think i understand now why straight girls want gay bestfriends. cause everytime i try to have a friendship with a straight cis man he either ends up a) having a 'crush' on me or b) ghosting me as soon as he gets a girlfriend (sometimes it's both).
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Hey FYI killing or assaulting or raping a woman due to misogyny is a hate crime. It is as much of a hate crime as killing or assaulting or raping any other marginalized group due to bigotry and I’d appreciate if we stopped downplaying misogyny and misogynistic violence when literally every single woman I have met has at some point been a victim of misogynistic hate crime. No, men are not “also oppressed by the patriarchy”, if I see one more person make that claim I’m going to kill them. What the hell do you guys even think the patriarchy is.
like. Ok. The patriarchy isn’t a gender norm system, that’s it’s own issue that tends to form under the patriarchy. The patriarchy is a system designed to serve men and oppress women, it’s designed so that men are able to obtain power but women aren’t. That’s literally all it is.
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I stumbled upon the post of you talking about how you're trying to raise a son that won't hate himself for being male. From a young man to the mother of a young man, thank you. Honestly thank you so much. That will mean so so much for your kiddo, both now and for the rest of his life. I hope your mother's day is a joyous one :)
oh anon, many many hugs. and thank you. I hope you don't hate yourself either, you seem like a really kind and caring person. <3
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more he who drowned the world: i said that the first book felt like it was written specifically because of how much the author liked the side plot with the prince and his eunuch guard. now i feel like actually, the whole duology was written specifically so that the protag could be turned into an explicitly trans character in this second book. like, imo in the first one we were in “woman disguising herself as a man to get an advantage, which definitely has trans undertones” territory, but now the way zhu thinks of her body and past are unmistakably transmasc. i love this shift because of how much this book is digging into the dark and gritty areas of embodiment and gender with all its characters. but i’m also curious what was holding it back before
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I don't understand why there's such a pressure on representing your gender identity outwardly when it's literally so fucking dangerous. If you're brave enough good for you. If you have enough mental strength, good for you. But y'all need to stop taking that and using it as an example of how trans ppl should present themselves and then making them feel less than and invalid when they don't do it your way. It takes a lot of strength and a lot of bravery and a lot of mental strength, to be able to do that. Like an astronomical amount. Expecting everyone to have that ability is weird. And I know, logically, people don't expect that. When you actually sit down and have a nuanced conversation, everyone understands this.. but the way trans ppl who don't pass or don't outwardly represent a binary gender on their bodies, get invalidated and treated like they're not good enough bc they're not as brave as you,is ridiculous. It needs to stop.
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idk things have changed over the years but i've found it so isolating to be an increasingly feminine/gnc man(kinda) who wants a romantic relationship with a woman and just like loves girls a lot. like im not fooling myself into thinking im the most feminine person ever, i'm not but like. i'm beyond the realm of okayness with heterosexual norms to be sure. and there's nothing of myself to make up for the fact that i am seen as lacking. im the happiest i've ever been im the most comfortable with my appearance ever but im like so lonely all the time. what teh fuck.
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I actually really don't like genderbends of Pharma because like. Listen I do get the appeal of genderbends esp since holoforms showed us that Cybertronian dudes can pick human female holoforms if they want. But with Pharma humanformers (and certain other characters) it really bothers me when people make him a girl because like. Pharma is a man/masculine person who's canonically in love with another man/masc person and it really ruins the vibes if he gets humanformered into being a girl. Like it is very important TO ME PERSONALLY that Pharma as a canon gay guy should stay a gay guy if he's made into a humanformer
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i hate corporate anything with my whole being and cringe at gender jokes so hard, but still unironically love how on 07/03 and 08/03 a lot of women on the street have tulips or mimosas or some other bouquets. flowers!!
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Can someone explain what is wrong with the issue JK Rowling is raising in her recent tweets (and I guess this is the same issue she has always raised)? (An explanation that is not simply "let people do whatever" or a demand to just accept all the dramatically new and unconventional ideas woke people expect everyone to instantly agree with) Because whatever she's saying sounds like a valid issue in real, non-internet life... (and I've wasted my morning scrolling through the very toxic tag of her name on here without getting anything meaningful out of it except overbearing people demanding that everyone stops liking harry potter and fantastic beasts and nitpicking over small things to turn the perfectly fine HP books into super problematic pieces of literature)
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