#actualllyadhd

[theladysteffi]

There is someone VERY close in my life that I wish understood this!! Reposted @structuredsucc It can be hard to love, or even care for, yourself when you're neurodivergent. At least part of the reason this is so difficult comes down to the messages we receive from others. When those messages are so often harsh, othering, and filled with misunderstanding, we can internal those and they can become the way we speak to ourselves as well. [Image Description] Rainbow outlines of geometric shapes float above a white background. [Transcript] Neurodivergent people generally get more negative feedback for completely inconsequential things than neurotypical people. When we're repeatedly told that even the smallest things we're doing are wrong, self-worth, self-esteem, and self-love can be incredibly hard. [Tags] #adhdcoach #adhd #actualllyadhd #neurodivergent #autism #autistic #selflove #selfcare 🌹LadySteffi (at Warrendale, Detroit, Michigan) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpnbpHzMOKj/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#adhdcoach #adhd #actualllyadhd #neurodivergent #autism #autistic #selflove #selfcare

[maxillo]

its surreal growing up aromantic and just... not realizing it bc of how affection, attraction, and love in general are handled in the west in mainstream. like seriously even when i DID find out there was a word for it, it took 2 more years of questioning it to realize i’ve always been aromantic, bc i misinterpreted some of my prior experiences as evidence to the contrary. and then when you start unraveling and scrutinizing that kind of thing its just made me realize more and more i have literally NO idea what romantic love/attraction is actually... supposed to be? or even how romantic orientations work to begin with?

i’m not sure if me being neurodivergent also affects it, but intimacy for my own case has absolutely no basis on gender. like, really the only thing that matters is how much i vibe with the person, that’s it. but its not bi/panromantic either bc theres no romantic desire to it or any feelings specifically induced by gender. i never really experience any desire to “enter a relationship” because like... if it’s already at a high vibing point (the only condition where i consider QPP status), then adding any labels onto it isn’t changing the relationship to me or becoming something “different” with new expectations of affection or whatnot. it’s just a new name for what already existed. so it’s not exclusive either. idk what to call all that but quoiromanticism fits the bill the closest.

of course, i dont say that like its better or superior than romantic attraction, it’s just interesting to think abt bc.. at least from my own perceptions over the years, i have a very different understanding of intimacy that doesn’t fit the romantic spectrum at all, but it’s hard to even say that for certain because i can’t completely pin down what romance even is. and of course everyone has their own interpretations of what it means for them so there isn’t exactly a universal definition to begin with, but the more i try to understand it the more confused i become. the most surreal part of it for me is the fact that a majority of people just “get” it or “feel” it... nothin’ bad about it, it’s just so weird to think how that’s the Normal Expected Thing that Almost Everyone experiences, or so it’s described.

#aromantic #quoiromantic #max yaks #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #lgbt #adhd #actualllyadhd #neurodivergent

[all-that-jazz-93]

What do we want? A linear understanding of the concept of time!

When do we want it? Uhhhhhh.....

#adhd #actualllyadhd #shitposting #shitpost

[adhighdefinition]

hands up if you’ve ever been made to feel ashamed for having adhd

#🙌🙌🙌 #adhd #actualllyadhd #text post #personal