#i’d rather talk with someone :(

[mirokata]

I love the proud aromantic spirit going around this aromantic spectrum awareness week, but we don’t need love to loose for our happiness yknow

just like how aroallos don’t need love to win for us for their happiness (even if they might complain about it eg. “why don’t you have a partner yet”)

we don’t gotta keep saying “love loses” as if every single aromantic person out there doesn’t love love. some don’t, that’s true and valid. let me remind you of the main definition of the word: “a person who experiences little to no romantic attraction”

“little to no romantic attraction.”

it isn’t even about love in the first place, it’s about romantic attraction. there are many other forms of love out there whether we experience it or not, and some can be beautiful. so in my humble opinion, we don’t need to say “love loses” to feel confident and happy with my aromantic identity.

#and what about the aros who really are experiencing romantic love for the first time? now it’s uncomfy scrolling through feeds of romance #but also aromantic feeds because all it will say is love loses #as a joke it’s fineee but some seem to ingrain it in their souls #ngl I joke about it too anyway HAHA #OH AND AS SOMEONE SAID: IT’S THE AROMANTIC *SPECTRUM* for a reason ay (thank you) #I’d rather talk about us aromantics winning than emphasising on others’ love losing #aromantic positivity #aromantic community #aromantic awareness week #aromantic experiences #aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #queer #mirokata posts

[intriga-hounds]

idc what anyone says when a kid reveals an interest to me that i have any knowledge of at all, i act like i love that fuckin thing, like i’ve never loved anything more even if i hate that thing and maybe that’s dishonest of me but the point isn’t to fake interest it’s to model exuberance and joy for the things ur into. i want to give kids permission to be their authentic selves and to show them that it feels good to show your love of something, and that people will still like them—hell, maybe even like them more—if they just embrace who they are and what they like. that even adults like the things they like, and there’s nothing cringey or wrong about it. idk. i just feel like this is so important, for teenagers especially. they’re starting to be who they are and most of the time they’re scared of it and don’t know how to just Be and if there’s anything i’m good at, it’s Being, and i want to show them the joy of what it means to Be and to be so comfortable in ur identity that u genuinely don’t care if others mock u bc the Joy of Being is so complete.

#text #teaching #idk if this makes sense but #it genuinely makes kids light up if u engage rather than shrug or go #‘why do u like that’ #omg SO many adults were mystified by me as a kid and they let it show #wish I’d had someone who was like oh ur brand of weird is my brand of weird #an adult i mean #i think at the end of the day even if i don’t love the Thing we’re talking about #i love that kid #and my love for them is as big and genuine as their love for that Thing

[ch3rie-pop]

The urge to disappear off of the face of the earth is there, but only to stop disappointing the people I love.

But then there’s these goobers so I have to stay around

#:( #beLOVEd mutuals #cherie-talks #I have stuff to do #by that I mean I want to do stuff to make myself and other people happy #wuff #it’s hard #because if I do I’ll didappoint someone #vvvvv #tw vent #personal vent #I’d rather not deal with it altogether #I dunno

[whoblewboobear]

I think my main problem with Blue is that like… her hatred towards people that only wanted to help with her is so misplaced more often than not. Like the way she goes in the DR to roast someone, shit talking them in the house, and then her scathing goodbye messages would be a serve if she was really about it. But she NEVER is. Or if she stopped ratting on the people that are telling her the truth? Like she probably would’ve been in so good with Jag and Matt rn if she didn’t run everything Jag said back to Jared (who didn’t even respect her in game, let alone as a person) If she didn’t win veto she was toast. So Blue getting comfortable now and burning her bridge with America who’s TELLING HER THE TRUTH about Jatt is wild. She’s pretty much an island in a house full of duos and the only options she has left are America or Bowie for a final 2 deal. Maybe Cirie if she cuts Felicia again.

She’s not loyal to anyone which is fine, but she’s tanking her social game and burning any jury votes she could’ve had by shit talking so much with people that aren’t loyal enough to keep it between them. She doesn’t have Cam, Cory, or America at this point. Idk where Fe, Cirie, Bowie, Jag, or Matt lie with her but I feel like whoever she sits next to in the end would have their votes before her.

Sure that veto came in clutch for her this week, but she’d have to comp out to even get to final 2 at this point because no one is willing to carry her there when FBJ is THEE best person to drag to the end imo.

Also I’m so fucking sick of the blaccent and the TikTok-isms. Like I’ll never stop yelling about 🔪

#she’s cute and has a great sense of style and I’m sure I’d probably LOVE her ig and tiktok if she has one #so like… small bursts rather than 24/7 #I don’t watch last night bc I cANNOT listen to her talking about the veto win like she’s a little too cocky for someone playing mediocre #ALSO I was hoping and praying that they wouldn’t end on a cliff hanger so she could get her gloating out in the Tuesday edit 😭 #idk how tight the Fe Cirie f2 is but it’s tighter than any shit they’d have with blue #bb25

[wickedstepmommy]

I made a bumble bff account and it’s not going well guys

#they swipe on me and tell me they like my aesthetic #and then I get too talkative I guess? #there’s a couple people I rambled to that just didn’t respond #I asked them questions and they just didn’t respond #I don’t get it I don’t know how to get this right #for me I’d rather someone ramble to me than just be stale #someone tell me how to do this

[werenotacoupleyesyouare]

Me walking into any fandom and seeing discourse relating to ships/characters instead of real people and taking a biiiig sigh of relief

#ahhh nature is healing #I’d listen all day to someone talking about wether or not people are allowed to ship alastor #rather than another day of dsmp people turning out to be terrible #were rambles

[fideidefenswhore]

i feel like they basically tried to transpose the storyline/dynamic btwn coa and mary boleyn from tobg in tsp (with coa and bessie blount) and realllly overdid what was already well-done and entertaining.

#im gonna be honest — pgreg has a way more entertaining style of writing than EF and who else was it . graham? #also had they stuck with that alba galocha would have done it MUCH better . #i mean same with tcp. if im being honest … #but the majority of the novel of tcp is her marriage with Arthur and they did noooot follow that model at all #hviii in that book is just the runner-up. he idolizes her but she doesn’t love him #it actually spoke well to the emotional truth of like …. #hviii’s pattern of idealization and devaluation #he did the same thing w / AB (she just wasn’t fortunate — relatively — enough to have the end be exile rather than execution ) #also all these Seymour asks are making me think of boleyn counterfactuals which would diverge at that point instead …. #someone write that fanfic bcus i would read the hell out of it #(i kid . it already exists in variations and ive pretty much read all of them #it tends to be analogous to COA’s demotion as Princess of wales ; Anne’s in these fics is usually keeping the title marquess of pembroke) #eyyyye… would read another one tho #I’d be more interested in another epistolary one that has the remnants of the boleyn/howard party talking mad smack about the Seymours 😂 #to like the resident French ambassador and such #much like the Aragonese / Marian party did re: the boleyn party to Chapuys

[nicknelsonblog]

i hate doing maths at 6 am in the morning

#ahhh i hate it #i hate maths #i’d rather talk with someone :(

[sophisticatedswifts]

I can’t believe Netflix is removing half of the movies from my list (the only things on my list are the Reputation Tour movie and Miss Americana)

#I don’t watch much tv #the only show I watch by myself is how to get away with murder #I’ve been watching it for 5 years #I’m on season 4 #i do like to watch tv with my best friend or my family #but I pretty much never watch it by myself #I find it boring to watch tv by myself for some reason #I’d rather have someone that I can talk about it with

[quietplaceinthestars]

I wish people who write lotr fanfic didn’t inevitably end up writing low key constant emotional abuse to their blorbo.

#kicking a hornets nest here #but I’ll start reading something lighthearted and wonder I start feeling more and more uncomfortable the further in I get #the Peter jacksonification and what I suspect are culturally W.A.S.P ppl writing fic #without having read the books or. rely on period dramas for world building #idk it just ends up creating what feels like something deeply insidious masqarading as some teen fixit fic where everybody lives #and then I feel insane and overly sensitive for wanting half the shire Gandalf thranduil and 2/3ds the dwarves & bilbo to kill them selves #bc I cannot fathom how a any fuckjng says that b why would let someone say or do something like that to you #and then I realize it’s. it’s the same reylo #it’s the same 50 shades of grey mentality type stuff #I hate to assume anything about anyone’s identity over one fic. but be fr. either you genuinely believe this is normal or you’re writing #you’re writing it for plot reasons. and like. that’s how you advance the plot? I’d rather read dead dove at this point. #fuck it everyone dies. #talking tag #this is obv. a massive generalization. gods know I beat the hell out of my blorbos #but I am tired. the horse is dead and you’ve beaten it so much it’s glue and fish is toothpaste.

[brookheimer]

do i post my long explanation of empathy vs sympathy re: roman tonight or is that just excessive

#like warning it is Long. will cut it down some bc i wrote it in a mad frenzy at 3 am in my notes app last night but still #tl;dr: roman is intensely empathetic and entirely devoid of sympathy. the seemingly contradictory displays of compassion vs disregard/ #cruelty are not contradictory at all and make complete sense if you understand the actual definitions of empathy and sympathy. i’d argue #that while rome’s capacity for empathy stands out in a show a #of people who are not prone to empathy his complete and total void of sympathy is much more unique in terms of humanity at large. it’s just #a show filled w cruel people so it’s less noticeable that the forms of cruelty he displays are rooted in empathy/lack of sympathy rather #than sympathy/lack of empathy like kendall and shiv (and just most people more generally) #sympathy is predicated upon difference distance and logical dissection of emotion while empathy is rooted in identification intimacy and #visceral experiences of emotion #you guys just literally do not know what these words mean. but that’s fine ! most people do not ! they are frequently confused and conflated #! that just doesn’t mean they SHOULD be. so . maybe i can help w that #also for further reading edmund burke is an absolutely fascinating figure to read esp his writings on british imperialism #although the term he uses is sympathy mehta & other later thinkers who have talked ab him have concluded that his cosmopolitanism of #sentiments/sympathy is much more like the modern definition of empathy (the words have shifted meaning slightly over the course of history) #or rather that the sentiment is empathy but the push to action is sympathy and combining together u get the cosmo. of sentiments #but basically burke is the founder of modern conservative thought basically. he is also the only british thinker who at the time of british #occupation of india actually spoke out against imperialism. this is because he viewed others not from a lens of sympathy/pity (feeling bad #for their plight) but empathy (identifying with their circumstances and placing himself within them) #love burke bc i find it so fascinating how someone i disagree with so frequently also holds a mindset that i value greatly and is anti- #imperialism despite everything else about him #kind of like rome in that sense. except rome’s sense of empathy is slightly broken because a) he doesn’t have any sympathy to supplement it #with and b) his visceral/emotion/gut instinct leading way of viewing the world + the way obscene wealth makes the rest of reality feel #fungible = inability to feel anything towards that which he does not identify #and unlike burke rome is too skewed by wealth and his upbringing to see resemblance in the masses and empathize w them #the other sibs function using sympathy and feel bad for the poor without having to relate to or understand them #but roman doesn’t do sympathy. he doesn’t feel FOR people he feels what people are feeling instead #but only so long as they’re seen as people. sympathy requires hierarchy so not viewing others as ppl v much allows for sympathy. #empathy requires some level of perceived horizontality so rome cannot empathize w that which is not horizontal to him #me: should i post this long thing? also me: posts another long thing in the tags that’s a long short summary of the much longer actual post #anyways. ahem. back to work

[phantom-does-a-thing]

It’s almost worse knowing they hurt me unintentionally because I don’t have any right to hate them. It was an accident, they didn’t know, but still I have breakdowns at the mention of them and they don’t even know.

#I haven’t talked to them in months #and by god I don’t want to talk to them again #because it hurts So Bad #and I’m not even in the right to hate them bc they didn’t do it on purpose #I’d rather them do it on purpose because then I could hate them #because I’m angry and upset and I had a panic attack last night about it #this person who probably doesn’t even think about me for a second #and they’re constantly in my mind making me feel like crap #that’s not fair #I hope my name is never in their thoughts again and I hope they always wonder why I stopped talking to them #I wanted closure before but it’s too late for that because it’s been long enough that #wtf would I even say? #you hurt me. you abandoned me? but I’m the one that stopped talking #it felt like you abandoned me and I didn’t have the energy to keep up a one sided talk #when I know there were people who would talk to me #I know you’re busy. but at least something would be nice #I’m needy. and clingy. and I KNOW that #but still. it hurts because it’s like everything I always get left behind and they’re the PRIME example of that #I don’t even know why they hurt me so bad #maybe it was because it was someone I trusted completely #someone that I was closest to above all else above everyone else #I trusted them. I loved them. we talked about getting to meet up one day #but I hope that when they come up here I am Long Gone and they never think of me again #I trusted them enough they knew my state. I trusted them with parts of myself I barely trusted anyone else with #and the absence hurt like hell #and there wasn’t even one big event to break it off #just a slow deterioration in anxiety and stress that sometimes bubbled up in a message #but I always kneecapped the conversation because never was a good time to have it #and then just no more messages #I should block them. but I don’t want to ruin all the messages we had

[deus-ex-mona]

kawareeeeeeeeeee~~~~~~~~~

#(aka me when my acid burns randomly start throbbin’ when i bend over :( it’s very inconvenient) #in other news ​this week absolutely s u c k s can i trade it in for a better one— #first there was that acid spill. which. like. ouch???? but the mark is still there and is apparently very obvious. which sucks #then the day after the acid attack™️ meself and one other guy were called out under the assumption that we were doing unnecessary overtime #with the ‘unnecessary’ part running off the basis that there’s a low sample volume bc one single monday had fewer samples than usual #and we were singled out j u s t because our taxi claims for last month were through the roof due to the fact that we live across the country #like??? hellooo????? why are you treating it like it’s my fault that i have to pay upwards of $24 (at least) to get home??? #and??? excuse????? why are you extrapolating the previous day’s sample volume to the previous month’s workload as a whole???? #but. m a n. the way the mildly higher up lady abruptly shouted at me for asking a question just. pissed me off. for some reason. #she was talking in circles regarding the future of our taxi claims #so i asked if we (now) had to submit a second claims form for the transport company dudes to compensate us #and she yelled at me to stop talking before i could finish :( sadded and annoyed tbh #though i get the feeling that she hasn’t liked me ever since i left some results she asked for between her desk and some other guy’s desk #and someone else had placed their notebook or sth atop it so she couldn’t find it. and she blamed me for it. ha. #that was a few weeks ago though. so. hm. i wonder if she’s still mad about that… #either way. i applied for a couple of jobs that are closer to my place bc screw travelling across the country for an hour every day #s c r e w hour-long train rides i’d rather sleep #i prolly won’t even get the other jobs but. oh well. that’s life ig

[restinslices]

What’s wrong with Shao Kahn smut 😔

Ooooo if you weren’t anonymous I’d block you for a solid 5 minutes. I will NEVER hear y’all out

#‘imma be the khan if this pussy-‘ #NO YOU WILL NOT #I’m an adult but I’ll call a trusted adult #I’d rather eat a pair of jeans #I’ve let someone talk about Liu Kang’s magical nut and that is as far as we will EVER go #and y’all better not ask about Ermac either #imma blow a whistle #Rest Responds

[woundedheartwithin]

Something y’all need to know about me is, if I message you or tag you or send you an ask or comment or address you in the tags, I am NOT expecting an answer! Not ever, and I mean that. I will not get upset if you never reply to it, and this is for two reasons:

1. I know intimately how stressful and scary and exhausting notifications can be, especially when you’re not feeling so great mentally/physically/emotionally, and I will automatically assume this is the case if I don’t get a reply, even if I see you actively posting on my dash

2. I have already forgotten that I sent you something

#she speaks #in fact I’d rather see you posting if you don’t feel up to replying to me because then at least I know you’re okay #posting publicly has a million times less pressure than privately messaging someone and I fully understand that #I absolutely will not ever be offended or upset if you never reply to me #I’m not kidding like I just like to talk sometimes #and sometimes I like to talk at people directly #I do this in real life too lol I just say shit to the room at large without expecting an answer #I’m chatty esp if I’m comfortable with you #and I like to just drop little encouragements in my friends’ inboxes sometimes #lots of times if you have anon turned on I’ll use anon to do this so that you don’t feel pressured to respond to me #but I’m not expecting anything from anyone I promise #I don’t have a right to first of all because your time is precious and I respect that #but also again… I forget shit like that really easily #god just ask my irl friends lmao I just send them shit and then forget they exist 😂 #also also if I’m ever crossing a boundary tell me! I will respect it without question! #I cannot accurately read social cues so you gotta tell me if you want me to stop doing something #and like lmao I know I just said I’m forgetful but I don’t forget shit like that

[highfunctioningflailgirl]

“Ask me about astronavigation!”

[ID: Enoch with Raffi. He’s sitting at the nav console and enthusiastically clapping his hands together, thrilled about discussing his field of expertise./end ID]

#me when someone wants to discuss PIC season 3 with me #and i’d much rather talk about season 1 instead #or about la sirena #or about the holos #or about cristóbal rios #or about the la sirena crew #about anything BUT season 3 really #aramis in space #star trek picard #enoch (enh) #santiago cabrera