#bonkamily

[hysteriaww]

You get kai and bonnie so much together and individually everything you say fits them in canon so well it's too bad the writers really fumbled with them because when kai showed up he was a breath of fresh air and the best part about him is he's all about bonnie that was new and realistic bonkai was their last shot at getting the vampire diaries interest back up again

AH thank you so much for this lovely message, you're so sweet!! Yes, it really is such a shame the writers fumbled Bonkai bc it rly did seem like they had some great ideas there in the beginning, but the execution fell flat :( I feel like Kai was a breath of fresh air not just for us fans but also the cast & crew! U could rly feel their spark of new excitement for a dying show when kai showed up bc i think they all sensed that he was unique and different from the tired, recycled plotlines they'd had since S4.

Ian in particular seemed much more interested in his scenes when Kai was around (and much more lifeless when he wasn't) and Bonnie ofc was *given* much more interesting scenes when Kai was around, compared to prior seasons. Even Alaric & Jo, who started S6 as rick's new boring romance of the season, became relevant, layered and interesting bc of their links to Kai. Like rick loved to play the hero & act like damon was morally beneath him in S6 but his need to protect Jo from Kai brought out a selfish streak that made him go behind Jo & her fam's back to make shady deals w Damon & Kai as long as it kept Jo safe! Even Jo was revealed to be quite crafty considering her backstory of how she tricked & betrayed Kai in 1994, which made her much more interesting than her early role as rick's bland gf.

Even Liv & Luke were (im sorry) SO BORING in S5 but 1000x more interesting in S6 once their story got linked to Kai. His existence single-handedly linked so many disjointed characters & plotlines from previous seasons (like why'd they even bring Rick back after dying in S3? His relationship w Jo (and by extension, Kai) was the only thing that made him relevant for the rest of the goddamn show)! Even the Heretics were introduced to the show through KAI & the gemini/siphoner lore and fully lost steam as soon as Kai wasn't there to make 'em interesting!

As for Kai's links to Bonnie, ya i agree she rly was their last chance to make things interesting bc they'd already given Elena & Caroline "dark" romances that fans were too attached to to accept anything else (see: Delena being forced to stay together; Steroline forever being overshadowed in most fans' minds by Klaroline) so giving Elena & Caroline new pairings would've disappointed fans, whereas Bonnie was a blank slate they could've gone WILD with bc none of her canon pairings had strongly attached fans... yet they gave Elena & Caroline new romances anyway and scrapped Bon's romance with Kai :)))

That is what felt malicious. In S6 alone, they gave Elena who ALREADY HAD DAMON the new guy Liam, then gave Caroline the same guy Liam, Enzo (briefly) AND Stefan, whereas Bon *almost* got Kai & *fully* lost Jeremy in S6. ??? Any writer who paid half as much attention to her fans as Plague did (considering how much ott fan-service she wrote into tvd & how many twitter fights she got into w fans whose ships she disapproved of) HAD to have known her fans wouldn't accept Caroline/Enzo, Care/Stef, Care/Liam or Elena/Liam as much as they loved Care/Klaus & Elena/Damon. Yet she did it anyway bc she preferred LOSING FANS to giving Bonnie someone interesting!

She even planned Kai to be Bon's love interest in S6 bc she thought he wouldn't be popular w fans & instantly torpedoed that once she noticed fans' love for him bc, as I said before, Plague PAID ATTENTION to her fans' reactions. So fans having lukewarm feelings about Steroline was enough to get 'em married, but fans LIKING Kai was enough to get Bonkai axed. It's a common joke that Plague saw Caroline as her self-insert (neurotic, hyper-organized blonde control-freak) which is why she dated more men than even Elena. But I think a large chunk of tvd's white teen girl fans saw Care as a self-insert too (bc w each subsequent season, Caroline was increasingly written & designed that way, which is why fans turned on tvd's original self-insert, Elena, & worshipped Care instead).

Her "im never the one, im not perfect like elena" insecurities made her a blank canvas for (white) girls to see themselves in, which is why she wins Miss Mystic Falls, why she's a privileged Founding Fam member, why she gets to dress fancy & go to Mikaelson balls that have nothing to do w her, why she gets ALL the men, why she becomes the 1st vampire to be pregnant, why she gets to marry Stefan (then instantly lose him so she can go kiss Klaus in the spin-off), why she gets to be tvd's last vampire standing, why she repeatedly gets to have her cake and eat it too. By presenting Elena as "perfect/ideal" & Caroline as an "underdog," fans naturally sympathized more with Care's "struggle" (even tho she repeatedly got EVERYTHING!) Based on this, Plague refused to let ppl like Klaus date Bonnie (which would've made sense) but shoved him w Caroline (which didn't make narrative sense) bc that gave her & white fans the chance to see themselves in Care & feel like THEY were dating Klaus.

(Btw I wanna add that I actually do like & enjoy Caroline! This is a critique of the shadiness that went into *writing* Caroline, not a critique of Caroline herself)

Similarly, Kai was allowed to want Bonnie as long as fans didn't like him, but once he got popular, Plague killed Bonkai bc she believed that she & her (white) fans wouldn't be able to see themselves in Bonnie and feel like THEY were the ones dating Kai. But Kai was not Klaus, Stefan, Damon, Enzo or Kol. His character was CONCEIVED w Bonnie in mind to the point that erasing his obsession w her would make him not even feel like KAI anymore. And that wouldn't work bc fans wanted gucci kai, not walmart kai. Also, his general personality quirks were just not the type that would vibe w Caroline. Chris Wood said it himself, "Kai likes to be the one who talks, he doesn't like to listen, so I think Caroline might make him wanna snap her neck & move on" bc Caroline ALSO likes to talk. So writing him w Care would change Kai too much & writing him w Elena was not an option bc Delena was set in stone & Nina was leaving. So, how'd plague have her cake & eat it too? She refused to let Bon have Kai, and bc there was no other white girl who made sense for him, she kept Kai eternally single so white fans could eternally imagine themselves w him.

And uk what's the worst part? I don't believe all white fans would've necessarily struggled to see themselves in Bonnie if she'd dated Kai. I think Bonnie being the ACTUAL underdog struggler of the show made her very relatable to people, regardless of what your race is (esp bc tvd rarely addressed her race or centered any plotlines on it). I think Plague's own subconscious biases just made it impossible for her to fathom seeing herself in a PoC character, which is why she wrongly assumed all her majority white fans worked the same way & letting Bonkai happen would've disappointed them & made them stop watching. (But that being said, even if it was just a "business decision" to her... isn't it funny how disappointing masses of white klaroline fans didn't stop her from tossing Care at stef, enzo, whoever she wanted, but ONLY stopped her when it came to Bonnie's ships (bc she was looking for excuses to scrap 'em anyway)? Oh plagueee ur biases are showing, girlieee)

#bonkai #kai parker #bonnie bennett #bonnie bennett x kai parker #bonnie x kai #tvd #bonkamily #josette laughlin #caroline forbes #headcanon #asks #mine

[mutatura]

“I just wanna see you shine ‘cause I know that you are a stargirl”

Kai Parker is Starboy (The Weeknd)

Bonnie Bennett is Stargirl (Lana del Rey)

#bonkai #bonkamily #kai parker #bonnie bennett #tvd #starboy #stargirl #star crossed #my art #tvd fanart #tvd au #the weeknd

[themist-underground]

It’s May 10. Happy Bonkai day!

Happy Bonkai Day friend!!

#bonkai #bonkamily #so lovely to say that! #just re-read the charade so I'm in my feelings right now

[thefudge]

Julie plec on her bs again hating on bonkai and bamon

i saw that...

i think the responses from everyone in the bonkai tag were exactly what needed to be said. julie acting like the BK fandom came out of nowhere or were delusional is the familiar brand of pretend-ignorance from a woman who produced and coordinated a vampire show with plenty of "dark" villain/heroine ships that she had no problem promoting. what i noticed in the snippets i watched is a woman trying really hard to wash her hands of a really mixed legacy. she keeps saying "yah, you couldn't pull off this dynamic in 2021, it's too toxic" and she doesn't seem to understand that you can still write dark or challenging ships in really interesting, complex, rewarding ways, and that the reason why smth like KC ultimately didn't work was because of the writing & framing (and chemistry, imo), not because the concept of such ships is no longer sustainable. sure, there is a real problem with purity culture these days, but a ship like bonkai could have found the right balance pretty easily because their context was ripe for exploration. like, no one for instance really shipped ben/bonnie (ben was that guy from s1 who flirted with bonnie only to hurt her and get to elena), because ben clearly didn't give a crap about her and there was nothing interesting in his manipulation of bonnie. no fandom ever stood up for that ship. but bonkai is different, because the pain kai inflicts on bonnie, and the revenge bonnie inflicts on kai are both layered and complicated, filled with sexual tension and conflicting emotions which we see in several scenes. there is a constant interplay of redemption and repulsion, of obsession and understanding between them. the show doesn't explore this in depth, but what we've always argued as a fandom is that there was so much potential. julie disingenuously and hypocritically claiming she has no idea why such a ship would be possible for the only main black character on a show where a romantic lead once snapped the neck of his supposed beloved's brother...is closer to her true legacy. and this isn't to say i wanted d*lena-flavored bonkai, far from it (this is one of the reasons why i'm glad bonkai never happened on the show); d*lena as a "darker" ship was handled poorly, but this doesn't mean all such ships are doomed. given the show's track record, bonkai would have been almost tame. at the end of the day, i don't want julie to like or approve of BK, because to each their own and she is absolutely entitled not to care for it, but what i'd like is for julie and TV writers like her to own up to their biases. i remember seeing a clip about how they decided to go with KC because the chemistry was "undeniable" (debatable imo), but somehow the pretty explosive BK chemistry that everyone had noted upon was...inexistent? (to say nothing of bamon's chemistry, and the potential of any bonnie ship really, but that's a larger and already discussed problem). the obvious double standards is the true and sad legacy of this show.

on a more positive note, i am slightly tickled by the fact that chris wood initially auditioned for enzo, it's like...the bonkai soulmatism, yall

#bonkai #replies #bonkamily #anti tvd

[madeunmexico]

So I've been told I missed out on one of the best BonKai fics that is now gone. And the question is, does anyone have the chapters that I could read??

By and Down, it was posted on ff.net in 2015.

🤞🤞🥺🥺

#bonkai #bonnie bennett #kai parker #bonkai fanfic #bonkamily

[zalrb]

Heyyy! I binged all of your bonkai fanfics in like two days and I loved all of them. You really managed to capture their essense and they all make sense to their individual characters, which I see lacking in a lot of bonkai fanfics. Do you have any recommendations of bonkai fics that are similar to yours?

thanks, anon! i don't actually read fanfiction but i'm sure the bonkamily can help you out.

#bonkamily #bonkai #bonkai fanfiction

[dimdreams]

Ok I’m new to tumblr and I’ve been a bonkai fan for years love this family

But I need to let my thoughts out some where and somehow so I wanna just rant or talk either is good

About this scene Bonnie had with Enzo

It’s gets me so mad and upset because he just asked her if she would turn for him. And she said YES 👏

👏 Now 👏 why 👏 would 👏 you ask Bonnie to die for you why? she is suicidal as it is. This whole scene I was like Noooo where is Kai he would be like

I can only see Kai saying live damn it bonnie don’t die for anybody else but yourself please

#fanfiction #kai parker #bonkai #bonkamily #bonnie #bonnie bennett #tvdforever #incorrect tvd quotes #tvd au #tvd fanfiction #the vampire diares imagine

[hysteriaww]

would kai have saved bonnie if damon left her ?

The simple answer imo is yes - the complicated answer would be his *reasons* for saving her.

I feel like if Kai saved Bonnie in 6x22, it would be VERY different from when he saved her in 6x13 on her bday. In 6x13, saving Bonnie was a huge sacrifice Kai made bc of his newfound guilt and other growing feelings about her. But if Kai saved her in 6x22, that man would do it out of SPITE lmfao. Like sure, maybe a *tiny* fragment of leftover post-merge Kai would save her bc he believed she deserved better, but at the mental state that he was in by 6x22, i think a larger part of him would actually be looking to save her out of this petty urge to make bonnie suffer, bc dying would be too easy for her according to his thought process 💀

In canon, remember how Kai got annoyed by damon seemingly deciding to let bonnie die and choosing elena over her super quickly? He complains, saying smthg like "This decision was supposed to torture him," bc he wanted damon to agonize over the bonnie vs elena choice for a long time. Similarly, i think bonnie dying just like that would eliminate a lot of the angst, pain and tension of the situation, so Kai would save her life *just* so bonnie and damon would be forced to live with the uncomfortable reality of damon choosing elena over her and deal with the emotional fallout of that instead of pretending they have the world's best friendship, as they'd been doing for all of S6 (bc Kai would enjoy watching that mess).

Ofc, that would probably result in Bonnie aiming a lot of her resentment towards Kai for forcing her to face those hard truths, but maybe, after an initial explosion (and a lil nudging from Kai), she might realize that targeting kai is just shooting the messenger rather than addressing the root problem (her toxic friends). If it hadn't been kai, then somebody else would've made bonnie see the truth but either way, that's something she needed to see.

Realistically, even after this realization, i don't think bonnie would've suddenly warmed up to kai, but i think it might've pushed her to ditch damon instead of sticking around Mystic Falls to help him all the time (which would've consequently made Kai suddenly lose interest in Mystic Falls too xD). If Damon then chose to seek her out to beg her (read: force her) to defeat the town's new villains-of-the-week, or if he found her w his humanity off and tried to kill her to get elena back, i think kai might've surprised them all by appearing out of nowhere to get damon off bonnie's case (bc kai being kai was prob keeping tabs on bonnie's whereabouts as soon as she skipped town).

And maybe Kai's sudden appearance would've led to a bonkai confrontation with Kai realizing he may have saved her out of spite in 6x22, but there is no explanation for why he saved her from damon this time besides.. *wanting* bonnie to get her life away from her friends. And maybe that would've also led him to unsubtly point out that an elena-free existence had actually made bonnie's life better, thanks to kai.

Bon would probably kick his ass halfway across the world after a comment like that but i think it would stick with her, making its way under her skin as it sinks in that the horrific thing Kai did really did end up working out for her in the long run. Bc as we know, even at his lowest, there was always some part of Kai that begrudgingly wanted bonnie's attention and validation and rly resented her friends getting that from her while walking all over her. It would take a long time, but slowly and surely, i think Bonnie's intuition would eventually pick up on that tiny part of Kai that saved her life to show her that she deserved better. It would be very uncomfortable for her to realize that Big Bad Kai could no longer be an easy scapegoat for all her problems, but that might be just what she needs to finally see Kai as a person, rather than a monster. And from there? Well, looots of opportunities and potential would open up from there 😏

#bonkai #bonnie bennett x kai parker #bonnie x kai #bonnie bennett #kai parker #anti damon #tvd #asks #mine #headcanon #bonkamily

[sweetdreambonkai]

Bonkai  First Date - 28 Day

#bkmonth #bonkai #bonkaiedit #bonnie x kai #bonnie bennett #kai parker #bonkai au #katgraham #chriswood #bonkamily

[florence930]

anyone: how do you feel about bonnie? 

kai, vibrating at a frequency high enough to shatter glass: yeah i love her a normal amount

#bonkai #bonkamily #bonkai incorrect quotes

[themist-underground]

Canon writing made it seem like Kai was the worst thing to happen to Bonnie, when in reality her friends caused her more trauma. Yet she manages to forgive them for using her magic nonstop...But at least with Kai, Bonnie had agency. She stood up for herself & didn't allow him to use her.

I mean I agree - I remember re watching the first season of TVD and in one of the first episodes I believe Damon cut her throat open ?? And I was shocked because I didn't remember that, and realised that from season one it all goes down hill for her.

Of course her friends have traumatic things happening to them, but somehow it's not adressed in the same way.

She barely have time to grieve her Grams, her dad, her mother who is still alive but a vampire and barely around. Her almost dying and then dying for REAL and being a ghost and no one realise and investigate??

Of course we know by now this show has racist undertones (sigh) and it cause BB and KG to be treated less well that her white conterparts. She has to "forgive" them and keep being loyal because covenient for the plot.

Compared to her friends, we rarely see in her private life dealing with her emotions, dreams, hopes, trauma, getting to know herself, study, practicing magic in autodidactic way - owning her powers, creating alliance with other witches... It's like she has no life or purpose outside of them.

And she just doesn't have time to live her life, because she and her magic are constantly used to get her friends out of their own messes or she's seduced and tricked by new people.

No one is ever as loyal to her as she can be to them, why??

Like you said when she met Kai, I finally could see the old Bonnie, the one who had the chance of standing up for herself, of having the upper hand. You know the badass witch who descicated Klaus? The one who wants to be in control of her own life.

Not only Kai (with his mind games lol) found a way to get her magic back, but he also brought back the fire in her - literally.

In their back and forth retaliation we could see that for once she wasn't a pawn in Kai's storyline -he tricked her but she tricked her too, yes he did stab her, but she killed him first - they were worthy opponants and neimesis. It was more than being the bad guy vs the good girl plotline?

Before the awful mess that was the Seson 6 final their arch was convulted and intriguing and full of parallels and potential. If they had followed Kai's redemption arch they have gone through being ennemies to allies, friends, lovers. Even the plot took a darker turn with Bonnie trapping Kai in another karaoké prison world lol, there's still something there between them.

The difficulty of being in the 1994 world did drove her into a corner - but I like to think it's also because it brought things to the surface that she buried inside for so long like broken trust, loneliness but also strenght. It brought her back.

So idk why they portray Kai as the worst thing ever - so much that suddenly it's the only reason she committ herself to a psychiatric hospital?? (I'm not sure I stopped watching after season 6) - when her Grams herself said that 1994 would brought Bonnie peace.

Seems more like the show back tracked on its own writting because it got to popular and that really deep down they have to hate Bonnie??

I think getting out of Mystic Falls and having her own plotline with Damon and the fresh, exciting new character that was Kai, was one of the best thing that happen to Bonnie.

#ask #bonkamily #sorry if i mistaken at times I don't remember everything that happen in the show

[reluctantrenegade]

This story is not mine but it is amazing and CRIMINALLY underrated so I have to share. Creepy fucked up Bonkai will always be my favorite. 

#bonkai #bonkai fanfiction #bonkamily #bonkai fics

[thefudge]

You wrote Bonnie (in that one bonkai fic) describing her as having saggy titties. Girl please stop projecting. Your fics are overrated btw, I've read much better bonkai stories.

okay? glad you have lol we do have a pretty talented roster of writers

so since we’re here i wanna plug two bonkai fics i recently read that were pretty damn great: glimpse of the silhouettes by donutworry and watching a tragedy unplay by tangolimacharlie 

anyway, here’s to more saggy tits!

#replies #bonkai #bonkamily #fic rec

[hellolovely23]

"The only heaven I'll be sent to is when I'm alone with you." ~ Hozier

#bonnie x kai #kai x bonnie #bonkai #bonkamily #kat graham #chris woods