#and then she tries to guilt trip me

[quiiescenza]

My mother: complains about being always home and never doing anything ever, crying every time she calls me and yelling at my dad and brother because it's their fault she never leaves the house or do cool things

Me: let's go there

Her: no

Me: let's do this

Her: no

Me: let's watch a movie, eat a pizza, go to X city, hang out, visit a friend or a relative, go for a walk, let's go to the beautician or hairdresser, let me give you a massage and paint your nails, let's find a nice handbag for you, let's go grocery shopping, idk we can go to the sea or I can buy tickets so you can go and see your friend who lives far away and I'm coming with you, let's do whatever you want

Her: no fuck you, why do you insist on making me do things or go out of the house

#p #i am... tired #and then she tries to guilt trip me #honestly she can fuck off #she creates problems #like told her to go to x place by train #so i dont have to drive since she doesn't trust my driving skills #and I won't go crazy finding a parking spot #well #she complains about taking the fucking train #i s2fg

[yourfavisanmspeclesbian]

emily gwen may hate mspec lesbians and insist that we never use her flag becasue we're "not lesbians" but whether you use an alternative lesbian flag (because... who could blame you) or use hers out of spite, this pride i want to remind all mspec lesbians that we ARE lesbians. no matter what the fuck anyone else says. we know ourselves better than the gender cops, we understand our complex identities, we are the only ones who get to label it, and what labels to choose. fuck anyone who says otherwise.

if the flag is for all lesbians, then those of us who like it are going to use it. we count. we are lesbians.

#mod ash #and do you know what? #there is a reason i make pink-orange lesbian keychains. i am a poor trans lesbian. #a bi lesbian? yes (also asexual! and i don't think i owe her forgiveness for the aphobia) #but if even 1 person tries to guilt trip me about making money off her design i don't fucking care #thanks mod jay for reminding me to log on and go off about this a little #i mean you all know pride flags are not sacred right? gilbert baker had pseudonationalist goals in making the rainbow flag #obviously doesn't make the rainbow flag evil or whatever just like... #flags are not sacred and if they all disappeared tomorrow we'd still be queer #like sorry that she's struggling but i am also struggling and starving

[dumb-doll-lips]

I don’t know enough people to ask, but if you’re a woman maybe around early to mid 30s, how often do you talk to your mom? Like idk what range of answers even make sense for a survey, surveys feel more fun. I’m sick of feeling like such a bad guy bc i don’t want to talk everyday and would like more space.

#my mom said she was about to drop by my place unannounced bc I didn’t answer her calls until later and I texted her back the day before #but she was worried something happened to me #I just got major guilt tripped about not talking to her much and I’ve been on phone calls w her the past two days #I do also think it’s a bit of a gendered issue when looking at it #that’s why I said women #but maybe I’m wrong #just every guy I’ve been closer w usually has an issue w how involved my mom tries to be #so feels like their experiences have been a lot different than mine #I also made the maube mistake of telling her I’m dating some a little while ago #it’s not something I like want to talk about much w her ever #but she was so busy worrying I’m depressed and not doing anything #but now I get so many questions there #and she’s worrying I think even more #ughhh

[09lover]

my reaction after ()’s attempt to gaslight me for the uncountable time into trying to repair this broken relationship that they ruined

#es talks #no because why………… #you ended it i didnt do… anything…. (head in hands in disappointment) #story time here.. click for more if u wanna read..? #ill call them (). one day they texted me about our friend who ill call koru who unfollowed(?) them on twt because they kept #commenting (more of in a critical way..) about how their art was missing fingers despite it being drawn correctly. so they tried to somewhat #force me to stop talking to koru and shit talks about them to me…. which i still remained in contact with koru and told them everything #so we stayed as besties and eventually () came by to visit me and eventually found out i was still friends with koru then decided to throw a #temper tantrum and ignore me to the point their mother had to get involved… which still didnt work out after their mother helping us 3 times #then our … like 4 years or longer relationship just went down the drain… all because of that. #unfriended me and also started shit talking me to their friends then just yesterday which i found out today #<- discord btw -> she then sent me multiple messages in some gcs we were in… calling me disgusting & said i shouldnt ignore wtf i did in #an attempt to gaslight me thinking what i did was gen wrong and also guilt tripping me to crawl back to her to beg and apologize as i always #do… but i just had enough ehfjejdje #well ill most likely delete this later just needed to get this out of my system!

[haruhar-u]

my mother wants me dead /hj

#She tried to gaslit me #Played the victim #Screamed at me until I was in tears #Tried to guilt trip me by saying I don’t care about her anymore #And then tried to lock me out of the house #And said she doesn’t care if I freeze

[vroomian]

People are like oh I feel bad for the 19 year old dragged on the trip but holy fuck there’s gotta be a point where you’re adult enough for common sense to kick in

#if my mom tried to guilt me into that death trap tin can at 19 #not only would I have said fuck no I would’ve knocked her out and stashed her somewhere until she missed the damn trip!!! #vrrm vrrm #oceangate #so stupid #zero common sense zero empathy from me sorry #fuck around and find out I guess 🤷‍♀️

[xamaxenta]

AH FUCK i hate having trauma and having it so viciously triggered by something “small” and the fsct it was my gf who triggered me and stuff makes it worse

#as much as i love her #shes never really understood #my childhood and what it felt like having narcissistic overbearing parents who wanted too much from me and tried to restrain me with #opinions and guilt tripping passive aggressiveness and subtext #i also hate the word trigger but thats what happened #she doesn’t understand idk

[the-silli3st-girl-in-the-world]

got paid only 200 for this week, have a phone bill due today and my mom walks in asking for 100. My suspicions are now confirmed that she's the one who leaves me broke man.

#entry.txt #and then she tries to guilt trip me into doing it #like i only ever ask for 5 or maybe 10 dollars to go eat and there are times that i don't got it #but i never ask that much #like my plans are all ruined cause of her constant debt #and when my dad comes and asks why do you never have enough #they take my card with little money and go on a shopping spree #or i use if for gas #or my mom asks for money out of the blue #like i stopped doordashing to save up #and im still broke #i dont save my card on subscriptiona #so... it really is hwr

[pondering-gales-left-orb]

Guess what people stardew valley won over productivity today again

#and i say productivity but i mean doing other hobbies #in my days off i only do hobbies u cannot get me to do anything els no matter how hard you plead and belive me my boss tried #she lost a client because she tried to guilt trip me into working on my days off instead of finding anyone els to do it and bitch no amount #of guilt tripping will stop me from playing my little farmer and my bg3 paladin in short : Rot #<- me to my boss

[portablenetworkgraphic]

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#mom says that the reason she didnt comfort me while i was having one of the biggest meltdowns of my life was cus i wouldnt tell her what was #wrong and i clearly was capable #like i hate to tell you but just because im technically capable doesnt mean i can communicate easily #im too upset to be able to communicate my thoughts to you about why im upset #she literally told me that its annoying when i cry and scream without telling her whats wrong #she said and i quote I could ask anyone in the world and all of them would be annoyed by this #she said if i just said Sorry i cant calm down i cant talk right now that would be fine like hello? is that not fucking obvious? #i said wouldnt this (being a more concerning thing) make you more sympathetic and she said no it just makes me more annoyed and this is the #normal response #she said even when normal people are throwing up and retching they can communicate whats wrong #that im just pretending to not be able to talk to her to manipulate her and that im being disrespectful by intentionally getting louder and #more disruptive #my parents are convinced i do things on purpose to guilt trip them all the time and i dont understand it because theyve known me for #my whole life and thats the most out of character thing i could ever possibly do but they wont even consider that im not doing that #i asked her why she didnt believe me when i said i wasnt manipulating her and she said I do believe you! when did i ever say i didnt #i dont understand. shes convinced that every normal person behaves like her #and the worst of it is i know shes trying her best and yet still refuses to acknowledge the fact that #I DONT FUCKING MAKE MYSELF MORE MISERABLE ON PURPOSE! #she doesnt seem to understand that overreaction can be conscious and still unavoidable #like yes its not like if i tried i absolutely couldnt calm down and talk to you #but thats not helpful! i dont WANT to try because i am screaming so hard that mythroat will be sore for an entire day! #because i am upset! #i am too upset to care that i can tecxhnically stop #i just dont understand why its so hard to believe im not manipulating her when im genuinely upset #i dont understand why she looks at me like a loose screw. something annoying but not something worth fixing #its always bad enough to warrant anger and never bad enough to warrant a solution #because im crazy but im fine and im not disabled at all

[eliseliedl]

my disappointment is immeasureable

#this is about h*llena taylor #THIS WOMAN... the audacity she has is fucking incredible #the way she lied so shamelessly knowing damn well nothing she was saying was true #and encouraged the fans who have been waiting for YEARS to boycott the game #because PG couldn't pay her the ridiculous amount of money the greedy bitch wanted #PEOPLE CANCELLED THEIR PREORDERS OVER THIS #because she played the victim so well and tried to guilt trip ppl by saying you aren't true Bayonetta fans if u don't support ME #who the fuck does she think she is holy shit #i hate that i tried to defend her all this time #i wasn't about to cancel my preorder just cause she said so but i did try to take her side #and even after being publicly exposed as the fucking liar she is SHE STILL WANTS US TO BOYCOTT THE GAME #GIRL FUCK YOU like full offense you are a terrible person the Bayonetta franchise gave you everything????? #it's quite literally her only role and she was so ready to throw the games under the bus out of spite #she's so childish and immature i'm genuinely still so shocked #i mean how were we supposed to know she was lying she broke her contract ALL to make the game flop #imagine going to such lengths. you literally ruined your career for such petty thing #i hate her so much rn. the last thing this franchise needed is another fucking controversy #all my support to jennifer hale who had to even deal with h*llena talking shit about her bc she took 'her' role #i mean bitch what did you expect!! PG tried to keep you in the role all they could but nope. you had to ask for more #A LOT MORE #ugh. anyway glad the truth is out #i did think the timing was too perfect and the way she spoke about jennifer was despicable but man......... she really lied about everything #what a snob #delete later

[mejomonster]

Enforcing boundaries has only been a positive since learning and practicing. Every relationship that’s good for my life remains good or gets even better, every relationship that’s hurt me either improves or falls away either way leaving a lot of relief and life just becomes a lot less stressful. If you worry you take care of others and forget yourself and don’t want to say no to people even when doing so would help you feel better, if you feel guilty a lot in life over a lot of things, i really think boundaries would help. i promise the good relationships in life will only continue to be good or become better, and the ones that hurt will stop and it will feel better in the long run. 

this article might help but there’s honestly a plethora of info, find explanations that are helpful for you

#rant #anxiety #i know maybe only 1 person will see this who might need it but really. if u do need it. try it #i used to feel guilty and hate myself for just ADMITTING to a friend i had a bad day instead of a good day #which was not healthy for me. and it also didn't help my friends. i THOUGHT it did (hiding pain from them) but friends WANT to know #how you really are and help you the way you help them. #honest communication and honest boundary setting go a LONG way to make good relationships a million times better #and make pained ones either stop hurting or stop being connections in ur life. #if a boundary ruins something then really that thing ruined is probably something that hurt you. #i had a situation with my mom of lifelong codependency. you know how it is lol. i had to go low/no contact #i decided eventually when i was strong enough to accept her anger or disowning me. that i'd set boundaries. #id decided i would NOT let her scream at me or hit me. if she did then i would NOT talk to her. #and it was scary. she did yell. and i had to enforce my boundaries and stop talking to her and not go to her house if she did. #but ultimately you know? she apologized to me. she wanted to be in my life badly enough to stop yelling at me. she has not yelled at me in #over 2 years now. she has not tried to guilt trip me (call me a selfish bitch/horrible person/accuse me of wanting her dead etc) in 1.5 year #because when she did start doing that i'd stop engaging and enforce my boundaries. im not talking to people who treat me that way. #it is absolutely mindboggling to me. that now i can call my mom and Actually ask for help. that i can feel even 70% certain #she wont say something so cruel i end up feeling suicidal. #its absolutely mindblowing i can call her for help now. i can rely on her and even somewhat trust her now. #i can say i love you on the phone and know i mean it now. know i don't hate her now. #because i Let myself hate her. i let myself hate the cruel things she did and i decided i wasn't #going to be in her life if she did them. and she decided she cared about me enough to Stop doing them. #it was also good for her. because back in my guilt state i felt she couldnt fend without me (i know i was wrong lol) #but when i stopped dropping everything for her? she learned to reach out to friends and form a support network #she learned to ask for help respectfully to people. to do things on her own that she could. to TALK to her other loved ones #when sad instead of bottling it until she wanted to die and yelling at others. she started some self work for her own mental health. #not because i told her or tried codependently to push her to help herself. no. she did it because the consequences of her actions happened. #she was cruel to her kid so her kid didn't let her be. and she wanted to be with her kid so she worked on changing. #shes still working on it but i am still honestly shocked. id been prepared to never see her again if it had to happen after boundaries. #i had abusive romantic relationships and. none of them would've changed to be better for me. they would've left me

[crabussy]

hmmmm my trauma wasnt bad enough was it

#can I even call it trauma #I’m exaggerating it aren’t I #is it even bad enough for me to develop osdd. Am I even part of a system. #I don’t want to believe that I’m a system I don’t want to be part of a system but even then how could what I went through cause my #consciousness to diverge into 24 fucking individuals #I wasn’t assaulted I had a good home life #she was just a Reall Bad Friend #fucking hell we were both 9 years old is a 9 year old even capable of manipulating #am I villianizing my childhood friend #she would crack awful jokes at my expense and spread rumours behind my back and make sure I had no friends other than her #and she made sure I knew that without her I would be alone #and she would guilt trip and gaslight me into thinking I was a shitty friend no matter how hard I tried to be good to her #we were fucking primary school aged. from 5 till 10 years old this went on #there’s no way. there’s no way a child could be that malicious #my last therapist was right my brain is probably making up all these memories in order to make me pity myself #god. fuck #vent #do not reblog under any circumstances #replies and likes are okay. #robin shut the fuck up challenge #<- if you don’t want to see my vents please block this tag

[skeilig]

not to always state fair post but I have like 12 different volunteers who each work one 4 hour shift and I overlapped with this one woman for literally 1 hour today and she was driving me so insane she kept telling me things I needed to change about our exhibit and when I gave her the "we've been doing it this way for 5 years it's fine" runaround she told me I'm the reason why systemic change doesn't happen lmfao??? So then I told her listen lady I am so burnt out from doing the fair for 5 years with barely any real help so THAT'S why systemic change doesn't happen and then she said oh I didn't know that and offered to call my boss and tell him I'm doing a good job KFHSKGJA girl thanks but he knows

#ok i tried to post this from the bus on my way home and tumblr ate it for a while but now it did post! yay #anyway she showed up with such a terrible attitude i was trying to give her the quick on the ground training and #she was like 'oh i'm not good with technology i'll just talk to people i'm a people person' #so then for the next hour she proceeded to scare people off by being a pushy freak and didnt help ME with anything #and then was like 'why aren't people signing up????' as if it's something i was doing #when i was about to leave i was like anna.. i'm going to train you in on this whether you like it or not bc #i need you to know how to actually run this booth in case the other staff person who's taking over for me has to idk go to the bathroom!! #and that's when we got in our little fight that ended with me guilt tripping her so bad that i won the fight #my specialty

[homosexualmorelikehomiesexual]

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#i love how the one supportive cis family member i have got me a fucking h*rry p*tter shirt #and now i feel like a dick bc i dont want to be the asshole thats picky about presents but oh my god i hate getting presents from cishets #and like i know im gonn have to say something to her about it but idk how #esp bc i havent talked to her in a while and last time she texted me it was bc my dad was using her to guilt trip me into texting him back #when the whole fucing reason im not talking to him is because hes a fucking creep who tried to groom my my whole adolescence #but i cant exactly say that!! out loud!!! to my sister!!!! without putting her in a Position!!! #not to mention he literally. Has a sex offender charge so my famils whole personality is defending his innocence #and shell side with me to a point but. i dont want to push it and open up old wounds of How Dare You Put Dear Old Dad Through This #and just. fucking. the wizard nazi merch. on top of all of this. really #like theres only so much negative things i can say in a phone call before itll ruin the whole vibe #and on christmas no less #its gonna be hard enough talking about this i dont need another thing to make me sound like an asshole #finnposting #personal #vent

[eroguru]

i know i reblog losts of post like "omg i want a crazy obsessive gf" but let me tell you want nothing to do with actually bat-shit insane people, you will try to help them and they will try to fuck your life up

some people are beyond your help and you should not feel responsible for them

#text post #some extremely mentally ill girl was fixated on me #and if i wasn't giving her all of my attention she would post suicidal things on her ig story #and she did some mildly annoying things like when i would talk to someone she would just butt in and would start talking #and would ignore the other person and would just talk about a topic that isn't relevant to that person #and when i pointed it out to her she bursted into tears and she tried to guilt trip me #later she bombarded me with messages saying it's my best friend's fault and that she turned me against her #i knew my best friend for 6 years... i knew that girl for 4 months... #like obviously i will give more attention to my best friend we get along great #after all that she posted publicly pictures that she went to a psychiatric hospital 😭😭 #and she didn't even check in because in the morning she was posting from the dorms of our uni #she literally went there just to take pics to make me feel bad 😭 #i did nothing wrong and still got traumatised