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[hineini]

Henry Tse finally has his official Hong Kong identity card making his proper gender identity known. Hong Kong's top court ruled in his favour a year ago after he sued the government six years earlier. Authorities who rejected his application back in 2017 did so based off the fact he hadn't had "full sex reassignment surgery". They didn't care about the fact he had started gender affirming care back in 2012; they were simply concerned about his anatomy's and identity's failure to completely line up.

When he and a pair of other trans men went to court to challenge the verdict reached by the authorities, the judges described it as "objectionable in principle to adopt as the criterion for amending a gender marker a requirement of undergoing a highly invasive surgical intervention which may not be necessary which may be medically unnecessary."

Perhaps it's reasonable to ask somebody seeking to change their gender marking on their HKID to have been living as a member of the gender they feel they are for two years. Doesn't mean having sex alignment surgery should be taken as obligatory since it might or might not feel necessary for an individual trans person to validate who they are.

He and his peers will no longer run the risk of facing insidious humiliations, including having their identifying pieces seen as suspicious, let alone fake, due to the fact their sex and gender identity don't line up (as that piece of plastic has it).

Happy, hearty mazal tov to Mr. Tse and his accompanying gentlemen finally having success. =)

#sex #trans #gender identity

[hineini]

less than comfortable

I've had times like this more than once during my life; sadly doesn't seem to change how they feel despite my drastic awareness I run high risk to have them.

When I went to return something I'd purchased for my mother, I was asked by the cashier to show her my driver's license. Given that A) I don't have one and B) I went through phenomenal classes in self-bullying I retorted that I would if I could but she was going to have to make do with a different piece of plastic. Once she heard that she semi-tried to adapt her original assertion, saying "or other piece of government ID" Cold comfort that statement was, may it go to show she was fully thinking its proposition through rather than simply thinking about me.

I don't exactly grasp why being inclusive off the top, completely acknowledging any contribution toward the topic, isn't the principal path people use. To start, some people genuinely are unable to drive due to various rationales. Others don't have one even if they're eligible to do it since they want to protect the earth as much as possible. Second, it's hard saying people belonging to either of those categories has any desire to be seen as lower-class if not outright criminalized because they're different.

Very much a joy to be backed inside a less than comfortable coming out corner based off the ability heterosexism shown by the cashier not too long ago. As it is now, I'm simply trying to relax as completely as I can and praying. Praying that as a (differently-abled and Jewish) dyke I had some measure of success making sure she was set straight about something. Minimum I'm able to do as one of God's (asexual and) gay children, right?

#coming out #heterosexism #jewish #dyke #god #asexual #gay

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Easy as I have it seconding the title picked for the article linked to above, it's due to completely different rationales.

To be diplomatic I was flabbergasted to learn that it's now illegal for anyone to use a puberty blocker at all inside the UK's bounds. Excuse me? If someone's trans they run high if not automatic risk of being traumatized through enduring something that doesn't fit them. Does that give them dignity? No, to the contrary, it denies their reality completely.

It should go without saying any research necessary will help improve various situations. However, that doesn't mean peoples' realities should be denied based off some authorities' desire to seem mature, proactive and/or anything else. Does that mean, though, that people should be pushed toward trying to die since they're expected to live someone else's life? Don't think so a second.

As I read through everything I couldn't avoid thinking through everything I was forced to endure during my invisible transition, receiving legal recognition of my real name four months after my thirteenth birthday. God knows so many people were desperate to believe that I had OCD and/or was making moves through a strange phase I'd obviously outgrow later. My eighth grade English teacher sure went atop that ivory tower, mandating I show my birth certificate to her prior to her being able to call me Amy. If you're trans according to any analysis, understanding, etc. it's not due to decision making a second; sure don't remember making any conscious decision about my name...simply always felt the one assumed to be mine (e**a) was, to analogize, an itchy pink sweater I was supposed to don every day rather than a comfortable blue or green top. I can feel as guilty and/or embarrassed as I want about the fact it's easy for me to analogize e**a to my birth sex and amy as my gender identity, making receiving my real birth certificate my sex alignment surgery according to my empathetic nature.

Certain changes talked about inside the article, no denying anything, struck me as boringly logical, such as making sure sex alignment surgeries only run after someone's eighteenth birthday. Of course, to anger conservative authorities who want to regard hormonal help to trans children and teens, such hormonal help-shocker-can reduce if not completely prevent-various operations' occurrence.

Various peoples' implications identifying as trans, genderqueer or non-binary is a kind of phase society's in went completely beyond me since, excuse me, such vocabulary's way more audible today and can thus enable them to recognize themselves through others. We can sometimes have understanding without vocabulary; God knows I've been a member of that group too. I always knew I was gay but I didn't have anything to explain my failure to regard other women as attractive. It wasn't until somebody else spoke and defined the word asexual that I clued in completely. Alright, so. I was born without a metaphorical light that flips when you're twelve or thirteen (analogy to describe libido).

Having to read my way through some paragraphs implying no one should receive medical care linked to transitioning if they have other mental health conditions too (so phrased since gender dysphoria's seen like that) hugely confused me. I mean, last I checked, many a child or teen trying to receive legal recognition of who they actually are will run much higher risk of depression, anxiety and probably every other psychological condition known to humankind. Don't have it hard understanding that since I had to, in effect, live someone else's life during my childhood and doing so was beyond draining. Did my depression completely disappear after I received tangible evidence I'm actually me rather than e**a? No I cannot say so. Doesn't mean, however, that my dignity didn't slightly improve since others had to validate my actual identity I'd always had even if they didn't want to do so ; God knows my English teacher looked pissed as shit once she realized she was under obligation to give me a new sticker so it could completely be home to my real name...she'd written e**a atop the original one in purple marker where I'd obviously written Amy since it was known to any so-called peer of mine I was making legal moves toward receiving recognition as me.

Safe saying trans and genderqueer people, no matter their age, deserve better. However, better's not supposed to involve denying help that can improve their lives. No wonder so many rallies are set to be run next month to show allyship it might seem.

#trans #god #sex #gender identity #genderqueer #gay #asexual

[hineini]

So easy smiling according to the start of the article linked to above =)

When she was a little girl playing on a boys’ competitive hockey team, Sarah Nurse asked her coach if she could wear dresses to games.

He said no. Her teammates would be wearing shirts and ties, and the coach expected her to as well. Ms. Nurse responded by arriving to the rink in a pink dress shirt with a Toronto Maple Leafs tie.

My intuition didn't have it hard saying a certain transphobic leader who basically put many genderqueer and trans children through a kind of conversion therapy, believing he could align their gender identity and sex if he changed the kinds of toys they were able to use when playing, would freak it he learned that lesson.

Chez moi, as somebody genderqueer and completely allied to trans people, it struck me as holy to learn the awesome lesson she didn't hesitate to engage in gravity's (stereotypes') defiance.

May Sarah give a hundred percent of humankind evidence you can do anything you want if it's legal to do so.

#genderqueer #trans #gender identity #sex #stereotypes

[hineini]

didn't have that hard

Trust me to be able to do it, right?

Given that I have an enormous habit of reducing expressions I use to initialisms and acronyms it probably shouldn't have shocked my mom that I had it pretty easy deducing what a friend of hers meant when making it known that she was hosting she brothers and her SILs for dinner. No denying I had it semi-slow, thinking the S was supposed to symbolize significant. Doesn't mean it didn't strike me as ridiculously obvious once I figured it out.

She has straight brothers. Since they're both married, they'll be accompanied by their wives (aka her sister-in-laws).

Of course I have a drastic case of offering as many extrapolations as possible, probably linked to the fact I'm an EA who always threw anything feasible in while on the job. Given that I talked my mom through other potential initialisms she had potential to encounter down the path. If a straight sister of someone had a spouse, she'd appear with that human's brother-in-law (BIL to abbreviate). Plus, as I had it easy gently making known as a gay child of God, someone's sister could have a wife, making them have multiple sister-in-laws or somebody's brother could have a husband, making multiple brothers-in-law possible. No, anyone can have any kind(s if necessary) sibling-in-law no matter their sex, gender identity and/or sexual orientation, thank you. According to that, I want to believe my mom won't have it hard deducing that BIL serves to abbreviate brother-in-law down the path if necessary. Decent discussion no matter anything.

#gay #god #sex #gender identity #sexual orientation

[hineini]

Does that explain it?

I experience dissociation every day due to some traumatic experiences I've had while on earth. Today, though, was way worse than usual; I hardly had a random minute where I felt completely real. My counsellor told me that times like that are a kind of invisible squint since you're trying to self-protect against anything that has potential to set you off. Given a frustrating timing coincidence it doesn't feel daunting to second his sentiments he shared a little more than a year ago. Perhaps my drastic dissociation was provoked by my psyche's attempt to protect me against the fact I wasn't able to run a Seder to celebrate Pesach as completely as I can. Hard saying its cancellation was traumatizing since I knew no one would be able to appear as they sent RSVPs my way promptly after receiving my invitation; doesn't mean I was any less disappointed a magical exercise in mindful eating was unable to run...sure wasn't about to ask my mom if she felt able to do it according to the fact I didn't have to change my plan last second (as transpired back when the pandemic started four years ago) since she's not Jewish and I didn't want her to feel any kind of unnecessary pressure, thank you. Obviously doesn't do anything to erase a certain gay Jew's disappointment she couldn't celebrate her tied for favourite holiday, though.

#pesach #jewish #gay #jew

[hineini]

she could teach them something

So was the impression I had when I heard Irena speak a potent sentence during her film (whose title is Irena's Vow). As she had it easy making known, "who we are doesn't mean anything since we are what we do".

She didn't hesitate to buy fresh produce for Jews even if others felt it wasn't safe to do it. To her, somebody's faith wasn't an excuse to treat them differently. If you were a human being you were supposed to have full, equal access to food. Didn't have it hard hearing my mom's voice return to my head during that scene due to her attempts through the years to encourage me to-if not outright make me-shut up about my sexual orientation and faith on the job due to the danger I had potential to face. Much as I knew I ran some risk of discrimination if discussion flow involving heterosexism and/or homophobic shit I heard spoken led to me coming out as one of God's gay children I wasn't silent since I refuse to regard myself in anything less than an equal light (and obviously extrapolated everything to trans folk too if explaining gender identity vs. sex nuance was necessary on the job too). As to any effect my Jewish faith exerted on the job, it was mostly making sure people knew I had full right to don my kippah during a certain minute and a half and explaining anything linked to various holidays of mine; don't remember anything super problematic transpiring on that level, vivid as I'm not denying my memory is of one warped discussion I had with an art teacher in a high school who told me about her Jewish pals venturing to the other side during December, implying I was supposed to want to celebrate Jesus' birthday. Less than a joy but I had success setting her as straight as an asexual dyke can, prompting her to offer an apology I was able to regard as sincere based off her failure to do anything else denigrating.

Didn't have it hard appreciating a discussion that ran between Irena and the group of Jews she was hiding inside her commander's home too. One of the Jewish women had gotten pregnant and Irena was asked to pick up some pharmaceutical elements to concoct an anti-abortion drug mixture. Irena fiercely objected, making it known that was an enormous problem in her faith (since she was Catholic). After hearing the others talk about it as a life or death problem, Irena then asked her pregnant charge if she'd want to have an abortion if Hitler wasn't dictating everything. Her negative response led Irena to tell them she didn't want to enable Hitler to ensure one more Jew was killed through abortion. Due to that potent, thought-provoking statement, no abortion elements were purchased by anyone.

As the film was making moves toward getting wrapped up, a picture appeared, implying Irena had, like me, affirmed Judaism during adulthood. So had me smiling after an intense show, plus making me wonder if she could help my ex-employer come to its senses and learn a certain lesson she didn't hesitate to make known as the film was starting. Others can deny it as completely as they want, but our behaviour has high potential to show who we are even if we cling to other ideas. Saying something and failing to live to those principles doesn't do anything other than make you a hypocritical piece of shit (to be diplomatic). Say you embrace anyone under the GLBT rainbow if you want; firing somebody due to the fact they're a dyke daring to be as out as straight folk goes to show you don't believe a word you're saying.

#jews #sexual orientation #heterosexism #coming out #god #gay #gender identity #sex #jewish #asexual #dyke #jew #judaism #glbt

[hineini]

so awesome to hear

Some pals of my mother (and their children) came to visit. During our discussion we talked through our respective experiences during the eclipse. Once I'd finished sharing mine, I handed the metaphorical microphone toward the visiting woman. As she was outlining everything, she mentioned where Rudy and his boyfriend had been while she was grabbing their glasses. Her youngest child seemed shocked to hear that descriptor put toward him, so asked boyfriend as if it was a query; pretty stereotypical given the effect heterosexism can exert without blinking, right? She thus responded friend who's a boy. Dub me dramatic if you want but I give her massive credit for doing so, demonstrating equality of the sexes. I mean, most straight women talk about their girlfriends no problem at all so why in God's name shouldn't boyfriend be able to be treated like that too, no matter the kind of relationship someone has with them? Gay, straight or both of the above having a boyfriend or girlfriend's fully feasible. All you have to do is have a friendship with a member of a specific binary sex. Hardly daunting, right?

#heterosexism #god #sex

[hineini]

too easy genuinely joking

Do you think I could avoid acknowledging something when my mother was having lunch hours ago? Me being me I so couldn't.

She'd prepped herself a BLT sandwich and decided she should drink a glass of milk with it. It felt too easy to ask, once she'd poured inside the glass she'd picked, if she felt like she'd sat down to a more complete meal since her meal had earned recognition of having every stereotypical food group.

I'd think it went without saying that, as someone vegan and completely able to recognize food sensitivities, let alone full-strength allergies, I don't use such definitions to determine if meals are complete; my personal means for making such assessments is to think about the kinds of texture and/or flavour inside any given meal I've prepped. Doesn't mean I'm any less aware stereotypes serve something to many people even if the good guide was changed to acknowledge dietary heterosexism's effect some years ago, putting "and alternatives" after dairy and meat to recognize that some people don't consume them, whether due to principles and/or actual bodily concerns of theirs.

#vegan #heterosexism

[hineini]

Very nice to learn Norfolk will have its inaugural hosting of the pride event being run in late May after everything transpiring in Haldimand since its start seven years ago. May everything run as we want =)

#pride

[hineini]

so easy to wonder

I only use the accessible washroom if I have to enter one prior to or after a film shown at Playhouse since it's not constrained by unequal vocabulary, asking men to simply be who they are and requesting women have prim and proper behaviour. However, I don't have it hard saying it felt less than accessible today, half due to the fact the lock was working harder than usual, making my exit super slow, and half according to the fact someone with genuine? stereotypical? accessibility needs was waiting to come in. Holy shit, it's safe saying I felt exposed and a half, as if he had high potential to judge, scorn, etc. me since I don't seem to be anyone able? and/or eligible? to regard an accessible washroom as the only one I feel safe in and thus able to use. No denying his sex and age factor in completely since men at large have decent potential to regard women, especially if they're younger, as worse and according to the fact he was older (probably 80+) and thought someone many a decade younger shouldn't feel they had to use a space like that. As it is, I'm simply able to pray he can, if necessary, forgive me. It's no fault of mine I'm a genderqueer woman whose behaviour's less than feminine and thus don't feel able to enter a space designated for 'ladies' if men aren't expected to be 'gentlemen'. Don't remember putting any special request in to have a different gender identity and sex; since my lived experience is like that, though, I only use spaces that feel right., even if, as it wound up doing not too long ago, it winds up posing a problem for someone who had it harder, physically speaking.

#sex #genderqueer #gender identity

[hineini]

Holy affirmation if you feel any inclination to ask a genderqueer Jewish woman.

No, I don't doubt Vatican authorities would freak if they knew, given they regard such procedures as 'grave violations of human dignity' and OMG the sex alignment surgery talked about in the article linked to above is making its recipient intersex.

They and other phobic religious folk, no matter their faith, can think whatever they want. If you ask me it's awesome news demonstrating non-binary people have full right to have their sex and gender identity all inked up.

Thank you, God, for enabling that trio of judges to completely affirm human dignity and set a sacred precedent that will help many others as time goes on through its unending flow.

#genderqueer #jewish #sex #intersex #gender identity #god

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other potential diary entries

I had the chance to be social with someone I've hardly seen for years earlier today. During our discussion, which involved plenty of talking about trans realities since we both regard it as relevant to our lives, him since he's genuinely aligning his identity and appearance and me since my original birth certificate had somebody else's name on it even if said appellation wasn't mistaken according to my sex, I said something about vocabulary honouring certain peoples' realities being acknowledged. He replied that some people are starting to talk about non-binary children spawned and/or adopted by their siblings as being niblings and that their guardian figures are sometimes described as being unties. Very cool to have some additional generic, inclusive words enter my vocabulary since I'm game to grow and learn as many as I can. Hardly sure if either let alone both terms he taught me will have success finding a home inside any dictionary; will obviously celebrate if they can.

#trans #sex

[hineini]

As if women don't mean anything

I had to laugh a little, annoyed as I'm not denying I felt due to the assertion's sexist nature.

As an English politician has it, conservative folk should create a credible green agenda since there are factors beyond mankind's carbon emissions contributing toward climate change.

Excuse me?

Last I checked, women exerted an effect on the climate via their emissions too. Obviously any and every human being on earth can do something, for better or for worse, to impact the earth.

Did he simply fail to speak a word completely, or does he genuinely believe only half of humankind has potential to wreak havoc on our shared home? It should go without saying I hope and pray it's not the latter; God knows sex and/or gender identity don't do anything to reduce pandemonium provoked by climate change we contribute toward rendering real every day.

#god #sex #gender identity

[hineini]

potential new dictionary entries

During a social group I was involved in yesterday morning for an hour and a half, we talked about transformations English needs to engage in. As a trans ally and someone who relates to the experience due to the lower-level typo my childhood birth certificate had, I didn't have it hard making it known English needs inclusive, generic vocabulary to make reference to parental siblings and their children. English happily has vocabulary to talk about any and every other relationship in a generic fashion, namely child(ren), (grand)parent(s) and sibling(s); don't grasp why it is the others are different.

Once I'd finished voicing my observation, a second member threw the following proposition toward me and the rest of the group: Could niephew come to receive such recognition since it's A) a port-manteau combining niece and nephew and B) feminist in nature given its positioning of women above men? Very cool idea, much as I'm hardly sure it will have success making moves toward being an official diary entry. Obviously doesn't mean I wouldn't celebrate if I could.

While I was musing about it after praying before I fell asleep, I came to a realization based off creating an analogous term to put toward describing parental siblings beyond that boring sex and gender identity binary so many people are stuck in. Could they be known as ancles since, again, you're making a port-manteau involving both binary terms and you're enabling women to be centre stage according to the inaugural letter of the word? It would be nice if it could despite my hesitance to believe it will find its way inside a dictionary dedicated to English.

Doesn't mean I don't hope so, since, excuse me, parental siblings and their children deserve to be able to be identified by generic, inclusive words if they're genderqueer, non-binary, etc. thank you.

#trans #sex #gender identity #genderqueer

[hineini]

Safe saying that news struck me as sick shit.

I probably, long run, I wasn't supposed to even feel tempted to think Catholicism was making moves toward embracing each and every one of God's children when I saw many an optimistic article in the paper implying if not making it known that people in relationships with a member of the same sex had the right to receive blessings akin to a lower-level wedding, talking about some tentative steps toward embracing gay people in leadership positions...wouldn't be shocked if I'd skipped some others.

Doesn't mean I didn't feel drastic disappointment when I read that higher authorities feel sex alignment surgery very well-known to affirm trans folk, enabling their sex to get all lined up with their gender identity, was taken as an affront-as opposed to affirmation-of human dignity.

As those authorities want to believe, it's alright to be queer on the condition you're silent about it. Hmm. Sure won't be shocked if some authorities toward the apex of my ex-employer's ivory tower learn about that implied and/or voiced verdict and attempt to throw it toward me whenever my hearing's run, saying I'm, in effect, supposed to be a good Catholic (throw lesbian in if you want) if GLBT rights and/or questions involving heterosexism enter discussions I'm in. As if that's remotely realistic in light of my Judaism. No, I'm a way better...gay Jew? Jewish dyke? pick the one you want, thank you. And as a member of that demographic, coming out's automatic should such queries greet me and/or if intervening during homophobic shit that transpires while I'm on the job. No, I believe in human dignity, without regard to anyone's sex, sexual orientation and/or gender identity and will always make that as known as necessary. God help me, eh???

#god #sex #gay #trans #gender identity #queer #glbt #judaism #jew #jewish #dyke #sexual orientation

[hineini]

they're not always identical

I had to use the bus to go somewhere earlier today. During my expedition, I heard the children in front of me engaging in a kind of linguistic game testing alphabetical order and saying letters right. No problem, right? Other than the fact that the woman supervising them didn't seem very able to respect some linguistic realities. Once the older child had rendered xylophone audible since something starting with x had to be spoken during his turn, his supervising adult replied that she wasn't sure it was right to offer that response since x hadn't been spoken right. Me being me, I gently turned toward her and said that its pronunciation didn't change the letter it was a second, giving her evidence since A can appear no matter whether it's spoken as a longer, shorter or middle vowel as able, adept and father are able to demonstrate. She might have thought I'd been excessive through making my qualifications known, saying she had full right to trust me since I'm a certified EA rather than only a random gay woman on the bus with her, but hey. My objective was to ensure her children knew difference doesn't change something core we share and that it's not right denying various realities a second. Dub me a dyke unable to think straight if you want; won't be embarrassed a second. I'm not sure a second whether the young boy's thank you when we got off the bus was linked to the fact I'd told his group to have a good day and/or the news I'd shared with his adult figure and I hardly care...doesn't mean I don't feel some slight intrigue to that effect.

#gay #dyke