#uneducated college students

[its-a-cautionary-tale]

Honestly fuck these antisemitic cowards. I wish we all lived closer together so we could protect each other!!

I reposted this on my instagram story:

Someone I have been in classes with responded with:

“An intifada does not incite violence against Jews. Intifada means revolution. A revolution is necessary when Palestinians are being actively massacred and forcibly removed from their indigenous land. It is called Genocide.”

So I replied:

“Do you know what the intifada was? It was suicide bombings and violence and destruction. You can isolate a word all you want but it doesn't change the meaning to a group of people who it hurt”

They left me on read. Either they didn’t know and didn’t know how to respond or they knew and don’t like that they were called out for it. Either way they clearly didn’t understand the message of the post which was: “what you are participating in is making me feel unsafe”

#antisemitism #jewish #judaism #jumblr #college #ignorance #antisemitism on the left #leftist antisemitism #uneducated college students #Israel #israel/palestine

[isanyonetoknow]

Never mind I’m not going to reply to that person. If you say you think a country is currently pretty dope for taking actions against Israel and someone is like hey, just an fyi, that government is killing its own people and has severe human rights issues so please don’t idolize the government like this and your response to this is to go “yeah like I said, I’m sure it has its own issues”… like I don’t know what to say to you!

#vt.talk #like I’m baffled! and appalled! #the response should’ve been something like oh thanks for letting me know. or no response. I don’t care. #cause the only reason I responded was cause this person said ‘based on recent news’ so I assumed uneducated #now I’m assuming don’t care #like idk what to tell you man. a member of my family in his first year at college had to hide in a classroom cause the police were killing #student protesters or else beating them #the fear you get when you can’t talk with your family to see if they’re safe because no one can get into Iran. cause they shut off the #internet. like what the fuck why are these just ‘their own issues’ to you??? #I mentioned a singer has recently been SENTENCED TO DEATH BY THE GOVERNMENT for PROTEST SONGS #oh but that doesn’t matter. that’s not important. bitch.

[octuscle]

I’m so sick of life as a nerdy grad student. Having to think all the time, be organised, dress neatly, comb my hair every morning and style it. Please, support, can you make me just an average workie? A proper stereotypical labourer?

It's not just the noise from the construction site for the extension to the lecture hall building. It's knowing who is making that noise that makes it difficult to concentrate. The guys in their dirty work clothes must have a permanent hard-on like you do at the moment. You bet their dicks are constantly covered in precum. And if you ever manage to suck one of those cocks, it's bound to taste strongly of salty cheese. Hell, your precum is even seeping through your jeans. You press your years in front of the wet bulge in your jeans and run to the toilet.

Yes, your cock is completely sticky. And you're glad you have to piss. At least you can flush out all the precum. Heavy footsteps approach from behind. Even before you can see the construction worker, you can smell him. A cloud of sweat, tobacco and beer wafts ahead of him. You don't even dare turn around to face him as he stands right next to you at the urinal. With a dry throat, you say that smoking is forbidden here. He blows his smoke in your face. You cough. You turn to face him. He jerks his boner and grins at you. "So, do you like what you see, college boy?" You can only nod. "Den get on your knees n make yourself useful!" It tastes strongly of salty cheese. You can't get enough of this taste. And the uneducated redneck cheers you on. "Yes, buddy, nobody blows like you. You really are da cum slut of da construction site." Hehehe, yes, you are. Yes, you're also a damn good carpenter. But you almost deserve more as the construction site slut. Your colleague shoots his load. And you swallow greedily. And with every drop, memories of exams and seminars disappear from your mind. And memories of hard years as an apprentice form.

You stand up and give your foreman a deep French kiss. Your mouth is still filled with his own cum. And then you push his head towards your hard-on.

Unfortunately, you lack the ambition and stamina to become a foreman yourself one day. But you still have a hell of a lot of fun on the building site. And let's be honest: anything is better than being one of those stuffy students who will one day end up in front of a screen in a poorly ventilated open-plan office.

Your pic found @uniformincar

#male tf #muscle tf #inked man #hiviz tf #white to blue collar tf #redneck tf

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

aita for kind of getting a guy kicked our of our college’s theatre program?

i (20ftm) have been doing theatre all my life, including at my local community college where i’m an art student. i’m openly trans and don’t pass particularly well, but i have a really good voice, so i’m usually able to swing pretty good roles.

last fall i played mr. green in our production of clue: the musical. mr. green is a very masculine role. there was a guy(21M) in our ensemble, who i’ll call A, who regularly said some pretty off-color stuff to me. he made several mocking comments about how i needed to wear a prosthetic beard for my costume instead of being able to grow my own, frequently pointed out how i always have to take the high harmony, and made a joke that it was misogynistic for someone to assume i don’t like sports (context: that person was saying i don’t like sports— which is true— cause i’m a thespian and artist. A was implying that i was a woman and so it would be sexist to assume i didn’t like sports).

all of those comments combined with the usual stress of shows really damaged my mental health during our run, to the point of having a panic attack backstage halfway through act 1 one night. our costume designer overheard a couple of these incidents and saw how it affected me, and spoke to the director about it. the director later pulled me aside and asked how i thought this should be dealt with. i told her that i didn’t know what the protocol in this kind of situation was, but that she should think about how A would handle being in our next show, RENT. i said that someone who has that kind of attitude towards me just going about my business might not be mature enough to be a part of a show that deals with such heavy queer themes. she agreed with me and said he wouldn’t be invited back to audition for rent, and he hasn’t auditioned for any other shows since.

the thing is, i really don’t think A was being malicious at all in his comments. i think he thought it was light-hearted ribbing and didn’t realize he was crossing the line. i had a conversation with him after clue closed and he had been talked to by our director, and he seemed genuinely apologetic and willing to learn from his mistakes. i don’t think he meant his comments to be as hurtful as they were, he was just uneducated and apparently unexposed to trans people.

on the other hand, he was also not a good actor at all, and an even worse singer/dancer lol. A is still a film student at our college (which is very closely connected to the theatre department), so i know that he’s still involved there (mostly directing, i’m pretty sure)

tl;dr: a guy i was in a musical with made some transphobic comments to me, probably without even realizing it, and he’s since been kind of shunned out of our college’s theatre program. aita?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[justaghostingon]

Jiang Yanli does Legally Blonde

Winning in the courtroom with the power of soup!

When it began, jiang yanli was a girl with everything, a rich family, two lovinf brothers, and a beautiful finance who was going to go to college with her (she’s taken a few years off for her health, but now she’s got the chance!)

Or so there parents planned, simce the two of them are in a rather old-fashioned arranged marriage

But while they’re waiting for their acceptance letters, Jin Zixuan grows more and more distant, before angrily revealing he doesn’t want to go with her, because he “doesn’t want to be stuck in some mediocre school with miss mediocre”

And he says this to her face, in the middle of a party their parents had organized.

Jiang yanli js devistated, and even her brother punching him in the face does not make her feel better. Her engagement is annulled, and the man she loved thinks only the worst of her.

But jiang yanli has her pride. She would have let him go his own way and never crossed paths again…except…

In that one summer, everything goes wrong. Her parents die in a car crash that was obviously premeditated but no one can prove it. Her father’s buisness goes under and all of their money is left to the Wens, who havr some how became the beneficiaries over his own childern, even if jiang yanli knows there’s no way her mother would ever agree to it.

She loses jiang cheng to fostercare (he’s still 17) because apparently she “can’t provide him proper stability” and wei ying, newly turned 18, goes missing after trying to investigate their parents deaths.

Now with no way forward, and a need for a high ranking job stat, jiang yanli turns to the only option she has left: the Harvard application she had secretly applied too to surpise her then fiance

But its fine! Its not like he’d go to harvard! Its so focused and uptight! He has so many other options…

Nope. He’s here. And the first thing he does when he sees her is stand up and shout to the whole class “Are You Stalking Me?!!!!”

Jiang yanli: … (deep breath and under her breath) think about ur brothers think about ur brothers

Jin zixun: who did u bribe to get in?

Jiang yanli: i applied and got accepted, the same as everyone else.

Jin zixun, who had to bribe the dean to get in: ….

Then class begins, and its even worse. Jiang yanli is not made for this kind of harsh lifestyle. She keeps seeing the best in the clients, doesn’t approve of the dirty tricks, and is all around having a bad time

And when class ends, jin zixuan leaves with a girl on his arm, who jiang yanli is pretty sure is called mianmian, and always used to hang around jun zixuan when they were together. Was she who jun zixuan really loved?

(Mianmian is not dating jun zixuan. She would not date him if u paid her. But she is his best friend. And you can bet she’s gonna cal him out for making this all about him)

Also jiang yanli’s financial status gets leaked, and nasty rumors are spreading about how she’s chasing the riches she used to have by trying to get jin zixuan back. Now the rich students don’t want to hang out with her, and the scholarship students think she thinks she’s better than them so they don’t want to hang out with her either

Jiang yanli doesn’t realize this until she shows up to what she was told was a costume party in traditional chinese dress only to find it is not one.

But she’s not the only one in this predicament, because Meng Yao got invited too, and came in a traditional chinese costume too, albeit a cheaper made one.

Jin zixun starts making fun of meng yao, teasing him for wearing a “dress” and having no sense of porpriety, and being a bastard bottom feeder son of a whore-

And then jiang yanli shows up. Jiang yanli has had quite enough of the Jins by this point. But she has an advantage meng yao lacks, she had to grow up with them. She knows their Weakenesses.

It takes her five minutes to completely dress Jin zixun down, make him look like the unreasonable and uneducated fool for making fun her her and meng yaos costumes, and meng yao look noble in compairison

then she proceeds to link arms with meng yao and drag him around the room with her, the very image of a beautiful couple costume that every other couple should envy

Now jiang yanli doesn’t actually know who meng yao is, nor does she realize he’s not another student, but actually a grad student who’s passed the bar, but she is thrilled to meet someone so nice who is willing yo listen to her rant about how hard law is

Meng yao is hers now. He is not getting rid of her. He is small and nice and clearly needs hugs and soup. And goddamnit she misses having someone to spoil!

Meng yao doesn’t know what’s going on, he doesn’t know what this lady’s angle is, but he’s more than willing to teach her how to study in exchange for some soup and spoiling

He’s definitely thought about marrying her. It would definitely humiliate jin zixuan if his fiance chose his bastard brother over him. But she’s just so sisterly anything romantic feels incestuous (rip canon jiggy) besides, he doesn’t need to date her. Because everyone else already thinks they’re a couple

Including jin zixuan, who absolutely got an earful about losing jiang yanli to “that bastard” from his mother

Meng yao makes certain jun zixuan gets a front row seat to seeing what a wonderful and caring person jiang yanli is …and how meng yao is treating her SO MUCH better!

Cue jin zixuan seething with jealousy when he sees meng yao holding the door open for jaing yanli, who gives him that beautiful smile, did she ever smile at him like that?

Mianmian: i thought you wanted her to leave you alone? Why are you getting jealous now she’s clearly not thinking about you?

Jin zixuan: I DONT KNOW!!!

So with meng yao’s help, jiang yanli is doing so much better in the courtroom, so good that she ends up as an intern with jin zixuan and mianmian.

Jiang yanli is thrilled! Her plan to save her family is going so well!

Then she meets the client, and that becomes way more relevant

Because its wei ying

Wei ying who is suspected of the murder of wen ning, and her teacher is trying to get him to plead guilty.

Now jiang yanli has to win this case, and prove him completely innocent, even when he’s refusing to tell her what really happened

To make matters worse, her teacher gets her alone in typical legally blond fashiom, puts the moves on her, gets rejected, and subsequently fires her

Jin zixuan walks in on them before things get bad, giving jiang yanli the chance to escape, but jiang yanli can see the disgust in his eyes and knows what he thinks of her

She’s about to leave when she runs into of all people, Wen Qing, who comes with proof wei ying didn’t kill wen ning, that wen ning is alive and hiding in a hospital, and begs her to save wei ying

And jiang yanli isn’t about to abandon her brother, no matter waht anyone thinks of her

And because this is legally blonde universe, and no one needst to pass the bar to represent in court, she’s going to take her brothers case from her teacher and save the day!

Meanwhile jun zixuan realizes he has the mortifying task of telling his half-brother his girlfriend who is jin zixuan’s ex girlfriend was cheating with the teacher

Not that meng yao seems to believe him

Did she offer him soup?

No!

Then she’s not interested in him

But he was…shw was…

A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do…unless u’ve got some kind of problem with sec work?” Mwng yao glares and jin zixuan realizes who he’s talking too

Mianmian interupts their argument of womens rights to poimt out that “you left her alone with that teacher? Famed sex offender?? Did either of you even think to warn her??? WTF???”

Oh. Goes Meng yao, rolling up his sleeves. That is a very different situation

So meng yao takes on the supervisory role for jiang yanli so she can represent wei ying

Jin zixuan uses his power and influence (and nepotism) to get mianmian and jiang yanli’s case against the teacher through the school board faster

And mianmian is here with the common sense

So jiang yanli manages to save the day, by proving thst not only was wen ning still alive, but wei ying was savinf him from his uncle who had planned to kill him off for tryinf to prove he stole the jiang buisness

When the dust settles, jiang yanli has got her brother back, her fortune in the process of being restored, and finally a steady enough job to get jiang cheng’s custody transfered back to her

And also a very, very apologetic jin zixuan, who is very determined to make it up to her through very expensive gifts (like helping her get said custody of jiang cheng)

She’s willing to let him be “a friend” again, but meng yao puts him through two more years of assuming he’s a third wheel before letting him know he and jiang yanli aren’t a couple and she’s prob take him back if he begged really hard.

And in the end, jiang yanli becomes a world famous lawyer, with a rich trophy husband a buisness partner in meng yao, and two brothers who will not stop giving her trouble

#the untamed au #mdzs #mdzs au #the untamed #mo dao zu shi #legally blonde au #jiang yanli #meng yao #jin zixuan #jin zixun #mianmian #wei ying #wei wuxuan #jiang cheng #xuanli #wen ning #wen qing #fake dating meng yao x jiang yanli #but only one of them knows #the other thinks they’re being good friends #meng yao is adopted by jiang yanli #and thus is only evil to her enemies

[steampunkforever]

Saw a video posted by some account trying to get youth invested in politics on campus that was just man-on-the-street interviews asking a diverse group of college students who actually attacked America on 9/11. Of course the video showed them getting the question hilariously wrong.

You see these every now and then with captions like “Americans can’t name their own senators” or “young people suck at US geography” where they exist to provide a superiority boost for oldest people to comment “and this is the generation telling us we’re ignorant???”

Except with the 9/11 question I can’t blame a single one of these kids for getting it wrong and answering “Isis” or “Iraq.” They have the excuse of being born years after it happened, but regardless of their age the American government has spent the past two decades on a propaganda campaign obfuscating the exact question the video asked them in order to justify countless forever wars.

The kid confidently answering “Iraq attacked us” isn’t showing how uneducated the average American student is, he’s exhibiting the results of a long running misinformation campaign stemming from George Bush’s decision to use an attack orchestrated by Saudis operating out of Afghanistan as an opportunity to invade Iraq with the purpose of using it to get to Iran, thus making daddy proud.

ISIS didn’t attack the towers but Obama’s expansion of the GWOT into countries barely affiliated with countries affiliated with the attackers means that somehow extrajudicial killings in Mali have something to do with the attack on New York City. If I was normal about following geopolitics from a young age I would be confused too!

#GWOT #9/11

[olderthannetfic]

olderthannetfic/729300911208448001/the-reason-theres-more-positivity-for

This is trolling. No one assumes trans men are masculine. We get called boys even in our 30s, drawn as skinny white AFABs in layers of soft clothing, and reassured that it's okay if we want to kiss other boys. Actually, being assured that you're a cutie patootie fem uwu is really dysphoria inducing for a lot of trans men. I was on tumblr when I had just come out when I was 15 and it was incredibly discouraging to see the posts fawning over adorable wittle twans bois. I'm 25, I don't want to hold hands with a boy, I want to fuck a man. I don't want to change my hobbies and I don't care if people think it's toxic masculinity that makes me like "manly" things (way to assign the binary to activities, real progressive of you) and I don't get anything from "let boys be soft" with clapping emojis and sparkles inbetween every word with glittering font. "No actually it's good to not support part of a marginalized group!" no. Your trolling is shit and so are you.

And the idea that ace people are assumed to be against sex actually made me laugh out loud. I'm working on my doctorate and actually, on college campuses? I've heard from professors - not students, professors, adults old enough to have college-age kids - that ace people have sex at the same rate as straights but they need more foreplay, ace people just need more time to get to know you but after that they're sexually indistinguishable from heterosexuals, that asexuality isn't real, that asexuality is an internet label people use instead of admitting that they can't get laid, and my least favorite, that any man who says he's asexual is actually an incel/that asexuality is another term for incels and femcels. Then you hop online and the internet goes, "Ace people love sex! Ace people love kink! Ace people have just as much sexual attraction as other people! You'r'e valid if you're ace and fuck/do kink/are attracted to everyone!" and if there's positivity for people who are ace who aren't into sex, I've yet to see it. Hell, being not into sex gets you labeled "repulsed", like you're retreating from it the way the Wicked Witch of the West would from water and not just not into it. That happened even in OTNF's own comment section, and these are not uneducated people when it comes to queerness, we've just normalized that sex is a part of everyone's identity so much that even if you're asexual, it's weird and must be a repulsion thing if you're not into it. "Uh actually everyone assumes [__] so there's no need for positivity for [__]" fucking where?! Where are all these people who assume being asexual = not wanting sex?

For the record, I got my undergrad at two different universities due to a change of major, got my master's at another, and am getting my doctorate at a fourth, all in four different US states. One was in the Northeast, one was in the South, one was in the Midwest and now I'm on the West Coast. And I have never encountered people who assume trans men are manly or that asexual people don't have sex.

I have encountered sex negative asexuals, people who get so upset they leave the room if you make a joke involving them and sex, who interrupt the professor mid-lecture to say, "Ace people have sex!", though. That's how deeply this is ingrained in some people's minds, they will say it even when it does not apply to them, even when it's the opposite of themselves, so they can make sure they are Educating The Cishetallos and, more importantly, then share the moment they had to do so with their progressive friends for brownie points/in order to be seen as One Of The Good Queers who educates others.

As for the weird thing in the troll ask pretending anyone who talks about their lived experience believes in a conspiracy... do yourself a favor and get help bringing up your literacy before you take the SAT/ACT, kid. Not only is your trolling shit but you don't understand what the word conspiracy means. Someone saying, "[insert thing here] happened to me" is not a conspiracy and this is why your English teachers gave you C's - to get you out of their classroom and make your lack of comprehension someone else's problem.

In the event this wasn't a troll but was actually what you read, please get two tutors and possibly a screening for any latent anxiety or mental illnesses that would explain how you read people venting about shitty life experiences and thought they believed there was a conspiracy of some kind going on. Because that's the kind of making shit up out of thin air my dad, who has diagnosed Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Paranoid Personality Disorder, would do, and it's not a great sign if you read people going, "the people around me are shitty about this" and jumped to "the people who sent those asks are saying there's a conspiracy theory against them and I am the one sole person who can see the truth here!"

I really don't know how to explain this to people but if someone says something is shitty on their campus, they're saying something is shitty on their campus. It's not a personal attack or conspiracy. Sometimes shit fucking sucks and it's exactly that deep.

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You wouldn't think "Someone had a stupid-ass opinion on my college campus" would be that hard to believe.

[schizopositivity]

throwback to my AP psych class in highschool where my teacher always said "im a little bit ocd" and our first assignment was to "study" a student from another class and then make assumptions about their life based on their behavoir, then he taught us The Four Types of Schizophrenia and he said "no one knows why catatonic schizophrenics are like that no one knows whats going on in their brain" and then we watched a video of someone publically having a psychotic episode, and then we watched the movies Stand By Me and The Breakfast Club and had to write a paper where we diagnosed each character with a different mental illness

now lemme tell you why all of that was complete bullshit:

you cant be "a little bit ocd" (he said cause he liked things organized was why) because its a mental disorder characterized by obsessions and compulsions, simply being tidy doesnt make you a little ocd, either you have the disorder or you dont

i felt so creepy having to watch and write about a student i didnt know in another class, this is just such a weird thing to do, and not anything a psych profesional would actually do so i have no idea why we did it, and then for the rest of my time at school i was paranoid that someone was studying me which as an undiagnosed schizophrenic was horrible for me

the four types of schizophrenia is outdated, it was when i was in the class, its now known to be a spectrum where people can have mulitple or even all of the symptoms of the four types

yes you can easily find out whats going through a catatonic persons brain if you just ask (once they are no longer catatonic), ive been catatonic multiple times and ill tell you any day

do not watch videos of people publically having a psychotic episode, they didnt consent to filming or uploading the video, they probably didnt want one of their most terrifying and emberassing moments posted publically so a room full of teenagers could gauk at it, it is extremley disrespectful to the person in the video and their humanity is more important than any education you could bring on by the video

you cant diagnose people you dont know, even with the proper training, an hour worth of content is not enough to make a diagnosis from, i seriously dont know why we were encouraged to diagnose anyone, especially characters in a movie, i dont know what we learned from this other than thinking we had the power to diagnose people we didnt know

this was an AP psych class so that means it was college level, i hope this isnt what theyre teaching in college and i just had a particularly uneducated teacher

#schizophrenia #ocd #catatonia #catatonic #psych #ap psych #psych class #neurodivergent #mental illness #actuallyschizophrenic #mental health awareness

[suncaptor]

cannot express enough how calling people naive, uneducated, or engaging in some type of virtue signalling for doing things like protesting genocide as college students, lgbt+ individuals, or people of colour is in fact lifting from right wing talking points

#incoherents #Palestine #the amount of time people say people are just immature and dumb because they refuse to have principles. #then they're like illustrated by how queer people do it even though Palestine would kill them (shut up) #illustrated by how its hurting the election then people of colour will really suffer they arent acting in their best interest #i am KILLING you. get over yourself an look your face of immorality in the eye

[batwynn]

Listen. I had teachers who treated me very badly, I mean openly and proudly mistreated me just because they could. I had teachers who outright abused me/physically hurt me. I’ve had these types of teachers through all of my childhood, and well into college. The American education system, itself, is a fucking mess and it needs a major overhaul. If anyone has a right to be angry about teachers, it’s me. But look. Not all teachers are the same, and we need to emphasize that rather than blame teachers like some kind of monolith.

We need to be more careful with these sweeping proclamations of ‘all teachers bad’, because there’s a distinct alt-right pipeline happening right there in front of us that not only relies on people turning their backs on education/educators but is literally packed with people spreading violent hatred for teachers and school. People are quite literally calling for teachers to be killed. This is a real thing that’s really happening, and people need to be careful about falling into these movements.

Teachers are important. Teachers are struggling to educate our kids in the worst systems, worst timelines, worst period of mass pandemic, just worst timing ever. Teachers are severely underpaid, mistreated, abused by staff and students alike, and have a very high chance of being shot and murdered. Are there bad teachers out there? Yes. But please, please, please try to avoid making statements that feed into the alt-right’s fight against eduction and teachers. They want people uneducated and angry. They prey on angry kids and teens who were let down by their parents, the education system, etc. That’s been in their game plan since their first rise to power, and they’re not changing it up all that much. It’s right there in our history.

So let’s try to remember the good teachers, people out there trying to keep education truthful and helpful. Teachers crying as they pack up their libraries in Florida because of the massive book bans. Teachers who want us to learn about our histories, even the bad parts, because it teaches us how to grow and be better. Teachers who use the right pronouns for their kids, who support their queer and questioning kids, who protect them the best they can. Teachers who support their Black students, and stand up for them in a system built against them. Teachers who want these kids to thrive, even in the face of literal life-threatening dangers from every side. Please remember them, and please try to avoid sweeping statements that feed into alt-right programming.

#teachers #education #teaching #American centric #american education #important

[my-castles-crumbling]

hi cas it’s me again.. i was wondering if u ever came out to your parents.. and i’m wondering if, as a minor who has homophobic parents that i rely on financially, whether it’s a good idea to come out? just bc they thought me being bisexual was a phase.. i’m really not sure. they also really hate my s/o, even when they were just my friend. i rely on them financially and for education, and soon i will for college as well. i don’t think i should come out officially but i get so tired of hiding it.

Hi! So, yes, I did come out to my parents. I came out to them at a time where I was not really dependent on them (I was already in university and they did not help pay) so that wasn't a personal concern. It went...yeah, it went. A quick synopsis, lol:

Mom: My mom is a drug addict and has a lot of mental health issues. She's okay with me being queer, but refuses to educate herself on lgbtqia+ issues and can't concern herself with my pronouns. She has implied I'm doing it to mess with her and take her 'daughter' away from her. Her current husband, S, is very conservative and against gay rights. 3/10

Dad: My dad is very religious. He said he loves me and supports me, but has told me a few times that he thinks I'll end up in hell. He's also very conservative. He did, however, attend my wedding and he loves my wife. He tries to listen when I explain things to him but then he mansplains things back to me and doesn't use my pronouns. 4/10

Step-dad: My step-dad (who isn't actually my step-dad anymore because he and my mom got divorced but like...he's still in my life so) is a bit uneducated but asks so many questions and tries so hard to learn. When I came out to him, he genuinely just wanted me to know that he loves me, and he's trying so hard to get my pronouns right (it confuses him sometimes but he's working on it). He got me a nonbinary necklace for Christmas and he asked my wife and I to take him to the pride parade this year because he wants to "understand better and support" us. 9.5/10

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As far as YOU coming out...I think you need to weigh the pros and cons. It sounds like you're worried the financial support could stop if you come out. Would it be worth it to be authentically you? And I'm genuinely asking. As someone with TONS of student loans, I can definitely see the argument for not coming out. You say you're going to college soon. Could you be out there, but not with your parents?

I think only you can decide which way would be better for your mental health- the stress of the financial burden of paying for school, or the stress of not being out. And truly, I think either decision is so fair and valid. Take a little while to think about the pros and cons, and your plans for either way. But just know, I support you with whatever decision you make, and it is your decision to make <3

#ask #asks #ask cas

[ms-revived-frogs]

Andrew Tate Rape Culture in Schools

Hey gyns, just wanted to share this article. 

Teachers, girls call out Andrew Tate influence as rape threat revealed.

Girls as young as 10 are being subjected to daily sexual harassment in schools, with one group reportedly offered cash to make porn films.

Female teachers and girls as young as 10 are being subjected to daily sexual harassment in Sydney schools, with some teachers so frustrated they're considering walking off the job.

As leadership in some of Sydney’s private boys’ schools warn parents about the dangers of their sons watching internet personality Andrew Tate videos, young girls are being joined by female teachers in speaking up about shocking sexual harassment.

Some teachers have reported being called a “c**t” on several occasions, while others have had been told sexual explicit jokes by boys as young as 10.

The alert has been sounded by schools after The Daily Telegraph revealed a misogynistic, homophobic and anti-Semitic chat group created by a group of Knox Grammar students.

Tate, a controversial international influencer and former professional kickboxer, has been criticised for his views on women, including that they should “bear some responsibility” for being raped.

In videos shared rampantly on TikTok, which thousands of Australian children have access to, Tate espouses that women “belong in the home”, “can’t drive”, and are a “man’s property”.

He was banned from Facebook and Instagram, where he had racked up five million followers, in August.

Scots College’s head of students James Bowles warned parents about Tate’s viral videos that had clocked up billions of views on TikTok in a newsletter to parents last week.

He cautioned that students were at risk of being influenced by Tate’s rants advocating violence against women, the illegitimacy of depression and “a slew of other insensitive and uneducated opinions”.

Trinity Grammar deputy head Bradley Barr also issued a warning about Tate, saying his “reach probably extends into many of your homes and to the social media feeds of many of your sons”.

Collective Shout movement director Melinda Tankard Reist, who has been talking to students and teachers in public and private schools across Australia over the past decade, says the stories are getting worse and the children are getting younger.

Along with female students as young as 10, Ms Tankard Reist said female teachers were reporting disturbing sexual harassment from young boys, with some being brought to tears.

The speaker, writer and media commentator said female students were in “deep distress” over Tate’s influence.

“For the last few months around the country, without exception, they will ask me: Will the boys be spoken to about the influence of Andrew Tate?” she said.

“They want to know what’s been done to expose his harmful teachings.”

Girls are reporting that boys are treating them “more harshly, more aggressively,” she said.

“They’re expecting that they should be able to, quote unquote, put girls in their place, that girls are lesser than them and don’t deserve to be treated,” Ms Tankard Reist said.

“I have girls telling me that boys expect to be able to show constraint and strangle them.”

Ms Tankard Reist has no doubt the problem is getting worse.

“So what grades 5 and 6 girls are telling me used to be what the senior girls told me,” she said.

“They’re telling me that boys are threatening to rape them.

“Three girls, two weeks ago, told me – they were all 14 to 15 – that boys have threatened to rape their mothers and sisters if they didn’t send naked pictures.”

She also reported that a group of year 7 girls were offered cash by their male peers to make “porn films for them and their mates”.

The women and girls advocate said other female students had told her that they had been subjected to sexual moaning, grunting, groaning noises boys make in class, in the schoolyard and on the school bus since they were in grade 2.

“This turned into female teachers describing being subjected to these noises as well and I’ve had more female teachers this year tell me they’re leaving the profession because of this,” Ms Tankard Reist said.

“Two weeks ago, I was in the Maitland region. They were telling me that every day they are subjected to being called the C-word by boys.”

Another teacher told Ms Tankard Reist that she overheard a 12-year-old boy ask another boy, ‘How do you know you’re having sex’?

“The other 12-year-old boy replied, ‘When she starts to cry’.

“I’ve had young female teachers in tears telling me what it’s like to be propositioned by boys,” she said, reporting that one teacher had caught boys trying to take photos up her skirt under the desk.

The teachers said they were having difficulty punishing students for this behaviour, reporting a lack of backing from the education department.

“I’ve had school principals, one of whom came out of the Defence Force and went into teaching, tell me that he found teaching harder than when he was working in the Defence Force because he said even when students are in danger, he’s not allowed to suspend or expel them,” she said.

Some of the stories Ms Tankard Reist and her team have recorded from female teachers are posted on the Collective Shout website.

“I’ve been sexually assaulted by two male students, one in grade 10 and one in grade 11 in my second year of teaching (I was 25),” one teacher said.

“It was an awful experience and I didn’t feel supported by the all-male leadership team at all.”

Another reported that a boy in year 6 class began humping the floor and moaning, with the deputy principal dismissing the behaviour as “age appropriate” and “normal”.

“It infuriated me that the behaviour was considered ‘normal’ and was thus not dealt with by leadership,” the teacher said.

“In my opinion, we’ve done these young boys a huge disservice by not addressing and redirecting these behaviours.”

Another woman, who was contemplating moving into the profession, amid massive shortages in the industry, says stories like this have deterred her.

“I thought leaving a construction industry (dominated by male egos, gender pay gaps & gendered promotions) would mean my dignity and sexual harassment would be less of an issue,” she commented.

Ms Tankard Reist said teachers feel “hamstrung” about reporting sexual harassment, with some considering leaving the profession because of the lack of protection.

“I’m not blaming the boys. My view is that a sexist culture grooms sexist boys, and Andrew Tate is part of this grooming process,” she said.

Ms Tankard Reist said the most popular type of porn videos and content shared among young boys was “rape porn, torture and sadism”.

“And then everyone’s surprised at the behaviour of these Knox boys,” she said.

“Why are you surprised?

“The global porn industry is that the biggest department of education in the world.”

The expert has also joined a growing list of psychologists and educators calling out platforms like TikTok as dangerous entities, saying they’re “fuelling violence against women and girls”.

“They bring together boys, they encourage boys into this herd mentality, this pack mentality, they give them a sense of belonging,” she said.

One ballooning online phenomenon that has come under criticism recently is the “incel” or “involuntary celibate” community, a subculture of people, mostly men, who define themselves as unable to attract romantic or sexual partners and express their anger and frustrations online.

Ms Tankard Reist called the growing community “both a repository of these harmful ideas … they broadcast these harmful ideas and draw more boys in, especially disenfranchised boys who always are looking for a tribe”.

“We are struggling to raise happy, healthy, resilient, emotionally literate, empathetic, young people,” she said.

“We're driving the empathy, especially, out of boys.”

Reading through this just made me depressed. And of course the article focuses on the boys, and not the girls who are literally going through human rights violations at prepubescent ages. It seems every time women make some steps, they’re rolled right back. Roe v. Wade being overturned, Andrew Tate being a rulebook for young boys. Every time I feel like maybe boys and men might respect us, I’m let down. It’s apparent now that men might never really respect us, seeing as how easy it was to have even the younger generations turned against girls and women - all with the power of social media. It’s also apparent that for true gender equality, boys need to be kept under strict regulation on what they watch. Lord knows the type of men these boys will grow up to be. 

#my post #rape culture #misogyny #andrew tate #sources

[feminurge]

ive been keeping away from. news bc the world truly depresses me but i gotta say seeing college students occupying universities for pal.estine is making me so happy theres no words. also very funny that journalists come on tv to say "yeah we're worried those kids dont know what they're supporting" as if learning abt politics and history isnt the point of their studies. the mental gymnastics of calling these students stupid and uneducated while also trying to protect the schools they're from. hilarious

#out. #so ig this is your daily reminder to stay informed and #to relay information the best u can #and if theres a protest u can go to (as safely as possible) then. maybe do. bc atm any act big or small is Helping

[aurumacadicus]

Anyway I just made myself laugh out loud with this:

Tony was a college student the last time Howard saw him, probably working on his masters or even his PhD. Maybe he dated and had sex, but Howard probably would have seen it as “boy growing into a man” stuff. It’s normal for college kids, and personally, the less he hears about it the better.

Now Steve. Steve assumed fondue was slang for sex and got super jealous about Howard asking Peggy out for some. Howard probably thinks “ah so uneducated he thinks fondue is slang for sex,” and then, immediately after, “lmao what a pervert? Why’d he assume it was a sex thing and not just a date thing? I’ve decided I’m going to be insufferable about this” and he makes fun of Steve for being a pervert until he dies.

What I’m saying is, I want Howard to come to the future in one of those hand-wavy ways and he hears that Steve and Tony are fucking (the agent was not very good at explaining being gay was more widely accepted and that Steve and Tony are actually dating and in love). He remembers College Age Tony. He remembers pervert Steve.

So he assumes Steve is the one who corrupted Tony and reacts accordingly by breaking his fist on Steve’s face.

I’m not saying all the fic where Howard is like “you corrupted my greatest creation blah blah blah >:V” aren’t good because they are I just think it’d be funny for Tony to be the one wrong-footed because he thought his dad would hate him for sleeping with Steve but here Howard is attempting to smack Steve with a chair for “corrupting my poor boy do you understand how young he is you pervert I’m going to smash your brains in or die trying!!!”

Also it would be even funnier if Steve really is the kinky one in their relationship because Tony did all his kinky stuff earlier in life and he’ll do it for Steve but he also likes just tender vanilla sex.

Steve: How did you know 😨

Howard: *scream of pure unadulterated rage, breaks the chair over Steve’s head and then breaks his other fist on Steve’s face*

#ideas #stony #howard stark #listen if he’s from the past and he hasn’t had time to learn about everything that’s happened including the date #Tony is still late teens early twenties at college and Steve is mid to late twenties #Howard howling his rage: YOU TOOK ADVANTAGE OF MY POOR SON #Steve attracted to Tony’s silvering hair: IT’S NOT MY FAULT YOUR SON IS HOT #fury comes in and steers a shell shocked Tony out of the room shaking his head #Peggy in her hospital bed: I sense something hilarious just happened to Steve and I hope Sharon brings me a video

[rametarin]

"Don't you just hate how CAPITALISM.."

Capitalism did not make your dog hairy, make you ignorant or put dirt on your shoes.

The trick being pulled here when something is blamed on capitalism, is they blame it as the reason the government ("society") isn't providing something complimentary and obligatorily, just because someone is alive. And that this is wrong. So, "I'm not financially encouraged to learn stuff for the sake of learning stuff by the government," miraculously becomes, "CAPITALISM IS LICHURALLY OPPRESSING MEEEEEEEEEEEE AND KEEPING ME UNEDUCATED."

Our colleges and universities in the United States effectively write their own checks; By law, initiatives and policies require people by their racial and religious demographics to be able to attend school. This cost is passed on to the government. The colleges and universities WILL get their money from the government, even if the government doesn't get their money from the people paying their student loans.

So college campuses raises their prices; no matter what they do, they'll fall upwards and get optimal attendance, even if those whom attend flunk out. They exist in a sheltered harbor where people require education, they can reject whom they want, push for laws to make sure that financial funding and programs exist to be picked up by the government in the interests of equality, and then raise their prices based on this scarcity as well as the knowledge no matter how expensive, a program exists to pay it.

No matter how useless the degree, or the person that winds up not doing a god damned thing to improve society with whatever they learn, the cost of the education gets subsidized by us all. And that means only the people producing value really feel the pinch.

This relationship between the government and education, where education can inflate its own cost by affecting its own customer base and monopolize it regionally at behest of the government, is not capitalism. It's corporate socialism, and removed by a meddling movement. And yet, no one is any more educated. Almost as if it's not capitalism causing this, but government intervention and a failure of law to separate business from the state.

But don't let that stop you from hooting, "WELL THAT'S CAPITALISM FOR YA," though.

[your-queer-dad]

(Vent sorry, not about queerness I just have nowhere else to say this where I'll get any sort of response)

Ive been having to deal with so much stuff lately. Like I was fine when I was in the midst of severe depression cause I didn't think I'd live very long anyways but now I need to come to terms with everything I've been ignoring for at least a year and at most my whole life. Like I'm AuDHD in a decently ableist family (middle/working class white cishet moderate leftists who think they're very progressive, you know the type) and I've had absolutely shit experiences with the people who should be helping me with that stuff (my old therapist was actively uneducated and ableist, my psychiatrist was a white cishet man in his 60s or 70s and I had to teach him what masking is and how adhd and autism present in AFAB people) which makes that really difficult in general because all my friends know I have AuDHD but I can't officially come out and say that I do because my family will deny it and tell me I'm being attention seeking and looking for excuses for being lazy and a flawed person. I also don't physically look the way I've been convincing myself I look naturally for a long time (yay anorexia recovery) and it's just messing me up a lot because when I look at my reflection I just feel visceral disgust. I'm still on the lower end of a healthy weight, but I can only see a few of my ribs now and my stomach isn't flat anymore. Everyone else says they can't notice but I feel like I've lost everything that made me good, and I'm scared that gaining weight is going to stop me from passing. I hate being with my parents and I just feel like I'm a horrible person for that, I only got hit once and other than that they're just toxic and sort of manipulative/emotionally abusive. They try their best they just can't raise me right and I feel like shit for that. I wish I could be spending more time outside, but I had a medical emergency thing on Tuesday (my mom doesn't let me call it a seizure because we don't know for sure) and I'm scared that that's going to happen again, and my constant joint pain has just gotten worse. My friends are telling me that I need to talk to a doctor about this, but the wait time for rheumatology is insane and my parents thing I'm making it up/exaggerating/looking for attention and even if they believe me they don't think it's important and worth getting help for. I'm scared that I'm going to die, last time it happened my entire body went numb and stiff and I couldn't move and I was just twitching for like 15 minutes. I also completely lost my vision before this happened, and it was greyscale/coming back slowly for the entire thing, plus I could barely hear anything. If that happens again I genuinely think that I might die. I also have scars all over my legs and chest and I have to either hide them or find some sort of explanation for them that won't make the people I work with during the summer think I'm not suited for working with kids (summer camp counseling). I spent all of last year thinking I was never going to turn 15 and now I kind of wish I hadn't.

I want to live but it's all so overwhelming and if I falter or let my parents see that I'm scared, they'll force me into the role of a small child and start treating me like a toddler or an animal like they always do. I just don't know what to do and I know it's horrible and selfish and disgusting but I just wish my mom would die. I can't live like this, it's only 3 more years but I'm just so scared. She keeps threatening me and saying I won't get into college or I'm failing high school because of how long I was out of school due to psych ward stuff even though she knows that not getting into college is my main fear- if that happens, I can't keep going. I know that I'm going to kill myself if I can't get into college. After that I'm still going to need to pay off student loans and I might not have my best friend with me (if I have him ill be okay and he says that he promises he'll try to live with me in college) and I just can't deal with that. I need to catch up on school and I need to learn to drive and then I need to get ready for my job in the summer and I need to make sure my grades are good enough for colleges to want me and I need to get people to like me and I just can't do it. I don't want to die but I feel like it's the only answer, I'm just not capable of doing this. I'm not supposed to be alive. I don't know what I'm supposed to do

Sorry about the rant you don't need to answer at all I know this is a lot

-🔆

Hey kiddo. Please please don't apologise for reaching out, I'm here for you and I'm always here for you, night and day my inbox and DMs are always open to anyone who needs to talk.

God, it sounds like you've had a rough deal. I understand where you're coming from. With parents, it's so hard when they don't do what they're supposed to do as parents and they don't understand you or believe you when you ask for help. It's awful and I am so sorry.

From the sounds of things, it sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, as well as all that pressure around you. As scary as the future is, it isn't going to creep up on you one day. It's tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that and the day after that and every single day after that. You have time to breathe and rest and do whatever you need to do. You can't do everything at once, you're only human- and expecting yourself to do everything at once only caused burn out and stress.

Also, as a person who's gone through eating disorder recovery- weight doesn't stop you from passing. I promise you it doesn't. It's a good thing! It's a sign that all the work you've done recovering has paid off. I'm proud of you.

Keep your head up kiddo, I'm so so proud of you. Remember to take care of yourself, let yourself breathe and don't expect yourself to do everything all at once. I'm here anytime you need to talk.

Love you,

- dad x

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