#myka stauffer

[surelynotshirley]

I am trying to wean myself off Tiktok and back onto Tumblr because I was starting to highkey get addicted but one thing I saw very briefly on my fyp (I was scrolling through it super fast) was a family vlogger basically going "omg I have to make a 4th kid because tiktok wants that kind of content!!" and it was probably jokes + I sincerely hope it was jokes.

Except... That was kind of an issue with mommy vloggers on Youtube as well, wasn't it? I see people who post funny videos of their kids on Tiktok but their main content is sth else. I see people who post about their kids with certain disorders to raise awareness or to share how they help them. And whether you think the kid can consent to those is...not irrelevant, say, but more like, that's not the issue.

Mommy and family vloggers are, in my opinion, a special kind of evil and callousness. To view your family as nothing more than content, and to frame your children's lives or direct them to do certain things in the name of views and revenue, exposing embarrassing childhood experiences or key milestones in their development that should be kept personal... Like, how can you say you love your child when the message you send is your love extends as far as what content they can produce for you

#wafu talks #i really hate family vloggers #they piss me off and thankfully i don't see them recommended to me on youtube #i sometimes see them on tiktok but i just go and block them #i block ppl all the time there because there are so many annoying ppl #people like myka stauffer who adopt kids or pop out kids just because they know #that the pregnancy and firsts that is involved can get a lot of views and engagement #which then translates to revenue... #that's the specific kind of mommy vlogger i mean #ofc and the ones who film their kids even if they don't wanna or can't fully consent #again oh haha funny moment my kid eats a spicy thing is on the fence #but ppl who exclusively just film their kids waiting for them to do sth or setting them up to do sth...they are gross

[mudwerks]

(via Ruby Franke, Popular Parenting YouTuber, Arrested for Alleged Child Abuse)

According to Salt Lake City’s Fox 13, arresting documents describe a child climbing out of a window and running to a neighbor’s home to ask for food and water. The neighbor noticed that the child had duct tape on their wrists and ankles and called the police. Another child was found at the home the first one escaped from, which belongs to Franke’s business partner and therapist Jodi Hildebrandt.

Viewers of “8 Passengers” and investigative vloggers have flagged Franke’s concerning behavior around feeding and withholding food from her children for a long time. In one video, Franke brags about not feeding her kids breakfast until they do their chores, despite them being “literally starving.” In another, Franke explains the reasoning behind not bringing her hungry 6-year-old lunch at school, because it’s actually the kid’s responsibility to pack her own lunch. It’s all deranged.

Why do people that hate kids ever have kids? And why do they have such strong urges to share their evil with others? I guess it’s...ATTENTION and MONEY.

One can’t help but notice the unfortunate pattern of Youtubers or parenting influencers on any platform who’ve compromised their children’s wellbeing. Remember Myka Stauffer, who “rehomed” her adopted child with special needs in 2020? Or the “FamilyofFive” parents, who were convicted of child abuse in 2017 for the elaborate and cruel “pranks” they pulled on their children? The parenting choices these people made are upsetting enough, but their incessant need to capitalize off of them for content at their children’s expense is horrific.

#Ruby Franke #child abuser #youtube idiots #evil people harming kids for views and money

[womanofwords]

Dhar Mann videos backfiring #6

Dhar Mann has done it again, taking it to a new low as he makes a video titled ‘Youtubers USE KID with DOWN SYNDROME For Money’, which is based on the real-life story of Myka and James Stauffer exploiting their adopted child (Huxley Stauffer) on their channel for views before rehoming him once he is no longer profitable. The first problem I have here is that it is mistitled on his Instagram page (@dharmannstudios, not to be confused with his other Instagram page @dhar.mann) as being an autistic kid that is used for views, when the child in the video has Down’s Syndrome. There are people in the comments addressing it, but not enough for my tastes.

The video starts with the dad complaining about how their video wasn’t getting enough views for his liking, to which the mom suggests adoption. He refuses because their biological child, a son named Owen, has their hands full.

She pitches it to him like it’s any other investment, mixing in their YouTube channel to get him interested. She tells him that it will make them look sensitive and selfless to their audience. Also, this kid will get them a lot more views from a broader audience, which means more money, which means he can get that Rolex he wanted. They decide to adopt via international adoption, choosing a child named Hope, who has Down’s Syndrome. (Even though it says that it’s an international adoption, it doesn’t say which country they got her from.)

Her son, Owen, loves the idea of having a little sister. This is Owen’s reaction.

[Image Description:] A screenshot of a black boy wearing a dark read sweater and black jeans. He is dancing in a mostly white kitchen with half a cookie in his hand that he took from the cookie jar. A green sleeve is to the far right. There is a square red watermark that says ‘CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE’ in block white capital letters. Subtitles are at the bottom centre of the screen shot, with musical notes on either side of the words “I’m gonna have a sister”. The subtitles are obscured by the Youtube bar going through it. The time of the video when it was paused was 1 minute and 20 seconds.

This is the parents’ reaction.

[Image Description]: A screenshot of a black man and woman dancing in a white kitchen/living room. There are open blinds behind them that are letting in light and white cabinets to their left. The man is wearing a light green long-sleeve shirt and the woman is wearing a shirt with white and light pink stripes. The woman is holding a phone in one hand and their hands are blurred. Near the bottom right hand corner, there is a watermark of a red square with CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE in block white capital letters. The video is paused at 1:28. White subtitles are centred at the bottom of the screenshot and are slightly obscured by the duration bar. The subtitles read ‘WE GONNA GET THIS MONEY!” in all capitals with musical notes at the start and end. I don’t know why it’s in all capitals, it just . . . is.

Author’s Note: For the sake of the viewers of this post, I should point out that the full chant is: “We gonna get a daughter! We gonna get this money!”

Two months later, they introduce the idea of adopting Hope to their viewers, who love it. The mom calls it ‘giving Hope some hope’ and refers to Hope as being ‘special needs’ and nobody wanting to adopt her because of ‘her condition’. (Just say disabled.) They also make sure to show the mom faking crying for the video and the video being reshot again and again to get it just right. After they’ve got the perfect video, they talk about how this might get them over a million views.

They bring Hope home and they are already annoyed by her for the heinous act of leaving Legos on the floor. The mom consoles the dad by telling him to think about the views and the brand deals and it’ll all be worth it.

Another two months later, and in this time, Hope has been introduced to the vlog. The vlog has reached 500,000 subscribers by now, and they (the parents) are super happy about it. They are on camera filming their response and thanking their subscribers, and they turn the camera on Hope to show how well her English is coming along. (She is from another country.) She is supposed to say “Yes, Mommy,” but she just says “Yes.” The dad is pressuring her to get it right, and she knocks over a cup of some drink onto the floor as a result of the pressure. Owen offers to clean it up, but his parents don’t let him.

After that fiasco was over, the mom notices that when the dad put the camera onto the coffee table, it was facing towards Hope, meaning they could have recorded that and exposed themselves. They were worried about being caught not being as wonderful as they had made themselves out to be. (Also, the mom doesn’t want to go back to her 9-5.) There is a little bit about a brand called Fashion Hova (a knockoff of Fashion Nova) and they got 2 million views on their last video, the most they’d ever gotten. So, they’re just gonna have to tolerate it for a little while longer, if they ever want to have the Rolex or the BMW. (Dhar Mann mentions brands a lot in his videos, along with making up brands so he doesn’t get copyright banned.)

Anyway time goes on, their channel grows to 5 million subscribers, they are beloved by all, blah blah blah. They got some new stuff for themselves, such as a new house, a new car (a Porsche instead of a BMW) an Oculus and a hoverboard for the kids.

They try to show Hope as a part of the family, but this is just as she loses a game and gets upset about it. She is sent to her room and her parents have a serious discussion about whether or not they keep her. After all, they have everything they wanted, the car, the house, the sponsorships, the fame, the love. Their subscribers will stay loyal to them even without Hope, so they have no use for her any more.

Owen hears them and argues with them. They can’t get rid of his sister like that! She would have her self-esteem ruined if she had to live with two parents not wanting her. But the parents tell him that he doesn’t get to make that decision, and Hope is going to be rehomed.

One month after they remove Hope from their lives, people start asking questions. Where is she? Is she OK? Owen says people at his school are asking him, which is . . . weird. Why do people at his school care about the stuff going on with his parents’ blog?

The mom and dad freak out about it, because if they tell people that they rehomed Hope, they will lose everything. So they ignore people asking about Hope, and attempted to wait it out. But there were conspiracy theories about where she had gone, people start unsubscribing and then their brand deals fall through. They have no choice but to tell people what they did, people get angry and mass unsubscribe, and they eventually delete their channel.

From there, they lose all their money and start selling stuff. The Porsche is traded for a car that doesn’t seem to work and looks like a rust bucket on wheels, the PS5 is gone, the Rolex is gone, and they’re selling the house. From there, there’s a few exaggerated seconds of the mom trying to get the car door open and herself and the PS5 into it, and then get the car moving to her new job.

She then sees Hope (cough spies on them cough) out in public with her new adoptive mother, who insists that she will not get rid of Hope like her last parents did. She is spying on Hope behind the world’s skinniest tree, however. I don’t know how she wasn’t seen by anybody.

In conclusion, Dhar Mann sucks, the parents in the video suck, the parents in real life suck, Hope is amazing and Owen is amazing.

#dhar mann videos are ridiculous #dhar mann is a cringe ass nae nae baby

[mellometal]

Dhar Mann put out a video of a child with Down Syndrome being abused and eventually abandoned by their adoptive parents for clicks and money, which was apparently based on a true story. (That true story was probably the story of Huxley Stauffer, a child that was adopted by Myka and James Stauffer for the same reasons.) We haven't had much Dhar Mann slander in a while, and this video was released on the first day of Pride Month. Could you post about it?

That's fucking whack, and sadly more common than you think. People think that having a kid is great, until they're disabled, LGBT, have medical problems, etc.

The Dh*r M*nn slander hasn't been around for a while, and I apologize. His videos are very mentally draining.

I do have a post in the works about disabilities in general (specifically about Parkinson's) in the works. I'm familiar with Down's Syndrome, but I don't know everything about it. I need to word things carefully there if I do a post about it because it's not a disability I know a whole lot about. I might get to it at some point. The Down's Syndrome videos royally piss me off because he's exploiting Down's children...and to me, it sounds like the parents make their kids' disabilities about them. (Please don't yell at me about the terminology. I hear a lot of different opinions about whether we should use person-first language or identity-first language. I personally believe that person-first language treats disabilities like they're accessories of some sort, so I don't particularly care for person-first language and just use identity-first language instead. Obviously if you use person-first language for yourself, you're very valid.)

Anyways...thank you for sending this in.

#anon #answered #tw dhar mann #dhar mann talk #anti dhar mann #tw ableism #tw abuse mention #tw abandonment #dhar mann is an ableist piece of shit

[youtext-kr]

돈벌이를 위해 자폐아를 'OO'한 부부의 충격적인 정체는?!

돈벌이를 위해 자폐아를 ‘OO’한 부부의 충격적인 정체는?!

포하! 안녕하세요, 포비예요. 여러분은 입양에 대해 알고 있나요? 입양이란, 양친과 양자가 법률적으로 친부모와 친자식의 관계를 맺는 신분 행위라고 합니다. 쉽게 말하면 부모와 아이가 혈연 관계없이 살다가 법적인 과정을 통해 부모 자식 사이를 만드는 걸 말하는 거죠. 하지만 입양한 아이를 이용해 유튜브 채널을 성장시키고, 거기다 파양까지 했다는 사실이 알려지면서 큰 논란이 된 가족이 있는데요. 이번엔 아이를 이용해 채널을 성장시킨 유튜버 ‘스토퍼 부부’에 대해 알아보겠습니다. ‘마이카 스토퍼(Myka Stauffer)’와 ‘제임스 스토퍼(James Stauffer)’라는 부부는 유튜버를 운영하는 부부였어요. 이 부부는 주로 가족의 일상이나 육아를 다루는 유튜브 영상을 찍는 유튜버라고 하는데요. 그러던…

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[one-time-i-dreamt]

A person like this... should not have a platform, nor sponsors or followers.

I am enraged and feeling deeply hurt for Huxley. I want to know where he is right now, who with and how he's doing.

The shock and stress of this whole situation for him, that poor baby boy. He didn't deserve this.

#not a dream #abuse tw #child abuse tw #ableism tw #autism #adoption #myka stauffer #youtube #youtuber

[alwaysabeautifullife]

I just wanted to let you guys know shit like this isn’t “rare” in the international adoption circle. Children are frequently parades around as moral badges for parents then illegally given away to other families. This story just happened to be public because the family wanted to wear their moral badge on YouTube.

This is what happens when you adopt children with a savior complex. You are NOT “saving” a child. You are adding another family member. The savior complex in relation to adoption is ALWAYS inherently evil.

If you are considering adoption, please evaluate your reasons deeply, please don’t adopt based on the belief that you’re saving the child from whatever world they are currently in. It always leads down this road. Adopt with the intention to love a child unconditionally, aware of any situation and th possibilities of difficulties. This is a lot of the reason why adoption agencies that care more about the child then making a buck, require the family to have no children under the age of 5, or adult children, as there may be needs that are more challenging then expected.

It’s important to discuss this and eradicate this in circles that are pro-adoption, so please speak out about this as much as possible to bring awareness to this sort of evil and the trauma children in these situations have to endure.

Also please do not attach any “sympathy” towards the parents to this post. They used a child of a different race and with disabilities and disposed of him when they were done. As a parent of an autistic, this is profoundly disgusting, abusive, and there is absolutely zero excuse.

#adoption #not sure what to tag #autism #aba #abuse #abandonment #tw: aba #tw: abuse #tw: abandonment #myka stauffer #tw: myka stauffer

[sulkybbarnes]

So let’s recap: these people adopted a toddler from China to parade around their social media, made videos and instagram posts about him to the extent of it becoming their brand, and then they secretly “rehomed” him -a fancy term for threw him in the system- because, and I quote, he had “special needs that we weren’t aware of”. Even though the first thing we establish here is that they knew the child was autistic before they adopted him. And the only reason they even came forward about giving him up is because their followers were starting to ask questions on why he suddenly disappeared from their content after February.

Do not adopt children if you can’t handle the responsibility. They’re not an item of clothing you can return if it doesn’t fit. And for god’s sake stop adopting children of color to fulfill a disgusting savior complex then throwing them to the side when you’re done. This happens way too often, and it’s honestly beyond disgusting, and so heartbreaking for this little boy who spent two and a half years thinking these people were his family. 

My only hope is that he finds an actual good family who loves and protects him, and that the jerks who gave him up lose their following and never see another penny of revenue from youtube. 

#myka stauffer #social #two and a half years.. god #I'm so upset

[lady-divine-writes]

While we crucify Myka Stauffer and her husband for ‘rehoming’ their adopted son with special needs (and we absolutely should crucify them - to a frickin’ cross!) let’s remember that their lifestyle isn’t isolated to them. There’s a whole community of white saviors on YouTube whose shtick is adopting a child with special needs from other countries, bringing them back to the states, and blogging their attempts to ‘fix’ them through various methods while raking in a disgusting amount of brand deals in the process.

#adoption #special needs #myka stauffer

[y0ur-tube]

Our very publicized "Adopting a Disabled Child from Overseas" act was TOO HARD. I didn't know you actually had to care for his needs!

Please like, even though I spent a year caring for him on camera, I just didn't know he would be disabled off camera too...

#Myka Stauffer

[bewareofchris]

Her name is Myka Stauffer and I usually don't post things like this but the more you learn about this the more awful it gets. I'd like to say, I hope Huxley is happier and better off. But also demonetize this channel. No more YouTube money for these folks.

#what the actual fuck #myka stauffer #the stauffer life #parenting is for life #rehoming is for dogs not children #how to fail at adoption

[deadlydelicious]

the more I think about that Myka Stauffer case, the more i become convinced that there should just be a blanket ban on youtubers monetizing videos featuring children below a certain age in any capacity. there have been dozens of shady youtube situations where parents have been manipulating their children, invading their privacy, or outright abusing them, all to get views and make money on ad-revenue. No matter how little they do it, its always going to be a breach of trust between parent and child, and lead to a situation where the child feels more like an employee performer than a kid whose safe with their parents.

I don’t think youtubers should continue to be allowed to profit off their children. 

There should be a ban on monetizing videos featuring any child under the age of 16 

#youtube #myka stauffer

[nomattertheoceans]

Okay I don’t do this often,

But this situation is so upsetting and I don’t see many people talking about it here, so I just thought I’d say something.

Quick disclaimer: I’m not an adoptee, or autistic, or a parent, so feel free to add on your thoughts about this whole mess. Also, I’m not from the US so I don’t know much about the adoption process there.

Myka and James Stauffer are horrible, disgusting people.

This couple from the US (Ohio I think) has a family channel on YouTube, where they (mostly Myka) make videos about their daily routines, their family, their home, and their kids. About two and a half years ago, they adopted a little boy from China named Huxley, who they know had special needs, and severe medical conditions that were likely to worsen throughout his life. They proceeded to document thoroughly the adoption process, and they gave regular updates about his life in their family. Almost every video and instagram post were either monetized or sponsored.

A few months ago, Huxley apparently completely disappeared from their socials (I’m not following them so I’m fuzzy on the timeline for this), and they deleted comments from people who were asking about him. After a while, people started writing to their sponsors to make them react, and then came a wonderful pity party of a video featuring both parents, a few days ago. Basically, they announced they had to “re-home” (hear abandon) Huxley, mostly because of his special needs, and that they hadn’t said anything before in order to “respect his privacy” (rich coming from people who put their kids, and particularly him, on constant display).

I am APPALLED by this. Seriously I am disgusted, I can’t even imagine the trauma this little boy is going through, losing a family for the second time in his very short life. His adoptive siblings must be lost too, probably grieving and not understanding why their brother is gone. The parents made this horrific video where they are basically throwing themselves a pity party and wanting people to feel bad for them because they just had to abandon their son.

When you adopt a child, that child is yours. They become part of your family. They become your responsability for the rest of their life. You don’t get to bail out when things get tough.

This little boy was with them for almost three years. He probably struggled to adapt to this new country, to this new family. And now they are tearing him away from this because he became an inconvenience to them?? These people are disgusting.

And I don’t want to hear about how sometimes adoptions fail. I know they do. But they were with him for almost three years, you don’t give back a child after three years because it became hard. There are therapies, outside help, care facilities,... These people very clearly have the money to get the help their boy needs, they just chose to go the “easy way out” and give him up. Honestly, I highly doubt that if one of their four biological children suddenly had special needs, they would give them up for adoption that easily.

Anyway, I have a lot of things to say but I think other people said it better, so here are a few links:

A video that summarizes the situation well, plus expresses basically how I personally feel, too

Here is a live reaction to the pity party video (because I don’t want to give them more views, plus the commentary is interesting)

Here’s a video retracing the monetizing of their son throughout the years

This video talks a bit about the US foster care system and taking care of kids with special needs, as well as the issue of people putting their children on display.

Finally, this video is from the point of view of a foster-adoptive mother, and these three videos are from the point of view of adoptees.

I’m not an adoptee. I don’t have children yet. But I do want to have children, and I want to adopt them, once I’m ready for it. As such, I’ve been reading a lot about the process in my country, testimonies about parents or children, everything. It is NOT an easy process, it’s very tough emotionally, it’s also expensive, and it’s the biggest commitment you could make. From the videos this couple made about their adoption process, it feels like they were expecting everything to go smoothly and perfectly, and were disappointed when it didn’t. I think this couple shouldn’t have been able to adopt, and I certainly hope that after giving up on him, they will be blacklisted from ever trying to adopt again.

I truly hope that Huxley is now in a loving family that will take care of him, and that he will one day be able to get over the trauma that this couple inflicted on him.

#myka stauffer #tw abandonment #tw aba therapy #adoption #autism #special needs #this entire thing is so upsetting #I spent the entire day thinking about this boy #honestly? I'm not a hateful person. But I HATE these two people with my whole heart #child abandonment #exploiting their child for money #acting like they're the victims here #erasing him from their socials as if nobody would notice.... #I just - #this is all so awful I can't wrap my mind around it #and I'll definintely keep an eye out for their response

[sweetlittledaisy7]

Getting rid of your adopted child. Myka Stauffer

I don't really have the words to say how terrible this is. Myka Staffer and her husband are public figures on YouTube. They adopted a young child from China in 2017. A few days ago Myka and her husband posted a video saying they couldn't deal with him anymore and they found a new mommy for him. A new home.

First, after reading through all of this crap it's apparent Myka adopted a child to make money and bring in views to channel. The whole family thanks to Huxley, the adopted child got sponsors, money, and views. Huxley paid for their new lifestyle. Myka and her family became popular. Her adoption video has millions of views.

Second, Myka shaved the child's head, taped his thumb, and was upset the child wouldn't attach to her. She was also upset she couldn't understand English. Ummm. Did you forget you adopted a child from China? Of course he doesn't understand you. Learn his language. Of course he doesn't want to bond with you. You're a stranger. You're American. You ripped him away from his country and home.

Third, Myka and her husband were warned the child would have issues. The doctors even said not to adopt him because he would be high needs and she has other childre . He has brain damage. However, Myka and her husband decided God wanted them to adopt Huxley and their son. So they went ahead and adopted him.

Fourth, I hate this one so much. Myka got pregnant. Yes. Got pregnant when her adopted child was struggling. She got pregnant right away. Why get pregnant when you have a child who needs you? I don't understand. Once she got pregnant Huxley her adopted child struggled. Duhhh. Of course he would. He was the baby and now a new baby has all the attention. So apparently this was broke the adoption apart. They had their own biological kid again(they have three biological kids together) Their adopted child was struggling and they gave him away like a dog. Also, they locked him in a closet, showed his tantrums, and went on vacation without him because he wasn't their own child aka biological child. They put him to sleep early everyday to spend time with their real kids aka biological kids.

Fifth, the fake tears, the clothes, the blaming the child. Stop. Just stop it. Did I also mentioned she fundraised, yes used strangers money to pay for the child's adoption? WTF? So Myka and her husband decided to willingly adopt a child with special needs, ignore advice, make money off the child, then throw him away like an animal. The comments defending this crap are the worse.

I didn't know this was a real thing until I came here and listened to adoptees and foster kids. I get messages and comments from adoptees and foster kids who were adopted and rehomed . Many were adopted at birth or as young child. Many spent years and years with their adoptive family or were rehomed within a few weeks/months. What is going on? Adoption is suppose to be a done deal.

As an adoptee adopted at birth I'm sad. I'm angry. Adoptive parents are the parents. They signed up for this. Literally. Adoptive parents might spend years trying to adopt. So it's not by accident. You're the legal parent. The parent. Parenting isn't easy. I came on here as a teen struggling. I use to cut myself. I was diagnosed with depression. I ran away and hated my parents who adopted me. Everything was confusing. I was hurting for real. I hated life. I didn't choose to be adopted. I didn't choose to be given up. These choices were made for me. My parents hurt me. Not physically but by not considering me or trying to understand me. The whole Orphan Sunday, sharing my story, using my as a prop. That hurt me. I couldn't talk to them. I always felt like they're to blame for everything including my birth mom giving me up. I still have these feelings. It's all complex. My parents also kept things from me. Wanting to wait until I was older. On top of this my parents adopted because they couldn't get pregnant. I know deep down inside I would be with them if they could have their own biological kids. We wouldn't be adopted, my siblings and I. So yeah that hurts. I'm actually happy they didn't have biological kids and we're all adopted. I'm just hurt they tried for biological kids and want them first before me. That hurts. It also hurts the woman that carried me didn't want me. So everything is hard. So yes, I acted out a bit. I told them I hated them. I even told them they're not my real parents because I was hurt. I did a lot of things to them. Sort of rebelled I guess. I was given away by my birth mom and felt hurt and abandoned. But never once did my parents ever give me up or consider giving me up. I'm their child. Parenting is for life. You're not just there for the easy but for the hard parts too. What's the point of adoption if adoptive parents will just give their kids up with things get hard or when they just don't want to deal with the child anymore? It's unfair to the child. If people aren't willing to take the commitment then don't adopt. If you want a perfect child, don't adopt. If you don't want to deal with issues don't adopt. If you think you van rehome a child don't adopt. If you're not willing to stick with the child for life don't adopt. Adoption is a choice. Not a rule. You make this choice. My birth mom had an unplanned pregnancy. She had sex but didn't expect to get pregnant. My adoptive parents expected to have a child through adoption. There's no such thing as an unplanned adoption. So there should be no such thing as rehoming or getting rid of your adopted child. If you want to be the real mom or real parents, then guess what? This includes being with your adopted child through everything. Especially the hardships. That's what real parents do. Adoptees are either your child as if they were born to you or they're not. Don't get upset at the words real or adoptive parent when you don't even see your adopted child as your real child or only adopt for show.

This is also why I have a huge problem with Christians adopting. Not all Christians. I'm Christian. I don't support Orphan Sunday or the calling to adopt. My parents said they felt God lead them to adoption but overall they wanted to be parents. So they truly wanted to adopt because hey, they couldn't get pregnant. However, I can't support Christians who use the Lord's name in vain regarding adoption. I bet God didn't tell Myka or her husband to rehome their adopted child did he? No. Yet, God told her to adopt. As a Christian, I'm disgusted by this. I'm praying Huxley found a better home. Often times kids who are rehomed don't find better homes. I'm praying he is safe and cared for. I honestly hope these people and people who rehome never ever adopt ever again.

#adoption #adoptee #adoptive family #birth family #birthmom #birthmother #birthparents #adoptive mom #realmom #adoptive parents #myka stauffer #rehoming #god #open adoption #orphansunday #orphancare #orphan sunday #orphan

[pyrosex]

If you support M*ka St*uffer after what she did to her son

You’re an ableist, racist and an abuse apologist

Fight me

#thad says something #myka stauffer #anti myka stauffer #abuse tw #ableism tw #racism tw

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as an adopted person, the stauffer family situation is upsetting beyond words. my parents are wonderful people and i love them so incredibly, but a part of the adoptee experience is living your life walking on eggshells. despite knowing that my parents love me more than anything i live in CONSTANT fear that i am always one mistake away from losing their love forever. being adopted means living in fear that your parents will one day decide they made a mistake, that they will one day wake up regretting choosing you. it means leaving every argument in panic, unable to shake the feeling that your mother will look at you and feel regret. to watch my deepest fear come true for a little boy who will live his whole life with his abandonment on the INTERNET FOR EVERYONE TO SEE has been beyond heartbreaking. i truly, truly, truly do not have the words to properly articulate the pain i am feeling.

these people would never for a SECOND entertain the idea of giving away a biological child because of developmental delays, but because he came from another womb he was seen as disposable. my heart hurts, i can feel myself refusing to believe this is real and watching it unfold as if it’s all fiction. but the truth is it isn’t. these are terrible people and i feel NOTHING for them but contempt. anyone defending them, i ask that you listen to an adoptees perspective first.

#myka stauffer #stauffer family #adoption #adoptee