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jupitercomet · 1 year

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Better Girls

summary - You feel insecure and Goose is there to correct it.

warnings - language, insecurities, negative self talk, intrusive thoughts

word count - 1.5k

follow the adventures of Goose and Duck in Duck, Duck, Goose!

One of the—very few—downsides of dating a D1 hockey player who’s already been drafted is having to watch as he gets hit on by every sorority sister and hockey girl in the vicinity. They giggle at his jokes or compliment him on his game while you stand behind him awkwardly trying to match their energy. Because Goose is your boyfriend. Goose went to this party with you.

And the worst part is that those girls don’t know anything about him other than he’s funny and plays hockey. They don’t know to pack him an extra protein bar in his bag because he always lets Maverick eat his. They don’t know that his favorite movie is Enchanted and he sprinted halfway across campus to tell you when he found out they were making a second one. They don’t know that he gets the sniffles from spring allergies, and doesn’t like scallops, and gives the best hugs—the kind that make you feel like every part of you is being put back together again.

They know that he can crack a few jokes, that he’s really good with a stick and puck, that he has a girlfriend—though, conveniently, they like to leave that part out—but they don’t know Goose.

So you step up to the plate as the assertive, confident girlfriend who won’t play these childish games with a bunch of girls that aren’t even worth it. And you fail. Because you aren’t the assertive, confident girlfriend. You’re the girlfriend who watches a bunch of insanely attractive women disrespect your relationship night after night, party after party, and wonder if maybe they have a point. If you were the girl Goose deserved, wouldn’t everybody else act like it?

Sometimes you feel like you’re just waiting for a girl prettier than you to come around and learn that Goose’s favorite movie is Enchanted. And that he has seasonal allergies, even though he insists he doesn’t. And that he doesn’t even like so much as the smell of scallops. And that he always, always knows when you need a hug. You feel like a placeholder. The one before you find the one.

And maybe it’s that feeling that causes you to end up lying on your bed in the fetal position, trying to muffle your sobs.

“Jesus, woman, would you answer your phone—” Goose freezes mid sentence, stopping in the doorway of your dorm as he takes in your curled up body. “Ducky…” When all you do is cry harder, Goose sighs, kicking off his shoes as he shuts the door of your dorm.

He’s probably tired of you. He probably hates that he has to be here with you and your stupid insecurities instead of out with his friends having fun. He didn’t even do anything to warrant this breakdown. He wouldn’t have to deal with this if he were with another girl, a girl who’s more secure.

“What’s going on, honey?” Goose scoots his way under the covers, keeping his voice low as you continue to sob into your pillow.

He’s probably tired of you. He probably hates that he has to be here. He probably hates you.

“Can hear you thinking from here, duck,” Goose jokes lightly, propping his head in his hand as he turns to face your back. You feel his hand come rest on your hip. “What happened? Did you get a bad grade on your research paper or something?”

You didn’t. You got a really good grade on your research paper. But of course Goose would think that you failed it. Because you’re not special, or smart, or pretty. Maybe if you were, those girls would leave him alone. Maybe if you were, you’d deserve Goose. Maybe if you were, you wouldn’t be sobbing in your bed at 7 pm while your boyfriend watches on sadly.

Goose squeezes your hip lightly. “Alright, c’mere, ducky.”

You shake your head.

“No?” Goose sounds slightly hurt. “Are you mad at me?”

You shake your head again.

“Then why won’t you look at me?”

He’s tired of you. He hates that he has to be here. He hates you.

“Okay, an executive decision has been made.” Suddenly you’re being pulled into Goose’s chest, his arms wrapping around your neck as you burrow into him to hide your puffy, distraught face. “We’re gonna cuddle and you’re gonna tell me what’s going on. It’s the law.”

He’s trying to make you laugh, you know that. Goose is always trying to make you laugh. But right now all you can manage is calming your sobs to the occasional breathy hiccup as Goose traces patterns on your back. Finally, you’re able to muster up a pitiful whimper against his tear stained t-shirt.

“Why are you dating me?”

Nick Bradshaw is not a serious person. He preferred to keep things light and fun, and found that humor usually resulted in his desired outcome anyway. You two were a naturally playful couple, displaying love and affection through easy teasing and laughter. Goose found that humor defused most conflicts—which was a necessary tool if one is to be best friends with Maverick. But it also ended them too. Public humiliation hurts worse than any fist to the face ever could.

Nick Bradshaw is not a serious person. Even when Iceman begs him to be, he isn’t. Even when he’s handling a situation maturely, he isn’t. There is only one occasion that can pull serious Nick Bradshaw to the surface and stifle all humor. The only time Goose is ever serious is when he catches you talking down on yourself.

“What do you mean ‘why am I dating you’?” He wrinkles his nose like he’s just smelled scallops, jutting his chin down so he can look at the top of your head.

“I just don’t understand…” You trail off, wiping at your cheek as you scoot away from him. “You could have anybody you want, Goose.”

“And?” Goose sounds almost offended.

You sniffle pitifully. “Please don’t make me spell it out for you.”

“Well, I think I’m gonna need you to,” Goose straightens so you’re both sitting across from each other on your mattress. “Because it sounds like you’re sayin’ that I don’t want you.”

“How many girls have to flirt with you before you realize you can do better?! Every sorority on campus?” You cry, feeling tears start to prick at your eyes again.

You know you’re being unfair. That you’re yelling at Goose when he doesn’t deserve it. That you’re lashing out for no reason. But all it is, is another reason you don’t deserve him.

“Okay, I’m not listening to this shit.” You think Goose is going to leave—why wouldn’t he? You’re being ridiculous and insecure—but instead he grabs you and sits you on his lap. With gentle but firm hands, he holds your chin between his fingers and forces you to look at him. “I love you. I want you. I don’t want anybody but you. There’s nobody better than you, not to me. And I don’t wanna hear you sayin’ that ever again. If you’re feeling insecure, you come to me and I’ll kiss you so hard you forget how to think. That’s how we’re gonna handle this from now on, alright?”

You swallow, looking down like a scolded child. “But—”

“Stop it,” Goose doesn’t look mean, but firm. “Nobody gets to talk about my girl like that, not even you. I hate knowing that you feel this way, honey, but you can’t just hide from me. I need you to trust that I can make it better.”

“What if— What if you have to do it all the time? Wouldn’t you rather not have to do it at all?”

Finally, Goose smiles. “You think I’m gonna get tired of talking about how perfect you are?” With the hand still holding your chin, he pulls you down for a kiss. You melt into him slowly, your hands finally content enough to make their way into his hair as his other hand plants itself on the small of your back.

“I’m sorry,” you say quietly once you’ve pulled away.

“Don’t be sorry, ducky,” Goose shakes his head. “Next girl that flirts with me, I want you to jump me like a fuckin’ squirrel to a pine tree. Slobber all over my face, I don’t even care.” Though he’s saying the most insane words you’ve heard today, he’s wiping your tears with soft, loving thumbs.

You can’t help but giggle—partly because it’s funny, but partly because you also know he absolutely means it. Goose lights up at the sound.

“There she is,” he flips the two of you over so that you're laying on the mattress and he’s hovering over you with a lovesick grin. “Missed my smiley girl.”

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lemonhemlock · 2 months

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Hi,I've recently discovered your blog and I Iove it.

I would like to know if you have any predictions regarding the second season of HotD. Do you think that the pessimistic attitude of many show watchers,especially TG fans, is warranted? Imho, if anything could irreversibly harm the greens is Rha*nicent. Not the ship itself, but the way the showrunners seem incapable of letting that ship sink after the time skip and are pushing it even after everything that has happened in season 1. Idk, the mere possibility of Alicent betraying her family and forsaking her children in any way to ingratiate herself to Rhaenyra is so illogical and outrageous, especially after B&C. The thing is, I'm almost certain that we are going to see a lot of Rha*nicent in the following season in some form and it could really irreparably ruin not only Alicent's character, but the greens in general. And, ofc, the show. What's your opinion about this and do you have any other predictions regarding the future seasons?

Thanks in advance :)

First of all, thank you, anon! 🌞🙏🌻

Preferences aside, I just think that white feminism sells in media. It manifests in tropes such as girlboss narratives (I know everyone is tired of this word by now), women warriors, female sexuality relayed through a male gaze-ish lens, overcoming adversity in an easily digestible way, scoring against some obviously misogynistic obstacle, framed in a way that appeals to a basic sense of justice etc. Lots of female characters that became popular in the last 15 years embody some of those markers, from Natasha Romanov to Katniss Everdeen to Arya Stark to Lagertha. And they're not even necessarily ~bad things~ or elements we shouldn't ever have in our fiction, it's just that this kind of tried-and-tested formula is what film executives think will bring them easy popularity and quick money.

Daenerys was such a hugely popular character that that it's to be expected (in this capitalistic hellscape we live in) that it would make monetary sense for HBO to try and recreate a straightforward empowerment narrative with the character of Rhaenyra. On paper, she has all the superficial storyline elements that could be converted into a blockbuster: powerful in some badass way (she is a competent dragon-rider), is A Rebel, owns her sexuality by sleeping with whomever she wants, which translates into 21st century mentality as empowerment, and has to overcome an obstacle posed by The Man.™ All wrapped up in a nostalgic package that reminds viewers of their beloved Daenerys.

So, unfortunately, I expect them to continue to build on these marketable points instead of focusing too much on finesse details, such as how Rhaenyra's already immense privilege and power as a princess of the Realm and a dragon-rider negatively impact those around her, how she can be both victim and perpetrator, how she perpetuates the cycles of violence and abuse + her less than palatable traits. Certainly, I'm not going to stand here and declare that they WON'T touch on those aspects either, before even watching the new season, because that would be silly. I DO expect them to address at least some of those issues and I'm sure there will be many moments which I will enjoy and even scenes that will be well-crafted explorations into certain questions. I do like this show a lot, at the end of the day, and will probably love S2, as well.

But, overall, I can't say hand-on-heart that the marketable concerns won't prevail in the end either, and I expect the framing to fall in the direction of "yeah, she did some bad stuff, too, but ultimately Rhaenyra had the right of it and was Betrayed by power-hungry woman-hating misogynists". Which does get frustrating in this media climate, because it is essentially the same message being delivered without much nuance or refinement: women* can't ever be wrong, anything a woman does is automatically great and should be supported, all delusions are valid if they're produced by a woman etc. I hope to be proven wrong, but only time will tell. Which is not to say that we should go back to making pro-patriarchy and pro-gender roles stories, which is kind of the vibe I'm sometimes getting from some "anti-woke" HotD critical pieces. An intersectional HotD - is that possible? At least a little class commentary on these people.

(*Of course, this only applies if the character fits into, what essentially is, another type of Ideal Woman: the acceptable amount of progressivism deemed appropriate at the current time, with the acceptable attitudes and interests. But that's a discussion for another day.)

So this is where rhaenicent falls for me. I've always thought it was an interesting addition and the change never bothered me, but there is a certain point at which it becomes unbalanced and, as you say, illogical. When is love ever "logical", though, you might question? Well, I think the prospect of losing your children + grandchildren + father + brother vs holding on to an unrequited lifelong crush might knock some sense into someone. Realistically speaking, the vast majority of people would nope out of that equation and the choice would be clear. How much can you truly love a person at the expense of literally your entire family? (including your extended family, because the Hightowers in Oldtown risked their lives for King Aegon). The reward is also so small, what exactly would Alicent be trading for? Yearning gazes and holding hands? Rhaenyra has not exactly been shown to reciprocate these feelings post Alicent's marriage to Viserys.

I think that the showrunners are holding onto this aspect because they're trying to make Alicent sympathetic to the general public, who are mostly on Rhaenyra's side, as a result of the show's framing. So their logic is that the viewers won't hate Alicent as much if she displays how sorry she is for everything, how reluctant, how much she loves Rhaenyra. And they think that her contradictory actions are a fair trade-off. So I do expect us to get more rhaenicent in the coming seasons.

All in all, this wouldn't be so bad, because indeed it could be framed as very romantic, a lot of pathos, star-crossed lovers etc and human emotions are messy and complicated. Our desires can often be contradictory in nature. Literature and mythology are filled with passionate love stories that defy all rhyme or reason. Doesn't Jaime tell Cersei he would kill every single person in the world for her? I just hope it'll get the presentation it deserves, delving into the complicated nature of love and difficult choices, and not turn into "Alicent would sell out her kids to save Rhaenyra from her self-inflicted predicament, all the while Rhaenyra is not sparing her a single thought or concern".

#not only that it would make little sense at this point #it would be an unsatisfying story if you ask me #are we really putting alicent in the cuck chair and calling it a day #ask #anon #hotd meta #hotd speculation #anti rhaenicent #anti rhaenyra targaryen #<- for filtering #alicent hightower

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princess-of-the-corner · 22 hours

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Glad you liked the submission, as I have more on the Aware of Abuse AU!

I think it would be really interesting to reflect on how this situation would be kind of a drawn out grapple for Marinette. This is in no way salt and I think if it was written she'd both warrant having hear grievances hear, but also could definitely come off as a bit antagonistic, or at least wary.

(Exactly how hostile she defaulted to with Chloe tended to oscillate episode to episode so ya know how it be)

Marinette would have the easiest time getting close with Kagami. She has no history like with Chloe & no baggage, IE friendship with Chloe, like Adrien. Tomoe is not someone Marinette admires and its much easier to see abuse in the physicals side. While she'd struggle to see it more in the verbal or negligence side; or otherwise be able to rationalize the negative behaviors such as over protectiveness.

Meanwhile Adrien would be tied a lot closer to Chloe going into school as she'd be being less overtly antagonistic or vain. Plus, they'd have a much stronger "We need each other to keep from falling back into old patterns and to survive" mentality.

Plus Adrien would be a bit more overtly snarky and less respectful to authority or stuff like Gabriel's fashion shows. He still is very nice and super wants to be liked by everyone all the time, but it'd be a lot easier for her to see the negatives in his behavior.

Chloe meanwhile would probably rankle and outright frustrate her the most. Not just because she'd still be hard to get along with in general, or because she still is not against ignoring rules or disrespecting authority figures. But because...

No clue what your religious views may or may not be, but have you heard those talks of "Catholic guilt" and the idea of needing to suffer, do penance, ETC before one can be redeemed?

Marinette wouldn't strictly think or want that, but there would be a part of her that would sort of... Well resent that Chloe is seemingly just choosing to change and not even necessarily enough.

That is to say, Chloe might still rudely reject Sabrina's cookies out of hand but then instantly walk it back and have some.

But more in that she's suffered no defeat, she's not been taken from her previous luxurious circumstances, she hasn't seemingly lost anything and even more she'd not even be overtly contrite.

That is to say, Chloe wouldn't be doing stuff akin to the Lady Luck AU (Nothing against it, great fic!) where she'd frequently reflect on how much of a 'fuck up' she was. Or or say stuff like, "I know I was a bitch but I am trying to be better". Or feel guilt in the "I can't even be mad they assume the worst of me cos I probably would have done X."

She's just choosing to be different and on some level its deeply unsatisfying and even frustrating.

(Where is the arc, the climax, the catharsis!?)

Especially if some people roll with it or let her get away with it when she starts falling into old habits.

Marinette doesn't want Chloe to suffer or beg forgiveness or hate herself she doesn't. She just doesn't understand why now? Why at all? Why because of her friend? Why because of how she was treated and not how she treated others?

Why couldn't she care enough about hurting Marinette to change!?

That I think would be the lynch-pin and one that is, from Marinette's perspective, as well as others in and out of universe entirely sympathetic, she was hurt after all.

But in that same vain Chloe's an abused child lashing out due to trauma and taught such terrible lessons she sometimes couldn't process that she wasn't doing 'right'.

Marinette's been hurt, and that would need to be properly addressed. But it wouldn't need to happen in a self recriminating manner necessarily.

Not that I don't love those, self hating characters rife with issues are fun to explore. It is just that I think it'd be interesting to explore both, changing as a person, and a "Bad" victim getting help before they actually even start processing over much how others might warrant reoperations.

Does that make sense?

The story "restorative Justice" sort of dips into this from a different middle ground angle and most stuff by Generalluxun often have elements of it too.

Oh yeah no it's.

Marinette doesn't understand why Chloé is Like That™ in the first place, so she can't fathom her wanting to change.

From Mari's perspective, Chloé's life is pretty perfect. She's beautiful, she's rich. She can do whatever she wants whenever she wants and always gets her way through money or influence. She's always bragging about how she's so much better than everyone. Clearly her parents must adore her because they spoil her with gifts and never tell her 'no'. Any 'hardships' are just minor inconveniences that Chloé brought upon herself by being mean.

So why would Chloé choose to change? If it's not broke, don't fix it. Chloé's life is Perfect™, why would she do something to make it different?

It's not that she wants Chloé to suffer, or thinks that she /should/ suffer. She just doesn't understand why someone with a Perfect Life™ would change without going through some kind of suffering that forces introspection.

#aware au

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wolfeyedwitch · 10 months

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Weapons Don't Weep, Part 11

Chloe calls home.

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“Hey, Mom. Yeah, we got it; thank you, as always. I would definitely have gone insane by now without the care packages.”

“Yeah, everything’s… no, you’re right, everything’s not okay. It’s all—”

A sniffle.

“It’s really bad. Like, really, really bad. I know I have the least experience on the team, but this is messing with all of us.”

“Well, by now you’ve seen the news about it. The city, with the protesters, and— yeah, that one. We… we were too late to catch it on the way in, but on the way out…”

“Mom, it wasn’t anything like we were expecting. None of our guesses were even close. It. When we got the door open, it…”

A pause followed, filled with harsh, shuddering breaths.

“Mom, it was a person.”

“Yeah. A living, breathing, flesh and blood person. I think this means Hayden wins that bet you guys made, about those rumors of people having superpowers.”

A shaky laugh.

“Yeah. I’m sure Dad is going to make that reference too. But this person, they’re not— they’re not doing this for fun. They didn’t choose this. They’re not… hell. I don’t think they’ve had any real choices for a long, long time.”

“They were chained up in there! They were in that transport, and instead of having a seat, they were chained to the floor like, like how you’d transport a bomb. When Zeke asked their name, they replied with a fucking serial number. And yes, I’m sorry for cussing, but I think this situation warrants a little leeway on language!”

A long sigh.

“No, they haven’t been aggressive. If anything, they’re so damn docile it’s creepy. I don’t know if it’s because of whatever propaganda Government told them about us, or if that’s how they’d act with anyone. They flinch from everything, and I haven’t heard them call anyone anything other than ‘sir’.”

“I don’t know. I don’t know how you can help. Add some books on deprogramming brainwashing victims and clothes that’ll fit someone one size up from ‘Holocaust survivor’? There’s so much, they need so much help, and I don’t even know where to start, Mom. And that’s not even touching on everyone else’s reaction.”

“Well, Zeke seems like he’s sympathetic, but that won’t change his actions if he decides they’re a threat. Riley is being pragmatic, and Tyler is, well, Tyler. It feels like the only person on my side here is the doc.”

“No, I didn’t even think of that. God, I’m so— no, sorry, you’re right, I won’t. No negative self-talk. I was preoccupied and didn’t think of how Zeke is going to have to report this and then we’re going to have the entire network breathing down our necks about them. Better?”

“I know it won’t change anything, but I don’t know how to just stop worrying, Mom. Not everyone is in this because of compassion.”

Another sigh.

“Yeah, I got the extra from the people who were short-changed in that department. I just wish that caring didn’t hurt so much, sometimes.”

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Sometimes compassion and empathy can be overwhelming. The world is a tough place, and it can be easy to let that get to you. Take care of yourselves, everyone.

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not-poignant · 2 months

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Hi Pia! Do you have some advices to deal with 'this one opinion'?. When everyone likes your stuff and you are happy with it too, but this one person didn't like/said smth bad, and then you are in spiral that everyone's pretending and actually this one just had the balls to say the truth? I'm struggling and you are in this for a long time, so maybe you have some advices? Take care <3

Hi anon!

It might help to know a little bit of science here.

Humans have what's called an in-built negativity bias. This means that when two things exist, one negative, and one positive, of equal weight, humans will biologically/cognitively automatically give the negative one a lot more weight. No one escapes this, and you're experiencing something extremely universal.

Human beings are also likely to think that negative words are more negative than often intended, and that positive words are less positive than intended.

Because this is in-built, it often requires conscious work to overcome. Many authors on AO3 as an example know the experience of one shitty comment 'undoing' how good all the previous comments felt. It only takes one person saying 'I really didn't like this story' for many authors to trick themselves into thinking this a) must then be universally true and then b) no one else actually likes the story or it doesn't mean anything to them, even when there's literally words right there that strongly suggest otherwise.

The first thing is to acknowledge your negativity bias and that your brain is kind of lying to you. It's doing this to try and protect you from harm, but in a way that's actually hurting you, because brains do stuff that don't actually help us all the time. The reality is that the vast majority of people do not waste their time and 'lie' in comments about how much they like something, because everyone has more important things to do in their life. They're only going to say something positive, for the most part, if they think what they've experienced is positive enough to warrant that. This is more and more true the less well you know someone.

The second thing is to then remind yourself that something negative isn't more true just because it's negative. This is also negativity bias in action! It feels more true, but emotions =/= actual reality - they're real in that 'they are very real and valid when I feel them, but I might not want to make big decisions about other people's thoughts and actions based on them, especially when negativity bias is active.'

And then the third thing is to just remind yourself that everyone is experiencing this. Right now thousands, maybe tens of thousands of creators - artists, authors, show-writers, poets, comedians, sports people, etc. are literally experiencing this right this second. Anon, all your favourite celebrities have likely experienced this (unless they're complete asshats who don't care about other people). Your favourite writers, artists, and more have experienced this. Would you tell any of those people whose works and creations you love, to listen to the few haters that come after them? Do you think they should go 'oh, that means everyone else is lying to me.'

Of course we feel pretty down sometimes. Because I have the ability to delete negative comments, if I get some hate, I tend to delete it. I don't want to see it again. It's my prerogative because my AO3 account and my Tumblr account etc. are 'my space.' When it comes to hateful book reviews, I...don't read my book reviews anymore and haven't for a long time. (I got misgendered too often, even in the nice reviews, so I just stopped).

And then create like a document or notes page or something to write down the positive things you've heard and actually reread them sometimes.

Sometimes negative comments are actually useful. Someone pointing out an incidence of actual racism (like, unintentional, but still happening) or something that is culturally offensive in a story can help us to consider editing the story or change the way we write about that subject. Someone saying they couldn't read a story because of all the typos, might get us to use some free editing software.

For the most part negative comments aren't worth your time. You can't make everyone like your stuff anon. People are going to hate your stuff. That's reality. It's completely inescapable.

But if more people like or enjoy or love your stuff, that's how you know you're on the right track. <3

If your goals in the world are to have most people enjoy what you do, you're already achieving that. One negative comment feels like a bit of a hit (or a lot of one), but it's a cognitive bias that's quite detached from reality. When you take it really personally, it's often a sign to just disconnect and reconnect with loved ones. Talk to a friend, hang out with a loved one, watch something you really love (and even remind yourself that some people hate that thing lol and you wouldn't want those people to stop what they love doing either because it means you couldn't watch the thing you love otherwise), get some rest. Our brains lie to us more and more loudly if we a) are tired, b) are dehydrated, c) haven't been eating or eating well, d) have certain mental illnesses, e) have certain chronic illnesses that cause pain or fatigue.

So addressing all of these factors can help a bit too.

And, I hate to say it, some of it's just practice. I've been doing this for long enough I've lost count of how many hateful things I've heard about my writing. They all still hurt. Some can ruin my day. Some will make me not write that day. Some still play in the back of my mind when I'm feeling really insecure. But they used to ruin my week or month so, like, progress. *sad smile*

But they're still not the majority of the people who talk to me about my writing therefore... negativity bias in action! Very interesting to know about, very horrible to experience!!

#asks and answers #negativity bias #pia on writing #actually i don't know if your thing is writing anon #i just like see this through the lens of #having worked as an artist or a writer #but honestly literally every single person gets this #on every single thing #if you can get praise about it #you can have negativity bias about it #dsflkjasd

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johnslittlespoon · 16 days

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to be honest, THIS

(punishment and discipline and all with these three are so much fun to brainrot about, but in whatever canon they all exist with this dynamic in, i think things would never get too harsh unless one of them does something really brash, or risky, something that gives the other two a good scare, and they channel that fear into something that'll make them remember it next time they feel like being reckless again)

is the situation in which i see them being harsh with curt. like he does something really dangerous. i feel like bucky and buck’s one big rule for him would be to never put himself in danger u know?? and he doesn’t ever earn punishment for silly little things cause he likes being good for them, only for something like this.

110% agree!! curt definitely loves to stir things up and cause chaos, but i don't see him intentionally misbehaving often enough to warrant proper punishments, just the occasional light discipline that's more foreplay than anything else lol. he thrives off of praise and gets off on being good for them too much to crave 'negative' attention from them, so they wouldn't really need to establish many rules for him, but keeping himself safe would be the one they emphasize most.

whether safe means physically safe, like not pulling dangerous maneuvers and stunts, or emotionally safe, like doing anything risky that could possibly get people to side–eye him/his relationship with john and gale, the three of them would all put a lot of weight on the agreement to stay safe when they can, and if curt either just unthinkingly and brashly went out of his way to break that, or did it intentionally, those would be the times he gets in actual trouble.

and he would feel genuinely bad too, seeing how much it affects them once he sobers up from the heightened emotions of it, but the punishment would just be an extra reminder to think twice next time, and a way for gale and john to 'healthily' channel the fear/whatever strong feelings the incident evokes in them without there being bitterness or tension between the three of them afterwards.

often these incidents, regardless of who's the one carrying them out, would require a proper serious conversation though and probably a bit of fighting/arguing it out, it's not all fun and games and sorting it out in the bedroom, sometimes it's bigger than that and something that affects them for a good while and that's okay too. they love each other, they'll always work it out. <3

#we're Back baby #realizing i rly should've been tagging certain things as their own aus atp with how much we jump around in my asks but too late now LOL cbf #curtbuckbucky #curtgalejohn #johnslittlespoon asks #johnslittlespoon brainrot #johnslittlespoon spicy

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“i hate what i’ve become.” with mat? ty 🫶🏻

“I hate what I’ve become.”

this got very real and deep very fast don't ask me if I'm mentally okay after reading this because I'm clearly not

warnings: intense talk of insecurities

Social media was your worst nightmare even after years of handling it, you thought you had it mastered. You thought you could step back and block out negative comments and everything that made you feel like shit, but it was so much easier said than done.

And as much as you hated to admit it, Mat only made it worse. Being with Mat only made it worse. It was bad enough before you were his girlfriend, but now that you were officially public, it was exponentially worse.

The doom scrolling was the worst part of it all. You were so wrapped up in the toxicity of it all and couldn’t let it go. For hours you’d sit on Instagram, scrolling through the comments on his posts of you. Even if the positive comments outweighed the negative ones, you could only focus on every criticism of you. How you weren’t the typical WAG standard, how Mat must be cheating on you, how much better he could do.

Then came his tag posts, which were sometimes filled with vapid remarks about his alleged hookups or hateful judgements of your profile. Not to mention all the women he still followed that were stick thin and blonde and clearly got paid just to post bikini photos. You weren’t one to be bitter and misogynistic, but it was hard when everywhere you looked there were reminders of every beautiful ex Mat had or how ugly you were next to him.

It was all consuming and to the point where you just couldn’t handle it anymore. Like physically, you feared this comparison and criticism of yourself would be the death of you.

Realistically, you knew there was only one solution to this problem.

“We need to break up.”

Mat could not have been more blindsided by your words, his whole body coming to a dramatic halt at your blunt words. He was in the middle of making a sandwich for god’s sake. “Is this a joke?” Never in a million years would Mat have expected you to spring this on him.

“No,” you stated. “I think we should break up.”

The silence felt like it lasted hours while Mat’s brain tried to catch up with what you were saying. It was out of the blue and made no sense, and Mat still half believed you were just fucking with him.

“Why would we break up? Is there something wrong with us?” If he weren’t so genuinely confused by your outburst, he might be mad, but he was just lost. As far as he was concerned, you two were solid. Nothing big had happened to warrant a fight, let alone a breakup. “What’s going on, babe?”

“I just can’t do this anymore. I hate what I’ve become, and I can’t stand being like this, Mat,” you explained, which only confused him even more.

“What the hell are you even talking about? What can’t you do anymore? What’s wrong?” He walked to you in two long strides, enveloping your face in his hands while he scanned it for something. Anything.

“I can’t do being your girlfriend anymore,” you said. “All the comments and trolls and you being the literal hottest man to ever grace hockey while I’m just some girl.”

“Woah, where is this coming from? Who said this? Where are you getting this?” His questions came out at double speed, real fear setting in now that you might actually leave him.

“Instagram, twitter, those stupid blogs, I’m tired of it all, Mat.” Your voice broke on his name.

“When did all of this start?” He asked.

Mat never spent much time on social media anymore except to post something then log off, and you were sure he somehow had notifications set so only his friends showed up in his mentions. Of course he wouldn’t be focusing on all the bullshit they were saying about you.

“The day we met,” you snorted humorlessly. “We’ve been dating publicly for months now, and they’ve never slowed down. They’re never going to stop. As long as I’m with you, I’m always going to be hearing this shit and comparing myself to other girls.”

“As long as you’re with me?” The anger was starting to hit now. “I’m sorry, but am I missing the part where this is my fault? Have I ever made you feel like this? It shouldn’t matter what other people think. They’re all spineless assholes who have nothing better to do with their time but tweet insulting shit. I think you’re amazing and wonderful and hot and sexy and incredible. Doesn’t me loving you count for something?”

“Of course it does, Mat. And I love you, but this shit never stops. You don’t get it. You don’t get what it’s like to look at every single woman and wonder if you’d be more attracted to them than you are to me. To wonder if you’re just waiting until you find something better.” And he didn’t get it. Not when he looked like that and had all that money and fame and success. He would always be too good for you.

“Jesus Christ.” Mat’s heart broke at your confession. “How long have you been feeling like this?”

It was painful to hear about your insecurities, and that was the reason you never brought it up. It wasn’t Mat’s job to reassure you every time you were feeling down, especially when your bad days greatly outnumbered your good days. You felt like a burden when you told Mat about your problems.

You shrugged. “A long time.”

“And you really think breaking up will solve this?”

“It can’t make it any worse.”

Mat rethought his strategy. He clearly wasn’t letting you call off nearly a year-long relationship over something you hadn’t discussed more than just this one time, but it was also clear your mind was made up.

“Okay, well, I’ll just delete my Instagram then,” Mat said casually. So casually your eyes snapped up to his.

“What? No. You can’t do that,” you said defensively.

“If it’s the only way I can keep you then yes, I can,” he shrugged.

“Mat, don’t be stupid,” you scoffed, pushing him away with a hand though he wouldn’t budge.

“If anyone’s being stupid here it’s you,” he said without hesitation. “If you think I’m letting you breakup with me having not even discussed this with me, you’re insane. Clearly, this has all been taking a toll on you, and you won’t even tell me about it so we can handle it as a team.”

“There’s nothing to handle. I’ve already figured it out.”

“Totally.” Mat nodded. “You know that in a relationship we handle things together, right?”

And maybe he had a point, but this wasn’t his battle to fight. It’s not like he was the one whose self esteem had taken drastic hits.

“I just don’t see how this can work out when I’m constantly thinking about how awful I feel or look,” you said.

“Well, I can tell you how we can work this out,” Mat replied confidently. “First, you tell me when things get bad like this so you don’t have to be alone. Second, I will tell every single bastard online to fuck off if you want. Third, we both take a step back from social media. No name searching or doom scrolling or even posting, if that’s what you want.”

“It won’t work, Mat.” You tried the whole ‘taking a step back’ and ignoring shit. It doesn’t work.

“Have you tried it with me?” You shook your head. “We’ll spend our evenings learning new hobbies like it’s the 1800s or something. You can teach me how to crochet or bake bread. We’ll start new shows and explore the city doing stuff we never thought we’d do. We can go to every single bagel place in New York and rank them.”

“That’ll take years.” You couldn’t help the laugh that slipped out.

Mat continued on, a smile tugging at his own lips. “We’ll go on vacations to the most remote places in the world with no cell reception. We’ll take pictures on polaroids and disposables like old people so that the only pictures we have are just for us. We’ll buy a house in the woods where we can go to escape whenever we think it’s all too much. When I retire we’ll move to the most secluded small town in Canada and put all of our efforts into starting a small business. There are so many things we haven’t tried yet.”

It all sounded so beautiful coming from Mat, and you couldn’t fight the smile that crept across your face as he listed off a million things for you to do. “You’re planning quite a far way into the future.”

“That’s because you are my future. I love you, and I want this to work. Your bad days are my bad days, and we should be handling this together. Like a team,” Mat said.

“We’re not qualified to start a small business,” you remarked, and he scoffed.

“Then we’ll both go to business school,” he teased. “We have years to plan that out.”

You knew he was joking about half the things he listed, but the fact that they were mostly all plausible options had you pausing to consider.

“Just give it a chance for us to work this out,” Mat pleaded.

And maybe it was the thought of hiking through South American mountains miles away from civilization or the thought of settling down with Mat in a home with your possible future children or the fact that you just loved Mat with all your heart, plain and simple, but you nodded in agreement.

“Okay,” you said softly. “We’ll work it out.”

#mat barzal #mat barzal imagine #nhl imagine #hockey imagine #my writing #requests #blurbs #isles13

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Anon wrote: Hey MBTI notes, ESTP woman here looking for some perspective. I have an ENFJ coworker who is kind but seems to expect way too much of me. She will do things like demand I participate in some event or another, and if I say no she gets passive aggressive or loosely implies I’m a bad person for not wanting to do her flavor of activism. I find that the events she goes to feel performative to me - like mosh pits to one up each other morally. I already go out of my way to donate my money to causes I believe in and do volunteer jobs outside of work. And so I feel very annoyed with this woman when she implies I’m selfish for not engaging in her personal idea of what being a good person means.

Another issue I face with her is that she repeatedly has commentary to make about my body or food choices, which I wouldn’t normally have an issue with but the way in which she speaks to me is condescending. Like telling me to eat more or that I look unwell, she knows I had lost a substantial amount of weight and that I have insecurities due to being heavy when younger. But I’m happy with my appearance now so I don’t listen to her trying to insinuate I have a problem, no one else speaks this way to me.

So far I have told her I’m not interested in participating in events she goes to, and that my body isn’t her concern. That has worked but she will just say things adjacent to those subjects now, like mentioning my clothing instead of my body for instance or inviting via e-mail lol. I’m just generally not interested in speaking to her because I don’t think it’s a healthy dynamic for either of us, we are frankly acquaintances and she has tried to control me about 500 different times.

I used to deal with Se-Fe loop and Ni grip when faced with rejection or failure, and so I’d focus too much on the dynamics of ‘how to be a good person’(very abstract and usually unfruitful conclusions other than just being kind) and can become a bit paranoid about what others think of me since I don’t have pristine social/moral confidence, so the pressure she’s putting is definitely not conducive to a life well lived for me. I just try to brush it off but I’m not interested in hearing about my body or problems from another person when I can already scrutinize myself if I wanted to. Any practical advice on how to further deal?

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Given that her behavior exhibits some "mean girl" qualities, it's hard to say whether she would be capable of a mature conversation. In a personal relationship, you communicate about the problem like adults, try to work it out together, and decide what to do together. In a work relationship, there should be a healthy boundary between personal and professional. Sometimes, there are weird power dynamics that make it dangerous to bring up personal issues in the workplace. Your options will depend on several factors:

1) Can Se+Ti work it out? Instead of interpreting her behavior as condescending, controlling, or {insert negative adjective}, why not take her purely at face value? Examples: If she promotes her flavor of activism, take it as a friendly suggestion (based on what she believes is her own authoritative knowledge) and nothing more. If she comments on your body, take it as a show of care/concern for your health/well-being and nothing more. If she expects more of you than you believe is warranted, treat it merely as constructive feedback (to be evaluated and accepted/rejected as you see fit) and nothing more.

You can take people's words as literal and sincere, or you can try to read between the lines and look for hidden meanings. Reading too much into things isn't going to reveal anything useful when what you're actually doing is unconsciously dredging up your past ego dramas (a symptom of Ni grip). The main point is that we all have cognitive biases that prime us to misinterpret information. When you've had a negative past experience with something, those memories make you highly sensitive to any information pertaining to it, and this easily morphs into a personal "issue" (aka "hangup").

Examples: If you've struggled with weight your whole life, you will of course be highly sensitive to weight comments, with a tendency to interpret them in a negative light. If you suffer from social anxiety due to having been rejected by your peers in adolescence, you'll have a tendency to misinterpret people's neutral facial expressions as angry or disapproving.

The human mind is littered with these kinds of biases because we are simply too good at learning from past experience. The question is: Are you 100% certain that you have always interpreted her behavior correctly? Impartiality is one of the key aspects of Ti development. Having mature Ti means that, when making judgments and decisions, you're able to acknowledge biases (aka bullshit) and focus solely on the content that is most relevant. Regardless of who is speaking and why, it should be more important to you whether what they say is factual/relevant to the situation. If what she says is false or irrelevant, what reason do you have to dwell on it? At that point, you're making the choice to dwell because you have ego drama going on, right? Healthy Se should help you quickly move on to something more interesting.

When I was very little, I used to complain about other kids teasing me, even when it wasn't malicious. My mother would say something to the extent of, "People talk shit all the time but it's your choice to eat it up. Are you gonna be a shit eater?" I didn't understand the truth of this until later in life, lol. A person can't get under your skin unless there is a sore spot under there that you don't want them to press on. In development terms, the more you refuse to confront a sore spot, the more you unconsciously attract the very people capable of exposing it. Due to your resistance, those seemingly "annoying" people are the only means left to you for becoming more aware of the problem and the need to resolve it.

Self-responsibility is another key tenet of Ti development. The first step to becoming less sensitive about your sore spots is to take full ownership of them: i) acknowledge that your mind is within your power to control, and ii) when your sore spots produce a negative effect, the onus is on you to learn how to get them under control. To your credit, you've been working on your loop/grip issues, but it sounds like you still have some work to do.

2) Can Fe work it out? Dominant Fe is highly motivated to form a closer relationship with people, so, to some extent, she can't help herself - it would be like asking a bird not to chirp. Because Fe is lower in your stack, there is a mismatch in beliefs about how much personal space one should be entitled to. This is a legitimate difference between FJ and TP that should be given acceptance and understanding. In a healthy relationship, both parties would compromise and try to be respectful of the other's preference.

As it stands, she wants to get closer than you are comfortable with. Do you fault her for triggering your insecurities? Sure, her words don't help matters, but she doesn't know the full extent of your personal issues. If she were a friend, you'd level with her and hopefully she'd understand and back off. But she's not a friend and perhaps her comments are meant to be probing to see where your personal issues lie, which is a natural step in the process of forming a new relationship. Perhaps she feels as though she's been unsuccessful at bonding with you and now she's resorting to immature methods of getting to you because she has taken your "rejection" too personally. That's her own baggage.

An important part of having healthy and mature Fe is nurturing empathy and magnanimity: Try to rise above pettiness and understand what people really need, underneath all the emotional baggage. You could make the choice to be understanding and give her the benefit of the doubt. Assume that her main motivation isn't coming from an evil place but, rather, a place of wanting to develop a relationship with you... despite choosing the wrong methods.

To be clear, it's not your duty to be her friend. But, if you acknowledge that a like-minded friend is probably what she's really after, you'd be more flattered than angry, and you'd be able to approach her with a less defensive/hostile mindset, which should help tamp down the tension in the relationship. The less you come off as "rejecting" in her eyes, the less compelled she will feel to prove anything. If she is indeed creating a drama out of her failure to form a relationship with you, the more you demonize her, react to her provocations, and feed into her suspicions, the harder she'll come at you. Sometimes, no response or an indifferent shrug works better than a sword at repelling an unwanted advance.

3) Can you set better boundaries? The obvious way is to avoid interacting with her, but that might not always be possible when you share the same social spaces. You've set boundaries to some extent by pushing back whenever you think she's being too inappropriate. If she's actually just a bully underneath it all (I can't make this judgment based on such limited information), attempts to be diplomatic may just be taken as participation in her mind games, in which case, bluntness could be more effective.

Let's say you push back exactly as hard as you wish to, what would the social consequences be and could you bear them? If you don't care about whether she likes you and she doesn't have the power/inclination to do any real harm to you, tell her to keep out of your business in no uncertain terms. Be firm but not mean (by avoiding personal attacks). However, if you don't want to have her ire hanging over you and/or you have reason to believe she could make your life difficult, then perhaps the first two options are the way to go. Use your best judgment.

#estp #estp relationships #auxiliary ti #tertiary fe #impartiality #critical thinking #self responsibility #empathy #magnanimity #boundaries #workplace #ask

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Could we get a ruby x reader? Something cute like maybe dancing to country music together in the piano room?

Lose Yourself - The Walking Dead | One Shot

A/N: Of course! Love Ruby.

SUMMARY: Ruby wants to have a midnight date with you, as a way to help you forget about the negative events of the past.

WARNINGS: Talks of nightmares, and the Delta.

WORD COUNT: 816

Instrumental country music crackled and popped as it came through the speaker of the old gramophone. Even if the sound was less than enjoyable to hear, you were more so focused on the woman in your arms, who had her head resting against your chest while the two of you swayed from side to side. What once was a simple date filled with laughs and conversation, it quickly turned into silence full of loving thought and deep contentment. She could hear the way your heart calmly thumped against her ear, and a small smile came to her cheeks at the fact that you were as calm as you were.

It had been a difficult past few months. So much stress was brought down onto your shoulders, along with everyone else’s. With the Delta and having to repel them, to almost dying with Clementine when she got bitten by a walker. The events of the past caused you to lose yourself often, and it was especially tiring when it was the middle of the night. Often you’d find yourself waking up from a once peaceful slumber, completely sweaty and breathing as though you had just run a marathon. And it was all because of a stupid nightmare.

Ruby did her best in trying to soothe your panic, but it got to a point where going to sleep was hard. So, she came up with the proposal of having midnight dates. With the music turned down low, and only a few candles lighting up the room, the two of you spent your time in the musical room whenever it was especially difficult to sleep without bad dreams sneaking their way into your mind. And that was what you and her were currently doing.

Her arms squeezed tight around you at one point, and your once closed eyes fluttered open in response. You were slow in moving your head back to look down at your girlfriend, and the moment your eyes met her blue ones, she graced you with a small soft smile, before she eventually spoke up. “You doing okay, sweetheart?” The nickname almost made you melt in her arms, but all that happened instead was the heating up of your cheeks. She knew how much you liked the label, especially when it was said in such a soft tone.

You eventually nodded, after a moment. “I’m doing better.” You didn’t want to get too confident and say that you were absolutely great, because you knew how your mind liked to work sometimes. It loved messing with you, and you wanted to just focus on your partner, and the time you got to share with her. There weren't many occasions where you could, due to responsibilities that warranted working around the school. But the times where you could hang out with her were ones that you absolutely cherished.

It made you almost forget about those nightmares you’ve been having.

“That’s good.” Ruby hummed, before pulling away from you and holding you in place at arm's length. “Are you having fun, though?” she then asked, and you furrowed your eyebrows as your lips quirked up in amusement at the teasing tone that lined her voice. She smiled back at you, and you couldn’t help but chuckle as you shook your head in confusion.

“Yeah, of course I am. Anything I do with you is fun,” you stated, which earned another hum from your girlfriend, before she eventually pulled away from you and spun around in front of you. You watched on in wonder, and you found yourself unconsciously giggling at the way she started dancing around to the country music that started to pick up into a quicker pace. It certainly wasn’t slow dancing music anymore.

“Then dance with me!” she exclaimed happily with a laugh.

Usually, you would have said no, or at least have been very hesitant to even agree to dancing, but with how hopeful Ruby looked, how content in the moment she seemed, you couldn’t deny the borderline order. You shook your head in endearment at her antics, and before you could really hop along to the beat, your hands were grasped by the other woman’s. She pulled you with her, and the both of you started jumping around like two little kids who had just eaten way too much sugar.

The music engulfed your mind, and the presence of Ruby hugged your soul as the two of you lost yourselves in the beat of the country song. There were no words shared, just laughs and wheezes that signified the enjoyment you both felt. You and her lost yourselves in the moment, and before you could even acknowledge it consciously, the thoughts of your nightmare immediately vanished into something that wasn’t even in the list of your worries.

You and Ruby danced for the rest of the night, until you both fell asleep within the music room.

#ruby x reader #twdg #twdg x reader #twdg ruby

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steven yeun & he/him / cis man ‷ watch out , jae-sung “jason” oh has crash-landed into roswell !! they look thirty-eight years old and celebrate their birthday on the thirty-first of august. they are from seattle, washington, reside in moonbeam gardens and are currently working as a model + environmental activist. one thing you should know about them is they have a green thumb. ‷

!! TRIGGER WARNINGS: divorce; riot

STATS:

FULL NAME: jae-sung oh NICKNAMES: jason; jae AGE: thirty-eight BIRTHDAY: august 31 (virgo) GENDER & PRONOUNS: cis man & he/him SEXUALITY: bisexual NEIGHBORHOOD: moonbeam gardens LENGHT OF TIME IN NM: a few weeks LIVED IN: seattle, washington; manhattan, new york OCCUPATION: model; environmental activist JUNG TYPE: intj-a FIVE POSITIVE TRAITS: candid; confident; informed; dutiful; chic FOUR NEGATIVE TRAITS: blunt; vain; hostile; condescending MISCELLANEOUSS: eating a monstera fruit is on his bucket list; mama’s boy; bit of a bookworm; always has his emotional support (reusable) water bottle within reach

GENERAL:

sadly, jason’s parents got divorced when he was very young, so a strong bond between mother and son developed in consequence of only having each other to depend on

when he was in high school, jason got recruited by an agent

though he sometimes neglected his school work, it wasn’t until after he graduated that he decided to really dedicated time to modeling

jason and sun-hwa (his mom) moved to new york and much to their surprise and amusement, his career took off rather quickly, establishing him well enough into the scene that he could live comfortably between there and his hometown on the west coast

had always been somewhat of a “green loving tree hugger,” but it wasn’t until he enterred his thirties did he begin to really investigate ways to fight climate change

after spending so much time and money on aiding organizations, jason has established himself as “that environmentalist model”

he was happy with his life until the last demonstration he had organized and hosted turned into a riot, leading to authorities to send out a warrant for his arrest

something about going back home sounded unappealing and loud, so jason opted to go to roswell, where there bustle is small in comparison the cities he’s used to. something quiet for him to process the violence he witness, though he’s not typically one to address him emotions straight on

HEAD CANNONS:

jason would rather awkwardly carry all his groceries in his arms than ever touch a plastic bag ever again. the idea makes him physically cringe. he also makes mental notes when he sees his friends using them so he can gift them bundles of reusable bags

vegetarian (sometimes vegan) because meat industry is bad for the environment.

big decisions are always ran by sun, his momma. she’s pretty antagonistic against him, so she’s contradicts and puts down a lot of his plans and ideas, putting him in a weird head space whenever he does follow his intuition and go against her input

a loyal friend

serial monogamist

very much hates public speaking, but fights through his discomfort if it means educating people/kids/communities on why it’s important to care about the planet

if you see him, he’ll most likely be wearing a pair of glasses because his eyesight has always been poor and he can only tolerate contacts for so long

TL;DR - jason is a moody and broody model who likes to help in the fight against climate change

WANTED CONNECTIONS:

people from work - other models, photographers, designers, makeup artists, agents, etc.

romantic - dates (good, bad, blind, tinder, whatever), hook-ups, fwb, exes, flirty

amicable

neighbors

anyone who might have attended clean-ups and / or demonstrations that he had organized in the past; jason also goes to businesses to leave flyers, so he might even be familiar with local business owners / managers

anything else - it’s easy for jason to leave a bad taste in people’s mouths, but he can be charismatic and charming when he wants to be. so you decide!

#abt;#roswellintro #divorce tw #riot tw

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I cannot belive "JK 'Merry TERFmas' Rowling" "JoAnne donating to anti-trans groups and funding anti trans lobbying groups" "Ms. Harry Potter book writer who specifically @s all of the trans people (women, usually) who say anything even slightly negative about her so that her followera can see"

JK made-half-her-internet-personality-about-invalidating-trans-people Rowling

Is not transphobic 💀

Genuinely that is how bad reading comprehension is??? Genuinely?? That is how fucking bad reading comprehension is.

The notes were half like 'woah really?' and half 'saw that coming' bitch you didn't see anything but the shit in your eyes from having your head up your ass. One reblog was like "This is what you get for just listening to propaganda-" dude it is ONE BLOGGER who watches her for what three months? Random ass blogger versus trans peoplw who have literally been put in physical danger because of JKR.

SHE CALLS HERSELF A TERF. SHE MAKES BEING A TERF HER WHOLE FUCKING IDENTITY, DUMBASSES- wtf??? "Never said anything that transphobic" yeah if you don't read any of her tweets ever???

Just because she gets her little fucking transphobic goonies to do all of the dirty work of sending pure hate speech and suicide baits to trans people doesn't mean that Ms. Rowling doesn't continue to incicte violence against trans women by @ing them to her thousands of transphobic followers.

She calls herself a TERF. All the fucking time. All the fucking time- this woman can't shut up about trans people existing, but oh one person from a random article said "She doesn't actually say anything that transphobic," well Jan, sometimes people don't go out and says 'I hate you, I hate you, go die-' they make a platform off of passive mockery and- oh I don't fucking know- EXCLUSIONISM??

She is a TERF. She calls herself a TERF! She calls her SUPPORTERS TERFs!

If you need someone to bottle feed you "excluding someone from a community because you don't agree with them is bigotry," then you need to lay down in the dirt. Grass is not enough for you. JKR isn't even in the LGBT community- she's supported transphobic merch creators, donated her money to anti-trans establishments, used her platform to warrant harrassment!!

I cannot believe.

Out of all the stupid ass takes I have seen "JKR isn't actually that transphobic" is something I had to read with my own eyes. DAYS after she used her Twitter platform to mock a trans YouTuber who ended up getting death threats, suicide baits, and unwarranted harassment... for pointing out that JKR has made her bed out of bigotry.

Did Ms. Rowling say 'no I'm not transphobic?' Ever? No, because she thrives off of her bullshit. She has made her personality being a grouchy, annoying TERF.

"People just react to propaganda without thinking about it," Tumblr user I won't touch with a thirty foot pole, that is YOU. Dumbass.

#tw jk rowling #jesus christ #transphobes are so fucking self absorbed and stupid #what are you going to say Ben Shapiro isn't transphobic either??#tumblr don't reccommend me fucking terf blogs #wow I thought my head hurt before just take me out back and shoot me

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hey. ok. so. i have a feeling you're a bit new to this site, and i can see that taking in everything all at once is freaking you out. so i'm gonna introduce you to something people do here on tumblr all the time to make their lives better and everyone else's lives better. ok? ok. so. it's these two things:

blocking tags and people that make them uncomfortable

creating tags for when they go on mental health vents + tagging content warnings on said mental health posts, so that people who don't want to see that can block those tags

from what i can see, you don't look like you're doing either of those things right now. these are essential things to do on tumblr in order to curate your experience into something that's enjoyable, not stressful.

so, basically, here's how tagging fandom stuff works on tumblr.

don't tag a piece of media or anything from that media unless you are specifically talking about stuff in it. (ex: incorrect sophie foster quotes you've posted, that i've seen, are correctly tagged. good job!)

if you're talking about the fandom surrounding a source material, tag the fandom, not the source material. and if you're talking about negative stuff, such as fandom discourse (people being toxic, engaging in something that fans fight about in not the most... peaceful way, if you catch my drift, etc) or stuff that warrants trigger warnings (violence, child abuse, etc) tag the post with the appropriate warning tags.

i'll use kotlc as an example. if i were to make a post going in depth about how i think alden vacker is a bad parent, and made claims such as him being neglectful to his kids, here's the gist of how i would probably tag it: '#kotlc #keeper of the lost cities #alden vacker #kotlc discourse #tw mentions of child abuse #tw mentions of child neglect #ask to tag'.

clarifying notes - tw stands for trigger warning. you'll also see people use cw which stands for content warning. most people put tw or cw in front of the thing they're warning people about, but sometimes you'll see people put it after. ex: 'kidnapping tw'. ask to tag is just my way of saying 'hey guys if there's any triggers i missed please hit me up and i'll add them'. if it wasn't obvious already, tw/cw tags are essential because they save people who have those tags blocked from running into stuff that'll cause them mental breakdowns or worse.

the discourse tags are essential for people to curate their experience too. a lot of people don't want to see people being negative about kotlc, because it's their comfort series and seeing people fight stresses them out when tumblr is supposed to be their space to relax. which doesn't mean no one should ever be critical of kotlc (i personally have many critiques on kotlc), it just means that those people need to block discourse tags. blocking tags helps people make their experience here on tumblr more comfortable.

so. please. tag stuff appropriately. i doubt you intentionally left out important tags on a lot of kotlc posts, but it's still important. and when you're on the receiving end of being uncomfortable because you ran into stuff that makes you upset (ie. a kotlc fan or two posting about being anti mcu) just block the 'anti mcu' tag or any other tags that are used often to say 'hey this is mcu hate'. and/or block the person that's reblogging or posting about all of those things frequently. those are both excellent courses of action. what you don't do is make a clearly angry post talking about how you might leave the kotlc fandom just because a few people were hating on another source material you like, and not tag any of the necessary discourse tags on said angry post. it makes people uncomfortable in a way that we can't curate away without blocking you entirely.

(also, side note, feel free to make custom tags for personal stuff, such as mental health vents! ex: if you make a post talking about how you're having a thought spiral about wanting to interact with people in the kotlc fandom because we have mutual interests, and being terrified of kotlc fans because you like mcu, use a custom tag for that and all of your other mental health vents. a custom tag one of my friends uses is 'mental health shit', for example. but do whatever you'd like! and then establish through a post or your bio that that's your mental health tag and to block it if we don't want to see that.)

thank you very much for reading through all of this. i appreciate it. i hope this helps you curate your experience so you and i are both less stressed out :)

I really wish you’d go off anon before asking this, because I do have some question, like what sort of tags I should use on my post that you’re talking about. I used the mcu tag and the mental health tag. Is there a trigger warning tag I should use in this situation? Should I tag it as “kotlc discourse”?

I’m sorry if you interpreted my post as me being angry at someone. I was mostly being angry at myself, but I’ll edit it :P

Thanks for the advice. I do use the “personal” tag about stuff that’s just about me, so I guess there’s that. But I’ll try to do better.

If you’d be willing to talk to me off of anon, I’d really appreciate that.

#personal #asked

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loud-collector-angels-stuff-blog · 3 months

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LadyAnne'sDemerit Protocol

Demerit protocol: the slave rules are many and conformation is the minimum expectation. To punish a slave for each breach of protocol could keep a superior busy, especially when the slave is new. Rather than waste a superiors time this demerit protocol ensures that every correction is tracked and settled.

The slave will purchase a small pocket notebook and a red ink pen. They will keep this with themselves at all times. When a superior determines that demerits are needed they will tell the slave to give them the demerit book. They will write the date, a brief description of the failing and the number of demerits. They will then check the previous entry for the running total of demerits and add the new demerits as the new running total. When a predetermined number of demerits are reached the owner will be notified by the slave. The owner will then schedule a consequence session where appropriate punishment will be administered. Some owners use the simple rule of one stroke for each demerit. Others will choose more elaborate consequences: there is no limit to the possibilities: anything from being loaned as a domestic, a sex toy, a model, to more serious physical things such as tattoos, piercing or branding. Sometimes the owner will give the choice from two or more options. The choice may not be respected, but it is useful for future sessions.

Most situations calling for demerits are straightforward breaches of protocol. These usually get assigned one point. But a single situation may involve multiple breaches (for instance being late with a task is the same as not doing the task so one demerit for not following the schedule, one for being late. The only protocol breach requiring immediate correction is looking at the superior without permission. This requires an immediate faceslap. It also draws one demerit for the looking and one demerit for having to be slapped

Multiple demerits are assigned for general problems. Slaves are never allowed to cum. Slaves are never allowed to speak without permission. Slaves are never allowed to be rude, negative, angry or willful. Multiple demerits are warranted for these.

Then there is the "just 'cause" demerit. Any superior can give the slave demerits "just 'cause" they feel like giving demerits. Slaves hate this. Too fucking bad. Should have thought of that before they admitted that they were inferior sissy faggot sluts . Too late now.

Finally there is a series of demerits associated with the administration of demerits. Each of these are an automatic 5; demerits. They are: not having the demerit book with them. Not having the red pen with them. Arguing that demerits are unfair, not warranted, Arguing that the person assigning demerits can't assign demerits. General resistance to demerits. Also the slave will be punished if the entry is not done correctly, if the running total is added up wrong if they bring the addition error to the Superior's attention or a they fall to bring it to their attention.

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seedterri · 2 years

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Either gender, any race, and any sexual orientation are available, but even that choice will affect the world. Players create their character up front to be pretty much anything. Every choice has the potential for negative consequences for a character, and the developers said it would be impossible to go through the entire game without being mean to someone, just like in real life. Unlike popular RPGs with choice, the choices in this game aren’t classified into being a good person or a bad person. Along the way, you’ll have countless decisions to make, all of which affect the world in some way. Set in the real world, the story tasks the player with traveling across the country to stop the love of his or her life from marrying someone else. It's worth visiting for the combat mechanics, but staying for the duration may be a difficult task.Always Sometimes Monsters is an RPG focused completely on choice rather than combat. Instead, these poor performances have left an unfavorable impression. Had the game been voiced by more qualified actors 'Bound by Flame' could have become a major sleeper title for 2014. Unfortunately, this being a grand adventure, the developers should have realized the importance a well-acted character can have on the final product. It sets an interesting, albeit familiar, tone, and delivers an enjoyable and addictive combat system. Not without its shortcomings, 'Bound by Flame' is still an ambitious title for developer Spiders. Everything about the game had me interested and I was more than a little excited to occupy my time with this new adventure in between some of the bigger AAA titles still to release. With the help of Focus Home Interactive, the marketing campaign behind 'Bound by Flame' raised more than a few eyebrows, including my own. The fantasy RPG is more than a little crowded, and breaking into that genre is likely to be a difficult task. Blizzard Entertainment's continued focus on social integration shines, as does their ability to develop a game that runs amazingly smooth, delivers awe-inspiring visuals, and intuitively captures the imagination and enjoyment of those looking for a grand dungeon crawl, both new to the franchise and long-standing fans. Playing alone is certainly an option, but playing together with friends is the preferred method and allows for multiple opportunities to do so.

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It's true, I have not played much 'Diablo III' before the 'Ultimate Evil Edition', but my research prior to its release, along with the time spent playing the game as a newcomer, has convinced me that it is much more than a simple port, and that it has been designed (in some cases from scratch) to take full advantage of the technology of the PlayStation 4. 'Diablo III: Ultimate Evil Edition' undeniably falls into the former of these categories. Some have warranted the title, presenting truly unique and inspiring updates, while others resulted in nothing more than a rehash of the same game with obligatory DLC thrown in for good measure. I've played my fair share of 'ultimate' or 'definitive' editions of games over the years. Those looking to test their skills and enjoy an all-out blood bath need look no further. The gore and violence reaches a boiling point very early on and people who either take offence or have a weak stomach for such experiences should avoid 'The Evil Within' at all costs. Although both styles of gameplay can be exceptionally fun and exciting, I would have ultimately preferred the game remain exclusively focused on one or the other. By mixing in some frustratingly difficult boss battles, the games veers off in the other direction. While 'The Evil Within' walks a tightrope that straddles these two types of horror games, it occasionally leans a bit more toward the survival horror side of things. I was even a fan (albeit, in the minority) of 'Resident Evil 6'. 'Dead Space 2', in my opinion, is nearly perfect. Don't get me wrong, they're good fun, but I've always enjoyed those games that attempt to balance horror and action set pieces more. However, I've never been a huge fan of the survival horror style of video game. From books and comics, to movies, video games, and board games, I'm always on the lookout for something to give me a good scare. I've been a fan of the horror genre for the majority of my life.

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mgkaizen · 2 years

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How to Recover from a Breakup

We all go through breakups and we all have different ways of dealing with them. This is all part of life and contributes to our growth as humans, but the truth is that recovering from a breakup can be hard. After all, you head into a relationship thinking you are going to spend your life with this person, and all of a sudden, it’s over. So, if you are having a hard time recovering from a breakup, don’t worry, Tending Minds’ top family & couple counsellors in Pune have some strong advice for you that can help.

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● Some breakups come out of the blue, and you are left to figure out what you did wrong to warrant a breakup.

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Break Association – This is one of the most difficult tasks to do but once successfully achieved, it is the most helpful thing you can do for yourself. In this context, avoid going to places and do things that remind you of your partner. Avoidance only works for a short period though. After a point, you need to learn to associate those things with other stimuli.

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