#mentally ill cartoon women

[fruitsofhell]

After finishing She-Ra 2018 I'm trying to work on my unified theory for why CatDora bothers me as the endgame ship. Cause as CEO of mentally ill cartoon women, there's something about it that feels a disservice to Catra's psychology and trauma. She is genuinely such an interesting character to watch because they so clearly lay out the abusive dynamic that informs her entire character, but by the kiss, I feel like they lost steam with it.

The biggest thing to me is the simple fact that Adora is basically a trigger for her. Adora's personality as someone who is constantly self-sacrificing and forgiving is something Catra has a deep hatred for because she believes she is worthless and unforgivable, and when people try to help her she feels they're using her to look better while she fails to get better.

The fact that ADORA herself was the one in that original dynamic that traumatized the hell out of her makes me uncomfortable with how Catra eventually just... stops getting set off by things. I just can't imagine how what happened leading up to their kiss would desensitize Catra enough to that trauma response that she'd be in love with her. Like in that same season she was fucking death gripping the table at hearing Adora's name, and in seasons earlier she straight up like dissociated when people brought up her heroics. Not only the unearned healing, but the "I've loved you all along" feels a bit patronizing to her past. That all her emotionality was complicated romantic feelings, and not... having really nasty childhood trauma.

#shut the heck up #she ra #that damn cat #show was good btw #not a masterpiece - it was kinda corny in a bad way sometimes - but was fun #it felt like it wanted to be there and had ideas it was interested in #and i really like catra she is my fave as you can see #mentally ill cartoon women #im actually still getting my little pea brain around it cause her trauma and dynamic with adora is a lot #i like that the show was patient with her i wish it wasnt patient just cause it wanted her to kiss adora #imo she should be with someone else who is willing to stick up for her as adora does but isnt her #isnt the woman who's name and face can send her into self-destructive hysterics #something that is bad and needs ro change but she needs more time for than was given #wheres she-ra future where we recontextualize the casts trauma and show happy endings still need more time? #tag talking #media analysis

[oscill4te]

stan her w my entire life. if she asked me to walk off a building i would (tag rambles)

#i dont really talk about dorothy cramp much but she is such an interesting character to me... #i need to write up an analysis on her. I would now but i have to go to work soon :[ #grandmas piano and agent x really illuminate how much dorothy struggles w depression and being raised #by an abusive mother #she is also not a good parent and even if you watch the show casually w/o a “edgy headcanon” lense (aka me) you will see that.. #the way she treats her children is probably because of how her mother treats her.. i wish the grandma got more screentime too #i wish cramp twins season 2 was as interesting as season 1 #i just. ughhh #dotty.. i love u #txt #cartoons #the author describes dotty as a “voluntary stepford wife” ... which considering the way her mother is; it makes so much sense!! #Dorothy spends so many episodes in distress and fear bc her fear of contamination too. she is far from your usual cartoon mom #idk she is such.. an interesting character im not doing her much justice here #and i feel bad bc she has no support group other than her 2 fake friends who backstab her when convinient #and she was forcibly sent to a medical institute in another ep.. society is harsh on mentally women #esp mentally ill moms #yeah i read way too deep into this dumb cartoon oops #her husband is also an absolute useless dope no offense horrace.. i love horrace but he is sorta useless as a husband and dad #dotty deserves better okay. she may be a shitty parent but i stan her regardless bc that is who I am. #i luv imperfect flawed characters #its also good she had sons and not daughters bc dotty is. yknow. she has very flawed views on how to raise daughters #as seen in the pageant episode and other episodes. she would be so harsh on a daughter jfc #ok enough rambles i need to like. go lol

[timeisacephalopod]

Also that terf that decided to call me "scitzo" in fucking Peter griffin's voice in their tags is unacceptable. You do not refer to schizophrenic people like that, and you do not demand respect when you will toss disabled people under the bus because you think their distress and disorder is for your amusement. I assume everyone who follows me knows better than to say shit like that but know if I ever see anyone use language like that to refer to schizophrenics you'll be blocked on sight, probably after I reem your ass. Schizophrenics deserve respect and fair treatment, not to be used as a fucking verb to insult someone in a sexist man's cartoon voice.

And you couldn't get me to admit with a fucking gun to my head I know what Peter Griffin sounds like in the year of 20 fucking 23 so cringe on top of ableist.

#winters ramblings #DO NOT E V E R refer to schizophrenic people that way EVER. #my grandmother has it so i KNOW how serious it can be even if i dont have contact with her but since its a genitic condition #im somewhat aware of whats going on there and ZERO people with schizophrenia deserve that bullshit #dont EVER insult people with any OTHER mrntal illness like that in my presence either #go fuck yourself if you cant be assed to treat the mentally ill with respect #also funny to act like you care about sexism while mocking people in a sexist cartoon mans voice but ok #show me again you believe in nothing but causing trans people pain for your own amusement #while hating men who do that to women for some reason i cant fathom when terfs dont take issue with how those men act #cant shit on them for acting bad and act the same way bruv

[fictionally-attached]

It is now becoming more and more clear to me as to why the creators of Avatar the last airbender walked away from the live adaptation.

Toning down Sokka's sexism

Sokka being sexist is as important as Katara fighting against sexism. They are BOTH products of their culture. The makers of the Netflix adaptation forget Sokka was the only boy left to protect his village. He believed it was his duty to protect the weak. When he came across warriors that were women, he felt they knew nothing. Only to be humbled, he’d apologize, and accept he was wrong. He even fell in love with one of them (Suki). Sokka’s sexism came not just from his own trauma and trying to fill his father’s shoes, but also the fact that Water Tribe culture is very strict re: gender roles. This showed that although the Fire Nation were the bad guys each nation still had its own flaws and issues. Plus, by showing a likeable main character overcoming their prejudices, it does a better job teaching people to not be prejudiced than by just having the villains be prejudiced. This plot point is a HUGE focus on Sokka's initial development. He is not just some goofy side kick non bender. He learned that his views were flawed and GREW from it. This issue is still relevant to today and not just back in the early 2000s.

2. “We had to make it a serialized Netflix drama, which meant it couldn’t just be for kids. It had to also appeal to the people who are big fans of Game of Thrones.”

I'm fed up with the common misconception that making something appealing to adults necessitates it being dark and gritty. It's an oversimplified assumption that overlooks the nuanced maturity already present in the story. This series masterfully incorporated mature themes that resonated with audiences of all ages. From the genocide of the Air Nation to instances of child abuse endured by characters like Zuko, and the exploration of sexism within the Northern Water Tribe, ATLA didn't shy away from addressing complex issues. It also delved into cultural erasure, the horrors of war, the pitfalls of autocratic governance, and the struggles of characters dealing with PTSD, depression, and mental illness. These elements added depth and resonance to the narrative. Pushing for further grimness to cater to a different fanbase would undermine the series' existing richness and maturity.

3. “We decided to make Aang’s narrative drive a little clearer. In the first season of the animated series, he’s kind of going from place to place looking for adventures. He even says, ‘First, we’ve got to go and ride the elephant koi.’ It’s a little looser as befits a cartoon. We needed to make sure that he had that drive from the start. […] We essentially give him this vision of what’s going to happen and he says, ‘I have to get to the Northern Water Tribe to stop this from happening.’ That gives him much more narrative compulsion going forward.”

Giving Aang this drive right from the start completely changeshis character. A significant aspect of his development in the first season involves transitioning from someone who simply longed for a carefree childhood to one destined to fulfill the role of the Avatar. Remember, he's just 12 years old. Aang's sense of being overwhelmed by the weight of his Avatar duties is precisely why he fled and ultimately became trapped in ice. He wasn't eager to embrace his Avatar status, and that reluctance doesn't vanish overnight. He's a child burdened with the unimaginable responsibility of saving the world and stopping an entire nation. That essence of childhood doesn't evaporate with acceptance of his fate; it remained a fundamental aspect of his character arc across all three seasons. Maintaining his childlike innocence while navigating such weighty responsibilities is central to Aang's appeal and adds depth to his character. Moreover, the numerous detours the "gaang" takes contribute significantly to world-building, a vital element that imbued the original series with its charm. Will the remake ignore all of this???

In today's media landscape, there's a growing tendency to portray main characters as almost too flawless. While it's important to have protagonists that viewers can connect with and support, that doesn't mean they should be devoid of any imperfections. Flaws are what lend characters their humanity and depth, providing them with the opportunity to evolve and improve as the narrative unfolds. When a character begins the story with flawless beliefs and actions, it leaves little room for growth, resulting in a stagnant character arc.

I'm really concerned about how Zuko's and Azula's character development will be handled in the remake. They're both quite flawed characters, especially Azula. She was portrayed as being evil, yet also struggling with mental health issues. It's important to recognize that both aspects can coexist, and one doesn't excuse the other. This complexity was depicted well in the show's final season. I hope they won't simplify or remove these traits in the remake.

And what's next? Will they remove the beloved cabbage man too?

#atla #avatar the last airbender #avatar #the gaang #aang #atla sokka #atla aang #atla rant #atla zuko #zuko #katara #atla katara #toph beifong #ATLA

[aimmyarrowshigh]

My dearest, darling Aim, do you happen any thoughts and/or comments about that new Velma show that just came out, because it just sounds horrific and I made the fatal error of watching about a minute of some cisgender white dude's critic of it on youtube and I'm more than a LITTLE FROTHY about how he was basically 'Welp, that's what happens when you try to shoehorn the remake of a classic show into being more ethnically diverse and it's like that because Mindy Kaling is dumpy and unattractive.'

::THE HEAVIEST OF SIGHS::

As a disclaimer before my comments: I have not watched it and I don't plan to watch it. Basically as soon as I saw the first trailer, I said, "This was not made for me, a person who loves Velma and Scooby-Doo."

Because that's the thing -- it was not made for people who love Velma and Scooby-Doo. It was made for people who don't think loving anything is cool, and specifically, who think "nostalgia poisoning" is a thing and want to "ruin your childhoods" because "it's time to grow up" or whatever. It exists in the same vein of humor as the last ten years of South Park, or Seth Macfarlane's whole career, where the only comedy thesis is, "If you care about anything, you're a rube."

Because it's not just Velma and Scooby-Doo that the new show takes potshots at. It's also true crime fans (who are pretty much only women), it's Other Girls (shown to be vapid "bitches" AKA Daphne), it's people with mental illness, it's adult cartoon watchers as a whole, it's people who genuinely want diversified television, it's the idea of friendship. And it's ALSO people who hate true crime fans, and people who hate Other Girls, and people who hate diversified television. Because there is no "right way" to watch the show. There's no underlying person you can be as an audience member and NOT be shit on by the show.

If you hate that they made Velma Desi, then the show is going to shit on you for it, but not because you're a bigoted loser -- but because you care about something.

If you hate that they made Velma an odious quasi-fascist with a serious streak of internalized misogyny, the show is going to shit on you -- because you care about something.

The only way to be "cool," in the vein of comedy that HBO Velma exists within, is to aggressively not care about anything. But don't Not Care too aggressively! Because that circles back around to caring about seeming cool, and that's not cool!

And I'm gonna be honest:

Mindy Kaling has always had a problem with desperately, desperately wanting to be seen as cool. (See title of autobiography, 'Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?')

In the 2000s, when she was in Hasty Pudding (iirc) and the youngest writer on The Office -- a show which DOES NOT HOLD UP in 2023; if you still think The Office is hilarious in 2023 I find you a DEEPLY suspicious person -- it seemed revolutionary and rebellious to openly be a non-thin, nerdy girl and say, "I really wish I were cool." And it was, for the time! That WAS revolutionary and rebellious! It's what built Mindy Kaling's career (and also Tina Fey's, another writer whose work Does Not Hold Up in 2023).

And in the 2010s, with The Mindy Project, being an adult woman who wrote frankly about desperately wanting to be cool was kind of fresh-ish, and the ways that Mindy's character undermined herself to try to get what she wanted felt if not relevant, then unfortunately relatable for a lot of people. But she also ends up with a dude character who, in the FIRST EPISODE, calls her fat. To her face. Many times. It's never addressed again, and it's not played as a dealbreaker... obviously. Because she ends up with someone who fundamentally doesn't respect or like her. But she ends up with somebody! And that's what matters! Because it's cool to have a boyfriend!

In the 2020s, Mindy's shtick is extremely outdated, at best, and is an active choice by Mindy to be harmful, at worst (and frankly, with Velma, most likely). Mindy's shtick is not, "Some girls aren't cool, and that's okay." It's literally, "If you're a girl who isn't cool, that's not okay."

And that's THE FUCKING OPPOSITE OF THE POINT OF VELMA DINKLEY.

I've seen a lot of posts that are either comparisons or contrasts with Netflix's Wednesday, and I don't really have a dog in that fight because like, I enjoyed the unintentional sapphic vibes of Wednesday a lot and I thought Jenna Ortega was great, but the show as a whole fundamentally misunderstands The Addams Family, so I'm overall like, "eh." BUT. What both the comparisons and the contrasts of Wednesday and Velma hinge on is this:

Neither show understands, or cares, why the characters they're based on are beloved in the first place. They don't actually want to interact with the source material, and they don't actually want to court fans of the source material. If anything, they want fans of the source material to avoid the show so that the streaming service they're on can have a young, hip demo tuning in.

And what they don't understand about Wednesday and Velma... is that the reason they're beloved... is that they like who they are.

Wednesday is macabre, but she's a happy kid. She likes what she likes. She gleefully electrocutes Pugsley not because she likes causing pain, but because it's fascinating to see what electrocution does. She beheads her dolls and then sleeps with both pieces in her arms. She studies the Bermuda Triangle because it's fucking interesting that whole-ass ships and planes disappear! She likes the things she likes. She likes who she is. She LIKES THINGS. She's not miserable or misanthropic or nihilist. The line that Wednesday most got right of Wednesday's dialogue was "no one gets to torture [Pugsley] except me," because she's a fierce protector and an Addams, first and foremost.

(Insert 96-paragraph rant here about how The Addams Family (2019) and The Addams Family: The Musical also fundamentally misunderstand this about Wednesday, the musical perhaps worst of all. Wednesday does not want to be normal. She just doesn't want to be perky.)

Velma is a nerd and a dork and a geek, and she could not be happier about it! She's gonna kick your ass at the science fair! She will correct the grammar of your 'kick me' sign on her back and return it with red pen! She's a skeptic not because she hates caring about things or hates belief, but because she loves learning and she loves evidence. The only girl that Velma has ever had any negative relationship with that I can recall is that she and Marcie Fleach had some tension because they were equally smart and smart people sometimes compete to be The Smartest, but then in the end THEY WERE IN LOVE AND GIANT LESBIANS. And then Marcie got murdered by a paranormally enhanced parrot, but whatever.

There's a REASON why there's never been -- until this HBO show -- a whiff of jealousy that Daphne is traditionally beautiful or that Fred adores her. (I mean, part of that is that Velma is a lesbian, but also VELMA DOESN'T WANT TO BE DAPHNE, SHE WANTS TO BE VELMA.) The only "love triangle" that the Scooby gang has ever had was literally INCLUDING THE DOG, because Velma does not hate anything about Daphne or who Daphne is. She celebrates who Daphne is. She loves who Daphne is. She would never, ever, ever call Daphne a bitch.

But here's the thing: I genuinely don't think that Mindy Kaling can conceive of a weird girl being happy with who they are.

I don't know if it's a generational, grew-up-in-the-80s thing, or an effect of racism she experienced as a Desi girl, or because she's frequently been the only woman in a comedy writers' room, or if she just as a defective personality.

But I think she looked at Velma and said, "This girl makes no sense unless she's miserable, angry, and maladjusted."

And I think Tim Burton looked at Wednesday and said the same thing. But I also think Tim Burton looks at literally all women always and says that, so whatever.

I think Mindy Kaling deeply, deeply hates herself. And she can't write female characters who don't also deeply hate themselves.

But that's not Velma.

#hbo velma #velma hbo max #velma dinkley #velma #velma scooby doo #scooby doo #wednesday netflix #netflix wednesday #the addams family #**scoobydoo #**addamsfamily #**velma #**wednesday #asks

[decolonize-the-left]

Can't stop thinking about the aces study and how much more prone to illness that women and BIPOC are.

Higher risk for heart issues, diabetes, high blood pressure, even cancer, STDs, pregnancy troubles, mental illness....

Like it's right there in our faces why.

Systemic oppression is literally making us sick. En masse.

How many of us have family with health issues? How many of us inherited our own issues from family? From our mothers specifically?

It is personal. It's so personal that it's in our homes, our DNA. I don't care how many people try to deny it or say we should get over it cuz it was "ancient history"

No it isn't. And they're still profiting off of us and killing us except now it's through our medical bills and insurance and shitty healthcare that won't cover what you need to survive. (And we don't make as much as our white/man counterpart either)

And everyone is affected by that.

It's comic book evil. Like for real. This is like some cartoon villain shit.

They degraded our health and now make us pay just to stay alive and at any point can just say "no" if they don't feel like we're worth the care we need.

Guess who needs care the most? People sick the most. Guess who that is.

And with the aces study... They can't claim to not know anymore. But no. Nobody is even acknowledging it. Nobody has acknowledged this truth for a long time because there was no proof and now that there is? Everyone who can do something about it pretends not to see

#every time i look at my health im reminded of that study and how me and my body deserved better #i didnt have to be like this and neither did a lot of u #this was done to us #and its being perpetuated by the medical industry and politicians who profit off them

[aropride]

TRIPS AND SPILLS MY TOXIC CHEMICALS* ALL OVER THE FLOOR OF MY BLOG

rpf is fine. weird, but fine. all fandom is weird that's like the whole point of fandom

BUT being invasive or rude about rpf or shipping etc is not fine

i unironically identify as a cat

ppl who use contradictory labels r cool. who gaf

shoplifting is fine

using she/her for gerard is fine i dont think he cares

furries are awesome

i love pansexuals. i love mspec gays. i love women who are gay men and men who are lesbians. i love trans people who don't pass and trans people who don't want to. i love lesbians and gay men who kiss each other. i love asexuals. i love aromantics. i love polyamorous people. i love neopronouns. if u disagree w any of that i dont like u

the term "narc abuse" is ableist

i unironically believe in fictionkinity and that i am fictional characters reincarnated

im a childrens cartoon watcher and in fact a childrens cartoon tumblr blog haver

i fucking hate people with proana blogs. i know theyre mentally ill and that absolutely does not excuse having a proana/"only pro for myself" blog

calling people losers for not drinking/smoking weed/having sex/whatever is mean and bad, actually

making fun of people online is mean, actually

calling people ugly is mean, actually. yes even if you dont like them. yes even if they did something bad

*theyre toxic chemicals that make people want to unfollow me soooo bad

#text #discourse #Hi. sorry. trying to keep rent low

[castletown-cafe]

Life Updates, AuDHD, and A Mental Trainwreck

Content Warnings: Mental illness, current events, betrayal trauma, abuse, & family death.

It's time I talked about how things have been for me lately. I'm tired of hyping up all these things/projects I can't commit to, it feels like I'm making promises I can't fulfill. I get too ambitious, I get too many ideas, and even the ones I manage to see through, I just do not enjoy the writing portion.

About a year ago, my focus drifted away from Castletown Cafe. Many of you here may know what that's like to lose interest/hyperfixation on one thing and get fixated on something else, that's natural for us with autism and ADHD. We get an intense hyperfocus on a topic or project for a while only to shift to the next topic, losing interest or forgetting about the previous. I got really fixated on Pokemon Scarlet & Violet, Splatoon 3, and ACNH this past year, as well as making my own unrelated cooking projects revolving around seasonal ingredients. This fall, I got crazy ambitious for an entire fall-themed cookbook and even a Halloween one, things that obviously will take years of practice and experimentation (and need year-round work).

On top of that, however, I have not been feeling as well mentally this year. I've had less motivation to draw, and felt a stronger dislike of writing. If you have ADHD you know how hard it is to get yourself to do something you don't want to do. It's like pulling teeth. I've always had issues with executive dysfunction, and I wonder how much of it I've succumbed to this year. And while I've never been diagnosed with clinical depression, I'm wondering/concerned if I am showing signs of it like I might have been this year with my lack of motivation, my focus and drive getting worse, loss of enjoyment of things I ordinarily enjoy doing, such as drawing, feeling sad more often, and either sleeping too much or too little.

Granted the events of this fall haven't helped. We all know what's going on in the world right now. It's horrifying, it's depressing, and it's easy to feel helpless, but we all have the power to protest, to boycott, and to use social media to amplify voices of the marginalized. I have been very active on Twitter with this, but it has also been hard to enjoy my favorite times of year, the fall and Halloween, when tens of thousands are being massacred. It's no wonder I have been so depressed this fall, knowing the country we live in is siding with the colonizers and is actively funding genocide. Our tax dollars are being used to fund this and many, if not most, American brands and companies are also in favor of it.

Then, in November, I discover that an 80s band I liked is guilty of VERY inappropriate behavior toward women. One I had been listening to for the past few years. Fronted by a guy whose music I had enjoyed since childhood. I shouldn't have been so surprised, but it still broke me anyway. Another betrayal was a YouTuber who turned out to be an imposter with no thoughts or opinions of his own, only stolen from others. Yet another was a confirmation of suspicions I had toward a certain animator having NPD and being abusive, (who, to be honest, I never actually liked, just her art style and cartoons).

Oh, but that's not all! Here's where it gets really personal, but I think I really need to disclose this. On top of everything going on, I had two deaths in the family recently. One was a parent whom I didn't get along with very well, the other was my old pup Oscar. My old doggo has been easier to grieve, because he was a sweet, good boy....and honestly....he deserved a better end to his life than what he got. He was living with my father, keeping him company. My father was the parent I had a bad relationship with, and is the reason I advocate strongly for responsible and careful drinking. Because he failed to do that. He always used alcohol for self-medication, something you should NEVER do. His substance abuse got worse and worse over the years, driving him meaner and more abusive. He was never really kind to me, even if he tried to be. I never had a good relationship with my father, and honestly I know a lot of people can relate to that with one or both of their parents. A lot of us have betrayal trauma from growing up, maybe you have parents who don't love you unconditionally, or parents who never wanted to be parents, emotionally or physically abusive parents, you get the idea. Mine just so happened to be a man born and raised in a time where there was no diagnosis for his neurodivergence. He had tons of internalized ableism that he pushed onto me, and modelled horrible, angry behavior. He also had depression, but never sought help, and I believe that's due to toxic masculinity.

He can't hurt me anymore, though. I moved out of his house almost 5 years ago, and I wish it had been sooner. I'm not sure how to feel about his passing, because of how he treated me when he was alive. One thing I have been feeling though, is stress. He has left behind a house that is a disaster because he neglected to take care of it, tons of debt because he had failed to pay his bills, and no will whatsoever so inheritance is also going to be a mess to untangle. My family and I have been going back to that house to clean it, get it repaired, and figure out what to do with everything left behind. Right in the middle of a holiday season. What fun /sarcasm.

On the topic of Oscar, it's safe to say how he passed/what happened. My father went first, and so Oscar just curled up next to him.....and stayed there until he also died. And honestly....that's just heartbreaking.....I wish Oscar could've howled for help, that someone could have heard him and come to his rescue and taken care of him....but he didn't....I just wish i could have been by Oscar's side in his final moments. I know he was an old dog, he lived to be 15 and a half...but he's with my grandma now and I hope she's taking good care of him, wherever they are.

Meanwhile, Penny has been a new family member since July. She has been by my side to give hugs and cuddles, and I've needed them a lot these past few weeks. Since Oscar stayed behind to keep my father company when I moved out a few years ago, I missed my puppy, and having a little doggo around. And so, enter Penny. She's even registered as an emotional support animal, or ESA, and she goes all kinds of places with me. I love the attention she gets from other people when we go shopping together. Her cuteness lightens up a room and makes the day of many people.

My little fluffy girl has been a big help getting me through everything this season.

Back to Castletown Cafe, it may take a while, but I hope one day to return to it. I have all kinds of ideas and things I want to make and practice, and I also hope to create more content in 2024, even doing more live gaming on Twitch. I got a new computer for streaming, but I still need a monitor for it. I wanna have a streaming schedule and everything.

I really appreciate all of you who are still here even though I haven't been able to make many new things or deliver upon hyped ideas. I feel bad about my lack of content this year, though with recent life events I think it's really understandable as to why I haven't been able to churn out much in that regard.

One more thing: I do want to disclose that my ADHD is unmedicated. I can't get medication for it (not with this hell-thcare system) and I don't know what I should take for executive dysfunction. For those of you who made it this far with ADHD, what do you recommend?

Anyway, thank you for taking the time to read this, especially if you made it all the way to the end here. I know it was a lot, and some of this is REALLY heavy stuff. These are things that we all do go through, however.

Thank you.

~ Mari 🧡

#long post #cw: death #cw: abuse #cw: addiction #cw: grief #mari speaks

[doberbutts]

Honestly it's so baffling to me when people on this website claim that Misandry isn't real or men are all privileged oppressors and etc.

Like... I've been on this website for MANY years and I see, on a daily basis:

Jokes about how all men are awful at sex, don't know where the clitoris is, don't know where women urinate from, etc.

Jokes about men having small penises, being gross smelly neckbeards, and other types of body shaming

Posts about how men are all evil, violent rapists or that they will assault or rape someone with no hesitation if given the chance

Posts about how men are pedophiles, groomers, etc. for being interested in children's media or cartoons

Posts making fun of men for having "childish" hobbies like building legos, playing video games, etc.

Posts listing off dangerous, creepy things men do and the entire list is just different symptoms/signs of mental illnesses or learning disabilities

Literal posts about how men should all be eliminated/killed

I could go on and on. I almost lost one of my male friends to suicide because he had severe depression and started hating himself because EVERYONE was constantly reblogging posts about how awful/dangerous/evil men were.

Men DO face problems due to their gender, especially POC, trans, MLM, etc. men. They have basically zero resources if they're victims of abuse/assault/rape and in some places aren't even legally recognized as rape victims, are seen as disposable and not in need of protection and forced to do dangerous jobs, not to mention police violence against male minorities.

It's just so upsetting. I just wish people would be nice to each other and I don't understand why people act this way. It's not a black-and-white issue of "This group is full of dangerous monsters who need to be eliminated, and this group is full of innocent poor abuse victims and there is no nuance at all".

I'm sorry for ranting in your inbox about this, it just upsets me so much.

And, the problem is, some of these things are well earned by men who refuse to do better.

An ex of mine admitted sometimes he had a hard time finding the clit on past encounters with others and funny enough when I was like "bro how it's RIGHT THERE" he was like "stfu yours is HUGE it's unmissable ok of course I could find yours it's the first thing I saw when you took off your clothes they're not usually that big" which is how I got the first hint that I'm intersex. And in fairness some people are just very small- a trans guy I know has occasionally struggled when in an encounter with someone pre-T or no-T and it's effectively microscopic because that's just how that person's body works.

But I've also known cis men who genuinely think girls pee out of their vaginas [again, in fairness, lack of sex ed due to conservative christian upbringing + cis men do in fact pee out of their sexual organ so it's not that big of a logical leap to make], who don't understand literally anything about menses [again, all emissions from a penis are more or less controllable + the concept of uncontrollable bleeding from a penis for a week straight would have most guys in the ER + lack of sex ed], "what size pussy you wear" type dudes [which, again, for all penis-equivilant things, knowing the size does matter]... as well as women who are unsatisfied by their partners' performances and yet refuse to tell them.

I'm not on tiktok but one crossed my dash of a black guy saying he had no idea that when girls put their hands on his abdomen while he's having sex with them, it's because he's hurting them and they're trying to push him away, because of the angle there's just no leverage to actually push. He thought it was encouragement to go harder. His current partner explained it and he immediately felt so terrible thinking back on all the times he's unknowingly hurt someone for his pleasure. Communication is a two-way street, how was this man supposed to improve if his partners are not communicating "when I do this I want you to stop because you're hurting me"?

Yes, some men are just allergic to giving their partners pleasure, and are inherently selfish in bed. But, also, I myself have hard lines I draw and I'm not willing to cross them even if my partner really wants me to. And some of these lines *are* acts that are very common to find in most bedrooms. Again, communication- is he actually allergic to eating pussy because he thinks vaginas are inherently disgusting outside of when his dick's inside one and he doesn't think girls can orgasm, or is he just incredibly turned off by that act but is more than willing to experiment in other ways to bring his partner pleasure? One of these guys is a pissbaby and the other is just a dude with a boundary.

Big sigh.

Now that I am around men, cis men, more often, I find that like in everything there's nuance and perspective.

[octou-sin]

Something I hate.

The attraction to goth girls, manic pixie dream girls, or tóxica/latinas from a hetero male perspective.

When I first met my boyfriend and was around his down bad guy friends they would obsess over tóxicas or goth girls. Making jokes about wanting to date “them mentally ill girls”, and I am just that. I am hispanic, I dress in dark gothic clothes time-to-time, and I have BPD and schizophrenia. So, I am labeled into these categories by hetero white men. Some of these men are roommates of mine, but they don’t understand that these labels and diagnostics aren’t just for quirks. I have psychotic episodes, I have breakdowns, I have scary moments I don’t always remember, but I don’t hurt people.

After my roommates had a clear view of how my mental illnesses affect me, they viewed me completely differently. People who I once was able to hang out with and have pleasant interactions with is no longer there. As well, they now go out their way to annoy me since we have not spoken in months due to one of my outbreaks. I don’t understand why they would if they fear me in the first place, and do things which are obviously irritable. These are the same type of people wanting these type of women, but they don’t understand them. The reason I hate this so much is because I will be admired, or fetishized, but I am not one that someone will commit to. I’ve currently have had a boyfriend for two years and the only reason I believe we have stayed together is because he was aware of my issues and didn’t fantasize about them, and about abusing those diagnostics against me.

Many other women, or feminine outward appearance people have dealt in the past with men who think trauma can be used to manipulate, and abuse their partners. Many others like me have dealt with loving a person who sees you only as an object. Others like me have had those issues weaponized against them, like in; threats to institutionalize, threats of violence, psychical violence, sexual abuse, and many more issues like these.

These labels do AND don’t define us. I enjoy many hobbies, I am very well versed and educated in topics I am passionate about. I am not a person who is mostly bubbly then switches towards self harm. I do not act allistic, and I don’t act like a 1940s cartoon esc character who needs a lobotomy. Mentally i’ll partners are not accessories to your life. Mentally i’ll people are mentally i’ll for a reason, even with thorough treatment for cognitive issues, it doesn’t resolve episodes, and if someone is aware that their partner has severe diagnosis it isn’t just a label, it is a big part of understanding who someone is. If you leave someone after they told you their issues and they finally come to light, and then you leave them, you are fetishizing characters you deem as weak, until they show that they are not.

Sorry if this is all over the place.

#rant #mental health #BPD #schizophrenia

[beardedmrbean]

Okay thank you for liking my Jrpg idea. Actually during the launch of Diablo 4, a lot of og Diablo fans realize the age gaps between them and the new blood is that many new blood around their own kids ages.

Hell I knew about Diablo because my dad played the second game on the family computer.

Meh, dystopian Ya novels died in the mid 10’s. Also this

“Hey writers, maybe try writing and working out a solution occasionally, like, as said, patching up a familial relationship issue.”

Well Encanto did that, yes yes the running gag that the big fantasy is elder members apologizing.

Hmm given the abuse my stepmom put me through and my little sister, who was raised by her since the age of 6, develop depression so she can’t join the navy. And the bitch said my little sister said she faking it

Also keep in mind my stepmom is 14 years older than. So she a millenial, like yes she an incest survivor and came from a broken family. Sliver lining she isn’t a misandrist

But I can smell her toxic ass in modern “abuse survivor groups” like on tumblr

So when you see people on social media and the entertainment industry have the same toxicity and try to INFANTILIZE such garbage because they are women with a hard life.

You get pissed.

Oh sorry have to get it out, but the reason why say family healing from a mess is rare in modern media.

Welll a lot of modern writers have unresolved parental issues and treat the audience like their therapists. But feel hard when the writers still think they are the abused child with no power vs the insufferable manchildren that want to take away our human rights

And omg can we go back to HEALING abused children vs INFANTIZING them?

Like this idea that abused people need to be docile for the rest of their lives. Huh, explain a coworker of mine out of the kindness of his heart got me a GameStop gift card

Okay this anon is weird, but I often go

“Okay can we all stop acting like we are an abused character in a kids cartoon? Yes we don’t repeat the same cycle as our abusers. We still have toxicity we need to control…unless you believe you don’t have any.”

I send a better Jrpg, now I shouldn’t have been on here at that age…

I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable with the dehumanization and Nazis level stuff tumblr had towards white people. Like these was from fellow blacks and non whites. So them calling white people subhumans that need to be wipeout

Can for the love of god anyone explain to me why a 13 year old black child who just managed to make sure I never in the same house as my abuser (who never got punished. Enjoy your lonely death when your youngest daughter ditched you in a nursery cunt!) have more empathy and compassion to humans than people who were in their late teens or in COLLEGE?!

What the FUCK cause me to have better morals than the fuckers who grew up on BTAS and ATLA during it height of popularity?

Hell I knew about Diablo because my dad played the second game on the family computer.

I bought 2 a few months after moving back to CA from FL was the only video game I had for like 8.5 years till I got FF6 on steam a couple months back, love that game, both of them. Can't do 3 I get vertigo, never tried 4.

Meh, dystopian Ya novels died in the mid 10’s. Also this

I'm old things run together for me at times as a result, that and people keep bringing them up all the time.

“Hey writers, maybe try writing and working out a solution occasionally, like, as said, patching up a familial relationship issue.” Well Encanto did that, yes yes the running gag that the big fantasy is elder members apologizing.

Fantasy is that because young writers blame their elders for every problem in the world even the ones that predate them.

Hmm given the abuse my stepmom put me through and my little sister, who was raised by her since the age of 6, develop depression so she can’t join the navy. And the bitch said my little sister said she faking it

And here I thought white women were supposed to be more willing to accept mental illness as a thing others have.

But I can smell her toxic ass in modern “abuse survivor groups” like on tumblr

That's the other option ya, social media points

And omg can we go back to HEALING abused children vs INFANTIZING them?

Like this idea that abused people need to be docile for the rest of their lives. Huh, explain a coworker of mine out of the kindness of his heart got me a GameStop gift card

That's the therapy right there, it's different for different people, and genuine kindness, like learning about rome, or building a shed, or many other things can be therapy.

Reese Witherspoon did a movie called Wild, based on a memoir by Cheryl Strayed who afaik that's the only thing she wrote, apparently looking I'm wrong, but she did a 1100 mile hike up the pacific crest, and it was therapy, woman from my church who's husband just died of cancer recently is doing something similar in Europe except it's a pilgrimage walk and nowhere near as isolated, still 8 weeks and therapy.

“Okay can we all stop acting like we are an abused character in a kids cartoon? Yes we don’t repeat the same cycle as our abusers. We still have toxicity we need to control…unless you believe you don’t have any.”

Gaslight the trauma away, or maybe realize it's not so traumatic after all, or things in between too.

Can for the love of god anyone explain to me why a 13 year old black child who just managed to make sure I never in the same house as my abuser (who never got punished. Enjoy your lonely death when your youngest daughter ditched you in a nursery cunt!) have more empathy and compassion to humans than people who were in their late teens or in COLLEGE?!

You were less concerned with how people perceived you where as they felt the need to dehumanize other people and bring them down below their level in their minds so they could feel superior.

Short version even with all the trauma you had/have more self esteem than they do.

What the FUCK cause me to have better morals than the fuckers who grew up on BTAS and ATLA during it height of popularity?

For me it's Mr Rogers and Sesame Street, going with church upbringing that never made me feel lesser for being who I was is another primary one that ran longer than watching Mr Rogers, breaks my heart people got my saviour so wrong as to use him as a hammer to harm others, that ain't who he is.

Fundies may think they're getting the rules right but they forget that the greatest commandment is love, Jesus is the carpenter let him take care of the hammer.

For you it may be that you actually took what you learned from those shows to heart, lots of people did and lots of people got it right, lots of people loved Steven Universe too, and then they nearly bullied an artist to suicide and formed online hate mobs over other peoples opinions and interpretations.

#zoomer huey anon

[thestarlightforge]

Some thoughts on hope, honesty and storytelling from a director’s POV.

I’ve tried to articulate what frustrated me about Multiverse of Madness many times, and they’ve all delved into some combination of A) breaking down the misogynistic, reductive, antisemitic tropes it employed; B) delving into comic book and MCU lore that illustrates why it’s mostly nonsense; and C) character analysis.

But I was thinking about it again today, this time in the context of my aesthetic as a director and writer.

This week, I’ve been at the Kennedy Center’s Director’s Intensive, an amazing annual event that unites early-career directors in community with professionals in theatre. Guests range from pros in dramaturgy, intimacy choreography, stage design, directing, performance, and more.

In several exercises, I’ve refined my thinking on the roles hope and hard truth play in my storytelling. I love hope. It’s my bread and butter. But I hate it when I feel it’s been delivered cheaply—without digging into the realities of how horrible the world can be. Just doesn’t feel earned.

This is why I struggle with the original Little Mermaid cartoon. To me, in addition to its notes on misogyny, consent, class struggle and female power, it’s so clearly a disability story. In Ariel’s most famous ballad, she croons her belief that to be a part of the world she loves—to dance, discover and be free—she has to be able to walk and run. Then, she enters “man’s world” with fully-functioning legs—you can’t CONVINCE me Ursula would’ve given her those. To add ANOTHER layer, when she discovers she’s mute, it’s taken as fact that means she can’t communicate. As if sign language completely doesn’t exist—and again, you can’t CONVINCE me that Ariel, intrepid scholar of all things human, “didn’t know” about sign language. But the story gets resolved with little change to her views: She gets the man (she barely knows), her voice (she doesn’t need), sexy legs (for fitting in) and the world (which looks much like her greatest idealization).

The world doesn’t change. It doesn’t let her down. She’s magically “cured.” She has to change. So to me, her “happy ending” felt hollow and mostly devoid of truth.

Thus bringing me back to Multiverse of Madness and WandaVision.

A lot of fans argued Wanda doesn’t face enough accountability in WandaVision. I feel that ignores the show’s symbolism as a grief epic, abstractions of Wanda’s compounded trauma, and her mental state/ability to even be held accountable in that situation. But in a literal reading, to some extent, I agree. In MoM, people had similar (even less ambiguous) concerns... Most of which I have no desire to delve into again here.

The important aspect, though, is hope. In WandaVision, the subject matter was a series of hard truths and revelations—death after death, unconscionable loss. But it doesn’t read like a funeral. It reads like a celebration of life. And the central dramatic argument of Wanda’s story, to me, is that no matter how utterly broken or lost you are, you can still be a good person—even a hero—if you keep trying and lead with your heart.

So many people hung their hope on Wanda. Queer people, young people, women, outcasts, people who struggle with their own experiences of mental illness and loss. I believe that as artists, we are responsible to the work, our collaborators, our communities, ourselves and the audience—but when we offer hope, we take on an extra responsibility to the audience/the world.

People are going to feel however they feel; it isn’t up to us to fully mitigate that, nor can we. But we ask audiences to be vulnerable—to get invested in our stories and, for however long, trust us with their hearts—and as long as we stay truthful while doing it, it’s the right thing to do not to crush them.

To quote Silver Linings Playbook:

“The world's hard enough as it is, guys. It’s fucking hard enough as it is.”

Wanda’s story in Multiverse of Madness ended with her partial redemption and sacrifice—that’s how Stephen and 838-Christine frame it, for the brief time they talk about it. With the knowledge that she destroyed the Darkhold, an ancient evil, and broke its hold on her with the power of her compassion.

But you know what it also was? A suicide attempt. (One that, if that red flash was her magic saving her, she was lucky to survive.) She is a character known for mental illness, both in the MCU and in her decades-long history in comics. And—whoever you decide is responsible, be it Raimi, Waldron, Feige, other heads at Disney, or some combination—MoM decided that the answer to her story should be suicide. Worse, they’re presently unwilling to classify/discuss it as such.

So any hope we get from her “sacrifice,” her partial redemption, the red flash after—it rings hollow. Because it fails to acknowledge the hard truth.

#anyways #director thoughts #theatre #dc theatre #kennedy center #director #writers #writerslife #multiverse of madness #doctor strange and the multiverse of madness #wandavision #the little mermaid #disability #disability pride month #dramaturgy #screenwriting #women writers #writer life #young avengers #the children’s crusade #wanda maximoff #michael waldron #sam raimi #kevin feige #marvel studios #marvel mcu #scarlet witch #tw suicide

[mackerelphones]

Movies I watched lately

Picnic at Hanging Rock (1975): This is a movie about being out of your depth in a mysterious universe of frightening powers and Valentine's Day being on the wrong day

Perfect Blue (1997): Scarier than The Shining. Definitely much more uncomfortable, with all the sexual violence. But that might just be because pop culture spoiled every part of The Shining ahead of time, whereas in Perfect Blue I didn't know what to expect next. In a twist, Perfect Blue actually explains exactly what's going on with the disappointing "mentally ill murderer" trope

The Handmaiden (2016): At first I thought, despite the colonialist setting, this was going to be a boring period drama about polite people in fancy costumes, but then came the first twist and I was hooked. I don't know if this subverts the male gaze or whatever. But this film is definitely entertaining, each shot an almost painterly composition, the small cast of characters all well realized. The setting was so over-the-top it felt a little like a cartoon. Shame Park Chan-wook decided the movie needed a gory torture sequence instead of focusing on what the female leads get up to except for putting those metal balls in their pussies

Zardoz (1974): This film unironically engages with the concepts L. Frank Baum introduces in his later Oz novels, when he turns Oz into a dystopia hell world by accident. The Tabernacle is Ozma's Magic Picture. Not sure how to feel about having a habitual rapist as our protagonist, but it was the 1970s, so the actors probably just hated women that much in their daily lives anyway

Puella Magi Madoka Magica the Movie: Beginnings (2012): It's like a slightly worse version of the show. Took out three memorable bits: Madoka's dream in the opening, Mami's backstory, and Hitomi screaming about lesbians. The dream is an especially odd deletion since without that, the opening is boring. But you can't call this scene-for-scene remake a cheap cashgrab because the new visuals are baroque, sometimes to the point that it becomes ridiculous. Why the hell is Kamijo's hospital room a gorgeous palatial chamber full of books and a collection of the weirdest chairs that have ever existed?

Puella Magi Madoka Magica the Movie: Eternal (2012): Ditto

Puella Magi Madoka Magica the Movie: Rebellion (2013): This expands on the wrong things from the show until it develops into just an avalanche of the wildest colors and visuals. Can't say it's not gorgeous though. The one new character is a little girl whose defining character trait is that she is obsessed with cheese. With a fourth Madoka movie coming out, I do not trust the creators not to ruin the series. Have Homura kiss Madoka you cowards

Manhunt (1976): This film's original Japanese title is something like "You Must Cross the River of Anger!" Very Alfred Hitchcock vibe. It is most notable because of its popularity in the PRC. I was glad that the writing was intelligent enough to recognize the main character would not return to the police force after what he goes through. On the other hand, it concludes extrajudicial execution is fine if the person is evil enough. This message is only true if you're a revolutionary socialist, not a cop,* so I have to cancel this movie sorry

*This is ironic and not actually something I believe (you still need some kind of fair trial, even if the outcome is a foregone conclusion)

Up Tight! (1968): Speaking of revolutionary socialists killing someone. A lot of people in this movie abruptly start shouting and wailing and attacking people and then have to be pulled off. It's a shame the gay character's homosexuality is treated as a sign of how he is an unreliable class traitor who loves cops

Do the Right Thing (1989): This is a really good movie about a hot day on a street where a lot of angry people scream at each other. Apparently, Spike Lee wrote the screenplay in two weeks. I am jealous. That got me thinking how many talented people it took to bring the screenplay to life. I don't know how Sweet Dick Willie's dialogue could be planned instead of extemporaneous, but that's the magic of cinema. The ice cube scene is weird

Total Recall (1990): I don't buy that Quaid and Melina could just get up and be fine after the air rushes over them in the finale. Their eyes were boiling! And whoever built the Mars colony in GLASS DOMES, brittle, ordinary glass, was so stupid that they could not possibly exist. This proves the story was a hallucination inside Quaid's head. Didn't expect the movie to feature a dwarf sex worker mowing down cops with a machine gun. They should have made a movie about her instead

#the handmaiden #total recall #madoka magica #perfect blue #zardoz #movies

[br1ghtestlight]

So, Im a huge Mr. fischoeder fan so wondering if you have any Hc regarding him,especially his younger days cause there is so much potential there with his father and his missing eye. Tysm!! I'm huge fan of your blog Btw!!

i love mr fischoeder he's so fun!!!! of course i have headcanons about him :)

he's at least five years older than felix and bcuz their parents were Not great at being parents he actually spent a lot of his childhood raising felix and basically being parentified and thats why his relationship with felix is so fucked up and toxic bcuz calvin treats him more like a child that he still has to take care of and felix feels like he's never been treated as an equal (bcuz calvin mentally cant see him as an equal) they probably need to go to therapy together tbh

in general their parents were not great parents and treated their children more like employees in training and they expected to be idolized and worshiped (which they very much were and still are) they had a few good family moments but overall it was a very unhealthy upbringing?? calvin and felix both decided they didnt want kids bcuz they knew that their parenting style would be very similar and they (probably subconciously) didnt want to destroy a child the way they were destroyed

felix took out calvin's eye when he was just a kid maybe like 11 or 12 bcuz they were having a stupid arguement, he felt HORRIBLE and so guilty but calvin was like whatever its fine lmao He generally is so chill considering how many times felix has tried to murder or physically attack him, i dont think he ever really gets angry at felix or holds grudges bcuz thats his baby brother :)

calvin has been in very few serious romantic relationships bcuz he finds it difficult to commit to another person or actually care about them also women usually date him for his money which he's fine with but it doesnt lead to a real emotional connection (his realtionship with bob is ironically stronger than any romantic relationship he's ever been in)

^^ felix is the same way but he's totally okay with being used for his money he doesnt give a fuck (he secretly longs for an actual emotional connection though)

calvin is not straight but obviously was never open about this bcuz of how homophobic society was when he was growing up, he's always going out and having sex with male strippers/sex workers and everybody in town kinda knows but they keep quiet bcuz thats his personal buisness, the only person he's ever openly discussed this with is felix and never in any serious depth (felix promised to not tell their dad even though he knew that if he did he would be more likely to inherent his family's money and tbat is a promise he did keep)

calvin is actually very into fashion he just doesnt have a lot of opportunities to show off his knowledge, if bobs burgers wasnt a cartoon he would probably wear different extravagant outfits every single episode

mother fischoeder died when calvin was in his early 20s and it was an early death and probably due to an illness of some kind, his father died much later in life maybe when calvin was in his 50s

calvin absolutely loves reality tv drama shows like the bachelor and gets super into them and has favorite contestants, he invites felix to watch with him sometimes and its a brother bonding activity that they both enjoy <3

calvin wanted to be a singer when he was younger (before he took over the family business) and he will take any opportunity to sing in front of a crowd

#FJDMDMDJDKDS THANK YOU FOR SAYING YOU LOVR MY BLOG BTW #its funny bcuz i literally just use this blog so i dont annoy twitter with my autistic bobs burgers rambling #i love that people follow me for that. god bless u #bob's burgers #ask #headcanons

[villanevehaus]

tagged by @thenelse to list 8 shows to get to know me better. thank u mutual Then Else it's always lovely to be tagged by u <3 these aren't in any particular order but here we go

1.sharp objects is the seminal haus tv show, the book even moreso. gillian flynn writes female characters and protagonists in a way that is just gritty and gross and as whole characters who make mistakes and have grudges and shitty opinions. as a bitch who used to self harm, used to have substance abuse issues, and used to have a horrendous relationship with returning to my childhood home, i had never seen all of those issues wrapped into one traumatized character before, let alone a woman! the show is shot in a way that deliberately highlights the messy and seemingly nonsensible ways that trauma influences people and all of it is just!!! she just like me fr!!!

2. bojack horseman (stick with me here) is important to me in ways that i really cant articulate in an ask so i will just list things that come to mind about it: cycles of familial abuse and inherited trauma, the clutch that addiction can and does have on people (he just like me fr), complex grief, the way that mental illness and mental anguish do not make sense, people-pleasing as a means of self-destruction, acts that cannot be forgiven being committed by your loved ones and navigating that going forward, committing the unforgivable yourself and needing to find a way to move forward, the consequences of your own actions, grudges, self-preservation, asexuality, being in your 20s and 30s and 40s and 50s and 60s, change as an individual, stagnation as an individual, and the way that watching bojack horseman is impossible to pitch because how do you pitch a show about an alcoholic cartoon horse and his friends princess carolyn, mister peanutbutter, lernernerner dicarpricorn, and bobo the zebra as something that addresses all those previous things i just listed.

3. madmen is so sleek and stylish and well made that every time i think about it too much i end up watching the whole thing again. the way that they capture sunlight and daylight through high-rise buildings also makes me a little insane ngl. the music and the camera movements and the pacing and the costumes are just so consistent! it's perfect background noise and it's perfect deliberate watching. i think for me this falls under the personal because my mum loved it but passed away before the finale so every time i finish it i think about what she might have thought about it.

4. wentworth has some of the most consistent character writing that i have ever come across. i haven't finished it for homosexual reasons (only watched s1-s5) but there are character actions from the pilot that come into play late s5. there are so many instances of a character making a choice that you loathe and can't believe they're making not because they wouldn't, but because that's exactly what they would do in said instance. also, women! fat women trans women ugly women women of colour indigenous women grieving women angry women vicious women soft women alcoholic women gay women bisexual women abused women abusive women elderly women young young young women screaming women vengeful women broken women healing women determined women violent women. the relationships between all sorts of women! mentor and mentee, mother and child, inmate and guard, boss and employee, new girlfriend and old girlfriend, loyalty to the point of ruination, stalking, coercion, use, resentment, rivalry!!! it makes me crazy

5. killing eve s1&2 were so so so special. s3 and s4 had their moments and i will not say more than that but characters like eve and villanelle hadn't been seen before and i doubt will be seen in the future. i also have +500k words of fic written about them so i feel like im contractually obligated to mention it

6. the good place ohhh the good place !!! the good place said how can we fault people who want to be good but were born into circumstances where they cannot be!!! there is always good to be found in trying to help others!!! what matters is if people are trying to be better than they were the previous day!!! how can we hold it against people who are not given kindness and love and support!!! the fact that life ends is what makes living it so beautiful!!! i am going to start crying

7. futurama was there for me in a lot of ways when i didn't have much else that was as stable as that 9:30pm timeslot. there is a lot of negative things/criticisms that i could and often do say about it but there are a few very special moments from a few very special episodes that mean enough to me that i still hold it dearly: the opera. the story that follows fry's brother naming his son after fry and how that son went on to be the first man on mars. when leela has the bee sting and wakes up from her coma and sees that fry has been waiting for her. when fry is given the opportunity to go into his sleeping mother's dream (from a time when she was alive- there's time travel, kind of, it's a whole thing. at this point she's long dead) and says "i have so much to tell you" before just looking at her and pulling her into a bruising hug. as someone who frequently has dreams in which i am able to speak to my deceased mum, that will never fail to make me cry.

8. arrested development sucks so bad but goddamnit if it isn't also the wildest and most absurd shit to exist. i reblogged a post the other day that was about it's impact on culture and it's true!!! "it's one banana Michael, what could it cost? ten dollars?", "dead dove: do not eat", "well, i don't want to blame it on 9/11, but that certainly didn't help", "good for her", "i don't understand the question and i won't respond to it", "oh mercy me, i forgot that were in the colonies!" ALL being from the same show?? insane. the humour of arrested development is absolutely coloured by the time it was made in but holy shit all of it is so sharp and hysterical. also the fact that sometimes if you're trying to explain a joke to someone who hasn't watched it you have to go on an insane tangent that is 100% just the events of the show that happened but it sounds completely nonsensical is [chefs kiss]

tagging @herbeloveve @lesbian-hannibal (ur url has made me realize i forgot nbc hannibal but im already here so NBC hannibal is an honourable 9th choice) @killinganya @killbillieve @horrid-queer @agaywithcoffee @annnnperkins and anyone else who wants to!!

#ask games #kind of?? #tagged games #i was tagged in This #rose i like how u tagged me under being curious ab my answers bc now i am curious ab ur curiosity

[emblemxeno]

It seems like fandoms and some writers always assume white women can never be privileged even if they're blatantly rich and cruel. But yeah I always see the "you can't like him, he's WHITE", used only against male characters. That kinda of reminds me of a recent cartoon that did that.

It's an unfortunate reflection of reality, where white women (especially cis women) have immense societal privilege in places like the U.S., but it's often ignored in favor of either 1) only targeting white men, or 2) targeting men in general cuz " a woman can never oppress a man in any way ever" which is patently not true. It's very important to look at things at an intersectional way, in real life, but also media.

Of course, in Ladlegard's case... "White-looking bisexual princess who wants to conquer independent nations and hates non-humans in a series with a consistent moral that it's Not Cool to do that" is very cut and dry, especially since her gender nor her sexuality factor into any kind of canonical backlash, prejudice, or hatred from others. Neither does her traumatic past show an "ugly" side to be ridiculed or called a monster over.

Comparatively, Claude is treated with suspicion (and iirc domestic abuse from his siblings?) due to his mixed heritage, as well as casual racism/xenophobia from both Almyra and Fodlan. Dimitri's mental illness leads to him getting dehumanized and insulted by both a close friend and Ladle-chan (even if the former eventually makes amends, it's still kinda inarguably fucked up). Rhea's race is a factor for why she's being hunted and targeted by Ladle and the Agarthans, and her PTSD ridden outbursts get treated as "See, I knew that tyrant was crazy and inhuman!!!"

Even Byleth gets like, actual criticism and discomfort targeted towards them for their aloof treatment of warfare and generally being emotionless at first.

So really, for all that fandom and the stans try to prop Ladle-chan's identity, trauma, or circumstances as something that's apparently important to her character and her story, in actuality she's an incredibly privileged individual who never gets negatively targeted for who she is, only what she does. Something the other main characters don't get the luxury of, in or outside of canon.

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