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mistakenlyfoundnico · 7 months

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Lately I have one been dealing with aphobia, that one was a new one for me. Like of course it happens but I have yet to experience it myself until recently and two i keep seeing posts like when i found out i was ace:🤷‍♀️ when i found out i was aro:😟 or something around making being aromantic sound like a very sad thing to happen so because of that here is a list of reasons I enjoy being aro and just aspec in general but mostly aro:

-i enjoy that fact that i don't have to worry if someone likes me back romanticaly

-the whole trope of "ruining" a friendship, i am genuinely happy being friend zoned

-i get a cool ass flag

-i don't have to stress out for dates

-i am apart of a rather accepting community

-i share a sexual and romantic orientation as saiki k

-if i was a secret government official i wouldn't be seduced for authorized information

-i can say i am above foolish human emotions like love

-i don't need to plan or pay for a wedding

-i will never have sex therefore i will never get stds or pregnant

-my cat can stay my first priority

-i don't have to find time in my very limited free time to spend with others

-i can wait to buy discounted valentines chocolate without someone upset i didn't buy the day of for them

-i can avoid any stress of dating

-when someone tells me love is what makes us human i can imply i am more than human

-if i start a tv show i can watch at my own speed without waiting for someone to watch it with me

-i can unpack and work through my trauma with out bringing someone with me through it

-i don't have to confront my commitment issues quite yet

-i get to be the comedic releif who is really into movies in a slasher film (i am totally talking about randy from scream)

-i get to be the comedic releif in general

-i am fine being a third wheel cause sometimes they pay for your meal

-messy breakups i don't have to deal with those

-i know i mentioned it but it is one of my favorite reasons i get a cool ass flag

-there is no one to judge me but myself when i eat a family size bag of chips in one sitting

That's all i can think of off the top my head, i think it would be pretty cool if yall could reblog more positives about being aro or aspect in general, i just really think we need stop making it seem like the worst thing to happen, and i am a part of this i have posted a fair share of sad things indirectly related to be aroace but being aro isn't a bad thing it and there is so much happy parts of it that we don't talk about

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nikothebookdragon · 6 months

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hey btw. being platonically in love is so real btw. having a silly text convo with your friend and thinking "I love you" with every message. studying together in silence and feeling the most comfortable you've been in years. having a huge cheesy grin on your face after you spend time together, or even just text for a bit. your worries becoming a little easier to bear when they hug you. worrying about them, wishing you could magically give them all the happiness in the world.

being platonically in love is one of my favourite feelings in the world, and you know what? I'm so grateful that being aspec let me experience this in full. I fucking love being on the aromantic spectrum <3

#i just. man. i love my friends so much its almost overwhelming sometimes #platonic love is amazing; being platonically *in* love? a whole new level #not a romantic feeling in sight and i am SO happy about that. genuinely.#being queer is a beautiful thing :)#aromantic #aro #aspec #arospec #platonic love

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shmaroace · 9 months

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I REFUSE TO FEEL GUILTY FOR BEING AROMANTIC AND ASEXUAL !!!

#tw: caps #you cannot make me hate myself !!!!#being aromantic and asexual is a beautiful thing !!!#aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec

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knifearo · 6 months

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seeing all those posts from ppl ab how miserable they are without a partner like sorry can't relate. i'm doing great and in fact i hope i die alone 🖤

#THIS POST IS ABOUT NON-PARTNERING AROMANTICISM #like unironically! i hope i die having been by myself my whole life!!!!#in a romantic/traditional partnering sense. in the way that people usually mean 'die alone'#to me there is such poetic beauty in my life ultimately being about myself.#and also i think saying that i hope i die alone fucking rocks.#fuck you and your societal standards. i am going to aspire toward the worst thing you could imagine for yourself #and i am going to hold such joy in it. your worst nightmare is my perfect future. my jubilation. my victory.#i'm going to be by my fucking self and it's going to be my decision and i am going to be deliriously happy.#SO fucking excited about it. looking forward to a long and fulfilled life and i hope i fucking die alone :)#new favorite phrase so obsessed with it can't stop saying it. i fucking hope i die alone!!!!!#i might be so lucky!!!!!!#aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro positivity #aspec #talking

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cursedchildofchaos · 8 months

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when Kitty thinks she's pregnant but Alison whispers to her how it happens and she just looks at Julien, Robin, and Pat in horror eruivbiuervbhwei i died

#bbc ghosts #ghosts #spoilers #spoliers #ghosts spoilers #bbc ghosts spoilers #ghosts series 5 #ghosts season 5 #kitty higham #not saying she's aspec but being aspec this was hysterical to me like it's a beautiful thing but also i am like wtf XD #it's just sort of weird to be aware of others doing it/having done it tbh XD

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magnus-rhymes-with-swagness · 1 year

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me when i’m constantly grappling with my own nature and locked in a futile yet never-ending battle with the immutable essence of identity

#gonna put aroallo into my bio.#shouldn’t be a big deal on tumblr (land of the aspecs) but it is To Me #i may seem confident and proud when it comes to being aroallo but in truth ‘tis mostly wishful thinking lol #like i know it’s a beautiful wonderful thing to be and nothing will ever change my mind abt that #but at the same time i have all this like. internalized guilt and shame. bc society hates us lol #crazy how you can hold a strong opinion 100% and yet have frequent thoughts that oppose it because Society #almost no representation. constant societal messages that demonize us. gets tiresome!#the assumptions that some people make about us are awful and i am not a fan of them!#but also i do want to put it in my bio bc it’s important to me #i have a lot of thoughts about this but i’ll save them for another time #anyway doing this on aro visibility day because today feels like the right day for it #deep breath here we go and happy pride 💚💛#my words #personal

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jenhoneys · 1 year

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honestly at this point I am begging them not to give din another romantic interest -- I don't CARE that pedro pascal is hot it doesn't make any sense for the narrative to throw him into a relationship, he is learning the value of friendship and companionship and I think adding anything romantic is just unnecessary and awkward. also this is a personal feeling but he doesn't really have chemistry with any current characters. maybe a lot of characters had chemistry with HIM, but HE himself doesn't have romantic chemistry with anyone and I think that's neat

#I'm also firmly on the aspec din train but that's a whole separate thing #I just... leave him be guys! he's happy being a single dad #and he's fulfilled with his friendships and platonic relationships (and his SON)#the mandalorian #din darjin #seeing so many people backing the d/nbo agenda infuriates me just a little #and I'm trying not to be petty or ridiculous about it because people can ship what they want and that's fine #but taking so many of their scenes where they have each others' backs and they support each other so strongly out of context #or only seeing them in a romantic light #kind of takes the beauty and depth out of them -- they are learning to trust! two people who have been so isolated for so long #are learning companionship and community #and I don't know making that romantic kind of feels forced at this point #but those are just my thoughts #zay speaks

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bxdtime-ceai · 4 months

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thoughts in tags

#it's really difficult to tell what i actually dislike #specifically things ive been taught to like that i actually dont like #this is why it's been so hard for me to realize that im aro #but the analogy i can draw is with fireworks #i always think fireworks are cool and beautiful but i go out to actually see some fireworks and it makes me so unhappy each time #but whenever theres a firework event nearby i go to it bc i think wow fireworks are cool and then i am disappointed again #and it's not that the fireworks suck #i just don't like them #it's like that with romance #everyone wants love right so i must also want it #so even tho i am always uncomfortable on dates or in any romantic situation or any situation in which romance is being discussed #i still pursued them because i thought it must be great right?#but i am the happiest when i have nothing to do with romance #so i guess i just dont like it #on top of the whole not experiencing attraction thing #aromantic #arospec #aroace #aspec #lgbtq+#queer

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schattenhonig · 28 days

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The A in LGBTQIA+ doesn't stand for aspec because they're not repressed!

(please read the disclaimer at the end of this post)

Ummm, excuse me? Would you mind telling me what your definition of repression is, then?

Because I feel repressed when a doctor asks me about my sex life, and if I say I have none, it gets marked down as a symptom without being asked if I suffer from it.

I feel repressed when my gyn tells me I can't get a hysterectomy yet despite losing so much blood on every period that I need to take iron supplements all the time, because I could change my mind about not wanting children (which is a whole other post, I know, but it's most likely linked to sex).

I feel repressed if I can't use dating apps or platforms because my sexuality doesn't even exist there, and the one time I tried, I got called names because I didn't want to meet for because it was clear where this date would go, despite my explicit "what I'm looking for".

I feel repressed when I think about how recently a paragraph was finally abolished in my country that considered sex a vital part of a marriage, basically entitling the spouses to having sex with their partner (both gender neutral, because entitling people to having sex with somebody else by law is wrong. It's basically a rape permission).

I feel repressed when I can't watch any film or show without it being about love and/or sex, no matter if it fits the narrative and furthers the plot.

I feel repressed when I plot my own stories and automatically put a romantic couple in there as main characters, even though I have no idea why this would be important for the plot. Not even my own stories, my own thoughts are mine.

I felt repressed when I was asked accusingly in a relationship if I wasn't missing something before I even knew asexuality as a spectrum was a thing, and having to lie about this being a side effect of my medication instead of genuinely not feeling attracted to someone in this way.

I feel repressed when I can't tell people I'm not sexually attracted to them because they will take this personally no matter how well I explain myself.

I feel repressed when everywhere I look there's advertising relying on naked skin, suggestive posing and objectification. Why are expensive cars still presented by women considered beautiful and tempting? It's not like that's necessary to convince people of spending so much money on a thing that gets you from A to B. Couches with women in smart dresses and high heels. That's not what a normal person looks like on a couch. But the worst is a truck in the town where I live: it's from a small fruit and vegetable stand, so whenever I see it, it comes from the warehouse, delivering groceries. On it is a woman clad in very little, presenting fruit. I'm sorry, but why? Does a misogynistic picture convince you of the necessity to avoid scurvy?

I feel repressed when I tell people and get the answer "you just haven't found the right person yet", because there are two possible assumptions from that point: I'm either not trying hard enough (so it's basically my own fault) or something about me is not right, appalling even (which circles back to I'm not trying hard enough or frames me as a victim of my genetics, upbringing or circumstances to be pitied).

Do not tell me how I feel. Do not try to tell me everything is fine and I shouldn't complain or ask for acknowledgement if everywhere I look, I'm reminded of how odd, how weird and how not normal I am. How much it inconveniences you to even acknowledge my existence, let alone respect any of my traits, views and choices.

And while I can only write from my own asexual point of view, I wrote this with all kinds of flavours of aspec in mind, so I'm explicitly including aromantics, aroace people and every shade of the spectrum in this. Not all my examples may apply to you, but I hope you can find something to relate to.

ETA: please feel free to add your own experiences of repression!

#asexuality #somewhat of a vent #asexual #ace pride #ace #acespec #aromantic #aroace #read disclaimer at the end of post #aspec

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ahungeringknife · 2 months

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Let's talk about Aspec characters and relationships!

I'm aroace. I write a lot of characters who are aspec in some way. I have a lot of aspec friends. And this is why your aspec character is driving me crazy. There's also sex talk in here so if you're not mature enough to handle it please scroll past.

Edit: Allos also should reblog this if you found it helpful.

First lets get some terms right:

Aromantic (aro) and Asexual (ace) are two distinct things. Aroace means you're both aromantic and asexual at the same time. It is generally referred to as 'aspec' (aro/ace spectrum) when you fall on one or both spectrums. If you are not aspec you are allosexual/alloromantic (allo). It just means someone who isn't ace or aro. You can also be aroallo or aceallo (aromantic allosexual, asexual alloromantic). All these terms are neutral and not used in derogatory ways similar to trans/cis. It's a descriptive word not a put down.

Now about those characters and their relationships. Because that is the most :))))) to me as an aroace is when people just don't know how to handle an aspec character. Usually because they're allo. But that's okay you probably don't know and we're all here to learn from each other. Here's some things to consider when you want to make or write an aspec person.

Ace's do sometimes have sex. They just aren't motivated by sex. That's it.

Along with sex your ace character may also masturbate and feel good being touched. They also might only like touching themselves and hate when other people do it. They usually also know when someone is hot/sexy and will comment on it. Finding someone sexy =/= we want to fuck them. Thinking someone is hot =/= we want to fuck them. We're still human. We know what a hot human looks like. Your ace character might be attracted to someone's appearance aesthetically but have no interest in their bits. Your ace character might fall in love with the most beautiful person in your story and never show any interest of wanting to bed them.

They can have boyfriends/girlfriends/romantic partners they do or don't have sex with. But they can be anywhere on the spectrum of sex repulsive, to sex positive, to absolute sex hound. Some of the horniest people you know are probably ace. Some of the horniest people I know are ace, and I have a lot of ace friends.

And we're not all virgins. Some ace's had sex and realized 'nah fam. Didn't do it for me' and never did it again. Others are virgins and have no intention ever of having sex. Others are virgins but don't care either way? It just hasn't happened. Others enjoy sex with their partners. Some are parents! You can be ace and had enough sex to procreate. Some also think sex is icky or it squicks them out. Some might be squicked out at the thought of sex with another person but they're fine looking at porn or doing it themselves. There is a wide range of what asexuals are into just like allos.

Aros also sometimes do the sex. They are not motivated by romance. That's it.

That being said your aro character can have a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner and it can be 'romantic'. It doesn't have to be a queer platonic relationship. Your aro character also might not want to be in a relationship at all. It is not weird for your aro character to call their partner their partner or bf/gf or if they're married their husband/wife.

Aro people do not get butterflies. They don't really get flustered around people they like. There's no spark. And they don't feel that romantic attraction allos do when they meet someone and fall in love with them. I've found that aro people are also terrible at flirting or picking up flirting cues. At least in my own personal experience when it took my aro ass 3 years to realize some girl was flirting with me and I just thought she was being nice to me. Take the 'useless lesbian' trope and take it to 11. We just don't know. Aro people also know when other people are hot. Just like aces just because we're aro doesn't mean we don't know a baddy when we see one. We just probably won't realize said baddy is flirting with us...

Aro character still love. They love their family, they love their friends, they love their partners. And it's all real love. The love is still there. Aro characters also probably know what they should do to mimic being in love. Even if we don't love someone more than platonically they may still do the things romantic partners do with their partner. Some don't! And that's fine too. Sometimes you're boyfriends and you share the same bed with him, and sometimes your girlfriend is just your roommate. Both are totally valid aro relationships. Maybe your character kisses their partner passionately and they like it, or they might only kiss during sex, or they might not kiss on the mouth. All valid and correct, still no romo. Kissing =/= romance for aros. Sex =/=romance for aros.

Aroace characters do all those things! At once! They can do the sex, and the boyfriend/girlfriend/partner and loving their friends. They just are not motivated by sex or romance. Kissing =/= sexual attraction. Sex =/= romantic love.

Being aspec is looking at the most beautiful and delicious cake in the world and going 'neat, cake' and walking away not even wondering what it tastes like, not even for a second considering having a bite. It's a cake. Neat. You are not motivated by cake. You don't even really care about cake. It's nice that other people fucking loooooooove cake but it's just not for you.

We also know what love is supposed to be like, what a 'healthy sexual' relationship should feel like. It's everywhere. All around us. Constantly. It's also sometimes fucking exhausting! It's why some aspec people can be a bit agro. We get it you're in love/got a new partner/are sleeping with someone/really sexually attracted to this person/keep spamming us with your celeb thirst pics/etc. It does get tiring sometimes. We don't care about the cake and sometimes listening to you talk about the cake drives us crazy. Consider that too when writing aspec characters. Sometimes their friends and their cakes are annoying no matter how much they love them platonically or romantically.

Anyway just some things to consider for your aspec OCs from an older aroace. Should be said aspec is a wide spectrum and I'm drawing on my own experience as an aroace with aspec friends, and my writing of those characters. If you have more questions about writing characters on this spectrum feel free to ask!

#writeblr #writblr #writing advice #character advice #asexual #aromantic #aroace #aspec character #writing tips #writing #character tips #writing help #character help #writers on tumblr

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sky-scribbles · 9 months

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So... I have a lot of thoughts about why Gale's weave sex scene really, really worked for me as an aspec person. In fact, this is the first time any sex scene in anything, ever, has resonated with me. Or felt like it welcomed me in.

It's not that I'm made uncomfortable by other video game sex scenes at all - they're just generally not really my thing! My reactions tend to range from 'that was a sweet scene' to 'eh, indifferent' to 'I feel mildly awkward but it's no big deal'. They usually don't make me feel anything. But this is the first time I've felt that I could play a sex scene as a character who I headcanon and play as being aspec, and have it fit them. (I am not claiming this, of course, for all aspec people or characters; this is just my personal experience. And I am definitely not suggesting that there is anything 'purer' or 'better' about this kind of scene; I am only saying that it worked for me, personally.)

Because I'm here, playing a demisexual character for whom primary sexual attraction just does not happen, for whom any desire for intimacy must be built upon, can only arise from, a blood-deep knowledge of a person, upon emotional connection and trust. And I got to play her through a romance where Gale tells her he loves her before he so much as kisses her; who responds to her declaration of love by showing her his home in a way that says this is who I am, this is where my heart lies. Who offers her a form of intimacy that doesn't centre or even involve the body at all, a form of sex that's almost a metaphor for what they feel, an expression of a desire to be not alone, together.

It's sex that's Gale saying, let me bring the stars to where you are. Be with me in this place that I love, see me here among the magic that makes me feel alive, and know me. Let me hold you closer than a body alone could.

It's just that... de-centring, I suppose, of primary sexual attraction? Again: there is nothing wrong with scenes that centre that! But they will never quite be a thing I can relate to, or that will fully fit the characters I usually create. But this - I actually cried when this scene ended. I felt seen. I didn't feel 'this wasn't really designed for me' like I normally do. It worked for the character I was playing; it worked for me; it didn't push me away.

It's honestly beautiful to see a non-normative sex scene treated with such care. It's about time.

#welp this is more personal that i usually get on this blog #especially about this kind of topic #but this... this was something I needed to put down my thoughts about #bg3 #bg3 spoilers #gale of waterdeep #gale dekarios #anyway no force on earth will convince me now that gale isn't aspec. goodnight

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multiplicity-positivity · 11 hours

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✨ Happy Pride Month! ✨

🌈 To the plurals who are collectively queer

💕 To the trans, nonbinary, and xenogender plurals

🌈 To the plurals who are mogai/liom or have coined their own terms to define their queer experiences

💕 To the plurals who are questioning if they may be queer in some way

🌈 To the asexual, aromantic, demisexual, demiromantic, greysexual, greyromantic, and other aspec plurals

💕 To the plurals who don’t define or put labels to their gender, sexuality, or romantic orientation

🌈 To the plurals who have queer relationships inside or outside their system

💕 To the plurals who are aplatonic, in queerplatonic relationships, or whose friendships are inherently queer

🌈 To the plurals who are BIPOC, disabled, neurodivergent, poor, or multiply marginalized

💕 To the plurals who are just beginning to find a home and belonging in the queer community

🌈 To the plurals who are bi, pan, omni, or multi sexual or romantic in some way

💕 To the plurals who reject amatonormativity and heteronormativity

🌈 To all queer plurals everywhere!

This is our month to shine and embrace who we are! We hope that every queer headmate and system out there can have a beautiful pride month filled with all sorts of queer things and activities that bring you peace, comfort, and happiness. You belong here, in both the queer and plural communities, just the way you are! Keep being yourself. Keep living your most authentic life boldly and proudly! We love you, we’re so proud of you, and we hope that this month will be filled with joy and acceptance for yourself and your system!

#plurality #pluralgang #multiplicity #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #queer pride #queer community #lgbtq community #lgbtq pride

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bloggingboutburgers · 3 months

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I find your comics very cute and informative as an allo person. It's always interesting to see things from someone's perspective that isn't my own. Although I do have aspec friends who run the gamut of identities.

Sometimes I think that there's a lot of pushback around aspec identities because the way that people define sexual attraction and romantic love can be so wildly different from person to person and it confuses people on all sides of the equation. I've noticed it similarly when I try to explain how I'm nonbinary. Because not everyone understands or defines womanhood (which I rejected) or being nonbinary in the same way.

You said it yourself in an ask once that you weren't totally sure how to define what you feel for your QPR and how it was different from romantic love and that's definitely felt true to me sometimes. A few years back I read a post from a romance repulsed person who described a very cheesy (for lack of a better word) kind of concept of romance that was all about hearts and flowers and lots of big gestures and I can honestly say that I don't find that romantic. Their definition of their feelings for their QPR were actually far closer to what I would define as romantic love for myself.

It's kind of amazing how human beings can have so many experiences and some of them even very similar and just feel completely differently about them. I don't feel that person's definition of themselves as aro is wrong but my considering it love isn't wrong either because our feelings are different and that's honestly beautiful to me? Sometimes I feel like being queer is really all about your own vibes which is why I don't try to define anyone else's experience for them, lol.

Anyway, I love your comics and being able to see another person's perspective on love and sex. I wish you all the best in your continued endeavors!!

I'm so sorry, this is definitely another ask I'm sharing wayyy too late but – honestly YES. Yes to all of this. I agree whole-heartedly about everything you've said and I'm grateful some people share this perspective across the board TwT Thank you so much for sharing!! And thank you for the kind words, I wish you the best too!!

#anon #nonbinary #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #aroace #so true

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evangelinesbible · 1 year

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MY ASTROLOGICAL LOVE LIFE

SO FAR...

This post will be about how I view love/relationships, the situations I find myself in because of these placements, and how people attracted to me view me because of these placements

TAURUS VENUS

Taurus Venus people typically want partners who are conventionally beautiful and have some sort of stability in their life. (meaning money and some sort of luxury). And for me yeah I gotta be with a partner who is gorgeous I'm sorry but I'm not. Of course other stuff matters and I've given not so attractive people a chance but I've learned that if I'm not fully attracted to them then it's not gonna happen. "Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty but my goodness, doesn't it help?"

Now of course having a Venus ruled Venus can bless the native with beauty. And when I was younger I didn't experience it much but now that I'm older I see it more and more now. whatever type of beauty that I have, I getting certain treatment because of it. Now of course I've used it to my advantage cuz, you'd do the same thing don't lie. But people use the phrase, " Beauty is a curse" for a reason. Certain judgment and preconceived ideas people have of you because of your looks is very real and it transfers into my love life.

Of course I want people to find me attractive and I want a partner that sees me as beautiful but that's not all I want. just like me wanting a gorgeous partner, I also want a stable, reliable, and romantic one. But of course on my end of things my love life has just been, "I think she's hot/pretty/beautiful/" and that's it. its getting stale pretty fast.

VENUS 9H

9H can rule over what you believe in/ worship and having Venus in the 9H can mean that your partners may have a tendency to put you on a pedestal and "worship" you. When I was younger this wasn't that apparent but now that I'm older and in the "real world" I experience it more and more. And don't get me wrong I believe I should be treated like a queen and I should be thoroughly respected but it creeps me out when men come on to me so strong. One of them wanting to take a road trip with me, wanting to run away with me and would always call me a princess and shit when we weren't even together?!?!?!!

I don't even want to know what men are saying about me in private.

VENUS SQAURE NEPTUNE

not only gives me a false security in the illusion of love it also gives other an illusion of me. Venus ruling beauty and Neptune ruling Glamor/Illusion/Fantasy makes love life more complicated than it needs to be. These people might be seen as a dream or unreal to others which on paper sounds cool but its not that fun to experience

Similar to Venus 9H you are put on a pedestal but this time the version of you that these people are lusting/loving or obsessed over isn't real. Or at the very least they are projecting a version of you that you aren't all the time. I don't even want to know what type of fantasies or false perceptions guys have on me. I'm all about trusting my intuition and every guy that was ever interested in me gave me that vibe.

I feel like this placements can indicate someone having high standers because no one can meet the love life these people dream of. But it being square means that I'll have to learn to let go of some of their illusions of love and to truly experience it.

NORHT NODE CONJ. VENUS

In this life the themes of Venus are very important and my souls missions involves all things beauty, love, and the Arts.

specifically with love the major lessons ill learn in this life will be associated with all of my relationships. The first lesson I learned through a relationship was that you can't change people no matter how badly you want two. the second one was you don't owe anybody a relationship just because they treat you the way you should be treated. And I have a feeling I got a lot more lessons to learn

combined with my 7H placements and this aspect I think in this life I was meant to figure what love is to me.

VENUS TRINE JUPITER

Apparently because I have this aspect I'm supposed to be "lucky in love" and yeah no thats not the case for me. This more tells me what type of partner I should settle for. And it makes since that I have yet to be lucky in love because I keep dating people from my hometown/area.

I have no doubt I'll have more luck dating people from far away/foreign places.

VENUS SEXTILE SATURN

explains my pickiness in love/relationships and fathers my previous point of learning a lot of lessons through love/relationships

this might indicate finding the right person for me at a later age and/or learning to date more mature people

VENUS SEXTILE URANUS/URANUS 7H

I always wondered why I get so bored when dating people or having short lived relationships and this makes a lot of sense. the people I pursue have to keep up my attention or ill get bored and end it abruptly

this also explains getting into strange, unique and unconventional situations pertaining to potential partners/romantic interests. Right now I'm dealing with multiple guys at work having a crush on me so thats great. And one of them spikes my anxiety and paranoia because my gut intuition doesn't trust him.

this placement can also indicate someone being very conflicted or closed off on relationships. they crave something unconventional or something different from a normal relationship. These people also love their freedom and don't want a relationship that feels limiting

SUN 7H

the big whammy in my chart. people with Sun the 7H typically really crave love even though it might go against how they project themselves since its the opposite sign of their rising. These people can feel very lonely in life when they don't feel like they have a special someone to love them for them

I'm in the "I don't want a relationship" phase rn which is probably a 7H Sun's worst nightmare lol or at least the most difficult thing for them to go through cuz thats legit all they want. hell its all I want but its not something I need right now. Plus good things comes to those who wait and while I wait I'm just gonna do me and focus on my blog, work, and music.

Do you have any of these placements? Do you view love the same as me? Have you experienced the same experiences as me? 💋

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rolaplayor101 · 5 months

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I finally did the proper thing and bought some Aspec books! This is the second of my haul and I just got done reading it! I've seen posts about it here on Tumblr and when I saw my bookstore had it, I had to get it! We gotta support our aspec creators!

So first off, it's great. It's funny, there's lots of chemistry, and it's sweet. The second volume has a theme I really appreciate and it's the fact that THIS is what it's like to have queer friends! The comfort, the lack of worry about crushes, being able to open up about huge important parts about yourself that they would understand or at least feel a bit of relation to, it's just so good.

And showing Gakurouta getting jealous of Momo-kun, not because he's secretly in love with Yuriko, but because he cares about her and wants to keep being close to her and doesn't want their relationship to end because she found a intimacy with someone else, just, chefs kiss! Cause I feel that all the time, and it's also so nice to have it be allo person feeling it instead of a Aspec person-- it feels like a turn of the trope. Also...Gakurouta feels demiromantic to me, he so reads demiro, like, read it yourself guys, the way he describes his attraction to Sousuke??? Anyway

Also, like, Yuriko being happy that her two boys are getting along and becoming individual friends feels so good. The blush on her cheeks when she thinks about it. She's so me. It's a short and beautiful moment. Also the FUCINF CAKE REFERENCE OMG THEY HAD TO PUT A DESERT ANALOGY TO ASEXUALITY HUH

Also like, the brief mentioning of fujoshi culture.. it's good that they brought it up cause I really thought they were gonna skip past it, even if it was just a short bit.

So glad Japan has so many stranger to friends to roommate Aspec stories: Is Love the Answer, Koisenu Futari, Sukiyaki Tonight (which is the newest one), and now I've read this: I Want To Be A Wall. I can't wait for the next volume!

@kyanitedragon shouting you out cause I'm pretty sure I've heard about most of these through you! Thank you for your service 🙏

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rel312 · 1 year

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Being aspec is like being Jewish around Christmas time. The majority of the world participates so they think everyone else does too, and if you don’t they think something’s wrong with you. Every song that comes on is about it: in the car, in stores, on the radio. You can’t escape it. Everyone’s constantly talking about it, thinking about it, shoving it down your throat. It’s everywhere and when you ask for people to stop just for a second they think it’s blasphemous and shun you. It looks so nice from the outside, everyone always talks about how magical it is, and maybe in fiction you understand and consume it, but you hate that you can’t help yourself because you’re not a part of it, you’ll never experience it in real life and you don’t want to either.

Whether it’s Christmas, romantic attraction, or sexual attraction, it’s just so frustrating because you’re an outsider, but if you find a community of others like you it makes it bearable. You all celebrate together the fact that you’re not like everyone else and that’s not a bad thing, it’s actually kind of beautiful.

Just wanted to get this out there cause I know I get annoyed with everything and I wanted to share my experiences and my connection between my aro/ace-ness and being Jewish and that it’s not all hopeless cause there are more of us out there. We’re everywhere and we’re not going down without a fight.

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