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Hey, guys. I won’t really be posting on this account anymore, but you can check out my new blog if you’re interested in anime and such. I also plan to post pics of my three-weeks-old kittens (they’re absolutely adorable), so please do check it out. It would help me out a lot!

#thanks in advance to anyone who does check it out #somehow I got followers on the first day I made this blog #but with this new one #still at zero #sigh #I won't give up

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I don’t care if Hillary Clinton is corrupt. I don’t care if she lies, if she cheats, if she eats bowls of newborn chipmunks for breakfast.

She is literally the only thing standing in the way of a fascist dictator becoming President of the United States with a Republican majority congress that guarantees he can do anything he wants and nothing will be able to stop him.

I was and still am a Bernie supporter, and I hate a lot of things about Clinton, but none of that matters anymore. If Trump is elected, people are going to die. Women are going to die when Roe v Wade is overturned and Planned Parenthood is defunded. LGBTQ people are going to die when conversion therapy is further legalized and more bathroom bills are passed. POC are going to die as Trump rounds up Mexican immigrants, gives more power to the police, and fuels the fires of Islamaphobia. Poor people are going to die as Obamacare gets overturned and further cuts are made to welfare programs. And that’s just in this country. That’s not even taking account the all-too-likely outcomes of Trump starting new wars in the Middle East and having control of nuclear bombs that he’s said he ‘would not rule out’ using.

This is no longer even about ‘the lesser of two evils’. This is not ‘scare tactics’. This is literally life and death. Don’t fuck around and tell me you’re voting third-party or not voting at all, because you don’t have that luxury. 

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Dear soulmate, where the fuck are you

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beauty of simple

(obvious, ain’t it? explains that one)

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hey pals ! here’s the thing, i’m really low on money and i’m about to move to paris for my studies. I have enough money to pay rent, but not enough to eat, and basically  I just need to eat for the 1st month i’m there, hopefully afterwards I will have found a job and money-wise everything will be better ! I’ve put a few things up on redbubble, feel free to buy anything ! Here’s the link to my shop .

Even some stickers or a notebook would help! And even if you don’t buy anything, a reblog would mean the world to me :)

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If you are looking for a sign not to kill yourself, this is it.

mod is at work and they just printed off memorial pictures of a young person who took their life… I just had to reassure a mother that the fact that she let her son and his friend go to a party did not mean she caused/enabled the friend end his life after the party.

in two days it’ll be the year anniversary of the mod being being hospitalized for a being w suicide risk, and in a month after that it’ll be two years since mod last attempted suicide.

please. please don’t end your life. I know it’s terrifying, I’ve almost killed myself even as recently as a week or two ago. I’ve been in the psych ward. but admitting to yourself you need help and getting help is a lot better than being dead.

Trans Lifeline US: 1-877-565-8860 Trans Lifeline Canada: 1-877-330-6366 Kids Help Phone Canada: 1-800-668-6868

Please reblog if you can, and add local and/or online chat crisis lines if you know them.

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To any suicidal followers I may have: This is a sign to not kill yourself. You are loved and the world is special because you are in it. Keep holding on.

Reblog this when it’s on your dash. You will save someone’s life.

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Petition to have Tumblr actually do something about porn blog bots following users.

• It’s annoying. • It gives an imperfect metric for how many followers you have. (I would estimate about 25% of my “followers” are porn blogs run by bots). • It makes pulling up your activity page iffy even if you use Tumblr strictly for SFW content. • It’s problematic for individuals who have struggled with sex and/or pornography addictions, especially since many of the blog names are not obviously porn names, causing you to preview the blog. • It exposes minors to illegal and harmful content.

And to many of us: • It’s disgusting. • it’s degrading to human beings, especially women. • It makes Tumblr a less classy, less reputable place.

Please share this if you agree this is a serious problem.

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I’m here. Ily.

Depression Suicide Hotline (US, UK, Canada & Singapore): 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) Suicide hotline (New Zealand): 0800 543 354 Depression hotline: [phone] Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999 National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245) National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000 Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632 Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357 Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999 Domestic Abuse National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453 National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324 Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504 Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722 Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111 Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200 Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline (UK): 0345 023 468 Sexual Abuse Centre (UK): 0117 935 1707 Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001 Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish): 1-800-992-2600 Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected] Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight Alcohol & Drug Abuse National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627) National Drug Abuse: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Al-Anon/Alateen Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker): 1-800-344-2666 Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline: [phone]-HELP (4357) Be Sober Hotline: 1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237) Cocaine Help Line: 1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463) 24 Hour Cocaine Support Line: 1-800-992-9239 Ecstasy Addiction: 1-800-468-6933 Marijuana Anonymous: 1-800-766-6779 Drinkline (UK): 0800 9178282 Frank (UK): 0800776600 Youth & Teen Hotlines National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454) Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999 Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000 Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900 TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336 Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009 Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-6946 Childline: (UK Only) 0800 1111 Kids Helpline (Australia) 1800 55 1800 b-eat youthline (UK): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) Pregnancy Hotlines AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center: 1-800-560-0717 Pregnancy Support: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466) Pregnancy National Helpline: 1-800-356-5761 Young Pregnant Support: 1-800 550-4900 Gay and Lesbian Hotlines The Trevor Helpline (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078 Gay & Lesbian National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564) Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078 Lesbian & Gay Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121 622 6589 Lothian Gay & Lesbian Switchboard – Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131 556 4049 Other Hotlines Self-Injury Support: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) (www.selfinjury.com) Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PST) Eating Disorders Center: 1-888-236-1188 Help Finding a Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274) Panic Disorder Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642) TalkZone (Peer Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855) Parental Stress Hotline: [phone] National AIDS Helpline: (UK) 0800 567 123 Samaritans (UK): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected] b-eat eating disorder support (UK): 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected] Mind infoline (UK mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected] Mind legal advice (UK): 0300 466 6463 [email protected] Cruse Bereavement Care (UK): 08444779400 [email protected]

Suicide hotlines: Austria 01-713-3373 Australia 1-800-817-569 Barbados 429-9999 Brazil 21-233-9191 Canada 514-723-4000 China 852-2382-0000 Costa Rica 506-253-5439 Denmark 70-201-201 Egypt 7621602 Estonia 6-558-088 Finland 040-5032199 France 01-45-39-4000 Guatemala 502-254-1259 Holland 0900-0767 Honduras 504-237-3623 Hungary 62-420-111 India 91-22-307-3451 Italy 06-7045-4444 Japan 3-5286-9090 Maylaysia 03-756-8144 Maurititus 46-48-889 or 800-93-93 Mexico 525-510-2550 New Zealand 4-473-9739 Nicarague 505-268-6171 Norway 815-33-300 Poland 52-70-000 Portugal 239-72-10-10 Republic of Ireland 1850-60-90-90 Russia 8-20-222-82-10 Singapore 800-221-4444 or 000-227-0309 South Africa 0861-322-322 South Korea 2-715-8600 Spain 91-459-00-50 Sri Vincent 1-692-909 St. Vincent 809-456-1044 Sweden 031-711-2400 Switzerland 143 Thailand 02-249-9977 Trinidad & Tobago 868-645-2800 Ukraine 0487-327715 or 0482-226565 United Kingdom 08457-90-90-90 United States 1-800-SUICIDE (7842433), or 1-800-TALK (8255), or 1-800-827-7571 Reblog it.You may save a life!

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dear fiction writers: 

as far as I know, there is no large carnivore who would abandon actively eating a killed meal to chase live prey. chasing and hunting live prey is a risk, as a healthy live creature has the capability to injure a carnivore, or tire it out through the chase. If there is, say, a giant pile of dead bodies to eat, which abandoning would allow other carnivores or scavengers to steal and eat instead, it makes no sense at all. 

please stop doing that thing

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Actually

The question I get the most is how I write characters that feel like real people. 

Generally when I’m designing a human being, I deconstruct them into 7 major categories:

1. Primary Drive 2. Fear: Major and Secondary 3. Physical Desires 4. Style of self expression 5. How they express affection 6. What controls them (what they are weak for) 7. What part of them will change.

1. Primary Drive: This is generally related to the plot. What are their plot related goals? How are they pulling the plot forward? how do they make decisions? What do they think they’re doing and how do they justify doing it. 2. Fear: First, what is their deep fear? Abandonment? being consumed by power? etc. Second: tiny fears. Spiders. someone licking their neck. Small things that bother them. At least 4. 3. Physical desires. How they feel about touch. What is their perceived sexual/romantic orientation. Do their physical desires match up with their psychological desires.

4. Style of self expression: How they talk. Are they shy? Do they like to joke around and if so, how? Are they anxious or confident internally and how do they express that externally. What do words mean to them? More or less than actions? Does their socioeconomic background affect the way they present themselves socially?  5. How they express affection: Do they express affection through actions or words. Is expressing affection easy for them or not. How quickly do they open up to someone they like. Does their affection match up with their physical desires. how does the way they show their friends that they love them differ from how they show a potential love interest that they love them. is affection something they struggle with?

6. What controls them (what they are weak for): what are they almost entirely helpless against. What is something that influences them regardless of their own moral code. What– if driven to the end of the wire— would they reject sacrificing. What/who would they cut off their own finger for.  What would they kill for, if pushed. What makes them want to curl up and never go outside again from pain. What makes them sink to their knees from weakness or relief. What would make them weep tears of joy regardless where they were and who they were in front of. 

7. WHAT PART OF THEM WILL CHANGE: people develop over time. At least two of the above six categories will be altered by the storyline–either to an extreme or whittled down to nothing. When a person experiences trauma, their primary fear may change, or how they express affection may change, etc. By the time your book is over, they should have developed. And its important to decide which parts of them will be the ones that slowly get altered so you can work on monitoring it as you write. making it congruent with the plot instead of just a reaction to the plot. 

That’s it.

But most of all, you have to treat this like you’re developing a human being. Not a “character” a living breathing person. When you talk, you use their voice. If you want them to say something and it doesn’t seem like (based on the seven characteristics above) that they would say it, what would they say instead?

If they must do something that’s forced by the plot, that they wouldn’t do based on their seven options, they can still do the thing, but how would they feel internally about doing it?

How do their seven characteristics meet/ meld with someone else’s seven and how will they change each other?

Once you can come up with all the answers to all of these questions, you begin to know your character like you’d know one of your friends. When you can place them in any AU and know how they would react.

They start to breathe.

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Reblogging because I and so many others need this.

Emergencies:

What to do when your friend is talking about suicide

What to do if someone you know is overdosing

What to do if your friend is hurting themselves

First Aid for self harm

Finding Therapy, Doctors, & Medication 

NeedyMeds.org

Something Fishy - How will I pay?

Mental Health America - How do I find treatment?

Free/Cheap Medication

The Medicine Program

Find a Therapist

Good Therapy.org

Insurance Issues

Qualities and Skills of a Good Counselor

The Difference Between a Psychiatrist, Psychologist, Therapist & Counselor 

General Recovery:

Extreme Hunger During Recovery

About Water Retention During Recovery

281 Reasons to Recover

Relapse Prevention

Dealing with Bloating in Recovery

Bloating, Indigestion, & Feeling too full

Talking to Others About Your Mental Health Issues

Managing Stress

Why You Must Eat

What is ED Recovery?

You have no obligation to be weighed

Learning to Love Your Body

True Facts Our Abuse-Culture Doesn’t Want You to Know

Tips to Overcoming and Eating Disorder from Women Who Have Recovered

How to Eat a Fear Food

16 Baby Steps to Help You Cope with the Pain of Perfectionism

10 Things to Do When You Feel Like Crap

Why You Should NOT Self-Diagnose

Substance Addictions:

Find an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting

About AA

Find a Narcotics Anonymous meeting

About NA

Just for Today

Helpguide: Overcoming Drug Addiction

FInd a detox center

Restrictive Eating Disorders:

Phases of Recovery From a Restrictive ED

Tips to Stop Restricting

Why You Must Regain Weight to Recover

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Gaining Weight After Anorexia: What To Expect

Dealing With Weight Gain

Binge & Compensate Disorders:

Overeaters Anonymous Meeting Finder

Coping with Exercise Addiction

10 Steps to Bulimia Recovery Workbook

10 Signs of Overexercise

Why Laxatives and Enemas Are Dangerous

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Binge ED/Compulsive Eating Disorders

Food Addicts Anonymous Meeting Finder

Overeaters Anonymous Meeting Finder

The “I need to lose weight” Mindset with BED

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Daily Meditation for Compulsive Overeating/Binge Eating

General Anxiety:

Identifying and Managing Anxiety

Exploring and Coping with Panic Attacks

10 Rules for Coping with Anxiety and Panic

Deep Breathing Exercises

11 Assorted Anxiety Tips for Anxiety Sufferers

Social Phobia/Anxiety

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Social Anxiety Self Help

How to Bring Severe Social Anxiety Under Control

10 Tips for Finding Love and Dating With Social Anxiety

Depression:

Coping with Suicidal Thought

10 Tips on How to Work Through Feelings of Social Isolation

8 Tips to Overcome Loneliness

Tips On Dealing With Depression In College

Antidepressants: Selecting one that’s right for you

What to expect with antidepressants

Family and Friends:

Tips for dealing with an ill loved one

Helping someone with an eating disorder

10 Ways to Cope with an Addict in the Family

AlAnon: Support groups for people who love an addict

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I went through everything for you, just to gain nothing.

excerpt from a book I hope to write

#writing #words #author #books #literature #quotes #love #you #painful

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The Earth would die If the sun stopped kissing her.

Hafiz, “The Gift” (via wordsnquotes)

#literature #writing #words #quotes #hafiz #the gift #beautiful #kisses

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Calming gif to relieve panic attacks. Just breathe with the little doll, and it will help you out. 

#this one too #anxiety #future reference