#these labels are just so frustrating

[keigologies]

just wanted to let you guys know that a couple of my posts (namely my thoma and kaeya drabbles) have had a mature community label put on them, so please make sure you have your settings made so that you can still see my works !! if you don't know how to do that, please drop an ask and i can find a link to share with you guys <3

#.talks #these labels are just so frustrating #i just wish tumblr would go back to it's unmoderated days #i miss the lawless land this place used to be LMFAO #2014 tumblr please come back to me </3

[lbhslefttiddie]

youve heard of sex flowers get ready for the flower that makes you into a celestial shoujo herione complete with particle effects you cannot turn the fuck off and creates a wifebeam so powerful it can incapacitate and maim and keeps making you burst into tears and fall on your ass which makes the wifebeam More Powerful and you also cannot turn this off either. and is also still, sort of, a sex flower

from one of my favorite fanfictions, Celestial Afterglow by elanor_pam, a fic that defies description in the best possible way

#arts #shen qingqiu #svsss #listen im not saying that ive spent a cumulative half a year reading this fic and then trying to make an arts for it #and then getting frustrated and stopping because i couldn't figure out how to make sqq shimmery enough #but like. im not NOT saying that #this is the FOURTH time ive started something for this bitch it haunts my fucking dreams and yet the opalescent glittery sqq evades me #perhaps you o unlearned fool look at this and say hmm that's too many colour layers and glowy effects but oh how wrong you are #if it doesnt make you literally fall over yourself at how otherworldly and radiant he is then there is room for improvement yet #perhaps you look at this and you think Wow!!! this gives me literally NO ideas what this fic is about #well Let Me Tell You. i have no fucking idea how to summarize this fic #its not often the tags in a fic give me pause but i saw this and as i read the tags i was increasingly just like What #but i have no idea how to describe it. the tags arent NOT accurate but i was SO unprepared for what happened in like an extremely pos way #if i were tagging this i think i would give it the no archive warnings apply label if that matters to you #the author seemed they wanted to leaned towards over caution rather than risk missing anything re tags because This Is A Weird Fic #but oh my fucking god #i am gripping you by the shoulders i cannot stress enough how charming it is #brilliant characterization especially with airplane in the first scene #and also so much fucking funnier than i thought possible for the general setting summary tags and buildup #its just. ough. its good

[kyriathanatos]

boy im just not gonna be able to use the internet for a few days without people being (in my opinon, somewhat) wrong and annoying about helldivers 2, huh

#this fucking sucks man #i just want to enjoy my bugshoot game #but everyones always fucking mad about something with it #now a requirement that's been there since day 1 is being labelled as greed and a bunch of other shit and people are acting like its new #so fucking frustrating #i can't say shit on twitter because like a shitton of my mutuals will eat me alive there. #sorry to break it to everyone that making a sony account is not the devil and its not any more or less secure than literally anything else

[araneitela]

Me staring at test results: It makes so much sense for her, but if I don't specify or elaborate, then we end up with the fanon take. Ugh, how do I easily explain that if you look at the word 'sex' through a much more old-fashioned lens instead of the modern one, that you'll get a vastly different picture of it?

/takes angycat.png typing to my tags

#[ ooc. ] don't try to make it logical or edit your soul according to the fashion. rather; follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly. #[ post-it. ] in a way; you are poetry material. you are full of cloudy subtleties I am willing to spend a lifetime figuring out. #[ i'm so tired. i need to write a post on this or something. and somehow add it to my pinned. in some way. ] #[ 'sex' and 'seduction' are /not/ wrong in my opinion. HOWEVER-- they are /very wrong/ if we go by modern labels and perception. ] #[ god the horror of writing a muse that is so interlaced in a modern world; setting and culture but seems to /ooze/ something archaic. ] #[ this level of refinement isn't of our times in my opinion. these things that she loves aren't commonly loved nowadays. ] #[ there's so much about her that is old-fashioned to me and it's so in my face. and yet fanon doesn't see it. ] #[ i can't believe i'm an old millennial who's screaming boomer or older things. ] #[ but like can we acknowledge that sex in today's age isn't the same as it used to be? not /always/ but more generally so. ] #[ can we acknowledge that /seduction/ didn't always mean what people see it to mean now? ] #[ can we acknowledge that the FEMME FETALE TROPE HAS CHANGED /LEAGUES/ since the 2000s? ] #[ which is my biggest beef actually. and maybe all of my frustration plays into this most. it's that the femme fatale now is sexualized. ] #[ while that is /not/ what the femme fatale used to be. kafka plays into the old school femme fatale so well. film noir days. ] #[ i had this same struggle on yelan where they make VERY OBVIOUS draws to it by her music in her trailer. god; the jazz. ] #[ but kafka suffers from this so very much as well to a point where i don't dare to call her a femme fatale because then it's fanon. ] #[ the fanon i hate so much. ] #[ but just uuuughhhh. UGHHH. it's so much to explain. ]

[minnaci]

i truly think some folks on here would rly benefit from sitting with themselves and their willingness to dismiss posts / fics with low interaction count as "flops". like yes i love the Look At My Flop Posts Boy energy we have going but also i have quite frankly never posted a flop in my life bc all of my posts are bangers to ME

#thinkmin! #when i say 'some folks' im not talkin abt moots / friends / followers but more just ppl i have seen in the wild #to everyone reading this tho: every single post is a banger if u label it so in ur mind #ur 100k note shitpost is a BANGER. ur 0 note 150k slowburn fic is a BANGER also can u give me tips on how to write something that long #idk it just makes me sad a little bit to see ppl getting discouraged and putting themselves down and diminishing their work #bc of some Metrics on some App #my qualifications to talk abt this r i have Never posted a flop post in my LIFE and i also have never had a fic get over 1k notes #idk. i know it's easier said than done. in no way am i diminishing fic writers' frustrations w lack of interaction—ive been there too tbh #ig my point is like. all posts r bangers ESP if u put ur time n effort n love into it and it brought u joy

[djsadbean]

do you have any advice for making stickers? your designs are all so pretty!!

ahh thank u sm!! yessir here's some tips i keep in mind when i design/make stickers (mostly from the perspective of someone selling stickers but these can be for personal sticker making too):

design:

try to use the same brush size/type if youd like all of your stickers to look similar. i personally have two i like to alternate between whether I'd like a smooth vs sketch look

also try to use the same size canvas if youre gonna make a lot of 3 inch stickers or 4x6 in sticker sheets (for example) to keep everything looking consistent

find artists you're inspired by and that'll be very helpful to avoid art block. for me, i adore artists who have similar taste and it helps me feel so happy and inspired to make my own art.

people like stickers that are all kinda the same vibe! i like to design stickers that are cute and vibrant and either feature characters i like or aesthetics i like. you gotta like what you make! (they dont all have to have the exact same vibe of course. but ive found that people will like getting all my cute fandom stickers bc they look like they all go together for example)

printing:

if youre cutting these out yourself, rotate the paper, not the scissors for better control. take breaks too! you don't wanna strain your hand! also its worth it to have big girl scissors (i am a big girl with big girl scissors btw ahahaha)

if youre using a cricut or silhouette machine to cut, please consider making all of your stickers easy peel (basically making the sticker its own mini sticker sheet so you remove the outer border so it's easier to peel) because this helps make sure that people from many backgrounds and lives can enjoy your work! It would break my heart to find that someone who has joint pain, for example, can't use the stickers they bought from me because they're too difficult to peel. (If you're hand cutting your stickers, I have no idea how you'd do this so don't worry! Maybe in the future if you decide to invest in a machine, this is something to think about)

if you're using a cutting machine, yes it will take up a lot of time and supplies running tests to see what works with your stickers! and yes you will have to readjust how you do things with the life cycle of the machine's blades. augh........ such a hassle sdjfhksd

when printing for the first time, you may need to spend time running tests and adjusting the colors. some printers need help with the vibrancy and stuff!

when printing your stickers, please only have a few pages loaded in your printer if you're still testing (or in general! i have my paper loaded in one at a time JUST in case I forgot a setting)

if you're printing at a print shop, make sure your file is PDF and that they're printing "actual size" bc otherwise it may change. this would be bad especially if you're planning on using your machine to cut later.

i personally would not recommend ordering your first several stickers outsourced bc you may end up with stock that never sells.

i hope these helped! some may not apply bc theyre for like,,, a sticker biz but maybe someone out there wants this info too :3 ill leave my current supply list in the tags so i can change it if i find that something changes and i dont wanna recommend it anymore

basically read op tags for recommendations :3

#sticker paper (not waterproof) : online labels ‎OL177WX #vinyl sticker paper: koala matte sticker paper #lamination (glossy) : Avery 73601 Self-Adhesive Laminating Sheets #lamination (sparkly): idk theyre like... star style sparkly lamination sheets?? i got em on amazon! #cutting machine: cricut maker (i get so frustrated with this machine tbh once you wrangle your beast its fine tho) #printer: canon pixma g7020 (i LOVE THIS THING...... i understand you lady redundant woman.......) #drawing software: procreate on my ipad 7th gen & 1st gen apple pencil (you could use anything tbh i just like having a stabilizer) #editing software: photoshop (for color editing and placement editing and adding text mostly... this comes in handy with my sticker sheets!) #and if you wanna buy any of this stuff and help support me lemme give you an amazon affiliate link!!! it doesnt cost anything extra and- #amazon has to give me some sweet sweet cash for it #i promise ill be responsible with that money like going to whataburger everyday for a week >:3c #jk jk it would go toward po box costs! its so expensive waaahhhh #djsadbean answers #stickers resource #artist resource #faq

[baconcolacan]

I really wish the binary genders weren’t socialized so differently sometimes. It’s so easy to cuddle up with my girl friends and even say I love you to them, but not with my guy friends….it makes me kinda sad

#neil talky #being pinoy its still possible to do this bc of our culture #but its still not to the extent I’d like it to be #Its really hard sometimes to show my bros I care without being labelled as ‘too gay’ #like yeah sure they know I’m gay but also fuck outta here??? #You’re my FRIEND I can love you??? Doesn’t mean I want to date you good god #Sorry I’m just kinda frustrated like #I was there when you cried and told me about how much it hurt #but I cant even hold you and tell you I love you without making it weird #SIGH I’ll probably compartmentalize this later #Also probably why I project such a close male friendship with the ew gang lol #so close they can kiss and hug and shit #LETS GOOOOO

[quietwingsinthesky]

maybe i should just put proship in my bio already

#read this in the most exhausted tone you can imagine. #a tone that says 'yes. fine. if we're going to be forced to label ourselves now i align with this. but this false dichotomy shit is stupid. #mostly just want people to stop following me when they've got 'proship dni' somewhere on their bio #because what the fuck does that mean. look me in the eyes right now. how the fuck. am i supposed to know. #what each and every person's individual definition of proship is. how am i supposed to know where you draw #your arbitrary line of what is and is not okay to write about. #i cannot read your mind. i don't know you. get off of my page until you can clearly communicate your boundaries. #and at that point hopefully you'll also be able to think critically about shit enough to realize that anti/pro shit is nonsense. #i write noncon because i think its hot. i will also tag that shit so that it can be avoided. that is the agreement out here. #gosh sorry. that was so overly aggressive. im very frustrated. #ive been in this fandom a long time i am. very very tired. i just want to write my samifer in peace. make some angels kiss each other.

[vamptastic]

it's just like. okay. when i say i like men in a gay way and women in a lesbian way i don't mean that i think straight attraction is icky or my attraction is somehow more enlightened and progressive. i mean that I've spent the formative years of my sexuality in a place with my gender presentation where people are equally as likely to see me as a man or a woman and often seem to think of me as both, and i cannot separate both my attraction to men or to women from that. ive always felt drawn to butchness because its this concept that your love for the same gender shapes your gender presentation and vice versa, but it's specific to womanhood and attraction to women as a woman in a way i can't entirely relate to. like, in many ways i am both a man and a woman, and i am attracted to both men and woman in a way both shaped by and reflected by that fact.

#there's not really a clear label for that is there #i suppose i don't need one it's just to have that cos you can find similar people #i suppose bisexual as a gender is the closest i can get #like both sexes and also attracted to both sexes and those two things each are linked to and affected by the other #i don't know. i expect my feelings on this will change as i transition and people start to really see me as a man #and not the in-between ive been in since puberty (thank you pcos combined with massive badonkahonkawonkadonks) #it's just sort of frustrating to feel like nobody gets it #like lesbians are into me cos they think im butch #a specific type of man-autistic nerds (affectionate)-seem to just see me as a regular ol woman #and when confronted with the reality that i am not seem to not really care either way about my gender #other trans people are into me and they do generally get it but not always #and gay guys are into me sometimes but i don't really pass consistently enough for it to happen often #like im not actively seeking a partner n i don't both passing day to day cos everyone knows im trans already #n binding is a living hell when you're fat with a fucking. idk the size like E or F probably. cup size. #so mostly ppl approach me thinking im butch but occasionally ppl think im a guy in photos i post and such or #strangers will ask my friends abt me thinking im a guy #but like generally speaking no matter what i don't get to just be A Man. and i don't know if i really want to be! i like being trans #and it sucks because ive missed out entirely on dating in middle/high school like when you find out who you like #simply for being trans. ik most queer ppl end up doing it all in college its just frustrating yk. cos all my cis friends get to do it #realistically speaking im p much just t4t i really only have actually tried to date trans people + trans people are hotter + they get it #which im fine with. i love trans people . just sucks to be excluded sometimes even when u don't want in

[running-in-the-dark]

I think I mentioned that I was looking into getting a better sewing machine? well, it arrived today 🙈 that happened much faster than planned. I found the model I was looking at at a (relatively) local sewing machine store, for 30% off because it had been in the shop window, so the plastic has yellowed.

I wasn't sure how I felt about that (the website only said it was a floor model or something similar, then someone from the store called and told me the specifics and asked if that was still okay), but honestly? I never ever would have paid the full price, it was just too much, I couldn't justify that. but this reduced price was only a little more than the ones I had been looking at before (that were not great quality and probably wouldn't last very long).

I am very particular about things like this but I'm trying to make myself accept that it really is not that bad. it actually looks kinda cool. I just have to get my brain to accept that it's not a flaw, it's just a completely superficial and insignificant thing that doesn't affect its function at all. it's good that this machine that works perfectly won't end up in a landfill just because it doesn't look brand new.

I only got to try it a little bit today because I wasn't feeling well but damn, the difference to my old machine is huge!! it's so much more fun and easy to use - I love having the needle threader and that it can automatically cut the yarn when you're done. and with the start/stop button it's actually really fun to wind bobbins!! I always hated that on my old machine.

I skimmed through the manual earlier (and put page markers in it so that I can easily find anything later) - it did seem somewhat overwhelming at first. I've never used or even seen (irl) a computerised sewing machine, so of course it did! but it already felt much more familiar after just using it a little bit today. I love it 🥰

(also, I think the fact that it doesn't look perfect and brand new actually helps - I'm not afraid to use it in case I 'ruin' it!)

#I really hope I'll use it a lot #I didn't use my old one much because it was just such a hassle. #mainly little things that didn't work right #and something as simple as the way you have to thread it not being labeled clearly on the machine itself #I've got memory issues and found that very annoying (and in the end I drew the instructions on with sharpie because it got so frustrating) #I've also bought a.. probably stupid amount of little sewing things that I've wanted for years. #and an iron (got the old one second hand for 5€ and it will not stop dripping). and a set of thread (I only had thread that was old and/or #really bad quality. I can only get about 5 colours locally AND it's pretty expensive. so a set made sense... 😬) #it's the same thing every time. I get (more) into a hobby. I buy every fucking thing. I do it all day every day until it stops being the #most interesting thing on earth. and then I pick it up again like once a year but always feel guilty for not doing it enough #annnnyway #I'm very excited about all of it right now #I'm hoping it'll last a while #I mean. I've been interested in sewing for over a decade. I just never had enough money to really get into it the way I'd like #so. I don't think it'll ever completely go away at least #I've bought a bunch of vintage sewing patterns on ebay and I'm really excited to try them #I'm thinking I'll do some baby clothes first - I don't know any babies at the moment but baby clothes are small and also very adorable #so even if I mess up they'd still look cute 😂 #and I wouldn't have wasted too much fabric haha #personal

[epicdogymoment]

once again rubbed the wrong way by friends who unintentionally reveal that they dont really engage with my masculinity in any real way and see me as nonbinary (female-lite)

#leologisms #...................i need more trans friends. in real life #its so frustrating. your gay friends knowing youre transgender but still being able to tell that yeah. they really do just see you as #female-lite. and pushing back by overcorrecting the other way. but im NOT a trans man! and im not a woman either! and the label #nonbinary doesnt fit me even if other people might understand my identity best as under that label. im just transgender. none of #your business. but hearing people say 'well thats why you dont date men' and 'ugh i hate men' etc while i KNOW what they mean #the fact that theyre ok just saying that around me. TO me. a bisexual transgender. feels so bad. #not only am i not masculine in their eyes theyre also telling me that to them masculinity is inherently. dirty. dangerous. but thank god IM #not like that right? hahaha!!!!! thank god i would never be attracted to masculinity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #.........god. anyway. the thing that prompted this happened a few days ago now and it was just a throwaway comment #but my awful brain loves latching onto those. so whatever.

[transalfredpennyworth]

my orientation is so weird. it justfucking changes. all the time. i can never get a good read on it. DO I EVEN LIKE WOMEN???????? romantically i mean. whatever. usually i just consider my sexuality queer or faggot because theyre vague and open but gay is also accurate sometimes?? just not always . Fuck if i know

#sometimes (not super often but sometimes) bi feels more accurate but like. can i just change labels like that. on a whim #its so funny that all parts of my identity are so fucking ???????? #doomed to have the most confusing frustrating sexuality/gender known to man amen #will actually die if i have labels imposed on me tho #dont call me lithoromantic. It is accurate but dont call me that #IT JUST FEELS CONSTRICTIVE. THAT ISNT ALL THAT I AM. theres so much more i cant put words to...

[levi-dayne]

being autistic -> 🫠

vent in tags

#im so fucking burnt out #its so frustrating bc according to my parents im 'high functioning' and 'shouldnt let my autism impact me that much' #beyond that being outdated like they didnt just slap an autism label on me for FUN. its bc i fucking have autism #so yes i have difficulties related to my autism. they dont understand and its so frustrating theyre always on my ass about things i CANT do #or struggle doing bc im autistic and burnt out and i hate this so much #and i called my mom out on it and she said 'well i didnt say you dont struggle just that it should be manageable' #okay but its fucking not??????? #like i stg they think my autism is JUST special interests and sensory issues. which its fucking not. #i struggle taking care of myself. i struggle interacting with people. i struggle with keeping up with things or switching between tasks #and dont even get me started on my DAD he doesnt even believe the doctors that im autistic #he compared my inability to understand social cues to wanting to be a bitch but being forced to repress it #like dude. when people perceive me as being a bitch its not bc im failing at hiding it #its bc i genuinely cant tell if my words or body language is coming across as bitchy even when i dont have any underlying resentment #he doesnt even think im autistic which is so frustrating #my mom begrudgingly accepts it but my dad thinks the LICENSED PROFESSIONALS are wrong #he hasn't done ANY research on autism EXCEPT to correct me when i say autism instead of autism spectrum disorder #which is also bullshit bc he and my mom use outdated terms like aspergers all the fucking time #(and ableist slurs) #im just so overwhelmed and i cant function #personal posts 😌✨️✨️

[lesbianwillbond]

was covering someone’s break on self checkout today and some guy was like. ummmm my chips are supposed to be $2.77 not $3.40 and i was like ugh fine i’ll call someone to check it out and confirm and he was like no i’ll go do it. which okay. i give people more freedom to do that on self checkout bc there doesn’t tend to be a line they’re holding up. and so bro leaves and comes back two minutes later having ripped the fucking price tag off the shelf. like. what. and handed it to me like. i know i’m not supposed to do that. like. YEAH YOURE NOT SUPPOSED TO DO THAT.

#he was right it was $2.77 but labelled as an ad match so it just wasn’t in the system yet #price correction on self checkout is really fun btw bc #when you do an alt price on something you need to put a reason why. and on our tills it tells us what each reason is by number #so like if it’s an ad match you put 1. if it’s just a correction you put like 4. but on the self checkout screens they don’t show us those #and also they’re different!! like 1 on self checkout is a correction not an ad match. #it’s frustrating. anyway. #en

[ihavenohotcocoa]

starting to wonder if i might be trans?

#i havent felt fully comfortable with my body since i was 13 #im starting to primarily go by he/him #and i genuinely wish i could grow a beard #but i also feel fine with the label of girl #ive got ages to figure this stuff out #but its so frustrating not knowing #am i nb? #am i just a masc girl? #who knows #i sure dont #cocoa’s gender bs

[girlwithfish]

should someone apologize over a joke that u took offense to

#going insane #ppl telling me either way not to trust my own judgment or beliefs or opinions or stance on my own mental state it is so frustrating #either way im fucked bc it feels like no one is ever on my side and my words never matter. like tbe things i say #dont matter to a lot of ppl its always tossed to the side #and then its my fault bc i dont have the personality or will to fight to be heard or idk wouldnt it be nice if ppl just #took u seriously and respected u #and either way im fucked im too sensitive too emotional irrational delusional etc #hate it so much #like i wish i wasnt mentally unwell at all then ppl wld take u serious maybe. maybe my feelings wouldnt always be labeled as overreaction #idk #👍