#anyway old men being gay

[blu3b1rd]

@yourlocaltoad has galaxy brain for introducing me to this ship, its canon in my eyes now. The old veterans are having their moment, I'm like actually so interested in the past they obviously have hinted in the superchargers dialogue.

#blu3b1rd #skylanders #buzz #trillipede #its unfair how expensive this bug is because i literally adore him and his design #also his car isnt as expensive like how does that make sense #anyway old men being gay #imagine naming your car after a guy thats gay sorry

[unforth]

Actually, I really wish Tumblr as a whole was less comfortable using feminizing language for gay men, especially gay East Asian men.

#unforth rambles #brought to you by the person i saw call chu wanning 'mo ran's mother' and the person who defended them #putting aside the question of accuracy re his role in mo ran's life #the words parent and father both exist yall #like idk but also wtf #see also girlboss and such being applied to gay men #idk i feel like im in the vast minority on this one #but my whole life ive seen gay men feminized in real life against their will #no matter how masc they were or wanted to be everything became fem #maybe im just to old to be with the times on why this is cute and funny abd okay #but given tumblr demographics and all #like shit like this is imo why so many women and afab nb people in fandom get accused of fetishizing #we older queers remember when doing this was considered disgusting homophobia actually #and imo it goes double or triple when they gay men in question are east asian #i really wish we could just fuckin stop #to be clear im not saying it IS fetishizing im saying i wish there was more awareness of the history of forced feminizing language #being used towars gay men in general and toward east asian men regardless of sexuality #for a lot of people i gotta think the knee jerk reaction to this kinda language being used is these context isnt teehee how cute #its ew who would say that #anyway i blocked op on the mo ran stuff but it still left a bad taste in my mouth

[moregraceful]

my queues ran out and i was at church all morning and will be there again this evening and will be at church tomorrow for like 12-13 hours and i just want to write fanfic and be stupid on the internet 😭 my life is so unendingly difficult i tell you what

#tk prompting that nick suzuki doesn't know he's hot fic and me realizing you know who else doesn't know he's hot i bet. jason robertson #pov you are a 16 year old barista at gong cha and the hottest men you have ever seen in your life walk in and ask what lychee is #they get drinks comped for being hot and tall #san jose gay men crawling out of the woodwork to hit it #like if it true what sierra says and an east coast 2 is a san jose 10 #if ur a 6'3 filipino man and a medium tall gosei like ur absolutely walking out of the boba shop in the background of someone's tiktok #video and going west coast asian viral for being the hottest men alive and it's a good 3 months before hockey tiktok catches on #man you guys i threatened to quit my other job like 10 times this week and everyone says i should do it #but i'm like. ok then i have NO jobs and i have to LOOK for a job so there's no gap on my resume!!! #but the other option is be mad as hell for as long as i work there!! and i don't even want to work there!! you know??? #but it's just...a malnourishing job i am not being fed in any way by it -_- #i feel like i'm being starved every time i walk in i feel like i'm having things taken away from me #UGH IDK #anyway what if nick suzuki experienced things while watching robo drink boba. what then #fresno oilers.txt

[dishsaop]

does anyone have recommendations for fictional media that has like. actual lesbians in it. not like supergirl Two White Skinny Girls, One Blonde and One Brunette Kiss media, or "its implied lesbianism!!!" but just regular fucking lesbians

#i say lesbians but i guess i mean sapphic #im just like. tired of gnawing #and of men also. sorry men in my life i love you but on god if i have to pretend one more man is butch just to get #content that isnt m/m or m/f im going to turn into a horse and run into the wilderness until im saved from the glue factory by a plucky #young woman except instead of letting her have her formative summer where she trains me and bonds w me and wins a competition w me #im going to commit horse suicide in front of her & change her life forever. just because im so tired of bland CW-marketable women kissing & #digging for scraps in a refuse bin while brushing aside 7002993829292929939292929399394 gay and het romances #m text #i will also take nonfictional lesbians if its like a story #not to be whiny on main but one of the hardest hurdles i had to jump wasnt realizing i was a lesbian. i came out to myself and to friends a #lesbian multiple times. but i would always walk it back when a friend would express doubt or a male friend would ask me out #bc i dont and especially then didnt know very many lesbians in person. and so i had to turn to examples #and all i fucking had were fictional women who liked men. or fictional lesbians who were so cleaned and sanitized and prettified #(you all know what i mean right. the 2 skinny white girls one blonde one brunette. im not crazy right) #and i would be like. i dont feel things when i look at these fictional lesbians so i guess i belong back here #(this is also bc my gender ended up being fuckier than i realized but shhhhh) #I WAS GOING SOMEWHERE WITH THESE TAGS but theyre too long and im lost. #anyway the point is if people werent so fucking weird abt fictional or onscreen lesbians maybe thered be a lot more people comfortable bein #out as lesbian #like sorry but this awful ouroboros of 'all lesbians onscreen have to be cute and sanitized' meaning that people write and believe wlw has #to be cute and pure and sanitized (OR a 'badge of honor' bc good for u u doodled two women together or had it as a background in ur fic) #meaning that therefore all portrayals of lesbianism continue to be like this. is just #and im also gonna be honest theres probably a lot of good sapphic media im just in the wrong circles to have stumbled into lol. so #yknow. personal viewer bias here #but i still like swing wildly between overly brandishing my dykeness as a badge to feel like im proving im lesbian #and like. backing up under a blanket bc i dont wanna be weird or annoying or freak people out #but if people just Saw Normal Ass Lesbians. aough. #im going to watch revolutionary girl utena one of these days even if i struggled w the writing style the first few episodes #I JUST WANNA SEE AN OLD BUTCH ONSCREEN GET SOME PUSSY. #like it also doesnt help im mostly femme4butch so seeing 2 femmes on screen is like. okay cool so what. but only femmes are 'marketable'

[fox-mulder-gets-pegged]

Sometimes u rewatch House MD episode Last Resort, get mad that there's like zero fan fics about what Thirteen went through in that episode, and start writing a fic ten minutes before you need to leave for work. Anyways here's an excerpt.

#house MD #remy hadley #i was like oh boy time to read fics about this major character development episode! #and then it is all House and Wilson being gay #which #i respect! love those gay old men #but my girl was held at gunpoint and forced to give herself dangerous medications #and confront the fact that now she's facing death and she doesnt want to die #also im one of the few Foreteen shippers and this episode kicks their arc off #anyways time for fuckin work #im so pleased with that desperate men and the fools who enable them line #house md in a nutshell

[magentagalaxies]

one of the absolute funniest moments on scott's tour that i wasn't able to capture on camera (for obvious reasons) was at the meet and greet after the nashville show these two older gay guys mentioned they were reading scott's wikipedia page before the show to find out more to chat about at the meet and greet and like. idk if this is just because i am very familiar with scott's wikipedia page but you could tell that was the extent of their scott knowledge (which is valid not everyone is researching a documentary on the guy)

but then they asked about the poster for the lowest show, which they'd never heard of before their wikipedia reading, specifically this quote:

"The posters—featuring Thompson lying supine on the ground with a big wad of semen dripping down the side of his face—went up around the city on September 10, 2001"

and they were like "wow we'd love to see those posters hahaha" and i immediately jump in like "oh i have that photo on my phone give me like 2 seconds"

to be clear: these guys had not interacted with me or acknowledged my existence the entire conversation. they had their backs to me when they were talking to scott, i did not introduce myself as directing the documentary since i wasn't filming and they didn't ask who i am, etc. but my brain was like "oh someone wants to learn more about scott? my time to shine, let me pull up that folder in my camera roll". even scott was like jfc here they go again.

anyway i barely had to scroll back in my doc research folder so i immediately held out my phone to the guys and showed them this

it's a photo taken days after 9/11 of scott in front of the posters for his show which was supposed to open the following week

so i hold out my phone and explain this thinking like hey i'm being so helpful these guys wanted to see this aspect of scott lore and i gave it to them!! meanwhile these two old guys are like i can't even focus on the poster anymore i am standing next to scott thompson and also WHO THE FUCK IS THIS CHILD AND WHY DID THEY JUST HAVE THIS ON THEIR PHONE?

another one of the funniest tour moments was after meeting up with some gay guys in their 70s who were friends-of-a-friend-of-scott and immediately befriending both of them we were about to leave and i asked for their phone number and scott just rolled his eyes and was like i'll give you his phone number in the car as though he was saying "jfc jessamine this is ridiculous even for you". he never ended up giving me the old guy's number

#i just love old gay men so much lmao #and they seem to love me (or at least the ones in the second example did lmao) #also one of the other indicators that the first guys only knew about scott's personal life from his wikipedia page #is that they assumed the last boyfriend mentioned on there was someone scott was still dating to this day #and they were like ''oh i'm so happy to hear you have (boyfriend's name)'' meanwhile scott is like ''uh sorry we broke up 21 years ago'' #meanwhile i'm like SAME NUMBER OF YEARS THAT I'VE BEEN ALIVE SCOTT!! #to be fair scott hasn't had a serious long-term relationship since then so we have joked about my birth somehow being the antichrist #but just for scott thompson's romantic life. like there's some curse that scott can't be in a serious relationship until i am #which is very funny bc both of us did in fact have a date we were looking forward to when we got back from the tour #in my case mine is with a hot nonbinary person who works at the venue where scott did his boston show and that's how we met lmao #this is also why i was pissed off that my instagram locked me out bc i have hot nonbinary person's instagram but not their phone number #and i said i'd message them when i got back from the tour. which i cannot do #tempted to just message them as mouth congress (the one account i can still get into) and send them my phone number #maybe i'll do that if i don't get my instagram back by buddy's birthday #anyway maybe this is oversharing about both my love life and scott's love life but i just find it very funny #like i was never someone in high school who went on dates and gossiped about it with my friends #and now i get to have some bizarre version of that where my peer group is goddamn scott thompson???? #between this and me pulling up the lowest show pic in like 2 seconds yeah maybe we are weirdly close lmao #but i wouldn't have it any other way

[ectopodl3]

Did I just post a Christmas drawing a literal day before Christmas Eve? Yes.

Am I tired and is school being a pain in my backside? Also yes.

Will I try to be more active? Hopefully, I have no idea, but I’ll do my best ;-;

I’m so sorry for being inactive and not posting as often, life is being a pain and I miss drawing gay pixel men, I just wanted to post this so I could get it done, I have to revise for exams in January so my Christmas will be very busy, but I really wanna be more active aaaa

I will do my best to try and post, especially here since I do post doodles, sometimes, but anyways, you guys have a Merry Davesport Christmas one day early and see you guys next year! xd

#davesport #dayshift at freddy's #dsaf dave #dsaf jack #dsaf #dave miller #jack kennedy #old sport dsaf #dsaf fanart #Davesport Christmas a day early #I’m so tired #i missed drawing gay pixel men and now I finally managed to draw them #I’m so sorry for not being as active ;-; #I’ll do my best to try and be more active (hopefully) #anyways #you guys enjoy your Christmas and see you next yearrr

[soup-or-who-lock]

Ted Lasso Wednesday Thoughts!!! Rebecca's Dutch pal seems....he seems like a fella who could possibly be called Rupert...not that he seems like Rupert, just seems like A Rupert. And he would be a swell New Rupert lmao

Jamie taught his grandad to ride a bike, to honor Jamie's grandad's grandad. pardon me while I'm sobbing.

"You fellas say pillow fight one time and we're never watching a movie again" or whatever Ted said

Arguably my single most important thought ever? Ted got reverse-Princess-Bride-d. (To "get Princecess-bride-d" one would be served 1 of 2 glasses, both of which have Substance. a reverse-Princess-Bride situation is that you think both glasses have Substance, but neither does.) And neither of them referenced the Princess Bride??? The Beard serving glasses of tea with Something in it scene was so Dread Pirate Roberts and that's such a Ted/Beard movie!!! I'm hurt and shocked and offended not to have had them mention it.

#i say Substance b/c i'm not 100% sure if it's supposed to be weed or mushrooms or something else that idk about #(i'm much more a ted than a beard if you catch my drift) #in regards to the dutch fella's name i just simply think it would be funny!! I think they should do that and then the media can #call gross rupert Old Rupert (as they called our rebecca Old Rebecca) however i would also accept Crusty Rupert #ted lasso #ted lasso spoilers #ted lasso season 3 #ted lasso wednesdays #and im gonna go ahead and hide my last prediction deep in the tags which is #i don't get the feeling Trent is capital-G-Gay (given that he didn't say he's gay he just came out and he's closer to a woman than ever) #it sounds like he's bi and still married the difference is that he's accepted himself and so has his wife (or whatever they are) #and naturally many bi people use gay either as their preferred label or an umbrella term so if that is trent's preference then that's lit #i just think he might actually be bi and happily married #and while i think trent and ted are in LOVE i just want them both/each to be happy #jinkies this is a lot of tags. b/c surprising no one i have many feelings about the theodore lasso show #anyway i don't think i'm being eloquent but i loved this episode i loved it i love trent and colin and keeley and i love this show #i also could felly be completely wrong about trent being bi and that would be a-okay by me!! i just kinda mean to say that while he is #decidedly LGBT and decidedly interested in men he didn't say that he's not into women. hope i'm making sense

[animationismycomfort]

can’t tell me otherwise

in case ya wanna use it

#danger mouse #my stuffy stuff #memes #🌺my memes #they are married #you cannot convince me otherwise #literally oldmarried couple energy #two gay dumb b-tches #they don’t have a single brain cell #just two old men in love #being gay and being able to save the world #good for them #fr tho the way they love trust and can’t function without the other is so f-cking cute #goals #anyways #recently been rewatching danger mouse 2015 after a long time #and I have to say its still pretty good #again free to use #made a very cheesy background and text for this meme cause I thought it would be funny #it kinda is ngl

[gothgamergaara]

Made the realization recently that an Event that happened at my first college that hit me a little hard had a lot to do w gender (was still Egged then) and it’s odd bc. It’s like oh that makes so much sense and back then I didn’t understand why it bothered me. But now I have to contend w the fact that it bothered me due to gender and now I know I have to keep that in mind bc ppl see me a certain way and expect a type of behavior and condemn others

#I just remember being so. devastated. that someone was telling me I couldn’t act a certain way #meanwhile the guys I was around were acting that way but EYE couldn’t. because I was a girl. and that changed everything #it was a slap in the face. ppl ascribing all these intentions behind what I was doing when I was literally just acting like them. #but I couldn’t. and it was bc I couldn’t be a girl who acted like that bc it meant that my sole #intention was to attract men. that I had concocted some elaborate plan #that I acted like a 12 yr old boy bc somehow I thought it would get me dick or soemthing #I mean. well whatever yeah I’m a gay dude but I didn’t know that then #anyway I forgot to mention this to my therapist #and now this week I have more pressing things to talk abt #like my dad flat out saying he couldn’t imagine ever rejecting a child just bc they’re trans (not talking abt me)

[poethebeloved]

getting old man yaoi, but at what cost

#tlou #the last of us #i love the phrase old man yaoi so much it is so stupid god bless #anyway love watching nick offerman kiss men we need more old men kissing in tv #get nick offerman in ofmd so he can do more being gay #just my thoughts

[ariesbilly]

theres more m*ngrove fics than there are fredsythe that is so depressing to me lmfao

#this is a very personal post #all because the riverdale fandom literally could not imagine the thought of 40 year old men being gay.... #those were still some of the wildest takes ive ever heard but ANYWAY #what a sad day for me personally lmfao #this is genuinely more upsetting to me than the st*ddie h*rringrove beef kbgksfb

[a9saga]

i want scandal to cover the new big time rush song “honey”

#of the four songs theyve put out since reuniting thats the best one imo #i actually like not giving you up the least #i like em all tho #i say this because honey is a song that reminds me that women are hot #which is weird because men are singing it #i really am gay but anyway #i think thatd sound really good with a scandal/girl band kind of edge tho and i think it could definitely fall within the scandal range #honey actually dropped thursday and i was thinking of posting either that one or the new a9 single to wish saga a happy belated birthday #literally being the face and name of my blog and all #(said it before for shou but we love a 40 year old man) #but yeah i didnt feel like posting on thursday i was too sick i didnt feel like shit tbh #i need to stop or im gonna get on a tangent about missing work oh no #point is this is the summer of big time rush and scandal but for me like pretty much only for me #i dont imagine theres a big fanbase overlap and i am just seeing/have seen them this summer and im hype about it #im wearing my forever tour shirt now because i think thats where i got sick lol im thinking of wearing it to see scandal too #but we'll see when the day comes #scandal #big time rush #shut up kaily #(also i dont have covid just a cold.... but i was sitting in between a ton of people so you know)

[yansurnummu]

Cherry Wine

In which Drals and Azandar have an evening of peace, debate a questionably sweet wine, and talk about their feelings.

Azandar laughed. Drals stared at him, his embarrassment replaced by confusion. “Oh, Drals,” he said, chuckling. “You're as subtle as a minotaur in a teahouse. Even I suspected as much.” Drals pouted at the impish look he was given as Azandar raised his cup to his lips. “Ugh. I'm not good at this shit,” Drals rubbed at his good eye. “I'm… sorry,” Azandar reached out a hand as he moved closer, placing it on Drals’ forearm. “I don't mean to be rude. I–” “No, you're right. It all feels rather juvenile. I'm sorry I said anything.” “Drals,” Azandar gave him a pointed look. “Yes?” “I do feel the same, you know.” “...Oh,” he said breathlessly, finally registering the closeness of the other man. “Oh.” 

(under a readmore because the first line contains minor spoilers for Azandar's companion quest. It gets a little spicy near the end but nothing explicit.)

Drals cast the Fateweaver Key into the ocean, watching it fall down rocky cliffs and disappearing into the waves below. It was done.

He turned back to Azandar. Time stood still for a moment, both of them beginning to process everything. Months of preparation, and everything seemed to compound so quickly.

“Are you hurt? The Adversary put up quite the fight,” Azandar said eventually. Drals scoffed in disbelief.

“I just destroyed your life's work, and you're asking me if I'm alright?” He stepped back from the edge of the cliff, entering Azandar’s space.

“Ah,” a small smile crept back onto his face. “Redirection, I suppose. Nasty habit.”

Drals sighed, clasping a hand over Azandar’s shoulder. 

“Don't I know it,” he said softly.

“I will admit a touch of melancholy. Still… it had to be done,” Azandar raised his eyes to finally look at him. “Thank you, cohort. I don't know what I would have done in your absence.”

Drals swallowed, not knowing how to respond. He wasn't used to being thanked. 

“I'm sure you would have figured something out, given time. You're very clever,” he said, suddenly feeling a bit awkward.

“I'm not so certain I had much time left at all, with the way things played out,” Azandar shook his head. “No, I don’t believe I’d have been so lucky on my own.”

Drals sat with that for a moment, his hand squeezing gently at Azandar’s shoulder. 

He cared about Azandar. A great deal more than he was used to caring about anyone. To think that it was possible that he was the reason he was still alive was… sobering.

Later, once they had worked to clean up the workshop after the mess the stray fateline had left, they were afforded an evening of quiet.

Drals wasn't really a wine aficionado – or much of a drinker at all, for that matter – but it seemed as good an occasion as any to crack open a bottle he had procured in their travels.

“I know you're not fond of bitter things,” he said as Azandar gave the bottle a skeptical sniff. “So I picked this up when we were in Rawl'kha. Cyrodiilic stuff. Barely tastes like booze.” He dropped to sit beside him on the settee.

���Hm. Very well, I have been persuaded,” he said, grinning. “Tonight, we celebrate!” 

“Indeed,” Drals chuckled, undeniably infected by Azandar’s enthusiasm, as he poured them each a cup of wine. “To our continued collaboration,” he offered, holding up his cup as Azandar picked up his own.

“To our partnership, and friendship,” Azandar smiled, gently clinking his cup into Drals’ before taking a sip. “Oh, that is very sweet!” 

“Yeah,” Drals gave a nervous laugh. “I don't think I'd have more than this, to be honest.”

“I am… undecided,” Azandar hummed, going for another sip. “Perplexed. Mystified. Do people drink this? Regularly? Without headaches?”

“Your hypothesis is as good as mine, I'd imagine. Perhaps it's drunk on special occasions. Like a dessert,” Drals pondered, idly inspecting the bottle for clues.

“Hm, plausible. Or, is one meant to combine it with something else? To add a dash of sweetness to something stronger?” Azandar suggested.

“Could be,” he set the bottle down once more, confident it contained no revelations. “I also have a bottle of flin, if we were to test that theory.”

“No, no, it would have to be a liquor of Cyrodiilic origin, in order to experiment under ideal parameters. If it is meant to be mixed, they must have had something in mind to mix it with.” 

“Hm, you're right. I wonder if the tavern here sells imported spirits.” He left the cup on the table.

“Yes, we will need specimens for further experimentation. However…” Azandar sighed, looking at Drals with a soft smile. “Perhaps we will prepare that for a later date.”

“Agreed,” Drals sunk back into the settee, draping an arm over the back. “I'd say we've suffered enough for one day.”

“Indeed,” Azandar agreed, mirroring Drals, holding the cup of wine under his chin. “I will admit, under further consideration, it has grown on me,” he smiled. “Thank you. It was a thoughtful choice.”

“Oh,” Drals fumbled. “Well,” he chuckled nervously, averting his gaze, feeling almost childish in his oddly uncomfortable giddiness.

“Did I say something wrong?” Azandar asked, frowning.

“No,” Drals said, bringing his eye back to Azandar, scratching the back of his neck. “No, I…” he sighed.

He liked Azandar. He liked him a lot. He felt it getting more and more difficult to deny it.

But what would Drals say? How would he say it? He was so hopelessly, dreadfully bad at these things. He had been away from people for so long, but even before then, he was bad at it. Now he was just worse.

So, why not just say that? Just say what he was feeling? Did it have to be so complicated?

“Embarrassment,” he started, trying to take a page from Azandar’s book. “Infatuation. Affection. I…” he looked up, to see wide brown eyes intently watching him. “I feel things about you I'm not used to feeling. I'm sorry if that's– you don't have to feel the same. I just want you to know.” 

Azandar laughed. Drals stared at him, his embarrassment replaced by confusion.

“Oh, Drals,” he said, chuckling. “You're as subtle as a minotaur in a teahouse. Even I suspected as much.” Drals pouted at the impish look he was given as Azandar raised his cup to his lips.

“Ugh. I'm not good at this shit,” Drals rubbed at his good eye.

“I'm… sorry,” Azandar reached out a hand as he moved closer, placing it on Drals’ forearm. “I don't mean to be rude. I–”

“No, you're right. It all feels rather juvenile. I'm sorry I said anything.”

“Drals,” Azandar gave him a pointed look.

“Yes?”

“I do feel the same, you know.”

“...Oh,” he said breathlessly, finally registering the closeness of the other man. “Oh.” 

“Perhaps it is juvenile,” Azandar smiled, his eyes falling elsewhere. “In the way that I feel childlike joy when I'm around you. You're… well, you're brilliant.”

Drals could only stare at him for a moment, dumbfounded, until he felt like all the pieces clicked into place and he could not hold back any longer.

Azandar made a small, surprised sound as their lips met. He quickly melted into Drals, his hand winding up his arm to rest at the back of his neck, kissing him back eagerly. Drals held his jaw in one hand, savouring the taste of too-sweet wine on Azandar’s lips. It tasted far better like that, he thought; perhaps Azandar’s theory would be proven correct.

He pulled back after a moment, studying Azandar’s face. He was a handsome man. Here, though, he was beautiful, Drals thought, with his eyes dark and lips parted. He couldn't help but feel a pang of loss when he leaned away, setting the cup of wine down next to Drals’ on the table.

But, just as quickly, he returned, stealing Drals’ breath away with the heat of the kiss that followed. Drals wrapped his hands around his waist as Azandar pressed against him, lips hungrily moving against his own. It teetered just on the edge of roughness in a way that made Drals’ pulse race. 

He felt as though months of tension had built up to this one moment, and now his desire came as a flood and all he wanted was more.

He wanted to see more of him, as he kissed and bit Azandar’s skin, pulling open the clasps of his shirt. He wanted to feel more of him, as he pushed him onto his back, groaning as Azandar arched against him, hands tangled in the hair at the base of his skull and pulling him downwards. He wanted to be closer, as he pushed into him, shuddering, the heat and the friction almost enough to be overwhelming. 

He wanted to hear more, as Azandar gasped and moaned and pleaded into his shoulder, the sound perhaps the sweetest thing Drals had ever heard.

#yans writes #elder scrolls online #azandar al cybiades #dralvayn arano #i am here to spread the good word of azandar being hot & romanceable #sorry not sorry #drals having no game whatsoever is incredibly funny to me. utterly swagless behaviour #anyways i love these gay trans old men

[tricky-pockets]

My boyfriend keeps looking at me like 😐... 🥚 when I tell a story that happened pre-transition and it gets funnier every time, so I present to you, in no particular order,

egg shit that SOMEHOW did not tip me off:

Played in numerous d&d campaigns in college; didn't play a lady character even once.

Invented a male persona so I could sub in when my boyfriend's frat was a man short for Beer Olympics.

Maintained that male persona and later pledged the frat.

Was regularly the only girl invited to Boys' Night because "you're a guy like at least 40% of the time anyway".

Planned elaborate costumes every halloween; never once went as a lady or anything lady-adjacent.

Actually won 'Sexiest costume (male)' at a theatre event.

Regularly auditioned for male roles in theatre productions. Landed a small part in an all-female production of As You Like It as Silvius and was never more psyched to be in a play.

Watched Ouran High School Host Club straight through by myself; felt weird and immediately chopped off all my hair about it.

Messed around with my college boyfriend while in boymode, using masc pronouns and an assumed name.

80% of my wardrobe in college was hand-me-downs from that same boyfriend.

Went as a wizard for halloween multiple times as a kid, with the beard and everything; never once considered being a witch.

Invented a male persona in middle/high school just for going to hockey games with my uncle.

Made out with more than one gay dude who said "I don't know what it is about you, I'm usually never attracted to women."

Ended up effectively living in my buddy Jake's dorm room every single year, no matter what my official living arrangements were.

Started wearing Old Spice in high school because a boy I liked wore it and I liked how he smelled. Pulled the same move in college with a particular brand of shampoo.

Wore the men's jeans+high-impact sports bra combo in an astounding number of photos.

And I didn't know! My oblivious ass sat there in my boyfriend's old pants with my titties tied down, calling myself Jack, playing a male illusionist for the 76th time in a d&d game with my frat brothers and making plans to go to Boys' Night afterwards for Streetfighter and beer, and I didn't figure it out.

#😐... 🥚 #egg things #trans men #transmasc #sam tag 🌌

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Do you have a list of good sex ed books to read?

BOY DO I

please bear in mind that some of these books are a little old (10+ years) by research standards now, and that even the newer ones are all flawed in some way. the thing about research on human beings, and especially research on something as nebulous and huge as sex, is that people are Always going to miss something or fail to account for every possible experience, and that's just something that we have to accept in good faith. I think all of these books have something interesting to say, but that doesn't mean any of them are the only book you'll ever need.

related to that: it's been A While since I've read some of these so sorry if anything in them has aged poorly (I don't THINK SO but like, I was not as discerning a reader when I was 19) but I am still including them as books that have been important to my personal journey as a sex educator.

additionally, a caveat that very few of these books are, like, instructional sex ed books in the sense of like "here's how the penis works, here's where the clit is, etc." those books exist and they're great but they're also not very interesting to me; my studies on sex are much more in the social aspect (shout out to my sociology degree) and the way people learn to think about sex and societal factors that shape those trends. these books reflect that. I would genuinely love to have the time to check out some 101 books to see how they fare, but alas - sex ed is not my day job and I don't have the time to dedicate to that, so it happens slowly when it happens at all. I've been meaning to read Dr. Gunter's Vagina Bible since it came out in 2019, for fucks sake.

and finally an acknowledgement that this is a fairly white list, which has as much to do with biases with academia and publishing as my own unchecked biases especially early in my academic career and the limitations of my university library.

ANYWAY here's some books about sex that have been influential/informative to me in one way or another:

The Trouble With Normal: Sex, Politics, and the Ethics of Queer Life (Michael Warner, 1999)

Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences (Laura M. Carpenter, 2005)

Sex Goes to School: Girls and Sex Education Before the 1960s (Susan K. Freeman, 2008)

Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex (Mary Roach, 2008)

Transgender History: The Roots of Today's Revolution (Revised Edition) (Susan Stryker, 2008)

The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women (Jessica Valenti, 2009)

Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex (Amy T. Schalet, 2011)

Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships (Meg-John Barker, 2013)

The Sex Myth: The Gap Between Our Fantasies and Realities (Rachel Hills, 2015)

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Tranform Your Sex Life (Emily Nagoski, 2015)

Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men (Jane Ward, 2015)

Too Hot to Handle: A Global History of Sex Education (Jonathan Zimmerman, 2015)

American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus (Lisa Wade, 2017)

Histories of the Transgender Child (Jules Gill-Peterson, 2018)

Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights (Juno Mac and Molly Smith, 2018)

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex (Angela Chen, 2020)

Pleasure in the News: African American Readership and Sexuality in the Black Press (Kim Gallon, 2020)

A Curious History of Sex (Kate Lister, 2020)

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity (Peggy Orenstein, 2020)

Black Women, Black Love: America's War on Africa American Marriage (Dianne M. Stewart, 2020)

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality (Jane Ward, 2020)

Hurts So Good: The Science and Pleasure of Pain on Purpose (Leigh Cowart, 2021)

The Right to Sex: Feminist in the Twenty-First Century (Amia Srinivasan, 2021)

Love Your Asian Body: AIDS Activism in Los Angeles (Eric C. Wat, 2021)

Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure, and the Pursuit of Happiness (Arielle Greenberg, 2023)

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