#opportunities elsewhere

[gray-wednesday]

I saw a tiktok on my for you page about how a ton of women say they hate Andrew Tate but can't actually say what he does that's so bad, so here's an essay about alphamales and conformity:

One of the things that has been most stark after watching quite a few alphamale videos, especially critiques of these videos, is the central belief of these men that deep down in the psyche of biological male and female people is this instinctive drive to exhibit stereotypical behavioral characteristics of their sex.

For male people they believe there is a predisposition towards being aggressive, dominating, and thinking without emotion(?). But female people are passive, submissive, and assert there sphere of mental strength in emotional intelligence.

This assignment of behavioral characteristics is not completely unfounded, as in American culture children are conditioned from a young age to exhibit behaviors aligning most closely with their sex. But they have not been scientifically proven to be instinctual or genetic so saying that they apply to every member of a sex is incorrect and also comical.

'Alphamales' typically use these behavioral characteristics in order to facilitate sex between members of different sexes; which is done by making interactions between these sexes formulaic. To 'alphamales' female people are like a puzzle game (think a rubik's cube), they're fundamentally the same but require different steps to solve them depending on how they're scrambled up. Functionally there are a few set moves or ways to behave towards a rubik's cube that will allow you to solve it. And since each rubik's cube is the same, methods that worked on one woman should be just as applicable to another.

Women being the same, then, is something that 'alphamales' want. If every female person is the same, and the same tricks work on every single one, it makes it easier to have sex with as many as possible; something which, I have discovered from watching their videos, is desirable so that they can achieve the end of finding the 'best one'. This ideal woman would of course only differ from other women in her looks, talents (in exempli cooking, cleaning, sexual pleasuring, et cetera), and ability to portray herself as the 'alphamale's' sanitized ideal woman. This proves that 'alphamale's' don't see women as real people, (or at least not in the way that they see other men as real people). Women are accessories that can be compared and traded like pokemon cards.

However, in reducing female people to one cookie cutter model, 'alphamales' face the consequence of being reduced to carbon copies of each other as well. The people making these videos prescribe certain stereotypically masculine behaviors to their followers in order to be more attractive to their cookie cutter woman. In some cases, they tell them how to dress 'correctly' and once I saw a guy tell his following that certain piercings were only for girls. The men who subscribe to this ideology risk losing their individuality and introduce throes of the same toxic man in different forms into society, which just makes it worse for everyone because 'alphamales' see themselves as ideal versions of manhood and thus everyone else as inferior, meaning that they have no respect for anyone other than other 'alphamales'.

Thus, the central dogma of the 'alphamale' movement is a desire for conformity. They believe that a person's sex dictates their role in society and reduce people to that assigned role. It's stupid and funny because people are diverse and vibrant and are never going to fit into those reduced roles no matter how much they try to force them into them. Pretending that people can be confined to such things makes a person treat others like objects, which is gross and a blight on society.

#Andrew Tate is an asshole because he subscribes to this ideology #he's doubly an asshole because he actively tries to manipulate the women who work for him into acting like his ideal for a woman #i mean have you heard about the parties he throws when one of the women quit because he treats them like shit? #he instills shame in the others because they don't want to be mocked by him and their coworkers when they leave to find better #opportunities elsewhere

[stuckinapril]

One thing I’ve noticed about people in or entering their 30s is they don’t make as many compromises anymore. If someone doesn’t meet them halfway, is not up to standard, is just not where they’re needed to be, they’re just like “ok cool” and they move on from the person. Which is not to say they’re less empathetic or understanding, but more that they have learned that time is their most prized possession and they’re not willing to make massive compromises on it. They are not obsessed w the idea of fixing someone (bc the concept of fixing a person doesn’t really exist). They simply move on to someone who is up to par. I want that. I want to always move w the awareness that time is my most priceless belonging and I can never buy it back. Ever. So I have to use it wisely

#not just when it comes to ppl but w opportunities too! #w not wasting your energy on negativity #w always seeing the big picture etc etc #i just want to always move from a place of ‘is this expending time that could be best spent elsewhere?’ #just a note 2 self while I navigate how to spend my time #which includes dedicated studying & reading more consistently & moving my body & enjoying nature & telling someone I love them <3 #we will be alright #text

[snailsnfriends]

i think that a lot of people forget that every smp these creators join is a business venture. streaming is their job. dream facilitates that job in some way because he controls the smp, when it starts, and apparently how lore is organized and created. if he's not answering messages and ignoring the wishes of other creators, he's being a shit boss. something like this will never work without communication or someone who actually gives a shit. streamers rely on dream in some way, and if he's not delivering, they have every reason to be upset and call him out on it.

if this is how dsmp volume two is starting, and it hasn't even properly started yet, then I'm sure that it's doomed to fail from the moment someone hits "go live." it's so unfortunate for the smaller ccs; they deserve so much better.

#hope boomer finds better opportunities elsewhere #snailtrail.txt

[thedevillionaire]

Cerberus!

🎶 MUSICAL NOTES — what type of music does your oc like? do they listen to music very often?

🔱 TRIDENT EMBLEM — can your oc swim? do they enjoy swimming?

🎮 VIDEO GAME CONTROLLER — what are three of your oc's favorite hobbies?

💍 RING — does your oc have any piercings? do they want any (more) piercings?

🎻 VIOLIN — does your oc play any instruments? what is their skill level (beginner/intermediate/advanced/virtuoso/etc)?

Ooh, nice choices! 🎶 He's (fairly predictably) classically inclined. He leans towards atmospheric and powerful - so like, say, Holst's 'The Planets', with a particular shout-out to 'Mars, Bringer of War'. Within the Underworld's own musicians, he favours Silver, who is a sort of folk-rock lyrical teller of stories. He's not what I'd consider particularly musically inclined, but he does enjoy a background soundtrack, and although he doesn't often listen with what I'd consider intensity or strong focus, he's not disinclined either. 🔱 Yes, but doesn't very often. Which is a shame, because fuck does this man look hot when wet. 🤣 🎮 This one has been answered here! �� Single piercing, right ear. He doesn't always wear an earring, though when he does, it's nearly always a simple stud. (Visible in my avatar, actually, though easily missed!) And no, he has no interest in getting any more done. 🎻 Sadly no, this is not one of his many talents. I have a lot of musically inclined OCs, but Cerberus is not among them. He took piano lessons back in his mortal years, and can read music at a basic level and play a bit, but it's not something he has any real passion towards, sorry to say.

#thank you so much! #answered asks #he'd be more proficient at the piano if he practiced more #but his focus is usually elsewhere #i am also thinking i missed a regular perving opportunity by not having a pool in the DeVille backyard #Hmm. Not an unchangeable situation in future though... 😏

[penguin-scribbles]

🎶 oops, I did it again 🎶

why are these edits so much fun hdjsfdhssj

og screenshots under the cut

#please rb if you’re gonna like #penguin scribbles #screenshot edit #toh spoilers #the owl house #emperor belos #belos #philip wittebane #toh belos #toh philip #king’s tide #kings tide #artists on tumblr #procreate #WHY IS IRONING THE OLD MAN SO MUCH FUN AAAAA #I’m just very happy to have an opportunity to make beardless philip I guess #idk #should I make this a series? #I also have many beardless Phils from elsewhere and elsewhen #editing this guy is a lot of fun #idk man

[changingmymajortojoan]

okay. after much deliberation and talks with my mom, my therapist, and my gf, i will not be taking the f*lbright. i feel guilty about this but that's something i have to work through. i WILL however be going to berlin for a month to do this research on my own after my mfa is done in december!!!

#there will be more opportunities elsewhere #and maybe i can reapply when i'm at a different point in my life #but i feel excited to go work there in january!!!

[digirainebow]

You listen to lots of cool small bands and musicians

thank you! i do! i am an opening band appreciator hahahaha almost everyone i listen to these days was an opener for an opener for an opener of one of my favorite bands. great great great bandfathers, if you will.

#digi discusses #they ARE cool :') much appreciation for giving them a listen! #i may not be the biggest fan of LA #but the opportunities to see intimate shows with unique sounds have absolutely been the highlight for me these last couple years #not to say that scene isnt big elsewhere too! god i hope it is! #also i believe you do as well so feel free to rec me some songs sometime!

[sleepdepravity]

The great thing about doing karaoke in Japan is that it has all my anime songs.

#vacationtag #excuse me as I sing every konjiki no gash opening #I will never have the opportunity elsewhere

[blujayonthewing]

worrying about 'is it mean of me not to discourage my friend getting too carried away with shipping our blorbos if I don't know that it's likely to actually happen in canon :\' but then remembering this same friend, as a DM, was once like 'oh my god [NPC] has a huge crush on [my PC], he's down SO bad 😏' but then had that npc FULLY DATING another PLAYER CHARACTER by the time the (rest of the) party went back to the city he lived in

#SO IF IT'S A RUGPULL I GUESS THAT'S FAIR PLAY #... not that felix is likely to have prospects elsewhere 😔 justin's PCs are usually straight... #and I. already know the ranger is absolutely not an option fkjhdgk #SEE AND THE ANNOYING THING IS I DEMURRED ON THE 'jsyk they could totally hook up 👀' THING FOR SO LONG!! #BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT IT TO SET A TONE!! BUT THE CAMPAIGN WAS DEAD SO LIKE! IT DIDN'T MATTER :'D #I didn't think we'd end up still playing these bois together :') #I'm really glad I found out we WERE like five minutes BEFORE she asked about felix's *preferences* [eyebrow wiggles] #cause there's information that. she can't have if we're gonna PLAY them. she'd make it Weird at the table jhfdgfdkj she HAS no chill #man on the other note of this post I was really excited for tsakesh to maybe get a dnd romance :') #he's a charming boy and I love him also I'd never had any opportunity for dnd romance yet at all to that point #literally I'm pretty sure she straight up forgot that NPC had had the hots for tsakesh #she was using him to rehabilitate our temporarily split from the party chaotic evil warlock while we were out on adventures 😭 #about me #irl frens #my OCs #felix #tsakesh

[craycraybluejay]

jfc these people are so hungry for discourse.

#tumblrinas leave me alone challenge (impossible) #im not a discourse blog !! #i argue w people sometimes but i dont go out of my way to discourse !! #my vent posts are not your fucking Internet Virtue Points opportunities!!!!!!!! #ITS A VENT POST!!! GO VIRTUE SIGNAL ABOUT YOUR ALLYSHIP ELSEWHERE!! LITERALLY ANYWHERE ELSE!! #i need to focus on some work i have to do and yall keep sending me notifications #no one gives a shit #oh youre so perfect youve never ever phrased anything Not Like A PR Team #i highly doubt any of my followers care how perfect and virtuous you are. choose somewhere else to show of your political correctness #preferably not on strangers vent posts

[ickyrainbows3245]

People get so mad over character polls. Like go read a book or speak to your friends/loved ones and maybe you��ll calm down

#at the end of the day it doesn’t even matter (by linkin park) #‘my ship is losing! my character is losing’ you are losing out on opportunities to experience joy elsewhere #I look in character polls sometimes and it’s the worst mistake ever people get HEATED and genuinely upset when smth doesn’t go their way #bc I like to read tags people say funny things #and they are pissed as fuck sometimes. #like yeah dude there is millions of people on this site it’s not gonna automatically be your fav choice

[mchiti]

I know in the midst of a game I might kill the mood, but I'm super sad today. A boat with many migrants on broke up after hitting a rock, near the cost in south italy. 100 migrants drowned and the death toll will rise. europe is a shame, the west is a shame, I feel ashamed for the world I have to live in.

#i will forever put my brothers and sisters in front of everything. #i'm not going to thank europe for letting my parents settle here bc they are the reason i'm a diaspora kid in the first place. #and I will never forget. #BUT now you're killing migrants. #murderers that's what you are. #in libya and in the mediterranean or at the borders across the balcan route. #open ur borders #let them live. they have the same rights europeans have to move and seek fortune elsewhere. #let them have the same opportunities and let their kids grow up in peace and feeling included #and stop expropriating africa.

[yukinyaminyato]

im so fucking annoyed bc i was supposed to get a seasonal part time job at the same place i worked last year, i asked abt my shifts and stuff a couple of times and the boss was just like "sorry it's taking me so long, this 'puzzle' has turned out to be quite complicated" and i was just like k as long as i get the shifts eventually and then he contacted me like "so basically i won't have any work available for u unless u agree to work 10h/week at an outdoors xmas market" (which would have been way less work than i requested in an uncomfy environment) so i declined & now i have no work after all. :))) and im pissed mainly bc it took him legit almost a month to come to this conclusion and bc i was promised work i didnt apply for anything else and now it's basically impossible for me to find anything else. So. fucking great.

#sorry im just ranting bc im so frustrated #if he had been honest from the start and said 'i dont think ur uni schedule will work with any shifts' i would have been like ok np #but to sorta lead me on for weeks before telling me that? bruh. at least i know i will never apply to that place again #like i know there would have been so many opportunities for part time work elsewhere but i was fucking stupid #i sent a couple of applications this week but obvs no one is replying and i dont rlly wanna apply to be a barista in a coffee shop chain #(even tho they would def hire me) #whatever. it's not like i wouldn't survive w/o a job or anything like that.... but this still sucks #my posts

[reimu-enjoyer]

well, looks like i have an excuse to use this site more (the person i was referring to in the second image was mori calliope)

#i can be banned for a tame post about terfs from 5 months ago yet actual trans hate accounts are allowed to operate #twitter is going to shit anyway so i may as well take this as an opportunity to start being active elsewhere #twitter is ran by terfs

[alexis-mac-allstar]

Aaron really out here gonna make me cry

#aaron ramsdale #matt turner #transfer season heartbreak #arsenal fc #nottingham forest #me going insane in my head: it’s just a thank you because there are no words for when a good friend leaves #for opportunity elsewhere that necessitates leaving you behind. happy and sad and bittersweet and proud and gutted #you can’t say everything can’t say anything but thank you for the time we had together

[crumbleclub]

anyway i was thinking in hypotheticals to figure out how i think about the concept of forgiveness in various scenarios (as one does while brushing their teeth yk yk) and one of the situations my brain gave me was "what would you do if you were william afton's cashier at walmart"

#thought you guys might enjoy this lmao #the concept was basically in a scenario where he's not an active threat/is relatively reformed/whatever #would i find it to be within my ethics to use a 15 second interaction with him as an opportunity to somehow punish him for what he's done #(and the answer was no. that's not rlly my think i don't think.) #but the image is just rlly funny to me #actually i work at a food pantry so the stakes would be higher #as it implies he can't get food elsewhere #but i'd serve him there obv bc i think we should feed even the shittiest of ppl right?? #smth smth any method of unpersoning a person gives a state a vested interest in jailing political prisoners yadda ya #can you tell i like philosophy #anyway i came to the conclusion that he'd get a strained attempt of basic politeness in a scenario where i'm a stranger #though if he was registering me as michael in this scenario i'd leave #if that makes sense #thing not think. i can spel i promis