#My go to dating site

[amphibianaday]

day 1421

#uh just a heads up if you expand the tags to see all there's. a lot. very long #amphibian #frog #poison dart frog #based on my most popular frog to date (day 651) #inspired by everyone pointing out what they think it looks like #here's a fun secret fact the original guy is actually a phantasmal poison dart frog (Epipedobates tricolor) #(according to the original artists title of the drawing) #not Anthony's poison arrow frog (Epipedobates anthonyi) #i feel too awkward to really point it out though because they look the exact same. i cannot tell if there is a difference #im half convinced the same frog was just discovered and named twice #its very curious btw if you go on the (english) wikipedia page for either species it doesn't mention the other #while hereptiles.info (no idea if this is a trustworthy site) lists both names as common names for the same frog (incorrectly??) #while inaturalist lists them as two different frogs. curiously with tricolor having wayyyyy fewer photos #ok anyway that's my rant i went on a whole journey trying to figure out if these are the same frog or not and i have no answer #i did some more 'research' and i am more confused. some sources seem to imply they are now considered the same species ( e. tricolor) #i think my conclusion is i am willing to agree the drawing looks more like e. anthonyi. it seems like tricolor is generally less vibrant re #and the white is darker and more green? #i feel like thumblr should stop me from typing more in the tags at this point this is a whole essay #at this point i am failry convinced this is specifically the Santa Isabel frog. isthat the real subspecies or morph or whatever #or just the name pet sites are using to sell it?? #i even found some sources (frog selling websites) refering to it as “Epipedobates Anthonyi 'Santa Isabel' Phantasmal Poison Dart Frog” lol #Anyways if you read this far hi. species are confusing. i am not a frog scientist #the first few tags are like an hour old now i just kept trying to figure it out and adding more tags

[saitamastamaticsoup]

Nightbringer is so funny bc if diavolo didn’t threaten to send us back to the human world(idk of that happens I’ve only heard) Lilith would still he here no? I don’t think she would be like a baby when they said she was reborn as a human I just assume they just put her in the world and erased her memories but she was probably reborn as a child and grew up. But she would still be around meaning that it would be so incredibly far into the past because even they had a hard time tracing MC’s lineage😭 so imagine going back to like a time before lightbulbs were invented. Absolutely the FUCK NOT!!! I could not for a second live as a small sickly Victorian child no way I would be able to survive watching people Live in their own filth😭🤢 I’m sorry i’m not witnessing slavery or the black plague Dia has me all the way fucked up I’m too spoiled by modern technology like socks and hoodies

#obey me #obey me shall we date #obey me x black reader #obey me nightbringer #nightbringer lucifer #nightbringer spoilers #om! nightbringer #nightbringer mc #nightbringer diavolo #Barbados you better take my ass home now!! #I think I would actually change the course of history #if you put me in there and I’m watching slavery happen in like real time #I am going to overthrow the Catholic Church and change Christianity and Catholicschism as we know it #i’m going to start killing priests #I’m so serious telling people to shoot Christopher Columbus on site don’t even let them step foot on America #get gone!!! #like they didn’t take baths I know they smell bad🤢 #they have a bouquet of flowers at weddings because those used to be onions #to disguise the smell of how bad people smelled because weddings used to take place in the summer #and these people haven’t discovered soap yet so onions #I would literally be throwing up so quickly #And if we have a canon Lilith design I need that white women to protect me #ain’t no way

[starredforlife]

i feel like im living the bachelor life . badly in need of a haircut. wearing nothing but white tanks and sweatpants and eating food standing up at the counter. licking sauce off my fingers. dropping it all over me. quickly changing into a shirt that i put on backwards. and then i decide that wasn’t messy enough so i hack open a watermelon and eat it outside so i can stare at the cars. and now im going to lift weights while watching an adaption of a stephen king book. jesus christ

#people who know me in real life can attest I am a messy eater and also I devour things like someone is actively trying to steal my food #star’s thoughts #I am enjoying it at least #too nervous to talk to people on dating sites rn idk. might go back and try to memorize world geography again

[fox-guardian]

one thing about me is i fucking hate making new accounts

#ramblings with major #cursing #fighting for my life trying to look into a *shudders* dating app #recent reviews are garbage there's a subscription model that allegedly gets pop ups constantly on the app #and also the support section on their site is kinda also garbage #like i'd like to know about this feature. Without Having To Make An Account To Find Out What It Does #ESPECIALLY if i apparently have to PAY FOR IT FIRST #'what does this feature do' 'vague positive things :) also it costs money :) enjoy!!' #like bro. can i figure out what things are before you direct me to a part of The App I Haven't Downloaded Yet and go 'good luck!!' #anyway i am. struggling. <3 #i don't even have PHONE SPACE can i get a good WEBSITE INSTEAD #so i don't have to DOWNLOAD ANYTHING

[dejwrld]

pretty little liars books were my roman empire

#i hated how much they changed from book to tv adaption #for example Ezra was actually a horrible person #and Aria actually dates Noel in the book 😭 #like it literally grinds my gears that Ezra and Aria was in endgame in the show #and then Spencer having an evil twin….feel like Marlene threw that in there #cause of Ali having a twin and book fans kept asking about it #i do believe tv show writers/marlene focused more on trying to out smart pll viewers of the show #which caused for the show to have so many plot holes and not connecting points tbh #i want to read the books again #but i ain’t buying them #lemme go find a pirate site chileeee

[coockie8]

You wouldn't believe the sheer amount of people that crash and burn on the first hurdle of messaging me on a dating site.

I know you didn't read my profile if you message me in French, 'cause the fact I do not speak French is literally the first thing in my bio.

#the fact there's not a lick of French in my profile wasn't a hint enough that I don't speak it #I had to insert it into my bio #and I *still* get like a dozen messages a day in French #I don't even reply to them #because if you can't be assed to actually read my profile than I can't be assed to respond #I don't understand the point of using a dating site if you're not going to bother reading the profiles of people you message #just go to a fucking bar at that point you'll have the equal amount of info of anyone you hit on

[frosty-the-killer-doll]

sometimes i wish i was a comic book purist so i could tell the arrowverse to fuck off instead of being mentally unhinged abt it

#im gonna have been in this hell for four years soon. four years of nothing but dozens of arrowverse bitches swimming in my bloodstream #im. web weaving for. my Boy................ my Baby Boy....... #(not ollie tho i do plan on making him one) #my Poor Boy who the fandom doesn't love....... #why do i know all the dates of when the main five shows first aired? why do i reread wikia pages constantly? #why do i have a favorite transcript site? #yknow in the conjuring 2 when the old man spirit is screaming LET ME GO? thats me. #[surrounded by my own arrowverse fics and drawings and web weaves and analaysis and memes] i hate the arrowverse

[shedidntevenswear]

Wait this is fun I want to confess my swiftian crimes

#before yall crucify me: I literally worked two streets over #the train was right there #and i NEVER go/went when i know shes in the city #its a site along my journey to other places never a destination #also the studio rumor lol i just blindly believed my sister when she texted me #and turns out she was also just guessing like a dummy #i also have lots of thoughts on the choice to date boring men #and im sure they are interesting TO HER lol

[pxrplepolkadots]

#banger #glenn frey #I shouldn't have been singing this in middle school but I was lmao #also my college has this dating matching site they make every year for valentines day and I joined it for shits and giggles #and I matched with a cute guy and he matched me back #literal butterflies yall. #but then when it came time to message him #I'm just so painfully awkward and boring he'll never respond to me again😭 #this is my first experience with any sort of online dating thing and I just flub it so fucking hard it's embarrassing #anyways hope y'alls valentines day is going better than mine 💔 #personal

[freepassbound]

Have you ever tried dating apps?

I have an account on one (for the last... year?) - I wouldn't say I've really tried, this time around? I wrote a profile but haven't been back to finalize it, never uploaded the six photos it wanted - and I haven't paid for it.

I did make a go of one - I guess it would be five years ago now? On the same site, actually - and did date someone for several months (almost half a year).

Right now I'm in a place where I don't really feel like my mental health is consistently in a good enough place, or that, between moving to teaching full-time again and still doing four or five hours of tutoring a week, I have the kind of available time I'd want to be able to devote to someone (which honestly isn't true from an outside perspective, but that's how it feels - and the mental health plays a big role in that).

And it just seems like there is nothing about dating sites, or apps, or whatever, that isn't a direct thrust into my biggest anxieties - I hate pictures of myself; I hate having to write very short, unnuanced, uniformly positive descriptions of myself (and I don't particularly like that that's all I get on other people, either - I want to see more about people, not less); I hate having to message first; and I hate, hate, hate having to make instantaneous yes/no decisions, which is how all of them seem to work now... I want to be able to dwell on it while I look at other people, I want to be able to say "I don't know" and come back and look again later, dammit! It's the Tinderization of the online dating ecosystem, and it's awful.

(And all of which is almost certainly why I still cling to the idea of meeting someone here - this place is a far better expression of ourselves than any dating site will ever be, you can follow and like and reblog from someone for ages, there's no pressure to post photos...)

One day I might really try again. I have no idea when that will be. I'll probably have to force myself to - I never really feel ready for it. The site that I have tended toward recently basically gutted itself and removed or heavily reduced the features I liked most about it, so I probably need to think of alternatives - which I should probably do anyway, because looking in more places is always better, right? But it'll still be awhile.

#I mean even aside from the whole D/s aspect #there's a *reason* my main fantasies involve a lady literally grabbing me and making me hers #the idea of the whole process of meeting strangers and dating just scares the hell out of me #and so I dream of somehow... avoiding it #and constantly come up with reasons to avoid it #like feeling I don't have the time #or feeling I need to work on myself #physically and mentally #or feeling like the sites won't work for me #(and yes I'm intentionally not mentioning which site I'm on) #even the only time it actually worked it wasn't how it's 'supposed' to go #she messaged first #and her icebreaker was 'what are your biggest kinks?' #which I somehow managed to answer honestly 😅 #and... bang zoom away it went #...I don't have a lot of confidence in that happening again #free floating anxiety #thank you for the question though #I imagine there has been a distinct undercurrent of... lonlieness?... in my tags recently that sparked it #asks #it is what it is

[dalishthunder]

Man... I hate dating it's literally the worst

#Matched with someone #got on with her really well but I mentioned that I don't buy wool because i personally can't get behind animal agriculture #and she was like well all my hobbies revolve around wool so i don't think we should date #like okay whatever #tried joining a vegan/vegetarian dating site and literally all of the people on there have fat people excluded from their match list #like okay whatever I guess I'm going to die alone? idk #odt

[pzos-amiserableidiot]

was watching tiktok and a video had the song michael in the bathroom playing and I was vicerally reminded of being in middle and high school and mom always mentioning how much I looked like my dad (his name is michael) and how I slowly was able to start noticing it too and whenever I sang the song it reminded me of him and I felt like we were overlapping too often felt like id never be anyone but a shadow or his mirror and then i began learning i was trans and now the song makes me think of him even more (he’s not a bad dad he tells me he’s proud of me and stuff there’s just two really big moments he unknowingly failed and one long continuous one but he loves me and he’s proud and he supports me and he didn’t mean it and ive learned to make that enough) and the weird flashback I got when I heard that song and overlapping with his face and how if I transitioned I almost fear I’d be his clone and yeah Anywyas banger song

#the moments were that time he told me how he used to want something to be wrong with him and he’d cut himself to try and prove something was #and he showed me his incredibly faint scars and this was after I told them I was depressed and his solution was to tell me he faked it???? #and didn’t even see anything wrong or worrying that he’d cut himself or was self destructive or wished something was wrong so he’d have #something to blame for being the way he was and like DAD THATS DEPRESSION but I was too numb and shocked and felt so so so betrayed becuase #it felt mocking at the time like his way of comforting me. his child. was to fucking show me his scars and be like I faked it so I know #it’s real and sorry I don’t understand WTF DAD #Other time was when he gave me his phone to play Pokémon go and I betrayed his trust (he didn’t like anyone going through his phone) and #went looking through and found Grindr and saw some shirtless photos and people messaging before I left #dad had a shirtlesss photo on there. and I had to pretend everything was fine and erase the evidence and give the phone back and help look #for furniture for our new house and never tell mom cause she’s been through so much already (I really shouldn’t have known I wasn’t her #therapist but this is about daddy issues right now not the mommy ones) so anyways I never told him and years later he told me his friends #signed him up for Grindr as a prank and to make friends and that’s why he thinks someone from his work I pranking him by signing him up #for a gay furry dating site and yet I saw him on his bed sometimes messaging people and yeah #oh and the long continous one was not divorcing mom and defending her saying she loves us when she rejected me and my sister for being trans #and being gone for most of my childhood working and never understanding the fucked up dynamic of home that took place and resenting him for #ruining the perfect routine (sharp words scary feelings always wanting to cry) #anyways michael in the bathroom always gives me weird feelings #cause I hate and love my dad and I looked up to him so much and loooking like him would’ve been a dream but sometiems the wrongs he did #come back haunt my thoughts and I want to scratch and tear apart every feature that makes me look like him. I look nothing like my mom so #there’s nothing physical to tear apart (I just act like her sometimes and have to force myself not the throw up and attack myself from the #disgust)

[foundgirlpigeon]

I'm just,,,, tired

#Broke up recently and am in complete exhaustion from dating #With deteriorating mental heath #And while I am on dating sites I alrwady know I'm neither going to get anything substantial nor do I want it #Further increased by my asexuality and (demi) aromanticity #For the first time I'm genuinely enjoying being single #And this message just hurts #cw vent #vent post #arophobia #acephobia #asexual #aromantic #demi aromantic #acearo

[liliumaa]

Regarding the possible tumblr shut down im just gonna. be here. but my other links are here if youre interested!

my discord is liliumaa (same as my username here) feel free to send me a friend request if you want. If I take a while to respond pls pls dont take it personally i just overthink and get tired easily

#gonna go on a vent / rant /whatever for a sec since i wanna get stuff off my chest to those who follow me #i apologize for my infrequency in posting on (most) sites i have some form of anxiety that makes me get paralyzed when trying to work on ar #anytime i work on anything that isnt a commission or big project im like IM WASTING MY TIME URGRGHRHRH #but .... i just need to be silly rn its not that deep #so for those who are in any projects im running and i postpone the dates alot well HERES WHY LOLLLL #lil speaks

[obstinaterixatrix]

Oh while chatting with alicia and air I go ‘yeah if life doesn’t work out at least I have the fantasy of quitting my job and going back to office work, then I can at least be miserable in a different way’ & air goes like ‘all of your fantasies are about being miserable in a different way’ & I’m like. ‘N. Not true. There’s the one about getting swept off my feet by a hot rich older woman,’

#my ramblings #if I’m honest a lot of the fantasies I entertain is hitting a button with the potential to go nuclear #whenever you see me talk about joining a dating site to solicit a toxic and terrible outing #that’s what it is. #I mean realistically I’ll either hook no one or have an awkward time at worst #but the fantasy is experiencing something terrible that doesn’t matter at all <3 #contained self-destruction. #I know how that sounds. don’t worry about it. #listen all I have is the fantasy because 1) can’t get drunk 2) can’t do drugs #3) can’t get into religion 4) can’t ruin my life with torrid love affair #I have to go through life so sober. so fucking sober. going insane is my only outlet. #life has me on a baby leash

[rednqueer]

how can tumblr's UI be this aggressively awful like,,, this has to be intentional there's no way they managed to find this many incompetent designers and developers and got to hire them all, and only them

#seriously. using this is actively torturous #it hurts my brain to use this site #and like what's up with the algorithm stuff why do I see the same shit on my feed for half a day #while the tags I follow have a bunch of new stuff on them? #all y'all'd have to do is order posts by their date of creation #and you failed even that. #it's not even an entire SQL statement #what on earth is going on here