#it's great for people with family issues

[chappellrroan]

it's almost like if i dont let the whole world know about my new hyperfixtation i will burst into flames

#preacher's daughter both family tree songs #how she says in family tree “heaven hath no fury like a woman scorned and baby hell don't scare me i've been times before” #and western nights “i would hold the gun if you asked me to but if you love me like you say you do will you ask me to?” #the whole house in nebraska song UGH #the outro of hard times i am tired of you still tied to me bleeding whenever you want too tired to move to tired to leave #american teenager gracie's cover i love you so so so so much i do it for daddy and i do it for dale i am doing what i want DAMN i am doing #it well #ptolemaea that stop scream i am the face of love's rage blessed be the daughters of cain bound to suffering eternal through sins of their #fathers commited long before their conception that whole outro in general #i tried to be good am i no good? am i no good? am i no good?....i just wanted to be yours? am i yours? am i yours?...if i am turning in you #stomach and making you feel sick am i making you feel sick? am i making you feel sick? am i making you feel sick? is just SO AGH #also god loves you but not enough to save you I FORGIVE IT ALL AS IT COMES BACK TO ME #we know how it goes the more it hurts the less it shows but i feel like they all know and that's why i can never come back home and i spent #my life watching it go by from the sidelines and god i have tried but i think it's about time i put up a fight #and the instrumental songs their production is so so good #anyways yeah now i feel better if anyone is reading till here go listen to it thanks <3 #it's great for people with family issues #v.txt

[gentleman-todd]

[ source: (S2) Ep.100 - Enough (Part 1) ]

I’m sorry, but why do we keep continuing to act as if Jason was out on the streets jacking tires because he felt like it?

Why frame this as Jason just being an angry kid doing angry kid things because he’s parentless (or powerless and lashing out or whatever) when he was stealing the tires off the batmobile so he could feed himself because he was disadvantaged - ie: homeless. He was fucking homeless - ?

I’m probably nitpicking, but I don’t give a shit. Also, the narrative that Bruce is who “made” Jason a good person “against all the odds” is such bullshit.

#I’m TRYING to enjoy myself and turn my brain off goddamnit #why am I thinking now about how tone deaf (?) this comes off as #jason todd #baby jay #jason todd wfa #wfa #batman: wayne family adventures #wayne family adventures #+w #thoughts #the bitch speaks• #this is wtf people mean when they say that for all wfa’s cuteness that it still exasperates all the issues that #plague the main continuity comics #homeless -/= criminal or delinquent #like the throughline of the story is great! and I love seeing Steph and Jay interacting and bonding #(great by wfa standards) #but the rich man savior thing is…irritating as fuck #anti wfa #just to be safe #anti wayne family adventures

[transboysokka]

me watching charles sun [spoiler] 30 people at a [spoiler] : i could fix him

#LISTEN this show is great for people who: #have a Fave Character Type of tragic oldest child burdened by responsibility to the point of having major issues #love general character depth and family dynamics #love family stories in general #love the character dynamics of season 1 of supernatural lmfao #love asian/taiwanese culture #love action #love attractive male actors #love michelle yeoh #if any of these apply to u then u should #watch the brothers sun on netflix #the brothers sun

[papyrus-in-places-he-shouldnt-be]

Papyrus shouldn't in therapy

Because he should be okay!

#Papyrus was just too busy in France to post but I'm back! #Ok OP here. I couldn't post because of my poor mental health state #and fanily issues I also got busy running a tournament and stuff so I just took a big break. I will try to post every day drom now on if #I remember to do so haha! I have ADHD so umm... Wish me luck remembering 😂 #I'm glad to see people are still supporting this! #Papyrus will come back from therapy soon! #Even Papyrus needs help 🌼 #*family (I wrote 'fanily') #therapy #papyrus in places he shouldn't be #papyrus #papyrus undertale #undertale #undertale papyrus #the great papyrus #*from. no 'drom' #excuse my poor spelling I write too fast

[theygender]

I love being T4T. My gf has been on estrogen for a couple weeks now and she's been having a rough time with her mood so I'm teaching her about the ancient art of soaking in a bubble bath with a little drink to sip while watching shows on your laptop

#pro-tip for any girls newly on E. this is The Cure for PMS #(which accurately describes what youre going through btw) #other great cures include putting on nice smelling lotion and fuzzy socks and wrapping yourself in a blanket burrito/nest #also eating lots of chocolate or other sweets and drinking your favorite caffeinated beverages #my mom used to always put on lotion and fuzzy socks and drink dr pepper and eat chocolate #my cousin likes to watch netflix in the bath with wine and then get in a blanket burrito with her favorite lemonade tea #if youve got someone to take care of you then you dont even have to come out of the burrito. you can just ask them to bring you things #all of these methods help a lot. we're experts on this you can trust me (family of people with endometriosis) #also if youre having headaches and bloating and stomach pain you might try midol (generic works fine) #it has acetaminophen for pain + caffeine for headaches (like excedrin) + antihistamine for bloating #also to clarify: i said girls newly on E only bc i figured girls who have been on it for a while might have already figured this stuff out #but PMS is by no means exclusive to transfems who have newly started on E #many transfems have reported getting PMS symptoms and even cramps on a monthly basis after being on estrogen for a while #this is bc after a while on E your body can start naturally making more estrogen and this can come with its own hormone cycle #and as a result you can essentially get all of the symptoms of a period just without the actual bleeding #(this can include cramps bc even in cis women the signals for the muscle spasms can sometimes get misdirected to nearby organs— #unfortunately causing stomach issues as well) #so if anyone out there happens to not already know this information and youve been feeling like shit periodically for seemingly no reason #now you know 😅 #its your period #rambling

[lhrry]

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#aotv spoilers #ok you’re asking for my opinions let’s do it #i love louis!!!! im so proud of him and im so happy i got to watch him on his journey for so long and can’t wait for what’s to come for him #and i think my love for him and for his music and for my time in the fandím and for one d etc is what makes this a good watch and why i #liked it because otherwise i have my reservations to the movie and im not going to get into the babygate stuff #apart from the fact that louis trying to get freddie to hug him was extremely awkward and ive never seen less organic thing than the beach #scene and i find it funny they tried to push that as organic so hard #my issue is that it just had a potential to be a much better film is all sksmsk #it is good but it feels a bit rushed and kind of cheap in some ways and i get that’s the style of these biopics sometimes but #like it was such a shame the bg music was not really gold and was always exaggeratedly emotional because it made it cheesy and cheap and #kind of forced #i think it would have a great potential to get many people to say wow this is a strong talented guy and i think it is a great intro but i #think they undersold the movie so it’s not going to have a chance to reach an audience much wider than his current fanbase which is a shame #for his current fanbase it is a solidification and reiteration of his promo season and it is very clear where they want louis to stand and #what they want his image to be like and i think it’s absolutely amazing how they managed to show his growth as an artist and as a human and #and place him in a position where he’s now confident and secure and ready to embark on a new journey etc. although for the fans there’s #nothing new there and i think it’s worth considering how exactly they’re portraying and that they completely left out his relationships #aside from his family and the band #i think it’s important that it was noted he was undersestimated and pushed down and i think they made obvious how much he’s worked on #himself #i think it’s kinda clear they’re using it as a faith in the future promo with the new songs even though the doc ends with the end of the #tour #i think it’s interesting how many rainbow flags they chose to include without addressing the way his shows and fanbase look at all because #if i were from Gp id wonder what’s up with that esp when he only acknowledged the kmm project again #generally i think it’s a good watch that’s very transparent in what it’s trying to do for louis promo and image wise and it doesn’t tell #you anything new but it reminds you why you love this man so much while also leaving you a bit disappointed because this had a much #greater cinematic potential and a lot of it feels either rushed or underfinanced or forced and that’s a shame

[beggingwolf]

no but seriously whomst will brainstorm this enemies to lovers dramatic fantasy world magic/Great Houses drama with interrupted breeding programs and also probably a/b/o because I want it and even possibly bitching

#my issue is I can't decide who the failed prophet/revolutionary is gonna be #like on the one hand it should be sid because he's the golden boy/chosen one/etc etc #and he'd be the fervent child of god questing to free the people etc. etc. #but on the other hand I also can see charismatic zhenya as the one who was leading the underclass to revolution and bucking fate #and storming the enemy gates and trying to reach freedom...... before sidney/sidney's House capturing him and reinforcing the Plans #that were to take place.... #I think my issue is I like sid for the boy revoutionary character (this is the paul to be clear lol) #but I'm not 100% sold on geno/geno's house(family) being the ones to buy into the mystical breeding program/Grand Plan Of Fate that says #that sid and geno need to breed to bring about the next great one or whatever you know? #so to me that means I should go with geno as the failed captured prophet and sid as the son of the Evil House #but uuuuugh I don't know #liasan al ghaib help me lol

[celery505]

Series 4/5 was a weird time for Rimmer its like the writers suddenly decided he wasn’t traumatised enough and accidentally added too much.

#that’s why they’re great series’ too tbf #he really went from just a silly guy with family issues whos a bit of a git because he prioritises work #to someone who went through the worst amount of mental pain imaginable in a short amount of time #no wonder he’s a dick #also I headcanon that Rimmer was still processing the existence of ace #which caused him to do what happened in meltdown #because he wanted to “save” them #but he knows ace was slightly reckless and just didn’t pull it off right #meaning people died #and he assumed that always happens for ace so it’s all good #smeghead #red dwarf #arnold rimmer

[buysomecheese]

I forget how simply I can fall into addictive habits and I forget how many things this can be applied to. I forget how much physical contact is compared to a drug and I forget how accurate that comparison often is.

#I have spent like >6 hours at a close friend's house every weekend since like mid-August #and I end up holding him Often it's usually a Fair Amount of physical contact #so I usually feel great on Monday and by Thursday I kinda want to punch people who aren't part of That Group Of Five #it's an issue! there are so many people I love at school but if I don't get adequate exercise during week or physical contact over weekends #-I turn into a bit of an asshole (this week was worse I had my period for the first time in like forever) #like by Wednesday I'm planning the weekend figuring out how to get my fix of holding him and hearing everyone laugh #because otherwise I'll go insane! #anyways I need to address my crush on him with him this weekend because I'll explode if I don't. #and we're going to the aquarium in a bigger group than usual if even one thing goes wrong I'm killing. #like if the person I Do Not Like says something out of line? gone. #but I think I'm gonna Converse on Saturday and aquarium is Sunday so hopefully we'll figure something out idk #NEVER HAVE I DONE DRUGS OR DRANK ALCOHOL addiction runs in my extended family + sh/disordered eating habits can be considered addictions- #-depending on severity and how it affects someone

[tj-crochets]

In response to the gravel thing, big wheels are the only thing that's gonna work in gravel. Little wheels tend to get stuck, which is why that all terrain rollater that the other anon shared had such big back wheels.

In terms of people not being jerks about it, i think that a rollator (like one of the reds ones with the solid wheels) is the one that's least likely to have people being jerks about it.

Also, In my experience, making it look like it's for a young person (like if you put stickers and stuff all over it like you were talking about doing), it will make it very clear it's yours and make you seem 'inspirational' to ignorant people rather than anger inducing.

When I used one of my grandfather's old canes when I was 13, random people, particularly old people, got very mad at me and told me that 'i was so young, i should enjoy it, not be using a cane.'

But when I got a new child-sized pink cane and put lisa frank stickers and chibi cephalopod stickers on it and got a little sparkly tassel on the wriststrap, all of a sudden I was 'so brave' and they were 'so proud of me.'

Thanks! I think I'm probably going to end up with one that can't really do gravel, but if it can handle grass and occasionally like dirt paths I think it'll work out? As much as I'd like to do the whole picnics in the park thing, realistically I'm going to use it most often in like grocery stores and stuff like that And oof, I never really thought of that as the trade off, but it is a really good suggestion. I was going to put stickers on it anyway (because I can and also why not lol) but making it look obviously mine instead of my dad's will probably help a lot. I've only had people call me brave or inspirational for like...existing with health issues a few times? And it was uncomfortable and weird every time! but honestly less disruptive to my day than the angry people I got the "you're too young, enjoy life while you can" thing too!! I was in a rented wheelchair at the state fair because I'd just gotten through with a full month of bedrest from having a very bad case of mono and my resting heart rate would not come down from the 140s! Same hat! But like, terrible same hat, sorry you had to deal with it. There should be a thing for same hat, but the hat was bad lol

#ask away! #I have lucked out in that mostly people in my life haven't been jerks about my health issues #and my friends and like half my immediate family are great about it! #but yikes the people that are awful about it are really awful #I no longer talk to one of my high school friends because he told me I was only disabled if I thought of myself as disabled #and I was like...no I'm pretty sure it's the heart condition making me disabled #and he got mad at me! for being negative!!! #like dude acknowledging my disability isn't being negative it's being realistic #like using mobility aids isn't negative #whatever rollator/transport chair I get will mean I can go out on bad days instead of not being able to leave my house #and that will open up my world so much #once I had a triage nurse tell me I was so brave for living with all my allergies #that was confusing. like...not really my choice to have the allergies? but thanks I guess????? lol

[kelpiemomma]

Melli in the gear station family au is like that one lovingly overbearing family member who comes to see you at your job and tell you that you're doing a great job, except he needs an excuse to tell Akari & Rei their doing a great job so part of his getting lost is intentional and part of it is genuinely accidental (hc he has an absolutely terrible sense of direction and gets lost in a straight line, Zoro from one piece style) so when they find him and help him he's like "you two are SO GOOD at your jobs, the BEST employees here, honestly" and like half of the ten most recent gear station reviews are from Melli praising Akari and Rei.

Ingo and Emmet ask them if he needs to be banned from the subway and the younger twins are like "no, he's fine. Embarrassing but he means well and it's all good." (They have a hunch that Melli Knows Them which is why the kids are fine with hanging around him and helping him, but also all three of them are so at ease with each other that they had to ask just to Make Sure everything was fine even though they were Pretty Sure there was no issue)

#pla akari #PLA Rei #Warden melli #Gear station family au #Melli is like. 4-5 years older than the twins so they've also been p close #They're cousins but they've spent so much time together he may as well be their older brother #He helped change their diapers. Poorly. But he did. (He brings that up when he wants to tease them) #The gear station crew is initially suspicious of him (why is this Unknown Man being so friendly towards the kiddos?) #Until Melli was intentionally overly obnoxious one day to a commuter who'd been giving the twins a hard time #Approached the person to talk LOUDLY about his own hair and treating his hair stylist so good bc he's so greatful for their hard work #Can you IMAGINE bring on your feet all day and having to deal with assholes who think they can do your job??? #Or who get upset when one little thing goes wrong? That's why MELLI is ALWAYS so thankful to his hairstylist and doesn't give them shit #Esp when the hairstylist is running late or dealing with some sort of UNEXPECTED PROBLEM that they're WORKING ON FIXING #Obv Melli can wait a lil bit!!! Bc his hairstylist is a person too!!! And he certainly couldn't do their job!!! #And then he 'gets on the phone's and starts talking about how he's so grateful that people are SO PATIENT when there's an issue that #Employees can't immediately solve. Can you imagine being the kind of asshole that acts like a machine's fault that causes a delay #Has been intentionally done by the employees? Purely to inconvenience them??? #While he's saying this he's making eye contact with the asshole commuter who squirms and eventually goes to apologize for being so short #And grumpy w the twins. And the gear station crew is like. 'ah. This man is One Of Us.'

[solvicrafts]

What gets me about certain people being so fucking pissy about Bob not writing much about Eilistraee (until the last fucking trilogy where EIlistraeans featured heavily) is that

a) Bob basically built drow culture up from almost nothing, and Eilistraee came after he started writing Drizzt

b) no you guys really don't understand. I own the first 4 modules drow appeared in. There's... not much there. And it hasn't aged well.

c) and the Big One: he has a specific vision for his specific characters when it comes to the narrative he wants to explore, from sexual abuse to religious trauma, both of which are fucking complicated and for most people just switching deities isn't enough to fix that.

I have religious trauma that I still struggle with to this day and probably will for the rest of my life to some extent, and it's fundamentally different in nature from what most people would probably expect, and the thing is even though I am happily polytheistic and very enthusiastically into it, I still struggle a lot with certain things because every time I get into my religious practice I have to actively force myself into (or out of) certain things because my whole relationship to religion and spirituality is complicated and messy.

It would be easy and frankly incredibly superficial for Bob to decide to just have them all convert to half-assed Neowiccan ~woo~ drow Jesus Eilistraee to *~*save their souls*~* and call it a day

BUT HE DIDN'T DO THAT

Partly because she wasn't his creation and other authors were writing her at the time so he really couldn't, and partly because it's a shitty message to send.

Sometimes people benefit from converting to a new religion or following a new deity. Sometimes people don't.

I benefited from gradually converting to my religion, but it's come with a whole different set of complications and hasn't been a smooth journey for me.

Just going from extensive religious trauma to switching deities does not fix your problems, and for a lot of people it realistically can make them much worse.

but also

you don't have to be saved by a deity in order to have value as a person

#I fucking WAS saved by a deity and while I'm grateful it wasn't an easy ride #and in fact the way certain people in my family treated me was very emotionally abusive #to this fucking day on a journey that's taken me 19 years I STILL have issues with this whole thing #there are some people I may never speak to again because of how they treated me over this #for a Lolthite drow I could easily see them struggling with switching to a new deity especially one like Eilistraee or Vhaeraun #who are NOT seen very positively at all in the society they were raised in #and for a lot of people the fear of being found out and punished is more than enough to prevent them from seeking out a new deity #to say nothing of the already existing religious trauma that would also just as likely make someone hesitate to embrace a new religion #and speaking AS a religious person I do not at all agree with sending the message that traumatize people need to be saved by a god #or by a religious fanatic #my case is extremely unique and while it more or less worked out in the end it was frankly hellish at its worst points #and it cost me a great deal in terms of my relationships with my family and my ability to trust other people #because the way society frames belief in the Greek gods as some distant thing in time like #'haha these people were so STUPID. they believed in gods that turn into swans and stuff' #has absolutely led to a situation where paganism is only cool and okay if it's the woo crystals and sage Neowiccan aesthetic #but actually being a historically based polytheist is conflated with mental illness #and it's damn near impossible to challenge when most modern people have NO understanding of polytheism and take everything literally #as someone who has had to FIGHT just to continue EXISTING as a polytheist I am still FIRMLY against the idea that people NEED religion #in order to have value as people or to heal #yes for SOME people it works. for others it doesn't. AND THAT'S OKAY

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

your tags on parenting make me super emotional <3 that's exactly the kind of parent I want to be one day

Thanks! I feel the same way honestly. I have a lot of opinions about parenting and I can't say that I will be the perfect parent because that doesn't exist. I can't even say that my hypothetical future kid/kids will be perfect because children don't grow in a vacuum. I can only control what I do and say and try to be the best version of myself and hope for the best.

#i often hear people say that involved parenting is too difficult to be realistic or that modeling behavior is too hard #and yeah. yeah it is. it is one of the most difficult things a person can do. but who the fuck has a kid thinking it'll be easy? #kids are hard work and commitment. they should never be something done on a whim. you should never half ass raising a kid #and not to say that people should be perfect all the time or that people shouldn't have 'me' time #its just that i genuinely don't understand people who shove their kid into as many activities as possible to get away from them #or put all their hopes and dreams and expectations on them. if it's so easy and attainable to live up to your expectations as a parent #then do it first. you want your kid to have straight A's? great. show me your report card at that age #im just... kids are just people. and they just want to hang out with their parents and receive love and attention #and anyway ive lost my point im just very passionate about this topic #very passionate #when im older and financially stable I want to foster teenagers i think. i want to be there for them and model healthy adult behavior #and help them make that transition. i want to be that person for them. because everyone needs help and love and family #and honestly? my parents fostered kids my entire life. THEY MODELED THAT BEHAVIOR #i understand that family is not a given. i understand that family is above all else forged. and that applies to everyone #not just found family or fostering. if you don't know your bio child then can you really call yourself family? #family is *forged* regardless of the context. and if it isn't? if you skip that step with your bio kids? well thats a major fucking issue #anyway nothing but respect for my parents who bought groceries for my foster sister when she was out of care. FOR MONTHS #nothing but respect for my parents who took me with them to give my foster sister their old stroller when she needed it #nothing but respect for my parents who take in my old foster brother every weekend to 'babysit' because they know he isnt in a loving house #nothing but respect for my parents who adopted my siblings without a word when they asked #honestly they are why i am who i am today. i was a kid with adhd and learning disabilities who hated school #and now I'm an honors student and getting my doctorate. because they did the academia with me #and im not saying they did my schoolwork. im saying that they assigned books to read over the summer and we would read them as a family #and we would discuss the literary concepts and themes together as a family. i love dissecting media! and thats because of my parents! #it was a family activity! same goes for science and art and music #and coding and history ect ect #anyway im going off on a tangent but basically what im saying is that my parents didn't ship me off to camp every summer #we just did things as a family together. i remember the time and bonding with them. and i modeled that behavior #and not to brag but i think I turned out alright #anyway tangent over!

[bokatan]

9. Do they empathize with non-sentient things (dolls, plants, books…)?

[ prompt ] @w1tchsoup

Yes. I don’t think it’d really be much of a conscious decision for either Mercy or Reed, but they’re both just kind of like that- neither of them would be really aggressive or rough with inanimate objects without an actual reason. Mercy tends to baby her plants a bit more than necessary & somewhat treats them kind of like pets, & Reed has a tendency to hoard junk pick up things he thinks might be useful so they’re not just going to waste and rotting wherever he found them.

#ask games #thank you!💖 #mercy tag #reed tag #they both talk to their animals too btw. in case you needed to know #just something about both of them growing up during the resource wars- they’d both try to avoid being wasteful #im not getting super into it here but kind of referencing how people lived during the depression and WWII #it’s just like. vague thoughts I have. I don’t think I could get into it if I even wanted to honestly lmao #but just like little things that if you think about it you’re like. Oh. #like my great grandma had this issue with trying to save wrapping paper to use later #and my whole damn family has issues with food waste and stockpiling pantries because of her lmao

[a-little-bit-poss]

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#im probably gonna be spending a lot of my life mourning my sisters and my relationship #we were so close but now we dont really talk outside of gatherings #i dunno #we're both living our own lives and it takes two to be distant #theres a lot of things i hate about her and its probably mostly stuff that hits my own insecurities #i used to come to her with all kinds of things #now its like she doesnt respond to my lil reachings out so like i dunno #we work for the same fucking college for fucks sake #im prolly always gonna resent her for applying and moving here without telling me and just having me hear second hand #like yes im not blameless but also like fuck her #i continue to prove i dont need her but also i miss her #we only hurt each other when we do talk #the fact my old coworker reminded me of her so much was probably part of why i hated her so bad #fuck people who think theyre better than me (read people i think are better than me) #my mom called today and thats whats got me thinking like this #im great #people love me #im loved #honestly my familys where i get all my abandonment issues #im better off without all of them but by god if thats gonna stop me from like feeling the ache of their absence like a phantom limb

[torchickentacos]

gonna punt ableists

#had the LEAST fun discussion with my stepdad about food allergies #like ok sorry that other people's accomodations are such a burden for you. sorry your coworker feels like not dying today. you poor baby #and he digs his fucking feet in and has no empathy over disabled issues. whcih like. not great to hear as a disabled person #i'm trying to fix how i deal with conflict but he's reinforcing the responses i'm trying to get rid of #i need to stop seeing everything as a bomb about to go off and i need to stop treating things like a threat i have to fight against #but everything around me is a bomb about to go off and a threat i need to fight against #and he's been such a good thing in my life but he's also just so frustrating to have to deal with #i love having a family that's big and cares about eachother #but it also means there's no way to make distance from one person without distancing from my entire life #pros: they're my everything. cons: they're my everything. #not that i even could if i wanted to BECAUSE I'M FUCKING DISABLED AND NEED ACCOMODATIONS AND HELP.