#am i using this term correctly

[adastra121]

Leander: MC! Guess what my coat’s made out of. MC: If you say “boyfriend material”— Leander: I wasn’t going to! MC: Okay. Then I don’t know, what’s it made out of? Leander: *gets down on one knee* Husband material.

#touchstarved #touchstarved game #touchstarved leander #leander x mc #mc x leander #incorrect quotes #incorrect quote #source: twitter #i think I remember a question being asked here which li would be the first to propose and most people said leander #I agree XD I feel like if anyone were to have a whole shotgun wedding it’d be him #am I using that term correctly? #a marriage process that’s like BAM! engagement BAM! wedding. we’re married. let’s gooooooooooo! #so I used him for this quote

[bonus-links]

I feel like slate (selectively mute?) Choosing to talk vocally to loft is a sign of trust from slate, mixed in with convenience (hard to sign while gliding for example) and needing to get through Loft's thick skull. But it makes me happy they're close enough that slate felt the sacrifice worth it

i’d say that’s a pretty accurate reading for why he speaks in that scene! it felt right to him in that moment.

while I’d say pre-calamity link (I’ll call him Champion, for future reference) was probably selectively mute, I’m not really sure if that’s exactly the case for Slate 🤔 he prefers to sign and speaks rarely, though probably more often than Champion. How much of that is hold-over muscle memory from Champion? he tries not to think about it.

#ask #bonus content #bonus slate #bonus champion #want to make sure I am using terms correctly #as a general rule I headcanon every link as having some point in their life when they didn’t speak #some speak rarely still and some don’t speak at all

[cilantlis]

are durge/orin a foil to bhaalspawn/imoen? discuss (/ is not used to indicate relationship, just 2 characters as a non romantic pair)

#nullsense #not sure if i am using the term foil correctly

[thanatos-godkiller]

Hello people of Tumblr, I come to you with a proposition. I am in need of subjects to paint on the various rocks, so if you wish to see something painted upon a rock please place your request within my “ask box.” I will complete all of the requests within reason.

Ballin.

🪨

#jrwi apotheosis #jrwi thanatos #jrwi rp #in character #I believe i am using the term ballin correctly #I have also discovered these mini images called “emojis” I do believe

[finchers-ipad]

Hiiiiiiiii ^___^ Since ur a tyler has autism truther,.do u have any hcs surrounding that idea? If not u can ignore this 💀 but god I just want to talk to someone about it..

I won’t write a LOT about it right now but all I’ll say is if the narrator had a difficult time finding out he had it….it’s worse for Tyler. Well maybe. Either he got diagnosed as a kid (along with other stuff) or he’s just living up till the age he is now, not knowing or thinking he can even have it.. which I’m sure is not good that he doesn’t know why he is the way he is sometimes. I dunno <_>

hiii!! i’m sorry it has taken me so long to get to this, but i have been pondering this ask for a few days lmao. tbh i don’t have a lot of hcs surrounding tyler having autism (but i would love to hear yours!!). i also have been doing a bit of research to try and find the right terms to vocalise the ones i do have, but if i get things wrong let me know!! (tw: mention of sh)

the couple that i have is personally i don’t think tyler knows that he has it, i also don’t think he knows much about autism and therefore hasn’t identified any traits he has etc. he just knows that he struggles internally sometimes and he doesn’t know why.

tyler doesn’t have many sensory issues i wouldn’t think (looking at the state of the paper street house and the different clothing materials that he always wears). and the ones he does have manifest in hyposensitivity in touch, for example he can feel really under-stimulated in lighter situations this can be him needing to seek different textures and things but this could also be another reason he starts fights and maybe puts cigarettes out on himself.

hyposensitivity also manifests in taste for him, such as seeking out spicy foods and strong flavours. say if he was ordering pizza, i think he would get a concoction of every ingredient on the menu on one pizza (the narrator would be truly horrified at this btw).

i feel like tyler would become really hyperfixated on certain topics and go on rants. like in the film when he is ranting about capitalism and consumerism. he would want to soak up all knowlage about topics that interest him, when he was a a teenager or even as he got older he would spend hours at the library or reading books he picked up at the thrift store, just researching one topic.

also i headcannon that tyler has a random comfort item (i know this is really ooc because of his whole material possessions beliefs but hear me out) something like a really ratty old blanket. and eventually the narrator is like “um tyler can you throw that thing away, it’s gross, we’ll find you a new one” and tyler is just like “i’d like to keep it 😐….it still works”

buts that’s all i can really think of rn :)) as i said if you have any hc’s please share them because i am very curious and would love to talk about it!!!

#ty for the ask! #i’m so sorry it took me a bit to get to it 😭 #as i said idk how accurate these are or if i am using terms correctly #i have just kind of taken research that i am doing into autism for myself and kind of applied it to tyler 💀 #so feel free to correct me #tyler durden

[truecorvid]

the problem with having been active on the internet for over a decade and active on social media for just about as long is that sometimes i really realllly want to like. engage in healthy/casual debate about topics that i see being talked about but. i know it won't go that way. i know that if i engage in the way that i would like to (not just directly agreeing with what's being said) i'm going to immediately telegraph myself as some sort of chud trying to pick fights online over pedantic shit which in turn will immediately put people on the defensive. i've seen this play out. i know how this will end.

#teeth.txt #especially if there's some sort of character limit or something or if i'm trying to be brief lol #this was sparked by seeing a comment #on a video that was like 'FINALLY someone is using the 5 stages of grief model correctly‚ originally it was #used to describe one's own death‚ not the grieving process' #and i realllllllly wanted to be like 'oh it's interesting that you posit the idea that it's incorrect to use it to describe grieving #when the woman who came up with the concept was basing it on her interactions with terminally ill patients coming to terms with dying #which to me seems like a grief process in and of itself #and also i don't think it's necessarily useful to posit things in terms of correctness when it's simply that the 'five stages of (whatever #it was originally called)' were then also used to describe what other researchers(? or just people) deemed to be a similar experience' #but i don't think any of that would have gone over well. #it's hard because i genuinely do think it's interesting. like i wanna explore why this person is approaching it in a different way than i am #but i Will just sound like someone being like Um Actually I Know More Than You You Dumb Idiot

[skoulsons]

Tlou2 spoilers

Ellie writing that Joel was “a soft twang of nylon. A smell of wood oil” is the most depressing and emotionally riveting thing I’ve ever read to this day

She longed for his comfort way after he was gone. Probably wished she hugged him that night so she could’ve felt him again. That grounding presence. His heartbeat she fell asleep to so many nights. The arms that held her at her worst. That smell of home. Of him, once a stranger she couldn’t stand, to someone she couldn’t go without, even in death. That a person…a violent man who’s killed hundreds of people, tortured plenty, lost almost everyone close to him, is deeply traumatized and haunted by the things of his past, and who has only ever been about survival, was her home. He was like nylon to her

#tlou2 spoilers #am i a masochist? #maybe. #in terms of thinking about them every day that sends me into an emotional spiral? absolutely I am #just thinking about her incredibly heartbreaking journal entries!! #and how she couldn’t draw his face correctly or his eyes the whole time!! #because it was so hard to relive and he was so messed up that she probably couldn’t even picture him correctly!! #not til her every last entry!! #how she couldn’t sleep bc she kept seeing him!! #or how a dying boar reminded her of him!! #IM FINE !! #the last of us part 2 #joel miller #ellie williams #the last of us

[flower-biter]

22-28 April 2024

WHOOPS this is late but last week sure was A Week™

Work work work

Applied for the manager position. Still not really sure if I actually want it, but I feel so protective of this team and don’t want an outsider to screw up our dynamic, and multiple people have asked if I’d applied because they think I could be a good fit. I guess discomfort is part of growth, but I’m also so full of doubt whether this is growth in the right direction. Sometimes I just want to quit and look for a fully remote job so that I could live anywhere I wanted (and could afford), but that requires energy that I currently just don’t have. I feel like I’m in a holding pattern but I’m not sure what I’m waiting for, besides myself to make a decision. And while I dither, opportunities can fade. I don’t know if I’ll ever get better at this.

Listened to a lot of old favorite music this week and wrote a lot about my feelings and memories with it and shared it with a new friend and it felt like…undressing. Sharing these (perfectly common, public) sounds should not feel so intimate. And yet.

Blood donation again; got a good grade in blood. Did not pass out, did have a hard time getting up the next day with some delayed fatigue. I think butterball thought I was injured because he was extra affectionate, and slept very close to me that night, purring constantly (which is very cute, but does make sleep difficult because he purrs so loudly).

Little joy: funky earrings from the artisan market in Charleston! Brushed brass + antler slices, just the right weight and swingy-ness

Dinner with a friend at one of the nicer restaurants in town, founded by an Italian gentleman and mostly staffed with folks from Sardinia (and yes, the food is amazing). Friend’s cancer treatment is going to take longer than initially expected, but the prognosis is still good and he’s just doing radiation, not chemo. He’s looking healthier than he has in a while, though, and is cheerier than expected. Chicken piccata (perfectly lemony) + tiramisu (not too sweet) = happy belly

Might try to buy a house, again - third time’s the charm? My realtor contacted me out of the blue with a townhouse that’s just my size and budget and looks move-in ready, so I frantically re-applied for a mortgage with better terms and scheduled a viewing. I don’t love the location, but also can’t really afford to be super picky. At least I’d be closer to my friends and sister and have my own space.

Checked out the house. It’s fine, perfectly nice. I could certainly make it mine. But I just feel…empty looking at it. I don’t want to sink a ton of money into a house and have one more root/anchor tying me to this town I hate don’t really care for and desperately want to leave.

Walking around Charleston, I saw a lesbian couple getting married in a park: just them and the officiant, and they looked so, so happy and lovely and I definitely teared up a little bit to see such public pride and joy and love for a queer couple.

I have to make big life decisions and it’s so so so hard. Charleston was fun as always but also exhausting (joined five tours and oh my goodness, I’m so tired, so many people). I got to eat lots of good food and smell some wonderful flowers and see a cool exhibition at the museum. And then the owner of my company asked me: would I consider moving to Charleston and working for her full time? Within the next year or so? What would she have to pay me to make it happen? And yes yes yes I want to move to Charleston so badly (it's beautiful, near the beach, great food, bigger queer community, lots of things to do, walkable/bikable, more flexible work with this company, so many reasons to move there!) it’s just. SO expensive. I gave her a number and she said she’d work on it and check back in in 6 months, and gave me a raise in the meantime without my even asking for it (whereas my full-time day job just celebrated my 1-year anniversary but won’t even offer a cost-of-living adjustment/raise). I want to make this happen. It’s so good to have a goal to work toward: paying off the last of my student loans and building enough savings to make the move within the next year. But it's also just so much everything that my brain just feels like !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So. A very emotional whiplash kind of week, and now I just feel totally wiped out. I think a lot of this fatigue is emotional/decision more than physical, but it's still making itself known.

Have a photo dump. I'm going to try to turn my brain off from thinking about work/the future/oh god what am i doing with my life by crocheting with Elementary playing in the background.

pictured: roses on iron / funky tilework / morning downtown / welcoming committee / new earrings / a really quite good pinot grigio / cemetery cat / street findings / overgrown graveyard / even these bikes have me asking 'me and who?' / jasmine trellis + peggy martin roses / overpasses / park breakfast / charleston harbor, low tide / a sort of selfie

last week

#there is in fact a difference between a graveyard and a cemetery and yes i did use those words correctly here #also: savory scones are superior. this one was cheddar & scallion and perfectly buttery and crispy. so good #the cemetery cat (some kind of guardian surely) did let me pet it for quite a while #very soft and sweet #it's been a good week but oh no now i have to make decisions and plan for the future to actually get the future i (think i) want #help i'm doubting everything #but i'm also not very happy here and dont really see the future i want where i am. this is my in between #finding the balance between finding peace with/joy in a weird transitory period and not losing sight of longer term ambitions/goals is #very hard. aaaaaaaaaaaahhhh #well. the time will pass anyway #catalog of little joys

[devotedlystrangewizard]

actually ketheric is such a good foil for the dark urge and it will make me a little insane

#ramblings #might elaborate when i get back might not #am i using the term correctly idk

[butchdonne]

happy you day!!

also im going to steal a terfs kneecaps

thank you!!! and i’m going to join you <3

#hrgh. hate #just got an anon like ‘yk there’s a difference between a radfem and a transhphobe’ #yes i am aware and i have been using the terms correctly mf #pip squeaks

[autobotmedic]

"It is often a struggle to be one of the few Braincell Holders."

#ratch: have i used this term correctly #or is it keeper of braincells #mmh #[SHENANIGANS] such strange uncharted territory #[STATUS] but I am here

[mrs-kelly]

Selfshippers need to kinda be careful using the term soulbonding because it's a term that has roots in the plurality/multiplicity spaces.

https://multiplicity.fandom.com/wiki/Soulbond_System

Just wanted to warn you because you're a lovely mutual and I don't want you stumbling into syscourse accidentally!

Thank you for the resource! I appreciate you looking out for me.

If I'm being honest, I agree that it could be dangerous for people to use the term lightly. It's why I've been holding back from using it myself, and I wanted to do more research before I decided to say anything about it at all. I don't feel comfortable sharing what leads me to believe that I can identify with that term or any of the culture around it yet, but I feel safe in saying that it's one that makes sense for me.

The link you sent me is actually one that I've read through before, and I encourage anyone else to read through it as well. @jamesfiance also made a post with a few resources that I thought were helpful.

I have to say that I personally can't tell anyone what their experience is, or what counts as "real soulbonding," but I ask that if anyone suspects they might be experiencing it, or if they see the term and think that it sounds cool, please do your research. It is a serious experience and a lifestyle that many people live every day with. It's like a belief system.

The plurality aspect of it is hard for me to touch on without being too personal, but I don't really find myself interacting in those communities much. I have mutuals who are plural, and if they have opinions, I'd be happy to hear about them.

I'm not the best at articulating these kinds of things, which is why I'm not someone who comments on things like this often, so I want to make it clear that I'm not claiming to be an authority on any of these things, and I can only speak for my experiences and how I believe they fit into this term and the culture around it as I've researched it. That being said, I want to reiterate that selfshippers should do their research before identifying with it. Because the experience is more than having a deep connection with an f/o, but it's hard for me to explain in a cogent and concise way.

#man ajfhklds i'm trying hard to make it clear that i am not taking any of this lightly #im just all shaky bc this is rly important to me. and i want to be able to talk about my experiences with it #and im aware that i have a not-insignificant amount of people who'll see what I post about this and i want to represent- #my thoughts and feelings correctly #i admit that i don't know much about s.yscourse or what that looks like in detail; i don't look at d.iscourse in general #but if anyone reads this and does get hurt by anything ive said or feels annoyed bc im not understanding #pls know that you can talk openly with me about it. im not a person who's fixed in these things #im always learning and trying my best to be a person who does the least harm possible #on the flipside; if im taking this way seriously and its not a big deal then i apologize #like i said; this is very important to me. ive never met people who experience this before #and i thought for a long time that i was alone in it and weird #im trying my best to share my experiences at a pace that feels comfortable for me #while still assuring people who may worry that im an interloper using the term lightly that that is not the case #thanks again anon for looking out for me <3 i appreciate the heads up #ren speaks #ask to tag #it might be good for me to come up with a tag about this kind of thing too but. i wanna brainstorm a bit

[fwoofz]

feeling very cheezepilled rn ngl

#am i using the pilled term correctly

[isawjamfirst]

my semester is starting again soon yet im still in a ship brainrot

#can u guess #go figure #its vashwood #if theres one thing im projecting #its wolfwood #cuz i cant have vash #in my parasocial era #am i even using that term correctly #can u tell im a bit insane #like can u tell that i might need help #is she ok #not tf #pls be concerned #a bit delusional but thats just how i roll w life

[troublewithvampires-a]

@bxtsence said: 1 (sexuality asks)

(sexuality asks - open)

what do you label your muse as, and how do they label themselves? is there a difference, and if so, why?

//thank you for asking this one, because this is one i actually was kinda hoping to talk about, haha!

so, i label salvatore as a polyamorous greyromantic bisexual trans man (i did originally list him as pan, but i think bi vibes a bit more with him specifically as a label, but honestly i'm not really gonna get into all of that right now because to me personally the minutiae doesn't matter too much. point is, he's attracted to all genders.)

sal labels himself, however, as nothing. he doesn't use any labels for himself for the most part, and in fact he barely understands what any queer labels actually mean. i think he'd call himself queer eventually after he comes to accept himself a lot more down the line, and he may even finally actually consider himself transsexual, but until then if you ask him he'll probably say, "what are you, a cop?"

and this is a bit twofold for salvatore in my intentions. for one thing, i love writing a queer character who doesn't know *shit*. i was joking with a friend recently that there's a good chance that salvatore, at least for a time, thought he was the first and only trans man to exist. that's how much he doesn't know shit. like characters who know themselves super well are all fine and dandy, but i think it's interesting to have a character who doesn't know how to put words to his experiences.

and my other thought is that salvatore gets to be the reflection of the part of me that's kinda tired of trying to label every part of my queer experience. to be clear, there is *nothing* wrong with having a lot of labels or microlabels or anything like that. at the end of the day, if the label serves you and your experiences, that's what matters.

but like........ i'm kinda tired, y'all. part of me likes to joke about being a label hoarder and that's fun, but i'm also like. i just kinda wanna be Just Some Guy. my gender is both complicated and simple and so is my orientation, and sal can be like that too. for me personally, it's not really that useful to stress about finding the perfect labels to define me. i'm just a guy! i'm here, i'm queer, and i'm just a guy.

guess what i'm trying to say is. oh he's just like me fr.

#❝ i'll talk your ear off‚ kid ❞「 answered 」 #❝ there i was‚ a gangster turned vampire on the loose ❞「 headcanons 」 #bxtsense #//feel this is probably more than i meant to say haha #//but yeah idk i think about this a lot #//but also yeah. it's kinda fun to write sal as someone who uses quote-unquote 'outdated' terminology #//if he uses any at all #//i find it kinda refreshing in contrast with my more quote-unquote 'correctly labeled' muses #//i think queer discourse and exclusionism has just exhausted me lmao #//(also i've been trying to find a way to phrase this that doesn't shit on people who *do* enjoy and find use in having a lot of labels) #//(genuinely if that makes you happy more power to you) #//(but i'm like. idk man) #//wanna be more like salvatore someday and just make my identity other people's fuckin problem to figure out #//also re: sal using transsexual for himself #//don't @ me about that and the differences between transsexual vs transgender #//trust me. i am aware. i am trans myself #//that's the term i think he would prefer though

[captaincolorblob]

Not to post about Marvel on main but i just watched the first episode of Ms.Marvel and i have never fucking related to a character more what the fuck

#msmarvel #mcu #the whole bismillah before driving thing #while i dont have my own drivers license yet my parents do that #i felt personally called out when mr wilson said kamalla drew a lot in class and got distracted easily #the whole hating to go shopping for events thing #the gossipy aunts #however i am disapointet that they got the greeting wrong its 'salem ailekum-ailekum selam' you switch the words around #also apologies for any wrong spellings i'm only used to saying those not writing them #kamallas relationship with her parents just felt like a punch in the gut cause i know exactly how she feels #her dad even looks a bit like mine #also her trying to make a cosplay thats not to tight and her mum telling her not to walk around half nacked like the other girls #i felt so bad for her when she said her necklace was her name in arabic to that one girl cause same #i have a similiar eye necklace and know what its like talking about islamic stuff to non-muslims #they dont say outright discriminatory things but the looks they give say all #i am also quite proud of myself for guessing correctly on what the terms for family mebers like beta and abba mean cause they're a bit #similiar to the ones in turkish #i only got nani wrong #dia rambles #on a side note i am a bit confused on her powers #apologies for the ramble in the tags i had to let that out