#abuser mention

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for introjects of abusers!

As introjects, we often don’t get to choose our sources. Sometimes an introject can form who is based on an abusive or harmful figure, whether fictional or real. Life as an introject of an abuser can be confusing, painful, and scary, especially in a community where introjects of abusers are often cast aside or demonized for something they cannot control. This post is for those introjects!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who have anger management issues! We promise your anger doesn’t make you a bad person - our characters are defined by how we choose to respond to our emotions, not the emotions themselves!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are attempting source separation! For many, source separation is necessary for healing and developing your own identity!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who make conscious decisions to not follow in the footsteps of their source! Your choices aren’t going unnoticed, we see the good you do and applaud your efforts!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers whose source is a real person who traumatized the system, or even who caused the system to form in the first place! It can be terrifying feeling like you personally caused your system’s trauma, but you are not responsible for your system’s trauma and abuse.

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who have to deal with being treated as their source by others! Source separation is possible if you want it - just because many introjects are treated as their source in introject spaces does not make it true!

Shoutout to introjects of fictional abusers who are called “roleplayers,” “fakers,” or other hurtful names! Your identity as a fictive is not any less valid and you are not less of a system member because of your source. This includes fictives of villains and antagonists!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are feared or hated by other members of their system! It can be challenging to work through trauma responses, ill-will, or misconceptions, but it is possible to build trust and healthy relationships!

Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are struggling to change for the better, but haven’t given up! We know that positive change is a serious struggle. We see you, we understand your challenges, and we’re not giving up on you!

Introjects are sometimes demonized in system spaces, and this is especially true for those who are introjects of abusers. We want you all to know that we care about you and we believe in you! You are capable of change, you are more and better than your source, and we’re rooting for you in all that you do!

Please continue to take care of yourselves and your system to the very best of your ability. Remember it’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to be vulnerable, and it’s okay to be open and honest about your experiences. We wish you and your system a future of hope, rest, joy, recovery, connection, or whatever your system needs in order to flourish! 💖

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#multiplicity #pluralgang #plurality #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #introjects #abuse mention #trauma mention #abuser mention #long post

[traumatizedjaguar]

Lmao so funny story, I found history searches on my fathers devices about *cyanide* and “easily obtainable poisons” and *I hate women/I hate my wife and kids/abuser/misogynistic related things* also chemsee sells test kits for not too expensive amounts. Also, just keeping these posts as a reminder that my father (and brother) tried to poison me since I was a minor, so it doesn’t get lost.

#my text #true crime #poisoning #poisons #abusive father #abusive parents #parental abuse #tw #actuallyabused #sibling abuse #confessions of an abuser #confession #actuallytraumatized #complex ptsd #abuser mention #tw murder mention #tw attempted murder #murder mention tw #attempted murder #tw true crime #personal trauma stories #abusive brother #abusive sibling #not funny just being sarcastic like I usually always am about everything #abusers are dumb like if I died from being poisoned slowly over the course of years… #wouldn’t the police be able to find old history searches on his devices? and his hatred toward women? like yeah I’d think possibly so

[etherealsign282]

As an abuser, you will beg them to teach you to be better and do better... but forget the part where you're supposed to put in the effort to learn

What you really want is someone to mildly scold you every time you fuck up and otherwise not do anything about your behavior so you have no necessary reason to actually stop

While you get to push all personal responsibility for your behavior onto them so that way if you're not getting better, it's not your fault. It's theirs.

But if they're too mean, too punishing, or actually hold you accountable, you'll tell them they're not patient enough and that that's not how teaching works. You'll say you're a slow grower and learner so they can't actually use stronger methods, they just have to keep babying you while you walk all over them.

And if they give up and stop trying to teach you, you can tell everyone they left you while you were vulnerable.

And you'll say any changes you as an abuser miraculously make after they leave has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you building yourself up from the ground... when it was them holding your hand 24/7 telling you what to do and not do while you tried to insist that everything was okay. You can't flip a switch like that and suddenly be the good guy who was oppressed by the only sensible person in any given situation you put yourself in, in order to harm others.

So either you had the power this whole time to change and chose not to because you didn't want to and didn't need to as long as you could manipulate someone into taking the fall; you haven't changed at all and you're faking it until someone else falls into the pit; or the lessons finally kicked in after you faced a real consequence to the actions you kept indulging in... but none of it has anything to do with you deserving most of the credit, tbh.

You were spoon fed solutions to your problems while you were dragged around like an unwilling, tantruming child about the bare minimum. Just because you, out of desperation to protect your ego for being left from being so inept, finally started doing (or acting) the bare minimum, does not make you worth applauding for. That's all it is... the bare minimum.

Being prideful of finally acting like a normal, decent human only after you could no longer pretend to be stupid toward someone who was willing to take you for a fool is in fact not something you should be bragging about "clawing your way up from the bottom" for. It is the absolute bare necessity. Just like men don't get to brag about not being rapists- you don't get to brag about being a decent person.

And only someone who had to be told over and over how to be a good person while playing stupid, would be so ignorant and emotionally underdeveloped to believe otherwise. So maybe don't be so prideful about your "newfound power" of "being a good person all on your own".

#emotional abuse #verbal abuse #abuser mention #abusers #psychological abuse #gaslighting #bullying #neglect #weaponized incompetence #You have to want it #effort #actually abused #no mercy

[kiwi-smoothi]

Hey, just so we're all aware. If you see a person at a con or something, especially a furry convention or Homestuck one, with this tattoo, this is Emma Reese. Also known as Haru Hyena. Who scammed 20k from mostly minors in the furry community. They also got themselves axed from the Homestuck community for pretending to be Broadway karkat.

They are a incredibly manipulative, are an animal hoarder and abuser, ableist and fatphobic. They are also incredibly abusive to their partners.

I know this because I was their partner for about 3 years. I don't want to go into detail about anything that happened, a lot did, but please if you see a person with this tattoo at a con or something, don't interact. Don't pity them, don't try and confront them. The happiest outcome I can think of is watching this person go out in a flicker. They don't deserve some huge escape or apology video, they don't deserve the attention that brings. Just let them faze out into nothing before they find the next fandom to scam out of time and money.

#psa #furry drama #haru hyena #gamzee makara #abuser mention #tw animal abuse #tw ableism #animal abuse mention #ableism mention #tw fatphobia #fatphobia mention #i genuinely just want them to disappear #i don't think they deserve anymore #if you know this person is in circles of yours #or is trying to #please please block them out #your sanity will thank you once you dont have to listen to their guilt trips

[fynposting]

theres something so. so. satisfying about being big enough to take someone who abused you in a fight

and it's better when they know too.

#kinda a vent but idk #abuser mention #vent tw #ig??

[asterism-collective]

Any tips on how to deal with abuser introjects? He is just a fragment but was threatening a little as well as our friend physically and if it happens he would need to file a report, I just need some advice because nothing like this has happened and our body has anxiety echoes of the previous alter fronting

#Achilles posts | ⚜️ #did #cdid #complex did #introjects #endos dni #anti endo #system #abuser mention

[justsomewhumpee]

Life update ( WARNING, some heavy stuff mentioned): Phew, hey guys. Things have been absolutely insane for me in the past few weeks. To attempt to keep things concise-

One of my parents (my main abuser) died suddenly and unexpectedly to the shock of myself and my whole family. Lots of emotions there to unpack of course, and we still don't know what happened or cause of death.

Had parent's funeral, and then literally the morning RIGHT after, I had top surgery.

On the bright side, my surgery went well and I'm now recovering!

Sooo, yeah. Terribly sorry for disappearing. Trust me, I'd MUCH rather be lost in writing than all the crap that has gone on lately. Additionally, I will hopefully have more time to write and post now that I can't do anything except sit around and recover from surgery.

Very, very glad to be back!

#I've been like giga whumpee lately #i made a joke before about me becoming whumpee bc of surgery but oh man #i did not realize how accurate that joke would become #luckily the worst is over now i hope #whump community #death mention #irl death mention #abuser mention #tw: death #tw surgery #irl stuff #kai speaks #rambliing #not writing #irl whump #i suppose isnt it

[the-cabin-complex]

❤️‍🔥 Are there any stereotypes for persecutors that you embrace/like to lean into?

Absolutely, yeah. That’s actually something I care a lot about, since my whole identity is already hilariously close to some stereotypes about persecutors. Hell, I’m an internally overpowered, bitchy ex cult member and abuser introject, with red eyes and a thing for knives, who only enjoys flirting slightly less than I enjoy hurting and harassing people. While gay.

I could go on, but basically if I was in a story, I’d immediately be labeled as bad and harmful rep. I don’t feel inclined to change for anyone though, so instead I’ve just leaned into the “evil alter” stereotype in a reclamatory way. I’ve got no plans for reforming myself, and I don’t have any other roles, I’m just an egotistical jackass and I like it that way.

Unfortunately I have to reel myself in a little bit these days to maintain some semblance of happiness in my life, but that doesn’t erase any of who I am, I think

—Ari

#Ari’s tag #persecutor #persecutor alter #if you’ve seen my sideblog I say more on this topic more frequently but anyway #evil alter tw #evil alter stereotype tw #cult mention #abuser mention #knife mention #ask game answers

[traumatizeddfox]

Think I found my abusers tumblr account.…no for real though. I will never understand why abusers justify things like bullying, rape, etc. it’s never justifiable, I’ll never understand why abusers think they’re more logical than your average person in reality they use significantly less logic. They’re like “but people justify stealing and mUrDer!!” For…self…defense…? We’re animals on this planet we deserve to just eat…maybe…? It’s like, abusers, hellooo, you don’t use LOGIC. Justifying abuse is not the same thing. It’s actually illogical. It’s so creepy and scary they actually cannot fathom that they ARENT logical people and yet think their logic exceeds others. Its a scary world I don’t want to live in with all these abusers and society’s thinking is abusive.

abusers have one brain cell and its being fucking annoying

#i hate them so much #anon #abuser mention

[starberriemilk]

- Im responding to this just because I know who you are and I believe it when you say you have no ill intentions or a stalker

- I censored the ask because I don’t want anyone to get attacked for anything, I don’t want any drama, also it’s personal stuff that shouldn’t be on the internet like this

Before I respond to this, I just wanna ask you to please just DM me next time instead of sending asks. This is a very sensitive and personal topic that I don’t want the internet to see. I know that you might be scared to DM me but this is about my safety, it’s better to DM than send asks and let me reveal things to the internet that shouldn’t be revealed. I’m not mad, I just think it was important to point out

Either way, I’m away from all the abusive people that were in my life, I’m not in contact with anyone who will hurt me, so don’t worry about that. I don’t wanna say specific stuff due to how personal this is, but I will say that things are okay and I’m away from the abuse this person was causing.

Thank you for the support and I hope you’re healing and you don’t think about this topic too much

#ask #anon #abuse mention #abuser mention

[transcowgirlslut]

it's kind of bullshit that people will react with horror to me discussing my fantasies/kinks until i clarify I'm the sub in them. like even my therapist was all like "ohhh it's ok to want to hold power so long as it's consensual" and then clearly relaxed when I clarified I wanted to be the sub.

i love you everyone and with rape kinks, those who want to roleplay kidnapping and abusing someone, i love you i love you i love you. this ain't me fishing for a dom/me to be clear---you are VALUED as a person, outside of your sexual fantasies. I care about you and appreciate you, and there is nothing wrong or bad about you!!!!

#tw kidnapping #tw abuse mention #tw r@pe mention #i love you all

[traumatizedjaguar]

Abusers feel extremely envious of happy people.

If you’re happy they feel entitled to taking your happiness away from you because they believe you’re shoving it in their face.

They think your justified negative or empathetic feelings make you weak.

Abusers want you to feel as uncomfortable and unhappy as they are on the inside.

They hate who they are, they have to live with themselves and hate it every second of their existence so they have to make your life hell to make themselves feel superior to you.

Same thing with their jealousy, like my abuser did, when they’re possessive and jealous over you they feel like anything you do with others is shoving it in their face that they’re not your favorite.

#my text #actually traumatized #actually cptsd #actually abused #actuallyabused #actually bullied #actually traumatised #tw parental abuse #parental abuse #superiority #envy #jealousy #possessiveness #abuser mention #cptsd #psychological abuse #emotional abuse #confessions from an abuser I know #abuse #trauma #survivor #survivor of abuse #complex trauma #tw psychological abuse #psychological torment #psychological trauma #this explains why my abusers were angry when I was happy

[teaboot]

When I was a kid, I regularly lost reading privileges for "having an attitude" and "acting out".

It wasn't as simple as being told not to read during other activities- one of the first times it happened, I remember being six years old, watching my stepfather pull fistfuls of books off my bookshelf and throw them to the floor in a heaping mess while I cried and asked him to stop.

It was weird. Every other adult I knew described me as exceptionally well-behaved, but at home, it was the opposite, and it was blamed on "learning bad habits from that shit you're reading".

Because I couldn't read at home, I spent all my free time at school in the library, reading with my friends.

When I grew up and moved away, I realized that my family life was toxic and abusive, and the "attitudes" I was being punished for were standing up for myself, standing up for my younger siblings, and resisting actual, real-life psychological abuse. Because I'd learned from what I'd read that my family wasn't normal, not like my parents said it was, and in my stories, the heroes were the people who spoke out when it was hard to.

It is insane to me that there are students right now who can't access books. It is insane that books are being outlawed. It is perverse that we are stealing away an entire generation's ability to contextualize their lives, to learn about the world around them, to develop critical thinking skills and express themselves and feel connected to the world or escape from it, whatever and whenever and however they need.

That is not how you raise a compassionate, thoughtful, powerful society.

That's how you process cattle.

It's fucking disgusting.

#I know this is old news but Jesus #Every day I hear more about school book bans and I feels less real #Restriction of information is restriction of freedom #People need stories #Even bad stories #Even tragic or problematic ones #We need to set purity culture on fire I'm not kidding #Abuse mention #Abuse tw

[vague-humanoid]

#cw csa mention #sex education #child abuse mention #book banning #incest mention

[thevelvetgoldmine]

TO WONG FOO, THANKS FOR EVERYTHING! JULIE NEWMAR (1995) dir. Beeban Kidron

#to wong foo thanks for everything julie newmar #lgbtedit #comedyedit #filmedit #movieedit #filmgifs #moviegifs #dailyflicks #filmdaily #usertvfilm #userfilm #userstream #comedy #lgbtqia #90s #film #myedit #cw: abuse mention

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

#ableism #ableism mention #ableism tw #cluster b #cluster b positivity #npd #bpd #hpd #aspd #npd positivity #bpd positivity #hpd positivity #aspd positivity #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse awareness #actually cluster b #actually bpd #actually npd #actually borderline #actually narcissistic