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Transland: Consent, Kink and Pleasure by Mx. Sly

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Transland is a fiery and revealing memoir that explores what happens when a non-binary person goes looking for self-worth and a sense of belonging in fetish subculture, only to find that fetish communities come with just as many problematic rules, expectations, and hierarchies as mainstream ones. Moving from wide-eyed optimism that the fetish community is the promised land to realizing the ways fetish communities—even queer ones—reinforce the commodification of bodies, Mx. Sly examines how BDSM helped them understand and articulate their gender, how kink helped them turn shameful experiences into liberating ones, and how they became disillusioned with the BDSM scene—without rejecting the lessons fetish taught them.  The stories in Transland explore PTSD, intergenerational trauma, memory, consent, gender transition and diversity, queer relationships and subculture, and a lot of bondage. An odyssey of kinky hookups (including a charismatic Toronto femdomme, an Aussie rope bondage expert, and the queer sex tourism neighborhood of Bangkok), gender euphoria, and testing the limits of sensual experience, this memoir is a candid exploration of fetish communities and practices and a wandering quest through sensuality toward personal strength and self-reliance. Sexy, gutting, graphic, and existential, Transland is about finding oneself through intense sensations, reaching a point where being hit has diminishing returns, and coming out wiser on the other side.

Mod opinion: I haven't read this one yet, but it sounds so interesting I hope to get around to it soon!

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Transgender Books For Your Libraries

I have said this before, but right now requesting and reading queer books from your local library is important. I want to take a second to say there is a direct attack against the transgender community around the globe, and it's worth your time to request and read transgender books. So, here are some transgender books to request:

(Some links are affiliate links and the money goes to Making Queer History's research fund)

People Change, Vivek Shraya

Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity, Judith Butler

The Salt Grows Heavy, Cassandra Khaw

Transland: Consent, Kink, and Pleasure, MX Sly

Freshwater, Akwaeke Emezi

Amateur: A Reckoning with Gender, Identity, and Masculinity, Thomas Page McBee

The Subtweet, Vivek Shraya

Dark and Deepest Red, A. M. McLemore

A Psalm for the Wild-Built, Becky Chambers

Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Fantabulous Memoir, Kai Cheng Thom

Dear Senthuran: A Black Spirit Memoir, Akwaeke Emezi

Dead Collections, Isaac Fellman

Disintegrate/Dissociate, Arielle Twist

Tell Me I'm Worthless, Alison Rumfitt

How to Be You: Stop Trying to Be Someone Else and Start Living Your Life, Jeffrey Marsh

A Lady for a Duke, Alexis Hall

Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality, Sarah McBride

The Perks of Loving a Wallflower, Erica Ridley

I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl's Notes from the End of the World, Kai Cheng Thom

We See Each Other: A Black, Trans Journey Through TV and Film, Tre'vell Anderson

Beyond the Gender Binary, Alok Vaid-Menon

#queer history #queer books #libraries #lgbt books #transgender books #trans books

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Sex and Body Positive Trans and Nonbinary Non-Fiction Books

Buy books from trans, nonbinary, and gender nonconforming authors! Here's a list of some non-fiction that I've really enjoyed. This is NOT extensive, it is just scratching the surface of what's out there.

Be sure to follow me for updates on my own books and a regular dose of non-binary gender euphoria! [18+ Only, I'm a sex blogger and pleasure informed queer sexuality writer.] NOTE: All links are to Amazon CA. Most of these are available at other retailers though, so, if it looks interesting please be sure to look it up at your preferred place to buy books!

Ashley, Florence. Gender/Fucking: The Pleasures and Politics of Living in a Gendered Body. CLASH Books, 2024.

Coyote, Ivan. Rebent Sinner. Arsenal Pulp Press, 2022.

Dale, Laura Kate, Ed. Gender Euphoria: Stories of Joy from Trans, Non-Binary and Intersex Writers. Unbound, 2022.

Grimm, Bruce Owens, Miguel M. Morales and Tiff Joshua TJ Ferentini, editors. Fat & Queer: An Anthology of Queer and Trans Bodies and Lives. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2021.

Kobabe, Maia. Gender Queer: A Memoir. Oni Press, 2019.

Lore, Nillin. How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers. Thornapple Press, 2024.

Lorenz, Theo. The Trans Self-Care Workbook: A Coloring Book and Journal for Trans and Non-Binary People. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2020.

Mx. Sly. Transland: Consent, Kink, and Pleasure. Arsenal Pulp Press, 2023.

Oaks-Monger, Tash. All the Things They Said We Couldn't Have: Stories of Trans Joy. Jessica Kinglsey Publishers, 2023.

Raines, Jamie. The T in LGBT: Everything You Need to Know About Being Trans. Vermilion, 2024.

Silver, Orlando. I Write the Body: Queer & Trans Kink, Desire, and Defiance. Kith Books & silvertongue PUBLISHING, 2023.

Sparks, Kelvin. Trans Sex: A Guide for Adults. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2022.

Tobia, Jacob. Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story. G. P. Putnam’s Sons, 2019.

Vaid-Menon, Alok. Beyond the Gender Binary. Pocket CHANGE Collective, 2020.

Violet, Mia. Yes, You Are Trans Enough: My Transition from Self-Loathing to Self-Love. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2019.

#trans #transgender #non binary #nonbinary #queer #lgbtq #gender nonconforming #genderqueer #genderfluid #lgbtq books #trans books #trans author #nonbinary writer #nonbinary author #nonbinary books #queer books #sex positive #body positive

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Hello! I was wondering if you have any recommended reading for kink/fetishes (histories of, queer intersections, discussions of safe sane and consensual, etc) or generally kink positive books/media?

Yes, I do!

Transland: Consent, Kink, and Pleasure

MX Sly

Melissa Febos

(Affiliate link above)

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