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carebearbliss · 4 years

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Stray Kids as your boyfriend

Chan: the considerate/selfless boyfriend

Honestly, is there anything he wouldn’t be willing to do for you?

His personality is just made out of 100% boyfriend material

Would probably give you the world if he could (his heart is as big as the moon let’s be honest here)

And with that, would probably automatically give you a couple of his sweaters before you even asked for them (or tried to steal them)

Would regularly check up on you, both mentally as well as physically, to make sure you’re okay

The type to care more about you than he would for himself, goes out of his way to make sure you know that you are loved

One word: C U D D L E S

So so so gentle with you, wouldn’t want to do anything to hurt you ever

Sings you to sleep over the phone when you can’t fall asleep

Midnight conversations about the most innocent/most random of things, like how fluffy marshmallows are or how soft your hair is

Minho: the playful/sarcastic boyfriend

His presence alone is enough to make you feel comfortable

The type that will always be there for you and quietly stand by your side

Would help you out with practical tasks without you asking

Lots of sarcastic bantering and back-and-forth teasing, which probably includes playful insults as a normal way of conversating

Very patient and understanding

A very good listener, he would be the type to remember random things about you or ask in-depth questions to get to know you better

Lots of movie dates at home, incl. a pillow fortress and plenty of snacks

Surprisingly funny and confident/daring at times, which makes you either cringe or blush honestly

Has these random moments in which he says something flirtatious suddenly and catches you off-guard

Weird dance battles shall and will ensue

Also midnight conversations, but mostly about the weirdest existential topics like how aliens would look like if they existed or whether clones exist

Changin: the chill boyfriend

Would never yell or raise his voice to his girlfriend, ever

Treats you like a Princess with a capital letter P

But at the same time you’re also his homegirl y’know what I mean?

Recommends his favorite songs to you, occasionally makes you a playlist as well

Chilling at each other’s place, just listening to music, catching up and talking about your interests or what happened during the day

Talks brags about you constantly to his members

Very proud to have you as his girlfriend and wouldn’t be afraid to let you know either (if you didn’t already)

Secretly acts kinda cute at times, especially when he’s excited and you two are having fun

Lots of time spent in the recording studio, with you listening to and evaluating his rapping and the lyrics he has written

Very protective of you, looks out for you even from a distance just to make sure everything is safe and okay

Hyunjin: the caring boyfriend

Can be quite shy at the beginning, but wants to make sure you feel at ease and so asks a lot of questions

Conversations about how your day was, talking about your concerns and comforting you through his kind, sincere words

Hugs and snuggles, and lots of ‘em

Listens attentively to whatever you have to say, remembers little details about you and brings them up occasionally

Tries his hardest to understand you and be empathic towards your circumstances and struggles

The type to smile at you shyly after holding your hand or kissing you (for the first time)

Blushes easily but that doesn’t stop him from initiating PDA

When he’s having a hard time, you’re the first person he would go to for comfort and a listening ear

Lowkey clingy but mostly when you two are alone together

Entire albums on both of your phones full of cute pictures of each other to look through when you’re apart and missing one another

Han: the enthusiastic boyfriend

Lives to make you smile every second you’re spending time with him

Tries out all his pickup lines on you just cause he can

Lowkey says flirtatious stuff just to make you blush, but if you retaliate with a flirtatious line of your own, he’ll get shy

Tbh he’d flirt with you all the time, even if you guys are already in a rocksolid relationship

Proudly proclaims to his members that he has the best girlfriend

Dramatically supportive of you every step of the way

The type to randomly show up at your house with a cake and some balloons to celebrate you passing your exams (or any other occasion, honestly)

Always tries to be his happiest around you

Likes to be close to you, doesn’t necessarily have to be PDA, just likes to be near you as much as possible

Loves to see you eating well, also loves spoiling you with food for that matter

Felix: the best friend boyfriend

Weird and out-of-control dance battles all. the. time.

A lot of your free time is spent doing silly dances with him or copying memes/making TikTok videos, just goofing around casually

Laughs at all of your jokes, even the ones that ain’t that funny

If you compliment him, even on the tiniest of things, it’ll make his day for a whole week

Finds everything you do to be absolutely adorable

It doesn’t matter where you are or what you two are doing, when you’re together it’s just going to be a good time and y’all know it

Always amazed at how great of a person you are, genuinely looks up to you

Just a general appreciation for having you by his side to comfort and support him when he needs it

Lots of casual snuggle sessions while you’re just chilling

Crazy sing-offs just to see who can sing the loudest/highest

Inside jokes are a must you hear me

Treasures any gift you ever give him like it’s basically his most valuable possession

Seungmin: the sweet boyfriend

This guy is honestly such a sweetheart, periodt

Not a big fan of PDA, but still likes to hold your hand when you’re walking next to each other

You’re the first person he goes to when he has some exciting/good news to share

Basically, you’re his best friend, and he’s yours :)

Very go-with-the-flow, open to trying out whatever it is you want to do (unless it’s highkey dangerous)

Very gentle & gentlemanly, always takes you into consideration to make sure you don’t feel uncomfortable

When you’re sad, comforts you with lots of comfort food and Disney marathons

Compliments you and says the sweetest things to you just to make you smile

Rarely ever says no to anything you ask of him

Calls you up or texts you out of the blue just to ask you how your day was, then actually listens attentively to anything you have to say

Likes to take lots of pictures of you when you’re on a date

Day6 concert dates y e s

Jeongin: the good/kind boyfriend

Treats you like he’d treat his good friends, but including occasional blushing, internal panicking and shyly looking away when you stare at him for too long

Tries really hard to be a good boyfriend to you, tries to pay attention to your interests and what you have to say

You can’t help but develop a soft spot for him (like the rest of Stray Kids)

Sometimes you make him really nervous, but he’d still randomly initiate PDA like holding your hands

Ruffles your hair every time you do something that he finds to be adorable, which is kind of always?

Randomly boops your nose then gives you a huge smile

Just really happy when he sees you, like a small pup whose owner just got home y’know?

Melts into a puddle when you compliment him

Doesn’t really care about what you guys are doing, as long as you’re together

The type to watch kdramas just to figure out what kind of romantic gestures he can surprise you with

Then shows up at your doorstep with flowers he picked along the way and a cute card

#stray kids #stray kids imagine #stray kids scenario #stray kids chan #chan #bang chan #stray kids hyunjin #stray kids changbin #stray kids minho #lee know #kpop scenario #kpop imagine #stray kids felix #stray kids i.n #stray kids jeongin #stray kids seungmin #stray kids han #stray kids jisung

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laresearchette · 2 years

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Wednesday, March 16, 2022 Canadian TV Listings (Times Eastern)

WHERE CAN I FIND THOSE PREMIERES?: PIG ROYALTY (discovery +) BEYOND THE EDGE (Global) 9:00pm TEMPTATION ISLAND (E! Canada) 10:00pm

NEW TO AMAZON PRIME CANADA/CBC GEM/CRAVE TV/DISNEY + STAR/NETFLIX CANADA:

DISNEY + STAR DAREDEVIL (Seasons 1-3) THE DEFENDERS (Season 1) GOOD TROUBLE (Season 3) IRON FIST (Seasons 1-2)) JESSICA JONES (Seasons 1-3) LUKE CAGE (Seasons 1- 2) MALCOM IN THE MIDDLE (Seasons 1-5) NIGHTMARE ALLEY (2021) THE PUNISHER (Season 1) ZEKE AND LUTHER (Seasons 1-3)

NETFLIX CANADA BAD VEGAN: FAME, FRAUD, FUGITIVES HEI$T: THE GREAT ROBBERY OF BRAZIL’S CENTRAL BANK PEDAL TO METAL

NBA BASKETBALL (SN1) 7:00pm: Hawks vs. Hornets (TSN) 7:30pm: Nuggets vs. Nets (SN Now) 8:00pm: Lakers vs. Timberwolves (TSN) 10:00pm: Celtics vs. Warriors (SN/SN1) 10:00pm: Raptors vs. Clippers

BIG BROTHER CANADA (Global) 7:00pm

NHL HOCKEY (SN) 7:30pm: Blue Jackets vs. Sens (SN/SN1) 8:00pm: Capital vs Oilers (SN360/SNWest) 10:00pm: Devils vs. Flames

STILL STANDING (CBC) 8:00pm: Oxford, Nova Scotia

COUNTRY HOUSE HUNTERS (CTV Life) 8:00pm - 10:00pm (SEASON PREMIERE): Australian House Huntin’, mate!

WILD ROSE VET (Cottage Life) 8:00pm (SERIES PREMIERE): Dr. Savannah Howse-Smith, a quirky and loveable mixed animal veterinarian living out her childhood dream, keeps rural Alberta's pet and animal population healthy and fit while learning more about her newly discovered Indigenous heritage.

RUN THE BURBS (CBC) 8:30pm: Racoon Fever

PRETTY HARD CASES (CBC) 9:00pm: With Michaels eager to take over their Coyote case, Sam and Kelly set off on an impromptu road trip to cottage country in a last-ditch effort to find their suspected drug kingpin.

7TH GEN (APTN) 9:00pm: Jay Mousseau, Anishinaabe from Sandy Bay First Nation, is the owner and operator of Pinessee Exteriors; Jay pays his success forward to support others in need, offering jobs through his company as he leads his life with the seven sacred teachings.

FIXER TO FABULOUS: WELCOME INN (HGTV Canada) 9:00pm (SERIES PREMIERE): Dave and Jenny Marrs purchase a historic 1800s home with dreams of creating a one-of-a-kind bed and breakfast, but demolition reveals major construction issues and a bee infestation that forces them to realize their dream comes at an enormous cost.

LETTERKENNY (Crave) 9:00pm: International Women's Day Special: The ladies of Letterkenny celebrate International Women's Day by competing in an anti-beauty pageant, with the winner earning the title of Miss MoDean-iality; Professor Tricia talks to the guys about women they admire.

TRIBAL POLICE FILES (APTN) 9:30pm: The Tosguna can be tough on crime, but they also foster mutual trust and respect with community members; they respond to an impaired driver who hits a neighbor's vehicle and empathize with a former drug user who fails to stop at a stop sign.

BEE CZAR (Discovery Canada) 10:00pm (SERIES PREMIERE): Bee Czar Walter is on a mission to save the bees, one hive rescue at a time, and build a booming honey empire; he and his family must overcome pandemic setbacks to rescue bees from unlikely places and save frightened homeowners.

#cdntv #cancon #canadian tv #canadian tv listings #big brother canada #still standing #wild rose vet #run the burbs #pretty hard cases #7th gen #letterkenny #tribal police files #nba basketball #nhl hockey

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howprolifeofyou · 6 years

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surviving in a POST- Trump era

if you’ve been following this blog for a while you’d know from off-topic rants that I fucking love the musician Jeff Rosenstock.

Jeff’s been making music for 20ish years now, and is most famously known for The Arrogant Sons of Bitches, Bomb the Music Industry!, and his incredible DIY ethic. Since BtMI’s breakup he’s been putting out incredible solo work and is even making the music for the new Cartoon Network show Craig of the Creek. Everything he puts out is free on his record label “Quote Unquote Records.”

Jeff’s outspokenness on topics such as feminism, racism, police brutality and anti-capitalism have been recurring themes in his music and have kept me afloat during bad times, which is why I’m writing this all up - if you can relate to the feeling of dread after waking up to find that Trump was elected, or the feeling of powerlessness when nothing tangible changes after marching the streets against police brutality, Jeff Rosenstock’s music is for you.

A month before the 2016 election, Jeff put out what many to consider his magnum opus, the album WORRY.

in it he talks about living with anxieties such as gentrification, police brutality, and having hope during a time where everything seems spiraling out of control.

“Fuck off, the internet. I’m tired of circling amongst apologists who love ignoring the reality of unarmed civilians executed publicly.”

“Wave goodnight to the sleepless city too tired to fight. They’re pushing you out in the name of Progress and selling your memories to the tourists.”

guys, I could talk about how incredible this album is for fucking days on end. go listen to it, it’s free. individual songs don’t do the whole thing together justice.

January 1, 2018, Jeff surprise dropped his new album, POST-.

In interviews, Jeff maintains that he named the album POST- because he likes people to fill in the blanks of what that means for themselves, but one can’t argue that the album doesn’t represent living in America in a POST- election haze.

The album starts out with the song USA. It evokes the tired and horrified feeling of waking up the morning after the election, looking around and wondering who around you could’ve voted for this.

“Dumbfounded, downtrodden and dejected. Crestfallen, grief-stricken and exhausted. Trapped in my room while the house was burnin’ to the motherfuckin’ ground. /// Man in a crossover with his family sketched in decals on the window smiling driving parallel in the lane beside me oh, it doesn’t matter now but please be honest tell me was it you? I won’t hate you I just need to know.”

it all builds and builds into a chanting of “e tu, USA? e tu USA?”, questioning how this country and the people around you could’ve done this.

Then there’s Powerlessness, my personal favorite on the album. it encapsulates the feeling of when your righteous anger burns out and you just feel powerless to all of the awful things happening in the world.

“I met you at the coffeeshop, we marched on the interstate and blocked the cops. The echoes of the flash grenades Rang in our ears as we moved along. I called it “positivity,” and congratulated myself on a job well done. But after a couple of days the fire that I thought would burn it down was gone.”

The album isn’t all feelings of dread, though. in typical Rosenstock fashion, we’re left with hope that not all is lost in “Let Them Win.”

“They can make us feel afraid and try to turn it into hate, oh yeah. They can steal our slice For the hundredth time Judge us when we cry And never empathize With anyone but themselves. We’re not gonna let them win, oh no. We’re not gonna let them win, oh no.”

I’ve always said that everything Jeff puts out is always incredibly relevant to my life, and POST- is no different. feeling burnt out and helpless is inevitable for many activists who feel that they aren’t doing enough or making an impact, but that’s okay.

Having music that so perfectly expresses these feelings is invigorating to me, and if you like punk music and anti-Trumpism, it may help you too. even if Jeff’s voice is an acquired taste and isn’t your jam, check out the other bands’ free albums on his record label.

this turned out way longer than I intended but if you’ve stuck it out this long, thanks for reading. <3

#jeff rosenstock #mod post

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giancarlonicoli · 3 years

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December 13, 2019

Scott Galloway

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The Dunning-Kruger effect posits that dumb people are too stupid to know they are dumb. They are not perplexed by difficult situations but overconfident — not knowing what they don’t know. As few people believe they are stupid, or a bad driver, a more relatable component of Dunning-Kruger is incorrectly believing one area of skill translates to another.

I suffer massively from this. I’m smarter than your average bear when it comes to marketing, so I’ve come to believe that makes me an expert on pretty much anything. I don’t know much about physics but constantly reference Galileo despite knowing little besides the fact that he dared challenge the church.

There is evidence of this all over the marketplace. Great P/E guys believe they would make great VCs and vice versa. Hedge fund managers believe two years of above-market returns means they are also great operators. To disabuse anybody of this notion, take them to a Sears. Billionaires running for president, actors starting skincare lines, and tech CEOs founding media firms. Being rich also naturally makes you a great film producer.

Masayoshi Son created $64 billion in shareholder value, mostly through deft acquisitions. Mr. Son can also boast of perhaps the best venture investment in history, $20 million into Alibaba that became $100 billion. That investment is tantamount to Michael Jordan hitting a grand slam on his first at bat wearing a Birmingham Barons hat.

Mr. Son has mistaken luck in venture investing for the ability to responsibly allocate billions based on a gut feeling. The size of SoftBank investments, relative to the diligence, now looks stupid, if not negligent. A writedown on an investment in a dog-walking app may have been avoided had someone in the SoftBank diligence team taken the time to discover they were investing $300 million in … a dog-walking app.

Conflating luck and talent is dangerous. As I get older, I’m struck by how big a part luck played in my life, and how much I mistook it for skill, well into my forties. The Pareto principle shows that even if competence is evenly distributed, 80% of effects stem from 20% of the causes.

Not recognizing your blessings feeds into the dark side of capitalism and meritocracy: the notion that success is a choice, and that those who haven’t achieved success are not unlucky, but unworthy. This leads to regressive policies that further reward the perceived winners and punish the perceived losers based on income level. The most recent example of our belief that poor people are guilty: The US now has the fourth-lowest tax rate in the world, and billionaires have the lowest tax rate of any cohort.

First Base

I constantly humblebrag that I was raised by a single immigrant mother who lived and died a secretary. But truth is I was born on third base. My parents got me to first base before I was born, immigrating to the US. This took courage, desire, and a dose of selfishness. Both left families that needed them. My mom left London when her two youngest siblings were still in an orphanage.

In Europe I’d make much less money being an entrepreneur and challenging institutions. In China I’d likely be in jail. Having one of my companies fail would have bankrupted me in Europe, as the tolerance for risk or failure is scant. I have no idea what would have happened in China. In the US, a tolerance for failure meant a lifestyle my parents couldn’t have imagined crossing the Atlantic on a steamship in 1961.

Second Base

I have some talent and have worked really hard, but mostly my success is due to being born in the right place at the right time, and being a white heterosexual male. Coming of professional age as a white male in the nineties was the greatest economic arbitrage in history. Today’s 54-to-70-year-olds saw the Dow Jones increase an average of 445% from 25-40, their prime working years. For other ages, it doubles at most.

Economic liberalization (globalization, technology, market deregulation) coupled with social norms that clung to the past meant 31% of America (white males) were given license over a lion’s share of the spoils. In nineties San Francisco, I raised over $100 million for my start-ups. I didn’t know a single woman under 40 who raised more than a million. And it seemed normal. Even today, white men hold 65% of elected offices despite being 31% of the population.

Third Base

Rich, fabulous people are the ideal billboards for luxury brands. Our nation’s best universities have adopted the same strategy. Universities are no longer nonprofits, but the highest-gross-margin luxury brands in the world. Another trait of a luxury brand is the illusion of scarcity. Over the last 30 years, the number of applicants to Stanford has tripled, while the size of the freshman class has remained static. Harvard and Stanford have become finishing school for the global wealthy.

In the class of 2013 in the Ivy League, five of the eight colleges (Dartmouth, Princeton, Yale, Penn, and Brown) had more students from the top 1% of the income scale than the bottom 60%.

Fast and Slow Thinking

According to @thetweetofgod, intelligence looks in the mirror and sees ignorance; ignorance looks in the mirror and sees intelligence. The sectors that have enjoyed the greatest prosperity spread across increasingly few people — technology and finance — have created an unprecedented level of arrogance among people born on third base.

When we feel threatened, we are more prone to see each other as an enemy, rather than someone who has a different opinion. We want to dismiss and fight the whole person, rather than just what they said. From primeval times, our brains have been set up to identify “enemy” or “one of us,” that simple binary distinction. Do I trust them as a person or are they not “one of us.” When we are in our more evolved, slow thinking mode (Daniel Kahneman), we evaluate arguments. When we are in our knee-jerk, threatened fast thinking, we decide the person is our enemy and argue from our amygdala, not our forebrain.

When we are threatened, we are also less empathic. Altruistic behavior decreases in times of greater income inequality. The rich are more generous in times of lesser inequality and less generous when inequality grows more extreme. When the poor need our help more, we are less likely to offer it, because we don’t see the poor as one of us. They become “them.”

Michael Lewis writes, “The problem is caused by the inequality itself: it triggers a chemical reaction in the privileged few. It tilts their brains. It causes them to be less likely to care about anyone but themselves or to experience the moral sentiments needed to be a decent citizen.”

Old Age

My dad is not doing well. We think it’s dementia, but it’s more just that he’s 89. He has never asked me for much, but he needs me now. I don’t do as much for him as I did for my mom at the end of her life, as I don’t feel the same goodwill toward him — my mother raised me. It’s easier to be generous with him when I look at his life. He was physically abused by his father and had no education. Despite this, his courage and wits (immigrating to America) put his son and daughter on first base.

Life is so rich,

P.S. Last week I wrote a letter asking the board of Twitter to replace Jack Dorsey. On Wednesday, Mr. Dorsey announced Twitter is possibly moving to an open standard. This is a good strategy. However, assigning five developers to a project with no timeline feels like big-tech delay and obfuscation (“we’re working on it”) and reflects an unwillingness to make the requisite investment of time and resources in open APIs. His other actions confirm he isn’t willing to make the requisite investment of time and resources in Twitter.

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loreweaver-universe · 7 years

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See, this is how you make us like Lars.

Just showing the lazy, apathetic douchebag we’ve gotten for the past hundred-twenty-odd episodes doesn’t work. He’s annoying! He’s a prick! He’s not even a funny prick! Sure, some of the things that happen to him make you empathize with him a bit, but he’s such an unlikable toolbag that even the stuff he DOESN’T deserve feels karmic.

Show us who he is. Show us how afraid he is to try, how nervous he gets when something he DOES like to do gets scrutinized, how hard he finds it to believe that people like him for who he is and also like the things he does. Show us that Lars, y’know, sometime in the first couple seasons, and everything else you’ve tried to do with him SUDDENLY WORKS.

Reaching an audience isn’t logical. Here’s an example--in the James Cameron summer blockbuster Avatar, Jake and Neytiri and the Na’vi are the good guys and Colonel Quaritch is the bad guy. We know this. However, the movie doesn’t sell that to us very well; Quaritch is violently loyal to the people under his command, fights on the front lines with them, and in general walks the walk of looking out for them, whereas the Na’vi, while intellectually justifiably so, are immediately standoffish and look down on the humans, and stay that way for long enough that THAT gets established as their character in the gut feelings of the audience, instead of the spiritual, beautiful people that they are.

Not to mention that Jake spends so much time trying to get his dick wet that he doesn’t warn the Na’vi about what’s coming until the last possible second, getting WAY more people killed than would have happened otherwise and costing the Na’vi their sacred home in the process. And Neytiri still sticks with this tool? Ugh.

My point is that despite clearly being capital-E Evil, Miles Quaritch is sympathetic, while Jake and the Na’vi are FAR less so, because the movie miscommunicates who they are to the audience. Similarly, we started with annoying jackass Lars Barriga, which is fine, but we mostly stayed there for a HUNDRED EPISODES, yet were still expected to sympathize with him. It’s only NOW we’re really getting to see under his skin in a way that isn’t reactive towards people in his life. This is him, ALL him, and it’s good to see him doing something that IS him.

And it makes me like him.

#steven universe #subloggin #bloggin #su118 #su episode 125 #lars #avatar

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totheboyswhomademetheirtherapist · 5 years

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The History of Emotional Labor Pt. 1: Capitalism

The term emotional labor was coined by sociologist Arlie Hochschild in the 1983 book The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling. It was defined in an economic perspective, regarding the need for workers to regulate their emotions to satisfy their customers (and ultimately, their employers). Being engaging and happy and smiley all the time, putting the customer first, in hopes of getting their money in return.

One article describes it as the following:

Across the labor market, from the medical field to the food industry to a kid in the corner selling lemonade, it became a societal norm to be emotionally expressive in order to connect to others. Sometimes it works and the customer gives something in exchange, sometimes not. Either way, the worker’s input is n additional burden to bear within the interaction.

Now let’s include gender. Womyn in the United States transitioned from solely performing domestic duties to entering the workforce. The jobs we were mostly allowed to have were playing second fiddle to men’s “superior” labor capabilities. We became secretaries, nurses, paralegals- assistants. We offered glasses of water and smiles and kept company until the man with the brain was ready to work. We had double the expectation to provide emotional support, because of both our jobs and our gender identity. On top of all this, we were still paid less.

Hochschild also suggests that emotional labor can produce emotive dissonance. This means that “workers who are required to display emotions regardless of whether these are congruent with their feelings may over time develop a sense of self-estrangement or distress” (Wharton, 2009). We are more susceptible to burn out, emotional exhaustion, and a reduced sense of personal accomplishment.

Guy and Newman (2004) observed it as an unspoken requisite. Caring, negotiating, empathizing, smoothing troubled relationships, and working behind the scenes to enable cooperation, are required components of many women’s jobs. Yet, because yet because these tasks are “excluded from job descriptions and performance evaluations, the work is invisible and uncompensated” (Guy and Newman, 2004).

It’s called emotional labor for a reason. It is work. It is a job. One that historically womyn get paid less for, but are expected to do it more. We have not only been exploited and oppressed for our emotional support in our homes, but in our work spaces as well.

References:

Fessler, L., & Fessler, L. (2018, May 24). An extremely clear definition of emotional labor for anyone who still doesn't get it. Retrieved from https://qz.com/work/1286996/an-extremely-clear-definition-of-emotional-labor-from-adam-grants-podcast/

Wharton, A. (2009). The Sociology of Emotional Labor. Sociology of Work: An Encyclopedia. doi:10.4135/9781452276199.n88

Guy, M. E., & Newman, M. A. (2004). Womens Jobs, Mens Jobs: Sex Segregation and Emotional Labor. Public Administration Review, 64(3), 289-298. doi:10.1111/j.1540-6210.2004.00373.x

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mediaareplural · 6 years

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The Commodity Self

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Howdy hey and welcome back! Let’s take a moment to discuss what it means to have a commodity self. A person’s identity is constructed partially through social interactions and how others view them in social situations. Children learn their social standing in the world through social interactions with their family members and their peers. One main way an individual defines themselves is through the media they consume. In Practices of Looking: An Introductioin to Visual Culture, the authors mention theorist Louis Althusser and how he describes this phenomenon as interpellation, which is “the way that images and media texts seem to call out to us, catching our attention.” For example, some people are compelled to sit down and watch a reality tv show, while others may be more interested in watching the local news or reading an autobiography. People begin to define themselves by the media they are drawn to, and start to seek out social groups based on the media they are interested in. Since one of the natural human needs is for belonging, it only makes sense that people would search for others who are drawn to the same media that they are. As I am at the ripe age of nineteen, I have been exposed to a massive amount of media commodities in my lifetime, which have shaped my identity. Growing up during the major technological changes of the 2000’s made it easy for me to adapt to learning how to use new technologies that baffled older generations. I learned how to use cassette tapes and VHS tapes at the age of two, and expanded that knowledge to DVDs and Blu-rays as the years went on. Now, I have many technological commodities of my own such as a cell phone, laptop, Nintendo 3DS, and a Kindle, along with an extensive DVD collection. In Practices of Looking: An Introductioin to Visual Culture, the authors explain that “we construct our identities, at least in part, through the consumer products that inhabit our lives,” which explains why I partially define myself by the technologies that I have access to. Throughout high school, I felt as though I was an outcast because I did not have a smartphone. During my freshman year, smartphones were only owned by people whose families were wealthy enough to afford them, but that quickly changed. By my senior year of high school, I was one of the few people in my class who did not have a smartphone. Because of this, I stood out like a sore thumb and no longer fit into the social groups I used to be in. This proves that owning certain commodities define our identities, whether or not we are in control of what commodities we have access to. The websites and apps I use also determine my commodity self. Being on the younger end of the millennial spectrum, I easily fit into multiple demographics. On one hand, I am an adult who uses e-mail for professional communication and watches Netflix practically every day. But on the other hand, I am still a teenager who uses apps like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter on a daily basis. The use of these various sites puts me in different demographics, thereby splitting my commodity self and uniting it simultaneously. Media theorist Stuart Ewen describes the commodity self as “the idea that our selves, indeed our subjectivities, are mediated and constructed in part through our consumption and use of commodities.” People my age, myself included, mediate ourselves based on what app we are using. For example, who I am on Instagram is a different persona than the one I portray on Twitter. Not only do I use the apps for different purposes and to reach different audiences, but the layout of each app is unique, so it is nearly impossible to use them in exactly the same way. I use Instagram as a photo sharing social media platform, allowing my friends a tiny window into my life. Twitter is what I use when I want to comment on social injustice, relatable situations, or simply to share a quick anecdote. People can easily change who they want to be with the different commodities they wish to use. Another form of commodities that I use to define my commodity self is the various content that I consume. For example, I am interpellated by YouTube videos, movies, and television shows. The types of movies I am drawn to are Marvel movies, Disney movies, action, thrillers, and dramas. Some television shows that I watch that define myself by are Criminal Minds, Parks and Recreation, Doctor Who, and Stranger Things, among others. Part of the reason I define myself by these commodities is because there are either characters that I relate to personally or there are characters that I empathize with. Movies and television shows are important to me because I find the reality within them, and connect that to my life. I even quote various television shows and movies on a daily basis, which has become a personality trait of mine. With every television program or movie I watch, I go in as one person and come out a different one; I become someone with a better perspective on life and have a new understanding of the world around me. One of the main ways people learn about new commodities is through the advertisement of them to the public. As the authors of Practices of Looking: An Introduction to Visual Culture point out, people are often drawn to advertisements because they “present an abstract world, often a fantastic one, that is situated not in the present but in an imagined future.” This can be clearly seen in the way Marvel movies are advertised. There are many factors that go into the advertising of something as broad as a franchise of movies, one of which is the ideology of gender norms. Sturken and Cartwright mention that “societies function by naturalizing ideologies, making the complex production of meaning take place so smoothly that it is experienced as a ‘natural’ system of value or belief. For example, it is widely accepted, yet rapidly changing, that boys like superheroes and girls like princesses. Therefore, the advertising pushes the ideas of violence and action to try to attract a male audience. Even in the composition of shots in particular movies, it can be clearly seen that certain angles are used to portray women in a specific light during the course of the film. One example of this can be found in the film Captain America: The Winter Soldier. In the scene linked above, Black Widow is fighting her way onto a cargo ship where she and Captain America must save some hostages. As an audience, we get to watch as she fights all the bad guys on the ship, empowering women in the process. But then, all that female empowerment is shattered when Black Widow knocks a guy out with a pole, and we are given a clear view of her behind, perfectly centered in the frame, for an uncomfortable amount of time. As previously discussed, these movies are advertised with men in mind, and scenes like this should not come as a surprise. However, the use of gender norms to advertise superhero movies is rapidly changing, so it is disappointing to see that degrading images such as this one can still be found in films that should be intended for everyone. Another ideological framing that has rapidly changed in the advertising of Marvel movies is the representation of diverse races and cultures. In the 2012 film The Avengers, the audience can easily recognize that all members of the main cast, aside from S.H.I.E.L.D. director Nick Fury, are white. All other cultures were vastly underrepresented in this film, which was unfortunate to see. However, in Marvel’s newer films, such as Avengers: Age of Ultron and Captain America: Civil War, move diverse characters are being introduced into the film franchise. In fact, in February of next year, Marvel is releasing Black Panther, which has an almost entirely black cast. Not only does this ideological shift in advertising tell people that Marvel is accepting of all cultures and ethnicities, but they are also widening their consumer net by including characters in the universe that more demographics can relate to. Sometimes fans need to negotiate the meanings of commodities they associate themselves with, so as to enjoy the product that is being presented to them without having their mind clouded with other aspects of that commodity. I am a fan of Disney’s animated movies, and have been since I was a child. Both the old and new movies mean a lot to me because they remind me of my childhood and take me away from the realities of life for a period of time. Over time, I have adapted my understanding of the movies and the significance they hold in real-world situations. Anthropologist Claude Lèvi-Strauss describes this phenomenon with the French term bricolage, which is “a mode of adaptation in which things (mostly commodities) are put to uses for which they were not intended and in ways that dislocate them from their normal or expected context.” For example, the film Atlantis: The Lost Empire had a very different meaning to me as a child than it does to me now. As a kid, I always thought the movie was about going on an adventure and Milo and Kida meeting and falling in love. Now that I am an adult, though, I recognize the film’s themes that question capitalism and the ethics of archaeology. This film calls its audience’s attention to the reality of what the characters are doing and how some people have hidden agendas in situations that can occur in the real world. Bricolage plays an important part in negotiating the meanings of commodities. Another way I have had to negotiate the content of animated Disney movies is by looking past all of the work that goes into making an animated film. While sitting on my couch, curled up in a blanket enjoying The Little Mermaid or Zootopia, I never take a step back to consider the long, painstaking work that has gone towards the end result of the film I am watching. Animators spend countless hours drawing each frame of a scene or digitally adjusting each movement, depending on if the film is hand-drawn or computer-generated, and most likely spend days working on a five second span of one scene. The amount of energy and time that Disney employees put into a movie surmounts the run time of the final version of the film. But, to me and many other general audience members, these films are just a great way to relax. I negotiate the meaning of Disney films because I want them to have the same meaning they had when I was a naïve child, and thus I have to ignore and repress the idea that people most likely cried over the difficulty of making the animation flow smoothly. It is much easier for me, as a member of the audience, to remove myself from the harsh realities of life and the truth about the difficulties people face. Also, while appreciating the animated content in front of me, I never stop to think about the horrific original fairy tale the film is based on. Most of the stories Disney produces are based on old fairy tales from a variety of countries, but they have to be modified in order to make the films safe for children to watch. For example, in the original Cinderella fairy tale, Cinderella’s step-sisters attempt to try on the glass slipper but their feet are too big, so they saw off their toes in an attempt to force their feet into the slipper and marry the prince. Later in the story, during Cinderella’s wedding, the step-sisters get their eyes pecked out by ravens. Disney clearly needed to skirt around these images in order to keep their G-rating. Even though I have this knowledge as an adult, I generally do not think about how the story is meant to go, according to the Grimm Brothers or Hans Christian Andersen, while watching the Disney version of the story. I negotiate the meaning of these films because it is easier to enjoy the safe version of a beloved story I know well than it is to realize the harsh and violent realities of the source material.

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