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Why don't we start calling sounds Acoustic Secretions

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hmm artists what feature do you draw on the face first. this is for science btw.

#eyebrows and/or nose I think?

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periodic reminder that reality shifting is not real, you were sucked into maladaptive daydreaming by tiktok

#it's not daydreaming #as a lifelong maladaptive daydreamer who was thrilled to find the shifting community #and jumped right into it fully knowing that getting attached to fiction to that extent could and had already wrecked my mental health #and then spent like one to three weeks barely getting out of bed ignoring everything in my life #because I was too obsessed with getting to this other reality and kept telling myself it was fine because #DON'T do this to yourself :) #not worth it #huge waste of time too #it's NOT healthy and you WILL get unhealthily attached to something that isn't real and at the same time neglect everything that is

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me coming out of my room after having the most emotionally traumatizing daydream for no reason when i was literally fine five minutes ago

#madd #maladaptive daydreaming #actually madd #immersive daydreaming

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when you randomly change the context in your paracosm

#maladaptive daydreaming #madd #immersive daydreaming #imaginary companions

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why do only children's and fantasy books have illustrations. what crime did other readers commit that the industry decided we weren't worthy of lil drawings

#this is my opportunity to say you should check out album books #I'm not sure if that's what they are called in english but essentially #books in which the illustrations tell part of if not all of the story and it can't be understood if you remove them #david wiesner and anthony browne are some very cool authors in that format #and they're not necessarily children books #but because they have very little text if any at all people assume they are and treat them as such #just because something is appropriate for children doesn't mean it's for children only. It's like ghibli movies #and animation in general honestly #formats aren't genres they aren't limited to specific ages #also check out Benjamin Lacombe since I'm rambling #insanely talented artist with more dark themed books #some original some classics like Edgar Allan Poe. Madam Butterfly. and the original undisneyfied version of Snow White

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I am consuming a media and you are going to hear about it

#have you heard about pigs. let me tell you about horror with pigs #let me tell you about this relatively obscure adult short story from the author of matilda that I read in high school let me

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A slasher movie but the killer has ADHD and can never get through with killing a victim before moving on to another so everyone lives

#It already exists it's Terrifier I thought of this while watching this #great movie but can you just. finish what you start #most easily distracted killer award #if it's not ADHD I don't buy it

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The reality people need to face about exotic pets is that the vast majority of people cannot care for them and should not own them. The vast majority of people they are sold or 'adopted' to should never have been able to acquire the animal, and that animal likely never should have been bred in the first place.

Most people are familiar with cats and dogs. Despite the vast amounts of other pets like rats, mice, birds, rabbits, reptiles, and fish, most people tend to think of animals similarly to cat or dogs in their behavior and needs, especially animals that look similar. It's where a lot of the danger and misconduct around exotic animals comes into play in my opinion, because it seems simple to say that this other animal obviously isn't a cat or dog, but in practice people tend to forget. Even the closest relatives people try to keep it comes with loads of problems. Domesticated animals are inherently used to people and want to be around us, which is not the case of exotic and wild animals.

Wolves, and by extension, wolfdogs, are not dogs. Wolves are inherently shy and try to avoid humans unless habituated to them, being around people can be a huge source of stress. They can't eat the same foods as a dog, they need acres of space rather than a back yard. They eat more, they run more, they have a prey drive built in to target smaller animals you won't find in even the most prey driven dogs. They're also bigger and stronger than dogs too, to the point that most people don't seem to realize just how big a wolf actually is. They are not dogs and will not act like one, but people who keep them repeatedly try to treat them just like a dog, and end up paying the price, with destroyed property, a stressed neurotic animal, health issues, and injury. The same goes for coyotes and foxes, that people often say are 'dog hardware with cat software' which... no. they are their own animals, their behavior, needs, and habits so vastly different from each other that the statement doesn't apply to either, and they don't act like cats either. A coyote acts like a coyote, a fox acts like a fox. Neither are domesticated either. The more removed an animal is from a cat or dog, the problems intensify with how people try to keep them like one. A skunk isn't a cat, its a nocturnal prey animal that has one defense people often try to surgically remove, removing any chance it has to defend itself at a distance. A tegu isn't a scaly dog, it's a large lizard and shouldn't be living in your living room on a dog bed under fairy lights, it needs heat lamps, a proper diet, proper substrate, a good enclosure for one would fill an entire room.

Most people are not malicious and intentionally abusing exotic pets, but they do not have the expertise, handling skills, or resources to care for these animals, and default to 'if its good enough for my cat/dog, its good enough for it'. So many exotic animals are in poor health because of it, with neurological conditions caused by stress and too small enclosures, dietary issues, over or underweight by dramatic standards, developing stress caused habits where they outright hurt themselves by plucking and scratching, all directly caused by their handling. In many exotic species kept as pets, it's seen as completely normal, at most a nuisance, because the owners do not have the knowledge to realize that something is deeply wrong with how they keep the animal and all the other keepers have the same issues, so it must be something the animal just does naturally, even when the wild counterpart doesn't do it. 'Most people keep this species this way, so it must be correct' is a huge mentality with exotic pets.

Snakes are the best example of that, in both good and bad ways. For decades people kept them in bins and power fed their snakes and its a practice that continues to this day despite that it's well known it's not to the benefit of the snake at all and only people who want to keep more and more of them, but it's 'how its always been done' so people keep doing it, even those who tout themselves as animal educators. Throwing a handful of leaves and rocks into a dark bin where a snake barely has room to spread out, only with a hide and water dish, is not good for the snake, it's not 'enrichment', it's just more crap thrown into a tiny claustrophobic enclosure. There's been pushback against it in recent years, which is great, but people continue to do it.

It's the same for almost every species of exotic animal in the petkeeping industry. We as a whole do not keep these animals correctly, we do not ensure those who own or sell them do, and we don't keep up on it. The truth of the matter is most animals are not fit for captivity, having needs beyond what the average person can give consistently for it's entire life. Instead of having massive enclosures suiting the animal's needs, only interacting with it on the animal's own terms and when it's needed, treating it as it's own kind and with all the respect and handling that animal deserves, exotic animals are treated like dogs, like cats, their needs ignored and let to roam in people's houses and when it doesn't meet the expectation of wanting to seek out its owners for affection, of being happy and healthy like that, of not attacking or threatening humans, they are ignored and it's seen as an issue of that one animal, not that it's species' needs are not being met and it shouldn't be kept.

#animals #pets #exotic pets #animal abuse

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my brothers share special interests and my favorite thing to do is walk in a room and be like "hey guys can you tell me about the mariana trench" and then sit there for an hour while they both infodump to me about the ocean it's extremely entertaining

#neurodivergency #special interest #hyperfixation

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Don't fall for it they taste just as bad as the dry food

sometimes those wet cat foods be smellin a lil too good

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The best way you can treat your neurodivergent friends is give them space to rant about their special interest/hyperfixation and ask genuine questions about it.

I've never had space to share my special interest. My friends either think I'm either being pretentious or they think "Oh that's smart people stuff. There's no way you know about that. If you really knew about that you'd be a tenured professor at Harvard." (And I'm not going to share what it is on here because I don't want to seem pretentious)

But my friend's younger sibling invited me to their discord server. And I'm like "how funny would it be if i made this your special interest?", and they were like "I made a channel for you to rant about your special interest" and I was joking but if they want to make room for me to rant? Imma take it.

And they're like genuinely interested. Asking questions. Telling me how cool it is. And how is this teenager able to give me more room to share my special interest and make me feel genuinely validated in my special interest more than any adult has?

If you love you neurodivergent friends. Simply give them space to share their special interest. Dude, it's not that hard and you might end up learning something cool. (Okay, to be fair when I get too excited about shit I have no volume control so I get aggressively loud which is impressive because I'm already ridiculously loud even when I'm not excited).

-fae

#neurodivergency #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #autism #adhd #gifted #giftedness #special interest #hyperfixation

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it really makes my day whenever i see someone in public with a stuffed animal. the simple fact that someone else cares about a little plushie so much to bring them everywhere always warms my heart. does it have a name, a backstory? i get to see a peek inside this person's world... that's so wonderful!

#someday maybe I'll let Willy out of the backpack while in public. someday

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When I mentioned my (apparently hot) take that I believe self-diagnosed people are valid, I got a handful of (my first!!!) hate comments.

So I thought I'd elaborate.

People who are self-diagnosed with anything might just end up being default settings. That's okay. What's not okay is denying someone aid on the basis that they don't have a diagnosis.

I always carry earplugs because a bunch of my friends have auditory sensory issues. None of them are diagnosed with anything, but I've helped them through panic attacks nonetheless.

If a stranger came up to me at a loud event and, seeing I have earplugs, asked for a pair, I wouldn't hesitate to give them. Don't bother giving them back, I buy in bulk.

Maybe that person was a neurotypical with sensitive ears, or maybe they were an autistic person with auditory sensory issues. I'll never know. But if my response was, "Do you have autism?" that would just make me a jerk. If their response was "Yes," and I then demanded paperwork as proof of their autism and therefore eligibility for ear plugs? That would mean I'm violating their privacy.

One of my friends had a panic attack at a loud event where she was working, and someone took her shift without question when they asked if she was okay and she said she wasn't. That's being a cool person. Saying "Well, you're not diagnosed with autism," and refusing to help her on that basis while she is clearly in distress is not cool. Even if she is neurotypical, anyone in distress merits help. Just because someone can swim doesn't mean they need breaks to keep from drowning, and refusing them a lifesaver on those grounds is just being a jerk, especially if there's no one else who could use the metaphorical lifesaver.

One of the main reasons I'm pursuing being a psychiatrist is so I can give my friends the diagnoses that I know would make their lives easier. I have the privilege to be diagnosed. They do not. I want to help give people free therapy and diagnoses since, at least in the United States, money is a huge barrier keeping people from diagnoses.

#neurodivergency #psychology #mental health

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While Apple Sauce seems to have people’s attention

#autism #asd #neurodivergency

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“The only thing that’s bad for writing is being interrupted. You have to have time to write. And while that seems obvious, you’re probably living a life with a lot of interruptions.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

#writing #writing tips #writeblr

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sometimes as a short person seeing a tall person I'm taken by the urge to say "wow you're so tall" and every time I think "they're probably sick of hearing that" so I say out loud "kind of short, aren't you" and they inevitably say "what" and the only explanation I can give is "thought you might not get that much" and I could just say nothing, but I don't, and I believe that's the primary symptom of whatever's wrong with me

#no no you're the only one doing it right #as a tall person your allyship is greatly appreciated