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caecilius-est-pater · 4 years

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Really now, anti's? Did the meaning change or something because I'm very sure anti means anti-pedo shipping, anti-incest shipping.

To quote that one meme: well yes, but actually no. Antis are to “let’s stop pedophilia in fandom!” as TERFs are to “let’s support women’s rights!” - sounds good in theory, but in practice ineffectual and mostly just an excuse to bully people. I’m going to choose to be optimistic and take this as a good faith question from someone who genuinely doesn’t know, so I’m going to explain why.

The ideology sounds great at the surface level, like hell yeah, let’s get rid of pedo shit! Who wouldn’t agree with that? But once you go past the absolute shallowest surface level and say, OK, now what steps do we take to accomplish that? then you start to hit snags. Legally, the only stuff that’s banned is images/videos/etc of real life children being abused. Things like ship art or explicit fics of underage fictional characters are perfectly fine. Therefore, legally, anyone making that content is not breaking any rules.

If you say, well, I don’t agree with that, I want more things to be banned, then you have to come up with new rules of what should and shouldn’t be allowed. Who gets to decide that? Is there a committee? How are committee members chosen? How do you account for biases in the committee, such as race or age or gender? Once the committee has come to a decision about the new rules, how do you enforce them? What do you do about people or groups who refuse to follow the new rules? How do you spread the news to all of fandom that there are new rules in the first place?

And what about the rules themselves? How do you define “pedo content” beyond the legal definition of featuring real children? Maybe you say, that’s easy, let’s just go with all sexual content featuring people under 18. OK, cool, you’ve now made it illegal for minors to talk about their own experiences. Minors have sex, minors fantasize about sex, minors masturbate, minors experience rape and abuse, and now you’ve just put a gag order on all those millions of people. I don’t know about you, but I think letting people draw/write fictional characters having sex (even gross, weird sex) is the lesser of two evils compared to hurting millions of real, living children.

And anyway, how do you define “sexual content” in the first place? Is it OK if there’s no graphic detail? Is masturbation OK? What about sexual fantasies? How about making out? At which base do you draw the line between “acceptable expression of sexuality” and “pedophilia”? Or is any expression of sexuality not OK? Kissing? Holding hands?

At this point you’re probably saying, gee tumblr user caecilius-est-pater, that sounds both untenable (how are we going to get all of the internet to agree to unite under One Committee To Determine the Rules?) and like an insane unending rabbit hole! Nobody could ever do that! Yep. For better or for worse, we as a bunch of randos on the internet just do not have the power to change the broad planet-wide rules of what does and does not count as pedophilia.

You can probably see how this is a problem for the anti movement, which is all about enforcing those new, stricter rules. The ones that don’t exist and realistically can’t exist. How do you enforce nonexistent rules? The answer antis have landed on is to just make them up, every man for themselves. As you can probably imagine, this... doesn’t work too well, to put it lightly.

Some people think it’s OK to write about CSA as long as the author actually experienced it, other people think it’s never OK and even real life CSA survivors are pedophiles if they write about it. Some people think aging up teenage characters is OK, other people think if they’re underage in canon then depicting them in sexual situations at any age counts as pedophilia. Some people think sexual depictions of characters who look young (art styles with big eyes, short characters, characters with high voices, etc) is pedophilia, even if the characters are canonically adults. Etc ad infinitum.

Which brings us to the two things I said antis are: ineffectual and and a front for bullying. It should be obvious how the movement is ineffectual - you’re never going to get anywhere with removing bad people from your community if nobody can agree what a bad person actually is.

The bullying comes in because it’s very hard to get people to bully someone, but very easy to get people to join a witch hunt. “Let’s all harass and doxx this person because they’re a jerk” isn’t gonna get me very far, but “Let’s all harass and doxx this person because they’re a pedophile” is going to bring out a mob with torches and pitchforks if I can convince everyone I’m telling the truth. And by the antis’ mutable definition of pedophilia that can include anything from teenagers kissing to consenting adults who knew each other as kids, I’ve got a lot of tools in my arsenal to convince people.

And the insidious part is that nobody can defend you without immediately opening themselves up to the same accusations, because if you're being called out as a pedophile for supporting a ship with a height difference, anyone who says, “hey, I don’t think that’s pedophilia” is now also supporting ships with a height difference, ergo supporting pedophilia. (And if anyone is thinking “you’re making all these strawman examples up, nobody actually believes that”, I envy your blissful ignorance but let me assure you, I am not.)

And that kind of situation leads to an atmosphere where everyone is terrified of doing anything wrong or they’ll be the next one viciously attacked, and the only way to keep good social standing is by continously attacking other people whether you agree with the extreme ideology or not, and that’s how you get bullying, harassment campaigns, and anti groups that have become genuine, legitimate cults. I’ve lost the links but there are some truly chilling twitter threads about that if you’re interested.

As if that wasn’t bad enough, whether it was a case of the proverbial road to hell being paved with good intentions or whether the movement was co-opted by people who didn’t actually care about stopping pedophilia and really just wanted an excuse to cyberbully people, the movement has evolved to a point where it’s mainly a harassment campaign with only the thinnest veneer of actually trying to prevent pedophilia. Nobody is out here running charity drives to donate to help abused children or making their own safe spaces where people can view art and fic without worrying about encountering triggering content - in fact, antis have been offered multiple sites to use as replacements for AO3 where they can set whatever TOS they want and have always refused. The only thing most antis do to combat pedophilia in fandom is callouts and harassment.

Not to mention the irony in the fact that so many of the people targeted are, in fact, minors. In their quest to avoid people potentially getting hurt by fictional content, they’re doing real, tangible hurt to actual, living people, including kids.

So that’s how we got here. Being anti-pedo and being an anti are not the same thing, and if you see a reference to the latter, it means a member of a specific pro-censorship movement focused on hurting (mainly young, marginalized) people as “activism”.

#(gets out my bat and takes a crack at the hornets nest)#long post #caecilius dixit #Anonymous

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wichols · 4 years

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Friday the 13th Date Story Time

Now that we have all successfully survived the most recent Full Moon/Friday the 13th week it feels right to finally post this story!

Let me set the scene!

It’s 2009. I am a sweet 15 year old Sophomore going out on one of her first official dates with her 18 year old Senior football player boyfriend. We had been dating for probably a month (or less) at this point. And he wants to take me to the movies. Now I bet you are thinking, “surely they would go to a feel good, romantic, sweet movie right?” Well I hate to break this to you but he ended up taking me to the premier to Friday the 13th.

Yep. You read that right. We ended up going to a rated R horror film for our first date. And let me do you one better. In 2009, the first Friday the 13th fell in February. So Friday the 13th then the following day February 14th- Valentine's Day. Swing and a miss. Potential lovey-dovey date squandered.

And let me tell you I am weak for a bad boy type. This guy was no good for me and I did not care. He smoked. Blared angsty punk music in his sleek silver sporty car. Had a tattoo and his septum pierced. My young impressionable mind and heart were smitten.

He kept me out late and my parents were not strict in the slightest. Basically, as long as I was not doing anything illegal (drugs, underage drinking, committing petty crimes) I was free to do whatever. Hindsight a 15 yr old dating an 18 yr old could have been problematic considering at the time (he told me later when we dated a second time- don’t worry he changed- ps he really didn’t change at all) he only wanted to date me cause he thought he could get into my pants (TOTALLY WOULD HAVE BEEN ILLEGAL- age of consent in that state is/was 17).

Anyways, now you know. Let’s continue to this trainwreck of a date.

He pulls up to my house to pick me up for our date. Then informs me that we have one more stop to make before we go to the next town over to the movie theater. We end up picking up one of his friends. So one of my first official date with my boyfriend now includes a third wheel of a friend. What in the actual? So I was a little peeved at the beginning and should have foreshadowed just how bad this night was going to be for me. So my boyfriend, myself, third wheel guy make our way to the movie theater. Since it is the opening night it is PACKED. And we didn’t necessarily arrive early so you beggers can’t be choosers when it comes to seating.

So we find a place where we can all sit together. It is in the front section of the theater and on the end near the isle. It looks a little like this.

(Isle)Third Wheel - Myself - Boyfriend - Empty Seat - Rest of the row filled with people.

T-5 more minutes left before the lights dim and the upcoming previews start playing. We are all chatting about stuff and both guys are making fun of me because I admitted that I am a little jumpy when it comes to horror films and its not my fault if I accidentally scream or yell. They both laugh it off and tell me not to worry.

T-4 minutes till dimmed lights. All of us were looking forward at the screen when all of a sudden a familiar voice catches my boyfriend’s attention. It is none other than his recent ex-girlfriend. This girl was not a short fling but they dated for over a year. She and I are nothing alike personality-wise because not only have I not had sex with my boyfriend I am also not a crazy person. So she repeats herself.

Ex-Girlfriend: “Can I sit in that seat?”

Boyfriend: *Looks at the empty seat beside him* “Sure we can scoot over and make room.”

Ex-Girlfriend: “Everyone doesn’t have to move I’ll just take the empty seat in the middle.”

Boyfriend: “Ok.”

So now our seating looks like this.

(Isle)Third Wheel - Myself - Boyfriend - Ex-Girlfriend - Rest of the row filled with people.

I wish I was kidding. Really. I do. So at this point I am not even happy a little. I had compromised up to this point with the extra person, the movie selection, and the poking fun. I am generally a fun, bright ray of sunshine but not tonight. If I had any kind of backbone back then I would have said something or done something. But I did not. So instead of saying something, I resigned myself to sitting through this awful hour and a half movie fuming.

But friends it gets better. And by better I mean worse.

T-2 minutes till movie time.

A loud group of tipsy/drunk adults (4 total drunks in this group) stumbles into the theater looking for some seats. They sit approximately five rows directly behind us. All of a sudden a woman starts yelling.

“EX-GIRLFRIEND’S NAME! EX-GIRLFRIEND’S NAME!”

That’s right folks. One of those drunks was this girl’s mom and her friends. They end up getting reprimanded by staff and that ended that.

PREVIEWS START

Again, I am beyond mad at the circumstances that have lead up to this point. Third wheel guy and I share comments between each other throughout the movie. Boyfriend attempts redemptive handholds throughout the movie that was unsuccessful. In fact, I was so mad I was leaning and practically facing third wheel guy. My body language said, “Absolutely fucking not.”

If my memory serves me right we broke up less than a month later (pretty much right around my 16th birthday). It was super weird and he lied about the reasons behind the breakup. In reality, I didn’t give it up so he didn’t want to try anymore.

I should have learned my lesson then but I was dumb. I went through some really big changes between May and August and he wanted to get back together (I became a Christian and he renewed his interest in Christianity). And my dumb ass went back to him. Almost 4 years later I broke it off with him during my Sophomore year of college.

I have one other really awful date story that happened much earlier than this one. I believe I was 12/13 during that one. Want me to share? Let me know in the comments below!

#horrible date story #Friday the 13th #Happy Valentines Day to Me #story time

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almond-assistant · 6 years

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A very long rant and my opinions on neofeminism

Keep in mind that these are very opinionated, and I really don’t wanna fight with you. I’m only posting this so people know where I stand with this stuff, and so they know what kind of person I am.

Inequality: (the fake scenario here is metaphorical and also taken from a youtube video) Imagine there was a short person and a tall person, and there's a wall. In order to see over it, both people are given a stool of equal height to stand on. The tall person is still taller, and can see farther. Instead of giving the taller person a shorter stool, or a short person a taller stool, how about we give nobody a stool. Instead, give them equal materials to build their stool. Equal opportunity does not mean an equal outcome.

Wage Gap: That thing? It's non-existent; women are actually 'out-earning' men, according to literally every governmental source. And if the wage gap existed, it'd be illegal, considering women recieved equal rights in America in 1972.

Transphobia: Trans people are propped up and given all sorts of support in society! I remember at one point I considered myself transgender (I'm still queer-identifying fyi), and I was treated just as well, if not better, than most kids at my high school. And you know how you guys are so "supportive" of trans-men? Well, guess what. By not grouping him in with the cis men, you are therefore being transphobic by invalidating his identity, implying he is not like the cis man, as he would like to be seen as. Do you call a trans guy a rapist, like a cis man? No. Do you consider him sexist, like the cis man? Of course not! Even if he is, you wouldn't DARE accuse him of that! Right? Because he's an owo smol trans flower boy. By rubbing it in everybody's faces that you/someone you know is trans, you are therefore negating the fact that they'd like to be treated like a cisgendered person in the first place. Same goes for trans-women. FYI, I completely support real trans people!

Transtrenders: Super transphobic! If you want to be babied and called uwu smol then go join the adult baby community. You want to be queer? Just don't label yourself trans! Want attention? Go join a fucking talent show or something idk. Don't have dysphoria? What's the point in calling yourself the opposite gender? I don't get that. Wanna be a futa catgirl? I... I don't even know. Please stop that. Sexualizing trans/intersex people is transphobic. Trying to fit in? I get that. I did that. But please, please. don't rub it in everyone's faces. I actually DO have a bit of social dysphoria, but I used to make it a bigger deal than it should've been.

Patriarchy: I agree that patriarchy doesn't work. But, patriarchy is also basically gone, so I don't agree that it's this really big deal you guys make it out to be. On the other hand, matriarchy doesn't work well either. It takes both genders for lots of things to run smoothly. There are highly positioned women and men. That's what makes systems work, including reproduction and all that jazz. So basically, men are in fact needed. Stop treating them like shit. If you got rid of men, we'd go extinct. I know there's this thing with women's bone marrow or whatever, but that's not really relevant, and it isn't even guaranteed to work. By separating women from men, you are therefore being sexist, because equality doesn't have anything to do with gender. It's like if x=y, then y=x, y=y, and x=x. If x and y was female and male, or literally any gender, this would be the goal of feminism by definition. Without the belief that women are currently in a lesser position in society, neo-feminism falls flat. Speaking of which, you always focus on women, why aren't you including all of the other "genders"? Isn't that a bit sexist of you? Society is giving women everything they don't deserve. That's not equality. And yet you still think women are opressed.

Rape Culture: And before you rush to the comments with "You don't know what it's like to be sexually harassed!", I do, and that's why this topic ticks me off so much. Anyway, by labeling all men as rapists, you are therefore being sexist. And, even though you guys say men/boys can't be raped, they have been, and can be. Males are actually sexually exploited more than women. Furthermore, women can be rapists. Consent doesn't apply to just the woman. If a woman wants to have sex with a guy and he says no, yet she forces him to, it's still rape. Legal sexual interactions require both parties involved to give consent. I read a post on here that said something to the effect of, "If you don't have sex with a fat woman, you're raping her". That... boggles my mind.

Ableism: I have mental illnesses too, so this also pisses me off. I mean, I get that some people are wheelchair-bound or don't have the same mental abilities as a neurotypical person. I think it's great that we're helping to accomodate these people! But when you call everything that could even possibly leave out someone other than the neurotypicals ableist, it's frustrating. Literally anything could be ableist or classist. Eating pizza? No, this is ableist because some people have diabetes and can't eat certain things. Running gear? Ableist. Some people have to use wheelchairs, either because they were born paralyzed in the legs, or because they're too obese to move. Brain exercises? No, get that out of here. That's offensive to people with autism or the like, because their brains don't work like that, and it implies they're not good enough. therapy? Kill it with fire. You're saying we neurodivergents are not ok? It's like you don't care about people that want to get better. There's such thing as a target audience, so now let's see.. Pizza? Oh! That's for people who want a quick, cheap, and easy meal! Running gear? That's meant to interst people who enjoy being fit and maintaining their cardiovascular health. Wheelchair-bound folks have specialized exercises for keeping their muscles healthy. Running would not be as effective of a way for them to do that. Brain exercises? For people who want to keep their brain sharp and improve certain areas where they might have weaknesses. Again, people such as my brother (who has medium-high functioning autism) can have special exercises provided to them. But when companies manufacture products that leave out the neurotypical person, nobody thinks twice. So much for equality.

Fatphobia: I do agree that this one exists, although I've never experienced it myself, since I myself have problems gaining weight and keeping it on. I'm actually guilty of fatphobia, but hear me out. I don't mind if you're overweight, as long as others don't have to make special accomodations at no cost to the one being accomodated. If you're 500+ pounds and/or you need a wheelchair and two seats on a plane, I'm calling you out. There's no way you could be that fat without doing it to yourself or having a disability. I don't mind these things if you do have a disability, I understand you couldn't control it then. But if you're just sitting in your bed all day stuffing your face with cheese curls, you have no right to whine about fatphobia, as you could've easily prevented it. Mental disorders such as depression or anxiety that may lower your motivation so low that you don't care, I also get, since I've been in that situation plenty of times. Regardless though, I will not say you are beautiful. This is my personal opinion, and I know others may find obesity attractive, or even erotic (which is in itself fatphobic), but I do not. There are people who don't actually find it pretty, but still say it is. Please stop that. Speak your mind, yo. It's kinda sad that others shape your views, and if you don't agree entirely with the flock, you're not one of them, yknow? That's like... a cult or something.

Classism: I'm soft on this one, since I've been in and out of financial stability throughout my childhood and it sorta fucked me up. But again, calling everything classist is just not right. Songs about fancy cars and diamonds are praising the lush life, not making lower classes feel bad. If anything, those songs help them work harder to achieve their own dreams and have their own great life. But again, it's all about the target audience.

Racism: Racism was originally based off of fear and confusion. Other races had never seen a different skin color than their people's, and thought they were a different breed or species. The reason europeans and americans viewed africans as animals, is because they didn't know what else they could be. African society wasn't as developed, and the African people exhibited very primitive behaviors, as opposed to the educated caucasian. After a while, the african people taken to other lands as slaves, started to dislike that life and form their own opinions and values. The white people learned that the Africans were just humans of a different color, and eventually softened up a bit. But they couldn't abandon their ways of life, so the slaves slaved on, and the rich got richer. These values passed through generations, and eventually someone said, "Stop, these are people too, let's set em' free.". Though, yes, some families still teach their children to be racist, they don't imprison them anymore. Schools do a very good job of describing the treacheries of racism and slavery so it doesn't happen again. Most of my friends (and my boyfriend who I love so so much) are of color, in one way or another. Shit, I'm like, an eighth native american. I do consider myself white though, I'm Norwegian and Irish, for the most part. But I'll still honor my roots. Anyway, even modern racism is still based on fear. Islamophobia stems from terrorism, Black violence comes from stories of gangs and police shootings, and lots of other xenophobia stems from stereotypes. I'm completely against racism, trust me. But when you separate white from black and call white people scum, and call people of color 'strong, independent', and discard white people, it's kinda confusing. Racism applies to race, and caucasian is a race. Get it together.

Cisphobia: That exists. Cisgenderism/Heterosexuality are still identities, whether you want them to be or not.

Sexualities: Cool, You like people (Or you don't, if you're ace/aro). I know these sexualities were shunned before but most people are really accepting now! Just not the weird demonsexual things. Some people don't understand that too much. I sure don't.

Genders: Same as sexualities, don't get too crazy and people are cool w/ it.

Mogai and Neopronouns: Shit, get them out of here. You're making actual LGBT+ people look like a joke.

Anything I didn't mention that you'd like to hear my opinion on? Leave an ask! All interaction is welcome, though not all is wanted. Regardless, I'll try to be kind to you. I really have no reason to be rude to you if I don't know too much about you.

-Kevyn (almondassistant)

#I'm not gonna fight with you #please don't kill me #opinions #uwu?????#neofeminism #feminism #queer

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theythemsam · 3 years

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you dont have to answer this but omg for real back when i was in wincest spaces(listen it was as common and normal as destiel then hgshgs) i had adults start nsfw convos w young ass me in a way i havent experienced in any other fandom ?? and it was only once i got out of that space where i was like hmm . why did you 30yos make me like these things what . whats wrong w just analyzing the show. ANYWAY it's reassuring to know i'm not alone in this experience lol hope you have a good day !

yeah, wincest was really normalized back then and shipping it was just a thing you did (unless you were a diehard destiel shipper or hated sam, so as a sam fan who didn't like gabriel... there wasn't really anything else left for me) and like honestly that's okay, i am not here to declare shipping illegal or anything, I honestly can't afford to give a fuck what other people ship, there's just things i dont wanna see, but there definitely was a ~if you don't like it you're stuck up and a puritan and pro censorship and like a cop probably~ vibe (at least in the circles were I was in) and obviously that is really easy to follow along as a kid AND i think it can be blamed for how dark and disturbing it got in the circles i was in (cause you wanna push boundaries and you wanna see how far you go and you can go really far). Also ship wars still suck, but they were sooooo much for a while and saying you were a multishipper or ship neutral etc was the only way to escape that completely.

For a really long time I also thought it was fine cause I had in a way consented to interact with that content and especially the nsfw content (~cause it was all tagged you see~), but *points at that person that told me iding as aro at 16 would do "irreversible damage" to me, but was fine that I wrote encouraged by her and consumed incest porn while on her blog*, like the fact that she knew how young I was and thought it was bad for me to try out a new identity, but it was ok to do these other things, is insane to me looking back now. The double standards. But yeah you definitely weren't alone in that experience, I know a few people who went through that or something like that. I've been in few other fandoms than supernatural and none as big, so I also haven't encountered this in other fandoms, but it probably exists there too? I think supernatural is just most prominent for how big it was and for how big the ships are and how easy it is to have a ~morally questionable~ ship front and center, because of the way the show deals with it and portrays it and all of that is fine, but obviously there will be some creeps, some people who just don't care for or understand boundaries and some people who get harmed by them. I'm glad fandom seems to have gotten a bit better there at least.

#wm tw #ship hate for ts #grooming for ts #I Guess #idk what else to tag this as so let me know if you think this needs extra trigger warnings #sam replies #asks #anonymous

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rocket-hopping-simplton · 7 years

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SIMPLTONS RULES ,AU'S AND SIDEBLOGS

Simpltons Rules and AUS

MY NAME IS GOLDA AND I AM THE MUN OF THIS BLOG. MUN IS 22 AND MUSES ARE OF LEGAL CONSENTING AGE UNLESS OTHERWISE STATED

i have sjw blacklisted and i think that might be it.

Basic Laws

Be respectful! Do not disrespect my muse or myself out of character. I will not tolerate it. I will not roleplay with you if i even feel a hint of disrespect towards me or my muse. I wouldn’t disrespect you or your muses so please be polite and refrain from doing it to me. However if your muse disrespects mine in roleplay, that’s is completely acceptable as it is an interaction between our muses.

Be patient! I have a life outside of the internet. I am a real human being and not some roleplaying machine.

Mun and muses ARE NOT THE SAME ENTITY! While my muses are of my own creation (in a sense) I do not always share their beliefs and or their attitude. I have my own beliefs and attitude, so please establish that we are not the same people.

Roleplay Laws

Read the information on the character you will be role playing with. That way you can be informed on the character you will be dealing with!

No smutting with minors! It’s illegal, i do not want to go to jail. It’s rude, irresponsible and puts not only you, but me as well at risk. You will get a slap on the wrist most likely. But me? Ill be on the sex offender registry and my ENTIRE LIFE WILL BE RUINED BECAUSE YOU WANTED TO BE SELFISH. So don’t do it. I don’t care if your muse finds mine sexy and they wanna get it on. If you are under the legal age of consent. DON’T FUCKING DO IT. you CAN RUIN AN ADULTS LIFE FOREVER. if i catch you lying, i will BLOCK YOU!

I WILL NOT RP SMUT WITH ANY MLP BLOGS/ GRAVITY FALL BLOGS/ STEVEN UNIVERSE BLOGS/ OR ANY OTHER CHILDREN’S SHOW BLOGS IN THE LIKE. THESE SHOWS ID LIKE TO KEEP CLEAN AND INNOCENT LIKE THEY WERE MEANT TO BE. (although i am open to suggestions of fighting because all have shown that and for a few maybe even death/ slight horror. BUT ASK FIRST.)

NO GODMODDING! It really shouldn’t need to be said but oh well. My character is my own, I CONTROL IT ONLY. The same for you and your muse. However suggestions or a push in a certain direction is fine. Such as “lets go so and so” I grabbed their hand and excitedly pulled them along.” This at least allows for the other person to respond to what’s being done. What is not ok would be something like this. “So and so kissed my muse and they wendt on a date.” this is not ok because you are giving my muse Orders. Only I can order them around. If i feel you doing this the roleplay will be terminated immediately.

No Instakills or permadeaths! I don’t like that shit. If we are gonna fight, i want a good fight, a fair fight, and unless otherwise talked out by both parties and agreed upon your muse, no matter how friggen strong or OP or whatever! can instantly kill or keep my muse dead. Understood? Because if this happens I will immediately terminate the roleplay. Be literate! Please check all grammar, spelling and tenses before posting. Roleplays should be easily understood by both parties. I have a hard time with my tenses so i will do my best to work on that! If roleplays can not be understood then i will cease roleplaying.

Please try to match length! I write a FUCKTON and i do not expect you to match it entirely, i do expect that you have at least a well written paragraph that notes all major points. I will however ask that you make an attempt to match my length, but it is not a requirement. However please let it be noted that if you respond with boring one liners or tiny meatless paragraphs i will cease to roleplay with you.

I prefer to plot! Drop me an I.M and let’s plan ahead what will happen. It’s not necessary but i do prefer it. So just assume i want to plot. However if you wanna throw a meme at me and go from there, that’s fine too.

Please let me know if you want to drop a thread! Now you don’t have to give me a reason, but letting me know you are no longer interested would be highly appreciated. I will delete the thread after being notified so i can keep my blog clutter free. I will also notify you with a reason so as not to seem rude that I want to drop a thread.

Do not bug me for responses/be patient! As i stated above I have a life outside of the internet. I am not a roleplaying machine. If i do not get to your response in a timely manner it’s is likely one of these reasons. A. Life is hectic B. my mental health is not doing well and I need a break. C. I am really engaged with a certain muse and mun so i am putting them as priority. D. I just plain forgot. If you feel like i’ve forgotten drop me an I.M with either your latest response to our thread or a “hey i think it might be your turn to respond.” if however you continually pester me i will drop or ignore the thread. In return do not force yourself to reply immediately. Take your time and enjoy it, let it flow naturally. Shit happens my man, and i get it.

Do not force relationships! I can’t stress enough how INFURIATING it is when people try to force friendships and or relationships with my muses. These things don’t always happen instantaneously, they take time. People need to get to know each other before relationships are established. Let them happen naturally, if they happen. If muses have chemistry it will happen. If they don’t then, they don’t. Not to say that instant friends and love at first sight can’t happen, because it can, but it is exceedingly rare. So don’t force it. If you do, or i feel you are I will first respond through the character, then I.M and if it’s still happening i will terminate the roleplay altogether.

Smut is ok! If your muse and my muse are vibing and they wanna get it on that is entirely alright to do. I will post smut in read mores and i go into HIGHLY DETAILED posts. I will also tag it as nsfw until the smut is over. That being said please abide by the following rule. My muse is not a fleshlight/dildo! If i feel you coming to me solely to smut with my muses with no established relationship or even having talked it out with me first then you will be ignored. My muses are not your sexuall toys to play with. I like diversity in my roleplays and I like CHEMISTRY even for smutty rps. Now it’s one thing if both muns agree that our muses would get along sexually immediately. Otherwise, don’t come to me for smut only. If you do you will be ignored. If you persist, you will be blocked.

Gore/mutilation/torture/death is alright! Just come and talk to me first beforehand so we can plot it out. I don’t like sudden losses of limbs or physical harm. I like to be aware of what your muse is going to do with mine.

Have fun! This is the most important rule by far. Roleplaying is a way for people to unwind and relax, it should be stress free and enjoyable. If both parties aren’t having fun you and I have every right to terminate the roleplay.

Things I am ok with Fighting style school style, adventures, mysteries, superhero, makeout sessions with heavy petting and touching

Makeout sessions with butt touching if shes under 15+ in our rp is ok but the chara also has to be under 18 and close to her age. (I know that shit goes on with people under the ages of 18, because i did it and so did everyone else.) BUT KEEP IT MODERATELY CLEAN (boob touches and butt touches over clothing you know that exploratory shit that goes on in the middle/high school years NOTHING MORE)

THE ABOVE RULE WILL ONLY BE BROKEN IF WE HAVE FIRST DISCUSSED IT BUT MUN MUST BE OVER 18 TO RP SMUT PERIOD!

original worlds and crossovers, OCS ALWAYS WELCOME

slightly kinky things (like being bound, spanked, dressed in outfits, stuff like that) Sex is ok so long as shes 18+ in our rp or we have discussed it.

Multishipping a- ok

Things I am not ok with sex with her while shes under 18, that shit wont play. unless we have discussed it! strange kinks like bodily fluids or excrement and the like animal killing for sexual pleasure child sex i mean really the list goes on but just think about it rationally.

If you have successfully made it through this long ass list please im or inbox me with the following quote “Sun tzu said that!“

Sideblogs

Archive: thesoldiersarchives

Art: simpltonsart-o-rama

Roleplay: storytimewithsimplton

Smut roleplay: sollysmuts

AU (sfw & nsfw)

Aquatic fortress (mer)

Royal fortress (princess)

Dark fortress (evil)

Mystic fortress (witch/sorcress)

Fae Fortress (fairy)

Fur Fortress (were)

Mob Fortress (gang)

Night fortress (vampire)

Ye old fortress (knight)

Jungle fortress (amazonian warrior)

#simpltons rules and au's #simpltons sideblogs

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tentacrocacles · 7 years

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CW: child abuse mention under the cut

So I’ve recently had an EMDR session as as is usual I’m highly sensitive and positively agro about all kinds of shit right now. One being this one particular blog I came across a few days ago. Basically if you’ve seen it they say stuff like “Sex is always ok” and “your body your choice” except they take that shit to extremes.

Ok so for more information on this, one of their blog posts implys that minors having sex is ok if they are consenting, and that also whipping out your dingus at any time to touch yourself is completely ok. Even in public.

Right now I’m fixated on the “minors” thing. So there’s a very good reason why age restrictions to sex and sexual activity exists in the first place. Well actually there’s quite a few good reasons.

First of all, instead of a recreational activity lets just for a brief moment address the purpose of sex. It exists for reproductive purposes. Now I’m not saying it isn’t fun or recreational at all and that you should only have sex to have kids (that’s stupid). But getting pregnant is a side effect of sex if both partners are of opposite physical genders and fertile.

It doesn’t take a genius to work out that kids should not be doing this, and I don’t mean kids as in teenagers (I accept that after a certain age it’s prettymuch impossible to stop teenagers experimenting.) I mean kids as in children.

In some circumstances it has been known for kids as young as 5 to get pregnant, which is horrible. You think about the discomfort of childbirth for a grown adult and then have that shit done to someone who is that young and that small? It’d be so painful! And not just that but they would be mentally unprepared for the pain of childbirth and the task of raising the child afterwards. Even in some circumstances I’d say teenagers having children is probably not the best for them since their body isn’t fully developed yet, personally speaking when I think of how much my own body has matured between the end of being a teenager (19) and my current age (24), I don’t think if I had of had a kid at 19 I would have been physically ready for that kind of change in my body.

There’s also the mental factor, sex is an activity for two consenting adults who are of age. Children simply can not consent because to consent you need full understanding of what it is you are consenting to, and a child couldn’t possibly understand. Add to that the fact that they are impressionable and often desire to keep the adults in their life happy with them. You basically guarantee that they cannot consent without it having been coercion somehow. Also lastly to end this rant, to push a child into sexual activity when they are not physically or mentally ready, is extremely traumatic for a child. Even if they don’t grasp what’s happening till later, when they do they will feel fucking terrible for the rest of their life.

Even if the person who did this to them is brought to justice, even if terrible things happen to that person (including death), that child will always always feel the impact of what was done to them.

It is an extremely long and arduous road to get healing for this kind of shit, most of which involves session after session of therapy to help you process what happened, help you get insight and maybe be at peace with yourself. On top of that part of you mentally always feels stuck, you don’t grow up as quick as the other kids, you don’t fit in well, you have trouble socialising, you find it hard to trust people, and people (especially unknown ones) scare the shit out of you, you have to deal with feelings of guilt over what happened to you and it is all so shit.

So basically what I am saying, back to my original point is no, a minor can’t consent. It is illegal to have sexual relations with a minor for a fucking good reason and if you do shit like that and are an apologist for behavior like that then you should probably be in jail.

#tw: child abuse #rant

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dragonbearer · 7 years

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Incest, Legally and Socially (there’s a difference)

Some intense thoughts on incest, its legalities, and what it means in real life with @breakiitdown. It’s been an absolute pleasure working this out with you and I feel pretty damn good about this whole discussion. Tons of respect for you for being willing to discuss this with me and holding my hand when I got stuck. This’ll be going into my overall discourse folder.

Some editing done for clarity’s sake. Be warned: it’s LONG (2300 words of chat)

breakiitdown

Can I ask, do u support incest irl? cause I’ve been seeing a lot of arguments for shimadacest saying since it’s not legal in japan it's alright to ship it, though most people are uncomfortable on explaining if they believe it should be legal or not

dragonbearer

If it's between two consenting adults, I don't see a reason why I should intrude on their personal business.

But if it's between people with a severe power differential, then no.

I would still be a little squicked irl but I wouldn't really have a position either way.

breakiitdown

ye like tbh I see incest between cousins as something that probably wouldn't be that bad but between siblings its often difficult since they’ve had to grow up together and social conditioning can start at such a young age and what not but

dragonbearer

The sibling incest part is sticky for me imo

dragonbearer

But all the parts of incest that are bad - force, rape, molestation - would be bad between any two people anyway

Incest on its own isn't necessarily a bad thing - just what it can be accompanied by

breakiitdown

yeah that’s why ppl don't like when adopted people get together either generally speaking cause of the growing up thing and the slow social conditioning that would/could occur even from smaller or seemingly innocent acts that could manipulate someone into liking them,,

That’s why in general the idea of incest to me isn’t?? Bad per se but

dragonbearer

You mean grooming?

breakiitdown

Like if two ppl were separated @ birth then fell in love and happened to be siblings it would be fine but I think the thing of growing up together

YEAH

I knew there was a word for it I just forgot it

dragonbearer

True, but I think grooming falls into power differential too

Which is a bad thing in any relationship

dragonbearer

I mean - it's unlikely

Incest between two siblings that's completely healthy and consensual

Very, very unlikely if they grow up together

But intellectually, in that case, then I can't see a viable reason it would be wrong

dragonbearer

and since I can set the terms of a fictional ship in any way I want, I can just be like "ok but in THIS au what if the incest was perfectly healthy and happy"

And 3 years, imo, for siblings isn't that big of a difference

Ofc genzo still has its issues, but I write it for that reason, not bc I want to make something happy and healthy

breakiitdown

ye I feel that just recently seeing all the arguing that incest should be fine instead of saying "it's fictional and who cares" has been... hmMMm

dragonbearer

I'm arguing against the concept that incest itself is a bad thing

It feels like trying to say sex is bad bc ppl can be raped to me

dragonbearer

Incest =/= abuse

breakiitdown

I mean I think in general incest between two people who grow up together will probably end up in a unhealthy way but there's a few cases where that’s not true

dragonbearer

bc the whole "attack the shippers" thing starts with slandering the basic morality of ppl for shipping something incestuous

Not for anything else - just the incest

bc if u start attacking unhealthy dynamics in a ship, practically any ship in the fandom is under fire

breakiitdown

But in your rules you also say you don’t support incest irl

dragonbearer

As in, I don't endorse it happening

I wouldn't tell ppl "yo it’s okay if u kiss your sis"

But

I don't like blanket statements

dragonbearer

And something like "I don't generally support real-life incest but if you're happy, healthy, and consensual then it's your life and I hope you find yourself satisfied with your choices because I want people to be happy" is a bit long

I realize in real life, incest is *usually* unhealthy

Not always, but usually

But I won't vilify people for committing incest, I will vilify them for whatever crime they committed

Am I making sense?

breakiitdown

ye but I think its ok to say that in most cases incest esp. in cases where they've grown up with each other is normally abusive just like in most cases you'd consider physical attacks abusive even if that's not always the case

dragonbearer

Yeah

I said that

breakiitdown

but you said you didn’t think it was abusive I mean I think its chill to call incest as a whole an abusive thing as an idea and in most cases, but that doesn’t mean all cases are actually abusive

dragonbearer

I’m confused now

breakiitdown

Like the exception not the rule

Ye me 2 tbh like u don’t think incest is abusive except for most of the time?

Not even like u specifically I’ve just seen this argument before and never really understood it either

dragonbearer

Let me try to equate it to something else

For example

Relationship between a subordinate and their superior

This is discouraged in most places of employment bc of how it can be abused

But that doesn't mean that every and each case of it is abusive and thus should not be treated as such

I see the topic of incest in the same basic guideline

It can and has been abused, many cases where it happened is abusive

dragonbearer

But that doesn't mean incest IS abuse automatically

breakiitdown

ye but people still call that general act abuse like if someone told me they were in a happy consenting relationship in either of those that'd be cool but I don’t think the whole act should be rewritten to someone that’s not abusive because of the few cases

dragonbearer

Well, a lot of legislators agree with you, which is why incest is illegal in some places

But in others, they don't

And the question is "why should incest be illegal?"

And you know, a lot of the abusive potentials are brought out

But that's already illegal anyway

Child abuse, statutory rape, sexual molestation, etc. etc. is illegal in most countries

Which can cover the cases of incestuous abuse adequately imo

But making incest illegal catches those few ppl who ARE non-offending and places them under legal scrutiny

dragonbearer

Grooming is already considered child abuse anyway, and we all understand why harming a person in that form is bad

But if we were to illegalize incest, there needs to be a reason

And when prompted for a reason for why incest, not abuse, JUST INCEST is bad, ppl trip up on the question

The article I linked on that post explains the concept p well

breakiitdown

ye like I agree that it should be legal and everything but I also don't think it’s necessary for people to say that incest as a whole is non abusive cause even with the boss and student thing it’s something that’s generally not allowed but not illegal because people consider that dynamic is abusive but that doesn’t mean every relationship holds abuse within it

dragonbearer

I prefer to say that incest on its own isn't abusive, but can and usually leads to abuse

Which, to me, is an important differentiation

I grew up debating and that kind of wording is super important bc they change how situations can be taken

I think you mean that I think incest is non-abusive

I think the concept of incest is, but not the practice of it

dragonbearer

On its own, cut off from any other concept, it's simply not harmful

But reality is complicated and tangled, which is why incest is rarely on its own

And thus is usually harmful

breakiitdown

tbh I’m confused like incestuous relationships that involve living and growing up together normally lead to aspects in a relationship that are abusive but it’s wrong to generalize incest relationships as abusive? If that’s what u mean?

dragonbearer

Yes

That is exactly what I mean :D

breakiitdown

I still feel like that’s making the exception the rule for all incest relationships like I get that some incest relationships can work out but when referring to incest as something that’s abusive is that like ?? Bad 2 do

dragonbearer

It’s not the incest itself that is abusive

I mean

dragonbearer

If an older man groomed his daughter and sexually abused her, that's a crime

If an older man groomed his neighbor's daughter and sexually abused her, it's still a crime

One is incestuous, one is not

But the basic crime is the same - abuse

breakiitdown

But that situation still happens very regularly with siblings since when they're both kids and one starts to feel sexual attraction they could still groom them into thinking that sex is normal between the two of them since they live and grow up together it's not always like the power imbalance between them

dragonbearer

Ahhhh okay

So it's like

One party convinces the other party to engage in something despite reluctance, right?

Or generally leverages them into it, somehow

dragonbearer

That’d be coercion

dragonbearer

Resulting in dubious consent

breakiitdown

yeah like that normally doesn’t really need 2 include a power balance in order to work cause I know in that situation it’s a good example but for family relationships it’s sort of more common since it's something that’s not escapable and constant

but I mean if they live together it could just start as small things that may be considered platonic that then lead into more sexual things that the person who is interested tells them it's normal and that’s just what families do and they believe them because over a period of time that's what they've been shown

dragonbearer

Man, I hope no one checks my google history bc the amount of research I'm doing on the topic is getting higher and higher

dragonbearer

http://www.pandys.org/articles/siblingsexualabuse.html

This is pretty good

Apparently

Child psychology studies say that

Incestuous actions between siblings/cousins/whatever is pretty common

"Sexual behavior between siblings that is not age appropriate, not transitory, and not motivated by developmentally, mutually appropriate curiosity" and studies have defined the dynamic u described as such

So it's still a form of abuse, regardless of actual power

breakiitdown

Ye like that’s the only reason why I don’t believe incest is always wrong is because those situations don't involve influence over someone when they're a child n what not in most cases

dragonbearer

So ye, that's p much all I have on the topic

Does this explain my thoughts adequately?

breakiitdown

idk like I get that cousin relationships and what not are in general not abusive but I’m still sort of confused on why you don’t consider sibling relationships in general abusive

Like I still know there’s exceptions to all but is it just because u don’t want to like let the few think that their relationship is bad

dragonbearer

bc I object to the idea of blanket statements

As in, saying that every case of sibling incest is bad, abusive, and should be illegal

breakiitdown

Isn’t saying incest isn’t abusive a blanket statement as well

dragonbearer

Which is why I said incest isn't abusive unless ________

Just imagine like a big list

With a ton of different sections of cases where it IS bad

cutting away all the abusive parts until the few non-abusive cases are left

Incest does not mean Abuse

a. Unless ______

a. In situation X

i. Example A:

breakiitdown

I mean I don’t think it should be illegal but the general concept of incest and what it holds is abusive just like w the teacher student thing it’s not illegal but a lot of people consider the general concept of it as a teacher abusing his power over a student even if that isn’t the case in 100% of cases all of the time

breakiitdown

Wait is it illegal I don’t even know I just assumed it wasn’t because that’s lame

dragonbearer

But the thing is

breakiitdown

Ye but ppl still feel comfortable calling that abuse like

dragonbearer

It depends on the country

some places it is, some places it isn't

But I protest against "most people think"

bc a lot of that comes from this knee-jerk GROSS reaction

breakiitdown

Ye I’m just crediting the TV shows and movies I watch I don’t have a source lmao

dragonbearer

A lot of the "this is how things are naturally" and "society says so"

I mean, not to equate lgbt ppl with incest but

Once upon a time

Being homosexual was a horrible abomination against humanity and you can tell what I thought about that, being bi myself

dragonbearer

So I don't think about what most people think, because most people work off their initial, society ingrained rules

And not look deeper into the whole concept of why something is morally wrong besides the first feeling of disgust

breakiitdown

I mean I don’t think we should say incest relationships are horrible abominations against humanity but I still think it’s reasonable to tell people using your position as a family member to initiate relationships within your household is abusive

like I don’t think it’s disgusting but @ the same time I don’t think ppl should be encouraging ppl saying it’s not abusive if u want to convince your kid to kiss u like,,,,,

That’s why it’s so hard to have relationships in families because there’s a certain position of power u have regardless if u want it or not as an older brother or father or sister or whatever

dragonbearer

I get u

But I think I got where we're divided now

Legally, I think it's better to say incest isn't abuse UNLESS certain conditions are met - in a legal case, innocent until proven guilty is paramount ESPECIALLY when judging a incest case (as opposed to a case of abuse)

But socially, it's better to say incest is abusive UNLESS certain conditions are met - because socially, just staying away from incest is for the best and the criterion of healthy incest is incredibly narrow

breakiitdown

YEE

dragonbearer

*high five*

I feel like I made a breakthrough

#i hanjo (ooc)#dat discourse #incest tw #shimadacest #save #what a wild ride of thought #this was fun :DDD #and I feel like each moment of shit wank is worth it for the thought provoking discussions like this #this is definitely gonna play in my actual portrayal in shimadacest if I ever get into the legalities of it in rp #headcanon #for good measure

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gaiatheorist · 5 years

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“Morality.”

“Should children as young as 5 be taught about sexual practices between consenting adults?” No, obviously, children are not adults, and have a disturbing habit of copying things they’ve heard or observed. I’m more concerned about A+E attendances to have foreign bodies removed than I am about children ‘learning’ to be anything other than heterosexual, though.

We’ve been here before, with Section 28 prohibiting the ‘promotion’ of homosexuality in schools. Imposed morality, ‘this’ is the right way to be, and nothing else exists. From 1988 to 2000, the only ‘acceptable’ family structure was a Mummy and a Daddy who loved each other very much, and sometimes had a special cuddle. In bed. With the lights off. Bonus points if the Mummy and the Daddy were married. To each other. Anything else was a ‘pretended’ family structure. Apart from the “It’s OK to say no.” booklets in primary school, I don’t remember any ‘sex and relationships’ education at all, the booklets came too late for me, and loaded on the guilt that someone had been doing things they shouldn’t have, and I hadn’t said no. Everything else was biology, insert-tab-A-into-slot-B, to quote the Manic Street Preachers “My idea of where life comes from, a childhood glimpse of pornography.” it really was the age of finding a ‘mucky book’ under a hedge back then. (Or a video tape with no label, and the tabs popped out, before satellite TV.)

As much as some of our Mums and Dads fucked us up, so did our schooling. The government’s decision that heterosexuality was the norm, and anything else deviant left some of us with ‘nowhere to go’, burying feelings, ostracised by the bullying of the ‘normal’ kids. Homosexuality isn’t illegal, discrimination technically is, and this ‘morality’ debate is a constructed nonsense that will impede the acceptance that love is love, in its many and varied forms. (Sticking with the ‘love’ angle, rather than the ‘sex’ one, the primary school lessons wouldn’t touch on the many ways to couple-or-multiple.) It’s tired but true, that children are malleable and accepting before they are exposed to prejudice. “Why does uncle Bob go everywhere with uncle Jim?” “They’re in love, like Mummy and Daddy.” “Oh, can I have a biscuit?” It really is that simple.

It doesn’t really matter which ‘moral majority’ has the pitchforks out, where there is a majority, there will be a minority, and that imbalance leads to oppression. Letting the kids know, at 5, that there isn’t only ‘one way’ will reduce some of the homophobic bullying at 7, some of the confusion at 13, and some of the self-loathing and suicide at 15. Some of it, not all, because the children don’t only exist in their classrooms and playgrounds. The refusal to acknowledge the ‘other’ choices is a backward step, and it will lead to harm, when some of those children realise that they are ‘other’, deviant, abnormal.

As much as we’re seeing some celebrities and ‘influencers’ openly-out, not only as homosexual, but a plethora of things we don’t even have tick-boxes for yet, we’ve also seen a return to death-by-stoning in Brunei. Good old family values, there, it applies to adultery as well as homosexual activity. “Oh, but that’s ‘The Muslims’ doing Sharia law, that’s not us!” Death by stoning. Lapidation is a word I never thought I’d need to learn in 2019, Pearl-clutching Christians take note, isn’t the one about not-killing quite near the top of the list of commandments? (I can’t even wrap my head around the ‘observed by’ angle to it, inflicting trauma on a whole group of people, as a means of keeping them in line. It’s barbaric, which is, I suppose, me making a moral judgement.)

My ‘morality’ is of the ‘harm none’ flavour, my sexual orientation is fluid. That’s not as difficult to reconcile as it might appear, because I don’t wish harm against the Sultan of Brunei, or the parents protesting in Birmingham. I pity them. I think they’re wrong, but still I pity them. By choosing to live by religion-imposed rules, they narrow their world-view, by imposing those views on others, they isolate and ostracise themselves. In the current fragile-fractured society in the UK, it wouldn’t take much for the UKIP contingent to correlate the Sharia stance in Brunei with ‘all Muslims’, if only it didn’t run the risk of them ‘catching gayness’.

‘Exposed to’ was one of the phrases used. I’m not infectious. My son is ‘pansexual’, whatever that is because he just IS, he had a hetero-normative upbringing, one ‘Mummy’ and one ‘Daddy’ with a marriage certificate signed and sealed long before he was conceived. (He called us ‘Mum’ and ‘My Mum’ for ages, amusing, but it didn’t stop him observing his Dad’s ‘Wahey, look at the tits on that!’ mentality, or his Granddad’s insistence that women were weak-and-feeble little things, that needed to be looked after. Hardly surprising that he never had a girlfriend at school, we must have seemed confusing creatures to him.) His Dad, for all his faults, wasn’t maliciously homophobic, he did have some gay and lesbian acquaintances, but he also engaged in the derogatory banter that’s ‘expected’ in the circles he moved in. Porn-lesbians were titillating, real-lesbians less-so for him, he had defended his gay friends growing up, but still used ‘bummer’ and such as insults.

Children do need to be ‘exposed to’ the undisputed fact that not all relationships are heterosexual, and that needs to happen when they’re still at the “Oh, right, can I have a biscuit?” stage. To say otherwise is immoral, because it allows the discrimination and hostility to creep into the lives of those children, with nothing to counter it. It is absolutely fine, and fair for people to have an opinion on homosexuality, bisexuality, fixed-or-fluid gender, what is not fine or fair is for them to impose their opinion on others as a fact. Again, homosexuality is not a criminal offence in the UK, or a mental disorder, some people find it a distasteful notion, and therefore deem it ‘wrong.’ If it’s being practiced consensually, between adults, and ‘not frightening the horses’, it can’t really be ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, it just is. ‘Moralising’ sexual preference (unless it’s for children or animals, or any other non-consensual practice, I’m not going to look them up, my search history is dubious enough as it is.) is harmful. There are gay Christians, lesbian Muslims, asexual people of ‘all faiths and none’, and myriad combinations of everything else. To refuse to acknowledge that is at best ignorant, and at worst incredibly damaging.

I don’t like baked beans. Some people do, some people are indifferent. I’ll eat them if I have to, but I’d prefer not to. What I won’t do is insist that other people don’t eat baked beans, because I think they’re ‘wrong’. (I actually think they’re goblin-shit, disgusting orange lumpy things, with a terrible habit of sticking to the back of the fork, and ending up in the washing-up bowl, but that’s just me.) Whether I eat baked beans or not doesn’t impact on anyone else. Neither does whatever I get up to in the privacy of my own bedroom. I’m not going to go about the place defacing baked beans cans in the supermarket, or hurling abuse at people I see eating baked beans. I’m not going to go to anyone’s house, and dump their beans-on-toast in the bin, I just don’t like beans. I’ve outed myself as bean-ist, bean-ophobic. I could claim that I have a ‘moral objection’ to baked beans, and start a campaign to ban them. How ridiculous would that be?

Nobody taught me to dislike baked beans, in the same way as nobody taught me to have something of an ambiguous attraction to males and females. I’m ‘greedy’, because I can find either/or equally appealing. Or neither, depending on circumstances. I’m not stealing your beans, or forcing you to eat beans, my sexual identity has absolutely no impact on anyone but the person I’m with. I’m no more a ‘predatory lesbian’ than I am a ‘cougar’, chasing down anything with a pulse in order to satiate my ‘dubious’ desires. (Anyone pearl-clutching about the fact that I worked in a school, and might have ‘exposed’ myself to children, it only ever came up once in 14 years. “Miss, I think I might be bi, what are you?” “I’m not really anything, apart from ‘me’, and that’s all you have to be.” ever so slightly duplicitous, but I didn’t want the girl to think it was compulsory to ‘pick a side’ at the age of 13.)

There will be children in those classrooms in Birmingham, and across the UK who will end up being not-heterosexual. There will be children with two ‘mums’ or two ‘dads’, invisible-erased under the ‘moral’ proclamation of ‘normality’. Yes, it is the majority-norm, but it isn’t the only option, and insisting that it should-be, citing ‘morality’ is regressive, and harmful. It could, potentially, be the start of a slippery slope, if it’s ‘morally justified’ not to even mention homosexuality, what next? Whose morals carry the greater weight, and how should they be imposed on others?

As others have pointed out, there would be outcry if it was another-other that had been cited as a moral objection. It is illegal to discriminate on grounds of religion, or ethnicity, or gender, disability OR sexual orientation. That a proportion of the population find homosexual practices distasteful does not mean that they are ‘immoral’, any more than a mixed-race marriage, or a couple where one partner was raised Jewish, and the other Catholic. The ‘question’ shouldn’t have needed to be asked. It isn’t a ‘question’ in any sense other than the rhetorical, no amount of hiding behind religious dogma framed as morality makes it a valid question. I respect the rights of others to have views that differ from mine, but the perceived victory of this ‘moral’ argument makes me uneasy. If a parent-protest about homosexuality can cause a school to (temporarily) cease part of the curriculum, what’s next? ‘History is written by the victors’ comes to mind, how many backward-steps before the whole SRE curriculum is deemed immoral, what with some groups objecting to sex before marriage, why should children be ‘taught’ about reproduction, healthy relationships, and bodily autonomy? They’ll find out when they’re married.

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I am considering getting a Subaru STI but I was wondering about what insurance is going to be. I am going to call my insurance company to find out exact but first I wanted to make sure it's not going to be way higher. Here is what I have paid in the past: Age 17-18: 1998 Mustang GT $110 Age 18-20: 2004 Dodge Ram 1500 $105 Age 20: 2006 Subaru STI ?????? Based on what I paid for the other 2 vehicles what do you think its going to be? Thanks!

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you've been pretty quiet about the whole ptv thing and the drama with mike. what are your thoughts about it? you used to be a big ptv blog, right?

lol yes is definitely used to be a ptv blog!!

ok so i’ve been pretty vocal about this on my twitter and my private instagram account (as well as in my real life lol) but you’re right i haven’t really said anything here. i don’t really have a reason for that, i just haven’t had the motivation to write out a big post since my opinion is very much out there on other platforms. that being said, i will throw in my thoughts now that i’ve been asked about them:

okay, so like you mentioned, i was a HUGE ptv fan. i still very much am, but it used to be my entire life. these guys are the reason i’m in the scene at all and they were my first ever concert. i’ve been listening to them for nearly five years (seventh grade to junior in high school). i’ve seen them live ten times and i’ve saved every piece of confetti and every ticket i’ve ever gotten from going to their shows. i even have tony’s pick (which i picked up from the ground and stuck IN MY MOUTH so i wouldn’t lose it until i got to my hotel room) so, huge fan right? right.

just before all of this happened, i saw them at the same place, same festival i saw them at for the first time, over four years ago. i was on top of the world bc this show reminded me again how much of a ride or die i am for these guys. with all of the shit about gross band guys coming out, i though about how lucky i was that this would never happen to my band (lol). like, i’ve always thought that i was lucky this way, bc when all of that shit with front porch step back in the day, ptv were my guys and they’d never done anything wrong up to that point so i was okay.

then this stuff with mike happened. i saw someone vague tweet about it, so i was confused and i had to dig through twitter to find the original post. when i read it, i felt sick. at first i completely doubted it, but as i kept re-reading it and going through the thread, the more i started to believe it. i didn’t want to think that someone i loved for so long could be so irresponsible, but it kind of added up to me.

my school has late starts on wednesday, so instead of going in at 8 like i usually do, i went in at like 9:30. and i was so sick and upset that i ended up going home early bc i just… couldn’t handle it. like… one of my favorite people was now completely different to me and i couldn’t deal.

now, one thing that really bothered me about this whole thing was how long it took them (or anyone else!*) to make a statement. I completely understand that it does take time for people to release statements, but in my opinion this took too long. i mean i can somewhat understand because it was around thanksgiving but it REALLY rubbed me the wrong way when they were posting about their black friday sales while keeping the whole situation hush, hush. it may have been their team doing that for them, but it looked really shady and like they were brushing this under the rug so as not to interfere with the most profitable time of the year.

*and what i mean by “or anyone else!” is that Alternative Press, Kerrang!, and Rock Sound did not say ANYTHING about this situation until AFTER the statement came out. with other bands in the scene, they write articles almost immediately and update their readers as more information comes out, and then once a band finally releases a statement, they end with that. but they didn’t do anything with pierce the veil. the only websites i found talking about this was tiny underground music blogs that gain no traction and that i had to DIG to find. again, this makes it look shady and like they’re deliberately sweeping things under the rug. i don’t want to outright accuse them of doing that or anything, but it definitely looked bad.

anyway, i worried myself sick waiting for their statement. i checked literally every day and it was the biggest thing on my mind. i found out that they released a statement when someone on twitter posted about it. now, (and again this is gonna be over thinking things, blah, blah) but it does bother me a LITTLE that they only posted this on their facebook (and have since deleted the post), as a lot of people don’t use facebook. it would have reached more people if they had posted a link to the statement on their twitter and released the statement in full on their tumblr page (also pls feel free to correct me if they did post it on their tumblr and have since deleted it! i just can’t find it rn so maybe they did? idk.) because again, it makes it look like they are hiding this and deliberately making sure that it reaches less people. the only way i found the post was going to the Alt. Press twitter and scrolling down to find the like they posted. (which i have now noticed seems to be missing from their website…)

now, i don’t really have many issues with the statement, other than the fact that the way they worded it makes it sound like mike could be allowed back in the band. “So, I have decided to take a break and step away from my position in the band..,” and, “While away from the band…” these two phrases make it sound like he will come back, which, in my opinion, is a horrible move and could seriously jeopardize their careers.

i mean, honestly, how many parents are going to allow their kids to go to these shows now that they know the drummer has been accused of sleeping with a minor? there is seriously no fucking way my parents are letting me go to their shows, and these are two people who have loved ptv along with me for years. it just doesn’t seem appropriate to have him back when the majority of their fanbase is the age the girl he “dated” was, or younger. also, doing so would completely change the dynamic of their tours. if he’s let back in, you can kiss meet and greets and fans pulled up on stage for Bulletproof, goodbye. those things won’t happen or be acceptable anymore.

mike is one person of a four-piece band, and he is not the lead singer. yes, it is difficult because he is vic’s brother, and he is and incredible drummer, but he is replaceable. it would be ridiculous to allow him to ruin their careers, and if he truly cares about the other three in the band, he will permanently step away from the band so as not to tarnish their reputations as well. i sincerely doubt that at this point in time he needs the money he would get from being an active member in the band, and i’m sure that they would be more than capable of working out some sort of deal where he can still make a living off of his contributions to the band.

now, for all of the shitty comments that people give in order to justify his actions:

1) i do not care if the age of consent in [INSERT RANDOM COUNTRY/STATE NAME HERE] is lower than 18. in california, where this situation took place, the legal age of consent IS 18. Maybe you disagree with that, but the law in this state clearly states that it is illegal for an adult to be engaged in sexual acts with a minor. also, the way people are raised in different countries can be completely different to how they’re raised in a place like california. not to mention that even if this is the case, it still doesn’t automatically make it right for an adult to date a teenager.

2) stop bringing up the fact that vic and danielle have a ten year age difference. yes, they met when she was 18, but she was of age, and they weren’t in a committed relationship until she was twenty. this argument is void. next,

3) why would this girl be bringing this to light solely because she was jealous of him and was upset that their relationship had ended? wouldn’t she have done that as soon as they had ended things? also, how would she have known that they’d be at the height of their career right now? did you truly believe that 10 years ago, she thought to herself, “in 10 years i’ll get back at him for breaking my heart because that’s when they’re be really big” ??? like, they would have broken up around the time that their second album was coming out, and they were nowhere near the level of fame they are now. how was she to know that they’d be bigger than just some little local band who were barely making a name for themselves? come on.

4) you can support the band without supporting mike. they are not less of a band without him and they should not be reduced to having to live with his actions haunting them. supporting the other members of the band doesn’t automatically mean that you condone Mike’s actions. but it also doesn’t make you less any of a fan to not want him back.

5) i dont care if you were 14 when you started dating your 20 year old boyfriend or whatever and so you think this was okay. it’s not and i’m sorry that your adult partner thinks it’s cool to date kids.

6) no, i do not believe that he is some evil, horrible, monster of a person. but i still don’t want him back in the band. he did something incredibly irresponsible and damaging some time ago, and these are his consequences. i believe that what he did was wrong, and i do not want him back. there is not changing my mind on this and if he is allowed back, i can no longer support the band. it breaks my heart to even think about that, but that is the way it has to be for me. here’s to hoping that it doesn’t have to come to that, but only time will tell.

#asks #anon #ptv #sorry i'm putting this in my ptv tag so if u dont wanna read and engage in discourse just scroll on thanks

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latoyarubalcava3546 · 7 years

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More Than A Dozen Women Come Forward With Sexual Assault Allegations Against Porn Veteran Ron Jeremy — 'He Doesn't Hear No'

Ron Jeremy is the latest celebrity to be called out for alleged sexual assault.

In a new Rolling Stone report, more than a dozen women came forward with accusations of impropriety spanning over 30 years.

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Actress Jennifer Steele claimed the 64-year-old raped her twice, once at a photo shoot and another time at his apartment, in December of 1997.

She told the mag of him allegedly cornering her in a bathroom:

"He was like, 'I need to look at your ass so I can get hard for the photo shoot.' Then it turned into him basically sticking it in without me knowing it was happening. I said flat-out no. It stopped, but it didn't stop soon enough after I said no ... During the whole photo shoot I was thinking, 'Was I just raped? What the fuck just happened?' [But] by the time the shoot was done, I had it in my head that I had somehow exaggerated it and it was an honest mistake ... He just kinda keeps going and pretends like you didn't say anything."

When asked why she didn't report the crime, Steele replied:

"I was pretty promiscuous. I was a stripper. I couldn't prove it."

Adding:

"He hides behind other women's scarlet letters, is what he does. [He] know[s] if someone's a porn star and they say they've been raped, people aren't gonna take it seriously."

Another adult performer, Kendra Sunderland, said Jeremy sucked her breasts without permission at a Dallas expo in 2015:

"People expect this from him. If I went and got mad on Twitter, people would say, 'That's Ron.' But if I said a fan did it, they'd say 'That's not OK, that's crossing a line.'"

As you can probably imagine, it's very difficult for sex workers to come forward with their stories considering the stigma and gray areas that are involved when it comes to being in the adult entertainment industry. Not to mention, sex workers who come forward are "likely to be blamed or disbelieved by law enforcement."

With that said, Rolling Stone spoke with several people in the industry who said Jeremy's behavior is not standard.

Popular performer Julia Ann said:

"I think Ron is an anomaly, and you'd be hard-pressed to say there's any other person who's been able to publicly sexually harass or assault people and get away with it. It's one thing for someone to do it in their hotel room or their condo or their office or their car, but he can do it in the middle of a convention ... When there are dollar signs involved, the lines [of consent] actually get drawn much more distinctly."

In 2003, Jeremy was investigated for criminal sexual conduct after a fan alleged he held her down and raped her in his Michigan hotel room. Charges were not pressed.

Also in 2003, performer Ginger Lynn said Jeremy raped her while they were on location shooting a film in 1983.

In 2007, another fan told police the porn star reached inside her bra, pulled out her breast, and signed it without her permission at an expo in Miami. Jeremy told TMZ at the time:

"I probably signed about 150 boobs that weekend, all of which I sign 'RJ' with a heart.'"

There are just a handful of the many explosive accusations against Ron for years of abuse.

Related: Sylvester Stallone Allegations Bring Half-Sister's Rape Claims Back Into The Spotlight

In a statement to the magazine in response to the many allegations, Jeremy said in full:

"Let me first say, that I'm fully in support of the women and men who have been coming forward about being sexually assaulted. These real predators need to be taken down. My reputation is currently being smeared by these old allegations that have already been investigated and dismissed. However, I understand how social change works, and if my reputation has to get a bit tarnished along the way for the better treatment of women, and men, so be it. I will be there to support all people, men and women, that have bravely come forward to attack this systemic problem.

As for the allegations against me, these allegations have been online and in print for quite sometime. This is not new or breaking news. I'm shocked you guys are picking this up after it's been reported on over and over by other publications and has been proven over and over to be false.

I have never and would never rape anyone. All serious allegations have been investigated by police and dismissed by judges, as have most of the accusations of "Groping". I have never been charged nor spent one day in court for any of this. And these are old allegations. Check, Anything about me appearing in court or in jail, is public record. I was only arrested 20 years ago when I was fighting for Freedom Of Speech with Hal Freeman. The police who looked into the groping charges have always said that they watch the video from the event or whatever and that I did nothing wrong or illegal. They then ask if I want to press charges against The people making false accusations. I never have.

As for the charges of Groping, I say yes, I AM A GROPER. And by groper, I mean I get paid to show up to these shows, events, and photo shoots and touch the people and they touch me. I'm not the young stud I was, but I still draw a crowd. And we are talking about things that are within reason, in front of police officer's and security that are always there as well as the tons of cameras And the general public. But seriously, if you were going to be around Ron Jeremy, wouldn't you assume that I'd be a little bit touchy Feely? Yes. This is what I do for a living. I am not Kevin Spacey, Louis CK, Weinstein, or Cosby.

For over 40 years fans and fellow performers pay money and wait in long lines to meet me. They want autographs, pictures, to flirt with me, physically grab me in different areas (usually my clothed penis), they ask me to touch them and many ask to have me sign their boobs. When I take photos with fans and other performers at these conventions, signings or events, I do sometimes kiss people on the lips or the cheek, sign boobs or whatever they want. There is "put on" flirting and touching for the photos. This is exactly what people pay me for at conventions. The female performers flirt and touch too. It's what we do. If you watch these videos that Ginger Banks put out of me "groping," you see that everyone in the videos is laughing and "groping" too. That I'm not running up to them, they come to me.

If anyone was ever made to feel uncomfortable by ANY of our interactions, I'm deeply sorry. That was never my intention and it breaks my heart in half.

I hope that everyone reading this keeps in mind that I do tons of these conventions and adult signings. I take pictures with about 500,000 people each all over the world and have every year, for 40 years. These touching complaints are the exact same thing everyone else stood in line for. They couldn't be happier.

I have never raped anyone. If anyone continues those claims, that is defamation. I will sue them in court.

I'm not saying that I never met these people or interacted with them. I don't remember most of them, how could I? I may have seen hundreds people on those days. A girl said that I took her into a back room at a convention? Now this I remember. No one pushed anyone anywhere, she and a girl friend of hers asked if they could come in to the back tent with me. "Back room" was actually a small tent where the performers went to relax and eat crafty. There were seven other people in the small tent including security guard. And we took some sexy photos with each other as people looked on or looked at their phones. If I did anything wrong, that security guard who works for the convention, would have taken me down and called the police. And someone claimed that in hedonism in Jamaica, which is a nudist swingers resort, I tried to massage their leg years ago? Why is this even in an article?

I am very happy that the scum bags of the earth are being taken down. They deserve it. But these allegations are pure lies or buyers remorse. In 40 years, I've never been punched by a boyfriend or anyone ever.

I have been heartbroken over these allegations. Not because it affects me or my business, I can take that, but because they are lies and there are actual women and men out there Who have been victims of serious sexual assault, and so on, that are trying to get their voices heard.

Again, It does bother me that there might be women out there that had some buyers remorse after our interactions. But I did nothing wrong or out of the ordinary for these conventions or events. These events are supposed to be a fun time. That video that Ginger Banks made looks like a pro Ron Jeremy video if you turn off the sound. Everyone in the videos is having fun with me.

This really is a non-story. However I'm glad I had a chance to speak my side."

Thoughts??? SOUND OFF in the comments (below)!

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lorettalivingston6911 · 7 years

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More Than A Dozen Women Come Forward With Sexual Assault Allegations Against Porn Veteran Ron Jeremy — 'He Doesn't Hear No'

I look younger now than when I was in my early 20s