#sexuality and gender

[darkwood-sleddog]

In an era of the United States where books with queer themes are being banned, where bills requiring teachers out their students is discussed and often passed in state legislature, where queer culture is being used a boogeyman by the right day in and day out, where our rights hang in the balance I cannot believe I have to see over and over again that people in the public eye should “just come out already” or “what even are the consequences anyways” or equating peoples privacy, questioning or unlabeled identities as a devious act. The degrading of queer privacy is so real and I’m sick of seeing it put upon people from other queer people.

#not dogs #queer #lgbtq+ #sometimes I like that we have an umbrella term like queer #but other times I really dislike that it visibly erases the LGBTQ+ aspect. #there is no one way to be queer #bi people in het appearing relationships are still queer #queer is not a vibe or an outfit or a costume #it is just people. #you are not owed insight into everybody’s personal journeys with #sexuality and gender #that is all

[frogizz]

Every ship I have, I can't tell if I want to be with one of the characters or be one of the characters. It's always both characters, and I want to be them in entirety. Their gender, their role in the story, their background, their looks, all of it. I wanna be with and be the characters simultaneously.

I be projecting myself and exploring my sexuality and gender through these mofos.

Two girlies pining in the canon and smooching in the fanon? Yup, I am changing my entire view of myself to think about only them.

Two bois having a close friendship/rivalry in the canon and exploring worlds together while holding hands in the fanon? Yup, I'm thinkin' about them all of the time.

But I always wonder why I never project myself onto straight ships. It's always wlw or mlm ships.

What does this say about me. ._.

#now not all ships are ones I project myself into #just most #examples are #caitvi #korrasami #hualian #wangxian #lumity #and more of course #ships #shipping #wlw ships #mlm ships #does anyone else do this #please tell me im not weird #these characters help me learn more about myself #sexuality and gender #so helpful #I love these characters #so much

[chumbay]

Some excerpts from an article called:

How Park Jimin of BTS Helped Me Feel Seen in My Brown, Queer Body

by PADYA PARAMITA

Jimin’s “Filter” performance, which I interpreted as a representation of gender fluidity and experimentation, assured me it was okay not to know which box I fit into, to constantly question, and to try new things. I felt affirmed in lacking the perfect word to pinpoint my gender identity. My struggles with my body, impacted by my strict upbringing, had made me feel isolated in sharing my ideal presentation with others. But Jimin had proudly displayed his moves on a global stage that was live streamed by more than 10 million people. In his rejection of gender norms, in wearing whatever he wanted, he’d reminded me that my body was more than the object of ridicule.

It’s easy to say that gender doesn’t really matter, but the K-pop industry is heavily gendered. There have only been a handful of mixed gender bands among hundreds of boy and girl groups, and being openly queer is often completely out of the question for most K-pop stars — even heterosexual artists aren’t allowed to date publicly. Despite everything, Jimin started coming out of his shell, openly wearing outfits originally designed for women, shirts with the words “gender equality” and “radical feminist,” laughing at his bandmates for claiming selfies aren’t for men, and letting his dance moves flow freely.

Jimin reminded me of myself — I was born 75 days before him, 2500 miles away. Yet both of us had tried hard to please society and performed gender in a way we weren’t meant to put on. It both took us time to realize that society’s gender norms weren’t the law, there was no “male” or “female” when it came to fashion and behavior. We would still be loved, even if we took the risk of expressing ourselves in a real way.

#bts #park jimin #jimin #queering jimin's filter performance #gender identity #sexuality and gender #queer people claiming him has to be my fave thing ever #gender expression

[hussyknee]

The full story of Korin and his Lord can be found here (page 27 - He Died To Save His Lover)

#queer history #lgbt history #lgbtqia #queer literature #gay history #pederasty #japan #japanese history #sexuality and gender #buddhism #shinto #knee of huss

[booksinpiles]

A small, gentle miracle happened today (the eye of the universe or God’s eye rested on me for a moment:

I bought this book as a physical reminder of a beloved mentor, but, after I learned of his unexpected death, I never opened it.

Moving books around today, I did.

It’s autographed! 😭🥹 not to me, but still, I like to think it’s best with me. Love you, Dennis. You’re the father I would have picked if we were allowed such things. 💐

#my reading life #miniature miracle #victorian literature #sexuality and gender

[whoathatsalotsposts]

You ever chase your orgasm into new levels new depths new things entirely

#ectasy #self pleasure #self play #sex positivity #sexuality #sex positive #sexuallife #sex and love #sexualwellness #sexualhealth #self care #sexuality and gender #self love #queer #pansexaul #sexi content

[desdasiwrites]

– Bernardine Evaristo, Girl, Woman, Other

#book quote of the day #bernardine evaristo #girl woman other #Evaristo is the first woman with Black heritage to win the Booker Prize #lgbtqia literature #sexuality and gender #poc representation #race and racism #fiction #black author #British literature #book recommendations #book quotes

[cock-holliday]

Sometimes wild attraction shit happens when you learn to separate masc/fem from man/woman. I’ve known queer women find the femininity in a man attractive. I’ve known gay men get so hot and bothered by the masculinity of a woman.

There was once a guy who was not really my type but then he did drag and was suddenly wildly attractive to me. And since I’m bisexual it doesn’t give me a crisis when someone is suddenly hot to me in an unconventional way. I used to think this was particularly a bi experience.

Then I’ve met plenty of gay men and lesbians who are also chill about that sort of thing. Sometimes life is like that “oops made out with a twink in Brighton who turned out to be a lesbian who thought I was a lesbian” and sometimes it’s like “hey, I’m not normally into men but this guy has got something hot going on.”

#and this of course leaves out androgyny in all its formss #or feminine masculinity and masculine feminity and so on #gender and sexuality are weird #don’t get too hung up on it #you don’t HAVE to like anyone #someone liking you doesnt mean you have to return it! #AND two people who you don’t think should fit together fitting together doesn’t affect you literally at all #LJsm

[just-your-average-tangerine]

The line between binary and nonbinary trans people is nowhere near as clean as some of yall think it is

#transgender #trans #nonbinary #like i guess i would be considered a 'binary' trans man #i wouldnt consider myself that for two reasons #first because the idea that gender is binary is bullshit to begin with so why would i identify within it #and second because i am a man only in that i am a gay man #i dont identify outside of manhood im terms of gender #but my gender is so linked to my sexuality that it cant be neatly tracked onto a binary view of 'man' #but because i am a man other consider me 'binary' regardless of how i feel about it #and yet will still refuse to use he/him pronouns in favor of exclusively using they/them #but thats a different discussion #op

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

"oh please everyone has gay thoughts sometimes" so what i'm hearing is that heteronormativity is so ingrained that a significant percentage of the population regularly experiences bisexual attraction? but dismisses it as something that all straight people experience? this is so concerning are you guys okay

#'lol women/men are so hot it's a shame i'm straight' buddy i got news for you #gimme a B! and an I! and a PHO! and a BIA!!! #look hon you can be more frequently and strongly attracted to one gender and still experience meaningful attraction to other genders #you can have a strong preference without that erasing other facets of your sexuality #a bunch of people experience bisexual attraction while still having a preference for a certain gender #and guess what! those are still bisexual experiences! #congratulations human sexuality is rich and varied and frequently evolving isn't it wonderful isn't it grand

[aloeverawyvren]

I think I've found specific 'labels' that fit me and feel right but idk if I want to.

#sexuality and gender #late night thoughts

[bisexualfagdyke]

Shoutout to asexual butches, because I feel like so much that people say about butches is inherently sexual. Do you respect asexual butches? Do you respect butches who don't want to be sexualised or give you sex? Asexual butches I love you <3

#this post is explicitly inclusive of butches of all genders and sexualities btw! #butch #butchfemme #femme4butch #asexual #acespec #🐈

[cruelsister-moved2]

for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I've realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It's not about who you are inside, it's more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It's not 'Who are you?' but 'How do you want to live?'

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don't have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

end of ID]

#and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now #bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside #and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel #in order to like define who is Me #it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u #it's hard to summarise it was like v wordy but I thought this part was so true #for sexuality as well not to tack it on but we have really gotten into the same mindset w sexuality now as well #THANK U @VAKAVANHASAATANA for the ID it wont let me @ you in the text </33

[booksinpiles]

#my reading life #recent purchase #mm romance #sexuality and gender

[icarusxxrising]

#if the concept of labeling gender is a social construct then so is sexuality! #queer #lgbt #gay #lesbian #bi #bisexual #pan #pansexual #genderfluid #nonbinary #enby #bi lesbian #mspec lesbian #bi gay #mspec gay #trans #transgender

[genderqueerdykes]

some queer people will never end up with a perfect label that describes them 100% and that's okay. sometimes you just go "i dunno i'm just queer" or "i'm a dyke who's a fag who's a drag queen" or "i'm just some guy" and that's okay. you don't always need a label or easy way to describe it if you can't. you can blaze your own trail

#trans #transgender #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #nonbinary #enby #genderqueer #unlabled sexuality #unlabled gender #unlabled #genderless #agender #gay #lesbian #dyke #fag #drag #our writing