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okay-victoria · 3 years

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Random Personal Rant

For anyone somehow here not from the original thread, this started off me getting asked what finishing school is and me getting shit off my chest that is only mildly relevant about how I could both be of the social class that gets sent to finishing school and grows up on welfare.

With an understanding that in many parts of the world it wouldn't qualify as so, as far as the US goes, my dad is from what counts as a very old money family from Baltimore & Philadelphia. Both his siblings went to college and one now owns a major hedge fund, and his sister is married to a C-level executive at a huge conglomerate. His parents went to college. His grandparents went to college. All eight of his great grandparents went to college. My dad...did not go to college. He was not about that life, and while I don't mean it as an insult, when I say his primary occupation until I was ~5 was a drummer in a mediocre band I mean that he opened for a lot of great acts, and if you lived in the Boston to Atlanta area in the 80s you may have heard him play, but he was never a huge national name. But he wasn't an amateur band playing for free at some random local gig either.

My mom grew up on a chicken farm in a Mennonite family in Pennsylvania but also completely rejected her heritage and became a model, sort of like my father, of mediocre status. Not Giselle Bundchen, but had national contracts and if you have a Graco ad/box from 1990-1993 you might see both me and her on it. They met because my mom's friends placed bets, one each, on who could sleep with a member of their favorite local band first and my mom picked my dad and...my mom was actually supposed to go be a model in Tokyo and found out she was pregnant with me and couldn't go 😂

So, after my parents had two kids back to back with a third on the way and determined they needed lifestyles more in line with having three children, they became much poorer than they originally were because my mom stopped working and my dad, with a barely-passed-high-school education but needing a true "day job" worked day labor in construction. My dad's father was too proud to give us money/help if my dad didn't beg for it; despite having eventually four young children my dad never did so we ended up on all the state assistance programs one could imagine. My grandma jokes that dinners at my parents house were BYOC - bring your own chair, because we didn't own any.

My mother and paternal grandmother had no such pride issues and I live in eternal gratitude that my welfare childhood was not as crappy as it should have been because my grandmother would have my mom accompany her on grocery runs and buy us food without my father or grandfather knowing, and every Christmas and birthday my grandparents/godparents could give us the one big ticket gift all the kids wanted that year. But, on the other side, I once got stung by a bee inside my mouth because my brother threw a hairbrush through a cracked window at me and broke it and we couldn't afford to fix it for about two years and a hornet got in one day and rested himself in my coke can (my parents were the very American type that fed me coca-cola in baby bottles at age 8 when I was jealous of my younger siblings lol).

It is hard not to believe in "toxic masculinity" when two men warring over dumbass pride issues would rather their children/grandchildren go without food than suck it up and decide 'help' isn't the worst word in the English language, and you know you've only been saved by two women who came from totally different backgrounds and entirely disapproved of each other but reached out the hand to shake when it came down to toddlers getting the short end of the don't-bend-the-knee stick. It wasn't that either of the men were bad people, I loved them both and got along great with both, but on a societal level I feel they were socialized in a very fucked up way if that was the end result, as both claimed "male pride" in these instances [my dad took multiple thousands of dollars I'd saved from working during college from me during the 2008-2010 financial crisis and didn't tell me and that was the reason I was given for why I hadn't been informed/asked, because it would be too emotionally difficult for an adult man to ask a young woman. My graduation present was them repaying me 1/3 of the money they'd taken from me without asking because I'd like, trusted them when it had been in a joint account that was a holdover from when I was <18 and couldn't have my own bank account].

While in some ways my parents on the surface achieved the American dream of going from nothing to a bunch of money, the real factor in play was that my dad's father was the bank. My parents had no credit and couldn't get real loans. My dad worked construction and during the two major periods that flipping houses was very lucrative, he never had to get an actual loan or pay actual interest, he just had to ask his father to pay out cash and then repay him at a flat 2% interest rate that didn't even accrue over time, just...whenever you are ready, repay the value of the loan + 2%. Because my father was doing something productive, in these instances, my grandfather was happy to pay, because it wasn't giving away money, it was loaning it. I had a very weird situation of mostly being poor but like also getting taken to the "big donors" events at the Kennedy Center and my grandparents regularly buying me a dress as a child worth more than my mom's wedding dress and also needing to pretend I fit in with these people.

And look. When I say "these people"...honestly, by and large, most wealthy people, whether inherited or not, are not the assholes you want to imagine. Most of them are extremely nice. Most of them are generous when it comes to the less fortunate who are in their personal sphere of being. Most of them are just really out of touch. The 100% kindest of all of them that I know once relayed to me that she thought people would be happier if once a year they did what she did...go to the airport with a purse packed full of absolute necessities, buy a one way ticket to the most appealing destination on the flight board, buy your clothes and book your accommodations after you'd arrived, and come back after you felt you'd 'centered' yourself. She didn't understand why there were so many unhappy people who weren't taking this very obvious route to being happier. I didn't quite know how to explain that saying "most" people couldn't afford to do that either financially or from a job/career angle didn't even cover it, as "most" sounds like 70% instead of 99.7%.

I was both my parents eldest son and eldest daughter in the worst combination possible. I was the eldest son because I was the most stereotypically male of all my siblings, in everything from desire to physically fight the battles I was given to dislike of shopping/fashion to lack of emotional connection to my relationships, so I can now fix your average household plumbing/drywall/electrical issue better than most "city" guys I interact with and remain less clingy to them in the process. I was also very much the oldest daughter from a responsibility perspective, I managed our household and from age 10 - 24 managed the finances of our family business, my mom almost died giving birth to my youngest brother after a ruptured uterus that should never have happened in the first place if we had adequate insurance to get her a non-emergency C-section (I was just past 9 years old at the time) and I was informally withdrawn from school for two years to take care of the family when she couldn't because there is no paid parental leave in the US and we got double-fucked by the medical industry because she got a bad "mesh" put in and then had to have a further surgery to repair that which we also had to pay for and didn't have the money to win a lawsuit over.

I don't know quite how to put this, but in the deepest fuck you of the universe, my rich-immigrant-ggggg grandfather's money led to him owning banks, insurance companies, etc, and the family cashed out in a big way when their ownership was bought by and merged with what is now Cigna, one of the biggest US healthcare insurers, and my nuclear family specifically got screwed by the American health insurance industry, but anyway, we were the people selected for that karmic comeuppance so if you want to feel schadenfreude at my expense, I'll allow it without begrudging the sentiment, my family might have fucked up your family’s life too, not just their own.

I got up twice a night to feed my brother because my dad had to sleep unmolested in my room to get to work and my mom was too weak to carry my brother or even hold him against her while she nursed so I had to hold him up to her. Adjusting to living in a city and hearing lots of random noises all the time was not easy when I'd had mom sound instincts from age 9.

I learned to drive the fall my youngest bro was born because my mom couldn't and I had to get my middle brother to preschool and go the grocery store on my own. While I hold absolutely no ill will towards my father or grandfather for this and given that about 1/3 of my paternal family either has an autism diagnosis or should, I fully feel the struggles they both went through to be communicated with, my father wouldn't ask for help, and my grandmother that lived 20 minutes away couldn't give enough help because my grandfather refused to do a single dish on his own as that was outside their "marriage contract" type agreement and she couldn't ever stay with us overnight when there wasn't a clearly-communicated need, so they let the burden fall on a 9 - 11 year old child and that really shaped a lot of my life in both good and bad ways. My youngest brother is 22, and we have only just climbed out of the medical debt his birth left us with between my dad's life insurance and my oldest brother and I paying for the extra cost of out-of-state college tuition.

The irony of all of this is that because my father died before his father, when my grandmother dies, my siblings and I will all inherit enough money (as a non-blood relative my mom, despite keeping her vows to part at death and not having remarried in eight years, is cut out entirely) to make this a non-issue, but my grandfather couldn't conscience spotting his unluckiest child some money in the end of days to pay for my youngest two brothers' education and take that worry off my father as he was dying. The day before he died I had to hold him down in bed to keep him from trying to climb in his truck to go to work because he was so anxious about trying to provide for us in spite of his father having fuck you money, because his father didn't think it was fair to the other siblings (who, at the time, still owned a major hedge fund and were married to a C-level executive of a huge conglomerate). A day and a half later I went back to my job because at the time I was then the sole provider for the family and didn't want to risk asking for the standard week's bereavement leave when I knew I was capable of showing up at work the next day and was fresh out of college so hadn't built up a reputation yet.

My father worked the day each of us was born, so I suppose it is only fair and he smiled at the choice. In spite of what it may seem, I gave a baller and very heartfelt speech at his funeral to all his rich friends that over and above everything, he'd taught us how to be happy with our own lives no matter what, and multiple of them emailed my mom in the aftermath to say they'd reassessed their relationship with their children in light of it, although...tbh I kind of doubt that lasted and they probably changed nothing 😅. The last good talk I had with him, two weeks before he died [his liver was going and it sent toxins to his brain that de-personed him after that and he no longer recognized me as his daughter, but as his sister], I reassured him that though we would all be sad he'd gone, we'd live on just fine without him because that's how he'd raised us, and according to my mom that was what gave him the final bit of peace he needed. Although honestly, I don't think I will ever see the strength in another human again that it took my grandmother to sit next to him and stroke his hand and tell him to close his eyes and imagine he was happy on a beach and die, for God's sake, because he was unaware and in pain and just prolonging it for our sake by then.

That type of obsession my grandfather had with assessing his children and grandchildren on the basis of economic productivity and a very black and white idea of "fair" is one you don't easily forget, I promise you. My hedge fund uncle is currently positioning himself to screw us out of our inheritance because of janky writing in the will and I'm doing my fuck all best to gain the wherewithal to go toe-to-toe with this cold motherfucker in court as the oldest and representative member of my happily much nicer and softer younger brothers who I want to remain that way not because I even care that much about the money, I know what bills affect your credit first and what you can put off paying and all of us have good enough career prospects to do our own thing, but just because I want to give the middle finger to a man that was a multi-millionaire and drew lines on his milk and orange juice bottles when I came over so he knew if I drank what my parents couldn't afford when I was approximately six. Anyway, ask me why I support major reforms in wealth taxation. I don't care who it goes to, just not that guy, you feel?

Having expendable income was very exciting for a bit after I started working but once I got to the hateable point of assessing my annual bonus and internally complaining that I'd spent the money I should have spent on a Sauternes cellar to drop five digits on bedset materials (to be fair they are drop dead gorgeous, very comfy and the factory pays a living wage for people to handmake the sheets/duvets/pillows to people in San Francisco, which is not cheap, so maybe I did more good than harm with that), I two seconds later nodded to myself and went "the government needs to confiscate more money from me". The narrative is always that the "undeserving" will use it for dumb things they don't need like iPhones or refrigerators...?...but like...I could also have gone to Bed Bath and Beyond and bought a very nice sheet/comforter set for at most a tenth of what I paid so am I really spending it responsibly either....?....who is going to get more joy out of this misspent money....?....not me, that is for sure, I probably would have had more fun going to BBB and laying on all the demo beds and buying something there.

My lifelong dream, which may become possible if/when I do have something of an inheritance, is to provide food security for one of the many towns in the US were most residents don't have it. It's the thing I remember the most distinctly over the years. I never could quite believe it when I got to the point that I could just...pay to eat at a restaurant. One of the most disappointed my mother has ever been in me is when I was twenty five and confessed I actually had no idea how much a gallon of milk cost in a city grocery store besides that it was probably between $1 and $5, because I didn't have to know. For now I make a weekly drop off of my excess produce to a mom group I met under somewhat weird circumstances but I was walking through the cut-through that went through the low-income housing back to my apartment at like 2 AM on a Saturday and these moms were out there partying and smoking weed with their kids all strapped in strollers around or the older ones watched by a rotating member of the group and I felt very safe and like these moms had a very good vibe of both living their own lives [seriously for mental health parents but in most cases specifically mothers need to be able to keep up relationships with people their age] but keeping their children safe and accounted for while doing so and trying their fuckin' best against all the odds to figure out how to make that happen when life had dealt them a shit hand.

...anyway, looping way back to the original question of what finishing school is, when I was almost done with middle school my dad had built a legit construction business that then very quickly took off because we lived in a commutable zip code to the now-rich-in-their-own-right people he went to high school with who trusted him to redo their homes. We eventually moved to that zip code but I stayed and commuted back to my old high school. But, i was a pretty wild kid which my father appreciated for a long while because I would follow him around on jobs and enjoy doing physical labor, but once I was mid-puberty and also he had to maybe show me to his high school friends that did not fly.

I snapped - not broke, snapped - my left thumb and my parents had to trap me like a wild animal to get me to go the hospital. Then I got a deep cut that partially injured a tendon in my leg and at eleven I tried to beat the shit out of my dad to prevent him from picking me up to strap me in the car and go to the hopsital. Next I got a deep splinter due to my eternal-barefoot tendencies and it wouldn't come out so got infected and I refused to go to the doctor [another weird back story but I was minorly sexually assaulted [[to be clear, not raped or anything big traumatic]] when I was eight and had to stay in hospital for a week and my parents couldn't be with me all the time so I have a permanent heebie-jeebie about going to the hospital, not true anxiety, I will go if I know I need to and I don't breathe heavy or anything, and I'm actually not permanently weirded out by sex or anything, just doctors in hospitals specifically I kind of unconsciously try to justify not needing to the extent I can rationalize it] and my dad was tired of my antics so he was like "fine if you don't go I will slice your foot in half with a Swiss Army knife to get it out" and I called his bluff and laid down on the floor, stuck my foot on his lap, and he didn't really know what to do when a barely fourteen year old girl called his bluff so my brothers watched in fascinated but horrified awe as I got my foot sliced open spectacularly so that the infection/splinter could come out and I didn't even make a sound out of spite despite it being quite painful to my recollection almost twenty years later.

They saw me cry from pain exactly one time when while trying to break up a fight between all three of them (it was over ice cream) I got pushed and my ankle got dislocated and what actually made me cry was snapping it back in place and they realized it was not a joke. These dumb assholes that I love have ragged on me for "skipping" chores the day after I was in the hospital because the day before that I had to spend 18 hours running Thanksgiving as a good sub-hostess like I didn't have a serious infection that needed treating and couldn't rest because none of them were up to any task beyond peeling potatoes.

After the Swiss Army knife incident, my dad's discussion of sending me to finishing school became real, which I knew when my mom made me take a walk with her and talked about it. Finishing school is like...etiquette school....? In ye olden day when finishing high school was not the norm for anyone, wealthy men finished high school and wealthy women often went to "finishing" school to have a combined education on being a proper lady but also being able to hold a decent conversation with your presumably-educated husband, so it wasn't entirely etiquette non-academic. It was more just like "what a rich man wants in a wife" school, which was sort of household management and knowing enough about cleaning/cooking to correct the staff if they fucked up, how to be a polite hostess, and how to not entirely bore him when you were alone together and had done your five minutes of sex or whatever so actually had to have a conversation. In modern times it has obviously expanded to be less bleak.

I said miss me with that, I can be a girl on my own, so I went full throttle into the girliest sport they offer in high school and ever since have gained the inestimable advantage of knowing how to also use femininity to my advantage, which I am very grateful to my parents for making me learn. It would be great if we lived in a world where that didn't count, but it did/still does, and they really set me up to operate in all the worlds.

It is weird for me to tell the story to Internet strangers because it's one of those things that makes your parents sound terrible and abusive in the general tone of the Internet nowadays, and while I support gender nonconforming children I don't remember my childhood or parents that way. But, I feel like the bits and pieces of my life I've given don't always make a ton of sense together without the context, so here it is, and in the end, I think a number of parts of it are areas where you can probably understand where it makes me have the opinions I do when I write.

Anyhoo, this makes my life sound far worse than it is, I actually have a great life and I am not unhappy with it at all and feel I was on the whole blessed with many more turns of luck than unluck, so, please, do not take this as a depressed artist rant, it is more like a rant of a very energetic person who rants about a lot of things all the time and didn’t need to come out but just did because the question was asked and the time was right with my life being in a bit of flux to think about how I got where I am and where I want to go and why.

Always remember no matter what problems it seems like I have, if I didn’t solve them on my 2 year round the world traveling hiatus I took from working, it’s my own fault, I definitely had the time and money to solve them and just chose not to.

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pineapplesimblr-blog · 7 years

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Sims 4 Rainbow Legacy Challenge

(I'm going to refer to them all as girls because all of my generations dealt with the past generation's daughter. However, if you want to play with male Sims, it's not against the challenge rules.)

Rules

1. Money doesn't really matter, but if you want to make things a bit harder, you can start with $5000 and work from there. (That's what I did.) 2. You can cheat the child's gender if you wish. (I did that, too because I wanted each generation to start with a girl.) 3. Their names can be whatever you want, but they all must have the same last name. 4. It's honestly a very laid-back challenge. Just follow the steps of each generation.

Generation One: Pink

Traits: good, creative, outgoing Aspiration: successful lineage Career: painter You are a sweet Sim that would never hurt a fly. You're not very shy and are not afraid to speak your mind, but you're gentle and kind and have almost never raised your voice once in your entire life. Your favorite color is pink and your outfit choices and home should reflect on that. 1. Must have the painter career. 2. Must achive level two before getting married. 3. Couple must have two children before they become elders. 4. The husband must leave after the second child is born. (If leaving you and the kids is too harsh, he can pass away unexpectedly or go on some vacation that he never returns from.) 5. Because you don't trust anyone anymore, you must be mean or mischievious to every man you meet after that. (Besides your sons if you have any.) 6. The kids can have their own share of boyfriend/girlfriend drama if you want, do whatever to keep the challenge interesting while the kids are growing up. (I had my Sim's daughter get pregnant as a teen. You'll see why in Generation Two.)

Generation Two: Blue

Traits: noncommital, music lover, art lover Aspiration: renaissance sim Career: nothing You are kind, like your mother, but years of getting hurt by boys leads you to choose not to trust them. Your father left you young, and your second serious boyfriend left you when he found out you were pregnant. These two incidents lead you to not trust any man. You raise your child the way your mother raised you, and never tells this child the fate of his/her father and grandfather. You are very timid and scared of a lot of things, and get really bad social anxiety. You are only allowed up to two friends (they must be the same gender as the Sim is), and don't like to leave your house. Your friends can visit you by coming over, but you can never go out with them. You work from home by writing books and music. You love the color blue. 1. Get pregnant with boyfriend (very young, preferably as a teen but young adult works, too). 2. Fall in love as an adult, but leave him at the alter. (You can do this while Sims are getting married.) 3. You can never leave the house and never talk to another man after the day that was supposed to be your wedding. Lock all doors leading to outside for her, but let her child be able to leave. 4. Must earn your living by writing books and music from the confines of the home. 5. Your child has lots of friends and loves to be outside. 6. You must master the writing skill and an instrument skill. (Mine mastered piano.) 7. Create some other drama to make this generation less dull.

Generation Three: Green

Traits: loves outdoors, geek, bro Aspiration: nerd brain Career: scientist You are a sweet Sim. You're a bit of a hippie and you love the outdoors. You become a scientist and specialize in earth science. You love children and want to have a lot of them. 1. You must complete the elements collection. 2. Get to at least level 5 of the scientist career. 3. Must fall in love and marry a coworker. 4. Have as many children as you want, preferably two or more since this Sim wants a lot of kids. 5. Once your next generation is a teen, have him/her be very rebellious, sneak out often, and have at least five romances before they can move out. Be enemies with this teen's friends. (Hinting that the mother does not approve of them.) 6. Again, throw in some extra drama.

Generation Four: Purple

Traits: kleptomaniac, mean, noncommittal Aspirations: chief of mischief Career: criminal You are the Queen of Mischief and often hang out with little gangs that like to pull pranks. You're obsessed with vampires and if you have the game pack you can turn into one. (Right? You can do that?) If not, you can marry one if you want to. 1. Must get married three times, once when you're a young adult, once when you're an adult, and once when you're an elder. You must have children with the first two spouses and divorce them on your birthday. 2. You can have very little children or a lot of children, but you must have at least two, one with each of the first two spouses. 3. Have the criminal career and get to at least level five. 4. Sneak into neighbor's houses, eat their food, and steal their stuff. 5. Must marry a police officer at some point. (Because that's ironic and I find it funny. Do illegal stuff under his nose.) 6. Have a secret basement room (put something weird in there) that you keep from your family until your child finds out about it when they're a teen. Realizing their mother is crazy, this child moves out as a teen and can never return to that house and never talks to their mother again.

Generation Five: Yellow

Traits: neat, ambitious, family oriented Aspiration: friend of the world Career: restaurant owner This Sim moved out as a teen and had a very hard time working as a fast food employee until they become a young adult. Despite their mother's darkness, Yellow sees the good in everyone and everything and buys a restaurant, where you make friends with everyone who comes in. You marry a very ugly Sim, but you can give them a makeover after their first child is born. 1. Move out as a teen and keep the fast food career until you are a young adult. 2. Never go back to your mother's house and never talk to or seen her again. 3. Own a restaurant. 4. Meet the man of your dreams at work (he can either be a co-worker or a customer.) 5. Marry this man and have as many children as you want. 6. Adopt at least one child. 7. Must be very happy and never be mean to any Sims. If a Sim is ever mean to her or if she ever gets angry, she must stay in her room until she's happy again. 8. Must be good friends with all of her children and must have full romance and friendship bars with her spouse. 9. Have a nice garden. 10. Master gardening skill and cooking skill.

Generation Six: Orange

Traits: loves outdoors, active, clumsy Aspiration: bestselling author Career: writer You are an adventurous spirit. You can travel around the map and live in every world, but must settle down in your hometown with the rest of the generations. You must get pregnant during one of your travels, and never see the father again. You go home and marry a man who already has two children of his own, and start a Brady Bunch kind of thing. You cannot have children together. 1. Live in every world you have in your game for at least a few days. 2. Go up in a rocketship, visit some festivals, just do a bunch of random things in an effort to pretend you're traveling. 3. Make lots of friends during your travels. 4. Meet a man, have a fling, find out your pregnant, but never tell him and never see or talk to him again. 5. Go back home before the baby is born and meet a man who already has two children. Their mother has passed away. Marry him, but do not have any more children. 6. Have the child you birthed continue the challenge, not your step-children.

Generation Seven: Red

Traits: romantic, noncommital, lazy Aspiration: serial romantic Career: none You take after your father and are very romantic. You flirt with every guy you meet and have multiple boyfriends before you break their hearts. You have always wanted to meet your father. Eventually, you find him with his very young girlfriend and their child. You move in with them. Your father and his girlfriend have people over all the time, and you eventually have a child with one of your father's friends. You never marry but can have other children if you want, but never two with the same dad and you can't get into relationships with them. 1. Have at least three relationships before getting pregnant. 2. Convince at least one person to leave their spouse. 3. Move in with father, his girlfriend, and their children. 4. Get pregnant with one of father's friends. 5. Never get married, and if you have more children, they can't have the same father and you can't date the baby daddies. 6. Complete the serial romantic aspiration. 7. You can't have a job, but you can make money by writing, painting, or with instruments if you want (it's not required.)

Generation Eight: Black

Traits: hates children, insane, romantic Aspiration: public enemy Career: none You are even more Goth than Purple was. You are insane and live in a small house in the woods with your high school sweetheart. You never get married, and you cheat on him all the time. When he catches you, you take it upon yourself to kill him. You never get married, and have multiple children with your flings. Make yourself look very vampire-ish, and very insane. You mostly ignore your children and can never cook for them, only yourself, and never clean. Your children must do all of the work. Once your oldest graduates, he/she takes all their younger siblings away from you and moves out with them. 1. Live in a small house in the woods. 2. Stay with your high school sweetheart, but don't marry him. 3. Cheat on him at least three times before he walks in on you. 4. You murder him. (You can just cheat him into death by making him really mad or sad or something. It doesn't really matter.) 5. Never get married, but have a minimum of two children with random men you bring home to bed. 6. Ignore your children and have nonexistent relationships with them. Never cook and never clean. The children do all of the work. 7. Have the oldest child graduate and take all of the children far away from their mother. This oldest child continues the next generation.

Generation Nine: Grey

Traits: cheerful, perfectionist, romantic Aspiration: master chef Career: business Because of the way your mother was, you decide to never speak to her again and you cut off all connection from her. You are now in a crappy house with your younger siblings. You do not let them talk to your mother, either. You work as an office assistant and don't make much money. Desperate and lonely, you create an account on a dating profile and go on a few dates before you find a man you actually like. One thing leads to another, and you marry him and are pregnant. Your siblings start to move out. But why is it that you want more? Your mother's traits seem to be coming out in you. You have a one-night affair with someone, but does your husband and child find out? Apparently they do when you find yourself pregnant. 1. Live with your younger siblings until they're old enough to move out. 2. Be in the business career. 3. Go on two dates before finding the right guy. 4. Marry him and have a child. 5. Have a one-night thing and get pregnant from it. 6. Decide whether or not you tell your husband it's not his or if he decides to leave you. 7. Add in some other drama or something to keep things spicy. 8. You can decide which of her two children continues the line.

Generation 10: White

Traits: geek, loner, gloomy Aspiration: computer whiz Career: secret agent You've always liked to keep to yourself and stay out of the way. Your parents fought a lot when you were a kid, and hiding in your room by yourself was usually what you did. You're good at keeping secrets and your people skills aren't the best. You decide to pursue the secret agent career. One of the bad guys you're tracking is annoyingly handsome. One little mistake leads to one little baby, and you lose your job, but not before busting him out of prison. Your once I-like-to-be-alone personality has been terminated and you and your lover escape the generations' town with your newborn baby. Thus ends this Legacy Challenge... but what happens next? 1. Never leave the house except for work. 2. Get to level three of the secret agent career before having a child with a Sim with the criminal career. 3. Lose (quit) your job. 4. Wait till the baby is born and then break your baby's father out of prison. 5. Kiss two police officers before you, your child, and your lover escape to another town. 6. Add a few twists if you want.

That's the end of this Legacy Challenge. Maybe I'll update at some point. Give me your feedback and keep me posted with what's going on in your challenge. Enjoy! - Pineapple Sims

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momguide852-blog · 4 years

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Facts About Helping Newborns To Fall Asleep Uncovered

How The Sleeping Habits Of Newborns can Save You Time, Stress, and Money.

It is, nevertheless, a phase in a child's life that is frequently misconstrued. Current research study has helped to discuss this change in an infant's sleeping habits and likewise modifies some of the important things specialists believed or comprehended about infant sleep. Till just recently, infant weeping and sleeping issues have actually been lumped together, but there is growing proof that they are different issues, with different causes.

In contrast, infant sleeping issues, which generally include babies awakening in the night, don't take place till after 3 months of age. So, sleeping problems happen in the night and at an older age than weeping problems. Moreover, current research studies have actually shown that infants who sob a lot in the very first 4-6 weeks are not especially likely to disrupt their moms and dads in the night at 3 months of age or have sleeping issues later.

What concerns parents is when their child continues to awaken at night after most other babies have actually stopped. This waking up in the evening does not typically include a lot of weeping. The primary sources of adult concern are (1) that their infant is behaving differently from most other children in our society; and (2) that the infant being awake during the night keeps the parents awake too and therefore disrupts the moms and dads' own sleep.

The Main Principles Of The Sleeping Habits Of Newborn Babies

Kid development research studies utilizing infra-red video-recording have found that practically all infants continue to wake in the night even if to the parent they appear to be sleeping all night. By 3 months of age, many children begin to sleep for long durations or to fall back to sleep on their own, without getting up their parents.

Infants who continue to interrupt moms and dads during the night are referred to as night-time 'signalers' What, then, do we understand about why some infants continue to be night-time 'signalers' while a lot of infants stop doing this by 3-4 months of age? First, and most notably, numerous studies have actually shown that many infants who get up and 'signal' their moms and dads in the evening are healthy, gained weight and grow usually, and do not go on to have developmental problems - other than for continuing to wake up and call out in the night.

Due to the fact that babies who are born early have a greater rate of neurological issues than full-term-born babies, these children supply a test case for whether waking up during the night is due to neurological disturbance. In fact, several large-scale studies have found low rates of night waking and signaling amongst infants who were born prematurely.

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A common explanation is that breast-milk is digested faster in a baby's stomach than other types of milk, leading the child to continue to wake up starving in the night. We do not know for certain whether that is proper, however it is generally accepted that breast milk is advantageous for baby advancement.

Third, and more controversially, there is proof that parenting approaches impact whether or not kids wake and signify at night. Four different research studies have discovered that if parents follow basic steps in how they look after their babies, then their children are most likely to stop signifying in the night by 12 weeks of age.

Prior to explaining them, though, it is very important to acknowledge that not all studies have actually found that these techniques work, while some professionals have expressed concerns that they may have unexpected consequences. Till more research study has resolved these issues, moms and dads will need to utilize their judgment, along with the scientific proof, in choosing whether to adopt these types of baby-care.

An Unbiased View of The Sleeping Habits Of Newborns

Problems with getting toddlers and young kids to settle to sleep (sometimes called bed-time 'struggles') become more common after about 2 years of age. Difficulties of this kind frequently take place together with night waking and signaling, but the 2 can happen individually. Although the evidence is weaker, bed-time battles are believed to be partly due to how parents handle their kids's bed-times.

These methods, too, are described in the area titled, . This section of the site was modified in December 2013 to consist of recent research study evidence.

YOUR NEW CHILD (LESS THAN 2 MONTHS) AND SLEEPAt initially, your brand-new infant is on a 24-hour feeding and sleep-wake cycle. Newborns may sleep between 10 and 18 hours a day. They stay awake just 1 to 3 hours at a time. Indications that your infant is becoming drowsy consist of: Crying Eye rubbing Fussiness Try putting your baby to bed drowsy, but not yet asleep.

The Sleeping Habits Of Newborn Babies - The Facts

Sleeping with an infant younger than 12 months may increase the danger of If your kid comes out of his space, avoid lecturing him. Utilizing excellent eye contact, tell the child that you will open the door again when the child remains in bed. If the child says he remains in bed, unlock.

Avoid lectures or sweet conversation. If your kid merely can not sleep, tell him he may check out or take a look at books in his room, but he is not to interrupt other people in the family. Applaud your kid for learning to self-soothe and fall asleep alone. Bear in mind that bedtime routines can be interrupted by modifications or tensions, such as transferring to a brand-new house or gaining a new bro or sis.

She said the recommendations covered a year "to be on the sensible side," but that the first 6 months were crucial because that's when the danger of SIDS is highest." We do not understand why, but it appears to be protective to have baby oversleeping the same room as parents, not in the same bed however in the very same space," Dr.

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To back this up, the academy pointed out three research studies and an out-of-print book, "Unexpected Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS): New Trends in the Nineties." This is the very same evidence the academy pointed out in 2011, when it likewise recommended room-sharing, but less prominently. The three research studies are case-control studies. That suggests researchers put together records of babies who died of SIDS and matched them as closely as possible, based on things like age or location.

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Hey! I was wondering if I could request scenarios where the Paladins meet the reader's siblings and help babysit them? If you need inspiration for the siblings, maybe my little sisters. Youngest (7 years old) is shy at first, then sassy, stubborn, smart, and talkative. The other (10) is deaf, quiet, creative, bubbly and sweet. And my bro (he's 13) protective, stoic, sarcastic and quiet. If you need more to go on, message me! Thank you! You're a blessing to the fandom ❤️

I hope you enjoythese! Thank you for the compliment, my love x

Shiro:

“They'renot that bad.”

“Inever said they were.”

“Youlook horrified, Shiro. You haven't even gotten in the front dooryet.” Shiro sends you a sideways glance, one that is a mixbetween a warning and a 'please help me.' You can't help but chuckleat it – he hadn't stopped being nervous from the moment you twoleft your own home. Not only was this the first time he was meetingyour younger siblings, but he was being forced to look after them, aswell.

Itwasn't as if he had disagreed with it. He had kindly said 'of courseI'll help you!' upon the initial request, but there was only so muchconfidence a man could fake at the one time.

Assoon as the two of you were stood outside of your old childhood home,the sound of giggling and your parents telling the younger kids tobehave sounding through the door, Shiro's hand shoots out to grabyours in a desperate plea for you to just staybeside him.

Youhadn't planned to do otherwise, knowing full well how Shiro acts inpublic situations with people he has to impress, but the gesturestill shocks you. You squeeze his fingers gently, before the door isopening and your mothers face is showing through the crack in thedoor, a smile on her lips as if she had no aged a day.

“Finally!”she exclaims, opening the door fully to reveal the three youngerchildren behind her. They had quietened down, becoming slightly shyat the sight of the bulky man on their doorstep. You give them warmsmiles as your mother pulls both you and Shiro into a hug, exclaimingher praises.

Youfollow her into the home, allowing her to tell you all about the newplan and the set-up and bed times and school work – all of which,you know will go out the window as soon as they leave. You and yoursiblings were like best friends – they never took you seriouslywhen you were babysitting them, because all you did was joke around.

Yourmother and father leave the house shortly afterwards, and havocensues. For the first hour or so, you and Shiro genuinely try to bereasonable adults towards the younger ones. Attempting to sit themdown to do their homework, or cooking them little meals and makingsure they drank enough water.

Butit wasn't long before that layer of shyness was picked away,revealing an all-too familiar giddy side that you had seen amongstthem for years.

Inminutes, Shiro was being pinned to the floor by three giddy kids whoinsisted on singing the alphabet all too loudly in your boyfriendear. Shiro groans, wiggling under their grip and begging for you todo something butyou can't do anything but laugh in the corner at how much of a turnthe night took.

“Alright,alright!” Shiro exclaims. “Time to go to bed, or something. Idon't know! Just – get off of me!”

“Youtook the remote, Shiro,” you say from the doorway. Your brothergrins at your words, knowing he now has an even bigger excuse to keepShiro pinned down.

Theoriginal excuse had been the fact that he had risked kissing you infront of them all. That had no panned out nicely, an array of 'ew'sand 'get a room!'s' being passed around before Shiro was eventuallypinned to the living room floor.

“I'mthe big kid,” Shiro argues, sending you a look of annoyance foradding fuel to an already massive fire. “I'm allowed the remote.”

“Andthis is my house,” your brother comments. “So surely we shouldget first say?”

“That'snot how society works. You need to be doing your homework.”

“I'vegot all day to do my homework. The Simpsons finishes at half 4.” “He's got a point,” you chirp in, again. Shiro groans,throwing his head back and finally going limp against the carpet.Your sisters giggle as your brother hops off of him, wiping his handsdown his school slacks with a proud smile on his face – victory forhim, again.

Shiroputs The Simpsonson himself, a true sign of weakness for the Paladin. It makes youchuckle as he walks towards you in the living room doorway, the threekids finally settled down behind him as he wraps an arm around yourwaist and digs his face into the crook of your neck – a form ofcomfort for him.

“Youdidn't tell me I'd be this exhausted so early on,” he mumblesagainst your skin. You giggle, wrapping your own arm around hisshoulders and pressing a kiss to his lips.

“You'vejust got to be nice. They love you.”

Keith:

Uponinitial arrival, you had low hopes.

Itsounds cruel, you know, but Keith wasn't one for social interaction.He could barely go a minute without sending out some sarcastic,offensive remark towards somebodyinthe room, so whenever he offered to babysit your little siblings withyou, you weren't entirely sure what to say.

Therewas always the chance he could be good with kids. You had barely seenhim around children before, so the discovery of a nice and soft Keithcould be made, but from what you hadseenof him around people, he wasn't much of a pleaser of people.

Sochildren were a long shot.

Nonetheless,you said okay. It was the least you could do – he was planning ondropping you off and picking you up anyway. There really was no pointin you leaving.

Yourhopes were low, and your anxiety was high, but Keith barely seemed tocare. He surprisingly walked right up to the front door, knockedpolitely, greeted your mother with a kiss to the cheek before sendingher off with a grin on his face that never once faltered as she leftthe house.

Threechildren to take care of, all of whom were on a sugar high from thesweets your mother had given them in an attempt to keep them quietfor at least a few moments.

AndKeith handled it perfectly.

Youbarely had to step in once as he sat down on the living room floor,your seven year old sister at his elbow with a colouring book in herlap. Keith sat beside her, legs folded as he passed her the crayonsshe asked for like a nurse handing a doctor his tools.

“Green,”your sister would say, and immediately a green crayon would be placedin her small hand.

“It'slooking good,” Keith comments every now and then, looking over yourlittle sisters shoulder as the colouring book. She had always beengood at being creative – the colouring genuinely was good. An arrayof pastel colours that made the Mandala page pop to an impressiveamount. “You need to draw me sometime and then colour me in withthat red colour.” “Even your skin?” your sister giggles.

Keithgrimaces as if the words had affected him. “Do I look ill? Am Iflustered?”

Yoursister nods teasingly, giggling at her own actions. You watch on asKeith gasps, placing a dramatic hand over his heart like a clawreaching into his chest.

“You'vewounded me,” he says, dramatically. “Perhaps to make up for it,you should let me colour in a little bit?”

Yoursister nods her head almost immediately, passing the colouring bookto Keith and letting him choose his own drawing. He eventually comesacross a solar system picture and gets to work on colouring it, yoursister passing him the colours just like he had done for her.

Theywere like two best friends, and you couldn't help the stupid grinwhich erupts on your face at the sight of them.

Lance:

“Lance!”

Yourbrother greets you and your boyfriend at the door before the handlehas even been turned – because Lance is here, and that means goodthings. That means a day of fun, and pranks being pulled on no othervictim than you.

Youhadn't initially agreed to bringing Lance for that reasonspecifically. After last times bad experience with the prank war hehad secretly organised with your teenage brother, you didn't see itas much of a good idea to let him back in. The two caused troublewhen they were together – quiet stealths.

Butyour mother had insisted that Lance be your right-hand-man tonight.Your brother had apparently done nothing but ask about Lance from themoment he had left the house the last time to now. It was aheartwarming thought, until you were forced to suffer through thesame things as last time all over again.

Itstarts off simple. You stand in the kitchen, cooking dinner for thetwo of them as Lance entertains the teenage boy. It doesn't takemuch. A few maths questions giving extra time for Overwatch game play– a deal of many. You can hear them plotting in the living roomthrough an array of pencil scratches and lazor shooting noises, butchoose to ignore them for now. You had put enough trust in Lance tobe mature that you didn't feel the need to be paranoid -

Notuntil there was flour drenching your clothing and you were yellingfor your brother to “Get back here now! I'm telling mum!”

Youhad grabbed your brother and pulled him into a death grip hug,smothering his clothing in flour. Lance had screamed dramatically,attempting to pry your younger brother from your hands, and beforelong, the two of them had gotten away and had hidden upstairs.

“Don'tdie on me, damn it!” you had heard Lance yell as your brotherpretends that the flour is his own blood. “She will pay for this!”

Thenext prank comes not ten minutes later. You walk back into thekitchen, only for Lance and your brother to jump out from behind thedoor and startle you, your brother up on Lance's shoulder fordramatic effect.

Youscream and kick Lance in the leg, watching as he grips your brotherthat little bit tighter to avoid him falling.

“Lance!Y/B/N!” you exclaim, gripping your chest. “So help me god, if youdo anything else-”

“Don'tthreaten him!” your brother exclaims, causing Lance to burst outlaughing. You pout, folding your arms over your chest – you lovedseeing them get along, but bonding over your misery wasn't somethingyou particularly liked.

Lancesighs upon seeing your pouting face and quickly sets your brotheronto the floor, pulling you into a sideways hug. It isn't long beforeyour brother is clinging to your waist, joining in on the embrace.

“Welove you,” Lance whispers against your hair. “This is just ourway of-”

Hedoesn't get to finish his sentence before you've sent flour into theair, it latching onto both of their faces in seconds.

Hunk:

Hunkwas lucky your younger sister liked to cook.

Thatwas what he had told you. That your little sister liking to cook washis saving grace amongst your family, because that was all he likedto do. Cook. Bake. Make food.

Soto walk into your household and be told that your ten year old sister– the shy, quiet and sweet girl you had looked after so many times– actually liked to make her own stuff as well, was like a breathof fresh air.

Henever failed to make you smile with the way them two were together.It was adorable – a mix of admiration and confusion. Your ten yearold sister wasn't one for talking. She was quiet, locked inside ofher own head a lot of the time, just like you were. So to see hergiggling and laughing along to Hunk's playful jokes was a rare andweird sight.

Butyou wouldn't trade it for the world. Not even as you walked into thekitchen on one summer afternoon to see Hunk and your sister dabbingpieces of frosting on each others faces as if the dessert topping wasmake up.

“Y/N,look!” you sister exclaims upon seeing you standing by the door.“We got icing.”

Younarrow your eyes, stepping into the kitchen fully. “I can see that.May I ask why?”

“Wewere baking,” Hunk replies, adding another dab of icing onto yoursisters cheek and watching her as she crinkles her nose up cutely atthe sensation of it dripping from the skin. “We're bored waiting onthe cupcakes to cook, so here we are. Do you not think she looks likeElsa from Frozen?”

“Iprefer Anna,” your sister insists. “Can we put cinnamon in myhair to colour it? Then you can be Elsa!” Hunk's eyes widenplayfully as he turns to you. “Can we?”

Allyou can do is smile in reply, because you know that no matter whatyou say, they'll do it anyway. And a part of you doesn't entirelymind.

Pidge:

“I'mjust telling you that it's scientifically impossible for the eventsof this game to actually unfold in real life. That's why I'm notplaying it with you.”

Yourbrother narrows his eyes, folding his arms over his chest as Pidge'sreply for her to play World of Warcraft with him in real life. “Whatif wizards are real somewhere and we just don't know about it?”

Pidgebarely glances at him as she replies. “I find that very unlikely,since the level of technology in this age would make it close toimpossible for such beings to hide from us.”

“Butwhat about the level of magic? We don't know how well they can hide.”

Pidgeshrugs, still looking up at the roof. “Well, why don't you go lookfor wizards, then? Playing an online game of them won't make themcome out of hiding.”

Yourbrother turns to you, a look of confusion dazzling his features. Yousimply roll your eyes, telling him that this was what your girlfriendwas like on a daily basis – always had to have an answer foreverything, a reason behind everything. It was almost impossible toargue with her, because everything she said was so well thought out.It was as if she had planned the argument beforehand.

Yourbrother sighs and turns back to Pidge, taking a seat against the sofaand letting his back rest against her legs. “You're no fun, Pidge.”

“I'mgreat fun. I'm giving you advice on how to look for wizards.”

“Afteryou told me they weren't real.”

“AfterI broke the cold truth to you, buddy.”

“Whatif you just play the online version with me? You can use mum's laptopand we'll make you an account!”

Youhave to bite back your laugh at the thought. Pidge's face screws intoexactly what you thought it would – slight disgust.

“Youwouldn't catch me dead playing an online game,” Pidge insists. “Iprefer to look into things outside of the internet. Maybe I couldteach you how laptops work from the inside instead of-”

“Wedid that last week.”

Pidgescrews her eyes shut, sighing. “Right. I forgot.”

“Ididn't. I'm the one that got in trouble for my laptop being rippedopen.”

“Itwas for educational purposes.”

Yourbrother shakes his head. “It always is with you, Pidge.”

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WHAT TO WATCH THIS WEEKEND December 7, 2018 - Um....

Are you all ready for one of the worst weekends at the box office in many months? There are no new wide releases this weekend... not a single one. Because of that, we can cut right to the top 10, which should look something like…. Basically, the same as last weekend but everything making even less. Sigh… the only thing of note I should mention is that Universal should take advantage of the slower weekend to expand Green Book further since it’s still in only been in about 1,000 theaters so far.

1. Ralph Breaks the Internet (Disney) - $16 million -38% 2. The Grinch (Universal) - $11.5 million -35% 3. Creed II (MGM) - $9.6 million -43% 4. Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald (Warner Bros.) - $5.6 million -50% 5. Bohemian Rhapsody (20thCentury Fox) - $4.5 million -45% 6. Instant Family (Paramount) - $4.5 million -37% 7. Green Book (Universal) - $3 million -23% 8. The Possession of Hannah Grace (Sony/Screen Gems) - $2.9 million -55% 9.Robin Hood (Lionsgate) - $2.5 million -47% 10. Widows (20thCentury Fox) – $2.4 million -45%

LIMITED RELEASES

While there are no new wide releases in theaters and maybe you’ve already seen most of the movies above, there are a few new limited releases including at least one or two expected to expand wider in December, including two excellent dramas.

Period costume drama enthusiasts should be interested in Working Title’s latest, MARY, QUEEN OF SCOTS (Focus Features), which is an absolutely fantastic directorial debut by Josie Rourke, starring Saoirse Ronan as the title character and Margot Robbie as Queen Elizabeth. The film covers Mary’s return to Scotland to take over the throne as queen, while also trying to get Elizabeth to accept her as a successor since Elizabeth is unable to have children. Along the way, Mary is paired with a number of men including the flamboyant Lord Darnley, played by Jack Lowden from Dunkirk, who gives her an heir even as she great to hate him. These were tough times in Scotland with civil wars and as many conspiracies to take the crown as in Game of Thrones. Also starring Joe Alwyn, David Tennant, Gemma Chan and Martin Compston, this is an amazing film led by another stirring performance by Ronan. Mary’s story is fascinating but also tragic, and it’s about time that someone did more with the character than just as a footnote in Elizabeth’s story. I was hugely impressed with the scope and scale of Rouke’s first feature film and the amount of emotions I felt as I watched it. In any other year, Mary, Queen of Scots would be an Oscar frontrunner, but I feel like the fact this is being seen months after Yorgos Lanthomos’ unique spin on the costume drama genre with The Favourite (which premiered during festival season back in Sept.) might give it a distinct disadvantage among awards voters. Either way, this excellent historical drama opens in select cities, and if you’re interested in British history or royalty, I highly recommend it.

Another great movie coming out Friday is Peter Hedges’ BEN IS BACK (LD Distribution/Roadside Attractions/Lionsgate), starring Julia Roberts and Lucas Hedges. You may remember Hedges from his debut Pieces of April or the excellent Dan in Real Life, starring Steve Carell. Oddly, this film deals with a similar subject as Carell’s latest Beautiful Boy i.e. drug addiction, but I much preferred this film. Lucas Hedges plays Ben, a young adult who had been sent to rehab to deal with his debilitating drug addiction, but he shows up back at home on Christmas Eve, much to the concern of his mother (Roberts). She’s very worried that he’ll relapse to his bad habit being away from rehab, but also Ben has left enemies in the drug-dealing world, one of whom kidnaps the family’s beloved dog, sending mother and son on a tense night out into the drug world to find the pooch. I was pretty blown away by this movie which goes from family drama to something akin to a thriller, and the performances by Roberts and Hedges are fantastic, although the film also stars the always-great Courtney B. Vance. This opens in select theaters Friday, and I’ll have an interview with the elder Hedges over at NextBestPicture sometime later this week.

INTERVIEW WITH FILMMAKER PETER HEDGES

One of my favorite movies from this year’s Tribeca Film Festival is actor Alex Pettyfer’s directorial debut BACK ROADS (Samuel Goldwyn), a drama co-written by Oscar-nominated screenwriter Adrian Lyne (Fatal Attraction). Based on Tawni O’Dell’s best-selling novel, it’s a fantastic study of family trauma as Pettyfer plays Harley Altmyer, a young man trying to care for his three younger sisters in rural Pennsylvania after his mother (Juliette Lewis) is jailed for killing their abusive father. While trying to keep his teen sister Amber (Nicola Peltz) out of trouble, Harley begins a tryst with an older married woman, played by Jennifer Morrison. It’s playing one night only at the Roxy Cinema in New York on Thursday 11pm then opens in select cities and on VOD starting Friday.

Actor Brady Corbet directs his second feature, VOX LUX (Neon), which follows the rise of pop star Celeste, who as aa teenager survives a school shooting incident and sings at the memorial service. With the help of her songwriting sister (Stacy Martin), Celeste (played as a teenager by Raffey Cassidy) becomes hugely successful before become embroiled in scandal. Years later, she returns for her comeback (now played by Natalie Portman) while trying to maintain a relationship with her own teen daughter (also played by Cassidy). Jude Law plays Celeste’s beleaguered manager, and original songs were written for the film by Sia. It opens in select cities, more than likely at many Alamo Drafthouse theaters, and we’ll see where it expands from there. I saw this a few months back and was generally mixed, since I thought Elisabeth Moss’ somewhat similar role in Her Smell (which will play SXSW next year) was much stronger.

TYREL (Magnolia) is the new film from Chilean-born filmmaker Sebastian Silva (The Maid, Crystal Fairy, Nasty Baby), starring Jason Mitchell from Straight Outta Compton as Tyler, who goes for a weekend trip to the Catskills with a group of people he doesn’t know, only to realize he’s the only black person. As the alcohol flows, he becomes the victim of racial stereotyping. This opens in New York at the IFC Center on Wednesday, then will very slowly roll out into other cities, including Columbus and Baltimore on Friday.

Opening in select cities and also at IFC Center is Oliver Parker’s Swimming with Men (IFC Films) starring Rob Brydon (The Trip) as an accountant going through a mid-life crisis who joins a group of all-male synchronized swimmers, and boy, did I want to enjoy this Britcom more than I actually did, which is a shame.

Kate Bosworth co-produces husband Michael Polish’s new drama Nona (North of Two), about a young Honduran woman named Nona (played by Sulem Calderon) who meets handsome traveler Hecho (Jesy McKinney) and takes him up on the offer to go towards the United States, where she can reunite with her mother. They travel across the country via car, bus, boat and eventually by foot through Guatemala and Mexico only for her to discover Hecho’s true intentions.

Opening at the Film Forum is the Danish film The Charmer (Film Movement) from Milad Alami, which follows Esmail, a good-looking Iran immigrant who is constantly picking up Danish women in bars and bedding them before dumping them. When he meets a fellow Iranian woman (played by stunning pop star Soho Rezanejad), she immediately has figured out his game, but it’s one he’s ready to set aside after he falls madly in love with her. This is a fairly slow-build character piece that goes off on a few odd tangents and never really delivers on the thriller aspects promised, but still is fairly worthwhile.

The Italian drama On My Skin from filmmaker Alessio Cremonini looks at the case of Stefano Cucchi (Alessandro Borghi) who was arrested for a minor crime and then found dead while held in detention. It also will open at the IFC Center Friday, but only receives a single showing each day.

Onto this week’s docs. If you’re in New York, you won’t want to miss Amazing Grace, also at Film Forum. If you hadn’t heard about it, this is a 1972 concert film showing Aretha Franklin performing gospel tunes with full band and choir, and it’s an amazing document of the Queen of Soul while at her peak, singing the hymns that she would sing in her father’s church. It plays for one week only at the Film Forum to qualify it for Oscars, but doesn’t have distribution yet.

Alexis Bloom’s doc Divide and Conquer: The Story of Roger Ailes (Magnolia,A&E IndieFilms), exec. produced by Alex Gibney, will open in select cities and On Demand Friday. It’s a comprehensive look at the life and career of the late Fox News CEO, who died less than a year after being fired for sexual harassment. I though this was an excellent doc with a lot of people talking about Ailes you might not expect (like Glenn Beck) but watching this movie made me feel very slimy since Ailes was such a low-life in high places. You can watch it On Demand or in select cities starting Friday, though I’m not sure who might be interested in this, especially since so many liberals I know didn’t want to watch Errol Morris’ Steve Bannon doc when it played the festival circuit.

Onto the VOD specials i.e. movies getting limited theatrical releases that you’re more likely to see on demand and on digital outlets:

Frequent Guillermo del Toro collaborator Ron Perlman stars in Michael Caton-Jones’ new film Asher (Momentum Pictures) as a former Mossad agent, now a gun-for-hire living in Brooklyn, who breaks his oath when he falls in love with Famke Janssen’s Sophie.

Matthew Hope’s action-thriller All the Devil’s Men (Lionsgate Premiere) stars Milo Gibson, Wililam Fichtner and Sylvia Hoeks. It involves a manhunt through the streets of London for a CIA operative who might be involved in terrorism.

Karen Gillen’s directorial debut The Party’s Just Beginning (The Orchard) is released in theaters Friday and on VOD on Tuesday, Dec. 11, following its world premiere at the Tribeca Film Festival.

Also on Thursday begins Russian Film Week, taking place at the SVA Theater between Dec. 8 and 14, showcasing the best of Russian cinema, both old and new, including Russia’s submission for the Oscars, Sobibor, and Timur Bekmambetov’s Yolki Posledniye, which never received a U.S. release.

STREAMING (VOD)

I haven’t had a chance to see the Dolly Parton-produced Netflix comedy DUMPLIN’, but it stars Patti Cake$ breakout Danielle Macdonald as the plus-size daughter of a Texas beauty queen (played by Jennifer Aniton) who decides to shake things up by entering a local pageant. It features a new song by Parton, and it will play in a few theaters for awards eligibility. From Italy comes Marco Risi’s 5 Star Christmas(akaNatale A 5 Stelle), a wacky comedy about the Italian Prime Minister visiting Hungary and while spending time with his secret lover, they discover a corpse in their hotel suite. (I’m loving that these international hits that would never get distribution in the U.S. are finding a home.) Also, from director Bert Marcus comes The American Meme, which follows the journey of four “social media disruptors” including Paris Hilton, Josh Ostrovsky (aka Fat Jew) and two others as they build their online empires. I missed this at Tribeca, so glad it found a home. Last week’s Andy Serkis-directed Mowgli: Legend of the Jungle will also be streaming on the network this weekend, and I recommend it but not for kids under 8.

Also premiering on VOD Thursday (before its DVD/Blu-ray release next Tuesday) is Christina Kallas’ mystery drama The Rainbow Experiment (Gravitas Ventures), which premiered at Slamdance earlier this year. It’s a whodunnit set in a NYC high school where a student is permanently injured during a science experiment.

Also, my good friend Ned Ehrbar (who I haven’t seen since he moved to New York!) has his directorial debut California No available on digital platforms starting today. It’s about a “rudderless junketeer” (something I know about from experience) played by Noah Segan (Looper, Brick) whose wife (something I don’t know about from lack of experience) confesses that they’re in an open marriage, something he did not realize. This sends him into a tailspin as he falls for another woman and moves in with a former A-lister.

REPERTORY

On top of the usual repertory offerings in New York and L.A., old movie lovers across the country can catch the 25thAnniversary screening of Steven Spielberg’s Oscar-winning Schindler’s List, which will play at select theaters across the nation starting on Thursday night.

METROGRAPH (NYC):

I know absolutely nothing about photographer/writer Mario Ruspoli, but restorations of his short films and Florence Dauman’s 2011 documentary Mario Ruspoli, Prince of the Whales (finally translated into English) will screen starting Thursday and through the weekend with Dauman doing intros and QnAs throughout the weekend. Those who want to learn more about the French New Wave will have two more opportunities this weekend as the Metrograph screens two 35mm prints of Jacques Demy’s The Young Girls of Rochefort (1967) and Jean Renoir’s French Cancan (1955), the latter both Saturday and Sunday. Also, on Friday, the Metrograph will start screening a new restoration of Billy Wilder’s The Apartment (MGM/Park Circus), the Oscar-winning 1960 comedy starring Jack Lemmon and Shirley MacLaine that I only discovered for the first time last year when the Metrograph screened a 35mm print. The 1938 Japanese horror film Ghost Cat and the Mysterious Shamisen from Kiyohiko Ushihara will screen on Thursday and Friday nights.

THE NEW BEVERLY (L.A.):

In its second weekend since returning post-renovation, the New Bev is offering double features of The Untouchablesand Capone on Weds and Thursday, Scorsese’s Goodfellas and Machine Gun McCain on Friday, as well as Quentin Tarantino’s Reservoir Dogs at midnight Friday, afternoon screenings of Tim Burton’s The Nightmare Before Christmas on Friday and Saturday, as well as Death Race2000 at midnight on Saturday to commemorate David Carradine’s birthday. Sunday and Monday sees a Western double feature of The Magnificent Seven and Guns of the Magnificent Seven. This weekend’s Playtime: Family Matineeis Charles Lane’s Sidewalk Stories (1989), a silent movie about homelessness in New York that takes cues from Chaplin’s The Kid.

FILM SOCIETY OF LINCOLN CENTER (NYC):

Christian Pentzold: The State We Are In continues this weekend with more screenings of the German filmmaker’s work including The State I Am In*, The Young Lieutenant and one of my personal favorites, Phoenix, on Sunday night. (*I saw Pentzold’s first theatrically-distributed feature this past weekend, and it was fantastic, following a young woman (Julia Hummer) living in hiding with her parents. Definitely can recommend that and Phoenix.)

FILM FORUM (NYC):

Ingmar Bergman’s classic masterpiece The Seventh Seal (1957), starring Max von Sydow, will screen from a new 4k restoration from Janus Films, playing for two weeks beginning Friday. This weekend’s Film Forum Jr. is the classic Oscar-winning movie musical West Side Story (1961), currently being remade by Steven Spielberg.

QUAD CINEMA (NYC):

Continuing the repertory love for Orson Welles with his latest film, the long-lost The Other Side of the Wind, the Quad is launching Actor For Hire: The Other Side of Orson Welles, which as explained, is a series featuring Orson Welles as actor including The Black Rose, Butterfly,Compulsion, The Third Man, A Man for All Seasons and many, many more.

IFC CENTER (NYC)

Beginning a month-long screening of the Frank Capra classic It’s a Wonderful Life (1946) with scattered appearances by Donna Reed’s daughter Mary Owen between Dec. 11 and 24. Sure, it will be on TV a lot but when was the last time you saw it on the big screen? Late Night Favorites features midnight screenings of David Fincher’s Fight Club on Friday and Saturday, Weekend Classics continues its Coen Brothers retrospective with the Oscar-winning Best Picture No Country for Old Men, while Shaw Brothers Spectaculars continues with the classic Five Deadly Venoms.

EGYPTIAN THEATRE (LA):

To celebrate its 20thanniversary, the renovated Grauman’s Theater will screen a digital restoration of Ernst Lubitsch’s Rosita (1923), starring Mary Pickford on Friday night. Spike Lee will continue his repertory run (after appearing at Metrograph this past weekend) by showing his new film BlacKkKlansman and introducing his 1992 biopic Malcolm X, starring John David Washington’s father Saturday night. Then on Sunday, there will be a double feature of Do the Right Thing (1989) and Crooklyn (1994) with a discussion with Lee in between.

AERO (LA):

Following a special screening of Tamara Jenkins’ latest Private Life on Thursday night, the Aero will do a FREE two-film tribute to Jenkins on Friday, showing The Slums of Beverly Hills (1998) and The Savages (2007). Kids of all ages will want to check out the Aero’s Looney Tunes Winter Wonderland on Saturday night and The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992) on Sunday afternoon. Plus they’re showing the Coens’ The Big Lebowski just because they can… oh, and it’s the movie’s 20th anniversary.

BAM CINEMATEK(NYC):

Apparently, BAM is trying to compete with Film Forum by presenting An Evening with Liv Ullman with the actress/director celebrating her 80thbirthday with the theater on Thursday night with a screening of Jan Troell’s 1971 film The Emigrants, starring Ullman and Max von Sydow (from The Seventh Seal).

MOMA (NYC):

Modern Matinees: Douglas Fairbanks Jr. presents A Woman of Affairs (1928) on Wednesday, 1938’s The Young in Heart on Thursday, and That Lady in Ermine (1948) on Friday, so you can see how Fairbanks changed across three decades.

MUSEUM OF THE MOVING IMAGE (NYC):

A new era begins with new chief curator Eric Hynes taking over for from founder David Schwartz, although this weekend only sees Family Matinee showings for Tim Burton’s The Nightmare Before Christmas on Saturday and Sunday. This series continues through the end of the year.

LANDMARK THEATRES NUART (LA):

Still showing the Italian drama Senso through Thursday and then a midnight screening of Nicolas Cage’s Mandy on Friday with producer Daniel Noah doing a QnA with director Joe Lynch moderating.

That’s it for this week. Next week… NEW MOVIES!!!! Spider-Man: Into the Spider-versewill take on the Peter Jackson production of Mortal Engines, while Clint Eastwood returns with The Mule.

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There will come a time in your life when you’ll see a couple and think to yourself, “She’s way too young for him.” Sometimes, you’ll be right. Sometimes, you’ll be wrong. For most people, they don’t know where the line in the sand needs to be drawn with regard to age difference. Luckily, there’s a golden rule that can be used to help you decide if an age difference should be considered “weird.” It’s not a golden rule, but more of a rule of thumb. The “half-your-age-plus-seven” rule is exactly what it sounds like. Whenever wondering if it’s socially acceptable for a couple with an age difference to be together, take the age of the older person, cut it in half, and add seven. For example, if someone is 18 (half their age is 9, plus seven is 16), then the youngest person that would be socially acceptable for that person to date is 16. After all, two years isn’t a big deal, right? Most countries have Romeo-and-Juliet laws that make it so a legal adult can have consensual sex with a minor, so long as they’re within a few years of age. The celebrities on this list, however, typically paid no attention to the half-your-age-plus-seven rule. You’ll be surprised to know what type of girl your favorite rock stars, actors, and celebrities are attracted to. Be warned: some of these are disgusting.

#1 Jerry Seinfeld – He was 38, She 17 Jerry Seinfeld is a comedian you either love or you hate. You either think his sitcom is one of the best-scripted television shows on the planet — or you can’t stand to watch it for five seconds. While he was still filming Seinfeld, he fell in love with Shoshanna Lonstein, who was a 17-year-old high school senior at the time. Seinfeld was 38. As a lifelong fan, it’s impossible to defend that kind of age difference. What could they possibly have had in common? Lonstein switched from GW to UCLA to be closer to Seinfeld while he filmed his show. After dating for four years, the couple went their separate ways. Lonstein said she missed New York City too much to live in California and that the constant press coverage was too overwhelming for her.

#2 Tyga – Dated Kylie Jenner Tyga is known for two things: “Rack City” and dating Kylie Jenner. The latter began when Tyga was 25 years of age, and Kylie was only 17. Their relationship has since been incredibly public because… you know… she’s a Jenner. Her entire life is built off of being in the public eye. The two met while Tyga was performing at Kendall Jenner’s sweet sixteen party. For those completely out of the Kardashian/Jenner loop, it means that Kylie would have been 14 at the time, but Tyga would have been in his twenties. Pro tip: if you met her while performing at her older sister’s sweet sixteen party, she’s too young for you, bro.

#3 Joel Madden – He Dated A Teenage Hilary Duff Joel Madden is the lead vocalist for band Good Charlotte. Even if you don’t know his name, you’ve probably heard of Good Charlotte or, at the very least, heard a Good Charlotte song. They were huge in the early 2000s when punk temporarily went mainstream. They played The Anthem, Lifestyles of the Rich & Famous, Girls & Boys, and many other songs that appealed to angsty teenagers despite the band members being well into their 20s. In 2004, Joel Madden was rumored to have been secretly dating Hilary Duff. Duff was 16-years-old, and Madden was 25. You can see why the couple wanted to keep things on the down low. When Hilary Duff was finally 18, her mother stated that the pair were dating in an interview with Seventeen Magazine. A year and a bit after their relationship went public, the couple broke up. A month later, Madden began dating Nicole Richie, who is now his wife and mother of his two children.

#4 Chad Michael Murray – Proposed To High School Senior Chad Michael Murray is best known for playing Lucas Scott on the show One Tree Hill. During the early 2000s, pretty much every teenage girl had dreams about dating him. One girl, Kenzie Dalton, got to live the dream. Chad Michael Murray met Kenzie Dalton on the set of One Tree Hill, where she appeared as an extra. It’s a little fitting that Murray fell for a high school girl because he played one on television. When they began dating, Murray was 24, but Dalton was only 17. In 2006, Murray proposed to Dalton while she was still a senior in high school. Seven years after the engagement, the couple quietly ended their engagement and went their separate ways. I feel bad for whoever dated Kenzie Dalton after Murray. How do you compete with that guy?

#5 Paul Walker – Dated 16-Year-Old Paul Walker was loved by many for his role in the Fast & Furious franchise. He could have used his fame to become the latest Hollywood playboy, but he found a woman that made him want to be a better man. That woman was Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell, his girlfriend at the time of his death. People remember Walker for his acting career, which is wonderful, but ignore the fact that Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell was 17 years younger than he. When they first started dating, Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell was 16 years old. Walker was 33. He could have had any supermodel that he wanted but instead chose a girl that dreamed of taking him to her high school prom. Paul Walker had a daughter, Meadow Walker, with another woman. Meadow lived with her mother for 13 years, before moving in with her father in 2011. Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell acted as a stepmother for Meadow when she moved in with Paul Walker despite their being closer in age to sisters than mother-daughter.

#6 Wilmer Valderrama – 30-Year-Old Fez Dated 17-Year-Old Demi Lovato Wilmer Valderrama is probably the only celebrity that has a more unusual name than the character he played on television. You may remember him (but not recognize him) as Fez from That 70’s Show. He’s developed a habit of dating underage girls. It all started when he started dating Mandy Moore, who was 16 years old at the time, and he was 20. It’s not so bad. It doesn’t pass the half-your-age-plus-seven rule, but it’s not too bad. Four years later, Valderrama hooked up with Lindsay Lohan when she was 17. Following this hookup, Valderrama dated Demi Lovato for six years. Lovato was 17 when they began dating, whereas Valderrama was 30. It’s not the biggest age difference on this list, but it’s definitely weird. How can the guy who played Fez not find a girl his age? All he has to do is put on the accent he used in the show, and he’s set.

#7 Elvis – 14-Year-Old Priscilla Beaulieu When Elvis met his future wife, Priscilla Beaulieu, she was only 14 years old. He was 24. Their relationship was sexual in nature but often portrayed as innocent love. The couple would spend hours at a time hidden in Elvis’s room. He told her parents that they were practicing music; in reality, they were bumpin’ uglies. However, Priscilla wasn’t the first teenage girl to be wooed by Elvis. Many a mother questioned why Elvis wanted to take their daughters into private side rooms of venues. The mother of 14-year-old Jackie Rowland caught Elvis trying to teach her daughter how to kiss like an adult and asked if he could take her to a bar that night. The mother said no, but Elvis promised he would be with Jackie when she grew up. Many former members of Presley’s entourage have said that his attraction for young girls made them uncomfortable. He would refer to the girls as his “cherries” and get different members of his entourage to pick them from the crowd for him. Often times, Elvis wouldn’t have sex with them — he would lay in a bed naked fondling and kissing them.

#8 R. Kelly – Dated 15-Year-Old Aaliyah R. Kelly is thought of as one of the greatest R&B singers of all time, but he’s also known as kind of a weirdo. For years, journalists have been digging up strange stories about him. Two of the most prevalent stories involve underage girls: one, he filmed himself having sex with and peeing on, and the other, he illegally married. When she was just 12 years old, rising star Aaliyah was introduced to R Kelly by her uncle, Barry Hankerson. Three years later, when Aaliyah was 15 (and R Kelly was 27), the couple were rumored to be illegally married in a secret wedding ceremony. The marriage was annulled a few months later, and both R Kelly and Aaliyah denied that the marriage had ever happened. Both were insistent that they had always remained friends, nothing more. There ain’t nothing wrong with a little Bump ‘N’ Grind, unless, of course, the girl you want to bump and/or grind with is underage.

#9 Justin Gaston – Dated 16-Year-Old Miley Cyrus If you haven’t heard of Justin Gaston, don’t worry — you’re not completely out of touch. His claims to fame are a brief acting/music/modeling career and a brief relationship with Miley Cyrus. When Gaston and Cyrus started dating, he was 20, and she was 16. Four years age difference isn’t normally a big deal, but it doesn’t pass the half-your-age-plus-seven test, making it a little weird. It’s unfortunate that Gaston was never able to establish a career for himself. He’s literally known as the guy that dated Miley Cyrus. Try to find a news story involving Justin Gaston where Miley Cyrus isn’t mentioned. It’s almost laughable. Cyrus is even mentioned in news articles about Gaston’s newborn child!

#10 Kobe Bryant – 17-Year-Old Vanessa (Wife) Besides being one of the most iconic basketball players of all time, Kobe Bryant also speaks fluent Italian after having spent his childhood in Italy and enjoys conducting press interviews in Spanish. Another thing you may not know about Kobe Bryant is that when he proposed to his now-wife, Vanessa Bryant, she was still in high school. It’s not too big of a deal. Kobe was 21 years old, and met 17-year-old Vanessa Laine while she was working as a background dancer in the music video for Tha Eastsidaz’ music video “G’d Up.” Within no time, the two began dating. Six months later, Kobe proposed. The wedding was controversial within Kobe Bryant’s family. His parents opposed him marrying so young, and to someone who wasn’t African-American. His wedding wasn’t attended by his parents, his two sisters, his agent, or any of his L.A. Laker teammates.

#11 Sonny Bono – He was 27 and Cher was 16 The romance between Sonny Bono and Cher is one of the most iconic Hollywood romances. Bono, who was an established singer, helped Cher land gigs before the two of them decided that they should pair up. They loved each other — despite Bono being 27 years old when he met 16-year-old Cher. The couple married in 1964 when Cher was 18 (and legal). Eleven years after their marriage, the duo divorced. It was an ugly, public divorce that probably ruined a lot of people’s perception of true love. The couple had been in the public eye for 11 years, had a music career together, and even hosted their own television show together. After going their separate ways, both tried to launch their independent entertainment careers. Sonny Bono launched his show, The Sonny Comedy Revue, which was canceled six weeks after its debut. He started his political career soon after. On the other hand, Cher ended up becoming pretty famous. You might have heard her referred to as the Goddess of Pop.

#12 David Bowie / Jimmy Page – Dated 15-Year-Old To say David Bowie was a little out there is an understatement. He was a pretty offbeat person. He dressed strangely, embraced his homosexuality (and later his bisexuality) in a time when it wasn’t publicly accepted, and put together concerts that people enjoyed for the visual stimulation just as much as the audio component. But as famous and iconic as he was, he took the virginity of an underage fan. Lori Mattix (sometimes spelled Maddox) was part of the groupie scene as a young teenager. She spent the years of her adolescence hanging around rockers and trying to sleep with the men she lusted for. One of those men was David Bowie and, not long after, Jimmy Page. Jimmy Page spent a little bit of time with Lori Mattix after Bowie. Starting when she was 15, Page went on to have a fairly sexual relationship with Mattix. He tried his best to keep their relationship private, often keeping her behind closed doors so his highly illegal relationship wouldn’t get out.

#13 Ted Nugent – Allegedly Dated 13-Year-Old To say that Ted Nugent has a problem with underage girls is an understatement. He wrote a song called “Jailbait,” and if it were written by someone with a clean history, we might have been able to assume it wasn’t factual or based in Ted Nugent’s reality. Unfortunately, Nugent has stated, many times, often in a bragging manner, that he has had sex with underage girls. Only two years before recording “Jailbait,” Nugent became the legal guardian of a 17-year-old girl when he was 30 years old. Somehow, he managed to convince the girl’s parents that because he couldn’t marry her — and it would be strange for her to live with him without being married — it would be best if he legally adopted her. So he did. And they agreed. For some reason. It gets worse. In “Jailbait,” Nugent mentions that the girl in the song is 13. There have been allegations that Nugent has engaged in sexual acts with prepubescent girls. To be more specific, Courtney Love said that Nugent told her to perform oral sex on him when she was twelve-and-a-half years old. Nugent denies these allegations.

#14 Bill Wyman – 47-Year-Old Dated 13-Year-Old Mandy Smith Bill Wyman was the bass guitarist for The Rolling Stones. It’s concerning that Wyman, David Bowie, and Jimmy Page are on this list. Those guys could have had anyone that they wanted — so why did they pick girls that were underage? Wyman’s love for underage girls is a little more disturbing than Jimmy Page’s, as hard as that is to believe. At the age of 47, Wyman began dating 13-year-old Mandy Smith. The relationship was approved by the girl’s mother but scrutinized by the media. The couple went on to get married but divorced in 1993, ten years after their relationship began. The relationship was definitely sexual. Mandy Smith revealed that she and Wyman first had sex when she was only 14 years old. Wyman says that his relationship was emotional and special. Despite this, Mandy’s older sister demanded that Wyman be prosecuted for his open relationship with a girl so young. Police have not investigated Wyman for this incredibly creepy (and highly illegal) relationship.

#15 Chuck Berry – Alleged Pedo While it’s considered bad manners to speak ill of the recently deceased, Chuck Berry (who passed away in March 2017) was somewhat of a pervert. That’s not just speculation — it’s been proven in a court of law. At the peak of his career, Berry was arrested for transporting a 14-year-old girl across state lines so that it would be legal for him to have sex with her. Additionally, police found quite the pornographic stash in his possession, some of which contained materials of underage girls. He was charged with three counts of child abuse for possessing underage p———y. The charges were dropped after Berry (who filed a lawsuit against county prosecutor, William J. Hannah) struck a no-jail plea deal, leading him to drop his lawsuit. In addition to having sex with underage girls, a 1994 investigative report in Spy Magazine revealed that Chuck Berry had a fetish for watching women when they didn’t want to be watched. He installed a number of cameras in the women’s bathroom of a restaurant he bought and was later sued for owning rolls and rolls of videotape of women defecating.

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