#// grooming

[manscaped]

Your Dad’s toolbox isn’t complete without #MANSCAPED.

#manscaped #male grooming #self care #grooming #skin care #shaving #mens style #meme #funny memes

[bearditorium2]

#beard #megabeard #grooming

[yakkolicious]

Call-Out Post

Hey everyone. Normally my posts are more lighthearted and fun, but I recently learned that someone I called my friend for almost two years is a dangerous predator hiding in plain sight. This person is "@nolantrio." He is not active on Tumblr, but he is very active on Discord under the username "lordkinesis." Before I explain more, this post is going to discuss grooming, so be warned and block nolantrio here and lordkinesis on Discord if he messages you to stay safe, ESPECIALLY if you're a minor. There are more usernames he uses on other sites at the end of this post, but his Discord is the biggest one to keep an eye on.

Night, which is what I am going to call nolantrio for the remainder of this post, is very charismatic. He uses lots of emojis, always acts super eager to talks to those he considers his friends, compliments them in the sweetest ways imaginable, and will even buy Steam games for his friends if they express interest in getting a certain game. I got all my Steam games from him. However, these are all tactics he uses to keep people by his side, and he has serious abandonment issues. He even admits to using emotional manipulation tactics.

One important thing to note is that Night is a cardiophile, a person who is obsessed with the human heart, heartbeats, and stethoscopes. NOT ALL CARDIOPHILES ARE BAD PEOPLE AND/OR GROOMERS. There is nothing wrong with being fascinated with heartbeats. However, there is something very wrong with soliciting recordings of heartbeats from thirteen-year-old girls. For their safety, their Internet handles have been blacked out of the screenshots I am going to share.

As you can see, Night requested the recordings of heartbeats of two thirteen-year-old girls as well as a recording of my heartbeat. I'm 18, but I met him when I was 16, and again, he admitted to using emotional manipulation tactics and not being good at taking "no" for an answer. He admits to grooming, but then tries to spin it as his actions being unacceptable but not grooming. That's not how it works. He got close to me and these girls and then asked us for heartbeat recordings. Just because you didn't throw a hissy fit when I said "no" doesn't excuse the fact that you asked for that at all. Heartbeats may not be nudes, but when he gets close to someone, he will happily tell them about his interest in heartbeats.

Protecting Yourself From Night

Night is not active on most social media, but he is active on gaming websites, fanfiction archives, and livestreaming services. Here is every platform that I know that he is on. Please block him on all of these platforms if possible and DO NOT harass him, as that will only add fuel to the fire.

Tumblr: nolantrio (he is not particularly active here, but he does come on sometimes, so block him just in case) Discord: lordkinesis Twitch: lordkinesis YouTube: Lord Kinesis DeviantArt: Lord-Kinesis AO3: Lord_Kinesis Fanfiction.net: Lord Kinesis Steam: Jonas IQ

In addition, he can also be found on Amino. However, Amino is a bit tricky. Look out for variations of the names "Lord Kinesis" and "Night Cap." I first met him on the Lalaloopsy Amino (which has since banned him) and he went by Night Cap on there, hence why I refer to him as Night.

Night is in quite a few fandoms, and many of these fandoms are fandoms for children's and family shows or fandoms that contain large numbers of teenagers in their membership. Here is every fandom that I know with 100% certainty he's seriously into. Asterisks are placed next to fandoms with notably high membership to my knowledge:

Animaniacs (1993 only)* Wayside (mostly the cartoon) Strawberry Shortcake (2003 only) Lalaloopsy (2013 series only) Max and Ruby Hazbin Hotel and Helluva Boss* Undertale and Deltarune* Ace Attorney* Super Mario* Pokémon* Plants vs. Zombies Road 96 Papa Louie Assorted Flash games (I say assorted Flash games because unlike Papa Louie, when it comes to these games, he doesn't exactly partake in their fandoms as much as he takes the protagonists of these games and turns them into half-OCs. Notable titles he has done this with include Pumpkin Push, Bomb-It, Straight Bullyism, and Snail Bob) Scott Pilgrim (2010 movie only)*

Anyone in these fandoms needs to keep an eye out for him and protect minors from him. I don't normally tell people to reblog my posts, but I would sincerely appreciate it if you reblog this post to spread awareness of this man. I was his friend for a long time, and I feel betrayed and disgusted now that I understand why he has done the things he has done. To anyone who has read this far, thank you so much and please take care of yourselves.

#important #call out post #groomers #tw grooming #grooming #nolantrio #cardiophilia #animaniacs #wayside school #wayside #strawberry shortcake #lalaloopsy #max and ruby #hazbin hotel #helluva boss #undertale #deltarune #super mario #mario #mario bros #pokemon #plants vs. zombies #plants vs zombies #ace attorney #road 96 #papa louie #flash games #scott pilgrim #do not harass him #just block and move on

[sweaty-confetti]

if i have to see someone use the word “grooming” one more time in an incorrect way i’m going to start throwing things. like YES this person had an inappropriate relationship with this other person. YES this person was abusive and manipulative. YES this person seemed creepily obsessed with this other person. etc etc etc. but that doesn’t automatically equal grooming !!! abuse isn’t necessarily grooming, stalking isn’t necessarily grooming, even pedophilia isn’t necessary grooming ! grooming refers to a SPECIFIC PATTERN OF BEHAVIOR that predatory adults will use on children before actually abusing them in order to normalize and suppress the abuse beforehand! it’s specifically nonviolent and is used to make the predator harder to get caught, to get the victim to trust and fear them, and to normalize said inappropriate behavior before it actually happens. i cannot fucking stand what the internet has done to this term. if you’re talking about domestic abuse, use the word domestic abuse. if you’re talking about rape, use the word rape. if you’re talking about stalking, use the word stalking. if you’re talking about straight up pedophilia, use that word. this is one of those words i’m putting on the shelf until the internet knows how to use it properly

#emo moss talks #grooming #internet

[longing-for-rain]

You know what I think a lot of people don’t realize about grooming is that, the person will almost always start pushing your boundaries in little, non-sexual ways.

For example, one big thing a person who groomed me did was joke about killing and eating my dog. She knew I love my dogs like they’re my children, and I’d told her those “jokes” made me uncomfortable. But she kept doing it. The same joke over and over again; it wasn’t even funny (“I believe all god’s creatures have a place…next to the potatoes”). At first I pushed back, but then it got to a point where I got tired of resisting and treated like I was stiff and couldn’t take a joke. So I relented on that boundary.

That alone might seem insignificant and dumb, but with groomers, as soon as they break down one boundary they’ll immediately start trying to break down another. And each little one they break, the more they get you used to letting them violate you to the point where you’re afraid to speak up against the bigger things.

So especially if you’re a younger person on the internet, never ignore when someone is making you uncomfortable especially if they’re much older. Even if it seems like a silly, insignificant thing. They know what they’re doing, and it’s important to stay safe.

#this is one thing I’m exploring in my non fiction project #internet culture #safety #grooming #fandom toxicity #feminism

[paperbagrat]

Baby Reindeer (2024)

#as someone who has been groomed #the way this scene fucked me up #unspeakable #baby reindeer #baby reindeer netflix #netflix #netlix show #grooming #abuse #tw abuse #tw grooming

[snikerdoodledoo]

Please enjoy this adorableness of my boy cleaning his tail 💕

(ignore the audio)

#pet rats #rats #furry potato #fancy rats #seriously so cute #rattie #grooming #cute #my heart cant handle this level of adorableness #look at my son #ratblr

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Someone uploaded the Colleen Ballinger on Album of the Year so people could rate it 0 out of a 100, making it the worst single of the year.

#not a dream #photo(s) #2023 #June 29th 2023 #grooming tw #tw grooming #grooming #colleen ballinger #miranda sings

[manscaped]

Can't have the talk without the right tools for the job. #FathersDay

#manscaped #male grooming #self care #grooming #skin care #shaving #mens style #meme #funny memes #fathers day

[butch-reidentified]

it's so cute how everyone acknowledges grooming as a real thing but as soon as we say (such as in conversations about female body hair removal) girls/women are groomed our entire lives to appeal to men, we're "misogynistic" for "calling women stupid"

Edit Jan 7, 2024:

My wife thinks I should have included an analogy in the original post (like the CEO example in my recent reblog), but in my conversation with her she pointed out that under the broad definition of grooming, all raising of children could be considered "grooming them for adult life." She makes a good point!!

The actual definition isn't inherently about sexual predation despite what the internet may have led some of you to assume. This is a good opportunity for me to remind *everyone* to fact check *everything* you learn online before repeating it to anyone and possibly spreading misinformation - including definitions of words you learn online! We ALL do this sometimes!

Screenshot below of #2 and #3 under the definition of "grooming" (#1 is obviously about animal fur lol):

I do find it interesting that the broader definition (#2) inherently includes what is detailed in #3, yet #3 was explicitly added (I assume at a later date than #2, given the context and numerical order). It's redundant, and I do have some criticisms of the way it's worded/the specifics of it. I wonder how other dictionaries define it.

#mine #grooming #feminism #femsoc #female socialization #feminist theory #feminist discourse

[she-is-ovarit]

The man several years older than you who calls you "more mature than your own age" is grooming you. The man who says you are "special" or "unique" is grooming you. The man who calls you an "old soul" is grooming you.

These are grooming phrases.

The man several years older than you who keeps circling back to "Gosh, I can't believe you're real! But are you sure you want this? I'm so much older than you!" when you're cuddling or making out is grooming you. He is asking you that question during intimate moments as a way to unconsciously manipulate you into denial and perhaps get you to reassure whatever guilt he has, if he has any. Asking this while showering you with affection is an attempt to bait and coerce you into saying yes. Whether done unconsciously or consciously, he is fulfilling an emotional need you have for love or protection while at the same time getting you to say out loud to yourself and to him that you want this in order to work your brain into ignoring any bad gut feeling or doubt you have, then or in the future.

That is grooming behavior.

I understand that you might not want this to be true, and that you feel pulled to him. I understand it might feel more parental or brotherly than it does sexual or romantic. But this is how grooming works in many, many cases. The attachment or relationship fulfills a psychological need or wound you had from a parent or a sibling. His behaviors might very well be fatherly or brotherly, and then over time those little interactions blur into something else that you can't quite make sense of but that you like.

That magnetic, psychological pull you feel is not a sign of healthy attachment or a healthy relationship. You can be groomed as a child, you can be groomed as a teen, you can be groomed as a 20 year old.

And, yes, this goes for lesbians, bisexuals, gay men too. I speak with heterosexual situations in mind because there is a depressing, astounding pattern of heterosexual men grooming women and girls younger than them. But I have encountered plenty of gay men and lesbians in horrible codependent relationships that they feel simultaneously both trapped in and glued to.

#grooming #feminism #dating #relationships #codependency #trauma #mental health #grooming mention

[radykalny-feminizm]

The moment I saw 20F and 35M I knew it was gonna be bad but holy shit, the audacity of this moid

#radfem #radical feminism #radfem safe #radblr #radfems do interact #feminism #radfems do touch #grooming #age difference #relationships #shitty men #fuck men

[furiousgoldfish]

my parents during all of my formative years: there's something fundamentally wrong with you. you're unlovable and nobody will ever want you. you are a waste of space and shouldn't exist.

me, for the rest of my life: hm, I wonder why I feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with me and I'm unlovable and a waste of space. It's a mystery.

#abusive parents #psychological abuse #brainwashing #grooming #child abuse #aftermath of abuse #fake self perception #being fed nonsense and believing nonsense #because there's no evidence to the contrary

[guineapiggies]

Via mini_capybaras

#guinea pig #popcorn #nom #nom fight #grooming #gnaw gnaw gnaw #video

[not-so-superheroine]

i have been praying on preying bbl drizzy's downfall for over a decade.

i realized as a teenage girl what his game was, and i was disgusted.

kendrick's predator allegations do have receipts.

men and birds just been ignoring it bc they didn't want to see it bc ain't no way they missed that on the texting 14 year old millie bobby brown about boys 'controversy' alone.

that was straight up on daytime "light news" television. it was on tv. that's how i learned about that one and Black Twitter was making jokes about the police / fbi raiding Aubrey's home.

we ragged on him for weeks. it trended.

so no, the allegations are not that wild. and to play like he wasn't known for constantly being in industry teen girls dms.

there is video evidence of his behavior.

c'mon. dem boi playin een muh face. "wild allegations" and "what proof do he have" my rear end.

#grooming #tw grooming #kendrick lamar #bbl drizzy #drake #aubrey graham #kendrick diss

[feminismisstillahatemovement]

Yes, they really did this.

#cocomelon #netflix #grooming