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Loving on yourself after Sexual violence

Firstly, in the unfortunate event that you experience sexual violence, please, please, PLEASE, know that it is not your fault. IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT.

You didn’t tease them. You didn’t provoke them. Everyone is responsible for their actions, thoughts, and feelings. Any human who believes that they are owed sex and takes it without consent is scum and are fully responsible for their actions.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, onto loving on yourself.

It may be hard to look at yourself as you will feel tainted and off, however I want you to take a good warm shower, a bath if you can. Spend as long as you need in the shower just washing your body and feeling the water flow over you. Then, after your shower, I want you to lather yourself with your favorite oil, lotion, cream etc, and put on comfy clothes. It is very important that you don’t judge yourself or your feelings. That is, acknowledge that you feel this way but don’t judge yourself. Take a deep breath, tell yourself you are an important and deserving human being worthy of love, respect, and care. If you need to cry, then cry, allow the feelings and the trauma to flow through you freely so that you can piece yourself back together. Find someone you trust wholly and if you can, talk about it. It’s okay if you can’t speak about it for a while, you just went through a traumatic experience, give yourself time. You won’t heal immediately. There are no steps that you can take that’ll undo the trauma that has been done, however, with time and doing small things to take care of yourself. You will get to a healthy place where you can live healthily again. The most important things I want you to get from this are:

1. It is not your fault.

2. Do small things to love on yourself each day.

3. You can and will heal. Just give yourself time.

4. You are an intelligent, beautiful bad bitch, you are deserving of love and respect.

5. You are not alone, if it ever gets too much and you need to talk about it, there are people including myself who are willing to listen to you.

6. Never judge your feelings, acknowledge them but never judge them.

7. Crying is a beautiful form of release.

8. You are loved, always.

SR

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Psssst! You're beautiful! 💞

you’re beautiful! 

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Hello lovelies, I’m sorry I’ve been gone for so long. I was dealing with a lot of emotional trauma from sexual violence. In the upcoming weeks, I will post a lot about dealing with sexual violence and how to love on yourself and maintain some semblance of your mental health. 

In the meantime, remember, you are amazing and you deserve all that it is good and right in the world. 

SR

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Please reblog if you know anyone who might take party drugs.

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An Escort’s Guide to Doggy Style

1. You’ve got the pussy. You make the rules. Men will go to the end of the Earth just to have their cocks touched; they’ll lie for it, grovel for it, pay for it. When you’ve got the pussy, you’ve got the power. I don’t care if you’re in bed with your husband or some fuckboy from Tinder – every sexual act should be on your terms. Do things because you want to, not because you feel obligated, and never be afraid to say no. Your wellbeing and comfort is one hundred times more important than any guy’s stupid boner.

2. Keep your peach sparkling. This should go without saying, but you’d be surprised how many times I’ve heard “I was banging her from behind and when I looked down, I saw little balls of rolled up toilet paper stuck to her asshole.” Always, always, wash beforehand. No excuses! If you’re too swept up in the moment to shower, excuse yourself and freshen up with baby wipes. It’ll be two minutes well spent.

(Side note: Shaving.) Landing strips, bald eagles, full bushes, whatever. There’s no right or wrong when it come to pubic hair. But for those who prefer to stay smooth, don’t forget to tidy the hair around your asshole! I can’t count how many times I’ve spotted thick, wirey whiskers in my friend’s cracks when they bent over during a threesome. I mean, it happens, but it can be avoided. When I used to shave I found the best technique was to bring my hand to the front of my body and shave from the back to the front, through the middle of my legs.

3. Get it right, get it tight. Make a point of squeezing your pussy right before the dick slides in. If you don’t know what I mean by this, I want you to go to bed later, insert one finger inside yourself, and practice contracting your kegels until you can distinguish between tensed / relaxed. Vaginas are made of muscle, and putting them to work makes a world of difference in terms of “tightness.” (This skill also comes in handy if you ever need to fake an orgasm.)

4. Head down, ass up. A rigid posture in any sexual position looks pretty damn awful, but there’s no reason your spine should be dead-straight during doggy. I mean, if he wanted to fuck a table, he’d probably go into the dining room and do so. Arching your back will make your waist appear smaller and your booty rounder as it’s pointing in the air. Double win!

5. Fuck him back. I didn’t realise this until recently, but being a starfish during doggy style is totally a thing! There are so many movements you can use to mix it up. Bounce your ass back against his body, or flick your hair, or turn back to look at him, or run your hands across the sheets, but whatever you do, don’t stay still.

6. Stop being embarrassed of your asshole! Do you know how many clients have complained to me that their partners don’t show them their asshole? Feeling self conscious in the bedroom is absolutely pointless because if he’s already fucking you, he finds you attractive! Using one hand to pull a cheek open is so simple, and if that’s not your style, try playing with yourself or asking him to put a finger in. (My personal favourite is to reach back with both hands and tell him to spit on it.)

7. Show him your face. If you’re a girl who uses doggy as an opportunity to hide your face, this has got to stop. Like I said, if his dick’s hard, he already thinks you’re hot, so stop stressing about looking stupid. Turn your head to the side, or look back at him, or suck on your fingers. (My favourite is to spit on my fingers, play with the outside of my asshole, and then suck them slowly.)

8. Keep your mouth busy. Vocalisation is so important. Moan, sigh, gasp, scream, but never stay silent for too long. And don’t be shy to tell him how good he feels. If you want it harder, or slower, or deeper, ask for it! Remember: you’re in control. (Again, my personal favourite is, “hold me down and fuck me.”)

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PLEASE READ AND REBLOG!!!!!

Put your car keys beside your bed at night. Tell your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your parents, your Dr’s office, the check-out girl at the market, everyone you run across. Put your car keys beside your bed at night. If you hear a noise outside your home or someone trying to get in your house, just press the panic button for your car. The alarm will be set off, and the horn will continue to sound until either you turn it off or the car battery dies. This tip came from a neighborhood watch coordinator. Next time you come home for the night and you start to put your keys away, think of this: It’s a security alarm system that you probably already have and requires no installation. Test it. It will go off from most everywhere inside your house and will keep honking until your battery runs down or until you reset it with the button on the key fob chain. It works if you park in your driveway or garage. If your car alarm goes off when someone is trying to break into your house, odds are the burglar/rapist won’t stick around. After a few seconds, all the neighbors will be looking out their windows to see who is out there and sure enough the criminal won’t want that. And remember to carry your keys while walking to your car in a parking lot. The alarm can work the same way there. This is something that should really be shared with everyone. Maybe it could save a life or a sexual abuse crime.

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Be a safe hoe = use contraceptives and clean up properly

Be a clean hoe = keep your space clean and take care of your body

Be a good hoe = keep your head up and keep studying and keep getting working hard

Be a happy hoe = take care of your mental health and your soul

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The FCC sided with Comcast and decided to let ISPs censor the internet. The Internet needs to stop this from happening: http://cms.fightforthefuture.org/tellfcc/

Last Wednesday, FCC Chairman Tom Wheeler announced a proposal for new rules that would allow for a “ fast lane” of Internet traffic for content providers who are willing (and able) to pay a fee. [1] The proposal reverses the FCC’s previous commitment to net neutrality and open internet and allows ISP’s like Comcast or Verizon to slow down and censor services that don’t pay the toll.

We have to be totally honest, this situation is seriously grim. But there is still hope. The FCC already knows that the Internet community wants net neutrality, but they think they can put their spin on these new rules and sneak them through. If we can prove them wrong right now with a massive public outcry, we can literally save the Internet once again.

We need to stop the FCC now. Big business groups are already ramping up lobbying efforts with the FCC in swarms since Wednesday’s announcement in support of censoring the open Internet and to ensure this dangerous proposal moves forward. [2]

This is a critical moment. In the last few weeks more than 65,000 people have taken action with us. Can you help us get to 80,000 by the end of the day today?

[1] Gautham Nagesh. “FCC to Propose New ‘Net Neutrality’ Rules”. http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702304518704579519963416350296

[2] Edward Wyatt. Edward Wyatt. “Lobbying Efforts Intensify After F.C.C. Tries 3rd Time on Net Neutrality” http://www.nytimes.com/2014/04/25/business/lobbying-efforts-intensify-after-fcc-tries-3rd-time-on-net-neutrality.html?hpw&rref=politics

  - Fight For The Future

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This is so important. 

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vaginal hygiene & health - an introductory crash course

pass this on to spread knowledge whether you have one or not, #save-a-coochie

- the vagina is the tubular ‘internal’ sex organ that some people have. - the ‘vulva’ is the set of external sex organs that people with vaginas have. it includes (but not only):

pubic mound 

labia minora and majora (inner/outer ‘lips’)

clitoris and clitoral hood 

vulval vestibule (found in between your labia minora)

urethra (where you urinate from)

vaginal opening

-vaginas naturally contain a balance of different bacterias. this bacteria protects the vagina from external bacteria and fungus, provides natural disinfectants and maintains a healthy vaginal pH of 3.5-4.5.

-vaginal pH varies from person to person, day to day, depending on your cycle, your diet and many other external factors,

-all vaginas have a scent. all of them. no two people smell exactly the same, and you shouldn’t expect your vagina (or anyone else’s) to smell fruity or floral.

- if your worried about your scent, you can place perfume or an essential oil to an area around your vulva but not on it. some places like between your thighs or on your lower stomach, for example,

-your body secretes natural fluids called discharge. discharge is how your vagina self cleanses. it is completely normal and vital to healthy vaginal function.

-discharge can vary in amount, color, texture and scent depending on your cycle. each person is different. if your discharge is unusual or abnormal to you and your unique body - visit a doctor if possible.

-abnormal discharge can be green, grey, very yellow, smelly, itchy, chunky, etc.

-abundant discharge can be annoying. you can remove excess discharge in your shower by inserting one clean finger into your vagina, moving it from one side to another and ‘scooping’ the discharge out. repeat as needed. this reduces the amount of discharge found on your panties and in turn, reduces vaginal scent.

- dead skin cells and oil can build up between your clitoris and your clitoral hood, so it’s important to lift your hood up and rinse thoroughly so it doesnt harden. 

-washing your “external” vulvar areas such as your public mound and outer lips is okay, though some may find skin here more sensitive.

-don’t douche. you may think it helps but it only masks any problems while causing more. douching throws of your flora, alters your PH and forces bacteria into your cervix.

-water and a soft, clean wash cloth is all you need to clean your vulvar areas that contain a mucous membrane. you do not need to wash these areas. applying soaps or cleaners to these areas removes of natural necessary lubricants and bacteria. this may cause irritation, inflammation, major discomfort and dryness. some amount of moistness should always be present.

-a vast majority of vaginal washes, even those touted as hypoallergenic, still contain dyes and fragrances which are known irritants. read the label.

-while Summer’s eve is a lesser of evils with a PH of 3.0 - 3.5 (still not quite correct), it is still a cleanser. vaginal washes are used to cleanse “bad” bacteria from your vulva. they also wash away the “good” bacteria needed to maintain a healthy balance.

-castile soaps (like Dr. Bronner’s) has a pH of about 8.9. these are not suggested.

-never insert any cleansing agents into your vagina.

-the information above applies to any gels, deodorants, perfumed products and wipes, too. these can all disturb your natural balance.

-while they still pose a possible risk of irritation, unscented baby wipes are the lesser of evils regarding “freshening up”.

-pay attention to your irritants and triggers. different people, different reactions

-everyone has different stances and different methods that work for them. if you aren’t experiencing vaginal discomfort or odd changes, you don’t have to discontinue certain product use. i do, however, recommend a trial period of leaving these products alone due to their effects on your vagina.

-allow your vagina to breathe. keep too-tight clothing to a minimum. cotton panties are the best option next to not wearing any at all. rotate the washcloth and towels you use to clean and dry your vagina.

-urinating after masturbation or sex reduces the amount of bacteria in your urethra wiping ‘front to back’ keeps rectal bacterial away from your vagina.

-naturally, food alters your vagina. balancing your diet in general and including things like pineapples, strawberries, yogurt, soy (the list goes on!) can influence your pH.

-beverages like water, cranberry juice and pineapple juice are also proven to improve vaginal health, and may even improve taste.

-adding a probiotic supplement can increase the amount of “good” bacteria called lactobacillus-your vagina.

-the less ideal your vaginal balance/pH is, the more vulnerable you are to infections and STDs.

-when it comes to internet home remedies, your mileage my vary. try everything with caution and research thoroughly.

cheers! your vagina will thank you.

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no other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. love is all about choices. no one is going to be perfect for you, and i think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was “made for you” because it isn’t true. no one is made for you, besides you. other people belong to themselves. if you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice

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Saving Rose - Prologue (on Wattpad) https://my.w.tt/UiNb/uYtTqc07xH Saving Rose The story of a girl who died and came back to life. Will the new Rose ever find her humanity, or will she suffer at the mercy of those that killed her? Join Rose as she takes a journey of self-discovery and love where she becomes the woman she's meant to be all along. Read to find out!

#blacklove #blackwoman #lesbianromance #lgbt #resurrection #romance #selfdiscovery #selflove #strength #chicklit #books #wattpad #amreading

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Do not stress over what you cannot control.

You can not control other people. You can not control their behavior, their thoughts, or their beliefs. Focus on yourself, and your happiness. Focus on being in peace with yourself. Spread love and joy, and do not let others negative attitudes affect you.

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Freeman Feeling Beautiful Charcoal & Black Sugar Gel Mask and Scrub makes your skin baby smooth!! 

It’s only $3 and you can get it at Walmart. 

When you apply it, it tingles a little but it be cleaning them pores! 

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Self Care  Pro - Tip

Imagine a world where you are a god[dess], a world where everyone worships you and you are lavished. That’s how you should treat yourself. You are a god[dess] and therefore are deserving of all the love and care in the world. Take care of yourself, you matter, you are important, you are worthy, you are deserving, and most importantly, you are enough. There’s no one in the world who can love you the way you can love you. 

Happy hoeing loves. 

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