#don’t think I’m being exclusionary or anything

[alaanz]

Ahhhh Jefffffffffff:(

He means everything to me.

I’m gonna try and write this without any ‘spoilers’ that may come true in the show.

He’s just trying to get his work done and Babes over here having a hissy fit cos he saw Jeff and Charlie hugging. Babe really needs to get himself under control cos this ain’t a good look on him. Like I understand that Charlie isn’t really explaining things to him, and outright lying in some cases.

But what’s Jeff ever done :(

Jeff’s right tbh. I understand that X Hunter are like a family and they look out for each other, but that doesn’t mean that everything’s free reign. Like Jeff’s also an employee here that’s practically being threatened by one of his coworkers. And no one’s really doing that much abt it.

I hope Jeff actually goes on strike lol.

Looking at next episode just makes me more sad too. Granted, we don’t know the context behind why they think Jeff sabotaged Babes car. Maybe there’s an anonymous tip. Maybe Way manipulates someone. Who knows???

But again, it feels kinda exclusionary. Like I understand that cos Jeff’s the new guy then there’s more cause for caution with him. But also they’ve been letting Charlie just wander around doing fuck knows what all this time. So clearly they’re not too cautious about security.

I still wanna know if Jeff did anything about his little vision he had earlier on. Did he try and do something to stop it. Doesn’t look like it. But maybe if he did, someone else could have seen that and thought he was sabotaging the car.

What I want to say over all tho is that I trust Jeff. He’s mine now. And if Alan doesn’t want him then me and Jeff can just be friends and chill together without him >:(

OH, and I LOVE KIM!

He’s the best. He’s came all the way here and just wants to race. But Loser keeps getting in the way trying to throw money around to win.

Seeing Kim deck Loser square in the face was the best part of this episode. Chefs kiss. He should do it more often.

Also he reminds me SO much of Kevin day. If Kevin was into motorsports he would be Kim. Eat, sleep, race, repeat.

#pit babe #pit babe the series #babe x charlie #alan x jeff #pit babe episode 4 #I probably took this more seriously than it actually warrants #but babe and charlie need to sort their shit out and fuck already so jeff can get some peace and quiet #love u jeff #love u kim

[sexisdisgusting]

Soz idk where else to say this so I’m saying it to you: I just realized, I think the reason TRAs in particular are so dismissive of feminism and oppressive sexism, instead only focusing on choice feminism, is bc if we actually acknowledged how oppressed females are, then they’d be forced to realize how fucked up it is to “identify” as us.

Example: They know transracial is bad, they know it’s bad to identify as a race you aren’t, because you can’t identify into a marginalized group like that when you’re not part of it! Obviously!

But if that’s true, what about women? Sexism is just as bad as racism, just as systemic and violent. Why is it ok for the oppressor group to not only identify as a marginalized sex group they’re not a part of, but then go on to speak over said marginalized group and destroy their spaces and wish death and rape on them for being upset by their oppressors “identifying” as them? Racial dysphoria is a thing too, I know people who have racial dysphoria, yet they know clearly that it’s offensive to “transition” into a group they don’t belong to, they work through their dysphoria in other ways instead.

so what’s the difference? Like really? What is the difference? The answer is there isn’t one. No one can think of a solid reason why one is ok and the other isn’t. Race and gender are both social constructs, but are based on biological and genetic traits. Race and gender both come with inherent trauma, including generational trauma. Race and gender both have history and family ties attached to them. Both are connected to lineage. What’s the difference?!

since no one can answer this, libfems will either get completely stuck and just ignore it, or they will end up at one of 2 stops. Those being that either “transracial” is valid, or that women aren’t really THAT oppressed. Usually these yt folk know better than to go for the former, so that leaves the latter. The reality of systemic sex based oppression defeats their entire ideology. I should know, I’m 20, I was trans identified for 10 years, grew up in the community, and just thinking about this critically for 3 fucking seconds made me do a complete 180 in a week. A. Week.

(I’m poc though, I get yt trans don’t really gaf bout us unless we’re useful as o mystical kweer savages who had 3000 genders. For those of you who don’t understand racism, think about transabled or something like dat. It’s not quite the same, but you get it. Disability is really just a social construct assigned to a real phenomena! Now imagine a group of “transautistic” people getting an autism support centre defunded, spraypainting “kill all trans-autistic exclusionary disabled rights activists” on the windows, and nailing dead rats to the doors, because they weren’t assisting “trans-autistic” people. You get it?)

Leaving yall on this. If you support dylan mulvaney then u should also support oli london, because they’re the same.

my fucking god anonita

you neednt EVER apologize for blessing my askbox like this holy shit

i dont think i have anything to add except that you are so fucking right, you summed it up PERFECTLY

i started reading this ask while laying down and found myself sitting up by the end of it

im so happy knowing an intelligent woman like you is following me, and im so fucking proud of you

#asks #anon asks

[mediapen]

❤️‍🩹 why is is that I can’t get my C*****News from anyone but you like I’m so sorry for being crazy but the way you idk vet stuff and make sure I don’t see anything but the finest particles is so. Calming ig like I can’t handle hearing about him from anyone who isn’t #weird about him like you are. I get so sick about it like I feel as if no one should think about him if it isn’t in the way the small circle of like 7 carlosheads with like 700 followers on tumblr r doing it. I can’t even post about him on my own blog because No One Understands (lame)

omgggg what a compliment fr.............. organic fresh from the source bullshit all day every day WHO else could be weird and exclusionary about him like me and you!!! tbh my mo is if i dont want to see it The People dont want to see it and i dont want it on my blog. SO glad that works for us.

i will be real with you though babe like top tips for Curation. i dont see anything that isnt on tumblr i follow like 15 people i have blocked and filtered relentlessly i dont engage with sportsjournalism and refuse to believe anything i dont like. grow the circle. post about him on your blog 😈

#i dont even follow him on instagram if im meant to see it god or tumblr user @ whewchilly will put it on my pooter #c*****nnews made me giggle.. like who the fuck ever! cuntnews! maybe! i like carlosheads sooooo much btw....... head full of Boy so true #❤️‍🩹 anon

[glitterock]

i’ve seen some people claiming you’re a terf or at least friends(?) with a terf. is this true?

i’ve answered this before and i really don’t want to talk about it again because it’s super upsetting to me that people would even think that with 0 evidence but i’ll lay it all out one more time:

a friend of mine from irl also just so happens to have a blog. she accidentally reblogged a picture from an apparent terf on here and didn’t know. since then someone on here made a post about my friend saying that since this happened she must be a crypto terf and that since i know her, i must be a terf apologist or a terf myself. this post included absolutely no evidence that i hold terf ideals except for the fact that i simply know someone who accidentally reblogged a picture. since this person has a following and once someone in here is called a terf it sticks to them, now a large amount of people who know nothing about and have no real facts to go off of are calling me a terf, telling my mutuals im a terf, and spreading a huge fucking nasty rumor about me.

for starters, my friend is not a terf. me and her are a part of the same irl community so i’ve seen her interact with trans people and trans women in our community as well as my friend group which consists of trans people and she’s nothing but kind. we also have had conversations about transness in the lesbian community so i know exactly what her morals and thoughts are on this particular topic and she isn’t a trans exclusionary person. she says she just doesn’t check where she reblogs things from as many of us do because we have lives and don’t have time to research every single username we reblog from. I am believing her because i know her actions in real life and my real life friendships and relationships are more important than what ppl i will never meet on the internet think of me.

i don’t want to have to prove myself because it feels fucking ridiculous and weird and performative to have to make a list of reasons why i’m not a terf but since people keep saying this about me:

i have trans femme friends, i have lived with trans femme roomates and currently live my my best friend who is a trans man, and a i have little cousin who i adore who is a trans woman. When my cousin came out i sent her a huge box full of old clothes, makeup, books about queerness and transness, buttons, accessories, etc. and my aunt called me crying saying what a huge difference it made. When i am out at queer events and see trans women who are are by themselves i always try to make a point of saying hi or complimenting their outfits so they feel a little less alone. When creating my zine, i knew that it would be imperative for me to include trans femme voices in it to create a proper narrative of the lesbian community because trans women are an important part of our community and i have nothing but respect and adoration for them. I always try and do my best to be a trans ally especially knowing the privilege i have as an afab femme in the lesbian community, and I have never once in my life held any terf ideals and never will because that is genuinely not how i am. it’s extremely extremely upsetting that people have stuck this label to me without knowing anything about me and especially without having any proof that i’ve ever said anything against trans women, trans people in general, and tbh i don’t even know anything about radical feminism.

the person who made that post also claimed i was friends with 2 people on here who are terfs, one of them being the person that said something along the lines of: “i would only fuck a femme but i could only be with butches” and it caused a huge fucking mess on here a few months ago. I need to make this extremely clear that we are no longer friends and haven’t been in over a year and have been no contact, again, for a year. i was in an absolutely terrible toxic sexual friendship with them that made me feel genuinely horrible about myself and I spent weeks in therapy trying to unpack it all, get over it, and get out of it. having this old friendship that was so awful for me being thrown in my face as if i’m still in it also is super upsetting for me.

if u want to see the post, im pretty sure the user that made it is meansweatydyke or something like that and im sure it’s still up so u can see for yourself. i want u to pay attention tho to the fact that nothing in their call out post actually pertains to my personal morals or thoughts and only is about my proximity to people who have mistreated me/ or have done things unknowingly. it’s super fucking irritating and upsetting. I am 100% on board for calling people out when their actions show that they are bad people, but i have made 0 actions that show this besides being guilty by association.

short answer: no i am not a terf, have never been a terf, and will never be a terf. it says that in my pinned post, and i always strive to uplift my trans friends and trans voices in the community with the platform i’ve made for myself online and in my zine. anyone who knows me knows i am not a terf.

id really love it if people would stop spreading this horrible fucking rumor about me and stop telling people i am a terf now with absolutely no evidence to back it up

#anon #like i don’t want to keep talking about this but i need everyone to know this #this also isn’t the first time the person who made the call out post has said stuff about me #when i made that post about how queerness is messy they made an indirect saying i was lesbophobic? literally for what #that person just doesn’t like me. and it looking for a reason to validate that. #like you can not like me that is totally fine but to make up a reason as to why you don’t like me and that reason being that imma terf #with nothing ti back it up other than i know someone or used to know someone #is actually vile and fucking bully behavior tbh #especially since i’ve never interacted w that person ever in my life like just hate me from afar like a normal person pls #in the call out they were like ‘i’ve always had a bad feeling about her but never had any evidence to back it up!’ like yeah #that’s called just not liking someone for no reason #which you can totally do!!!!! that’s fine!!!! just don’t make up a fucking reason to go along with it

[fem-blade-adept]

Hey can you point me to one of the places where JK Rowling said she wants trans people dead? I want it for reference and I’m having trouble finding anything

Lovely when people don’t understand political lobbying.

Why would she say that outright? Why would republicans say that outright? Why would anyone say they want trans people dead outright?

They wouldn’t and there is a reason for that. They want people to agree with them so they hide their true opinions behind political speech.

She calls us fake. She calls us not normal. She treats us like we’re crazy to get everyone to believe that we are threatening a “way of life” or that we’re a danger to the status quo of the beliefs in a gender binary so that people start treating us like the enemy.

Then come the bills. Illegal to get gender affirming surgery. Unable to change our names or gender markers. No more doctors can assist us in getting gender affirming help like HRT. Drag starts getting attacked from the government. Edicts start getting put out like doctors getting fired or their licenses removed for helping trans people feel good about themselves or parents getting their children taken away for the perceived “abuse” of allowing their children to be themselves and supporting their transness.

And then it gets worse when no one stops these bills and eventually it becomes illegal to be trans in general. People get it in their heads that now that these bills exist, trans people are put on the chopping block more and more. People bully and assault us more than they already are. Trans lives are threatened and the government refuses to do anything because trans people are dangerous. More transpeople are killed in an alley or by police or just left without work and starved. And the government doesn’t do anything because the victims were trans and it inspires people to keep doing it because they won’t get in trouble for it or if they do, it’s a slap on the wrist.

I’ve been actively bullied by anti-trans rhetoric and anti-trans people since I was twelve purely because people think that it’s fake and that I’m lying to myself. I’ve been called disgusting names and been told to commit suicide and threatened with physical violence by people who support JK’s views. I’ve even been physically assaulted by TERFs who believe Rowling’s disgusting beliefs.

A good portion of all of this hate spiraled from perhaps the world’s most popular book author past her prime who couldn’t even write a good book who decided to speak out against us and has the influence, money, and popularity to be able to fund a lot of rallying against us and continues to do so to this day. And people justified her by defending her poorly written book series that’s riddled with problematic behavior and fortifies her understanding and world views while being defended by the world as if it’s the Bible.

She does not say she wants trans people dead with her words, she says it with her actions. Just like every other person that has ever wanted a certain marginalized people dead. Because if you say it, than you are speaking the truth of your own beliefs. And people don’t want to agree with you if you are outright saying you want genocide because that’s “not ok for people to want”.

We’ve seen this before. Multiple times in human history. Propaganda, political rallying, and funding hateful people is where it begins. And if you can’t see it, you’re drinking just as much of her kool-aid as the rest of the trans exclusionary radical feminist movement and you’re truly deluded if you think that’s not where all of this is headed.

#trans pride #rot in hell jk rowling #fuck terfs #propaganda is a hell of a drug

[vintage-bentley]

It’s so frustrating, you kindly gave them the benefit of the doubt and pretty gently (I think) pointed out a really cruel stereotype and yet we are always wrong. They just drop the terf bomb and that’s it

Gay people get no voice. Women get no voice just drop the terf word and shut them up. I don’t even consider myself a terf just a frustrated and silenced lesbian

I really did try to be gentle and nice! My goal wasn’t to be a big mean evil terf, my goal was to kindly explain why the post had homophobic undertones. I didn’t have much hope of that goal being achieved because I know how homophobic gendies are…but you never know. I’ve had great interactions in the past with people I don’t agree with and who don’t agree with me, so it’s always worth a shot.

The fact is that most times, if you say anything about women or gay people that goes against what a gender ideologist is saying, you’ll be discredited as a “terf” even if you aren’t one (and nobody actually is. There’s no such thing as a trans exclusionary radical feminist because radfems don’t exclude trans people. Just males). It’s their go-to shield against critical thinking.

You’re so right that gay people and women get no voice…and it really is frustrating. I’m technically not a terf because I’m not a radfem (I consider myself radfem adjacent, I don’t feel comfortable subscribing to a particular ideology)…but even before I started looking into gender criticism and radical feminism, I felt like I was being silenced as both a woman and homosexual. It felt like nothing I said mattered unless I used the approved language and read the approved scripts. I couldn’t even be openly homosexual—that’s “terfy”.

Like I said, the reason I’m talking about this so much isn’t because of a singular fandom post. That singular fandom post just happens to be a really good example of an attitude towards women and homosexuals that I’ve been observing for a while now. And it’s really frustrating to see it over and over again, women and homosexuals essentially being told “shut up, your thoughts mean nothing if you don’t agree with me”. Because it’s “listen to and learn from minorities/marginalised groups”…until it’s gays and women.

#asks #anon

[heavenlyhischier]

I love you Abby and I’ve been following you for so long but you guys to feel like a little bit of clique and sometimes not in a nice way. A lot of the times you guys come off as a little condescending or that you’re better than everyone else and your blogs all feel a little exclusionary when you have these “inside” conversations all the time. There’s nothing wrong with it and you should do whatever makes you happy but it does make me want to unfollow sometimes. Which makes me really sad bc I genuinely love you and your blog and I think you’re great, and I’m sure you guys don’t mean to come across this way but it does. And it’s not the first time people has said this to certain people you’re friends with. Not saying they’re doing anything wrong, just that this is obviously a whole group of people feeling this way for a long time and it’s escalated the last few weeks. The atmosphere that comes with what you guys are doing just isn’t great. I love you and I hope you take a break as long as you need.

I know I said I was taking a break, but this made me upset so I wanted to address it.

I am so extremely sorry if I made any of you feel like this. It’s never been, nor will it ever be, my intention to do so. I just want to say this, though, and I hope it doesn’t come off as rude or anything like that.

I’ve tried to avoid making any of you feel excluded or out of the loop with any conversation or jokes because. I know that’s annoying. I feel like I, personally, have been getting better about that. I want you guys to feel included and loved more than anything, and I apologize for doing the opposite of that. I truly do appreciate each and every person that follows me and interacts with me and that will never ever change because without all of you, i wouldn’t be as active as i am. I’ll do better to be more open to a certain extent, but not with my friends business Only my own.

However, as group of friends, we’re going to have inside jokes and conversations, because that’s just what friends do. I’m sure you guys have those with your friends as well!! It’s just what happens sometimes, and it isn’t “cliquey”. That’s just part of a friendship, and it happens in real life just as much as social media. I’m sorry if it makes anyone feel negatively, but I’m not going to apologize for being friends with my friends. I worked through a lot of my own anxiety to interact with them as publicly as I do, and this is making me regret it, and I don’t want to feel that way. Also— a lot of the times if you’re curious about what I’m taking about, I’ll tell you unless it’s not my business to tell. I want you guys to feel included!

I’ve never had this sort of following on social media where people care about me, and i’m still navigating that, but please remember that i’m human. i make mistakes and I’ll never be perfect. i’ll work on things that bother you guys because without you, this blog wouldn’t be what it is. i’m trying and i’m doing my best every day and doing what i can to make you guys feel like this is a safe space.

i am really sorry if i offended anyone or upset anyone.

#anon #⭃ abby answers asks

[fierceawakening]

I was wondering if a radfem might brave that post to tell us what we got right. Hi there @capybarad , I appreciate your stopping by and being civil. I disagree with you on a lot of things most likely, but I appreciate your civility.

So I’m going to reply, but just so you know, I’m non-binary and many of my friends are trans. I don’t know if you’re trans exclusionary or not, but if you put trans people down, I’m no longer going to engage, as I care more about them feeling safe here as they’re my friends than I do about this discussion.

I cant speak for others but the reason why I personally don’t post about things like fgm but do post about things like US conservative traditionalists who are misogynistic and gross and such is just that… I’m not sure what circulating posts about fgm actually does. Where if I’m commenting on something going on in my own culture, I might very well have a chance to sway someone who’s tempted by that rhetoric. I pick my battles now because trying to pick them all in years past just made me exhausted and too drained to fight well for anything.

I appreciate you mentioning that pornography and the harms you see in it are the biggest issue for you, and I can see why you’d want more mainstream feminisms to ally with you there since it’s important to you. The problem is… again, I can’t speak for other people as well as for myself, but what I read of radical feminist theory on pornography as research for the I’ll fated dissertation just… was unconvincing to me.

First there’s my personal experience. Male partners who liked porn were non abusive; the lesbian I met and got together with in feminist circles was. One person’s experience proves very little; there’s surely someone else out there (maybe even you yourself) who’s had the opposite experience.

What would adjudicate this would be clear data. What percentage of people who watch porn go on to pressure or abuse their partners? Is the correlation solely with porn watching, or is it porn watching AND something else (so maybe someone who is low on authoritarian values and watches porn has no problem relating to a partner, but someone who is highly authoritarian sees it as a justification of sexual cruelty and does)? While radfems would claim to have data, it always seemed that it was old, or funded by odd organizations, or not shown to have been repeated consistently. Consequently I doubt that most people who watch porn coerce their partners.

Similarly, it’s clear that exploitation exists in the industry, but the claim seems to be that all participants are exploited more so than any other job under capitalism and that we don’t need actual data to show this. ThT theory alone can tell us that sex work is uniquely and inherently degrading, even if people who do it say this is not so. I’m unconvinced that theory alone can tell me what other people are experiencing, so again, I want data. How much of the industry is exploitative? What are we defining as exploitative, also? What trends are there in’s h in workplaces are better than others?

Relying mainly on theory here just seems as wrongheaded as “I have a theory that most feminists are traumatized, so you can’t possibly care about Women’s issues for rational reasons.” It just doesn’t make sense. Where if there is a fact of the matter, careful research will bring it to light.

Then there’s the theory itself. It may have changed some since I was studying this, I’ve kind of avoided radfems since. But I do have Pornography Embodied on my bookshelf (if it didn’t get spring cleaninged into the trash), and the theory in that was that orgasm is uniquely good at training humans into behavior patterns in ways that other pleasurable experiences aren’t.

Again though, it seemed to me like this was presented as theory, not as something with evidence to back it. And without that evidence I’m not convinced.

(Again, anecdotes are not data, but I can’t think of any time in my life that I laser focused on one particular fantasy over all others, and I have purchased and looked at porn made by lesbian creators. There are some fantasies that I really enjoy and go back to many times, but I don’t experience that as needing x over and over, much less as needing increasingly intense versions of it. That doesn’t mean it’s not a thing people do, but again… which people? What percentage of humans? How do we know when this is happening?)

So if you’re aiming to sway me personally, the best projects would probably be ones where you discover that a particular performer or studio is violating the ethics standards of the industry itself. In cases like that I’d be glad to call for someone’s firing or maybe even for a particular studio to close down.

But opposition of the whole industry based on theoretical principles? No, I’m highly unlikely to be convinced that way.

[femsolid]

is there a term for trans neutral radical feminism. like i just don’t care, i think the issues women face are way bigger than defining what women are or aren’t yknow? i’m not including or excluding trans women, i don’t care if they fall under the umbrella of who i’m talking about or not, women need change. i think when we get to a point where women are being attacked we can handle the trans women debate, but for now i think it’s not a defining point. would that be terf?

I don't use the term "terf". It was invented by trans activists and is used in lieu of "feminazi". I don't accept men's rebranding of women. Also it reduces radical feminism to this one single issue. While it is an issue it's definitely not the most important one to me and, depending on where you live, it might not even be on your radar at all. I don't blame you for not caring if it's not a pressing matter in your culture. I can't say it's irrelevant though, as gender ideology and post modern academic nonsense have real consequences for women and especially gender non conforming girls. Appart from the problem of men stealing scholarships, awards, medals and elections from women, speaking on behalf of women, assaulting women in female prisons, telling gnc girls they aren't girls, the promotion of sexist stereotypes and the violent harassment of feminists and lesbians is hard to ignore in certain countries. And it all starts with the post modernised assumption that women are a bunch of stereotypes one has to embrace. That's why many women insist on the actual definition of what a woman is. Which seems like an insane thing to have to do in 2023 but here we are. I would also say that if you are a radical feminist then you don't include men by definition. It's a political movement by and for women. Oppressed people have every right to be "exclusionary" towards their oppressors. Also we believe that women are oppressed because of our sex and that it is a matter of class struggle. That's the basis of feminism as a whole. Trans activists are disputing that. That's why it's a prevalent issue in some countries. That doesn't mean it has to be the central issue for you and I definitely think it's taking too much space especially online. North america tends to dictate what the rest of us should care about. But there's no reason we should be talking about gender ideology more than anything else. You're not required to, as a radical feminist. And you're not required to call yourself a radical feminist at all, if it doesn't fit. Just try to practice feminism. Beats any label.

#ask

[firecrackerhh]

I find it really strange that so many ace people I see bitch about Alastor being sexualized in fanfics when it’s like…look I can’t speak for every hazbin fanfic in existence or anything, but all the ones I’ve seen at least mention that he’s asexual or hell, some of them actually talk about it in detail, I dunno what kinda fanfics y’all are reading but maybe you just need to find better fucking fanfics.

Like goddamn I’m sorry that not every Alastor centric fic goes deep into detail over his asexuality but considering how some of y’all act about it maybe people are better off never fucking discussing it with how fucking defensive you are about it, goddamn. Like if they don’t do it the “right” way y’all act like it’s fucking aphobic or something.

I’m glad Alastor means so much to you, but expecting everyone else to give a shit is fucking ludicrous.

“Can’t we just have this.” Bitch Alastor doesn’t fucking belong to you!!! Get the fuck over yourself oh my fucking god.

Write your own fics about it instead of whining like a bitch that other people aren’t writing a fictional character the way you want.

Nevermind the fact that both asexuality and aromanticism is a fucking spectrum.

Some of you act like Alastor’s sexuality is purely sex repulsed and like, if you headcanon him as anywhere else you’re immediately aphobic, when real people on the spectrum don’t mind sex that much, or maybe they’ll have it under certain circumstances, or they only feel sexual attraction to people close to them, so on and so on.

But noooo Alastor can only ever be purely sex repulsed in fiction apparently or else it’s aphobia or something, like sure dude, whatever you say.

Like goddamn what’s wrong with exploring the various degrees of the spectrum? Or is that only ever allowed when the person writing the fic is some kind of asexual?

Makes me wonder how sex repulsed aces feel about the non sex repulsed ones. Wonder if they ever do that fucking exclusionary bullshit, if they do, then that shits fucked and I don’t respect it.

Just because an ace person has sex or an aromantic person is in a relationship doesn’t make them any less of who they are! And if you think otherwise, whether you be ace or aromantic yourself…you have some shit to unpack my dude.

Your experience with your asexuality or aromanticism are not universal. If you seriously believe that exploring the other degrees of either is somehow aro or acephobic…ngl, real hot take here, but uh…🔥perhaps you may have some inner ace/aro phobia to confront🔥

Now sure, a lot of fics just make Alastor fuck and that’s it…but you can just not…read…those fics? Honestly y’all care way more about fanfic than actual fanfic writers I think.

🧨🔥~Firecracker out~🔥🧨

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I think I have ADHD and anger / emotion management issues, but I can’t be sure.

I get a lot angrier a lot faster than others (which is why I think I have some form of anger management issues.).

Please respect my boundaries. Don’t call me by my irl name online, don’t call me things like “mommy” or “mom”, joke or not, and just be respectful in the first place.

I listen to a lot of songs / music that aren’t in English, in which some have disturbing meanings. If I’m recommending music to you, please tell me if you don’t want any disturbing songs.

I curse!!!

This isn’t actually my first account. My old (and currently inactive) account’s user is @m1st-ig. Any info there is most likely outdated. I can’t log back into that account because the email got suspended.

I change my account theme and pfp very often, as I cannot settle on one theme / pfp Imao.

I use tone tags (/j, /hj, /srs, /pos, etc)

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DNI / DO NOT INTERACT LIST

Please DNI / Do Not Interact if you:

Are under basic DNI / Do Not Interact lists (Homo/transphobia, racist, pedophilic, com/proshipper, xenophobic, sexist, etc)

Are a TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminist)

Support a problematic person / people ((Examples of this are Groink (Made a racist face and supported Taylor’s apology despite being white / not a person of color [correct me if I’m wrong on this please.]), Gery (Pedophile), or literally any other problematic creator.))

Are ableist (discriminate people for mental or physical disabilities) or support ableists

Are a NSFW (Not safe for work) blog

Enforce / project your religion strongly on others

(I will update my DNI / Do Not Interact list if I feel the need to.)

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Interests / Hyper-fixations!

I am interested in various things! These things, not in any particular order, are:

Object Shows

Just Shapes & Beats

The Pink Corruption

Vocaloid Music (In more specific terms, I love song producers like R.I.P. (Really Introverted Producer, Ghost N’ Pals, Vane Lily, MARETU and more!)

PikuNiku

Music in General

And probably more, but I can’t think of them right now :P

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Tags

Mist’s Art [For my art posts]

Mist’s Ask Responses [Responses to asks]

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Fan-art and Ask Boundaries

Now, I don’t mind if you make some fan-art of any published sona / oc I make or give me an ask, but I have boundaries.

Fan-art Boundaries

Do not, by any circumstances, make nsfw art of my sonas. I am a minor. My sonas represent me.

I’d rather you not make nsfw (not safe for work) of my ocs, but if you do, do NOT by ANY MEANS send it to me / tag me in it. It’s a good way to get blocked.

If you make sfw (safe for work) art, please please PLEASE tag me in it!!! I would love to see your fan-art! If you don’t tag me in it or anything, just credit me for the oc / sona, please!!

Ask Boundaries

Do not ask me anything dealing with nsfw.

Please feel free to ask me about my ocs or art.

Be civil, please.

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Random, Extra or Otherwise Unrelated Information

My favorite colors as of now are green, blue and pink!

PikuNiku (as seen in my interests) is my favorite game other than Roblox!

My Roblox user is “TheGreenMist2021”, and my display may change a little every once in a while.

I’m a big ol Suitcase (II) and, to be honest, Iris (TPC) fan!!! :3

I have a lot of ocs, unused, side ocs, concepts or used. There’s a lot of em.

extra silly stuffs (userboxes!!! Feel free to take for your own account and credits to all who made these!!! [also ignore the fact that they’re so big, I copy pasted em :P]) :3

Aaaand that should be it! Thanks for reading!

#introductory post #Intro post

[pink-esc]

just saw a tweet post where lesbian is talking about how much they hate men and someone is like “well some men are really nice to know” and they’re like ew no all men are gross and i expected to see people being like “hey this behavior can be exclusionary in queer spaces where afab trans men, amab nonbinary masculine people…. may feel unwelcome for simply presenting as what they feel” and instead the comments were criticizing the person who was like “some men are nice :)” like “we need to get rid of UwU boys…” “people like this think knowing one good man is a representation of all of them while the rest of us know they’re all gross” and shit. WHAT?! Im all for criticizing the patriarchy and toxic masculinity and encouraging men to reflect on the inherent privilege they have. I’m all for people being upset with men who are actively harming people (whether by being misogynistic or a capitalist bootlicker or a predator….) but yall do realize how much you’re hurting our queer brothers by talking about men in that way right??? masculinity isn’t inherently disgusting. being a man or having a penis or wanting to be a man isn’t inherently disgusting. it’s one thing to have person issues and trauma that make you triggered but that trigger is not some random guys problem if he isn’t doing anything except breathing (once again if he’s not doing anything THAT IS HARMFUL TO YOU OR ACTIVELY MAKING YOU UNCOMFORTABLE). Men existing should not be what’s criticized! Men breathing and looking masculine should not be criticized! Masculinity or Amab people should not be criticized for simply presenting as themselves!!! Your excluding people from a space that is talked about as being radically inclusionary (queer spaces have their own criticisms but i digress). Don’t think your hatred toward masculinity itself or men as individuals is somehow righteous toward fighting the patriarchy. It also gives a jaded view as if feminine people or cis women or Afab people can’t do the same things (not in like misandry but like internalized misogyny….). I’m not here to criticize your friend group if it’s all women and that makes you happy, but online where trans men and queer men and amab people can actively see themselves being called gross for breathing is harmful. Don’t take patriarchal issues and toxic masculinity out on people who haven’t done that. Masculinity is not gross, being a guy isn’t gross, actions and beliefs that influence those actions are.

i’ll delete this rant later but oh my god it was bothering me. People who love men aren’t stupid or jaded for loving men or masculinity!!!! If you have trauma do what you need to feel comfortable but that comfort shouldn’t rely on 1) making masculine people feel like they are harming people by simply being male/breathing 2) excluding masculinity from queer spaces.

#i love men #i love women #i love everybody in between and not even on that scale #the patriarchy is bad and has a large impact on all of our lives and can severely and negatively impact male individuals #i’m not saying we have to hold their hand and educate them on everything #but calling masculinity gross is not the powerful statement you think it is

[coochiequeens]

Does her attitude towards a baby suck? Yes. Does Ask Amy admit that it also sucks to insist crafters make stuff for people with no real connection to them? No. Am I biased as a knitter myself. Yes.

By Amy Dickinson

Dear Amy: My son’s ex-wife, “Tammy,” recently had a baby with her new husband.

Tammy also has two children with my son. I recently made slippers for my grandsons and sent the slippers to them. I told my son about it, and now he’s asking me to make a pair of slippers for the new baby. I don’t think I need to, as that baby is not my grandchild.

Should I go along with this, or is there a nice way to say that the child means nothing to me, so I’m not interested in doing it? After all, the ex-wife is the one who left the marriage when she cheated on my son with her new husband. – Curious Granny

Dear Granny: Hmmm. Let’s see. Is there a nice way to say, “This baby means nothing to me and so I’m not interested in doing anything for the child?”

I’ve called an imaginary conclave among all of the sages whose wisdom I trust the most, and all agree that your position and attitude about this baby is exclusionary and unkind. This child is the sibling of your grandchildren. Your grandchildren must be encouraged and allowed to accept and love this child. Why? Because it is best for everyone.

Your son is obviously encouraging/forcing you to accept this baby as the sibling of your beloved grandchildren. Good for him. Acceptance on your part makes your son’s life easier and more peaceful. It helps to integrate all of the children into a sibling group.

If you want to give gifts only to your grandchildren, you should send these gifts to your son’s address, not to his ex-wife’s address.

Furthermore, you holding on to an angry attitude toward your son’s ex-wife leads to you passively punishing your grandchildren, who are her children. Let your son carry his own water. You should work much harder to maintain a neutral attitude toward her, and a loving attitude toward all of the children involved.

Yes the baby is innocent but first the mom cheats and breaks up her family and then she asks her former MIL to make stuff for her son? That's balls. Yes the grandma should just mail stuff to her sons place for now on, mailing it to her place was just rubbing it in.

Exactly how does being irritated at being asked to knit or crochet stuff for others "unkind" but those who ask in the first place aren't entitled?

#Ask Amy #Women don't owe products of their craftsmanship to anyone #What is it about see women knitting or crocheting that reminds others of their shopping lists? #You know someone who would like handmade items? #Learn that skill yourself

[jaidethalagorra]

I know I don’t normally post about stuff like this and I probably won’t again, but I’ve been here for a couple weeks now and I feel like I need to say my piece.

I know that there’s always so much hate on us, from both outside and inside the community. And I know that all of it hurts. And it kills. And it feels like the only thing we can do is fight back. But it’s so, so important to remember that aside from the genuine grifters who are feeding them this information, everyone here thinks they’re in the right. They think they’re doing the right thing.

Religious conservatives who send their kids to conversion therapy are so scared that their children are going to eternal damnation that they’re willing to put their kid through hell on earth so they aren’t tortured forever. TERFs genuinely think that we’re a danger to their feminism and that with our presence all that they’ve worked for will crumble and women will go back to not being people. Pick-mes and exclusionaries have been so scared by the system and the hate around them that they feel the only way they can protect themselves is to take others down. Transphobic queers are also scared, scared that our existence means that what they’ve worked for will be undone. People who say we’re influencing their kids are genuinely worried for their kids.

And I’ll never defend their actions and their words. Those words kill, and hurt in ways both physical and mental. There is no excuse for transphobia. But it’s also so important to remember where this is coming from. Why they’re doing this. It’s the system of grifters, accelerationists, and power-hungry maniacs who have fed these lies to people and made them so scared that they do this to others. Their aim has always been to divide us, and right now it’s working. Are the things that these people saying ok? No. But we can never forget that their actions come out of fear that was already taught to them.

So I want to remind everyone, as hard as it is to start with compassion. Not forgiveness, not acceptance, but compassion. These people are scared and angry and vulnerable just like we are. They want to do right. And we’ve all heard the stories of people who changed. Family members who changed their views on trans people after seeing how much happier their trans family was after coming out. Ex flat-earthers who had someone try to talk to them with compassion instead of yelling (I know it’s not the same thing, but my point stands.) compassion can change people, so much more than yelling can. Telling people that they’re wrong and how they’re hurting others isn’t gonna change anything. Ever. It’s starting with what we have in common and working our way up that changes people. Start with community. Start with compassion. It’s not easy, I know. It’s hard to find common ground with some of these people. But without them we will fail. We’re spending so much energy fighting each other and fighting other marginalized groups that we forget where this comes from. We say it every pride: love wins. Spread love not hate. Well it’s time to put that into action.

We tell it to them and we need to say it to ourselves: tearing others down isn’t going to build the movement up.

I wanna reiterate. I’m not saying that their words should be ignored and they should be instantly forgiven. I’m saying that we always need to start with compassion. Start with knowing they’re just as scared and angry and hurt as we are. We won’t win by tearing each other down.

#transgender #we need to start with compassion #I know that it’s hard but we’re not gonna help anything by hurting each other

[dogmandotcom]

Thoughts about cultural influences on dog alterhuman identities

reading time: approx 5 minutes, word count: 554

I read @scarsmood ‘s essays ‘How anthropomorphism is a factor in otherkin communities’ and ‘Basic misunderstandings in ecology and how that translates to otherkinity’ the other day and I think reading them really helped me understand why I sometimes feel out of place in dogkin spaces as a working dog who doesn’t really conform to cultural ideas about dogs or relate to the experiences of pet dogs.

I think cultural ideas about dogs and their place in society absolutely affect the way a lot of dog therians view their nonhumanity and I think it’s a topic worth exploring. In my culture dog-human relationships are often viewed in a very one sided way, and there’s definitely the idea that dogs will do anything for humans out of pure love and loyalty and expect nothing in return, which really doesn’t reflect my own experiences as a dog at all. I also wanted to talk about this because a lot of dog alterhuman posts I see are made by dogs who feel like a soft cuddly puppy or a loyal pet, which is very different to the way I experience my own nonhumanity. Me (a working kangal) and my catahoula leopard dog headmate both feel very strongly about being working dogs who work with humans, not for them. As a dog, humans are my friends, family, community and co-workers. My relationships with humans are very important to me! But I’m not owned by anyone because I don’t consider myself to be a possession, and as a working dog I won’t respect or listen to anyone if they don’t take the time to respect and listen to me too. Communication and mutual respect is really important in human-dog working relationships and I feel like that sometimes gets overlooked by people who haven’t worked with a dog before. I’ve done a lot of work irl training dogs and I always consider myself to be their handler and caretaker in that relationship, never their owner. It’s still totally morally neutral for anyone to consider themselves an animal’s owner as long as they’re giving them proper care, I’ve just thought a lot about how I’m personally most comfortable defining my relationship with the dogs in my care and I think the ways I feel are absolutely influenced by my experiences as a dog alterhuman. 

This is also definitely not me trying to claim that dogs who experience their nonhumanity as a pet dog with an owner or a soft puppy are wrong or that their experiences are lesser in any way, I don’t want this post to be interpreted in an exclusionary way at all! Not to make the ‘I’m friends with pet dogs and puppies!’ joke lol but the headmate I’m closest to in our system is an 18 inch tall cartoon puppy so being a soft puppy is a part of how we ourselves collectively experience our dog therianthropy! I’ve just found a lot of dogkin stuff on the internet super unrelatable for me and I figured there were probably other dogs out there who feel a similar way too :-)

This is kind of stream of consciousness and I might work it into a proper essay or some weird art later but I just wanted to get it down before I forgot what I wanted to talk about uwu’’

#I hope it was okay to tag you scar I can remove it if you’d like uwu’’ <3 #long post #therian #dog therian #alterhuman #otherkind #dogkin #kangalposting

[oibeezy]

I don’t know how many people this will reach, because I’m a proper fandom hermit and have never posted/reblogged something on tumblr in my life, so you know this really means something to me. Regardless, here goes…

I’ll just spit it out — I’m really frustrated by no post November. Look, I get it, the fandom right now is fucked. The hate Jegulus authors have been receiving is horrible and absolutely no one deserves that. Never in my 10+ years of Tumblr have I been so appalled by the actions of my peers, but I just don’t get this strike. I’ve always found fandom spaces a really liberating environment, but now I feel like my presence here is being attacked from every angle. As someone in their mid twenties, I’m faced with constant exclusionary sentiment. People older than me lump me in with the hateful minors (‘they’re not yet 25, so their brain isn’t developed; must be problematic’) and people younger than me associate me with the problematic adults (‘they’re 20+ and still participating in fandom; must be problematic’). The entire reason I started reading fanfic and consuming fan-made material was because I felt excluded in every other aspect of my life. To now have the fandom turn around and essentially tell me I have no place here is really upsetting. 

Okay, but what does this have to do with no post November? This strike is initiated by someone who has spewed this exclusionary rhetoric for a long time. Which is hugely ironic considering one of their major issues with minors in the fandom has been that they don’t think adults should write minors having sex. This organiser is refraining from posting for the general public but is more than happy to initiate and participate in a 25+ Jegulus server (because “25 is when you’re mature or whatever”) during November. And they’ll have a “channel to post fic chapter updates instead of AO3.” So it’s not no post November then, is it? It’s just exclude everyone under 25 November.

More than this, I just honestly don’t understand how a Jegulus strike harms the people who are being hateful. Sure, people often read fanfic to then shit on it, but they’re clearly not fucking enjoying it. Their entire purpose is to get these writers to stop writing. And what is the proposed solution? To stop writing… All this achieves is demonstrating to the hateful readers that whining and complaining and being a general dick of a person actually achieves something. And the rest of us readers who consume fanfic sensibly? Well, we’re left with out content for a month. Or, sorry, it’s just the readers less than 25 who are left without content…

What of the readers who are not outright hateful but still disrespectful (harassing writers for new chapters) you say? The amount of call out posts I have seen on my dash is alarming, and yet this persists. If these people had a modicum of respect or care for writers, they would have stopped already. But they haven’t. And what turns uncaring readers into hateful people? Anger. And what will anger the people who demand faster updates more than anything? No post November. 

But the exposure! We’re raising awareness! First of all, I think everyone is very fucking aware of the discourse in this fandom. But, in saying that, most of this discourse and hate comes from platforms like twitter (which is not even a part of this strike discourse). All that will get relayed to the hateful twitter users is that their most despised authors aren't writing anything. Nothing of the dialogue about respectful fandom consumption will make its way over to this hell site. Yay to them…

And what of the writers who choose (for whatever reason) not to participate in this strike? Well, the sentiment was “you do you or whatever.” But then this shit gets reblogged by the organiser;

“I’m not a fic author, but I am a reader. And I want everyone to pay attention to the people that don’t participate in No Post November. Those people, they are not part of your Marauders community. They are just here for the kudos, comments, and likes.”

So not only is this strike excluding young people, it’s excluding everyone who doesn’t want to participate or god forbid agree with them. As a pol-sci graduate this is not how you approach a strike if you want success. Literally all this strike is doing is perpetuating the exclusionary bullshit that they want to avoid. 

And to the authors who are participating because they genuinely don’t know how else to handle the shit show that is the Jegulus fandom right now; this is not on you. I understand that this strike is a last resort for many people, but as a reader who joined fandom spaces to feel included, this strike goes against everything I stand for. To be honest, I don’t really care about the lack of content for a month. Sure, it’s not ideal but authors need breaks sometimes and I’ve got a plethora of other fandoms I can turn to. But this exclusionary shit? Un-fucking-acceptable. 

So to all, do whatever you want to do. And if you do want to participate in the strike, all I ask is that you consider why. If you want a break from the fandom, may I suggest simply taking a break. And if you do genuinely believe this will work, that’s totally fair and all the more power to you for exercising your democratic right. 

But for me? From the organiser to the rhetoric of this strike, it is abundantly clear to me that this is not about teaching hateful people a lesson. It’s about punishing everyone who doesn’t fit into the absurdly small box they have drawn. 

#jegulus #no post november #jegulus author strike #jegulus strike #ao3 #fanfic