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5sosfanfictioncatalogue · 1 year

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Bottom!Michael Masterlist

Backstage (ao3) - SecondsOfMuke michael/luke M, 1k

Summary: When possessive Luke wants to show Michael how much better he is than the backstage crew member who winked at him.

Muke Smut before a concert.

Better Than FIFA? (ao3) - emiliathegreat (puckdummy) michael/luke E, 2k

Summary: Hotel nights on tour are usually a blessing, but with all the shit Luke's been facing lately, it's exactly the opposite. Michael isn't one to help, either.

black is the colour (of my true love's hair) (ao3) - hemmingscliffords michael/luke E, 2k

Summary: His eyes graze over Luke's ash blonde hair, the multitude of colours from various batches of highlights that their stylists have given him over the past year, the butterscotch coloured roots that are growing in from not upkeeping it, and out of nowhere Michael thinks that holy shit, Luke would look awesome with black hair. Maybe an ebony colour that had a midnight blue washed through it.

Blue Satin and Black Lace (ao3) - sammyswagstar michael/ashton E, 6k

Summary: Michael Clifford never ever backs down from a dare, even if he's dared to wear women's underwear for a whole day. Besides, he kind of enjoys it. He find out he isn't the only one sexually frustrated by the dare.

The one with panty kink, masturbating Michael Clifford, and rough Mashton bro-sex.

do it better (ao3) - lourrygum ot4 N/R, 8k

Summary: takes place during the time michael lost his passport and was stuck in the US while his band performed in the UK. He feels upset about it and stops answering their calls and may or may not unfollow them on twitter, leading to questions and anxiety.

or, 3/4 of 5sos go to the US to see michael and end up fucking him senseless.

English Love Affair (ao3) - takeitoffhemmo michael/luke E, 21k

Summary: Where Luke can't write an essay and maybe falls in love with his sort of tutor

i do things wrong, you thought i might (ao3) - emiliathegreat (puckdummy) michael/ashton E, 2k

Summary: Ashton is the only openly gay member of 5 Seconds of Summer. Michael is a little bit bi-curious and wants to know what it's like to get fucked.

'I'm not gay.' (ao3) - antisocialhood michael/ashton M, 5k

Summary: Michael just isn't gay.

I Only Wanna Talk (ao3) - dafeedil michael/calum E, 16k

Summary: He thinks it should feel wrong, kissing Calum here in the dark, when the thousand dollars he paid to have this is sitting neatly in its envelope just feet away. But it doesn’t feel wrong, not at all. In fact, it feels unnatural not to be kissing Calum.

Or, more simply, Michael falls in love with a prostitute.

kitten (ao3) - orphan_account michael/luke N/R, 1k

Summary: michael has been flirting with his new friend calum, and luke has to show him whose kitten he really is

No Chance (ao3) - iCheeseYou (EHkook) michael/luke, calum/ashton T, 72k

Summary: So Ashton's going on a road trip with his friend, Calum, and he invited me to tag along. Being the adventurous shit I am, I said yes, but I wouldn't have if I knew that Luke Hemmings was going as well. God, I hate that guy, and the feeling's mutual. Why does that annoying brat have to come along? And Ashton and Calum expect us to be friends? Yeah, right. There's no chance that Luke Hemmings and I, Michael Clifford, are ever going to get along.

The best kind of trouble (ao3) - CliffordAffliction michael/luke E, 71k

Summary: “You know” Luke instantly looked back at him and for a second Michael lost his train of thought “When I got here Monticello warned me to stay away from a few kids and I have a feeling he was talking about you” Michael said with a smile and Luke returned it before going back to stare up at the sky “Well you’d be right my friend” Luke began walking backwards again “But the question is: Are you going to listen?” Michael already knew the answer. From the second he seen Luke on his first day he knew he would always have the want to be around him. Luke’s eyes were almost twinkling under the moon and Michael began to get goosebumps. He put on the biggest smile he could and looked straight back at Luke “Not a chance”

Or After Michael is sent to a strict Preparatory school he meets the school troublemaker, Luke Hemmings, and his world begins to change

To Love or To Be Loved (ao3) - antisocialhood michael/luke N/R, 30k

Summary: Luke was crying again because that's all he was, another fuck. He'd been trying since Michael said it was nice to come home to him, to figure out what that meant and why Michael kept him around instead of finding someone else.

It bothered him a lot, that was all Michael saw him as. He threw his heart out on his sleeve and Michael didn't even glance at it.

"One last time, Lukey."

And Luke was so weak.

wrapped around your finger (ao3) - kittenclemmings michael/luke E, 2k

Summary: Michael wants to please Luke.

you drive me wild (ao3) - ObsessedWithBands michael/luke M, 2k

Summary: During a concert, Luke notices how sweaty and tired Michael is as they play their guitars.

Backstage, Luke proves to Michael how much dominance he has.

You Need Some Get Right, Mama (ao3) - orphan_account michael/calum E, 2k

Summary: Calum Hood didn’t mean to walk in on Michael Clifford, his best friend, his band mate, his crush, while he was sleeping. He didn’t know he was going to sleeping on his stomach, wearing something that was definitely not boxers. But, he’s glad he did, because it is the hottest sight he has ever had the privilege to have.

OR the fic where Calum walks in on Michael sleeping in panties. Sex ensues.

#5sosfanfictioncatalogue #michael clifford #bottom!michael #bottom!michael masterlist #masterlists #smut #sex tw

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saetoru · 2 years

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hey tee, can i ask something? so ik how frustrating it can be when anons send hate, but what’s it like when other blogs do it?? how do you handle it?? & i dont mean when they’re like directly talking to you, but subtweeting in a way…am i explaining this well????? idk but something that i hate is when people will just ask & ask & ask you to write as if you’re a machine & not a human being.

there’s a particular account that never writes (which is completely fine), and they always ask everyone to be patient & etc. but they constantly talk abt how “no one writes like they used to” or just complain abt other people’s writing in general & it’s just so sad to see bc as a creator on this app, they should immediately understand tht people are not fucking machines & struggle with writer’s block & stuff like that. she just gives off big hypocritical vibes. idk if you’re mutuals w/ them or not (hopefully not).

her writing is fine, but as a person… idk. im not gonna say who it is, but they’re pretty known on tumblr. it really bugs me when she says stuff like that and then her followers just back her up like nothing’s wrong. generally speaking, i believe u can say whatever tf u want on your own blog, but some of the stuff she says just really upsets me, especially since im starting to write on tumblr. i have blocked her, but after seeing some the things she’s said, plus the amount of people that agree with her is making me real self conscious abt my work.

so yea, how do u feel when stuff like that happens to you?? im so sry for the long ask, but hopefully you can take the time to respond. it would mean a lot! ❤️

hi bestie !! i will answer under the cut:

i just block lmao. like deadass half of a lot writers on here ??? chances are i’ve blocked them and tbh that might sound bad but if i see a discourse or a “hot take” that i fully disagree with, or rubs me wrong, i block. and that’s bc i think all of us as writers, even if it’s the smallest part of our brains, compare ourselves to other writers. so i block writers that give me bad vibes bc i don’t wanna subconsciously start comparing myself to them in a manner that makes me question myself like you said. if a writer thinks majority of fanfic mostly sucks now, well i guess they’re not reading my sucky content bc they are b l o c k e d !!!

i actually have like two or three very strongly voiced ppl blocked that always say “fanfic isn’t what it used to be” or “all fanfic is the same now” and i think personally it’s a really entitled and annoying thing to say. if someone came into a writer’s inbox and said those exact things on anon, everyone would jump to attack that anon and say “it’s free content be grateful.” i don’t think someone being a writer gives them the right to dictate such strong opinions openly about other peoples fanfic writing styles/methods/choices. even if you provide content, you’re still consuming free content just as everyone else. it’s one thing to politely offer advice as one writer to another with good intentions, but that’s very clearly seen in your tone and how you word the message. if you think fanfic isnt what it used to be, then write what you want to see ??? it’s simple.

so yeah either way i would block that individual—maybe i already have them blocked too who knows LMAO i hope i do. but i wouldn’t let it get to you because tbh in my experience ppl who have the most to say about other writers have the emptiest masterlists 💀 the rest of us are too busy focusing on our writing to care about what other people are posting and whatnot. block them, block their friends that agree, block anyone else that agrees with them. LMAO i’m not saying this to act like “ur always right and everyone else is always wrong” but tbh if u just block all the ppl ur disagree with, then at one point ur dash will just be peaceful

take it from me !! the girlie that is blocked by like 75% of this app !! just remove people you don’t wanna see. filter their urls, unfollow ppl they heavily interact with, curate ur own experience without being a bitch. rant to ur friends, get it off ur chest privately but like don’t subpost them in a rly obvious manner and start more drama bc it’s just always gonna be a mess that way.

and tbh there’s a lot of things that ppl in a fandom community can and should come and discuss in a civil manner without peoples feelings getting hurt like meta and popularly flawed characterization patterns, but i think bitching about the “quality” of fanfic is a rly nasty thing to openly complain about bc it’s just unwarranted and discouraging. a lot of people are on here for fun, not to write new york times best selling novels, so just let them have their fun :/

#♡ — one new notification !!#♡ — unknown number.#long story short if u block immediately you won’t see all that stuff on ur dash often enough to bother u

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sheliesshattered · 2 years

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every single thing I have seen on Tumblr about OFMD makes me want to watch it less

#it's reached the level of active hate now #and do not fucking come into my DMs and tell me to watch it #unless you've watched all 4 seasons of Black Sails and can intelligently talk about its meta #whiiich narrows it down to oh maybe 3 people I know on this hellsite #listen. the fandom ruined this for me.#I love pirates #I love WWDITS #on paper I should love this show #but then I see things like fans of OFMD sending asks to Neil Gaiman asking if he feels like a COWARD #because OFMD supposedly has more queer relationships than Good Omens #WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK.#I see people calling it the definitive gay pirate show #in many cases THE EXACT SAME INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE THAT IGNORED ME FOR THE BETTER PART OF A DECADE #WHEN I FUCKING B E G G E D THEM TO WATCH BLACK SAILS #and if you guys are going to go around comparing it to Black Sails -- as though it doesn't sully the memory of James Fucking Flint --#then let's also talk about how OFMD has basically no female characters. and certainly no queer female ships #I might have been able to enjoy a silly little pirate comedy for what it is #but the fandom is so fucking awful I will never fucking watch it now #don't DM me trying to convince me I'm wrong #just fucking unfollow me #if you like this but haven't been convinced to watch Black Sails after all my posting about it over the years #after I wrote and posted multiple fanfics for it #then really we don't have anything in common anyway #you know where to find the unfollow button

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my5hiningstars · 3 years

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#blocking the word bubble bc people keep talking about bubble posts and not SHARING them #and like i get that's the rules but like #bro i cannot afford to spend money on this and i'm feeling very left out and it's really making this cb feel shitty....#mayb e i should just unfollow but i hate doing that :(#neg //////#sorry i'm being negative i just struggle with feeling like i need to keep up with Everything in kpop and it's hard when like #i don't have Money bc i don't have a Job except for teaching 2 afternoons a week during school terms #and school has not gone back yet so i have no money :(#or i do have money but i cannot justify spending it on personal messages from idols when i like #want to move out and also like #buy new nice headphones before the ones i currently have shock me from the frayed cable....#uhhggggghg i hate unfollowing people my dash is so slow as it is.....

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atiny-piratequeen · 3 years

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Alright Everytiny, class is in session lets quick fire some hot takes just for fun, shall we?

Idols do not belong to you. You don't get to control their lives. There's a difference between minorities trying to get idols to stop appropriating and/or disrespecting their cultures and some of yall trying to control every waking aspect of their lives bc you've got it in your head that they're your "perfect, precious babies" or whatever bs you've come up with. They are not the same.

None of us are perfect. If someone comes up to you and tells you something you're doing may be offensive to them/some people, stop and listen before immediately taking that as an attack on your person

Literally everyone can learn and grow. Fandom spaces are full of people from all walks of life. Just because you have different opinions doesn't mean the end result of a conversation has to become volatile

If you're joining a net, read the rules before you do so. Not skim through for the key word to get in. R e a d the damn r u l e s

It is your job to curate your fandom spaces. If you decide you dont like someone's content/behavior, it is well within your right to block them to keep yourself from seeing them/their content/their behavior

This also means its not someone's job to write you an essay in MLA format, size 12 Times New Roman, double spaced on why they blocked you. Take the L and move on, there's more than enough other people in a fandom space to find different friends

Your friends are not your punching bags. They're not your yesmen. If you truly consider someone a friend, you need to understand that yall may have different opinions/views on things and this is something you should be able to talk about in a mature manner. If you expect your friends to just nod along to everything or if they expect YOU to nod along to everything, maybe look at that friendship again. No, you shouldn't be fighting all the time, but if you dont feel comfortable speaking out when you have concerns with a friend then.....?

Adults stop engaging with minors with nsfw asks and fics. Adults stop engaging with minors with nsfw content period.

Minors stop fucking lying about your age to sneak into spaces you KNOW are marked as 18+. Adults in those spaces are trying to respect boundaries and also be comfortable and if you cant see why a 15-17 yo lying about being a 18+ yo just so they can talk about getting railed with adults that ARE 18+ (especially if they say no minor interactions) is wrong, maybe you're not as "mature" as you keep telling yourselves.

Sending anon hate makes you a coward and a bitch and no one should take you seriously. Either say it in a post, off anon, in dms, or leave it alone because this anon hate shit is whack.

You can write whatever you want. Yes, even dark fics, but put a FUCKING trigger warning on shit thats triggering. You know DAMN well whats hard triggers.

Respect that people DO have triggers and make sure to mark works/posts accordingly.

You not having the same triggers as someone or not having triggers at all doesnt make you any better than someone who does. Don't be a fucking dick.

You don't have to fully understand someone's identity/culture to respect that they have one and that its different than yours.

Take scs if you feel you're being scammed/wronged. If you dont keep evidence of things being amiss, its very easy for someone to spin a story in their favor.

You arent less of a for considering fandom spaces too overwhelming.

You arent a terrible fan for not knowing every waking moment of these idol's lives. In fact, some of yall need to step back and give them more space

Its none of your business who they're dating. If its not an inappropriate relationship with an adult and a minor or an abusive relationship, leave these people alone

Stop??? Making them fucking uncomfortable by being inappropriate during fancalls??? You fucking weirdos???

You don't get to use your mental illness as an excuse to be horrible to other people all the time. That's not how that works. You don't get to inflict pain and trauma on someone and go "well i have issues so-" and think that's a scapegoat. If you can acknowledge you have problems that makes you lash out, you can actively find solutions to work on doing it less at the very least, not shrug and go "oh well". You're still a dick.

An author sharing their troubles in life is not an open invitation for you to try and bully them into "shutting up and writing, no ones here for the life story". Bitch??? You're on their blog, if they wanna vent for 3 months, post a fic on the 4th, and vent for 3 more, that's their business. The unfollow button is right there. Life is difficult, especially this year. Not everyone can crank out a fic every day

Say thank you when you request a fic and the writer does post it for you. Thats the bare minimum, yknow.

REBLOG!!! FICS!!! AND FANDOM CONTENT!!! YOU!!!! ENJOY!!! DON'T JUST LIKE IT, SHARE THE SHIT IT HELPS

Comments and feedback are wonderful. Do that. Your writers work hard, even something as simple as "i really love how this happened" or "i cant wait to see what happens with person a and person b" goes a long way

Be kind to yourself. If you couldn't meet your goal, that's okay. Work on plans a different way, ask for help, take a different approach. You're doing well in your own way, you can find a way to do better if you need to without putting yourself down all the time.

#fie vents #fie chatters #anyway good afternoon this has been in my mind for like 6 months and building up so here #long post

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keimisan · 2 years

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that anon... is trash... to say the least... they sound like those wonky screechy shopping carts on supermarket...dear anon, you should have buried “your opinion” 6ft beneath the ground not on someone's inbox. wow just wow not only did you go anon but said smth ridiculous. utterly ridiculous fsdkd

why do hate anon go “nobody cares about you” or “you're trash” you're talking as if you know her, mal probably has more friends than you. are you lonely and bored that you're attacking someone now?

you could say you don't like her content, just go unfollow her, to go far by saying it's trash, have you tried racking your brain for a plot, going through writer's block, spending an hour writing a content to share. maybe you do but that doesn't justify your words.

in the first place, there's no need to send that, i don't know what mal did wrong to you, but you could just click that unfollow button and don't bother sending hate.

i-i'm sure i don't have more friends than them, i only have a few online and other than that i'm a whole loner :')))

its actually rather out of context. like, you're just minding your own business, probably ugly laughing as you text a mutual, and suddenly a random anon goes like "you're disgustinf, go d*e in a ditch" and you kinda can't help but laugh because lmao you think i care? i'm joey and i'm disgusting.

to me, it feels like some sort of trend? they just do it for the heck of it. i'm sure they dont even follow me.

#but yeah #bury your mockery 6ft beneath the ground #go knock on your neighbors door and tell them face to face #i hope you get hit LMAO i cant hit you sadly #i took a great nap and now i feel nice :))#thank you for the msg dear #really appreciate you #💌mal.mails

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vidalinav · 2 years

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I think you are very brave for still reading stuff from the ACOTAR fandom. I stopped reading and blocked as many people from the fandom as possible after I read that E was going to kill L to be with A.

I only follow few people from the fandom now.

You know it depends on my mood. Most of the time rants of any kind don't bother me. Usually when I block/unfollow people, it's because of people not following what I consider "tumblr etiquette" (as in tagging things correctly) or when people try to “filter” content without filtering their own tags and where they’re making fiction personal.

E killing L to be with A, to me is like... fanfiction. The claim that E and M do wrong by A is laughable. Cassian (and many characters) being both extremely flawed narratively and a favored character is just a product of an inconsistent book. Nesta being loved and hated can co-exist and both be valid (though I pretend I do not see). Usually, I don’t unfollow/block people for this reason.

WHAT REALLY DRIVES ME INSANE?

When it becomes about other people who are real. When E killing L to be with A means that all shippers of E and L are horrible and anti-feminist. When E and M potentially doing wrong by A means that those who don’t agree with this are not reading the text correctly. People who insist that Cassian can’t both be narratively flawed, but Nesta is or vise versa and then make posts about “why are people hating, why are they even reading this book etc.” People who insist that people should be “positive” and they can’t have valid criticism or the opposite when people insist that the entirety of it is flawed and people shouldn’t like it. Those who consistently start talking about groups of people as if they are less real than characters.

The text of the book to me is fair game.

I do not agree with everything in the world. I agree with very little in fact. Not even with myself. I change my mind every two seconds. But people are allowed to ship and like and theorize and trash talk and whatever of FICTIONAL CHARACTERS. They are allowed to hate every single thing about that character for no reason or love them as if they have no flaw or be in-between like I often am, because I think it’s more entertaining to love and hate them. Love to hate them. Hate to love them. People can argue about arguments. People can and should be critical of the media they consume.

Of course, it’s everyone’s right to not see what they don’t want to see.

I however draw the line at insisting that other people do the same. There is a difference between arguing about an idea and arguing about the person who is having that idea and to those people, they’re blocked and I never ever want to see them or their opinion or their icon again. But that’s not what I consider the acotar fandom... That’s maybe like 15-20 people and since blocking them... I don’t see really anything that truly aggravates me.

So this is why, I’m really okay with seeing these sorts of posts... they’re kind of entertaining (as long as they’re not filled with the above).

#long post #vidalinav answers asks

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we-stand-toether-in-space · 3 years

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LETS GET THIS STARTED!

Hello, we are the Space System!

This is our introduction/DNI/PI/Masterlist post!

(sorry it’s so long I have lost the ability to put a “read more” here, so it’s just gonna be unbearably long)

Because I need to make this clear apparently:

We are a traumagenic system. No, we won’t tell you what our trauma is. No, you wont get a list of our triggers. You are only getting that bit of information on us because It seems to be increasingly needed in the climate of Tumblr Systems.

Starting off with clear boundaries:

DNI (Do Not Interact) if:

You believe in the killing of any group of people (Kill All men, kill all __, “we should kill ___” it’s not accepted here and we wont answer your ask if you try to justify it.)

Want to talk about politics exclusively (it’s acceptable to ask about our stance on something once or so, just don’t expect an answer much different from “Idk what’s going on with that” or “I have no stance” cause that’s basically our stance on most things.)

SAYING THIS BEFORE THE NEXT DNI: we’re here for memes and friends, we don’t actually care that much for syscourse. We don’t agree with “Endogenic” people, but that’s not gonna stop us from reposting their memes cause memes are funny and it’s wayyyy too daunting to look through someone’s blog and the tags they post and it doesn’t make memes fun anymore for us. If you want something we reblogged off of our page cause you don’t agree with us, send us a DM and we’ll gladly take it down.

NO Endos, non-traumagenics, or Tulpamancers. for those of you actively following me and noticing that this has changed, I’ve learned new and better information and I’m sticking to this now. Unfollow if it makes you uncomfortable.

You’re a TERF (Trans-Exclusionist-Radical Feminist)

You’re a Heterophobe (A hate group of LGBTQ+ people who strive to legitimately make straight cis people KYS (I don’t know of another acronym for a group of people, so gonna stick with that one. They exist and if you come on here and vehemently deny that they do, we won’t respond. If you follow #mysterious to it’s first posting, you will see our reasoning.), Homophobe, Transphobe, etc.

Want to engage in Syscourse. We are new to the syscourse thing and are seeking out active sources for information on this topic. Don’t argue here, but if you feel you need to plead your case we will accept a DM explaining your side.

NOTICE: THIS DNI IS BEING CONSISTENTLY EDITED AND WILL CHANGE OVER THE COURSE OF THE NEXT FEW WEEKS. PLEASE DM US IF SOMETHING IS WRONG HERE OR CONTRADICTORY, WE NEED THAT INPUT.

PLEASE INTERACT (PI) IF:

You‘re a traumagenic system

You‘re a singlet (don’t have a system)

Have questions on our experiences as a system (we will try to answer as many of these as possible but it may be a little too personal and that’s okay, we’ll answer the ask with “sorry we can’t answer that” and maybe give another tidbit of something)

Want to submit a post/ask info-dumping about ANYTHING SFW. You want to info-dump? Go ahead there’s at least one person who’s interested in it or will be once they know more!

Have questions about anything SFW really! Even if we don’t know, we might Google it to find out!

Need to vent. Even if we can’t offer advice, we’ll certainly try to cheer you up!

MEET THE PEOPLE (Finally!):

Generic, AKA: A- He/him. Will talk about anything SFW. Anything. One of the ones who will take an Info-Dump and run with it for three years. (Sadly Generic has split and gone AWOL. Only reason this is kept up is cause his tag is EVERYWHERE on this blog)

Hosty- He/they, da host. Basically Generic but less aggressive and more giant squishmellow hooman. Feed it information, this is a threat *gerbil with knife photo*

Gold, AKA: F- She/Her. Will love you like a Mother. Need to vent? She’s there for you.

Bluejay- He/Him/They/Them- ???? (They don’t wanna tell you but he‘ll just pop up at some point.)

Kai- She/Her. Pffft do whatever you want with her she doesn’t care. mostly only here cause she holds Phault (and his little demon army (of our littles)) back from doing stupid shit

E- they/them. Fictive, very analytical. Wants friends but really doesn’t know how to talk to people, they’ll end up sounding distant and off. Not sure if they have emotions or not, but maybe they do? We don’t know very much about him really.

Phault- They/Them (but really any pronouns they literally don’t care. You’ll see we switch pronouns for Her a lot.) He’s more of a caring type. She’ll sit and pretend to make you beautiful candles and send you a google picture of the prettiest one they could find to cheer you up. One of overexitement and many words. Will take an Info-Dump and Go “TELL ME MORE!!” Even if you just summarized the whole Lord of the Rings saga. Will join a fandom. Tries to be a bean.

Mysterious- They/Them. No information, antisocial as hell, cusses a lot. only decided to create an alias cause nobody runs this blog correct.

PLEASE NOTE: this is not in any way, shape, or form, all of our alters. Not even close. So sometimes someone will want to spontaneously post or we’ll have a funny moment with someone who doesn’t have an internet alias. These situations will be handled in a way that the alter(s) want, and this may lead to this list changing.

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crazycookiemaniac · 4 years

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Omg why are you losing so many followers youve been drawing gay shit for forever??? (Or maybe i as a gay was just interpreting it that way)

Because I literally spammed people every day for one week lmao. And also, a lot of people follow others for specific content. The moment I stop drawing that exact thing they followed me for, they unfollow me. There are also accounts that follow just to make you follow them & if you don’t, they unfollow you after a while. There’s people who followed me for haikyuu & weren’t interested in BC content, and there were people who followed me for BC content but got showered in gay art instead and that was not their cuppa tea.

But mostly, i start appearing on people’s feed the more I post. So having me post incessantly for one week made me show up on feeds that I hadn’t shown up for a good while, so there were probably people who forgot they had followed me in the first place & me posting was a reminder to unfollow.

Truthfully, follower counts are dumb. Yes, it is important for you to have a high follower count for you to get attention, but the amount of people actually following you if you don’t have a consistent art style & rarely ever post something with different vibes than your usual ones, is equal or less than 1% of your total amount of following.

My instagram tells me I have 43k. I do not have 43k people following me. I’ve had 43k that once saw my account & pressed the follow button, but their feeds are filled up with other people’s accs that interest them more than mine (as well as my own feed does not show all the content of the 200+ something people I follow, unless I scroll down till the depths of hell to find every single post on that day and then do so on the next day as well).

Essentially, 95% of your followers are there because of content. They want to see what entertains them. Most of them don’t care about the artist and don’t interact with them at all. Many of them are scared to, given the high follower count. Social media & big accounts make people forget that there are other, real, living & breathing people that are behind them all.

So, to many, I was just a random artist they found and “lol”ed at one of my comics & pressed follow without thinking about it. Most of them don’t go to my account and see all other art I’ve posted to see if they actually like what I do, or me as a person and as an artist at all.

People who don’t know this get really discouraged when they don’t earn a lot of followers, or when they lose a lot (like I did). And some people think you gotta have hundreds of thousands to be famous. I’ve seen accs going around that paid for ads, that had over 150k followers and less than 1k likes on their posts.

Truly famous, loved, growing and/or steady accounts have an amount of likes per post proportional to their follower count. For example, if someone has 150k followers, most of their posts will vary from 20k to 100k likes.

When I was growing my account because I hopped in the fandom bandwagon and stupid little me didn’t know that would only make me crash later, I had like 20~30k and some of my posts reached more than 20k likes (because people liked my stupid comics). Nowadays, I’m not part of the fandom that made me grow anymore. I’m part of a very underrated one (Black Clover), as well a I am drawing a very underrated ship (LuGna) that above all else is getting hated on. I have everything against me in this, so it’s no wonder I lost so many followers.

They didn’t wanna see gay art. They didn’t wanna see Black Clover. They didn’t even know what the fuck was going on. Not everyone paid attention or kept up with my warnings. Despite me explaining multiple times in multiple posts what the Thunder Flames project was about, a lot of people still didn’t know what I was doing that for.

The thing about being a big follower count is that, unless you’re actually loved for what you do (and to do that, once again, I need to emphasize that you need to keep a steady rhythm, a steady vibe, a steady you. Because people follow you for your first impression on them, and you gotta keep up to that first impression if you wanna keep your followers.

I’m unsteady. One look at my gallery and you’ll see how disorganized everything is. Oh, lookit, a 1 min speedpaint of a random drawing I did on an old piece of paper! And right on the left there’s a stupid random comic I did–on the right there’s this super detailed, shaded drawing I’ve done that actually looks terrible to me and I will 100% archive it later, and then there’s B&W mixed with gray shaded, flat colored and fully shaded characters of different fandoms + OCs from commissions and whatever else.

The thing is, I made my follower count based on a fandom, and now that I’m not there most of that follower count does not have me on their feed. And most of them do not want me on their feed. Now, I’m trying to build a follower count for who I am as an artist, because the few people who have actually stayed and followed me throughout the years know how inconsistent I am in terms of art style, fandoms and everything else.

A solution to this would me either keep creating/posting the same thing all over again (just in different patterns), or creating original content (which I do plan on doing at some point). But for now? Since my follower count does absolutely not reflect on how many people actually like me and/or my art, I’m going to be as chaotic as fucking ever and do whatever the fuck I want.

So yes, I do find it comical that I lost 1k followers over this and am not fazed in the very least, especially because I literally foreshadowed losing 1k and hit the fucking jackpot.

The only reason I’m talking about this at all is because 1- it’s impossible not to notice my follower count decreasing, especially because every new 1k I thank people publicly through stories; 2- some people were actually worried I was upset over it and I have to 3- show that I am not, while simultaneously trying to show people that just because you’re losing followers doesn’t mean you have to stop doing what you want to create content to please people. It doesn’t mean you should be upset, and it doesn’t mean that what you’re doing is bad or wrong.

It means you’re fucking renewing your followers & you’ll now grow for what you’re trying to grow for, bitch. That’s what it’s all about.

Obviously, people do take a great risk doing this. I am taking a great risk doing this. I could’ve lost 5k, I could’ve lost 10k. But I only lost 1k! And that’s because I believe in the project I worked on; I knew there were people out there who enjoyed what I was doing and it’s on them that I was focused on. On the people who supported me AND my art, not just that one single funny comic post I did 3 years ago.

This answer is 100% a lot longer than what you could’ve possibly expected for and I am typing this while being awake for more than 24h so I’m sure that I’ve repeated myself a lot and that there are a lotta typos or w/e and I apologize for that!! But I’m too lazy to go back to read everything over & turn this into a neat post & I’m pretty sure I could answer your question in the first paragraph.

Oh and also. Yes. Yes I have been drawing gay shit ever since I’ve become an artist because I’m so fucking pissed at the lack of canon gay content in a way that it’s depicted as a normal fucking romantic couple instead of having eeeeeeeeveryone point their finger to the gay couple and scream “HEY THAT’S GAY!!! THIS CAN’T BE PART OF THIS VERY HETEROSEXUAL SHOW WHERE EVERYONE IS OBVIOUSLY HETEROSEXUAL EVEN THOUGH NONE OF THE CHARACTERS HAVE EVER SAID THAT EXPLICITLY BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT THE CREATORS ARE EITHER HETEROSEXUAL OR TOO AFRAID TO LOSE AUDIENCE IF THEY TREAT GAY PEOPLE AS NORMAL PEOPLE!??!! WHAT SORT OF ABSURD NONSENSE IS THAT??!! GAY PEOPLE AREN’T NORMAL!! THEY’RE GAY AND THEY SHOULD HAVE A GAY SHOW JUST FOR THEM IF THEY WANNA GET SCREENTIME” and yadda yadda yadda.

I’m tired of this bullshit. Ever since I was an artist I’ve been rooting for gay ships in shonen manga while knowing they would never happen just because they were gay, and now that we are in our Blessed-By-Satan, Pandemic-Chaotic, What-The-Fuck-Is-Going-On, We-Don’t-Know-If-We-Wanna-Go-Back-Or-To-The-Future-Or-Just-IDK-Fucking-Die year 2020, in which the LGBT community is thriving and being louder than ever to fight for our rights, Me, in my twenty four years of fucking age, having gone through several fucking disappointments ONLY regarding this matter, am sitting here on my ass, hopeful as all galactic, glittery shit that for some fucking reason, my new OTP formed by very underrated characters from this very underrated franchise in the southern and western communities, becomes canon because my stupid eyes can see chemistry between them even though those stupid haters’ can’t. But that’s because they’re stupid and homophobic, and they really should just shut the fuck up. I don’t wanna dream, I want to believe. Let a bitch pray in peace.

But even if I’m getting ready for disappointment, I’m gonna make this project happen and I’m gonna have a shit ton of artbooks from this Thunder Flames project inside my fucking garage if no one wants to buy them. But I am going to invest a shit ton of money in it and I am going to have these artbooks come to life. Because I am spiteful and petty and homophobes should shut the fuck up, and I wanna do what I wanna do bc as an independent artist, I’m building my future with my own two, very toned and buff by now from all the drawing I did, hands.

God fucking damn it.

Jesus christ I’m just rambling at this point, I’m so sorry. If anyone ever reads this out of context people are going to be so confused.

But that’s fine. They won’t. You know why? Cuz I got almost 11k followers here on tumblr but less than 0.5% gives a shit that I’m here, so I’m safe.

Have a nice day, drink your water and fuck homophobes. Peace

#Anonymous

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5sosfanfictioncatalogue · 7 months

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Top!Luke Masterlist

7-Eleven (ao3) - iCheeseYou (EHkook) luke/ashton T, 74k

Summary: Ashton Irwin is a master of thievery. He steals from general stores, food markets, jewelry shops, museums, and people’s homes. Never once did he get caught nor did anyone find out his identity. He loves being a thief. Stealing is his addiction, and he has no intention on curing it.

However, there is one place and one place alone that he does not steal from, and that’s the 7-Eleven at the corner street. He goes in late at night to buy things for himself and to see a boy who works during that time named Luke Hemmings.

Backstage (ao3) - SecondsOfMuke michael/luke M, 1k

Summary: When possessive Luke wants to show Michael how much better he is than the backstage crew member who winked at him.

Muke Smut before a concert.

Better Than FIFA? (ao3) - emiliathegreat (puckdummy) michael/luke E, 2k

Summary: Hotel nights on tour are usually a blessing, but with all the shit Luke’s been facing lately, it’s exactly the opposite. Michael isn’t one to help, either.

do it better (ao3) - lourrygum ot4 N/R, 8k

or, ¾ of 5sos go to the US to see michael and end up fucking him senseless.

English Love Affair (ao3) - takeitoffhemmo michael/luke E, 21k

Summary: Where Luke can’t write an essay and maybe falls in love with his sort of tutor

How did we end up here (ao3) - BrokenTailLights luke/ashton E, 4k

Summary: Where Luke hates guests, but maybe he can tolerate them if 'guests’ include curly-haired, muscular teenage boys with cute giggles

Insecurities (ao3) - gonefornow luke/calum T, 3k

Summary: Luke and Calum have been together for a while now and Luke wants to take Calum out. Unfortunately, Calum isn’t ready to make their relationship public and it makes Luke insecure.

i think they’re cute, though (ao3) - cliffakitten luke/ashton E, 2k

Summary: Honestly, there should be some kind of warning for shit like this: Your amazing, adorable boyfriend has recently bought glasses and looks fit as fuck, you’re going to want to do unspeakable, dirty things to him. Please attempt to control your imminent hard on.

– Or Ashton has new glasses and Luke really wants to fuck him in them.

kitten (ao3) - orphan_account michael/luke N/R, 1k

Summary: michael has been flirting with his new friend calum, and luke has to show him whose kitten he really is

Lipstick Stains (ao3) - gonefornow luke/calum T, 3k

Summary: Luke flirts with a fan. Calum uses unusual tactics to get his attention back.

My Bad (ao3) - iCheeseYou (EHkook) luke/ashton, brief ashton/harry, minor michael/calum T, 128k

Summary: “What if I have a tiny crush on a guy who doesn’t even know I exist? How do I get his attention?”

Ashton finally gets it, but not in a way he thought he’d get it.

No Chance (ao3) - iCheeseYou (EHkook) michael/luke, calum/ashton T, 72k

Summary: So Ashton’s going on a road trip with his friend, Calum, and he invited me to tag along. Being the adventurous shit I am, I said yes, but I wouldn’t have if I knew that Luke Hemmings was going as well. God, I hate that guy, and the feeling’s mutual. Why does that annoying brat have to come along? And Ashton and Calum expect us to be friends? Yeah, right. There’s no chance that Luke Hemmings and I, Michael Clifford, are ever going to get along.

passionately curious (ao3) - cliffakitten luke/ashton E, 17k

Summary: 'Luke Hemmings'

At this, he nearly choked for the second time that morning, since he just happened to know someone with that name. That someone being, his next door neighbour, the very hot neighbour, who Ashton may or may not have a huge crush on.

Yeah, that Luke Hemmings. Who apparently orders sex toys online…who knew? Definitely not Ashton.

The best kind of trouble (ao3) - CliffordAffliction michael/luke E, 71k

Summary: After Michael is sent to a strict Preparatory school he meets the school troublemaker, Luke Hemmings, and his world begins to change

welcome to a new kind of tension (ao3) - orphan_account luke/ashton E, 2k

Summary: “You will be the death of me,” Luke growled into Ashton’s mouth, pushing the older boy back onto their hotel bed. “I swear you’ll kill me one day.”

“Oh no, we don’t want that, now do we?” Ashton smirked, his breath leaving him in a gasp as Luke bit down on his bottom lip, soothing the sting with his tongue.

wrapped around your finger (ao3) - kittenclemmings michael/luke E, 2k

Summary: Michael wants to please Luke.

Tinder Boy (ao3) - boomercal luke/calum N/R, 10k

Summary: After a few fateful swipes Luke and Calum ended up hooking up from Tinder, then they went their separate ways… at least they tried to.

Your Hips, My Hands, You Swing, and You Dance (ao3) - lashtonaf luke/ashton E, 3k

Summary: Luke ends up meeting a pretty & giggly boy at the club, and they get acquainted quickly ;-)

#5sosfanfictioncatalogue #5sos fanfic #5sos #5 seconds of summer #smut #sex tw #top!luke #top!luke masterlist #masterlists #luke hemmings

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Why would they discuss nsfw in the atla fandom if its for children? Didnt even tag a warning now children can stumble across it. They should report and move on or make a private blog instead of talking about nsfw and pedophilia where minors can see.

so, uh, we already do this to the best of our extent? tumblr blogs can't really be privated, not like instagram or twitter. the point of tumblr is that everything is accessible.

and that's why tumblr has such a great tagging system. a couple of years ago, tumblr actually did something right and introduced a filtering system. now, you can go in there, and choose to filter tags, such as 18+, nsfw, adult post, minors dni, etc. personally, i have a bunch of tags and accounts blocked, because i just don't want to see specific content, and don't want to kick up a stink about it. it's so much more worth my time to just block an account that reblogs r*ylo and filter the tag than yell at the creator for reblogging r*ylo because "i'm?? on this internet too?? and i Hate r*ylo and it makes me sick and i don't want anyone to reblog r*ylo content!!!" like. it's just not worth my time.

is tagging reliant on the person running the account to do the tagging? yeah, 100%. so, you're gonna run into some posts that you don't want to see because some people don't tag. and i'm really sorry about that! but also, it shows that fandom is an unpredictable place. if you're an adult and want to see all sorts of content, then it's right there, filtering optional. if you're a minor, then people are good enough at tagging that you can block nsfw tags and be pretty good most of the time. if it's tagging that you have an issue with, then you can go to that blog if you really like their content and don't want to unfollow/block and ask them to tag their nsfw content. the adults in the atla fandom are generally nice enough that they'll start tagging nsfw content if they don't already.

here's how you filter tags on tumblr:

and done! you can put in tags to avoid. easy.

tumblr has some issues with tagging sometimes. i have az*laang blocked because i'm not interested in seeing that content, but sometimes someone i follow might reblog it and have it tagged, and i still get shown it anyway. and that's unfortunate, and then i might think, "actually, this person reblogs az*laang alot. i really don't want to see that." so i unfollow them. tumblr has had an issue lately where it doesn't actually unfollow people, so i've been blocking when i unfollow for good measure.

there's been a great trend lately where we have put "minors dni" in our bios and abouts. listen to this. if we don't want minors in our blog, you shouldn't be there.

let's talk about ao3 now. ao3 is even better about tagging than tumblr, because you don't just see fanfictions hanging around in real time. you have to actually click on the fanfiction to be able to read it. if you're under 18 and haven't lied about your age and try to click on an explicit work then you will get a little prompt asking if it's really ok to view this content. if you're a minor, and you say you were exposed to an e-rated fanfiction, then if that fanfiction was tagged appropriately, and you still clicked on it, going past the prompt, that's on you. if you are a minor and you say you were exposed to an e-rated fanfiction that wasn't tagged as such, but you didn't read the tags or the warnings or the summary and it all looks nsfw and you still clicked on it, that's on you.

this is what a properly rated fanfiction looks like. the e means it is explicit, and the green tick means there are no archive warnings that apply.

if you want to exclude explicit content, you can do this:

you can see that i've chosen to exclude not-rated fics and all archive warnings as well.

personally, i do a lot of excluding. whenever i'm freely searching for fics to read, i like to exclude certain pairings, graphic violence, character death, and a whole bunch of smaller tags. maybe i don't want to see modern aus, or whump fics where zuko still lives with ozai, etc etc. ao3 is super curatable to the point where if you click on a fanfiction that you then complain about seeing, it's your own fault.

in the end, i think it's not up to minors to tell adults what to do with fandom spaces. we're making content for us, and if you don't want to see it then please, unfollow, block, exclude tags. go for it, we're not gonna be upset that a 16-year-old blocked us when we're making nsfw content. and don't forget, we were kids once too! we know what it's like to be a minor. it's scary, and you see content you don't like, and it's up to you to curate your experience. tumblr wasn't made for kids, even with the nsfw ban. it is still an adult space, so be careful, and curate your experience. you don't need to see everything this fandom has to offer, because sometimes we don't want you to see it.

#this ended up being a lot longer than i planned oops #long post #jetru answers #the discourse

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I'm starting to think that this never-ending drama has become a permanent fixture in B&Es life. I like them and I want to support them, but sometimes the relentless cycle of bullshit drama is such a downer. The so-called team of experts that E's mom said is advising them really suck at their job and B &E should demand a refund cuz unless certain things come to light, this onslaught of hate is never going to stop. I'm about ready to unfollow Bob and Eliza cuz I'm tired of seeing it.

While your entire ask is a whole mood, nonny, and I've been close to the unfollow button myself a few times.. at the same time, I recognize that it isn't Bob and Eliza's fault that people are being assholes and harassing people on social media.

I think we all just need to decide what we are comfortable with. If there's too much drama surrounding them, you can mute or unfollow them for a while. Or maybe mute and unfollow people getting involved in the drama. Or maybe mute words. I do that all the time. It helps keep things away from my timeline.

But yeah, being a Beliza fan is exhausting. All this drama.. yikes. We are not entitled to anything at all. It's their personal life. We are random strangers. We must never forget it. And still... if this is the best advice on how to handle things, lord...

#beliza #ask answered

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Rules For Roleplay Blogs

Alright people, this is overdue. But here are my ironclad rules for ensuring that your interactions on tumblr, and really in life in general, are as good as they can possibly be. Follow these rules, and you’ll have fewer problems because of it. Alright, let’s begin.

1. Roleplay blogs are for roleplaying.

This might seem obvious, but this isn’t a slight against people who are slow or only want certain things. This doesn’t mean ‘well you have a roleplay blog, so you have to write!’ That’s not what this means.

What it means is: if you create a blog for something, people are going to come to it for that thing. For example, if you make a blog for a fandom, it is generally understood that people in that fandom are likely to come to your blog and be curious about interacting. If you make a kink blog, then it is likely that other people who are into that are going to come around. If you make an ask blog, people are likely going to send you asks.

To put it another way, if you make a lemonade stand, and put a sign up that says you’re selling lemonade, do not be surprised that people are coming to you looking to buy lemonade.

It’s okay if you only want to do asks! It’s okay if you only want threads! It’s okay if you only want to write with certain muses or write certain ships or write with certain fandoms!

It’s not alright to create a roleplay blog, label it as a roleplay blog, and then get mad that roleplayers are curious about interacting with you. I’ll go into setting boundaries and limits for yourself in a bit, but it’s important to note that it’s irrational to be mad at people for thinking you’re interested in the thing that you advertise yourself as.

In other words, don’t put that you’re open to asks from mutuals or starters or w/e in your rules, and then be mad when people follow your rules accordingly. It’s one thing when people don’t follow your rules. It’s another when you’re mad about things you told them you want. Which brings us to...

2. You are responsible for cultivating your roleplay environment online.

Here’s a big one, and it goes along with the first rule. But it’s important to grasp this from the outset. You, and no one else, are responsible for the environment that you exist in.

If the people you’re following are toxic? You shouldn’t be following them. If the fandom you’re in makes you anxious or depressed? You shouldn’t be in it. If the people you’re interacting with treat you like shit and you don’t like it, you shouldn’t be interacting with them.

You, and no one else, are responsible for asserting your autonomy. You have to advocate for yourself.

The internet is not like real life in one crucial aspect: you are not forced to be in any environment you’re in. You’re not being forced to be in a fandom. You’re not being forced to follow blogs whose content you hate. You’re not being forced to talk to people you don’t want to talk to.

As a result, it falls to you to create an environment that you are comfortable in, and it falls to you to make sure that other people respect your boundaries and your comfort levels.

You need to be willing to say so when people do things you don’t want. You need to be willing to walk away if someone isn’t respecting your wishes. You need to be willing to remove yourself from fandoms or situations if they make you uncomfortable or cause you problems. You, and no one else, are responsible for your health and well being. However, there is one major aspect of this that we need to cover, and that is:

3. You need to be honest with yourself, as well as other people, about your needs and your intentions, as well as your issues and problems.

People cannot read your mind. People cannot accommodate your needs or stop doing things you do not like if you do not tell them that you have a problem.

Rule 2 covers outside influences. People who you don’t talk to, or interact with, or engage with. It covers how you, as an individual, create an environment around yourself.

Rule 3 covers your interactions within the environment you create for yourself.

Let’s say you’ve followed rules 1 and 2. You’ve set up the blog the way you want to set it up, hopefully attracting the kinds of people you want to interact with. Furthermore, you’ve crafted yourself an environment where the people you’re interacting with are the people you want to be engaging with. That’s good!

So how does it go wrong?

Generally, it goes wrong when people don’t maintain their environment. Look at it like this. If you don’t cut the grass, it’s going to get overgrown. If you don’t service your car, it’s going to break down. If you don’t shower, you’re going to smell terrible. Roleplay blogs are the same way. You need to maintain the environment you’re in.

It’s usually not an intentional thing either. It happens when people begin to make exceptions or are not honest with themselves or others. Maybe someone you thought you wanted to interact with turns out to be a big jerk. Maybe the fandom you’re in takes a turn for the worse. Maybe someone you’re following is posting things that cause you anxiety or trigger you. Maybe someone you’re interacting with is making you uncomfortable.

It falls to you, and no one else, to handle the situation. It means you need to be honest and clear about the issues you’re having. That might mean taking a friend aside and saying ‘hey, can you not?’ It might mean unfollowing people. It might mean needing to remove yourself from the environment that’s causing you problems. It might mean you need to separate yourself from the people who are causing you problems.

But another way this happens is when you’re not honest with the people you talk to.

Let’s say you’re friends with someone. You like them, they like you, you get along, and you write. They ask you to do something, and you don’t want to upset them, so you say yes. But you mean no. But you say yes. And then you hope it’ll just go away.

But it doesn’t. They ask about it. You tell them you’ll work on it. They might even realize that you’re uncomfortable, or having problems, and they ask how they can compromise or accommodate you. You still say no. It stresses you out, it causes you anxiety, and soon enough you’re so frustrated that they won’t just see what you mean rather than what you say.

This is your fault.

It is unreasonable to expect people to not take you at your word. If you say you are fine, if you say you don’t need anything to change, if you say ‘yes I am okay, don’t worry’ then you cannot be mad that people continue on as normal. Unlike in real life, where we can read body language, voice tone, and take cues from people’s actions, online we have only people’s words.

And so it falls to you to be open and honest about your needs and your problems. People cannot change their behaviors if you do not tell them that they have a behavior that needs changing.

But what if they refuse? What if you say ‘hey, this upset me/causes me anxiety, can we do something else’ and they refuse? What if when they come to with an idea that you don’t want to do, they get mad when you tell them no?

This is their fault, not yours.

Part of being a responsible person and cultivating your environment is being open and direct with your needs. If they refuse to respect your wishes, then that tells you that you shouldn’t keep them in your environment. If you do, you’re letting your environment decay around you. No one except you can maintain it.

But you cannot be mad at others if you tell them that things are fine when they are not. You cannot agree to things and then be upset when people proceed accordingly. You cannot be mad if people try to work with you and compromise, and keep trying because you haven’t told them no, and keep reaffirming that you want to do the thing.

If you say no, and they don’t respect your wishes, that’s on them. If you say yes, and you’re not being honest, you can’t be upset when people take you at your word. Assuming that you should be allowed to say yes but mean no is an admission that people should take you as a liar, and not listen to you. And that’s no way to exist as a person, online or off.

Be willing to say no. Be willing to advocate for yourself. Be willing to draw a line. Be willing to stick with what you’re comfortable with if you’re not comfortable with other things.

Furthermore, be willing to say what you’re looking for. If you want to ship something, if you want to write something, if you want to talk about something, be willing to say so. Be willing to be honest about your intentions and your desires and be honest about what you are looking for.

4. Callout Culture rarely fixes problems, but often exacerbates them. It is even rarer that it makes your environment less toxic, stressful, or anxiety inducing.

Let’s be honest. The original purpose of callout culture was to call things as they were. It was a way to democratize outrage. It was a way to level the playing field between the powerful and the weak.

However, like all things that become democratized, no one was stopped from deploying this WMD of outrage against anyone. What started as a way for victims to alert others to what had happened to them quickly became a way for powerful people to silence their critics, and to deploy their friends and followers against people they didn’t like. A tool for victims became a weapon for victimizers.

People realized that, most of the time, people didn’t bother to verify facts or evidence. In fact, people realized that you didn’t need evidence or facts at all. People realized that all that was needed was an allegation, and people would naturally separate into stan/anti camps depending on their views. Overtime, powerful people on both sides began to weaponize this to boost themselves.

People realized that most people, insulated from the wrongdoing itself, would only view it through the prism of their own experiences, biases, and beliefs. And so they would take a cursory look, figure out which side matched them best, and then join the dog pile.

A lot more people simply decided to keep their heads down, go along with the majority, living in constant fear of being harassed and abused themselves.

What does this have to do with roleplay? Well in the roleplaying community, this is rampant.

There’s not just callouts, there are callouts for the callouts, and then callouts for those callouts! Furthermore, people often think that calling out someone is like a pressure release valve; don’t want to say no to someone? Just let them keep at it until you can say they’re harassing you, call them out, and wash your hands of it.

Obviously, this buries real harassment. It also destroys the purpose of callouts. Even worse, it doesn’t work as intended, because rather than being a way out to avoid being honest with people, it often turns into a giant thing as people see it and begin to take sides. Rather than making your environment better, it often times makes it substantially worse.

Furthermore, you end up with two very big risks. Risk one is that people around you become inoculated to callouts, and ignore serious patterns of abuse and victimization when you have them. Risk two is that people begin to regard you as a toxic individual, and thus you essentially immolate yourself when you’re looking for a less stressful environment.

In other words, by abdicating your responsibilities, you’ve made everything worse.

Callouts exist as a last resort, when people refuse to change their behaviors or victimize people intentionally. They do not exist as a way for you to get out of having to say no to people. Using them as such only harms people who actually need help and support. And at the same time, it often makes your life even worse due to the attention that it brings you.

5. Be willing to enforce your rules. Be willing to say no. Be willing to stick to your guns. Be willing to block people or anons. Do not feel bad about it.

This isn’t an excuse to be a dick. It is however, a reason to stay the course if you’re not comfortable with something. It is good, virtuous even, to compromise with people, and to accommodate them. But understand that you do not have to do so. It is okay to not be willing to write with certain people or write certain things. It is okay to have things you think are okay and things you are not.

Understand that you have no right to tell other people what to write. But it works both ways. Other people have no right to tell you want to write or who to write with either.

Some people aren’t going to accept this. Some people aren’t going to want to interact with you on your terms. Some people are going to say that their own comfort supersedes yours.

You are not obligated to keep such people in your life. You are not obligated to talk with them or write with them. You are not obligated to interact with them.

If people refuse to accept your rules, if people refuse to stop when you tell them no, if people refuse to listen to you and treat you as a partner, then you do not have to allow them in your life.

There will be people who will say this is unfair. There are people who will object being held to any standard of behavior. There will be people, sometimes even people you think are your friends, that will believe that the rules don’t apply to them, or that they should be exempt, or that they deserve and exception. Do not buy it.

You are responsible for enforcing your rules. Rules that you do not enforce and do not expect to be enforced are as worthless as wet toiletpaper.

6. None of this is an excuse or a free pass to be a bad person yourself.

One thing that has been perverted along with callout culture is the notion that enforcing your rules gives you a reason to be a dick. There are people who will demand from you uneven privileges. They will demand things from you and refuse to give anything themselves. They will say that this inequality between you is the price of interacting with them.

This is wrong, and you shouldn’t be tempted to do it yourself.

There are lots of people who in the name of their insecurities, their anxieties, their own issues, believe that these things give them a free pass to treat others poorly. It does not. I say this as someone who is autistic, who is a depressive, who has been there himself, your issues do not give you a right to abuse others.

Your issues should be accommodated, yes. People should understand you, and your needs. People should be understanding when you have problems.

But nothing that I have said is a free pass to intentionally hurt others or intentionally use or abuse them for yourself.

Having rules and boundaries shouldn’t make it so you’re free to do whatever you want. They do not exist so that you cannot be held accountable for your actions and deeds.

The responsible thing is to expect nothing of anyone else that you would not expect from yourself.

This means if you expect other people to be honest, you need to be honest. If you expect people to be understanding, you should be understanding. If you expect people to respect your rules, you should respect their rules.

If you expect fairness, then you should also be fair.

This is not a pass to exploit others. This does not mean that you have to accept others who would not accept you in the name of fairness. It does not mean that you can’t say no to people who won’t say no to you.

It does mean to treat others as you wish to be treated. It means advocating for yourself. It means holding yourself to a standard of conduct and distancing or removing yourself from people or environments that do not meet them. It means being mature enough and willing to tell someone when you have a problem, and being willing to walk away if they won’t listen. It means respecting other people’s hard boundaries and demanding that people respect yours. It means being willing to be honest about your feelings and you needs. It means treating other people as human beings, just as you demand to be treated as one.

And if you do all this, you’ll have the best possible time you can have as a roleplay blog. That doesn’t mean that it will always be perfect or fun or good. It doesn’t mean you won’t have problems. But it does mean that you’ll set yourself up to avoid the most obvious pitfalls that makes having a roleplay blog less fun to have.

#ooc #tw long post #long post tw #tw rant #rant tw

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purple-scarf-mistress · 4 years

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So are we back to being policed by some of the people in this fandom about what we post? Because first we were told we shouldn't post Foyet and now someone is flipping out about MGG?! if people don't wanna see certain things why don't they just not look at those things? Why does this fandom constantly police everyone? I'm confused and frustrated

Okay so I typed up like a LONG ASS ESSAY to respond to this and then my phone died. Lame. So here we go again.

Anyway here are my thoughts.

1) the post I shared is actually from a friend of mine, on and off tumblr. And I by no means am upset or offended by what they said.

2) I agree that MGG is a real person and a private person and this would all be weird to read if it was about you (unless you are into that sort of thing). But tbh on almost every post about “lil remy” (MGG🍆) you see somome say - oh god hide the posts, don’t let him see it. I have also had dreams about trying to hide my blog from him sooo 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now is he ever going to see these, I doubt it. Is some fun okay from my perspective - yup. So cool.

3) do I see the post as policing peoples posts - no. I see this as someone expressing an opinion. They don’t like it and I can:

A) not make any changes and lose them as a follower/friend and I need to be okay with that.

B) find a compromise and work to make it enjoyable for them and for me. Like creating a tag they can mute.

4) do I think people are getting overwhelmed by the amount of content that is on tumblr right now? Yes. Do I think people are posting more because they have nothing else to do (me)? Yes! Do I think that people have to change? NO! Do i think we need to be willing to accept that not everyone is going to e okay with everything and hear opinions that we don’t neccisarly agree with? YES! People can have an opionion and it should it be seen as an attack - (unless your ask box /blog is being flooded by hate 👀 looking at you 🍤🍆 who still is submitting posts about foyet to me)

5) MGG scandal, Foyet. long threads, and posts about lil remy have all caused a lil tension and in some, a lil hate. So not cool. I’ve been on here for a month and a half (ish) and i still see this fandom and one of the most loving and supportive. I think that we need to focus on that. Make a tag so people can mute it and create room for people to have an opinion.

Bottom line Policing blogs is not okay. You don’t like it move on, mute, unfollow, block, or politely say something and see if the person is open for a discussion about. But I don’t see this has policing a blog. I see this as an opportunity to see something from another perspective and make a choice to help someone enjoy my blog by making a tag to mute the topic for them so that we both can continue to have fun and interact.

Side note: IF YOU ARE OUT HERE CALLINF PEOPLE NAMES BECAUSE YOU DON’T AGREE OR LIKE WHAT SOMOME SAYS YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM (I am looking at you person who commented on the original post saying we are deranged. Looking at your blog you throw that word around a lot. Maybe consider how you can help and descalate rather than be shaming)

Love you all - except you 🍤🍆

Thank you for coming to my ted talk. 💜💜💜

#lots of love anon #anon

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clairenchanted · 4 years

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the one about the pandemic.

it was summer. i fucking hate summer.

i don’t hate the earliest morning in summer -- when there’s still the faintest hint of a chill from the night. it’ll burn off in an hour, and i’m never awake enough to really appreciate it, but i can convince myself that the day won’t be so bad when it’s not that hot yet and i’m not sticky and burdened by the sun.

i always remember the parts of the day when it’s an unseasonable temperature: spring nights that are too cold, winter afternoons that get too hot for layers of sweaters. the mornings in the summer when i can feel the breeze off the harbor. i felt it that morning and that’s why i remember it: that i had to get up, and when i did the light was at a strange, low angle, glittering around my ankles, bouncing against the buckles of my new sandals.

people were out. it’s brooklyn; people are always out. they’re out when i get back from the bar at one in the morning, and at not-quite-eight in the morning they’re out. a few of them -- jogging, walking a dog, getting to the subway to go to work. i didn’t go to the subway. i went to the post office to pick up a certified letter that i was worried would be some sort of time sensitive thing i’d missed a deadline for.

the whole walk, i worried. i don’t normally walk there -- it’s just a little too far and i have too little mail and even less that requires a post office. but i didn’t want to take a bus one stop. so, i walked.

by my apartment, i can smell the honeysuckle. it grows a block down, by the shoreline, where there’s just a bike path and a park and the highway and then, finally, the bay. the further away i got, the less i smelled it, until it was finally gone and it was just the summer city awfulness: trash and exhaust and the ugly things i don’t like to think about. and weed. a lot of fucking weed. i’m extremely sick of the smell of weed. i walked away from the honeysuckle and through the trash stink and thought about the what ifs.

it could be something about my employment -- a notice i didn’t give back in time. something disciplinary. did i do anything fireable? did i miss a class i was meant to teach? does a student hate me enough to ruin my life? i could be walking towards my firing without even knowing it. --- is it a letter from a friend that needs to be sent certified because it’s coming from far away? probably not. definitely not. that’s not something that could happen. i don’t get things in return like that, because i hold candles when i should be putting them out and saving them from melting.

i worried, and i self pitied, and i wallowed. there’s some feeling that comes with the neighborhood’s familiarity -- some physical thing settling warmly in the pit of my stomach when i see the sights i’ve been seeing for almost all of my life, from when i lived with my family, what i see now that i’m grown and have a little apartment not a ten minute drive from my childhood home. i could walk these streets blindfolded, and on every block i see something: the bus stop i took to high school. the place i walked with my friend for hours because we didn’t want to go home and let the day end. where we got italian ices. where i got my first bike.

the letter turned out to be a repeat of a confirmation e-mail i’d gotten a week ago, no action necessary. on the way back, i went half a block out of my way and got the largest iced coffee i could. it was sweet with vanilla and sweetener, and stayed cool in my hand even as the day warmed up. by the time i got back, my drink was melting and i could smell honeysuckles again, and it was only a quarter to nine. sunlight streamed through my window, spilling over the hardwood with a deep, golden glow. i had the whole day ahead of me.

for fifty five days these past two months, i have not left my apartment building. it’s now day sixty seven, and i have gone on two walks in the past two weeks. after both, i had a panic attack. i scrubbed my hands until they bled. i took a shower immediately, and i have taken my temperature at least five times a day. i’ve been quarantining for over two months, completely alone. no roommates, no work, no family, and when i walk i wear my mask and gloves.

when it started, i had at least three panic attacks every day. they ebbed off a little, then came back in my sleep. i haven’t slept more than an hour at a time in over two months. i wake up from my sleep gasping for air, crying and screaming as i try to force air into my lungs. i started throwing up again -- involuntarily. voluntarily, even though that, too, is fairly involuntary, because eating disorders are like that.

i went out for an hour today, just to walk. i was thinking about last summer, with my dunkin’ donuts iced coffee and the golden early mornings, and i realized with a jolt that i had been inside so long that i hadn’t been there to see the trees go through their pink blossoms stage. i thought, just for a moment, that i could remember what it felt like -- to be out, when it’s not too hot yet. to feel the sun, to smell the honeysuckle. to exist, for a moment, in the person that i was last summer. in the world that person lived in.

i have been so staunch in my convictions about how to live responsibly that i have gotten into a fight with my father every time we’ve been on the phone. don’t take your mask off and only put it on when you pass people on your walk -- you’re supposed to treat it like raw chicken and not touch it once it’s on. and birdseed’s not an essential item! you’re not going to the bird lady to buy seed! and our comfort isn’t as important as staying alive. i’m not coming home, and you’re not going out. i have showed my parents, over facetime, how to wash their hands. i have holed up in my apartment and have ducked out of the way of neighbors and people on the street. i have monitored my symptoms and have unfollowed as many news outlets as i can. i have muted anyone on social media posting about the deaths -- the destruction. the warnings. i am following them all and every time i see these things, i feel irresponsible and in terrible danger, despite the fact that i have been lucky and smart and terrified into behaving above and beyond what’s expected.

it has kept me alive, probably, and maybe my family too. and it has eroded me from the inside out.

this is not to complain. this is not to want something different or else. this is, singularly and only, the first time i have processed my grief. survival has been more important than my mental health, to me. this is what i told myself, over and over. this is what i remind myself when i wake up shrieking, convinced that i cannot breathe, pacing my apartment at four thirty in the morning, waiting until dawn so the sun can protect me from the shadows at night.

i hadn’t thought, until now, about all the little things, because they weren’t important. smelling the honeysuckle and going to the post office and getting an iced coffee. these are luxuries -- but i understand now that they are also memories i cherish, because they are the small, merciful moments of happiness that i have built my survival upon like bricks shoring up a seawall.

i am drowning. this is not a protest; i will give my life before i demand a country return to normal, when that normal isn’t real and the most vulnerable lives are at stake. but personally, quietly, with every passing day, i am drowning. i find other little things now: sitting by the window when it rains. lighting a candle. writing, here and there now.

but the wall cannot be built up as quickly as it has come down, while i have stubbornly looked away from it, and the sea is rushing in.

the tide is only ever coming in.

#coronavirus tw #writing #survival #writeblr

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