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flowerandblood · 6 months

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I have a problem in my private life and I don't really know what to do about it. If you want, read what I wrote below and express your opinion whether I am being oversensitive and what you would do in my place.

My husband's mother is a psychotherapist who tends to analyze her family - unfortunately, because it is very unhealthy and unprofessional. On the one hand, she treats her sons (my husband and his younger brother) as geniuses (which they are), her most beloved, best boys, sometimes referring to them as if they were still five years old.

On the other hand, she convinces my husband that his devotion to church affairs comes from his problems, that he denies his need to go to a psychologist in favor of talking to a priest (bullshit).

My husband told me that she interfered a lot in his private life, with whom, where and why, to such an extent that he did not want to tell her for a long time that he was with me so that she would not bother him, he also hid my letters from her under his bed .

And finally I showed up. When I first came to their house, she welcomed me like a queen, baked me a cake, praised my beauty and intelligence, told me how much my husband and I fit together, how glad she was that we met.

It was nice until a year later when my husband proposed to me and announced that he didn't want to wait long to get married - I had no objections either, but it was his decision to hurry. My husband's mother wanted a big wedding, but I did the opposite. Then my little hell began.

When I was in my city and my husband was in my house, his mother told him that I was manipulating him, that he was making a mistake by wanting to marry me so soon (she got married early and they separated from my husband father because they couldn't be together withstand).

My husband was devastated, but he stood by me, saying that it was our wedding and our comfort was the most important. It ended with the wedding being exactly as we wanted, but my husband's mother personally organized a grand reception.

There had been tension between us since then, but it seemed to be getting better. I tried to help her, be nice to her, simply treat her as if she were my second mother (even though neither I nor my husband call our in-laws 'mom' or 'dad').

My mother treats my husband as if she just magically had a second child. She is strict and demanding, but she also always thinks about him, what he says and what he needs is important to her, she would like to see him as often as possible and is sad when he doesn't come to their place for coffee with me.

In the case of my husband's mother, I always feel like the third wheel there. When I confided in her about my fear of pregnancy and of the baby turning out sick, she then used it against me during another conversation and said - after you confided in me all your phobias, I already knew that I would never have a grandchild.

Which was like a slap in the face because that's when we started trying for a baby and it turned out that I had hormonal problems.

I told her this and she felt ashamed, but the milk had already spilled. She couldn't understand how my husband and I could not want to go everywhere together, give each other so much space, she said that I was denying things, that I was behaving like an amazon and trying to prove something to everyone.

Of course, she said all this when my husband was not around.

When he came back in the evening after a party with friends and found me in bed crying, I told him everything. That I told her that I didn't want to have an uninvited therapist, but a second mother and I was sorry that I would never be her third child in her eyes.

He said that what she was doing was because she was jealous, that she knew that I was the first in his eyes now and that she couldn't come to terms with it.

But is it my problem?

Since that conversation, she has calmed down a bit, because I told her some bitter words of truth, but I will never trust her again, I thank God that she lives so far from us. I get stressed thinking about when I have to go there (like next week, because it's a holiday in our country and there will be days off).

I just try to be nice, not to express my opinions or interfere in the discussion, but if I do something that she thinks I could do differently, she still blames me and bothers me. This is my little hell (and then she has the nerve to say she's an awesome mother-in-law).

I'm sorry, I had to share this with someone, my husband knows it very well and is trying to protect me from her, but he can't be with me 24 hours a day, and she's his mother.

We wondered if he should talk to her about it, but we're sure in her head she'll explain to herself that I manipulated him and I'm turning him against her because she's not doing anything wrong.

#just private stuff

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religion-is-a-mental-illness · 5 days

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By: Camilla Turner

Published: Apr 20, 2024

A public inquiry must be set up to examine the “pervasive influence” of transgender ideology in schools and the NHS, the Prime Minister has been told.

The treatment of “confused and vulnerable” children by medical professionals has been a “major scandal”, according to a group of more than 130 MPs, peers, doctors, psychiatrists and academics.

Kemi Badenoch, the women and equalities minister, is understood to back the calls for a public inquiry.

“In the wake of the Cass review, she feels that people need to be held to account,” a source close to Mrs Badenoch said. “She is particularly appalled by the fact that a lot of NHS clinicians refused to share data and refused to co-operate.”

The calls for a public inquiry come after a report by Dr Hillary Cass, a leading paediatrician, which found that the evidence for allowing children and young people to change gender is built on “shaky foundations”.

The landmark review said that social transitioning should be approached with “extreme caution” because “we simply do not know the long-term impacts”.

Dr Cass revealed that her research was hampered by the fact that adult gender clinics refused to disclose whether transgender people who started their treatment as children later changed their minds about transitioning, or went on to suffer serious mental health problems.

Following its publication, Victoria Atkins, the Health Secretary, met Amanda Pritchard, the chief executive of NHS England, to tell her “nothing less than full co-operation by those clinics in the research is acceptable”.

Public inquiries can be given special powers to compel testimony and the release of other forms of evidence. This means that if such an inquiry was set up, adult gender clinics could be forced to hand over data on their patients

In the letter to Rishi Sunak, the group of signatories said they were “gravely concerned” about the physical and emotional harm caused to children “in the name of gender identity ideology”.

They noted that some schools “teach gender identity ideology to pupils as if it were fact, often to the exclusion or denial of biological reality” and that medical interventions on transgender children “have been revealed as a major medical scandal”.

Signatories include Liz Truss, the former prime minister; Dame Andrea Jenkyns, a former minister; Miriam Cates and Danny Kruger, the leaders of the New Conservatives group of MPs; and 14 other MPs and peers from across the political spectrum.

Tavistock deemed ‘not safe’

Another signatory is Marcus Evans, a consultant psychotherapist and former governor turned whistleblower of the Tavistock clinic, which was the country’s flagship NHS gender identity service for children until it was shut down after it was deemed “not safe” for youngsters.

Dozens of consultant psychiatrists, clinical psychologists, psychotherapists, GPs, lawyers and academics are also among the signatories.

The letter explains: “Encouraging confused and vulnerable children to transition, socially or medically, including with puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones, has caused irreversible developmental issues, physiological damage (such as loss of bone density, infertility and sexual dysfunction) and significant social and relational harms.

“This has already had a direct and lifelong impact on child development, the true extent of which is not yet known.

“We believe this is a major scandal that requires a public inquiry. This should consider the extent to which state and non-state institutions have failed in their duty of care by supporting, encouraging or facilitating a model of ‘gender-affirming transition’ towards children who believe they are transgender.”

Inquiry ‘should examine all institutions’

The letter, co-ordinated by social campaigner James Esses, goes on to suggest that a public inquiry should examine “all institutions complicit in this harm”, including government departments, the NHS, private gender clinics, mental health bodies, schools and transgender campaign groups.

Writing in the Sunday Telegraph, Mr Esses said: “Society is, slowly but surely, beginning to wake up to the horrors caused in the name of gender ideology.

“Children and young people have been left scarred, emotionally and physically, in the name of gender ideology. Some have been left infertile. Others have lost parts of their bodies that they can never get back.

“As a society, we have failed in our duty of care towards children. We must secure justice for those who have been harmed. Crucially, we must ensure that no child again suffers the same fate.”

[ Via: https://archive.today/Vx57n ]

By: James Esses

Published: Apr 20, 2024

Society is, slowly but surely, beginning to wake up to the horrors caused in the name of gender ideology. Children have been harmed. Women have been erased. Free speech has been attacked. Reality has been undermined.

Thankfully, the tide is starting to turn. The Secretary of State for Health, Victoria Atkins, made a landmark statement before Parliament. NHS England has halted the prescription of puberty blockers. Numerous sporting bodies have preserved fair competition for women. Many gender-critical litigants who suffered for speaking out have been vindicated in the Courts.

However, we are not out of the woods yet. Not by a long way.

We still don’t understand why more young people than ever, particularly young girls and those who are same sex attracted, are presenting with a mental health condition causing them to believe they were born in the wrong body.

There are schools that continue to teach children that it is possible to change their sex. State and non-State institutions alike remain signed up to Stonewall’s biased schemes. Corporations continue to promote and glorify medical transitioning in their advertisements, in shameless pursuit of profit.

Therapeutic bodies continue to push a model of “unconditional affirmation” on clinicians. Private gender clinics continue to encourage vulnerable clients to transition. Those who raise concerns continue to be labelled as bigots and silenced, threatened or cancelled.

I know this only too well – I was expelled from my Masters’ degree in Psychotherapy and removed from my role as a counsellor at Childline – all because I expressed concern about child safeguarding.

Equally, there are those out there who seek to keep us shackled to gender ideology. We witnessed this through the number of NHS clinics which withheld material from the ground-breaking Cass Review. Schools are even being advised by activist groups to ignore the government guidance for children questioning their gender within schools. Clearly, guidance and reviews are simply not enough.

That is why I, along with over 130 prominent signatories, have written to the Prime Minister, demanding a public inquiry into the failure of societal institutions to safeguard children from harm. An inquiry that considers these issues holistically is the only answer to an ideology that has managed to infiltrate an entire society. Crucially, a statutory public inquiry will be able to legally compel evidence and make concrete recommendations to ensure real change is brought about.

This letter has been signed by parliamentarians, clinicians, therapists, lawyers, social workers, detransitioners, academics, journalists, campaigners, and commentators.

Reading the full letter, you may be surprised by some of the names who, under normal circumstances, have nothing in common with one another. Our letter has signatures from across the political spectrum, including Conservatives, Labour, Reform, Green, Social Democratic Party and Alba. That is because this issue is not about left or right. It is about right and wrong.

The stakes could not be higher. Children and young people have been left scarred, emotionally and physically, in the name of gender ideology. Some have been left infertile. Others have lost parts of their bodies that they can never get back.

As a society, we have failed in our duty of care towards children. We must secure justice for those who have been harmed. Crucially, we must ensure that no child again suffers the same fate.

Rishi – If you are reading this. Please do the right thing and set up a public inquiry as a matter of urgency. Our children’s wellbeing depends on it.

[ Via: https://archive.today/TZGoL ]

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docgold13 · 2 years

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365 Marvel Comics Paper Cut-Out SuperHeroes - One Hero, Every Day, All Year…

August 15th - Doc Samson

Leonard Skivorski, Jr. possessed a remarkable genius from a young age. Although he became proficient in numerous branches of science, his true passion was for psychology. He earned a PhD and became a licensed psychotherapist, quickly earning an excellent reputation as a skilled therapist. Leonard liked to keep his hair long and was quite the lady’s man; and somehow this earned him the nickname ‘Samson’ based on the Biblical hero who believed his strength was derived from his long locks.

Alongside his practice as a therapist, Leonard researched The Incredible Hulk and devised a Cathexis Ray projector that he believed could cure Bruce Banner from becoming The Hulk. Leonard was brought in by General Thaddeus Ross when his daughter, Betty, had been transformed into a crystalline form after an encounter with the villainous Sandman. Leaning on his guile as a psychologist, Leonard was able to subdue The Hulk and then used the Cathexis Ray to drain off gamma energies from him. These energies were then utilized to transform Betty back into her human form.

Captivated by the tremendous powers of The Hulk, Leonard exposed himself to the excess gamma energies he had collected. It resulted in his growing twice his size and being bestowed superhuman strength and durability. It additionally caused his hair to turn a shade of green.

He legally changed his name to Leonard ‘Doc’ Samson and became a super hero. Doc Samson would go on to have numerous adventures, often as an ally (and sometimes adversary of The Incredible Hulk). Samson also began a romance with Betty Ross during a time where she and Bruce Banner were no longer involved. Betty ultimately left Samson over to his bitter envy over not being as strong as The Hulk.

Samson would later become the director of the Ravencroft Institute as well as a therapist to numerous costumed heroes. He was later killed in during the Chaos War event. Not long thereafter, Samson returned to life and discovered that his being a gamma mutate connected him to the mysterious Green Door, facilitating a type of regenerative immortality.

Teaming up once more with The Incredible Hulk, Samson investigated The Green Door and the mystical realm of the Below Place that it led to. Samson was once again killed and this time unable to regenerate. Instead his consciousness was transported into the body of the fallen hero known as Sasquatch. This caused Sasquatch to become resurrected into a green furred versioned of itself with Samson’s mind. Now going by ‘Doc Sasquatch’ Samson has become the director of Gamma Flight and led a mission to thwart a sinister scheme by the villainous Abomination.

A version of Leonard Samson features in the Marvel Climatic Universe, appearing in the movie, The Incredible Hulk, and portrayed by actor Ty Burrell. Doc Samson first appeared int he pages of The Incredible Hulk Vol. 1 #141 (1971).

#365 Marvel Comics Heroes #Doc Samson #The Incredible Hulk #Gamma Flight #Ty Burrell #cut-out #paper art #Hulk Week

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chemicalcarousel · 2 years

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is it normal for the host of a system to having attributed your headmates' behavior/thoughts/opinions/ect to yourself before you were made aware of your plurality?

and is it normal for other headmates to having confused themselves as being you, the host, in the past?

(gonna do a "keep reading" for the rest of it, since it became a long rant about my& struggle with our mental health)

ig it's because we just thought that was what being one person was idk we do be a lil stoopid lmao. like... i remember some episodes where levi was close to the front or fronting with me where we were well aware that there was a levi there (name and all), but we thought it was a delusion or we just brushed it off as if it never happened. then we identified as otherkin/fictionkin (since levi is an introject from a fictional source). levi thought he wasn't his own person and he still seems freaked out by the thought of existing and honestly i dont blame him since i find existing freaky too hxkfsfksxs

i thought one of the littles was me doing involuntary age regression as some sort of emotional flashback, but idk my therapist thinks she's a seperate part and ngl it makes more sense. she's much different, but probably based on young me and holds our trauma from that time. i'm personally emotionally distanced to the trauma mostly, but she's the one holding it. every therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist that have met her are extremely surprised how i change so drastically. and they have all commented on how im not in touch with my emotions when i describe my trauma very analytically. but then sometimes "i" start acting like a scared child. i cant control it in any way. i especially cant control my body language, my thoughts, my emotions, and my speech. and after the episode is over i definitely have emotional amnesia. it was a dissociated child part

also the child has a passive influence on me from positive triggers too and it's hard to control that. let's just say we have a lot of plushies lmao but idk they are very cute and the big ones are good for especially the littles to ground and soothe themselves. sometimes hugging one also helps when a little is upset inside of the body. we have a hard time reaching each other inside the headspace, it's like we are lost in an infinite void of darkness where we can sense each other faintly at times, but it's so hard to communicate. but i hugged a big, soft plushie once i felt a little crying and i kept repeating that we are safe and that she's not alone and that we love her. idk why the plushie hugging helped, but my theory is that she might have felt it through our body and hugging that plushie helps her. she didnt seem to be at the front at all, but idk maybe she could still feel it?? idk how this works, my therapist has been very hesitant to help us, even though she's the one who was like "yeah you are three different parts, i've observed them all" (havent told her about lee bc we are scared and he only fronts when we are alone and he can do some activities he likes)

TW // suicidal ideation mention

our therapist is a licenced psychiatrist and psychotherapist who is specialised in mood disorders (we have bipolar), so maybe that's why she's so bad at handling our case. she's like "it's hard to work with your trauma when you're either not in touch with it or you're triggered to the point of closing off from the world". bruh........ we're trying our best here, you're supposed to like.... know what to do. there's a reason that we are here, if we knew how to handle this we wouldn't need therapy wtf. sadly we barely have an income high enough to live off of since we aren't allowed to work yet due to our strong anxiety and s//cidal ideation. also we dont have the right disorders to get disability (only schizo-spec or bpd, denmark is so stupid istfg). hhh life is so hard and we are super split on having hope for the future or not

TW OVER // suicidal ideation mention

anyway, a question turned into a rant (yet again). ig it's because we literally have no one to talk to about this. sorry hhhhgggg

~ Sof (she/he/they)

#pluralgang #actuallyplural #actuallysystem #actuallymultiple #sysblr #pluralblr #headmates #host #system host #yo its sof #ours

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n1ntendos · 1 year

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incredibly obsessed with how i finally got the balls to tell my family doctor about my panic attacks and anxiety issues and she was 1 hour late for the appt, didn’t do a mental health check and i was having a nervous breakdown during the whole ordeal and could barely speak coherently. i tried to prepare for it by writing down what I was going to say but i was even more anxious.

long story short she put me on anti depressants and lorazepam without any fucking assessment and no referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. she said “I only know naturopaths/holistic specialists not psychologists” and gave me a referral to one which I have to call myself to make an appt. I don’t want to take drugs without dealing with the root of my issues???? i also had an mri in Dec about my endo (which she didn’t even believe me when i told her my severe symptoms she just said “everyone has that”) that I cried in the hospital about and had a severe panic attack doing. she told me she was going to refer me to this good gyno who specializes in endo. I’ve been waiting for 2 fcking months. she calls today and says every doctor rejected me. i don’t understand how every doctor rejected me when i have severe endometriosis that’s on my ovaries fillopian tubes and who knows where the fuck else. now she made me an appt with someone else but i don’t even care anymore. i feel terrible and i tried calling a psychotherapist but can’t get through i just feel hopeless

#this is a long post i’m sorry but i just needed to vent i want to throw up #and i have class soon and i don’t want to go i literally don’t fucking care

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strozzaprete · 2 years

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this year:

> 95% of my friends moved to different countries. the 3 ones remaining live an hour away from me

> i spent a year living with a man who would verbally harass me and emotionally manipulate me into staying at home with him 24/7 and also broke the kitchen table with his fists and headbutted me in the nose once

> i broke off the relationship but decided to give him one last chance because he "apologized truthfully" and literally begged me to get back together, just to have him come to my house and dump me a week later, his excuse being that i was too independent and wanted to live alone for a while before moving back together with him

> i found out 4 months later that in that week he actually cheated on me with his best friend because they're in a relationship now and he basically admitted to me that he cheated, because me saying that i wanted to get back together but that i wanted to take it slow meant that i "figured that we might as well just keep fucking"

> i moved back in with my mom and brother who immediately started bullying me, saying that i'm the reason the relationship ended, calling me crazy and retarded (as of today also a parasite), because 1) i asked my mom to stop interrupting me in the middle of every sentence and 2) i asked my brother to not step on a sticky stain on the floor with his shoes on

> EDIT: the sticky shoes situation lead to my brother verbally abusing me, pushing me, slapping me, locking me out of our room at night, locking the front door so i can't leave the house, leaving his piss and shit in the toilet for me to find every morning, and one episode in which he slammed the bathroom door open while i was in there crying and yelling at him to stop yelling insults at me (i tried putting a key a while ago but my mom keeps taking it and hiding it), as i was trying to push him out of the bathroom he smiled and said "you're not stronger than me", and pushed me back so hard i hit the wall and almost fell on the floor

> EDIT (forgot to mention): i told my mom that it was very traumatic for me as a 12 year old to be dragged by my hair on the balcony so she could beat me in front of everyone and she told me "it never happened" and "if it happened i don't remember"

> i tried therapy again but erroneously went to a psychotherapist instead of a psychologist and after i told her all of this she literally told me that she wanted to put me on meds on our first and only session "to fix" my "propensity for crying"

> i got hired at the same job i had last year but with less than half of the workload thus less than half of the pay

> lost 15 kg in 4 months and like 50% of my hair

but according to my mom it's my fault because i have a DARK AURA :)

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fountainattheforkedroad · 1 year

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The Fountain: Queen of Cups and Cancer.

The day I decided to move here to tumblr and I drew two cards as my daily draw. The first one is Queen of Cups and the other one is The Lovers. When the huge Twitter migration began, these two cards seem to tell me to move too, because it tells me to make a decision (The Lovers) about home (Queen of Cups = Cancer). Funnily enough, even though I don’t use twitter so often after I finish my PhD, I still see it as my new home. I have started to actively use it since I began my PhD, because most scholars were there, and people there give me new ideas for my academic works. I don’t think Twitter will end, but it wouldn’t look as good. That’s why I establish this Fountain at the Forked Road. Fountain refers to The Queen herself, while The Forked Road refers to The Lovers, which, for me, means decision-making and analysis. It can mean love too, but it’s like you’ll just meet someone. It can be very romantic, but it can be a beginning of realisation of the outside world, of someone different from you.

(The Rider-Waite-Smith Queen of Cups)

Queen of Cups is called the fountain by me just because it is related to Cancer, the cardinal water sign, the watery sign which begins summer. I thus see Cancer as a natural spring or a fountain, where water begins to flow. Cancer is mostly associated with home and homeliness. I hate it when I read in some old astrology books which consider Cancer a cry-baby and, worse, weakling. I do agree with Alice Sparkly Kat, who argues that such readings of Cancer as a weakling, a cry-baby, and even a housewife is misogynist. There is no problem with crying, and crying does not suggest weakness. Also, home-making is what everyone does, despite their gender and sexuality, and home-making is hard work, and yet it does not get much serious attention in the male-dominated capitalist world. It is, however, a part of the horrendous scheme which capitalist patriarchy exploits women by seeing them as inborn housewife and mother, and thus there is no need to see home-making as a job or even a task.

(Two Crabs by Van Gogh) Queen of Cups is also about feeling and emotions, which also associate with Cancer. Cancer can be moody and emotional, but does that mean they are weak? They can be fickle, but are they weak? Some Cancers can reflect on their emotions and because of their sensitivity, can see emotional diversity. (Yet, not all of them can explain them quite well. It depends on the location of their Mercury too.) Elementally, the Queen of Cups is called Water of Water. She knows and ponders about everybody’s emotions, including her own. Some see her as a counselor, a family counselor, a psychologist, a psychotherapist. The trick with all court cards is it does not just represent a person, it might represent an action. You might probe into your emotions more today. You might something emotionally appealing on that day. You might find something to make yourself content today. I drew her just twice this year, and she always gave me food, feasting, and meeting best friends. (Cancer, some say, loves food, as well as Taurus.) The Queen knows how to provide and share.

(The Wedding at Cana by Paolo Veronese)

Some see the queen cards as containers and receivers. She receive the divine power from the King. She contains such power and sometimes reflect back like a mirror. She’s the water which reflects and keeps. That requires a lot of power. Imagine a pregnant mother. How strong pregnant women are. Thus, she contains emotions, and might even hide her emotions. She can be moody sometimes, but that’s because of her sensitivity.

Court cards are complicated because each is related to three (and more) minor card. (In the case of the Page/ Princess, it is related to every elemental card, according to their pips.) Queen of Cups might be associated with Cancer, only because two of the minor cards are related to Cancer. Queen of Cups are associated with Ten of Swords, Two of Cups, and Three of Cups. T Susan Chang calls the first card of any court cards “the shadow decan”, somewhere that particular courtier decides to move away from. Queens move away from the 10, and Queen of Cups move away from 10S, Lord of Ruins, in order to draw in love (2C) and abundance (3C). She gives birth, and she has her walled garden of riches (3C) to keep us comfortably inside. Court cards are complicated because they show three actions. The Queen of Cups moves away from ruins and disasters, and begin her new life and in her new garden. She knows deaths as well as lives. She knows how body lives, moving, wriggling, and playing. We can learn from the queen the vulnerability of lives, the importance of relations and refugia.

(The Rider-Waite-Smith Three of Cups)

I hope this blog is a fountain for lives seeking refuge in this crazy times, where refuges are hard to find. I hope this blog gives you spiritual inspiration as well as energy to live in this horrible world. I am not such a morally good person, but at least I hope this blog help you and me to survive the horror. Cry if you want to. It’s fine. Let’s create our new home together.

#tarot #tarot cards #tarot community #queen of cups #three of cups #court cards #Cancer #astrology

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darkne1t · 1 year

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«I no longer control my thoughts and my body...»

The madness of depression.

Due to the full-scale russian invasion of my country, the pharmacies could not get medicine. So I had to stop taking my antidepressants. Due to the lack of medication and the horrors of the war, my mental disorder progressed rapidly. In the fall, I learned what true madness is. I never thought that depression could be so terrible...

I don't remember the horror well because I have memory problems due to depression. I don't know how to describe this experience. I was losing control of depression, depression was controlling me. It controlled not only my thoughts but also my body. I was losing control over my own consciousness. It was very scary. It seemed to me that soon I would lose my adequacy forever, and therefore I must urgently kill myself before it was too late...

Because of the war, my psychotherapist left the country. And the surrounding people considered depression to be fiction. I couldn't even tell anyone about this horror, because they just laughed at me. I was completely alone. I pretended that everything was fine with me so that people would not insult me. And she secretly went crazy, beat herself, beat walls and doors when no one was home. This madness weighed on me physically. I was ready to go to a mental hospital, just save me or kill me! But finding a mental hospital in my small town turned out to be impossible for me. I called the hospital, asked for a psychiatrist, but they offered me a psychologist... This only intensified my desire to die.

I am still alive only because of the fear of pain that prevents me from killing myself. I was able to find a psychiatrist online. Thanks to people on the Internet, they collected funds for my treatment, because I lost my ability to work and cannot earn money now. It is now the second month of treatment for depression. I was sad that I still had no strength, it seemed to me that there was little progress. And then I remembered what happened before the resumption of treatment. I have had no more bouts of insanity this month. I didn't even cry. And I realized that the progress is really great.

In this art, I wanted to convey this terrible experience. Because I don't know how to describe it in words. I used to convey everything through pictures. Probably only people who have experienced something similar will understand this.

In the art is my character, who also has depression. A year ago, I wanted to create a comic about the adventures of a broken character to show that depressed people can also have happy moments and interesting adventures. Unfortunately, due to the russian attack and the deepening depression, I don't know if I will be able to implement this idea. Maybe a rocket will kill me tomorrow. Maybe depression will win and I will lose myself forever. But while I am alive and can think adequately, I try to survive and achieve my dreams. I hope I will have time to implement my creative plans.

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valentinagarridos · 2 years

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the queen bee— valentina garrido

Welcome to Coolsville, the best little small town in Ohio.

…except for right now, but that’s not really VALENTINA GARRIDO’S ( ALEXA DEMIE ) fault, is it? Known as the QUEEN BEE around town, SHE is just your friendly neighborhood MAYORAL SECRETARY. Sure she can be SELF-SERVING and DOMINEERING, but she can also be INVENTIVE and RESOLUTE just like any other 24 year old. That doesn’t mean she has anything to do with our string of recent chilling events, though… right?

book currently sitting at the bottom of her bag: little weirds by jenny slate yearbook senior superlative(s): most likely to succeed, best facial expressions ( ? ) current quote: "you look unapproachable," and yet here you are...approaching me tv parallels: fallon carrington ( dynasty ), blair waldorf ( gossip girl ) current brands she's loving: miaou, sau lee, nodaleto, shushu/tong, moda operandi

full name: valentina isabel garrido-vidal age: twenty-four ( born march 4th, 1998 ) zodiac: pisces sun, sag moon, aquarius mercury occupation & goals: mayoral secretary and mayor to-be sexuality: extremely repressed bisexual

001. the Garrido silver spoon was Valentina’s most prized accessory; she once thought her life would fall apart if not for the riches that her lineage had hoarded like some mythical dragon. Val was young and naive at the time, and the prospect of losing her wealth was superficial ( goodbye trips to Paris ). she didn’t know then that money was also the one thing keeping her family together ( or maybe it was the one thing that had created the distance between them ). still, she is her mother’s daughter, and has blossomed into the socialite she was predestined to become ( terrible attitude, overcrowded wardrobe, wine problem and all ). sometimes she wonders what would have become of her in another life, and then proceeds to laugh at the thought. this, is who she is.

002. when she was about fifteen or sixteen, her mother had gone through a particularly annoying phase— at the time, the woman felt that therapy was in season, and she’d dragged her husband and children to some well-known family psychologist outside of Coolsville. the six of them would sit in close proximity for an hour and refuse to voice any true self-analysis, though her mother would prompt otherwise. soon enough the woman would move on to something else ( translation: she was no longer interested in their psychotherapists pontifications ), and her husband’s schedule would become too crowded for their biweekly outings. good riddance, she’d thought then, the whole ordeal was suffocating. if she projected her anger outwards, it was her own prerogative.

003. though Valentina Isabel is the eldest daughter, she’d often feel as if her presence were dwarfed by the younger sons. their successes overshadowed hers, though she constantly exerted more effort ( in her opinion, at least ); still, her mother would tell Valentina that she should strive to be like the boys: kinder, smarter, more charming. how could she hope to follow in her father’s footsteps if she so easily stumbled? the woman would have a smile on her face as she’d criticized her daughter, and while she’d say that her harsh words were meant to strengthen Valentina ( and they did ), they’d also create a gargantuan distance between the two. Val would go as far as to say that Cecilia hated her, but she just didn’t love Valentina in a way she could understand.

004. her father was absent, for the most part. he was there when it mattered, when public opinion needed a push in the right direction, and who doesn’t love a family man? the mayor was well-versed in parenthood when the cameras were present, but in the comfort of his own home he withdrew into himself; Arturo didn’t ever want this life, nor this marriage, nor the children that inevitably came with it. if you asked Valentina, she’d say that the man tried his best ( not that she’d voice anything that could sour his reputation ) but in the pages of her diary she promised that she would become everything he could never be. funny then that she’d become a salient, though more bitter, version of the man. it was all she knew, after all, all she could replicate in her emptiness.

005. riches and privilege aside, Valentina Isabel is an extremely hard worker ( and she’ll die on that hill ). she’s always been extremely studious, determined ( translation: stubborn ), and cunning in her pursuits. a slytherin through and through. her own father had never promised her any of the tertiary things in life, like his mayoral seat, and made sure his eldest knew that she’d have to work for it. her childhood and adolescence were filled with extracurricular activities, weekends blocked off for studying, and the girl wasn’t above bullying her way into the role of class president. her life played out as one never ending resume, and she seldom had time for anything else. truly, she’s never even stopped to smell the roses and barely smells the coffee before emptying the cup.

006. she’d always risen with the sun, stirring when the morning light seeped through the soft gossamer of her curtains. a habit that Valentina formed at a young age in her harried attempts to get away from the Garrido estate before her mother and father rose from slumber. they were rushed mornings where she’d go through the motions as if on autopilot, draping her form in whatever expensive garment she had chosen the night prior. how she always managed to leave the home in pristine condition, you’d never know…but she’d never let you see her with a hair out of place. now she’s living on her own, but she’s still kept the same gossamer curtains and wakes as soon as the sun is over the horizon; she wonders when the haste will dissipate from her bones.

007. the thought haunts her now, but Valentina always thought she’d go to an Ivy League ( maybe Cornell or Princeton; she’d liked Columbia too ), instead she had to settle for online classes from Kenyon College. she supposes it makes sense in the grand scheme of things, but if she had really thought about it in high school she’d have been a little nicer to the people she had so liberally considered plebes? i mean, maybe they weren’t really beneath her, but at the time ( even now ) Valentina is of the mindset that those who don’t serve a purpose in her journey to the top, don’t deserve a moment of her time. it’s seriously biting her in the ass, and she’s going to have to go on a whole PR campaign in order to keep the mayoral seat in the family.

008. her edges are hard, sharp and jagged, but Valentina’s father thinks that she can be soft like the gossamer that fills her bedroom; diaphanous almost. and it’s all wishful thinking. if the man had been present for more than her dances, he’d know. nothing like that could grow without the proper nurture. still, she thinks she loves her brothers, in her own way. behind her cutting words and overall bitchy disposition. she thinks she loves her mother and father, though the former claims that Valentina never shows it, but she is not accustomed to softness; wouldn’t even know how to begin to sand down her hardened skin ( like intrusive igneous rock, if she had to make comparisons ). Valentina Garrido cannot be soft ( ? ) but she knows how to be efficient.

009. at the moment, she’s working for her father; it’s rightfully seen as one more product of nepotism, but the man is truly making his daughter work. if she thought she’d sit idle in her little office as the days went by she would have been wrong; as such it's a good thing she didn’t. and really she likes the work, thinks that she can live this life. she’d easily state that whatever loneliness has permeated her life is worth its weight in gold; Valentina doesn’t think she’d trade these days for friends, though she may have to in order to secure her future. it’s a shame that she’ll have to break her routine: hours of overtime attached to her laptop, planners and notebooks filled to the brim with meeting notes, campaign references and study materials. indeed, there’s no rest for the wicked.

010. the title of ‘Queen Bee’ didn’t come from Valentina’s ability to work well in groups ( let alone, make friends ). she is a perfect product of her environment and still thinks, to this day, that she knows best; that her intuition is dogma; that she is the most important person in the room. she’s always had to be, lest she fall behind and disappoint those in the Garrido family that came before her. there is nothing she fears more than the looming possibility of inadequacy, of being average. and there is nothing more she detests than group work with individuals who are not on her level; because she is not soft like gossamer and her father is wrong in believing that she can be anything but that bitchy girl that hasn’t shed a tear since he’d begun his run as an absentee.

&&. you're trying to hold a conversation with her but this workaholic is actually juggling two phones at any given time. she's 'certainly' listening and retaining information but you're gonna have to wait your turn for an answer.

&&. has she been on her feet all day? oui. is she going to take off the chanel pumps? not a chance in hell. anyhow, it's nobody's business and she's worn them enough that they've started to feel comfortable. besides all of that, she's driving everywhere.

&&. she'd certainly be a dog person if they didn't require so much attention, but she really doesn't have the time or mental bandwidth to spare. valentina will just stick to the goldfish her younger brother gifted her and call it a day.

&&. for the first twenty years of her life, valentina didn't cook a single meal. and following that she'd burn water, so she's currently on the 'cooking-subscription-for-dummies' era of her life, but still orders most of her meals.

&&. has a big thing for candles, scented and lightly-scented; she tends to light her candles and then as they melt, she’ll pour the candle-wax into these small glass jars that she’s attached a wick to…this results in lots and lots of franken-candles.

&&. she takes very good care of her nails; her mother had instilled in her that a woman is perceived from head to toe at all times, there's never a chip in the lacquer. she alternates colors about once a week and always matches fingers and toes.

&&. lowkey collects novelty mugs. she likes going to crate & barrel and going through the home isle, and most of her cupboards are filled with quirky ceramics. would have picked it up as a hobby in another life, but there's really no time for any of that.

&&. grew up with this schedule: preparatory classes on saturdays and sundays; violin and piano on mondays; ballet on wednesdays and fridays— with tuesdays and thursdays being reserved for “ interdisciplinary self-study, ” and after-school.

&&. thinks that online school stains her exemplary track record, but her father believed she'd have to start gaining "experience" as soon as possible; she feels like she's doing most of the work he doesn't want to handle but takes it in stride.

&&. spent a few summers in france with her extended family, and is annoying enough where she wont let anyone forget it. if she inserts some useless french word into the conversation, it's better to just ignore it unless you want to derail the conversation.

— and more to come!!

#&&. the queen bee #mysteryintro

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Who is India's No 1 psychologist?

Introduction:

India, a country known for its rich cultural diversity and deep-rooted traditions, is also home to a growing community of mental health professionals. In recent years, the field of psychology has gained prominence, with numerous talented psychologists making significant contributions. While it's challenging to definitively crown a single individual as India's No. 1 psychologist, we can explore some of the leading figures who have earned recognition for their outstanding work in the field.

The Best Psychologist in India:

It's important to note that the keyword of "best psychologist in india" can be subjective and may vary depending on various factors such as specialization, contributions, and impact. Here, we introduce you to some of the prominent psychologists who have made significant contributions to the field of psychology in India:

1. Dr. Alok Sarin:

Specialization: Clinical Psychology

Dr. Alok Sarin is a renowned clinical psychologist and psychiatrist known for his work in mental health awareness and advocacy. He co-authored the book "Rendezvous With Rebels," which explores the psychosocial aspects of insurgency in India.

His commitment to destigmatizing mental health issues and his research on trauma and conflict make him a significant figure in the field.

2. Dr. Anjali Chhabria:

Specialization: Clinical Psychology

Dr. Anjali Chhabria is a well-known psychiatrist and psychotherapist with a focus on stress management and emotional well-being. She is the founder of Mindtemple, a mental health center in Mumbai.

Dr. Chhabria's work in promoting mental health awareness, her contributions to therapy, and her appearances in the media have earned her recognition.

3. Dr. Shekhar Seshadri:

Specialization: Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Dr. Shekhar Seshadri is a leading child and adolescent psychiatrist known for his work in child mental health. He is a professor at the National Institute of Advanced Studies and has contributed significantly to research in this field.

His expertise in understanding and addressing the mental health needs of children and adolescents has made him a prominent figure in Indian psychology.

4. Dr. Samir Parikh:

Specialization: Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Dr. Samir Parikh is a renowned child and adolescent psychiatrist who has played a pivotal role in promoting mental health awareness among children and teenagers in India.

He is known for his advocacy, educational initiatives, and contributions to research on child and adolescent mental health.

5. Dr. Shyam Bhat:

Specialization: Integrative Medicine and Psychiatry

Dr. Shyam Bhat is recognized for his innovative approach to mental health, combining elements of conventional psychiatry with complementary therapies.

His holistic approach to mental health and his work in promoting wellness and resilience have garnered attention in the field.

6. Dr. Harish Shetty:

Specialization: Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Dr. Harish Shetty is a well-respected child and adolescent psychiatrist known for his dedication to the mental health of children and adolescents in India.

His work in providing mental health support to schools, colleges, and communities has made a significant impact on the well-being of young people.

7. Dr. Ratna Sharma:

Specialization: Clinical Psychology

Dr. Ratna Sharma is a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in the assessment and treatment of various psychological disorders.

Her contributions to psychological assessment and therapy have earned her recognition in the field.

8. Dr. Kamna Chhibber:

Specialization: Clinical Psychology

Dr. Kamna Chhibber is a clinical psychologist and mental health counselor known for her work in addressing issues related to anxiety, stress, and emotional well-being.

Her contributions through workshops, publications, and media appearances have made her a prominent figure in mental health advocacy.

Conclusion:

Identifying a single psychologist as "India's No. 1 psychologist" is a challenging task, as the field of psychology is vast and diverse. Each of the psychologists mentioned above has made valuable contributions to mental health awareness, therapy, research, and advocacy.

Ultimately, the best psychologist in India may vary depending on individual needs and preferences. When seeking psychological support or therapy, it's essential to consider factors such as specialization, approach, and the therapist's compatibility with your specific concerns.

Remember that the field of psychology continues to evolve, with numerous dedicated professionals working tirelessly to improve mental health and well-being in India. The most important aspect of seeking psychological support is finding a qualified and empathetic therapist who can provide the help and guidance you need on your mental health journey.

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