cute little merch designs for isaiah #can i just offer different options for people to back different little pieces with like #a goal of selling idk. 10 little guys. #i dont expect to do a huge haul i just want to offer some fun little guys #and i cant really afford to make myself any without buying them in bulk anyway?? #i say kickstarter bc then the money is held in a specific place and i have to Ask For It when its time to order #so there wouldnt ever be any chance of bills autopaying and putting me under the order amount which im SO scared of #but also it puts everyones addresses in a simple place and i can give updates and stuff! whee!

[raksh-writes]

I have a small birthday celebration planned for today, really just a few people, some cake and pizza and then we're going to an escape room in the late evening, but of course Im So Stressed about it, ughhhh. Im excited too, but my anxiety is having one hell of a field trip rn 😩

#personal #vent #Raksh vents #still a couple hours until they're here #and I have to go pick up my two cousins from the train station too before the other two guys arrive #gotta get some chips on the way there and then stop to fill up my tank on the way back #bcs I forgot it's pretty much empty and Im prob gonna end up being the driver this evening #so Im not even buying any alcohol #no use when we're gonna be sitting around for like 3-4 hours before we'll have to leave for the escape room #and when we're finished with that it's also gonna be very late so Im fully expecting the 'party' is gonna end there #which -- good #I really wanted to meet up with them and do the escape room but Im not that good at entertaining people #and prefer smaller and shorter gatherings so I hope this will all work out well #I don’t have all that much to do at home too #just tidy up the table get the cake and the likes #but other than that Im not doing anything big or whatnot #we just gonna sit down to catch up and maybe play some board games #I really want it to be just a chill nice time #also the drive to the escape room is prob ine of the things making me nervous #never driven to that town on my own #and the weather unfortunately got fucked ;/ it was so nice and sunny yesterday but now its dark and gloomy and raining hard 😔 #plus parking is never not gonna make me nervous #hate that part of driving ughhhh #anyway I guess I just needed to ramble out some of my nerves 🙈 #I still have like 2.5h until I gotta leave and all so its plenty of time to prepare #but also plenty of time to stress over everything 🙈 #ooof #okay anyway #gonna go try to distract myself until it's go time #hopefully it'll be a nice time for all of us 🤞

[corneille-moisie]

what does this Crow have to do to find a link to download The Eccentric Opera's full discography ?

i used to have it, but it was on my dead external drive (along with like 18k mp3s lmao rip T-T )

all i can find are extra dead links :(

#i have some mp3 here that i salvaged from an old burned disc #bless kid me for burning everything omfg #but like... none of these are my favourite from them :( #id like to get at least like irrésistiblement and i wonder and madame butterfly #actually most the tracks i have here are from paradisio #but like their eponymous album is !!!!!!!!!!! #and hymne is important too #like im sorry but i never expected a sylvie vartan song to ever sound like that they gave it such a different vibe aaaaaah #the eccentric opera #i guess i could youtube rip them #wait no i think i only found irrésistiblement on daily motion ????? #why do i like weird music =.= #japanese music #idk what else to tag it with... #japanese opera #?????? #i might look into buying the album when we are more debt free than this lol... #thanks for paying attention this far :D #jmusic #j music #a visual kei post

[dexaroth]

i cant believe the day but i finally got a full tower pc. bought it already built and at a considerable discount of some 320 dollars off. its fucking huge and theres so many things going on inside... i was initially planning on choosing the parts myself but finding the graphics card was so hard and everyone else convinced me to just buy it built and honestly? good. id probably have fucked this up so badly by myself

i cant use it yet bc i took too long to buy the monitor that was also on sale and now its regular price -_- tho i managed to find a discount used one for now. well see how that goes since ill get it tomorrow. i tested it on out living room tv and it had some kaspersky thingy open and like thats so cute. i hope they left some treats in the browsing history for me to search through before i wipe it clean

#its a hexer case and wouldnt you guess the front has a hexagonal pattern. so pretty.. #it came with 3 fans installed there too that have a cmyk color style to them and it looks quite neat. im thinking of buying some leds to pu #inside the case to go with my keyboard tho idk if id go that far tbh (< gamer rot is setting in. im not immune to pretty lighting..) #its also got a lot of unused space inside. im thinking of making more sculptures to put in. though idk if thatd be safe for it #bc cold porcelain is glue and water. what if it evaporates inside and suddenly everythings covered in a glue film #i wonder if varnish would help? the transparent nail polish sure didnt do shit it came off like 2 days after sculpting the rw slug sleeping #which like yeah of course. its nail polish. but i didnt expect it to flake since all it does is sleep on top of my laptop keyboard #i need miniature glass cake cover tops to encapsule every sculpture inside for safety #looking at it still no wonder these are called towers gotdamn its legit so huge.. #it looks awkward tho bc i cant fully make it glue to the wall bc of the cables so its like. awkwardly a bit in front of the wall #im scaared as to how to tell if it ever gets too hot. on a laptop u just press ur head against the left half and feel how hot it is #i think im gonna need software for this.. sigh. tho maybe ill never get to that point since its supposed to be decent #AND its not 8 years old + the 3 fans and gpu fan and cpu fan. surely thats enough. the case even has space for more than that!! #the acrylic side reflects my keyboard too. so niceys. stimulation for my creature eyes #my desk is gonna be so fucked up when i have to organize everything too bc the one i have now is perfecly laptop-oriented #it sits on a custom wooden desk and the keyboard+drawing tablet sit below. but theres a shelf on top of my desk thats too low for the> #>normal monitor to sit to so i wont be able to use the custom desk. and i dont even know what ill do with my laptop either #finally a good change in my sad life routine fr. i cant wait to play watchdogs on this and overgrowth and other ones #AND LAGLESS KRITA SMUDGE ENGINE BRUSHES!!! AND DOUBLE BRUSHES. THEYRE SO LAGGY #A N D ACTUAL FULL HD NORMAL MONITOR. maybe that will get me to not draw in small canvases anymore #now im anxious i just want the day to be over to get the monitor tomorrow aouugh.. just bc i started coding my resources neocities page #dextxt #<the 'major life events' ((sorta)) tag returns. one for the books.. if something bad happens.. itll be here to remind me of the good times

[torchiiko]

i have to make my sleep schedule worse its so annoying being the only person awake for hours while were out of stuff

this is the 2nd time weve been out of milk when i wanted cereal n now i gotta wait until someone wakes up n goes to the store bc everyone will flip out if i go get some myself, even moreso if they happen to wake up while im out

my parents are always like "you need to get a job, we all need to get jobs, you need to start being an adult" but at the same time its "no dont worry about it, you can be a kid for a little bit longer, dont go outside by yourself" How am i supposed to do Anything if i cant even walk to the store thats within walking distance

#how do they expect me to go from 'no u cant go outside alone' to 'ok start working a fulltime job on ur own' ??? #i barely know how to use my debit card at a card reader ive only done it Once and my mom was there to help me #i want independence i wanna be able to go restock when we run out of stuff n theyre not awake or dont feel like it #even when ive Offered to go buy milk n stuff they always tell me theyll do it themselves later but im sick of waiting and relying on them #they want me to grow up so i can contribute bc were admittedly kinda struggling but theyre not rlly helping or giving me the chance to :/ #this whole rant all bc i want cereal n theres no milk n i have to wait hours to get some #torch chatter

[helpimstuckinthewashingmachine]

This is your sign (if you're financially able to) to buy that support need you've been considering. If you've been thinking of getting a cane, just get one. If you've been wondering whether to invest in stuff for any sensory needs you might have, get it! If you think that fidget toy might help with your mental health issues, just take the leap. You literally never know until you try and the worst thing that can happen is that you just keep that item for rare occasions when you do need it or sell it on to someone you know does need it. Please don't suffer in silence because you're guilting yourself out of something that could drastically improve your quality of life <33

#case in point my dad leant me some money recently and i was able to buy ear plugs for my noise sensitivity #they arrived today and ive been testing them out for about 12 hours? #i went to kpd and we had the music louder than usual to hype up the energy since one of the korean lecturers was visiting to see what we do #i wasnt used to or expecting the noise levels so i popped them in and instantly felt calmer it was actually so weird but comforting #so like even tho i wasnt sure that i would use them every day since it's only in very loud and busy environments where it gets triggered #i took that leap and im already so much happier #like maybe i wont use them daily since my headphones are also noise cancelling but these are subtle comfy and filter noise w/o blocking it #and like obviously they were on the more expensive end for earplugs bc i wanted quality but i weighed up the vfm #and i can tell these will last me ages and come in handy for a wide range of uses #i even tried laying on them and! theyre comfier than any earplugs or headphones ive tried to sleep in before!! #so so happy #neurodivergent #gad #anxiety #autism(?) #support needs #disabilties #actually nd #psa #oh and btw before ppl twist my words disabled ppl with limited financial support/financial issues deserve support needs #as much as if not more so than anyone #i only put that bc i have ppl in my life with mental health issues who r impulsive spenders often w the excuse that 'its for my depression' #when what theyre buying is not a support need but rather a temporary object that has no function other than to provide a dopamine rush #if you are struggling with impulsive spending then it might not be as wise to buy smth that feels like support but isnt long term/practical

[capinejghafa]

ollie and nellie putting themselves in the carrier...

#they were so excited for some reason lol #we were supposed to go to the vet but my cab never showed up :( #i have been crying on/off bc i just felt so useless w/o a car #but im dumb bc i have other friends who could of helped me and i didn't ask lol #see the thing about living in chicago is that i just expect to get to where i need to go specifically bc public transportation is good there #in a small town... you need that car :/ #i can drive and i'm just working my way to buying a car for them <3 #myra's cat adventures #in the tags #random

[totalshockwaves]

the true villain of ff16 is whoever sucked out all the color in that world, bc that demo is taupe as fuck

#shut up allie (tag) #its very much what i expected from the reveals which...bleh im not in the grimdark 'realistic' fantasy vibe #like its so generic looking and kinda outdated pop-culture-wise and the story beats are already so generic too? #combat is okay if shallow for an action-rpg #i wpuldnt get it at launch id probably wait at least until i can get it on sale... #which would make it the first single player mainline ff i waited to buy since 10 came out #also people acting like its the first 'mature/dark' ff story are pssing me off because the majority of them can get pretty dark #i mean fuck 12 started off w/ ur playable character being some average soldier who gets murked bc he stumbled onto a coup conspiracy #it really feels like the writers are really buying into the whole sex + gore + swearing = mature and dark...

[earlyspringtranscendence]

i wish betting on wrestling was like a thing because while i would never win if i bet on anything else (am bad at recognising patterns that actually mean anything) i would cash in soooooo much because i can ALWAYS tell when a jericho feud’s gonna run way too long again 😌

#hello hi . im stressed out this fair sunday evening #feel like im failing at school already its been like a month and yet #one of my teachers v much implied i'd fail her assignment if i didnt do a bunch of extra shit and like #theres reasons for it that i can see from her side but theres also just the issue that i told her about of like #i just dont know how to work with that many materials and slash or i cant go out and buy all these things right now #and then she's like well go down to xyz and ask them to do it for you and its like honey i dont know why you think we've got such a like #mutually beneficial relationship going on between all the applied and fine arts in this school like #thats a fiction that lives in your head ... especially after we just didn't exist in this school for a whole year #and anyway. i went ahead and tried some different materials and its just like. you cant make up what an insane failure thats been #and its not that i didnt try my best its just that like idk what she wants from me #cause anyway theres a reason i picked the materials that i did the first time round #changing those just kinda changes the meaning of the thing in general... which is something SHE teaches us #anyway. and tomorrow i have class w someone who i'm Difficult with (as in like i have a hard time around her im not purposefully difficult) #(its just that she makes me feel that way cause of the 'tism and cause of the fact she thinks she knows how to handle the 'tism) #(she doesnt) #and again i did a lot of work for her im just sure she's gonna expect me to have done more #but in my defense. i need to go to the doctor and see if they can prescribe me some form of ritalin bc my exhaustion was so bad last wk #and has been bad for a hot second lately #and theres really only so much i can do with the spoons at hand #anyway. and im also Sad Right Now because ive been ignored and interrupted while saying things a little too frequently recently #and im not laughing. im having a Time. #i didnt even have that bad of a week all things considered but goddd i need a break

[orcelito]

Love seeing a "What will you refuse to eat" kind of thing bc there r plenty of foods I don't like, but I also have a Try Everything disease which means I want to try everything. Including things not meant to be eaten (like raw boba or plain espresso beans lol). & even foods I don't like, every so often I will try them again Just In Case, bc with like salsa and salad I used to hate them.but now I love them. So I've tried olives multiple times, I've tried salmon and other fish, & im just like "hmmm that's still a no for me" but I will probably try them again. Someday. Such is my nature.

#speculation nation #the Trying is more likely to happen than the Eating #there r plenty of foods i avoid bc they make me feel sick when i eat them lol. like greasy burgers and such. #i think the only thing im 100% sworn off from for eternity is cilantro #bc i have the soap gene and anytime it sneaks into smth i eat. i can taste it. #doesnt matter how tiny of an amount it is. i WILL taste it. it's so fucking apparent. #and it tastes so nasty. i do not want the soap leaf. thank you. #but like Anything Else? i wait a refresh timer of a few years and then i try it again. just to.make Sure that i still dont like it. #i enjoy trying new things. i feel like a lot of americans r afraid of trying international food bc it's different from what they r used to #but some of my fav foods r from different cultures. maybe some of it takes a bit of getting used to #but when u expand ur minds and ur palates... there is a world of experiences out there for u.... #i also wouldnt have expected it of me but i fuckin love tofu. get me a well made tofu and i would sell my soul for u #of course.nothimg could match to mushrooms. favorite experience. favorite taste. favorite texture. #rapturous love of mushrooms TRULY #i had this japanese dish a few weeks back with tofu and these tiny little mushrooms. they reminded me of little jellyfish. #i kinda wanna have it again. unfortunately it was too expensive for me to be eager to buy again lol

[yuuminni]

did they really lift the kizzy & lien side storyline out of a 3pm soap opera and expect me to care about it. ?

#duri vs the eyeball game #sorry im just flabbergastered the entire time that im supposed to care abt this #rich dad doesnt want me married to some poor dude and he slapped money to buy silence wow! totally unoriginal plot linr #and its like. they really did not show how the rls developed #like 6 years and suddenly kizzy has enough feelings for lien to the pt that she feels she doesnt deserve his love anymore... like what #literally 20 mins earlier she firmly thought his actions were stupid #you cant just dump that on the player and expect them to care