#we can acknowledge that passing *can* contribute to how somebody is treated *without* making sweeping statements that silence others y'know?

[uncanny-tranny]

I'm tired of the idea that passing as a trans person is something you either are or aren't, that it is innate, and if you pass, you pass in every scenario otherwise, you don't pass, and if you don't pass, and it's because you aren't doing enough/aren't transitioning enough/aren't enough of your gender.

I'm tired of the idea that passing is this clearly defined phenomenon that happens to us all if we try hard enough, and that it's inherently our fault if we can't magically pass in every fucking scenario known to man.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #like passing is already complex and i hate that so many treat it like black and white #that's why i hate being told i pass or that i pass and so my voice is less impactful #because maybe i pass as a man 99% of the time but. i can never pass as a cishet man and that impacts how i am treated #and i simply can't pass in some situations. i'm treated like a third scarier gender in many circumstances and that matters! #it matters because it's transphobia and it *will* impact other people #we can acknowledge that passing *can* contribute to how somebody is treated *without* making sweeping statements that silence others y'know? #and i just don't know if some people are ready for the amount of nuance and care that that takes #it's getting to the point where i am weary of language surrounding passing #like even when i passed maybe 10% of the time i still felt like i wasn't heard by others and it's frustrating #like it feels like it's 'you pass so you don't understand this' or 'you don't pass so you don't understand this'