#we can't be on another social

[furiarossa]

Hi hi! Thanks for the follows. :) I don’t know if you’re on Discord but over on the Gathering of the Gargoyles server (https://discord.gg/eENwA6aGGw) we’ve been sharing you guys’ art and awaiting Goliath underwear pics!

We were not on Discord, but for the Gathering of the Gargoyle, y'know, just to check... now we are XD

We just signed in and... wow, other Gargoyles fans! And we see that it's true, people is sharing our art (you too!) and giving direct links! Yay! All credited! And we're seeing so many new Gargoyles fanarts, just... thank you for telling us.

(And Goliath underwear pics will come soon, we just need a pinch of free time!)

#gargoyles #this is the best fandom #gargoyles fandom #we're gonna use discord ONLY to check Gathering of the Gargoyles #sorry not sorry #we can't be on another social #we just want more gargs #thank you!

[nemesis-is-my-middle-name]

i don't know maybe it's the translation i read but i guess i always thought it was made fairly clear that shuro never legitimately hated laios so much as he resented him for being able to be the way he was. much like laios (albeit for very different reasons) shuro's affect is frequently commented on by others to be strange and at a mismatch with the prevailing culture around him, being very reticent to the point of the part where he tells the girl he likes that he likes her being when he Proposed. quite a few characters say something to this effect! shuro was raised in formality and stoicism and i think has a tendency towards not rocking the boat even besides that, and now here's this guy who breaks every one of his rules and he makes it look so easy. it's like a two-pronged frustration of "doesn't this guy understand that you can't just do that" and "fuck, what would it feel like to be able to do that." of course he gets mad! it's frustration, but it's also envy.

#the nemesis speaks #after their fight they're very chill/friendly and in the nightmares chapter laios literally says something to the effect of #''i thought we worked this out already!'' when dream shuro shows up. so he does consider that fight to be Working Things Out #&that like. imo makes it pretty clear that shuro's dislike of laios was never like inherent? it was just another product of him not- #-being able to say clearly when he likes or doesn't like something. trying to keep a lid on that pot until it boiled over #once the air had been cleared and laios was aware of it- i mean the relief of that honesty must have been- #-kind of fresh air to shuro atp regardless after not saying anything for so long. #& i think you can't bare that much of your soul to another person without becoming friends at least a little bit #plus all of shuro's actions after that chap and his demeanor towards laios are much warmer in general #idk where i'm going with this i guess tl;dr it's not even that shuro hates laios' autistic traits it's that they're like- #-out of place socially in opposite directions and shuro dislikes how unfamiliar laios is but also kind of wants to be more like him #this is beyond just the fact that the final line of their fight (in the translation at least) was quite literally #''that's the part of you that i envy''

[bumblingbabooshka]

write to me

#I drew this when I was VERY stressed (days ago) #bee doodles #Tuvok/Janeway #Janeway/Tuvok #st voyager #st voyager art #letter writing and the preparation of warm beverages #Janeway & Tuvok seem like they'd call each other things like 'my other half' and 'my moral center' and 'my dearest companion' but then you #ask if they're dating and they're like Noooo. Absolutely not. and they're not but they are coming into each other's rooms at night #because neither of them can sleep well and talking about Mark & T'Pel while they lean against one another (holding the warm mugs instead of #hands - that comes later when they can pretend that maybe they were asleep) #because they're the only ones who know Mark & T'Pel - you're the only part of my old life that's here and that's a comfort and that's a #tragedy (because I care about you too much to want you here but I need you too much to wish you were anywhere else - and maybe I'm too #selfish too and too afraid to be alone) and when they're talking about Mark & T'Pel they can ignore the fact that they're leaning against #each other and how good the weight feels and how much their chests ache and how much they want more. Not even sex or a kiss but something #steady that lasts. (hold me close even if you can't tell me it'll be alright) #two people who're loyal to everything - too loyal to ask for what they want. They aren't dating because they're married to ghosts now and #to leave that haunted house would be to admit that there's nothing left there - that the grieving's done - and if the grieving's done then #the loving is too. It has to matter - it has to be present to be real (follow Starfleet rules follow Social rules follow the rules we make #up on the fly and honor as if they've been longstanding. Build a little life with me. Define strong lines we cannot cross. Look into my eyes #to make sure I'm not longing. Double check. Triple check. Don't look away. Please.) #When I want to hear your voice I'll read the words you've written - but I won't ask you to stay #Kathryn Janeway #Tuvok

[hussyknee]

So. Anyone else feeling a little unhinged rn?

#I've had to double my anti depressants #good news is that it's working #bad news is I still can't stay off social media #I saw another dead baby and this time just felt glad she didn't have to suffer this hell anymore #I have never wanted to believe in God more #I'm really glad they do #they believe their children are with God with all their hearts and I've started to imagine that's true too #holding onto their faith when I have none because otherwise I'd go insane #hyperfixating on Gaza for 6 wks while my hyperempathy went utterly haywire #has my brain dead convinced I'm Arab or something #I feel very stupid and guilty about it #like what right have I to claim this grief #and yet it's still easier to focus on than what's going on in my own country #ever since the protests fell apart last year and everything we had such hope for got flushed down the toilet #I just completely shut down #couldn't stand re-engaging with the world anymore #nearly ran out of reasons to keep going entirely this year #then when Gaza happened #I couldn't do anything but watch and learn and disseminate info like my life depended on it #just like with the SL protests #but it galvanized me the same way #I feel like it's breaking me down the same way too #I see all these massive protests and people chaining themselves and lying on the roads and getting thrown around by cops #I always felt that white and Western people could never truly feel our pain and it's amazing to see I was wrong #I feel so much love and awe and gratitude for them #but hope keeps getting dimmer and I'm slipping into despair again #exactly like with the SL protests #I don't want to go through all that betrayal and heartbreak and depression again #nobody that's directly impacted by this knows I exist and all the terrible pain I carry doesn't make a damn bit of difference #so I'm just spiralling alone in my head to no purpose lol

[vermillioncrown]

no one asked but i gotta put out one of my biggest fandom/fanfic pet peeves:

"unthinking/meme-poisoned socmed usage assigned to every character"

why does everyone have to be a twitter funnyman. why does everyone act like they post for clout and monetization. when would they have the time? what does account verification entail, and would they warrant it.

think it through 🤔

#opinionated verm #not everyone is showing their whole ass on twitter #and by that i mean being a public clown #ppl lurk other places #niche ecosystems and all #or the discord servers that are...god i will not even get into those #example: my friend and his brother spent a whole local election cycle trolling our home city's nextdoor. it was on fucking fire #ppl were following this trainwreck w bated breath #or subreddits. weirdly specific ig accounts #idk every time i see those overly contrived socmed imaginings or fake posts 90% of the time i feel it tells on OP more than anything #1) lacks attn irl 2) can't fathom another life perspective 3) hasn't introspected on what truly fulfills them yet #treat the construction of your fictional online social environment with the same respect as physical worldbuilding and logistics #something something we were all so socially damaged by covid and the quarantine period #let's have some variety in our blorbos c'mon

[aeide-thea]

sometimes it really is just like. is this all there is. feeling oversensitive & undersocialized—too sensitive to socialize—forever, bc you never got enough ~affirmation~ growing up (poor, pathetic baby; how long will you persist in singing the same self-pitying song…), & so never developed the proper emotional cushioning against the heartache & the thousand natural shocks, &c, &c, &c, &c, &c…

#like—you can't get close to people if you're too raw to bear the inevitable grit of misunderstandings and small incompatibilities #we all fail one another. sometimes in a myriad of small ways‚ sometimes in big ones— #sometimes you and people you care about are simultaneously failing each other on separate but parallel tracks #and ultimately you have to be able to bear that and keep reaching out to people anyway‚ as you hope they will to you #and i just. i need so badly for something—someone—to be new and good and an easy fit‚ because i haven't got trying in me #but also frankly i wouldn't trust anything like that if it appeared to me‚ at this point #molly grue voice how dare you come to me now &c #i'm a fussy person whose capacity for delight has drained away #and i think it's SO important to be kind and yet still so often i don't manage it #despite biting my tongue SO often that it hurts‚ which has taught me to feel there's nothing acceptable abt my own reactions #and i never MEAN to be pompous or dickish or whatever but caring about precision and conscientiousness and whatnot isn't in fashion #so i'm pretty sure that's how i come off to most people #and there's no prospect of anything changing and it's just like. sometimes in the night i think. well. i'm basically already dead then. #like. the last‚ i don't know‚ almost-decade at this point has been a slow painful process of sinking ever deeper into exile #stripping away various social positionalities and connections in trade for—nothing. #alien nation. #all the norms are shit but outside them—what is there. #anyway. #feelingsblogging

[welcometogrouchland]

We all assign Lilith as the Philip parallel when analyzing the similarities between the clawthorne sisters and the wittebane brothers. But have we stopped to consider for a moment that Belos saw Lilith as the Caleb in her situation? An older sibling who makes a selfish decision (in Philip's eyes) and betrays their younger sibling, leaving them a monster outcast from society??

We as the audience know just how different those situations were, but from Belos' pov...

I'm not saying Lilith was seen as so disposable and worthless by Belos, not just bc she was a witch, but because she was a Clawthorne whom Belos saw as a mirror of Caleb...but that's exactly what I'm saying and I'm realizing that Belos must've hated Lilith's guts more than we thought

#the owl house #toh #lilith clawthorne #toh belos #philip wittebane #obviously we as the audience know Eda is more analogous to Caleb #(someone longing for freedom and seemingly running from responsibility to get it) #(all speculation of course since we know so little about caleb but that seems to be the gist of things) #and that Lilith is the Philip in their relationship #(the more emotionally dependent and socially maladjusted one obsessed with conforming as a way to achieve status and love- #-has a (seeming in Philip's case) inferiority complex and can't comprehend their sibling making choices that don't include them) #but i remembered that Lilith is the older sibling and then this dawned on me lol #and yes i think Belos definitely had some kind of knowledge of the curse thing considering him and Lilith's deal in s1 #my personal hc is once Lilith rose the ranks she had a moment of semi breaking down and confessing to her ''sins'' #both in a creepy christian confessional way but. also i was thinking of andrias and marcy from the frog show hsbsjsnfk #anyway. Belos fucking hated Lilith didn't he. he was just waiting to screw her over #it's honestly kind of sad considering how much Lilith worshipped him and craved his (platonic) love and approval #obviously she was aiding a corrupt system but still. if anything that's just another parallel between her and belos lol #we all wonder why Lilith seemingly never interacted with other coven heads or why she resented hunter and I'm like #i think belos definitely isolated her on purpose yknow? he gave her the mission to find eda and then she put all her time into that #she probably barely talked to anyone other than kiki and the scouts. and the loneliness just fueled her desperation to get eda back y'know? #then for the hunter thing like. obviously it's Lilith's own insecurity at this teen prodigy seemingly favoured by Belos #and like. i doubt anyone in the castle besides kiki and some select coven heads really knew what went on behind closed doors #so Lilith just sees this kid who gets to be by Belos' side all the time and she doesn't get what he has that she doesn't #and because she's an emotionally stunted nightmare woman she turns it into this silly rivalry #and because Belos hates her he's like. lol okay i am not reassuring you abt your place in this hierarchy. i want to watch you suffer #and let's her feel these things and poor hunter is just like WHAT DID I EVER DO TO YOU??? #and he's mad abt it #anyway. Lilith thoughts out of my system for tonight but can you tell i love this cringefail slug woman?

[teleomancer]

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#so it's Infect Your Friends And Loved Ones with the bit about 'everyone around here knows about you' #even if it's positive- the world pays so much more fucking attention to my life for being trans and it makes me.. shiver? #coffee clerk fumbled every facet of taking my order and the apology landed super duper sideways #'oh sorry! it's just that it's my first time helping *you* is all- just seen you around a lot before. you know.' yeah? know what exactly? #how's that supposed to make me feel? every month they hire someone new and we get to do the same tiring song and dance #another young-20s clerk that will not stop trying to make small talk w/me beats ones that only glare yeah- this isn't pain just frustration #and like YES it's better than the cashier that beats the shit out of my beers on purpose or crumples receipts to hand them to me #or the audible 'see- told you he's a man' commentary when he can see stubble behind a mask on days that can't bother me to shave #like the pharmacists at this supermarket make me well aware that nobody else gets their E here. the store knows the local tranny. great. #genpop cannot reliably be fucking Normal Abt Transfems to the point that it makes me wanna thank the rare coworker that just like. #doesn't treat me like anyone different or special or a threat or a curiosity or an object or a shot to gain social capital for being nice? #getting told by young-20s cis girls that calling me dude didn't mean anything b/c they're 'y'know! *also* [limp wrist mime] *girlypop!*' #hits closer to home than getting called a slur to my face because the latter asshole doesn't pretend to be my friend and just. #skips straight to making me a paper doll in their head of what it means to be me and shaped like me and dressed like me and it's.. slimy. #'everyone around here knows about you.'

[icicleteeth]

Feel like a miserable crone on this Halloween, I don't want to put up a sign on our door like "Please don't knock I've been sick for a week and the only candy I have is candy corn and I don't think you want either of these things" because it sounds like dog ate my homework shit but :')

#i've just closed all the blinds... hoping nobody rings.... cuz putting up a sign is just goofy i think.... #idk the whole past 2 weeks has been really bad socializing-wise as it is but once i got sick it's Worse #if i was smart i'd have bought another bowl (yeah we only have one we have for cooking so i can't use that it's sad) #and left candy in there but october just poofed by... and im pretty sure if i left all my candy corn out in a bowl... it would be over... #didn't have time to draw any halloween art either; this october has been :')

[thingswhatareawesome]

what the everliving fuck? did i do so wrong? i tried difficulty ONE of swarm disaster, says for team lvl 66, i took in 4 80s, and on the second stage kafka pasted my entire party?? (trl phys, qq, dhil, and luocha). i just...that is the literal BEGINNING after the tutorial?? what the fuck? how did i fuck up so *badly*

#i was trying path remembrance and it seemed to be doing fine? #and then everything just fucking blew up in my face? #if i can't get through baby level one how am i supposed to finish one chapter much less 13?? #god i hate sim univ shit anyway #i literally said on their survey they have us spending too much time in it #so we get this massive sprawling event that looks overwhelming as fuck and was intimidating me all day #as i read on literally every social media i use people boggling at being party wiped but at least mid-high lvls #not shitty baby level like i just did? #and it's literally jam all the sim universe to the extreme down your throat like you hate sim universe well bend over and take it #am i going to have to lose out on this whole event? #i'm already behind everyone else so badly like i'm so far behind on getting my whole crew to max lvl and shit #but i've been working on relics and on light cones and i took in four of my good people? #i guess i just suck ass that bad goddamn #i love this game but wow idk maybe it's telling me i'm not good enough #sorry just wow my confidence just nosedived to negative digits and i feel discouraged as fuck and a game is supposed to be fun #and this is NOT fun #and i'm going to have to force myself to do it and it's going to take so much time #fuck #i still have to do another regular sim univ for the week too #i hate this T__T i'm never going to finish in a month

[pegasusdrawnchariots]

the eternal question: is scheduling w friends as an adult That Hard or am I just bad at it

#4 different people have left me on read today; 1 cancelled our plans 4 hours before we were due to meet #I've been sitting home alone for 2 days going insane. looking forward to One (1) coffee date & that fell through #idk why I'm taking it so hard this time I'm usually fine!! but I find myself wishing I didn't have the day off I wish I did have work :( #like it's tiring yeah but it beats sitting here not knowing what to do w myself #& I'm working all weekend & only leaving the house to see the doctor. oh joy #I've been productive ironing writing fixing the car. that's not the problem #I had 4 social plans this month. that's it #that's like seeing each friend once a month!! I can't keep this up!! #is this the norm for adulthood? :( #& on one level I don't want to bother people or be clingy #but on another level I'm baffled that they don't get lonely too #the news has not shut up abt the Loneliness Epidemic since 2021 #but if it's true why do so many people take so long to reply when I reach out? if they reply at all #I'm not going anywhere w this. idk #just one of those days #everything so fuck everybody suck :( #boomers got it right w the whole showing up unannounced at people's houses for a social call with a pound cake #now I have to go through 5 layers of bureaucratic bullshit to see a friend #assuming they don't cancel the day of ofc (((((: #I just wanna be like hello knock knock I am here. tell me abt yr life today & listen to mine & eat this cake #& the worst is when people are like 'I'm cancelling bc I'm tired xx' #OK A) u knew we had these plans for two weeks #but B) I'm tired too! I still love u ur still my friend! let us be tired together! #'I won't be social today I'm tired' my love we could watch movies in silence we could knit we could ball yr socks. idc #'I have to do the big shop today sorry' so do I!!! let us do the groceries together!!! #every time I've pushed someone to come out when they felt depressed or to let me accompany them when they were doing chores #they were like u know what I'm so glad u did this. thank u. this is way better than how I had planned this night to go #& I'm like any time!! I love u!! #& then it just happens all over again next time oh sorry I'm cancelling I'm busy I'm tired #like did u forget what a nice time we had last time? what changed? :(

[scorndotexe]

also sorry but if a conversation is about what something means it doesn't feel like the place to talk about how rude or tactless it is. we're having an autistic conversation can we move past "people will be hurt by that." well at least in this situation the person who could have been hurt by it wasn't. people might be hurt by that but you know what that's a separate discussion

#we need to separate the variables to have a productive conversation #because otherwise it's a mess of a discussion and we'll never get anywhere #could we talk about the op's perhaps overly casual tone in the tweet? yes we could but you know what that's not the issue here and also #personally i don't fucking care that's the tone of half of social media these days #maybe it's relevant to the discussion of how the autistic person in the anecdote is treated BUT #LISTEN TO ME. NOT EVERY ANECDOTE ABOUT AN AUTISTIC PERSON IS A MEAN ONE. #and the twitter op was making fun of themself more than anyone else. #i can't promise i'll stop talking about this #i do have more thoughts #but i'm exhausted so maybe another time #persimmon's rambles #NOT DIRECTED TO THE ASKER. THIS IS NOT DIRECTED TO THE ASKER #I WAS WRITING THIS OUT BEFORE I GOT THE ASK

[supercantaloupe]

we've got like three people coming to see the house tomorrow as prospective new roommates and i'm gonna be honest that's like the Last thing i want to be dealing with while i'm sick

#i feel bad about being so hands off of the process but i'm so tired i can't do social interaction with three strangers in my home #esp not on the same day i'm supposed to go to baltimore. and be out late on the train home... #idk. maybe i can play the sick card and just hide in my room and nap in the afternoon #i'll feel a little bad about it but at least i'll get some extra rest #i wanna talk about me #tbh whhile financial wise it woul of course be easier to have another roommate around i have gotten used ro only having the two #and having an extra room free for lounging and guest use... #our super backup plan if we absolutely can't get another tennant to rent would be me moving into the big room #and turning the small one into either a craft studio or a guest bed #and ngl. i kind of just want to do that at this point #dealing with strangers. nerve wracking

[puppyluver256]

Welcome to Tumblr, where it's part of the site culture to generally tag upsetting things so that people can use any number of filters to filter said things out!

Except for when we don't.

Which is all the time.

#jess rambles #jess's rage is building #like if i were posting about (insert upsetting event here) i'd be tagging anything i could think of #because i know people would find it upsetting and i give a damn about not upsetting people #but apparently people think it's cool to forego that on purpose nowadays #i think i'd rather we go back to that trend of tagging every potential content warning under the sun than deal with this #sure it looked annoying if you weren't filtering any of the things in question for a certain post #but at least you knew they were being thorough #it costs zero dollars to just tag your crap like a decent person #especially if it's...oh i don't know...an untranscribed screenshot from another site where the filters can't pick up any of the text #because they can't register it as text due to it being in an image #or PURPOSEFULLY CENSORED KEY WORDS TO BYPASS FILTERS LIKE WHAT THE HELL #''just curate your feed'' kinda impossible when no one meets you in the middle #and if i temporarily unfollow people i guarantee i will forget to refollow them whenever (insert upsetting event here) is over #or they'll change urls in the meantime and i'd never find them again #''get off social media and go touch grass'' social media is my break *from* all the grass i've been touching lately #I Have A Dog Now I Have Been Touching Grass Much More Often Than Usual For Nearly Four Months #And My Ankles Are Suffering For It

[unproduciblesmackdown]

also a special shoutout for real like wendy epic ableism moments when she stops talking directly to winston and expresses this is b/c he communicates too incorrectly (here too literally or whatever, once again whether he misinterpreted her or she misinterpreted him, it's put on him) and thus he doesn't deserve that

#winston billions #and i mean handshake with how winston's basically not considered allowed to talk at all by anyone out here #but like. alright we're not showing that winston is in the room mostly for a joke but even randos are like ''hmm. bit impolite'' lol #but once we do see him b/c he's speaking....like actually it Is heinously rude / diminishing / infantilizing to be spoken to indirectly #and The Behavior Is Inherently Ableist Here like ofc it's probably rude no matter what outside some kind of rly specific contexts lol but #that here she Is just implying he doesn't get to be spoken to b/c of some shortcoming / assumed lack of capacity #whatever she Does mean by ''see the matrix'' which is nothing but convenient vagueness abt Ability anyways #he's only here b/c she thinks he's annoying or w/e or otherwise extrinsically showing lack of value (can't be ableism there....) #and like winston and any other character is like. it's not textual sure but it doesn't need to be Textually Labeled #and sometimes can't be when ppl absolutely write based of ppl they know / encounter but don't know are autistic or etc #and that's how it works irl too. someone being Officially(tm) Autistic or smthing shouldn't be some necessary disclosure #b/c it's about The Underlying Principles At Play vs making some approved ''exceptions.'' if he's supposedly allistic it's still sm shit. #like how trans ppl & transphobia could exist prior to those terms even existing to be used. ppl are affected by them w/o being Out.... #& btw like ppl still saying some shit like ''some autistic ppl will just be Bad At / Have No Social Skills & you have to be chill abt it'' #like what does [social skills] mean here. what's the underlying element of socializing that they may do differently but you say is a Worse #or Absent version of the ''normal'' way of going about things. even if you actually get specific enough abt what a ''skill'' is; which is #gonna be a non universal non rule probably inaccurate idea of a Normal(tm) pattern of behavior/approach; sure maybe some ppl will struggle #to do that or largely/entirely not be able to do it / be unwilling to do it; gasp; what's its goal/effect & do they pursue/achieve that #another way. e.g how much AAC could be considered inherently ''bad'' re socializing or a lack of w/e ''skills'' or etc. #then like ok so once again a begrudging exception for autistic ppl is made. what's ''being okay with'' that even look like then? is anyone #gonna be using their ''good social skills'' to more successfully interact w/them? is Not socially excluding / ostracizing / punishing an #autistic person an Exception / something Extra you heroically do? e.g. & so what if some theoretical person isn't socially engaging w/other #ppl in any way. what do & don't they ''deserve'' differently from others b/c of that. #& anyways meanwhile they're certainly talking abt winston's Capabilities. but mostly talking around it b/c the point is He Gets Results & #will keep getting those results b/c why wouldn't he. but they can just cite anything to argue why oh but he doesn't Really have the value #cue vague shit like matrix refs b/c if he was Reeally talented we'd think he acts right. b/c Any bs can be said b/c winston doesn't have #the insulation or backup or ability to independently wield/gain social status his way through this shit. is only allowed to talk to #coworkers abt it by making it abt taylor actually (which is also true). still only makes it b/c rian is correctly remaining in the #acceptable range of being offbeat. so she already has more power than him & can choose to keep him around as that fun punching bag ig yay #then nobody cares. also he can't say he controls an instrument but Others refer to ''genius'' but negatively. wendy rhoades Would do ABA fr

[aeide-thea]

the thing abt this website (and probably other websites as well) is that like. posters will complain that readers get mad at posts for not encompassing Everyone's Experiences, when they were just talking about their own experiences

and it's like. okay but did you phrase your post in the universalizing second person or.

cue janet-with-cactus gifset.

#this is specifically a vagueblog of a post that describes 'being a girl and hitting puberty' as #'you spend years hating being a girl and hating everything puberty did to you' #which is like. i KNOW i read some personal essay by some famous female screenwriter whose name i'm blanking on #that was *entirely* about her adolescent Desire to Grow Breasts #it's not that feeling dubious abt yr body changing *can't* be a Cis Female Experience— #[bc ultimately i do believe like. Gender is a bunch of different things in uneasy harness #(more on this another time probably) #but definitely one of those things is 'the particular lens we personally choose to view our own experiences through' #so if afab!you decide yr a woman? yr experiences are those of a cis woman‚ even if they're statistically speaking uncommon for cis women] #—but it definitely is not a universal one #(and tbh i rather suspect not even a common one‚ although i don't remotely pretend to have data on that point?) #anyway like. if you aren't trying to make claims abt the universality of an experience: first person is a tool available to you! #consider using it! #i think honestly people deploy the universalizing 'you' in ways that are totally invisible to them and it's often alienating-to-harmful #but like. we're so primed to Seek Social Validation that we often phrase things in ways that are like. subtle equivalents of latin nonne #and it's like. this is a power move actually! you don't even realize you're making it! #anyway i'm just a lobbyist for like. understanding what you're doing and doing it on purpose #language #metatumbling