#as anything more than acquaintances

[itspileofgoodthings]

but on a more serious note, I do hate when any adaptation--but especially this one!--decides to change the nature of specific uncomfortable or antagonistic character interactions to something softer or sweeter, or even just decided to give two characters that don't get along or interact much at all A Moment™. That really is not always the right call!

#this is about charlotte and lizzy #and to a lesser extent lizzy and mrs. bennet #i was talking to @ihaveonlymydreams the other day about Lizzy and Charlotte! and the thing is: #they were never truly friends #not on the deepest level. it's a friendship of convenience and a friendship built around judgy gossip #for the most part #charlotte marrying collins doesn't suddenly change their dynamic so Lizzy can never see her the same way again. #it reveals the truth that was there all along: that she and Charlotte do have wildly different priorities and values #and those differing values make them pretty incompatible #as anything more than acquaintances #and it's so uncomfortable for lizzy to face that #and there's no fixing it because das just who Charlotte IS #but now she can see it. and so she comes to visit and she writes letters for the sake of what was as Austen tells us #and because lizzy iS loyal #but that is truly not a moment where it's about lizzy being too harsh on charlotte and then having to be like 'we still love each other' #and i do kind of hate when stories do that in general. just flatten everything into something feel-good #sometimes things are bad and disappointing and flat and that's just the truth #I feel this with Mrs Bennet a little bit less because it's smaller but again. it's like. how much pathos do we need to feel for her #also she just doesn't like lizzy! never has. least favorite daughter #anyway a million more thoughts but yeah. one of the things about P&P is that Lizzy doesn't actually learn what friendship is #until after Darcy. #it's such a true growing up story. in the sense of: she thinks she's done and she's not #anyway anyway many more thoughts on how charlotte's decision to marry collins is framed too #too sympathetically tbh #it's not just fear. charlotte just also doesn't give a damn about romance asdlfas;fasfsafsaflkasl;fsjafsafsafsf #she said i want a home and i want a parlor and if i have a fool of a husband that's okay with ME #and it's not even about (for the moment) judging the choice. it's just seeing it clearly for what it actually is #2005 liveblog

[compacflt]

this is a bit of an ask inspired by another ask (and also ridiculously silly) but what’s the boys’ relationship with penny like in the future?? i loved the little snippet of her at bradley’s wedding and ice trying to figure out if she’s a threat or not (and then maverick coming back from dancing and saying he couldn’t stop gushing over ice….ugh!!!) but do they become good solid friends? I like the idea of them expanding their circle now that they can trust more people…even if one of those people are one of maverick’s exes

additionally: do her and ice ever talk about their shared experiences (not sex, ice would probably keel over and die, but just…having a relationship with mav)? the thought of penny cornering him is ridiculously funny to me. or maybe they never reach that point of comfort 🤷‍♀️ i just need to know if she ever takes them both sailing and ice gets a chance to laugh at mav on a boat

[also, in all sincerity, I have an unhealthy amount of things to say about this series and I’m a bit sad it’s over, but I love everything you’ve done <3 I could compliment it for days on end and probably never run out of things to say]

ice to Penny at mav’s birthday party sometime over the last five years: Hey! Good to see you again :) thanks for coming …

Penny, apropos of nothing: so.,. weve never talked one-on-one… but. You and i have both been inside Pete Mitchell at some point ?

ice:

#this is just my ice gif #Penny pegs! #heatwavering i wish you nothing but good days and love for the rest of your life smooches smooches smooches #to answer ur question honestly i don’t see ice & Penny bring anything more than polite acquaintances #and it’s clear mav didn’t make much of an effort to seek her/her friendship out #between movies #so i don’t really see them being good intimate friends #But i do see ICE AND CHARLIE totally yukking it up over ‘dating maverick memories’ #’does he still drive off on his motorcycle when he gets upset?’ #’oh yeah. haha. whoa. and pretend he can’t hear you…?’ #’oh god i used to hate that. better you than me Mr. Kazansky. better you than me.’ #pete maverick mitchell #tom iceman kazansky #penny benjamin #icemav #top gun maverick #asks #Charlie at least is involved in aerospace/mil aviation so there’s a lot of connection there #Penny is (not to say ‘just’ but) just a bartender/navy nepo baby

[pralinesims]

I did already mention this somewhere, but one thing that really pisses me off about Vale is that, even if he personally considers somebody as a friend, he never refers to them as that 😭 for him almost everybody is just an "acquaintance" like ffs, there is nothing wrong with publicly acknowledging them!

#like WDYM emilio is out there calls you bestie etc gifts him random gifts all the time etc and he only ever refers to him as 'acquaintance' #LIKE HELLO??? emilio is a treasured angel descended upon this earth yet he does this!!! #tho it's not an emilio issue he does that with almost everyone but i genuinely feel sorry for him 😭 #nothing like (lovingly) hating your own oc's LMAO #i love them more than anything but dear lord they annoy me sm sometimes. how must it be for their people around them in-universe... #oc blabber

[transoccultic]

if i made a friend / partner form ( for funsies , kitty is monoam and very aplatonic sadly ) would ppl wanna do it ?

#🖋️ : text #sadly closest to ' real ' platonic attraction i have is like . parasocial attraction #i want to be a friend at arms distance . forever unsure if we ' re anything more than acquaintances #but who i still call my bestie as if we ' re super good friends because part of me wants us to be

[liquidstar]

a friend who'd wait :)

#im posting this very late because i was sort of weary of how it came out and ended up messing w it until it was like 4am oops. #and i have plans tmrw so... oh well! i did my best and ill put it out while i can! #and i tried to make the scene match barnard's colors lol #finn's ocs #finn's art #i know i said id do more sillay stuff with the simpler screentone only style but i had a couple more of these in me #and this is the first piece im making thats like an actual part of the story too rather than just setting stuff for fun #i wanna write something to go with it too but for now ill just sort of briefly explain the context in the tags here: #barnard has a pretty bad case of OCD and his compulsions have made it difficult to make friends in the past #he was never outright bullied or anything but people just didnt really have the patience to deal with it #he has compulsions that include stuff like walking through doors until it feels right and needing things to be perfectly aligned #which in group settings has lead to people having to wait for him to finish his rituals and join them #they might find it tolerable at first but eventually they grow impatient and hes just... not invited to stuff anymore #but juno is a newer member of the guild who ends up frequenting the same library. hes also kinda a little weird #and they dont become fast friends or anything but just sort of naturally spend time in the same place #though they never plan meetups they eventually fall into a routine. around the same time theyd just both be at the library #and read next to each other. and maybe talk a bit. and eventually they end up walking back to the guildhall together #since theyre going to the same place after all. and juno always waits for barnard outside the door #eventually barnard asks if this bothers him. juno kinda just tells him 'of course it does' without any malice or anything. just a statement #barnard is surprised and apologizes and juno says not to. but the next day juno doesnt show up at the usual time. #barnard assumes hes committed somekinda more by bringing it up. he ends up staying there late reading to get his mind off it & not ruminate #but when he leaves juno is in fact still waiting for him down the hall (see pic) having collected a bunch of books literally abt ocd #he fell asleep bc barnard stayed later than expected. and hes an eepy guy generally. and also one very bad at expressing himself #but now barnard gets that juno's 'of course it [bothers me]' had the implication of 'but its worth it' which no friend has previously done. #and from the interaction juno was also able to understand that this isn't something barnard just does for the hell of it so. he studies. #and checks a bunch of stuff out because he thinks it could help his friend too (theres ocd workbooks and such- i remember working w them) #and thats the point where they became more ''friends'' than ''pleasant library acquaintances'' #from there on they also do get into juno's problems. whole other bag of worms. but this specific scene is more about bernard from his pov #sorry about when i said briefly explain. i lied </3 #but compared to the whole sequence im picturing its brief so shhh

[derpinette]

i hated airpods & phones with those big fugly cameras in the back when they were announced as a concept & i hate them even more each time i see that hideousness in person

#i remember when i was 11 ( sorry for being a zoomer ) getting into an argument with an online acquaintance #over airpods because i thought they were retarded but she thought they were cool as if bluetooth ear pieces were a new invention #remember how the world used to make fun of them not even that many years prior. she was like nooobut you can hide them for cheating #& against thievery ( OK the only fair point I GUESS ) but they are just so ugly to me & stupid not practical too easily lost & damaged #especially with that pricetag like they could have made something COOL or Kawaii but of course sleek Nothing design is “in” #still after a decade now ♯MAKEITSTOP #honestly only like bluetooth for file sharing when necessary anything else is devilwork #as for the new giant multiple cameras design i mean use your eyes has there ever been an uglier decision #even if i had money i could never own a touch screen phone without a middle button & a normal camera lense in the back #like just looking at them makes me angry BUT mostly apple products i think android ones are less hives inducing #but TBH i have no headphone jack so... on my old broken phone i did but not this one -_- where are my principles...... #well i will wear this one down until it dies i already have a cracked arse screen so until it breaks i will downgrade #also remember how cute silicone phone cases were in the early to mid 2010s ♯BringThatBack #honestly can you even i think phones today are just too damn big Not mine Doe 🦌 mine is almost perfectly sized for my hands (iphone7) #at least people have more charms than ever in my city at least i see people with cute lanyards & zoomer style JesusBeaters so great ^_^ #sorry for complaining all the time but also if you are not here for my Kvetching then what else could you be here for... #*jumps into a well from shame*

[notanotherinfjblog]

Texting habits per judging function

No one asked, but here are some observations I've made in my personal life.

*Note that this probably differs by age, gender, and culture (for instance, I have been told by several Americans that I use an insane amount of emojis, whereas it's not considered weird at all here in Germany).

FJ:

Generally very good at texting, will respond to absolutely every point you make. If you send them a long voice message, they can be found taking notes while listening so that they will not forget to answer any point you made.

Have a very hard time leaving someone on read and if they do, either something happened and they forgot, or they simply don't like you very much. If they open the message, they answer. If they don't have time to answer you right now, they simply will not open the message yet.

If the text conversation is done (i.e. you wrote something like "bye, see you tomorrow!" that does not require another response), they will still at the very least send you an emoji back for no reason other than letting you know that "Yes! I read your message! I'm not ignoring you! I love you!" (Literally every FJ I have ever known does this. Every single one, including myself.)

They will adapt to your style of texting. If you are the kind of person that likes to send a bunch of heart emojis to friends and the FJ friend is not, they will still pepper in a heart here and there. If you generally don't use emojis, they will use them only occasionally. If you reply in wallpaper long messages, so will they. If you break up your messages into several texts one after the other, so will they.

FPs:

Also generally quite good at texting and can actually appear a lot warmer in writing than in person (there have been several instances where I received really lovely messages from FPs who I used to think hated my guts whenever we met in person).

Prepare for emojis. Seriously.

You can have infinitely long text conversations with them. If you are willing to commit, the conversation between the two of you will never end. With NFPs, the conversations usually end up spiralling into nonsense scenarios, while SFPs keep telling you about their day and keep answering you about your day every day.

TPs:

(my texting experience with TPs is unfortunately very limited, so feel free to fill in my blanks)

Fe is very noticeable in the extroverts, i.e. they tend to go the FJ route described above, but in a more nonchalant and more relaxed way. Like with FJs, the focus of the conversation is on you and their dynamic with you.

The introverts (i.e. my dad, i.e. my only point of reference) are bad at texting and prefer to call, so almost all text conversations go something like this: TP: "Hi, I tried to call you, but you didn't pick up. I hope everything is alright with you?" You: "Yes, sorry. Everything's good here, how about you, everything okay?" --- end of conversation ---

TJs:

Generally bad at texting. Also don't really like it and see no point in it, so they usually prefer calling or talking in person.

Will appear colder in writing than in person, especially the STJs. Their answers will be straight to the point. No beating around the bush and no needless extension of a conversation in form of jokes/questions/anecdotes for a bonding experience. If they want to tell you something, they will tell you in person.

Have absolutely zero problem leaving people on read and usually don't mean anything by it.

STJs rarely use emojis, NTJs do but not excessively

If their answer requires them to type anything more than two sentences, they will send you a voice message instead. (Literally every single TJ I know does this, except my INTJ brother who is a complete maniac and calls instead.)

#the TJ way of texting will never stop confusing me #i usually don't look at other people's phones but i once witnessed an istj's text conversation and it's been haunting me ever since #she had just visited her husband's family with their kids and her mother-in-law sent her a really long lovely message #saying how much she enjoyed their visit and how much she loved each and every one of them and sent her a bunch of pictures #and this istj replied with 'thanks me too' and THAT WAS IT! if i had been her mother-in-law i would have assumed she doesn't like me at all #but no! this istj spent the next half hour looking at the pictures smiling softly zooming in on everyone's faces and then smiling some more #similarly one of my closest friends is an estj and she will tell you in person how much she loves you but her messages? not that warm #or my entj friend. he is a real chatterbox in person but texting? yeah no forget it #this is unimaginable for me as an FJ i would only do this as a deliberate choice to make it known that i don't want anything to do with the #so texting with a TJ always feels like recalibrating your brain to calm down and go: #'no i know they don't hate me yes i know they text like they do but i know that they don't it's okay they are like this with everyone' #and really sorry for the limited TP section. the only TPs i ever texted are my dad and some occasional acquaintances #so seriously. chime in with your observations! especially to get a broader picture from other cultures than my own as well #typing post #judging functions #cognitive functions

[cnidarianrui]

one projection-headcanon i have is that rui is not at all open about his age regression.

he did not grow up with a group of friends around him that would accept him.

he has found away to keep himself company, to hide all of his secrets away in himself.

you'd think that now that he has wondersho he can just spill his secrets and let them flow, not afraid of rejection.

its not that easy

growing up lonely then having friends doesn't mean a complete attitude change

even though he has friends

though he has people who care about him

he is still horribly lonely

#project sekai agere #sfw agere #project sekai #vent #mine ★ #projecting minus having a group of friends that care about you as anything more than an acquaintance #not very coherent its hard to think when i feel like this #i hate posting vents i feel like an attention seeker but i am so i guess the shoe fits

[skrimshaw]

The thing about being friends with someone forever is that I see any post relevant to that and forget it’s not a universal experience

#like to me it is imperative for people to have long term friends that they love platonically more than anything #enough so that even the average acquaintance asks how your friend is when they see you #listen I may not have a lot of friends but I have starlight and that counts for like. 50 years of friends automatically

[the-gayest-sky-kid]

chat do you ever feel entirely absent from your relationships or did i miss the memo on being a person

#sorry this is the mental illness again disregard this im rambling #but. well not that ive been looking back ive always felt like this. but i always felt like i was the outsider in my ms group like #i love them dearly still and they got me through ms but like #it was always more that i was listening to them and i never got any of the jokes and they all knew each other better than they knew me #and like whenever we met up it was always me being awkward too #and then in hs it was like i was acquaintance in all of my friendships there too #because again i didnt understand anything and they were already in cliques and like. I always felt horrible bc #like you can't say no to someone youve been riding the train home with for like a month but i just never liked it #so actually thats probably on me maybe I was never open enough #aguh #even online it feels like im not providing enough of myself #aethers rants #cw vent #personal posts and stuff idk

[perilegs]

i rlly like my new co worker bc do you guys know how refreshing it is to hang out with another queer guy multiple times a week irl

#i love all my friends and the gay ppl in my phone but i did really need more regular irl interactions with fellow fags #and i dont mean just like going to the club but actually hanging out with someone and possibly befriending them #leevi talks #our last summer trainee was a cishet guy and he was alright but we were not on the same. like. not page but #we were clearly two very different people who saw the world in wildly different ways and had nothing in common #we werent even work friends. just co workers #he was alright tho like he wasnt a bigot or anything! but not everyone needs to be more than acquaintances

[luthwhore]

That thing you say about Lex being more evil and less redemable when his past isnt linked to Clark Is so fucking true. Like I kinda like his whole past background where he Is a selfmade man that grew up poor in Metrópolis because I am a sucker for horrible villains with tragic background, but the way that those Clarkless past pretty much turn him into a depraved monster creeps me out way too much... He really needs Clark to not get too deranged.

YEAH!!! pre-crisis lex is a bit of an outlier bc he has a past with clark but the clark kent of it all is deemphasized in favor of superman, though on the flip side, you could say that superboy/superman manages to fill that same narrative role pre-crisis since most pre-crisis writers (notably elliot s! maggin) tended to view clark kent as the mask, whereas a lot of modern writers tend to take the opposite approach.

from a doyleist perspective i think it’s mostly a case of the byrne era characterization and backstory being stripped away in tandem, but i personally like to think that having clark around during his formative years really did make all the difference for him, and i wish smallville wasn’t the only thing that acknowledged that clark actually meant something to him, once upon a time.

#obviously there are some exceptions #but i can’t think of anything outside of williamson’s recent stuff #that acknowledges that lex considered clark anything more than a passing acquaintance at best #clex #lex luthor #my meta

[dinosaursatemymom]

Ranting

el doesn't know what gay means

If Mike came out to her she would not understand, she would probably be like, "gay...? What is gay...?" And she wouldn't understand why mike wouldn't want to tell her, because she doesn't understand what homophobia is or why it would affect someone. The only exposure she has had to homophobia is the bullies in s1, but she didn't understand what those words meant, all she knew is that they made mike upset. If Mike or will had a coming out scene to her, she would be very confused of why it was a big deal, after she found out what it meant. I think she would be upset about Mike lying to her, because she doesn't have the context to understand why he would need to lie. I personally think she has already picked up on that something is going on between Mike and will, she wouldn't understand why this would need to be kept a secret. From her perspective they are just lying with no good reason to do so, she might even accidentally out ones of them. She would not have the context to instantly accept, she is going to be upset about Mike lying, and maybe will too. But once it is explained to her why, and she sees homophobia again, this time through a new lens and understanding, she will be accepting and probably apologize for being upset, now that she understands.(this is if she doesn't accidentally out ones of them, which I don't think the duffel bagels would do)

Basically I'm trying to say, El wouldn't be all instant ally.

#Byler #idk if this counts #But I'm tagging it because #Elmike #Platonically #Willel #mike wheeler is a boy kisser #Bi/unlabeled mike truther myself but I use gay as an umbrella term #mike wheeler is not straight #Tbh #Ion even think El and Mike work that great as friends either #They have nothing in common #I feel like they would more be acquaintances/friendly exes #Than friends #Like they obviously still see each other because of will #But they're not besties or anything

[fratricideknight]

a/b/o is a hot, slash-enabling romance trope TO YOU. to me, it's dystopian body horror.

#truly the worst thing to ever exist. i'm trying so hard to be chill about it but even after all this time it still gets to me. sigh. #i'm not saying it should be banned or ppl who like it are evil or anything! i've tried to enjoy it as romance AND as horror but #it's just too disturbing. it's just pure nightmare fuel. #like it could be bearable to me (not that it matters lol) if it stayed firmly within the fanfic sphere. but it's leaking out so badly #and it's like i can't escape it lol. it's escaping the recesses of fanfic websites and (even more than it always has been) becoming #material for cis people lacking awareness of and sensitivity towards trans ppl and issues to spice up a m/m story #and that's actually maddening lol #i remember considering ranting about it to my therapist for a hot minute back in the day #but ultimately the last thing i want is to spread it further or to be made to talk about it haha #even posting about it now is making my skin crawl. but i figure that anyone on this website is already acquainted with it :} #this will probably be severely regretted and deleted eventually though #about me #mine #cw omegaverse #cw tag essay

[physicsgoblin]

I hate that I just feel so tired all the time. I was going to do something tonight, I "budgeted" for it, but then unexpectedly stayed till 4 after church talking with someone and then by the time I got home at almost 5, the energy or motivation or joy or whatever it is is drained and I couldn't bring myself to leave the house again.

#and then of course i don't even do anything useful #i really wanted to go #why didn't i? #i guess it's laziness #but the fact that it gets dark so early doesn't help #and the fact i always have to go to these things alone #i keep thinking it would be easier if i had someone picking me up #or me going with someone i know teally wanted to see me #I'm so tired #more than physically tired #it's soul deep #i wish i had gone even though i was tired instead of wasting my evening #and my mom will say #you'll never meet anyone if you don't go to anything #but one loses the motivation to go when you have acquaintances but no friends #and have had no luck meeting a good man

[short-and-ugly]

reading up more about invader arcs to see where it went wrong and 😨 what the hell

#i dont know how much of what i read is like.... genuine shit. and how much is information filtered through anti z*dr propaganda....... #propaganda is definitely not the right word but i cant think of the right word so there it is #i Thiiiiiink that i can avoid having. any of That kind of major conflict happen? by like. at least introducing the series as pro-z*dr #(even though as of now we decided that the irkens are going to be older so there more than likely wont be any human-irken relationships) #still. getting it out of the way will dissuade a lot of the problem-people from like. Showing Up #and then if we also make sure to like #acquaint ourselves with people before deciding on them as muns #we can hopefully filter out anyone that might end up being not so great #hmnngnnm. hopeful thinking at best #i just dont want anything bad to happen again #and if something Does happen #i have gotta be an adult about it. and not run away like a frightened child :( #protect the children..............