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eastgaysian · 10 months

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ok i’m new to ur account so i’m genuinely so curious. you used to be a tomgreg enjoyer right? can u share your #story of evolution from enjoyer to hater..?

not a tomgreg hater but i do believe in their beliefs. eh i can talk about it, it's just not very fun lol and is mostly about out-of-fiction fandom or actor stuff, not really the characters themselves

strike 1 is sometime early 2022 i think? people got extremely mad at me for saying i think some tomgreg posts/fics/etc treat shiv in a pretty shitty way by either completely villainizing her as the Evil Bitch Wife or just quietly removing her from the picture, which isn't as overtly misogynistic but still feels very unfair to her character and discounts the importance of tom and shiv's relationship both to tom's character and to his relationship with greg. people continuing to be extremely mad at me for this has been a recurring theme since and left a really bad taste in my mouth wrt tg and posting about it ❤️

strike 2 is that my blog got terminated, which meant not just my succession sideblog but multiple years of my posts and art across blogs that i'd been making since like 2017. what did i get terminated for? i got pissed off that everyone was passing around an article written by a journalist too transphobic for the guardian who was interviewing nick braun and clearly allowing her obsession with greg/tomgreg to overstep professional boundaries. and everyone was just fine with it because 'omg the author is clearly a tomgreg XD' as if it wasn't an incredibly inappropriate and unprofessional way to conduct an interview. the response to the article was disturbing enough wrt displaying how people's opinions on shipping fictional characters influence their views on the real people involved. but then i got reported for pointing out the article was creepy and getting mad, and my blog was deleted. :)

final strike is that i just really can't stand looking at nick braun's face at this point. i completely sincerely and genuinely hope he dies

in a general sense, most of the posts discussion etc surrounding tomgreg are just not interesting to me/don't engage with the aspects of succession or even tom and greg's relationship that i want to talk about. which is fine i'm a hater but it's never that serious it's just Not 4 Me, godspeed, etc. the fact i have a kneejerk unpleasant emotional reaction to 99.99% of tg content is purely a me thing and not a value judgment, but yeah i just don't want to see it LMFAO

#mingbox #it just sucks to have a very real sense that there is a contingent of people - even a small one #who hate your guts enough to continually talk shit about and harrass you for literally no reason👍#leaves a bad taste in your mouth! negative emotional associations even!

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dekarios · 2 months

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as a sera fan, im curious as to what your thoughts are regarding her lines toward krem? /gen

ok if u really want me to talk dragon age on tumblr dot com publicly where anyone who searches their names will see ur gonna have to give me more than that particularly with a character that tends to bring out some of the worst of the fandom

tell me the exact comments you want me to think on and exactly why you want me to. i'm sure this is some "what are ur thoughts on sera being transphobic" but i want to give u time to like. expand ur ask cuz if thats truly the case such a vaguely worded low info ask isn't something i appreciate for such a topic yknow what i mean

dragon age in general has never been a trans friendly series and krem comes across to me as an appeasement like hey look. we dont actually hate trans people :) look we made one :) stop criticising us now!

it is also worth me mentioning i either don't recruit ironbull or i barely interact with him, and thus, the charges. i don't hate krem, but ironbull makes me deeply uncomfortable for personal reasons so there's a very good chance i have missed some sort of dialogue. so the vague ask in that context is extra confusing cuz i googled it and i couldn't even see people talking about sera and krem together

and i also think sera's writer is a lesbophobic ableist cockhead who genuinely hated sera and wrote her with intent for you not to like her, and i feel that's pretty much the general consensus there with sera fans and is the primary reason we say we want to take her out of dragon age and put her in a better series - its not so much dragon age hate (though it is) it's more pointed as 'get her the hell away from bioware'

if this is about sera going "he's a she" at the ball, i cannot outright say that's transphobic because we have absolutely zero context on who that is said at. it could very well be transphobic. it could very much not be. in the context of dragon age where trans people have only just started to exist with any level of respect in the universe, do i think the writers are suddenly all going to be respectful? absolutely not. like i said i think krem is there to appease not to show real change and improvement. with how sera's writer clearly doesn't like her adding another way to justify fans hating her like how he does yknow, also makes sense to me.

did i personally, as a trans person, think sera was transphobic in that moment? not really?? my genuine first thought was it was probably an assassin or a bard or a servant pretending to be a man to get more respect and not just be leered at and seen as a sex object and to get less attention at the ball because dragon age loves to be misogynistic. i was so out of the mindset that bioware cares for trans people at all, or even thinks about them at all, to even add transphobia - my first thought was this is coded in misogyny and the history of "woman pretends to be man" that media still likes to do. lmao

#fray.txt #ask #Anonymous #ask to tag

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unlimitedhorsepower · 9 months

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I made a joke once that makes Ryan seem a little homophobic if u don't consider him automatically LGBT all at once and someone left some tags on that post pointing it out and agreeing and I've been tormented by that ever since.

Tormented by thinking people think Ryan is specifically homophobic or misogynist. Even if you consider him a 100% cishet metrosexual he's cringe and fail at worst!!

Ever since he was created his personality trait has explicitly been "treats everyone equally". He's just insufferable and annoying, not bigoted I swear!!!! That goes against his character bc the point is imo that he seems like the worst guy ever like if you met him you would be like wow look at this megamisogynist rolling in but then you realize that he's not specifically misogynist he just makes you wanna rip ur hair out in general.

He doesn't bother women. He bothers everyone. His worst canon moment is when he gave his number to a waitress and a personal trainer like pls these women are doing their jobs... Albeit other texted him the same evening and Ryan's other skill is insight so one would hope he's not being a problem

On the other hand he equally bothered Yuri at work in the manga by being like hi here's my gift and literally shows up at Barnaby'a door in that one audio drama even tho Barnaby told him he's busy

To me Ryan is the person who didn't think too hard about anything in his life and in fact actively avoids it so he isn't totally sure gay people are real but he's more concerned whether the gays are attracted to him or not bc they better be.

Ryan slept with a girl with a dick and brought this up to Nathan who was about to euthanize him but he was just confused how come she was wearing a dress without a bulge. Like where was the dick before that. He's so distraught like do women have secret magical powers. Sometimes he would like to seem like his cock is less fat too, so how come... Explain that Nathan. Where do the balls go

Tormented by Ryan and Nathan not hanging out more. They love fashion and vehicles and muscles etc. Nathan needs to take Ryan to a gay bar so bad so that one tweet can come true, the one that goes "white boy shocks bartender by ordering in fluent LGBT". See my vision???? TNB hates women and gay ppl too much OK but in a better world .

#ryans cock is too fat to tuck comfortably. hes distraught about that too #i hate doctors appointments so much btw i cant believe i have one tomorrow. set me free #ive bedb awake for too long too jfc i regret everything. im making stress te t posts #gabriels ramblings

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bloodyserratus · 6 months

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I hope this is ok, but you asked what kinks nanami might be shy about and I really think maybe voyeurism? Like not quite stalking, but definitely observing and getting off on how it feels like he's not supposed to/it's intimate and 'for him only'. But if that's too extreme or unsettling, I think probably aprons or seeing his partner work in the kitchen. Very domestic, but he's afraid to come across as misogynistic so he isn't forthcoming about it.

YES! omg thank you for sending!!! i could kiss u (with ur consent)

ok loooove voyeurism, i think that fits into my current plot & concept super well. i also fucking ADORE the idea of nanami being into like...a cute little house spouse role play. i love the conflict of nanami wanting this BADLY but being reluctant to share at first.

eeep thank you again for sending! i def see these both being worked into my fic

#asked & answered #nanami thots #nanami kento

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yuukei-yikes · 1 year

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i’m so curious to hear more about how the haruka and shintaro relationship develops post str. bc like there’s konoha and also the mess with shinaya and shintaro and takanes messed up dynamic and i just read your thing about how takane and shintaros friendship plays out and like… i’m so curious how or if haruka and shintaro ever get back to a good place and like how much do they even interact outside the quartet and can they even have a relationship separate from takane

YEAHYEAHYEAH WOOOO WOOOO guess what. this one also got too long💗 whatever. deal with it

i think haruka and shintaro are rly quick to go back to their old dynamic!!! but erm. ok here's the thing.

SORRY TO GET ALL ANNOYING ABT THIS AGAIN i answered this in an ask a few weeks ago BUT i am gonna repeat. it pisses me off SOOOOO MUCH that shintaro is totally normal to haruka and just a dickhead to ayano&takane. i accidentally went on a rant abt the misogynistic writing in shintaro/in general lollll and i might do it again💗 i will do it again. sorry, because when it comes to haruka & shintaro's dynamic this is SO difficult for me to get past i just can't do it so HERE I GO AGAIN:

because it pisses me off too that haruka just doesn't say anything. i WILL get to ur question i will get to haruka&shintaro post str about the whole shinaya and codependent shintaka shitshow but i need u to hear me out for a second first. YES I KNOW IM REPEATING MYSELF WHATEVER

so i know haruka not saying anything and doing stuff like Lying to takane abt hanging out with shintaro bc he knows she hates him etcetc is rather like. haruka's like theyre both my friends i hate they can't get along :( and i know its written this way because writer doesn't see the issue in question in the first place. like i said i hate how takane is always put at the level of shintaro as if she isn't defending herself. ayano just lets shintaro walk all over her + haruka is either oblivious or too spineless to say anything and takane's fighting for her life LOL like she's not stupid she knows why shintaro is a dick to her. and like damn takane was SO nice to shintaro when she first meets him and shintaro is the one to start their shitty dynamic in the hs days because he decided he hated her right off the bat without even knowing who she was. he just stood in a 2 or 3 hour line to whine abt ohh u think ur such a big shot because all these ppl think ur cool and the funny thing is that takane AT NO POINT EVER thinks this and is the total opposite, she was crying her eyes out the whole day at being exposed and having all these people here. shintaro didnt know shit. like truly what is the reason he did this other than AUUGGHH GIRLS DONT PLAY VIDEOGAMES😡😡😡 HES SO RIDICULOUS Like if he had been mean to haruka too later, I'd let it pass it'd be like ok yeah ig shintaro's wholeheartedly just a fucking asshole and who knows what his fucking problem is but LITERALLY IN THE SAME HOUR shintaro's like haruka i can teach you how to play videogames and be ur best friend lets kiss on the mouth like girl. again gay not only bc i like men but bc i hate women👍or whatever. hs shintaro i fucking hate you youre SO annoying. there is NO OTHER REASON for the treatment💗 and takane sees it and ayano & haruka either see it and dont say anything or are oblivious. ayano bc she's too awooga over shintaro and haruka because (cracks knuckles) care for internalized misogyny. sorry i know he's better than this but lollllll. either haruka is oblivious which HE IS NOT because haruka is a dumbass but in his pov he shows again and again how perceptive he is to the ppl around him. he's just a fucking spineless loser. he doesn't say anything to shintaro because then maybe shintaro will think he's lame. maybe he did say something to shintaro and shintaro was like erm whatever dude lol and haruka's like haha. yeah forget i said anything lol(sweating) but haruka isnt stupid enough not to consider why shintaro is just a dickhead to takane for no reason. sorry seriously what on earth was going thru jin's mind to write shintaro and takane's meeting like THAT 😭😭😭

yes i know theyre fictional characters and this is one of those things i could truly just ignore because it is the fault of the writer not of the, again, FICTIONAL CHARACTERS, and i do this with many things in kagepro but HERE specifically. i can't bring myself to ignore it and i dont wanna. idk, it just bothers me lol because it's an entire dynamic. you're telling me shintaro and takane had that relationship for a over a year at school and haruka just watched the whole time and didnt say anything??? he still went to be buddies with shintaro when he walked in and said all that awful shit to takane first meeting?? yeah girl im holding him accountable (as a character)idgaf. LOL!!! again erm. reminder this is written. im mad abt the sexist writing not The characters who are not real people ok? ok.

sorry maybe im butthurt because im afab🤨and reading this kinda thing is like.i wanna throw up and i get all intense. but imagine being in takane's place and ur guy friend who u think is good is like. just letting the misogynistic asshole in the friend group say shit because its not directly affecting him and ur like wow. ok then. hehe takane getting mad at haruka for always being like aw guys dont fight like she's not defending herself LOLLLL ok sorry ill stopill stop.

.........getting to the actual question. clearly i have my thoughts abt their dynamic. i think.. sorry, i just can't get past shintaro&takane's relationship in general to be able to think abt haruka&shintaro's. when i read ur ask i was like well ofc they have a relationship separate of takane!!! they're bestest friends!!! BUT... when i really think abt it... maybe not LMAOO like yeah maybe im just super like 💗💗takane💗💗 and hate the misogyny too much. and i think shintaro and ene/takane's relationship is SO titular to kagerou project that its impossible for me to ignore it??

i think generally in post str since shintaro is glued at the hip with takane who in return is also glued at the hip to haruka ofc it's never just Them two alone and takane is in fact in the middle. haruka loves hanging out with shintaro though and he loves him!! he loves when he's around he loves hanging out!! he's also excited abt shintaro and takane being besties bc at first he's like YES DREAM TEAM💥💥💥(PERCEIVES THE HORRORS) WAIT A SECOND..

i think since haruka is the one slowly talking to takane abt their codependency and etc he slowly grows to sort of. be annoyed?? at some of shintaro's behavior. because haruka tries talking to him about it the same he talks about it to takane! but while takane's all like "ummm nahhh whaaa no way ermm (holds head) OK MAYBE..." shintaro's like U THINK IM GONNA STEAL UR GIRLFRIEND UR SO FUNNY LOOOOOL and haruka's like 😐THATS NOT WHAT IM SAYING.

but like with ayano, haruka is kind of scary to shintaro. not as much as ayano, bc with her there's the whole thing abt yaki and stuff but haruka is also like. WOW he's alive huh. and also, again, shintaro is sorta pissed off at harutaka as a whole LOL 1. he's kinda down bad for both of them 2. is INSANELY jealous of their healthy & communicative & non destructive relationship in contrast to whatever the fuck he's doing with ayano. LOL!! from shintaro's perspective (subconsciously i cant stress it enough. all the shit he's doing he's rly not. on the loop(LOOL!!!)about the fact he is doing it he's rly not doing it on purpose) its comforting to know that bc of their codependency(that hes also in denial about) takane is as distanced from haruka as he is from ayano, like both their relationships suffer for it so it HAS to be normal right??

so when haruka approaches him abt it shintaro is kind of annoyed. subconsciously. at first he's like ohhh yeah of course you wanna spend time alone with ur girlfriend lol sorry man get some 👍 and haruka's like well that's not the only thing?? it's not so much about me as it is about you and takane bc this is clearly a rly bad dynamic for u guys and i think ur kind of enabling her fears and takane is really overdue in facing her reality and its not helping her to cling on u like this

actually, i think haruka is able to articulate it better to shintaro than to takane bc with takane he's terrified she'll dump him over it. because he is very worried specifically about her mental state and how she's using shintaro as a means to STILL not face her problems and the fact she is alive. but if he were to say this to her face takane would. yeah she'd freak out a lil bit so while he still does it little by little, he thinks talking directly to shintaro should be ok right!! he'll understand where he's coming from, because takane was and is dedicating her existence to shintaro for a sense of purpose while shintaro...what's shintaro's problem, haruka wonders. he acts annoyed but still stays by her. obviously he's just used to her. but it's not as extreme as it is with takane since she's DEDICATED so maybe he will hear him out!

DEAD WRONG shintaro keeps talking like omg haruka ur being just like ayano lmaooo all jealous over me and takane u guys are so funny. shintaro's so delighted he's like THANK GOD ayano and i are normal then, haruka is doing the same as her!! but haruka insists its really not so much abt jealousy at all he's just genuinely worried for both shintaro & takane. and probably grows a little annoyed over shintaro's insistence of him being jealous and refusing to listen LOL haruka: u and takane share a while understandable, deeply destructive relationship u cope mindlessly with... shintaro: u just wanna make out with her and ur mad im around :3

i think haruka even trusts shintaro with why he's telling him all this and why he struggles talking abt it to takane. so shintaro is VERY aware of haruka's delicate self worth and yeah takane too but shintaro also knows in detail abt haruka struggling to feel good enough for her and all that shit. and he feels kinda good abt it LOL shintaro's like... he kinda feels like he can have haruka under control like this. SUBCONSCIOUSLY OF COURSE AGAIN shintaro isnt a manipulative mastermind he's just GOING THRU IT.

basically haruka and shintaro do kinda have their old dynamic but now there's all this stuff abt takane. shintaro specifically keeps trying to default to their old dynamic but that's difficult bc haruka is REALLY living the moment while shintaro is still stuck in all these emotions pulling him back. so of course haruka's eq freaks him out a bit. and again pisses him the hell off that haruka and takane seem so good together while he's fighting for his life with ayano.

so when shintaro is at his wits end and hits on takane (anyone reading this out of context to my other post the anon is referring to, im sorry) it REALLY crashes down. ofc i talked abt takane's side bc that's what it was about but only briefly abt haruka. i think. i think haruka is overdue sending shintaro to hell too. from being such an asshole to both ayano and takane in highschool all the way to his fucked up relationships with both even now post str. i think that's also a nice way for haruka to step up and stop being so spineless. srry i keep calling him this but its such a perfect word to describe him. haruka is so self conscious abt everything his self confidence is so nonexistent and that holds him back from everything but i think the same way everyone is breaking by now he also has his Moment.

like haruka KNOWS shintaro is dealing with a lot. of course he knows. so haruka isnt mean about it, he doesnt yell at him about it like takane does. i think haruka just kinda. grimaces and says he's really disappointed in him. and shintaro's like GOD ID RATHER YOU PUNCH ME IN THE FACE but haruka is just silent and thats so so so much worse. shintaro keeps begging him to just punch him and haruka's like why?? and shintaro's like cuz im ur bro and i hit on ur girl :((((( and haruka's like OHHH MY GOD. DO U EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON RN DO U HEAR HOW DEMEANING IT IS TO REDUCE IT TO JUST THAT?? ITS NOT HS CRUSH STUFF.... UR DESTROYING ALL UR RELATIONSHIPS MY MAN. shintaro's like a.

so hes like WELL...IM JUST...SORRY... LIKE I WASNT THINKING... and haruka's like apologize to TAKANE not ONLY me!! apologize to ayano!!where are THEIR apologies!! what's the matter with you!! i know ur hurting but ALL OF US are, why do u get a pass to act this way!! just stop!!!!

haruka doesn't say much else but i think only that is enough to send shintaro spiraling down + all the other stuff. he's like speedrunning destroying all his relationships its so funny honestly. and i think haruka is the one to point it out to him. he says he HAS been telling him and didnt listen and he's driven it to a point where even he needs a break from him and doesnt really wanna see him rn. shintaro's like 😐meltdown style. haruka's like Closes door on ur face cutely💗

sorry i kinda talked abt so much other stuff here but yeah. 💗👍

#ask tag #headcanons #ayashin divorce

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menalez · 2 years

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did you see the homophobic rants sailor-moon-rage posted about lesbians? :/ everyday a radfem pulls her homophobic mask off and like i can't be mad at anyone who's had enough. this is one of the worst. she called lesbians a "niche" and that of course the average radfem is homophobic and the lesbians don't have the right to be like "schoolyard bullies" for homophobia. nor have i ever seen a lesbian call a woman a "cum guzzler" but it gets even worse...she even said gay oppression isn't that bad because gays and bis have never been enslaved like poc for ssa.

they really really hate us and think we deserve to suffer and homophobia is just a mild inconvenience because "heterosexual women aren't bad as men" and don't "rape or commit violence against lesbians" i feel pretty done with radfems. almost as shitty and delusional libfems and conservatives with their vitriol for gay women.

yeah i checked after you sent me this. i expected worse when reading what you wrote but it was still really questionable to me. i don’t like how radblr’s response to this has been one of the following: 1. lesbians are evil and misogynistic and all like to degrade other women 2. homophobia isn’t that bad and if u take issue with it then ur pathetic 3. heterophobia is real and OSA is very persecuted and hated 4. actually there’s nothing with calling women terms like dick sucker because ummm they do suck dick so it’s just the truth!!!

all 4 takes are terrible and all are either misogynistic or homophobic. i wish people would stop justifying one while insulting another … they’re all bad and none should be acceptable to any woman on here. i don’t think you’ll be the first to be sick of radfems and give up on radfeminism after this… they’ve been great at accommodating and fighting for the most privileged of women but absolutely terrible in doing the same for minority women. woc, immigrant women, lesbians, disabled women, etc .. none have actually been fought for well on radblr but you won’t struggle to find posts basically saying “it’s ok to be straight! it’s ok to be white!” on here :/ it’s confusing to me bc we can oppose all hatred of women, including privileged women, while also fighting for minority women… but i only see the hatred of privileged women opposed and the hatred of minority women belittled constantly.

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butch-reidentified · 2 years

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hello, i love u and ur energy. i wanted to ask (after having some ... not so easy or pain free experiences recently) how we as women can work on not internalising mens behaviour (specifically romantically/sexually) i tend to take their "rejection" and dismissal or lack of want for me so personally. i know objectively what the truth is but emotionally i struggle to stick to the facts. i don't know how to explain it really but i hooked up w a guy i rlly liked and i wanted to at the time, it was rlly fun and i don't regret it but it's different now and i'm internalising this as "there's something wrong with me" "i don't have XYZ" "it's because of this" "i shouldn't have done this" "i shouldn't have slept w him - i should have waited" "he'd like me more if" would also like to say i do not date or sleep with men easily. so perhaps it feels worse bc of that and bc (quite rightly) it takes a while for me to like a man let alone sleep with him. but i want to be able to just dust myself off and be like ok and? ur just a man and ur behaviours aren't about me (bc i know i'm a wonderful woman with lots to offer so wtf!!!!!) 😭😭😭😭😭😭

First of all I am SO sorry I left this in my asks box for so long. Idek how long it's been at this point, but definitely a while. I've been wildly wildly busy lately between interpersonal stuff in my friend group, my wedding, health issues, home reno projects, and starting a business with my wife, to name a few things. And I honestly didn't feel like i had a good answer. I hope you get to see this reply, but I know by now you may not. I apologize again for leaving you hanging 💙

To be totally honest, this sounds like a pattern of thoughts and core beliefs that doing some regular, at-home CBT exercises could help with. There are lots of great CBT workbooks and such available online to help you work on it at home on your own time, without relying on a therapist.

I naturally am the type of person who is easily able to rewire my thought processes & to control my emotional responses to things. It helps that as soon as I realize an emotion is illogical, it stops. So what you said about the way you know the truth that these men don't matter and how they act or treat you didn't matter, but you still FEEL this way.. idk what specific advice to give since I work super differently from you in this area.

Why do you think you do this? Is it just a result of femsoc/living in such a misogynistic world? Or can you point out any prior experiences that maybe contributed to/reinforced this belief and behavior for you? If so, working through and processing those may also help you break yourself free of this mentality.

Anyone have any input on this? Sorry mine probably isn't terribly helpful :/ best of luck in dealing with this, Anon

#mine #ask #anon #anon ask #radblr #radfems do touch #radfems please interact

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hoediaz · 2 years

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also btw? idc what your personal reasoning is for hating lucy but i have seen TOO many people call lucy a dirty whore home wrecker with my own two eyes for anyone to argue against the fact that SOME lucy haters are misogynists

#like ok if ur not a misogynist then this isn't about you #but misogynistic lucy haters DO exist you cannot be dense enough to think that isn't the case #i STILL have 104930 unanswered asks in my inbox being vile about lucy after 5x11 #and before ANYONE says 'it's actually the writers that are misogynists for introducing her like that not us'#then why didn't any of the 'lucy's a whore' messages talk about the writers?#and why aren't y'all happy now that she has a role outside of buck?#like hating lucy isn't the problem (well) it's the way some -- SOMEEEEE -- people talk themselves in circles #and make it clear that she can't win #either she sucks bc she's just a love interest or she sucks bc she has a storyline of her own #she sucks bc she's intruding on the 118 family or she sucks because she feels like she doesn't fit in #like some of y'all will hate her no matter what and it's transparent #so yeah SOME lucy haters are misogynists #if that's not you then cool like have a nice day? but you can't really sit here and tell me that NO ONE that hates lucy #is just a misogynist #anyway #when this season is over and y'all understand the Vision i will know peace #fandom discourse #txt

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haunted-catboy · 2 years

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Wait I've been following u for a while but I saw the post about hyperfemininity and now I'm worried ur a misogynist because you were offended not because someone thinks bimbofication isnt terrible for women but because men aren't included too? Wtf bro? Are you ok?

Hi! If you're literally that worried about me being a mysoginist, even after following me for a while, you're free to unfollow if you really think it's best for you! I won't stop you! In fact, if that's your takeaway from my post, maybe it's best! But here's the thing:

1. I literally didn't say that. I wasn't offended because men weren't included, I was suspicious of OPs intentions because "women & nonmen" is literally Terf speak. Non-binary people have said, repeatedly, that it's shitty to categorize them that way & that it's a terf dogwhistle. The main crux of my thing isn't "why aren't men included" it's "hey it's sus that this person is using TERF speak to say that feminity is freeing, especially since TERFs are famously shit to trans women (both GC & GNC alike) & cis GNC women". My point is that I fucking hate TERFs.

2. What I literally did say, in a reblog of the same post, that I personally dont feel comfortable with bimbofication as an aesthetic. I don't agree that it is "a freeing celebration of hyperfeminity for all women & nonmen" for everyone, given its history as an insult & term essentially objectifying women. I just literally said "if it's freeing for you, fine, but don't say it's freeing for *everyone*". However, given that OP used it to talk about hyperfeminity, I didn't dwell too long on the long history of it being used as both a way to objectify women & judging women for being objectified

3. This is literally a minor point, I just said that if it's freeing to celebrate hyperfeminity for any demographic, men should be in there, as men, cis & trans alike, can put in material & significant danger for being feminine in any regard. Thus, OP excluding them is very very suspicious.

I was literally saying that OP sounded like a TERF because they used a term famously used by TERFs, and not judging people for personally identifying with a term even if I feel uncomfortable with it. I'll admit I could've worded my original post better but to be fair to myself, I was writing something off the cuff for basically myself. I wasn't expecting it to make it to Terf tumblr but it seems like they religiously follow the "Terf cw" tag given the notes I've received!

If after "the while" you've followed me, you're seriously worried that I'm a mysoginist, then by all means go! I won't judge you! & Hey, if you're a Terf yourself, block me while you're at it!

#nonmen #am i okay? no! i have had to see terfs in my notifs all night long objecting not to the fact that its shitty to say #'i am going to classify nonbinary people as not man despite their own relationship with gender being None Of My Business #& far more complicated than Simply Not Dude just bc it reinforces a gender binary something that i think is great'#but because they personally hate bimbos!!!!!!!!!!!#like NONE of them have meaningfully argued against the nonmen thing because they AGREE WITH IT #cw terf rhetoric.

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